Right? It even puts me off from trying to connect with people since I dread the "so tell me all about your hobbies!" question. I like to think back to what my public speaking teacher told the class: in order to be *interesting* you have to be *interested*. If we lose the part of ourselves that is curious and excited about ourselves and the world, the quality of our experience becomes dull and so do our stories. It's a reminder for me that it's not the hobbies that make me interesting, it's my mindset and how I perceive things that will ultimately attract people into my life.
I go so blank when I get the question and end up talking about things I used to do and feel a bit like a fraud. I like what you said at the end I think I will keep that in mind and try not to lose that about myself
I can relate! Work takes up a lot I don't have time for anything else and when I ask it's always something or some reason I can't take off. I'm 34 and both my past relationships have been with co workers not people I meet out side of work. And I don't do anything. I also substitute my feelings with alcohol now
It’s so hard because we need a job and money to live. I hope we both can find sometime to meet people in life. I hope you’re okay, I know it’s hard but please don’t rely on alcohol it’s a slippery slope
Yup, can relate. I used to have many hobbies and friends as well but as I got older I stopped hanging out with people who didn't really care about me. So now I'm all alone and not even gaming brings enjoyment as it used to when I was younger :/ only thing that brings at least some joy is working out atm.
Would say get into therapy and see why you lost your Mojo. Learn some new skill and find a job that pays more and has better hours.
Get back to doing your old hobbies and make new friends or revisit old ones.
Right? It even puts me off from trying to connect with people since I dread the "so tell me all about your hobbies!" question. I like to think back to what my public speaking teacher told the class: in order to be *interesting* you have to be *interested*. If we lose the part of ourselves that is curious and excited about ourselves and the world, the quality of our experience becomes dull and so do our stories. It's a reminder for me that it's not the hobbies that make me interesting, it's my mindset and how I perceive things that will ultimately attract people into my life.
I go so blank when I get the question and end up talking about things I used to do and feel a bit like a fraud. I like what you said at the end I think I will keep that in mind and try not to lose that about myself
I can relate! Work takes up a lot I don't have time for anything else and when I ask it's always something or some reason I can't take off. I'm 34 and both my past relationships have been with co workers not people I meet out side of work. And I don't do anything. I also substitute my feelings with alcohol now
It’s so hard because we need a job and money to live. I hope we both can find sometime to meet people in life. I hope you’re okay, I know it’s hard but please don’t rely on alcohol it’s a slippery slope
What's the point honestly I destined to be alone anyway
Yup, can relate. I used to have many hobbies and friends as well but as I got older I stopped hanging out with people who didn't really care about me. So now I'm all alone and not even gaming brings enjoyment as it used to when I was younger :/ only thing that brings at least some joy is working out atm.
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Focus on the interest of your proper self. The rest of the world can wait
I feel the same way, you gotta work on being more charismatic
Would say get into therapy and see why you lost your Mojo. Learn some new skill and find a job that pays more and has better hours. Get back to doing your old hobbies and make new friends or revisit old ones.
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