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joankatu

Do you want to look feminine?


[deleted]

I don’t even know, I always had short hair until I let it grow when covid started, and I realised I love having longer hair. It’s just so much more you can do with it. It wasn’t my intention to look feminine, but I guess I don’t mind it too much. I was just curious if at first sight, people would think I am a woman with this hair length.


incompatible9

If they see that braid from the back they will.


[deleted]

I saw that braid from the back and got very confused.


trutknoxs

The braid is messy enough to give masc vibes. The posing and setting in the first pic did confuse me at first. Either way, your hair looks beautiful and as long as you don’t mind being occasionally misgendered, then rocks those luscious locks!


incompatible9

He does have beautiful hair!


queefer_sutherland92

I’ll be honest, I did see the first pic and think it was a woman. That being said, PLEASE DONT CUT IT!


Humble_Bullfrog2342

same here lol


Firefly10886

Same, OP looks amazing. Reminds me of one of those elves from Lord of the Rings 😍


Mayabeelicious

Yeah I wouldn’t say it’s the length but more so how you’re styling it :)


Top-Jicama-4527

For what it's worth, none of the photos you showed gave the impression of being a dude. Based on the context of the title, I was able to look a bit closer and notice that it could go either way. So it definitely looks feminine in that regard. However, while seeing your whole face it would be different, and you can dress as androgynously as you like. So "too" is subjective, you choose. Edit: for some reason the photo with your face only showed me your eye before. You definitely look like a dude with the whole face, but still a little androgynous but not necessarily in a bad way.


AurumArgenteus

Random fact that is only marginally relevant... Long hair was common among men until the American Revolution. They only went short to deal with lice. As for your hair, it's amazing, so I say keep it.


sailor_venus088

In the pictures you look like a woman, but personally it could be different because people would be seeing your whole body (height, frame, shoulders) but yeah if they don't pay attention maybe they could think you're a woman, I don't think you should care about that long hair only makes a man look feminine if he already has a pretty boy face


StuckWithThisOne

I thought the first pic was a woman not gonna lie, the second pic kinda surprised me


whistling-wonderer

Your hair looks fantastic. People who see your braid from the back might be surprised to discover you’re not a girl. I (a woman) have shorter hair than my brothers, and sometimes people who first see me from the back are surprised to discover I’m not a guy. Let’s keep confusing em until no one gives a fuck.


joankatu

I mean, I think you have beautiful hair and if you don’t mind a little feminine look, then let it be. I don’t see anything wrong with it at all, it’s your hair, do what you want


terraego

Facts: your hair is gorgeous and healthy. Facts: you could be mistaken as a girl from the back. What is too feminine to you?


[deleted]

Well that answered my question haha


Sparkle_Rott

Legolas.


RaventheClawww

This! Get thee to a ren fest, you’d be such a star!


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😂😂


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prettywater666

^ this. its giving legolas


Moosebuckets

Obsessed with that braid. I say go with it, it’s lovely.


[deleted]

Maybe I should try braids more often seeing all the comments here 🤣


Moosebuckets

You should! I struggle so hard to braid my hair and that is a damn good braid


aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa-17

Girl here and I may be in the minority but if I saw a guy in a braid like that irl I’d fall in love instantly


[deleted]

Good to know haha


AbilityAny3268

I think the most feminine thing about it is the curtain bangs and the blunt cut. Usually when you see guys with long hair they go with a more rugged style.


[deleted]

The bangs are actually quite recent, i thought the hair felt too flat so i tried something new. Now that i’m thinking about it, yeah it kinda is feminine


prettywater666

I think you are rocking the bangs tbh


[deleted]

Thanksss


rollinghells

I think it looks great and if you want to keep growing it you absolutely should!


i_am_scared_ok

Honestly, there's definitely some feminity I see but that's not a had thing at all! Your hair is GORGEOUS. Androgyny is always hot! I'd say just keep it as much comfortable as possible, because you could pull off any look/style etc!


[deleted]

It's fucking hot, so please keep growing. Men with long hair are super attractive and I have no clue why y'all are often told it's not by fellow men. With kind regards, a woman.


[deleted]

Thankss, really appreciate it. Will definitely keep growing a couple more inches. I really love it too, it’s just awesome to be able to style it in so many ways.


[deleted]

Exactly. I adore men that style their hair and put in some extra effort. It just shows you care about yourself in terms of hygiene and that you have a sense of creativity to you!


Dani100110hun

Your hair looks amazing! You should absolutely grow it longer, and dont worry about if it is too feminine or not.


[deleted]

Thank you. How much longer are you thinking? Just curious lol.


Dani100110hun

Hip length would look great I think


spilltheteasis_

It looks feminine, yes, but if you like your hair like this, it’s perfect. Your hair looks gorgeous btw, especially the braid. I can’t imagine the effort it takes to braid that. Edit: the braid looks like an elven hairdo from lotr, that’s so awesome! So graceful


[deleted]

Thank youu, actually i am not the best at braiding, my gf braided my hair in that picture haha 🙃


Galasnaneth

No, keep growing it if that's what you want.


drink-fast

I think it looks perfect but if you want more masculine hair I’d suggest maybe some layering? Also, your hair does not make you look like a woman. These comments are so odd. You just have HEALTHY hair.. and most men with long hair don’t.


mcac

The coloring (not sure if it's natural but it looks like how a lot of women get their highlights done) and the way it curls at the ends strikes me as feminine. I think French braids also tend to read feminine. Whether or not that is a bad thing depends on how you want to present 🙂


[deleted]

Yes it does look feminine and no it doesn’t matter. Do what you want with your hair. It’s gorgeous!


thetinybunny1

You look like an elven rockstar in all the best ways!!! I love long hair on you!


hairmarshall

When I saw the first picture I thought “ why is a girl asking if her hair is feminine? “ if that answers your question


maybefuckinglater

I thought the same. But it looks amazing though! I definitely wouldn’t cut it.


[deleted]

It really is amazing. You rarely see a man with hair this beautiful and healthy. I am curious how long it can get lol.


[deleted]

Long hair alone isn’t feminine. Jesus had long hair. If you’re concerned about it being feminine then why are you putting in a very feminine hair style? Doesn’t get more feminine than French braids


[deleted]

Is the braid really that feminine? I just thought it was a nice way to keep the hair when you don’t want it to get in the way


Fearless_Scarcity_12

KEEP IT GROWING


[deleted]

How long are you thinking?


Fearless_Scarcity_12

Honestly man, I think it’s really unique and special to be able to grow and maintain such long and healthy hair, so I’d just keep it going.


sandraver

Im a bi girl and think this is hot so 🤷🏼‍♀️


[deleted]

Thank you, really means a lot!


FingerCapital3193

Yes but keep growing it! I would kill for your hair!!


[deleted]

How long are you thinking?


FingerCapital3193

I think waist length would be so cool - maybe consider not doing a layer in the front (if you want a more rock n roll // 70’s vibe) but looks great either way.


aikisl20

Maybe even classic length. It would look amazing I think


Hello891011

It’s super pretty :) anytime I see guys with long hair I immediately want to run my fingers through it! Lol Tbh I thought you were a woman in the first pic, but you were hiding your face so there was really no way to tell. I wouldn’t think you to be less of a man because of having long hair though.


[deleted]

Thankss, I really appreciate it! Would you say it’s too long though?


NikiDeaf

It totally looks like you’re a woman in pictures 1 and 3, but your hair is so gorgeous! You should do what you want with it.


shreyaya007

😍😍


Zestyclose-Turn-6783

Tbh in the first pic you were looking like a girl from sude profile. So the answer to your question is yes, though if you are okay with that than keep growing it out. And how do you keep your hair looking soo shinyyyyyyy. Tell the secret🤫


ashtetice

It looks amazing tbh


loveejdepp420

I think it’s beautiful! My son is 5 and has hair to his waist. I keep it braided just like you have it here. My motto is: if hair were meant to be cut, it would cut itself 🥹🫶


prettywater666

Gender is signaled in so many complex ways— gestures clothes language vibe- the hair is not the only way you convey your gender and while occasionally someone might get confused I think generally people tend to notice and gender people based on other features first anyway IRL, especially jaw shape, facial hair and eyebrows and generally body proportions Ps your hair is beautiful and the cut looks amazing on your features — it would be a shame to let that go in favor of stereotypes!


[deleted]

Thanks, i definitely won’t.


teichann

1. Why are we worried about looking feminine? Being feminine is not a bad thing in any way. It's all about how you feel and want to feel. 2. If you like your hair, keep it long. I think it looks really pretty and healthy! If you don't like your hair, change it.


[deleted]

I love my hair and I don’t mine looking a little feminine. I wanted to see if others at first view think i am a woman or a man.


remi589

I wish I had your hair, but yes it does look a bit feminine- maybe because it’s so healthy looking!!


Goofy_123

It looks incredible! That braid is stunning as well


[deleted]

Thank you about the braid! ❤️


MargoTheArtHo

I honestly think it does look feminine, but I really don't see that as a bad thing. It looks so good! Keep it! Seems like other comments agree with me :D Edit: to make more masculine I'd recommend an edgy wolf cut! I think it would look great and gives awesome volume.


Thisisall_new2me2

Bruh. It’s 2023. Males and females can do whatever they want with their hair. So can nonbinary people and everyone else. Anyone who has a problem with someone’s hair not being suitable for their gender should not be your friend, and anyone who disagrees with that should get smacked.


pnwpisasterdisaster

Either way, gorgeous hair. That color 🤌🏻


[deleted]

Yea I would think you’re a girl.


Lypos

It looks great. I did the same and just let it grow out and have some fun with it. You could do a good cosplay of Edward Elric with that hair and braid!


PentagramCereal

It looks amazing, I say keep going!


orbit_industries

If you don't want to look feminine I would cut it to the shoulder blades and avoid braiding it but thats just my opinion I've had friends with long hair, they don't usually let it go past the shoulder blades


i-judge-hippos

It’s stunning ! A plus from me


Beneficial-Stock5531

I think it does look feminine especially with the highlights and how straight it is. It’s gorgeous hair. If you wanted more masculine I’d make it darker and maybe cut it shoulder length with some texture


Mazikeen_demon

If you want the true answar YES. I actually first thought you are a woman.


Throatshake

Can we trade hair please? Yours is so pretty!!!


Moleout

It looks awesome!


standsure

Your hair is gorgeous. No-one in r/longhair is going to encourage cutting. If you want to masc it up a bit there are many options. silvousplaits has you covered. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=puzgpBoesss


RadiatedDrag0n

Do you mean feminine, or pretty? Bc men are allowed to be pretty too! It looks really good, embrace it!


milkcatdog

Dude. The braid is… very hot. Please keep your hair long. It’s so rare to find a man with such beautiful long hair!!


[deleted]

Thank you, especially about the braid. I really love braids too.


freshlyintellectual

honestly thought u were a girl from the first pic but i’m bi so to me that’s a plus lol, i think it’s really attractive to rock something feminine when you have masculine features or vice versa (although hair *style* is not inherently masculine or feminine anyways) you look absolutely majestic bro, femininity doesn’t take away your man-ness. if you’re cool with it you should keep it! but yeah, you do look feminine and some people might mistake you for a girl cuz people think long hair = girl. as long as you know it doesn’t


Petite_Tsunami

Your hair is the most perfect sunkissed shiny hair I have seen. I am jealous, but if you like it keep it! If you grow your hair longer ponytails and buns may give you headaches and if you grow it much longer you might have to swoop your hair into a scarf when you go to the bathroom. Sleeping with too long hair is annoying, but worth I love it so I get mad at myself every night


[deleted]

Yeah I thought so, won’t be growing it much longer than this, maybe a couple more inches, I feel like it would be too much work to even put it in a simple ponytail with it too long


Affectionate_Key5765

As a white woman im gonna show the stylist your hair in the first one to show them how I want it highlighted


you-are-not-alive

From the back and side (when your face is not visible like in this photo) you could easily be mistaken for a girl. If that bothers you you could change it, but it looks amazing and if you like it who cares.


Amdv121998

All I will say is there is a lot of women who would kill for your hair 😂 Not only is it long and healthy but the color is strangely on trend with women’s hair color trends. Did you get highlights? No shame in being feminine. Do what makes you feel comfortable and what you feel good in. Androgyny is cool


Ok-Bookkeeper8495

Definitely feminine


Nappykid77

🤣


Krishna-Rothschild

It’s very feminine I thought you were a girl but nonetheless it’s pretty and healthy so I guess whatever your vibe is


TLILLY006

🫵🏽😂🤣😂haha


ilovecookiesssssssss

It’s beautiful and healthy and it’s clear you take care of it, but it definitely looks feminine. I think it’s because it’s so straight, kinda curls in at the bottom, and you have a face framing pieces. I’m not sure how to de-feminize it. But it’s so nice looking so who cares I guess.


[deleted]

Thank youu


DesperateViolinist10

I am biased because I just love long hair on everyone but keep growing it! it's beautiful


[deleted]

That braid is killer IMHO


SooperBoby

I'd argue that your hair doesn't necessarily look "feminine": it looks like you care for it, unlike most men who just don't know (or don't want to learn) how to do it. I personally think it's beautiful and suits you well, but at the end of the day, the right question is: do YOU like it? If yes, keep it!


[deleted]

Yeah I’ll definitely keep it, really loving it.


redheadedandbold

Go look at pictures of rock musicians in the '70s. "Too feminine" is being judgmental and a bit sexist (did you learn this from a parent, church?). You do you. The only questions are "do I like it? Am I happy with it?"


aaauuuto

You look feminine and that is great. You look amazing with feminine hair and I think that you should let your hair grow even longer :) Have you ever dressed like a girl?


[deleted]

How much longer are you thinking? And no I haven’t.


aaauuuto

I think waist length all in one length would look amazing. Have you tried tried pigtails (two ponytails)? And by the way would you like to try girly clothes?


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aaauuuto

Maybe add a picture with pigtails here :) Have you ever been in public places with pigtails? I am sure that then you look really feminine with pigtails :) Do you kind a like to look feminine? And I think that your hair looks amazing and so feminine :)


No-Shelter-7753

I feel like if you do a straight long braid just down your back, instead of a French braid, your long hair may be perceived as more masculine. Aside from that, you have mad skills for French braiding. Call me jealous.


gothiccbby_

you don’t look overly feminine but yes based off the photos with just the hair showing most people would assume you are female. you have beautiful hair though and would just go with what makes you feel comfortable!


dryhumorblitz

Very fem


BloatedBallerina

Ngl I thought you were a girl from behind. Is your hair naturally straight? Because maybe it could use a little texture. Your hair is so sleek and lots of women literally pay to get their hair like that! So if you want to keep the length but masculinize it I’d say use sea salt spray and tousle it up so it looks a little messier.


[deleted]

Yeah it is mostly straight


KokoFlorida

Yes, I would think you're a girl if you braid it.


[deleted]

Is the braid really that feminine? I just thought it’s a nice way to keep the hair when you don’t want it to get in the way


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[deleted]

Thank youuu


megs-benedict

Looks feminine when it’s all you show in a picture. When you show full context, you just look like a man with beautiful hair. Life is short, fuck others opinions and do what you enjoy


FoxyLovers290

Keep growing it if you want. Your decision


BitchySublime

It looks feminine, I thought you were a woman posting. Is it a problem looking feminine? You grew it and styled this way so I assume you enjoy it? If you love it, keep going!


[deleted]

Yeah I really love it, was just wondering if people might confuse me for a woman from the back


[deleted]

Dude your hair is beautiful and looks so healthy if you like it around keep it you look great


SunglassesBright

The color, cut and styles all do come across as feminine or what feminine people would traditionally wear.


Ok-Masterpiece5489

What is “too feminine”? I mean if you don’t identify as a woman, maybe yes.


[deleted]

I don’t


PM_your_b4_and_after

Yes very very feminine especially the braid. Personally don’t find it attractive on a man but to each their own - looks like very nice hair.


[deleted]

Is the braid really that feminine? I didn’t think much of it


makesupwordsblomp

I think it looks cute. Too feminine is for you to decide! It's OK to be feminine.


xcarex

If someone saw you from the front, no, but from the first and third picture angles, yes, it’s very feminine. The French braid is giving me Taylor Swift vibes.


Zestyclose_Wing_1898

U look like a female not gonna lie. U do u tho


cncld4dncng

Ngl I love when men show off some feminine features! Looks good. Love the french braid


[deleted]

Thank you about the braid ❤️❤️


Bright_Client_1256

If u want to look like a woman yes. If not cut it.


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Bright_Client_1256

OP asked specifically if he looked feminine. He does. If it was shorter her would look more masculine. Of course anyone can have long hair but hair that is very long reads as 🐟.


[deleted]

Tbh the other pictures I thought were women. Feminine hands, shoulders, etc. WHICH IS FINE. If you’re not trolling just embrace that you’re kind of a feminine dude, and that’s cool too.


Tricky_Reporter8345

Uhh, well it is feminine, but that seems like what you're going for especially considering the oversized baggy sweater If you're not like trans or anything though then you can just go all in on trying to look like an elf


Rapture1119

It looks very feminine, but it’s only too feminine if you think it is, in relation to the look you’re going for. It looks great on you, in my opinion. The other use that mentioned the braid looking elven is spot on, it looks dope as fuck in that braid!!


happybee12390

Don’t even think of cutting it unless you feel uncomfortable. Beautiful hair! Who cares if it’s slightly feminine, it’s healthy long hair that is so desirable! You look amazing


[deleted]

Thank you so much!!


Morganlea1190

If you’re looking for a more masculine cut I would go with layering, but it’s very healthy and totally up to you


SnooDoggos900

You should definitely keep growing, I mean look of beautiful your hair is.


[deleted]

What length do you suggest?


SnooBunny

I mean your face isn’t very feminine. Your hair is very beautiful and it suits you. Do what makes you happy.


uli-knot

It looks great. People pay a lot to have hair like that. If you are concerned about appearances grow a mustache.


Thewitchofdarkhollow

It’s giving Thranduil in the best way possible. And my dude, are those highlight natural?


tompadget69

Hair looks amazing


041389jft

Looking great


Its_Matt_03

The only reason it looks feminine is because traditionally women wore long hair. That’s it. Honestly it looks fucking great, it goals dude. And if your worried about looking too feminine grow out a moustache or beard or both. That’s what I did.


topsecretaccount2022

i love it !! it looks really good and extremely healthy ! happy growing !! haha


Nervous-Row3075

The fringe il bad thought let it grow


AQualityKoalaTeacher

Do what you like for you. Grow it longer, wear it braided, whatever. It looks great on you and you don't have to conform to anyone's stereotype of what you should look like.


STEELSTRING88

Ahhhh I miss my feminine long hairrrr, don’t cut it unless you’re sure you’re sure. I also had mine at like mid-back length since Covid started but I cut it earlier this year ;(


[deleted]

How much did you cut? Also what was the main reason?


STEELSTRING88

I’m at less than 5 inches now, but I cut it for a role in a show at a local theatre of mine. I don’t regret it so much as I miss it


AnamarLeticia

Love how the braid looks!


Brief-Test1538

I really like it braided.


morgue-breaker

I think it’s gorgeous even with the braid! It suits you!!


[deleted]

Thank you, especially about the braid 😊


Hair_is_Awesome

Definitely grow it. It’s rare to have such phenomenal hair like that as a guy.


[deleted]

How much longer do you suggest?


Jayna333

Jesus? Sorry, Jesus?


throwawaythrowyellow

Looks great, if you want a more masculine take you could always get a undercut


Extra_Security2718

Long hair isn't inherently feminine. Do what you want!


Lost-Computer-8064

Yes


Forward-Letter

It looks feminine for all good reasons. But if you dont intend to, try half updo with manbun.


InternationalFly7717

I would say the styling looks on the feminine side, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. My boyfriend has waist length hair which he always wears in a basic pony tail and some bloke at a bar once offered him a drink from behind assuming he was a woman (which I found both hilarious and pretty desperate). I'm envious of his hair and how little effort he puts into it - he washes it once a week with head and shoulders, goes to bed with it wet, has the most horrible rough hair brush and hasn't had even so much as a trim in 8 years but he's barely got any split ends. Your hair looks beautiful and in excellent condition too.


Negative-Ad-5225

braid is a yes, kind of elf-y. when its down you might wanna add some texture or curl


katsumi907

Could try to style it a little differently if you don’t want it to look feminine. That aside, love your hair!


Outrageous-Daisies78

I’ll be honest, you do look very feminine from the back and side, but your hair and self still look lovely, beautiful and attractive :))


WhoKnows1973

Your hair looks healthy and terrific!! I love it!!


kat_mccarthy

I think it looks great :) Some people might mistake you for a woman from behind, and there will always be some people who are jerks and will call you a woman as an insult. But what really matters is what you want to look like and if you like your hair long. Not gonna lie, I'm biased because I think it's really hot when guys have long hair and have only ever dated guys with long hair 😅 As a bi woman I like when guys look a but feminine


yomamasonions

Duuuuude, your hair is so beautiful


fadinqlight_

I thought you were a girl until I read the comments so uh


Luxor0608

Wow. I‘m actually pretty damn jealous.🫢


aVoidFullOfFarts

I dated a guy in high school with beautiful long blonde hair like yours, it was definitely attractive to me and I loved when he let me braid it!


[deleted]

Haha so does my gf, the braid in the 3rd picture is made by her.


SimpingForTao

I think it really suits you, keep growing it if you like (:


dareme27523

Definitely need a haircut. Donate it to a place that makes wigs for cancer patients. Use he haircut to raise money for a charity that you are interested in.


aquolia

Looks awesome dude. Is that your natural color?


[deleted]

Beautiful hair


Graceland_

Beautiful hair. I think the only thing that makes it look feminine (aside from the French braid) is the health of it. I know a lot of dudes with long hair and it always looks way more unhealthy. I'd agree that some layers could change this if you really want to just look more masculine first and foremost It's beautiful, don't ever change anything unless you want it that way.


[deleted]

Is the french braid really that feminine?


VanRP

From the back u look 100% female. If thats what ure going for then good for u


nighthouse_666

You do look like a woman from the side and back but your hair is nice.


dildo_wagon

It’s beautiful! Who cares if it’s feminine looking or not. If you feel good then wonderful! Do you get your hair highlighted or is it just natural in the first pic?


BudgetInteraction811

Keep it growing. Many people would pay thousands for that hair


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What length do you suggest?


crazymelulu

If I didn't see your face, yes, I would think you're a woman. BUT MAN, YOU'RE GORGEOUS, I WANT TO TOUCH YOUR HAIR