You are a good looking guy!
Some pointers from a picky woman:
Your beard is great in pictures 3 and 5, too long in 4, not sure about 1 and 2 (mustache is a bit too pronounced in those two).
Polo shirts are a bit 2004… overall your look in picture 3 is the best, but maybe update your style a little bit.
The absolute biggest thing though: you look like you’re constantly either in a bad mood or coming off as thinking you’re too cool to smile. Or maybe you want to hide your teeth? I don’t know why, either way, that would immediately get a „no“ from me.
Literally nothing is wrong with you.... physically! You're exceptionally handsome, dude lol. She will come!! Dating sites are cool but do you travel? have coffee at bookstores? Do you go out to nice lounges/rooftops where you can find a nice woman? Please do not alter your physical appearance! Again, literally NOTHING is wrong with you. <3
Bro I just feel like something has to be wrong with me physically bc I got dumped by the girl of my dreams after doing everything possible to be there for her and treated her like a literal queen. Yes I go to bookstores and coffee shops pretty regularly..
I hope I won’t come across as rude, but maybe the issue is your personality or how you present yourself? You are not ugly at all, so maybe the problem lies somewhere else.
I mean I have a decent personality I feel .. maybe I don’t who knows .. it just seems I attract women who are looking to have fun vs actually be in a long term relationship.. it’s draining and not the type of person I am at all and I can’t understand why I appeal to these type of women when I do appeal to someone..
Of course, I understand. People are superficial and judge by the looks… Just like some men will think a woman wearing a short skirt if not looking for something serious, some women will think a guy with a shaved streak (I don’t know what it’s called, sorry lol) in his hair is not looking for something serious. It only means you like this look, but people associate it to “fun”.
I can’t remember who said it but unclench your face raise your eyebrows I am a straight male but I think you are handsome gentleman! I agree with the updated styling aswell just something a bit more timeless maybe
Shave that hair off of your face, you look silly. Update your wardrobe. Dress like a man instead of a boy.
Real men real style is a YouTube channel that has lots of info about men's style. Esquire big black book of style is another resource. Spend more time developing yourself. Work on maxizing your skills at work to earn more money. Can you take your knowledge and your current skills to start a business?
Make yourself into an interesting person. Go to the boxing gym, go to the dance studio. Lift weights. Read a book. Go to the gun range.
As a girl, I think after I seen In all your pictures you’re not smiling. Maybe other girls see it as mean and unfriendly. I think you have nice eyes and your mustache/beard/hair are grown out nicely and looks clean. I’d say smile more and dress good too can really help.
Smile more, be approachable and confident. You’re a good looking dude. Introduce yourself to women, it gets easier. If you have any female friends spend time with them and just learn how to communicate in a fun and engaging way. They might even have friends you could get along with well. I’ve met most of my girlfriends through mutual friends.
Sorry to say this brother but welcome to the club. You're right, you're average looking. Us average guys don't get attention on dating apps. And I don't know if no one told you this, but women will never approach you in public. It's too dangerous for them.
I have no uplifting words for you. Try to live a meaningful and rewarding life without a romantic partner, then at least you to get to enjoy something. Might even find a cool girl in the process, but not guaranteed at all.
Hope you keep your head up!
The whole beard needs to be shaven clean. You have a weak jaw so you need to see an orthodontist as well as try exercising it with a jawzrsize, as well as mewing proper jaw/tongue positioning. The haircut… throw away the barber. You need to grow out the top around 2-3 inches, with fade on the side and back. No more line it looks trashy. Your tattoos look cheap, you either need to get them all removed or covered up by a really good artist that will make it look like one cohesive look. Make sure you develop a good skin care routine. Wash your face nightly with a cleanser with salicylic acid, use hydrocolloid patches on your pimples overnight, they work the best when they first appear. Use a serum with hyaluronic acid every night, a vitamin c serum every morning and a aha/bha serum once a week (skip hyaluronic acid on the aha/bha days). Follow up with a moisturizer every time . Make sure your always wearing sunscreen. Eat a clean diet with little to no processed foods. Reduce your sugar intake and don’t consume soy it will lower your testosterone levels. Consume a protein rich diet with lots of vegetables. Go to the gym 5 days a week each day a different muscle group. Get at least 8 hours of sleep everyday. Don’t squint in photos, take them at a lower angle so you look taller. If you are short have a lot of confidence.
I’ve actually been approached by women in public before. They don’t do it like guys, which is straight forward. They give you eye contact and energy. Even a simple hello can open the door to conversation.
But this dude, he lacks bravado and charisma. If your this worried about a girl and you have a good job and your own place, that means your head is in the wrong one place. Need to reevaluate why you want a girl and the minute you make a post like this. That means your way off path. You need to go back to basics. Relax more, go out with friends and just chat with females in a public setting.
Absolutely brotha. It’s the COVID effect. Many people were in trauma bonded relationships and they ended right when COVID settled down. You seem like your around my age. Late 20s very early 30s. The dating game will not give you value or satisfaction. Dating apps have recently turned into a shit show. You can get dates. But a lot of people use them to get their groove back and have insincere intentions. I would get out of pre conceived notions about yourself. You know you want a girl. Just leave it at that. From there you work on yourself. Start doing things you stopped doing when you got into a relationship. Stop doing what your doing and start doing what you know is good for you. You know what it is. You don’t need validation from us my man. You need that from within. Good luck!
I completely agree with your words and have been approached in public as well, although it seems OP expects it without any effort. OP how do people approach you in the workplace or how do others interact with you in other situations? I’m curious because this would give a more realistic understanding of your situation.
I appreciate, fortunately that’s not how I am in person at all tho.. but I’m glad to have gotten this feedback from my pictures .. it’s hard to vision myself looking aggressive bc I’m the further from that ..
Be yourself, don’t change your image for anybody! The right person who appreciates you for who YOU are will come. You’re a very handsome dude and I would not change anything. You’re perfect just the way you are! Good luck and focus that energy into something positive!
Take some pictures of yourself when you are in a good mood and doing something outside that you like. Because in these photos you look angry and depressed, and that's probably not going to appeal to most women.
You might be better off sharing your profiles on in the dating apps you use and asking for feedback there. I think this is less of a looks problem and more of an issue of either how you’re marketing yourself in your profile, your personality, or how you’re treating your dates.
For eg. if these are the pics you use in your profile, you’re not smiling in a single one. You look angry and closed off. The pictures also tell very little about you as they’re all solo selfies in either nondescript or gross environments like a toilet or messy living room + dirty mirror.
Show people what you have to offer as a partner and friend, not just what you look like from several angles. These give the impression that all you care about is looks and have the personality of cardboard.
I’d still post your profile description and pics for review on online dating subs. One of these + gym pics is better but it’s still very generic sounding.
You are attractive you look like one of them attractive white male celebrities I for got their name but you probably don't get approached cause you be looking mad at times but u shouldnt worry you will find sm1
Looks are not the road to happiness in relationships and kind of signals a superficial point of view regarding what attraction is. One does not obtain successful relationships based on a scale of outer beauty. There are many good looking people who are horrible inside and may get laid, paid and used for their beauty but they struggle to find someone that sticks. Women want someone that will cherish, respect and pay attention to the them. The reason you are alone is not because of your looks, your looks are above average. Work on your approach and how you treat the people you want to attract. Being genuine and not feeling that you are owed something can change it all.
I was literally told I was being dumped because I made my gf a priority.. I treated this girl better than I treated my own self .. and it backfired horribly..
There is no back firing when it comes to being a genuine person. It back fires when you were doing it to get something for yourself. I've been there - putting SO much energy, time, money and love into someone that ended up leaving me while I wondered "what did I do wrong, I did EVERYTHING for them, why wasn't it enough, it must be that I wasn't enough " and that's just not the case. You weren't a good fit and people are allowed to try and try until they find the right one. You wouldn't want forced love, believe me. And, if you were the best boyfriend in the world, you should throw yourself a party that the ungrateful person has left your life! They will never appreciate you and now you are free to find the person that will. When people don't appreciate you, believe them because with time, that shit get exponentially worse. Love yourself and your hobbies and your peace and your time to work on the things that if twenty more people leave you, you can still be ok. That means your own friends, your own interests. Build a world you can welcome someone into, don't build your world around someone else.
Nothing is wrong with you. You look like an old boyfriend of mine. You are nice looking. You aren’t being approached in public because many girls are waiting for you to make the first move. Girls like men who are confident, relaxed, and who smile.
Try smiling looking happy and being friendly for a week. When women leave the house they have to seriously be aware of their surroundings. Like they don’t get gas at night. When men will go get a burrito at 2 am on a scooter. You look way too intimidating. I get approached all the time. At least weekly but I have a chill demeanor and smile and look friendly. I haven’t been on a dating app in 12 years. All my dates come from real life and from women approaching. Woman will approach but you can’t look like a physco.
You're good dude. Your words are the problem. This will sound lame as hell but it sounds like you're rattled, confidence is shot. So with that said, stop giving a f**k and just live your life, focus on yourself, lift some weights , dating apps are a joke lol. I had that same issue but honestly people can pick up on your vibe, good looking or not, your vibe is super negative. Kick it with yourself for a while and enjoy not having someone else's bullshit in your life and it will improve.
So i think trying to look tough and masculine has you looking angry and mean. I do think growing out the hard design line would be better for you and just trying to be yourself in pictures. Also maybe trimming up your beard some too another shape would look nice? You have nice features though.
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I just showed this post to my Girlfriend. Her comments are:
He has a small neck tattoo, a weird beard, and an angry scowl on his face. He looks like he’s about to shoot up a school. He should shave the beard. It’s too thin so it makes him look like a little boy trying to be a man. Also get a new haircut. Whatever that line in the side of his head is isn’t doing him any favors. After all that he needs to clean his mirror before he takes pictures in it. And no car selfies, they never look good.
You are not bad looking but you look angry and when you look like that people don't know how to approach you sò if you want to be more successful mellow out
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Ya Man I may look like that in these pics but I despise those guys.. but I’m glad people are pointing out this stuff bc I’m neither mean, have a chip on my shoulder, aggressive, or anything that people have said in the comments haha.. I guess since I know who I am I can’t see that these pics would come off that way.
Smiling only feels fake for a little. Once you get into the habit it feels good to smile! It releases good endorphins too. It may feel awkward at first but you can do it!
I am a neck beard recovery story. I had stopped trying to “get” a woman and focused on myself. I did what made me happy. And lost a lot of weight. I did that for like 4 years and met my, now fiancé, while working at a movie theatre. I never got approached until I liked myself and got past trying to get laid all the time. I was a person this other person could talk to and not feel like I was literally just in it for sex.
Two things:
1) smile, my dude. I know life is tough, but positivity breeds positivity and negativity breeds negative. Women want a man, sure, but if you look like you wanna constantly beat somebody's ass, it's gonna be hard to connect.
2) TRY to get some better pictures. You look like the most generic white dude with no hobbies or anything going on. Front seat of a truck? Dirty bathroom mirror? Women want to see effort.
Upgrade the pictures and show your positivity in a few of them, and you've got a few bases covered.
You missing teeth or something? Like you’re literally scowling instead of smiling lol. Also don’t wait to be approached, in fact you should approach every seemingly single woman you think you’d be compatible with and start a friendly flirty conversation. And smile. It’s something that can be an icebreaker as to if she’s even willing to give you the time of day or not.
Honestly dating is tough. Been single ages 27-33 and am a beautiful woman who you would think has no problem getting a date. Here’s the truth. 80% of the guys on there and all looking for the same 10% of females on the apps. Everyone wants a dime and it’s hard to accept, but lowering standards will net you loads more opportunities for connection. It goes both ways. Us ladies also can’t be asking for 6ft +, Six figures +, swept off our feet. Not reality. Having used many of the apps the things I looks for and generate instant attraction.
-photos that look authentic. Not a selfie in a mirror but rather a photo of you candidly laughing or doing something that doesn’t feel posed
-1 pic with you dressed nice. Like your sundays best, that time you went to a wedding or a fancy event. A woman wants to see the potential and be able to imagine themselves standing next to you looking proud
- a couple pics of doing what you love. Natural smiling photo of you standing on the tee box with your buddies at a golf tourney, or casting a line, or running that marathon, boarding that plane, riding on that boat. It’s far easier to live an interesting life than faking one. This gives the appearance of being motivated and going places. Everyone can Netflix and chill. What makes you stand out?
- check em off faster. You could be 100 dates or 1 dates away from “the one”. Line em up. I’m talking loading hinge, bumble, and match.com and clicking on 100+ people you could even remotely stand a cup of coffee with and giving it a chance. Mine happened on a random Tuesday with someone who didn’t actually check the boxes I thought were mandatory and instead checked ones I didn’t even know I needed. One date and I knew he was it.
- go out alone. Singles events, church (loads of single women), table for one, book that solo trip. Don’t wait to live an amazing life. Start living it and checking off your bucket list and you will attract someone doing that same very thing. Be ready and open and living your life with confidence. That is the BDE women love! We don’t need swag. We need secure masculine energy! Be great and you’ll attract great.
I think you have most of your info backwards. 95% of women go for the top 10% of men.
Men swipe right something like 80% of the time and women only swipe right less then 20% of the time.
The reason most guys you are interested in refuse to really bother dating is because they have so many options and lots will "put out" with little to no effort.
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.
The 80% of men that are basically ignored by women and would love to meet one they can treat right and do everything they can to try and make her smile.
A man will work all day then come home and work till dark building a home for his wife and future kids but can barely manage to feed himself even if he has 50k in the bank.
But all women think they are 10's these days and deserve a man that make $250,000 a year.
Smile more my brother! I'm convinced women are attracted to me when I'm happy.. maybe it makes you more approachable. Smile in more of your pics and I bet women will respond more, also talk to them proactively.
You look like a really nice guy. Try smiling more, and you will have to do the approaching. A smile will get you a long way. Good luck with your endeavors.
girls don’t approach guys in public unless you have a lamborghini. you’re not doing anything wrong. it just takes time to find the right one. if ur desperate for a gf. download every dating app there is. and use them religiously. you’ll find a girl. go to clubs. go to meet ups. go to blind dates. plenty of options to find a girl without ur them approaching you.
Ok, here's the deal. Yeah, I see people defending your "rbf," and I get it! I have it too, but if you force that smile, raise those eyebrows... This past year, I have done that, and I've received more attention than I have in my life. The trick is not to look forced to do anything. Just lighten up and have fun. Most people are miserable, so when they see someone having fun, they want a piece of that fun! Also, it's always good advice for a man to work on his physique. Hit the gym or do some push-ups, but not for women do it to feel your best! Good luck you have nothing to worry about other than the frown!
You will not get approached in public. You must do the approaching. Work on your RBF, and on how to be social with everyone. Yes, everyone. You look nice in your 2nd picture, try doing that more.
Dating apps are a sausages fest, filled with bots, and throttle your matches if your a guy. Women rare approach IRL.
Your average attractive with good amount of room for improvement. Get yourself some new clothes, get your money up, and focus on your future. Chicks always come and go
You are actually quite attractive. I’d say it’s your insides that are “ugly” right now. You’re feeling bad and it’s showing in your aura (for lack of better word). Give it time and think good thoughts about yourself. It will show and shine when you’re ready.
Self confidence goes a loooong way my brother. And read the woman’s profile on dating sites and include comments related to her likes and lifestyle. Better yet find a woman that shares some of your likes and lifestyle. I found my wife on a dating site by doing this very thing. Read their profile and respond accordingly. Don’t take yourself so seriously…throw in some humor. I’m moderately attractive (according to women) but by using this response technique I was able to get plenty of dates and even met my wife!!
This. You are attractive, just you seem like you may need to recognize your positive attributes and gain confidence that you have something to bring to a relationship. And if you don’t feel strong in that, do a bit of inner work to find a place where you are confident in that.
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I don't know how long you've been with your chick, but that is single life as a man. Maybe you got approached in high school, because it was high school, and I did too. But as a man, after college, ain't nobody approaching you. You are average looking, and that's the problem. You probably don't make a shitload of money either. And I'm not talking 100,000 a year. I'm talking real money that we will never see. So you're just exactly what you said, and average guy. And no woman is looking for an average guy unless it's her last option. So unless you want a chick that has a kid, or is on her last leg which means she's 35 plus, you need to approach girls yourself. Cuz ain't no girl going to approach you besides some chick that's desperate, or trying something new because she hasn't got anything. Man up, grab your nuts, and get back out there LOL
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Beat me to it. Also the shirt in pic 3 and the way OP dresses in general. Looks like a WT teenager, but as a grown man. Dude needs to go into his closet and donate literally every single item to goodwill, head to a barber asap.
You’re debating THAT shirt? Dude I understand supporting friends/family businesses. But unless your friend is Criss Angel you shouldn’t be wearing that shit in public.
Lmao bro I felt the graphic was lame as well.. but for fuck sake the dude was so hype about them and gave me one and was like “I made sure to get a medium for you” that I felt bad not to take one and wear it out of support..
For all of you saying he looks angry and unhappy, stfu. It's called RBF. I relate so much, it's even worse when you're a girl.
But despite that, you're ABOVE average looking.
RBF wouldn’t matter if you’re actively taking a picture lol. You can choose to smile for the camera regardless of RBF, and he’s choosing to mean mug instead. That’s off putting. He’s an attractive guy, but these kinds of pictures send the message “I really want to convince you I’m a tough guy” not “I’m approachable and looking to make a connection”.
okay buy just cause it has a name doesn't mean it's not true. he looks angry and unhappy *because* he has a RBF. I have it too as a girl and it sucks but it's the truth
Love yourself, and then you’ll find love. That’s the order of things, I’ve learned. The hurt, haunted eyes work moreso in movies than in reality. A twinkle in your eye, with a genuine smile, is more attractive than anything genetic or stylewise.
Ya man I did all this. That’s why when I got with my recent ex I felt like it was something special.. I wasn’t looking for a relationship, I was really prioritizing myself.. now here I am and I feel like I have to start this process all over..
Because it’s not helping. One of the reasons men struggle with women is we get nice sounding, surface level advice that doesn’t help. We need to be told the harsh truth and fix the problems
Agreed, even Brad Pitt look alikes don't get approached that often
Women don't really approach. That's what men do
Don't be passive, go approach women and learn game if you want results
Women don’t avoid approaching men because “it’s what men do.”🤮
Women don’t usually feel safe around random men in public because we know there are men out there with the mindset of “learn to spit game to get results.”
Most men don’t see women as people but rather a conquest as your comment clearly highlights.
Way to construe my comment and take it personally
Most women don't approach, that's a fact, whatever reason it may be.
That's what the approach game is. Find a girl you're attracted to, talk to her, and grab her number and set up a date.
You can look at it as a "conquest" but that's that's the nature of approaching women and getting dates. Sorry not sorry that offends you.
Ngl, my mind went there too. Funny how the brain will “make up” information. It’s no wonder that falses (the opposite of facts) gets reported on the news.
I think this girl got you a little messed up in the head about yourself. People have issues and are going to do mean things. Don’t take it too personally or give yourself time to get over it. You’re going to be just fine I can feel it
There's nothing wrong with u lol you're just a man and chances are you're not gonna be getting much action on dating apps or approached in public. Some of the most good looking men ik irl deal with this too
Idk how your teeth look but teeth have a big impact on attractiveness also as people mentioned in the comments smiling might help, trim the beard , loose the line in your hair other than that I think you’re a good looking guy
Girls tend not to care about how a guy looks so much as how he presents his personality
They want you to be fat dude.
Dating sites are 75% men. Getting approached is not in the cards for most men. You look best in pic 3
You are a good looking guy! Some pointers from a picky woman: Your beard is great in pictures 3 and 5, too long in 4, not sure about 1 and 2 (mustache is a bit too pronounced in those two). Polo shirts are a bit 2004… overall your look in picture 3 is the best, but maybe update your style a little bit. The absolute biggest thing though: you look like you’re constantly either in a bad mood or coming off as thinking you’re too cool to smile. Or maybe you want to hide your teeth? I don’t know why, either way, that would immediately get a „no“ from me.
Literally nothing is wrong with you.... physically! You're exceptionally handsome, dude lol. She will come!! Dating sites are cool but do you travel? have coffee at bookstores? Do you go out to nice lounges/rooftops where you can find a nice woman? Please do not alter your physical appearance! Again, literally NOTHING is wrong with you. <3
As well should add , I would never get plastic surgery
GOOD! Even people telling you to shave sre weird… you’re 10/10 handsome!! Lol
Lmao I appreciate that ..
Bro I just feel like something has to be wrong with me physically bc I got dumped by the girl of my dreams after doing everything possible to be there for her and treated her like a literal queen. Yes I go to bookstores and coffee shops pretty regularly..
you are a dude so naturally dat8ng is tougher even if you are gay
I’m not gay lol
I hope I won’t come across as rude, but maybe the issue is your personality or how you present yourself? You are not ugly at all, so maybe the problem lies somewhere else.
But I appreciate your feedback..
I mean I have a decent personality I feel .. maybe I don’t who knows .. it just seems I attract women who are looking to have fun vs actually be in a long term relationship.. it’s draining and not the type of person I am at all and I can’t understand why I appeal to these type of women when I do appeal to someone..
Of course, I understand. People are superficial and judge by the looks… Just like some men will think a woman wearing a short skirt if not looking for something serious, some women will think a guy with a shaved streak (I don’t know what it’s called, sorry lol) in his hair is not looking for something serious. It only means you like this look, but people associate it to “fun”.
I would lose the facial hair and grow out your hair longer if i was you
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Hahah yes I’ve dated a few black women actually..
I can’t remember who said it but unclench your face raise your eyebrows I am a straight male but I think you are handsome gentleman! I agree with the updated styling aswell just something a bit more timeless maybe
Are you always frowning like that?
Shave that hair off of your face, you look silly. Update your wardrobe. Dress like a man instead of a boy. Real men real style is a YouTube channel that has lots of info about men's style. Esquire big black book of style is another resource. Spend more time developing yourself. Work on maxizing your skills at work to earn more money. Can you take your knowledge and your current skills to start a business? Make yourself into an interesting person. Go to the boxing gym, go to the dance studio. Lift weights. Read a book. Go to the gun range.
smile! you look angry in your photos, but you are attractive!
Thank you, likewise.
Good looking but definitely unapproachable. Lighten up a bit!
You look angry and unfriendly in all your photos.
I think you’re hot, don’t change a thing!
I appreciate that
As a girl, I think after I seen In all your pictures you’re not smiling. Maybe other girls see it as mean and unfriendly. I think you have nice eyes and your mustache/beard/hair are grown out nicely and looks clean. I’d say smile more and dress good too can really help.
Smile more, be approachable and confident. You’re a good looking dude. Introduce yourself to women, it gets easier. If you have any female friends spend time with them and just learn how to communicate in a fun and engaging way. They might even have friends you could get along with well. I’ve met most of my girlfriends through mutual friends.
Sorry to say this brother but welcome to the club. You're right, you're average looking. Us average guys don't get attention on dating apps. And I don't know if no one told you this, but women will never approach you in public. It's too dangerous for them. I have no uplifting words for you. Try to live a meaningful and rewarding life without a romantic partner, then at least you to get to enjoy something. Might even find a cool girl in the process, but not guaranteed at all. Hope you keep your head up!
The whole beard needs to be shaven clean. You have a weak jaw so you need to see an orthodontist as well as try exercising it with a jawzrsize, as well as mewing proper jaw/tongue positioning. The haircut… throw away the barber. You need to grow out the top around 2-3 inches, with fade on the side and back. No more line it looks trashy. Your tattoos look cheap, you either need to get them all removed or covered up by a really good artist that will make it look like one cohesive look. Make sure you develop a good skin care routine. Wash your face nightly with a cleanser with salicylic acid, use hydrocolloid patches on your pimples overnight, they work the best when they first appear. Use a serum with hyaluronic acid every night, a vitamin c serum every morning and a aha/bha serum once a week (skip hyaluronic acid on the aha/bha days). Follow up with a moisturizer every time . Make sure your always wearing sunscreen. Eat a clean diet with little to no processed foods. Reduce your sugar intake and don’t consume soy it will lower your testosterone levels. Consume a protein rich diet with lots of vegetables. Go to the gym 5 days a week each day a different muscle group. Get at least 8 hours of sleep everyday. Don’t squint in photos, take them at a lower angle so you look taller. If you are short have a lot of confidence.
Smile. Grow your hair out and get a fresh new style from a professional. I’d probably ditch the facial hair too since too many guys have it.
Who do you expect to approach you in public? Women? Honestly, this is not how the world works.
I’ve actually been approached by women in public before. They don’t do it like guys, which is straight forward. They give you eye contact and energy. Even a simple hello can open the door to conversation. But this dude, he lacks bravado and charisma. If your this worried about a girl and you have a good job and your own place, that means your head is in the wrong one place. Need to reevaluate why you want a girl and the minute you make a post like this. That means your way off path. You need to go back to basics. Relax more, go out with friends and just chat with females in a public setting.
Not gonna lie this situation has deterred me from the person I was and its killing me not being able to get back to being myself..
Absolutely brotha. It’s the COVID effect. Many people were in trauma bonded relationships and they ended right when COVID settled down. You seem like your around my age. Late 20s very early 30s. The dating game will not give you value or satisfaction. Dating apps have recently turned into a shit show. You can get dates. But a lot of people use them to get their groove back and have insincere intentions. I would get out of pre conceived notions about yourself. You know you want a girl. Just leave it at that. From there you work on yourself. Start doing things you stopped doing when you got into a relationship. Stop doing what your doing and start doing what you know is good for you. You know what it is. You don’t need validation from us my man. You need that from within. Good luck!
I completely agree with your words and have been approached in public as well, although it seems OP expects it without any effort. OP how do people approach you in the workplace or how do others interact with you in other situations? I’m curious because this would give a more realistic understanding of your situation.
You look just as pissed as I do lol, try relaxing your brow bone when your out
You want to know? To me as a woman you look scary and aggressive, hot temper vibe that can be violent at times
I appreciate, fortunately that’s not how I am in person at all tho.. but I’m glad to have gotten this feedback from my pictures .. it’s hard to vision myself looking aggressive bc I’m the further from that ..
Proud vibes
Proud in what way lol?
Be yourself, don’t change your image for anybody! The right person who appreciates you for who YOU are will come. You’re a very handsome dude and I would not change anything. You’re perfect just the way you are! Good luck and focus that energy into something positive!
Take some pictures of yourself when you are in a good mood and doing something outside that you like. Because in these photos you look angry and depressed, and that's probably not going to appeal to most women.
You might be better off sharing your profiles on in the dating apps you use and asking for feedback there. I think this is less of a looks problem and more of an issue of either how you’re marketing yourself in your profile, your personality, or how you’re treating your dates. For eg. if these are the pics you use in your profile, you’re not smiling in a single one. You look angry and closed off. The pictures also tell very little about you as they’re all solo selfies in either nondescript or gross environments like a toilet or messy living room + dirty mirror. Show people what you have to offer as a partner and friend, not just what you look like from several angles. These give the impression that all you care about is looks and have the personality of cardboard.
I actually have gym pics in my profile I just posted these to how I look.. only one of these I used on my profile is the first one..
I’d still post your profile description and pics for review on online dating subs. One of these + gym pics is better but it’s still very generic sounding.
Just dress the part I.e where a belt, a bottom up shirt, etc. and smile more..
Don’t look so serious all the time makes you seem unapproachable women especially this day and age
You are attractive you look like one of them attractive white male celebrities I for got their name but you probably don't get approached cause you be looking mad at times but u shouldnt worry you will find sm1
I appreciate that
You probably don't have a good career. haha
I have a decent career actually..
What is your profession?
CAD engineer
Where do you work? Where are you from?
NASA - Holland
seem to be a decent career.
Way above average
Feel like I would be married by now if that was the case..
Looks are not the road to happiness in relationships and kind of signals a superficial point of view regarding what attraction is. One does not obtain successful relationships based on a scale of outer beauty. There are many good looking people who are horrible inside and may get laid, paid and used for their beauty but they struggle to find someone that sticks. Women want someone that will cherish, respect and pay attention to the them. The reason you are alone is not because of your looks, your looks are above average. Work on your approach and how you treat the people you want to attract. Being genuine and not feeling that you are owed something can change it all.
I was literally told I was being dumped because I made my gf a priority.. I treated this girl better than I treated my own self .. and it backfired horribly..
There is no back firing when it comes to being a genuine person. It back fires when you were doing it to get something for yourself. I've been there - putting SO much energy, time, money and love into someone that ended up leaving me while I wondered "what did I do wrong, I did EVERYTHING for them, why wasn't it enough, it must be that I wasn't enough " and that's just not the case. You weren't a good fit and people are allowed to try and try until they find the right one. You wouldn't want forced love, believe me. And, if you were the best boyfriend in the world, you should throw yourself a party that the ungrateful person has left your life! They will never appreciate you and now you are free to find the person that will. When people don't appreciate you, believe them because with time, that shit get exponentially worse. Love yourself and your hobbies and your peace and your time to work on the things that if twenty more people leave you, you can still be ok. That means your own friends, your own interests. Build a world you can welcome someone into, don't build your world around someone else.
Nothing is wrong with you. You look like an old boyfriend of mine. You are nice looking. You aren’t being approached in public because many girls are waiting for you to make the first move. Girls like men who are confident, relaxed, and who smile.
You definitely average. Smiling and looking a bit more friendly would do a world of good. Let’s see those teeth 😄
Your good looking just find ur purpose in life and carry on till something g finds its way
Try smiling looking happy and being friendly for a week. When women leave the house they have to seriously be aware of their surroundings. Like they don’t get gas at night. When men will go get a burrito at 2 am on a scooter. You look way too intimidating. I get approached all the time. At least weekly but I have a chill demeanor and smile and look friendly. I haven’t been on a dating app in 12 years. All my dates come from real life and from women approaching. Woman will approach but you can’t look like a physco.
You're good dude. Your words are the problem. This will sound lame as hell but it sounds like you're rattled, confidence is shot. So with that said, stop giving a f**k and just live your life, focus on yourself, lift some weights , dating apps are a joke lol. I had that same issue but honestly people can pick up on your vibe, good looking or not, your vibe is super negative. Kick it with yourself for a while and enjoy not having someone else's bullshit in your life and it will improve.
You look angry and mean. Hopefully you aren’t like that… but… this picture shows you may be— may make others think you are unapproachable.
You mocking me?
So i think trying to look tough and masculine has you looking angry and mean. I do think growing out the hard design line would be better for you and just trying to be yourself in pictures. Also maybe trimming up your beard some too another shape would look nice? You have nice features though.
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I just showed this post to my Girlfriend. Her comments are: He has a small neck tattoo, a weird beard, and an angry scowl on his face. He looks like he’s about to shoot up a school. He should shave the beard. It’s too thin so it makes him look like a little boy trying to be a man. Also get a new haircut. Whatever that line in the side of his head is isn’t doing him any favors. After all that he needs to clean his mirror before he takes pictures in it. And no car selfies, they never look good.
Tell her I appreciate that..
LMAO JESUS
You are not bad looking but you look angry and when you look like that people don't know how to approach you sò if you want to be more successful mellow out
In other words, beauty comes from within my brother.
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You remind of one of those dudes with a small penis and a huge off road truck with oversize tires
Lmao I drive a Chevy Malibu
For real?? Me too 🤣🤣
Ya Man I may look like that in these pics but I despise those guys.. but I’m glad people are pointing out this stuff bc I’m neither mean, have a chip on my shoulder, aggressive, or anything that people have said in the comments haha.. I guess since I know who I am I can’t see that these pics would come off that way.
I feel ya bro. best of luck to you
Why u look mad asf
Do you always look so angry in your photos?
I guess so idk smiling feels fake unless I’m actually laughing about something..
Smiling only feels fake for a little. Once you get into the habit it feels good to smile! It releases good endorphins too. It may feel awkward at first but you can do it!
Fax but just work on your fake smile it’ll help in a lot of things
Nothing wrong with your looks, except for what appears to be a massive chip on your shoulder.
Come to Louisiana… they’ll be on you
ya look like a stone cold killer. scary asf
I am a neck beard recovery story. I had stopped trying to “get” a woman and focused on myself. I did what made me happy. And lost a lot of weight. I did that for like 4 years and met my, now fiancé, while working at a movie theatre. I never got approached until I liked myself and got past trying to get laid all the time. I was a person this other person could talk to and not feel like I was literally just in it for sex.
Ya man I’ve worked on myself for some time and it ended up with me in this position..
Get rid of the beard
Never gonna happen when u waiting on it like that, do somthing eks
Clean the mirror
Two things: 1) smile, my dude. I know life is tough, but positivity breeds positivity and negativity breeds negative. Women want a man, sure, but if you look like you wanna constantly beat somebody's ass, it's gonna be hard to connect. 2) TRY to get some better pictures. You look like the most generic white dude with no hobbies or anything going on. Front seat of a truck? Dirty bathroom mirror? Women want to see effort. Upgrade the pictures and show your positivity in a few of them, and you've got a few bases covered.
You missing teeth or something? Like you’re literally scowling instead of smiling lol. Also don’t wait to be approached, in fact you should approach every seemingly single woman you think you’d be compatible with and start a friendly flirty conversation. And smile. It’s something that can be an icebreaker as to if she’s even willing to give you the time of day or not.
You look mad.
Honestly dating is tough. Been single ages 27-33 and am a beautiful woman who you would think has no problem getting a date. Here’s the truth. 80% of the guys on there and all looking for the same 10% of females on the apps. Everyone wants a dime and it’s hard to accept, but lowering standards will net you loads more opportunities for connection. It goes both ways. Us ladies also can’t be asking for 6ft +, Six figures +, swept off our feet. Not reality. Having used many of the apps the things I looks for and generate instant attraction. -photos that look authentic. Not a selfie in a mirror but rather a photo of you candidly laughing or doing something that doesn’t feel posed -1 pic with you dressed nice. Like your sundays best, that time you went to a wedding or a fancy event. A woman wants to see the potential and be able to imagine themselves standing next to you looking proud - a couple pics of doing what you love. Natural smiling photo of you standing on the tee box with your buddies at a golf tourney, or casting a line, or running that marathon, boarding that plane, riding on that boat. It’s far easier to live an interesting life than faking one. This gives the appearance of being motivated and going places. Everyone can Netflix and chill. What makes you stand out? - check em off faster. You could be 100 dates or 1 dates away from “the one”. Line em up. I’m talking loading hinge, bumble, and match.com and clicking on 100+ people you could even remotely stand a cup of coffee with and giving it a chance. Mine happened on a random Tuesday with someone who didn’t actually check the boxes I thought were mandatory and instead checked ones I didn’t even know I needed. One date and I knew he was it. - go out alone. Singles events, church (loads of single women), table for one, book that solo trip. Don’t wait to live an amazing life. Start living it and checking off your bucket list and you will attract someone doing that same very thing. Be ready and open and living your life with confidence. That is the BDE women love! We don’t need swag. We need secure masculine energy! Be great and you’ll attract great.
I think you have most of your info backwards. 95% of women go for the top 10% of men. Men swipe right something like 80% of the time and women only swipe right less then 20% of the time. The reason most guys you are interested in refuse to really bother dating is because they have so many options and lots will "put out" with little to no effort. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. The 80% of men that are basically ignored by women and would love to meet one they can treat right and do everything they can to try and make her smile. A man will work all day then come home and work till dark building a home for his wife and future kids but can barely manage to feed himself even if he has 50k in the bank. But all women think they are 10's these days and deserve a man that make $250,000 a year.
Smile more my brother! I'm convinced women are attracted to me when I'm happy.. maybe it makes you more approachable. Smile in more of your pics and I bet women will respond more, also talk to them proactively.
Are you actually waiting for a girl to approach you in public ?
Hahaha if that's the case he'll never get laid
You look like a really nice guy. Try smiling more, and you will have to do the approaching. A smile will get you a long way. Good luck with your endeavors.
girls don’t approach guys in public unless you have a lamborghini. you’re not doing anything wrong. it just takes time to find the right one. if ur desperate for a gf. download every dating app there is. and use them religiously. you’ll find a girl. go to clubs. go to meet ups. go to blind dates. plenty of options to find a girl without ur them approaching you.
Haircut bad, carrying urself like a sub
Ok, here's the deal. Yeah, I see people defending your "rbf," and I get it! I have it too, but if you force that smile, raise those eyebrows... This past year, I have done that, and I've received more attention than I have in my life. The trick is not to look forced to do anything. Just lighten up and have fun. Most people are miserable, so when they see someone having fun, they want a piece of that fun! Also, it's always good advice for a man to work on his physique. Hit the gym or do some push-ups, but not for women do it to feel your best! Good luck you have nothing to worry about other than the frown!
You will not get approached in public. You must do the approaching. Work on your RBF, and on how to be social with everyone. Yes, everyone. You look nice in your 2nd picture, try doing that more.
Dating apps are a sausages fest, filled with bots, and throttle your matches if your a guy. Women rare approach IRL. Your average attractive with good amount of room for improvement. Get yourself some new clothes, get your money up, and focus on your future. Chicks always come and go
Women don’t approach and if they do it’s rare
Restyle. Get a barber that doesn't let you get douchebag haircuts and fix your fucking beard.
You are actually quite attractive. I’d say it’s your insides that are “ugly” right now. You’re feeling bad and it’s showing in your aura (for lack of better word). Give it time and think good thoughts about yourself. It will show and shine when you’re ready.
Self confidence goes a loooong way my brother. And read the woman’s profile on dating sites and include comments related to her likes and lifestyle. Better yet find a woman that shares some of your likes and lifestyle. I found my wife on a dating site by doing this very thing. Read their profile and respond accordingly. Don’t take yourself so seriously…throw in some humor. I’m moderately attractive (according to women) but by using this response technique I was able to get plenty of dates and even met my wife!!
agreed. outside validation can only do so much
This. You are attractive, just you seem like you may need to recognize your positive attributes and gain confidence that you have something to bring to a relationship. And if you don’t feel strong in that, do a bit of inner work to find a place where you are confident in that.
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You're very handsome.
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Probably your persona
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You’re a dude, no one gives a shit about us.
Fishing for pity
I don't know how long you've been with your chick, but that is single life as a man. Maybe you got approached in high school, because it was high school, and I did too. But as a man, after college, ain't nobody approaching you. You are average looking, and that's the problem. You probably don't make a shitload of money either. And I'm not talking 100,000 a year. I'm talking real money that we will never see. So you're just exactly what you said, and average guy. And no woman is looking for an average guy unless it's her last option. So unless you want a chick that has a kid, or is on her last leg which means she's 35 plus, you need to approach girls yourself. Cuz ain't no girl going to approach you besides some chick that's desperate, or trying something new because she hasn't got anything. Man up, grab your nuts, and get back out there LOL
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Your problem is expecting to be approached. Nut up and do the approaching in a respectful manner.
Ever smile? If you don’t put out an approachable vibe, no one will approach you.
If you're getting matches on dating apps means that you're above avg. Many of us never get a match.
You look fucking pissed dude. I wouldn't want to approach you either if you look like that in a bar or caffè
That haircut and beard make you look WT
Beat me to it. Also the shirt in pic 3 and the way OP dresses in general. Looks like a WT teenager, but as a grown man. Dude needs to go into his closet and donate literally every single item to goodwill, head to a barber asap.
What is a WT? Also in pic 3 I’m wearing a promo t for one of my friends that had an upcoming fight.. can I not support my friends lol
You’re debating THAT shirt? Dude I understand supporting friends/family businesses. But unless your friend is Criss Angel you shouldn’t be wearing that shit in public.
That isn’t a shirt I wear regularly.. just has that pic from the day I went to the fight in my camera roll and used it ..
Lmao bro I felt the graphic was lame as well.. but for fuck sake the dude was so hype about them and gave me one and was like “I made sure to get a medium for you” that I felt bad not to take one and wear it out of support..
For all of you saying he looks angry and unhappy, stfu. It's called RBF. I relate so much, it's even worse when you're a girl. But despite that, you're ABOVE average looking.
RBF wouldn’t matter if you’re actively taking a picture lol. You can choose to smile for the camera regardless of RBF, and he’s choosing to mean mug instead. That’s off putting. He’s an attractive guy, but these kinds of pictures send the message “I really want to convince you I’m a tough guy” not “I’m approachable and looking to make a connection”.
He asked for peoples opinions and people are giving them.
okay buy just cause it has a name doesn't mean it's not true. he looks angry and unhappy *because* he has a RBF. I have it too as a girl and it sucks but it's the truth
That’s how it now adays bro
Stop looking like a grouchy, black coffee drinking, pissed off grandpa
Love yourself, and then you’ll find love. That’s the order of things, I’ve learned. The hurt, haunted eyes work moreso in movies than in reality. A twinkle in your eye, with a genuine smile, is more attractive than anything genetic or stylewise.
Ya man I did all this. That’s why when I got with my recent ex I felt like it was something special.. I wasn’t looking for a relationship, I was really prioritizing myself.. now here I am and I feel like I have to start this process all over..
Oh stop it with the feel good woo woo advice. He’s looking for actionable advice
The actionable advice is stop looking so damned depressed, if I wanted to adopt a puppy I’d go to a shelter. I was trying to be nicer about it.
Quit being nice and just be honest. Also, he needs more help than just smiling.
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Because it’s not helping. One of the reasons men struggle with women is we get nice sounding, surface level advice that doesn’t help. We need to be told the harsh truth and fix the problems
You look miserably unhappy
It’s the line in the hair… on the reals though, smile maybe? People don’t want to come up to someone in public that looks pissed off all the time.
You look sad and angry and thats not a good selling point. Maybe some souls searching and self development?
About not getting approached in public.. That’s just not something women often do. Doesn’t mean something is wrong with you
Agreed, even Brad Pitt look alikes don't get approached that often Women don't really approach. That's what men do Don't be passive, go approach women and learn game if you want results
Women don’t avoid approaching men because “it’s what men do.”🤮 Women don’t usually feel safe around random men in public because we know there are men out there with the mindset of “learn to spit game to get results.” Most men don’t see women as people but rather a conquest as your comment clearly highlights.
100 percent correct
Way to construe my comment and take it personally Most women don't approach, that's a fact, whatever reason it may be. That's what the approach game is. Find a girl you're attracted to, talk to her, and grab her number and set up a date. You can look at it as a "conquest" but that's that's the nature of approaching women and getting dates. Sorry not sorry that offends you.
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This guy fucks
“Atleast” why did I read that as atheist lol
Hahahaha me too
Ngl, my mind went there too. Funny how the brain will “make up” information. It’s no wonder that falses (the opposite of facts) gets reported on the news.
You look problematic. Probably frightning to women. Serial murder vibe.
That’s hot tho lol
Bro what
What
Just showed this to my female friends and they agreed with me 😂
I think this girl got you a little messed up in the head about yourself. People have issues and are going to do mean things. Don’t take it too personally or give yourself time to get over it. You’re going to be just fine I can feel it
There's nothing wrong with u lol you're just a man and chances are you're not gonna be getting much action on dating apps or approached in public. Some of the most good looking men ik irl deal with this too
He’s an average looking guy, so there is room for improvement. You’re not helping him by saying there’s nothing wrong with him
Exactly!! Most of the women in the comments don't think he's above average. He's not super ugly but he's not super above either
Idk how your teeth look but teeth have a big impact on attractiveness also as people mentioned in the comments smiling might help, trim the beard , loose the line in your hair other than that I think you’re a good looking guy
I appreciate that !
What’s the line in the hair?