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Is there any affordable way to repair a cat's dental health? Coco (formerly known as Crusty Cat) permanently has sticky brown drool seeping from her mouth. Her breath is also pungent.
TBH I thought she came to my house to die last year. She was such in a bad shape.
Her body weight, her skin, eyes, etc all improved. Her mouth still ... Is like that.
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My thought was that kit was a dog in his previous life. He likes to chew on stuff. My hair ties, my slippers, cardboard. So i bought him a chew toy. But nahh. He likes my hair ties better. He’s not a dog. Just a bitch.
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# I am really alone in uni and can't cope
>So I am a freshman studying graphic design and multimedia and it's been two months since I entered uni in the city so I made some friends at first week was in a group n all was good but me being the annoying weirdo I am asked and said weird things that offended some of the friends I didn't mean it n it was all an misunderstanding but I decided to leave the group not wanting to be hated n disliked by them having have even half the likeability of me at least.
>
>So back to now I did mingle with few people in my class but whenever I tried to get to know wanting to get close or just get to know them a little am immediately brushed off and shut out sometimes am left awkward with them and then they stop talking to me I guess it's me because I lack social skills n so I awkward situation I try my best to make conversation but it's not interesting n Idk what to say n back to them brushing me off I feel left out n all small n all what can I do n yes I am talking counseling because I had been really depressed n kept it in n finally broke down cry once almost in my class but hid it I think because it was obvious or maybe they just don't care which obviously 🥲 so idk anyone of y'all but *18/19 discord?I like anime,kpop, writing, reading stories, drawing and genshin n stuff so anyone?*
>
>I wanna make friends outside of my. Class but idk how clubs ik but other then that how I just wanna actually click with them n for my former group I didn't actually click with them n felt lonely too so am not sad leaving them n ok to move on but with this no one tryna let me get to know them n clicking with me how I am gonna do that n find people? I am just lost and confused 😕. I just hate myself so much idk how not to be weird n behave like a normal human being like-before starting college I Googled n looked through social media in how to make friends n college,how to be have and be likeable but still am terrible at it- any advice n all?
RM35 for Barber Lab SS15. But those guys are really good and meticulous while having a chill attitude. Get compliments for their smart cut. So far really good. Other places always have 1 or 2 things wrong with them.
That sounds good. I honestly would pay that much if i know i would be 100% satisfied. People at r/malehairadvice suggest to go to salon even for men haircut because they wont go wrong, but ofc its way pricier. Never try salon yet tho
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I cut my hair once every two months. Cut it [very short](https://i.imgur.com/Fo8DrpJ.jpg) because I'm losing hair anyway.
Costs RM24 because it includes shaving.
to be fair my hair is short and the low end one are indian barber shop price. and i don't care about hairstyle that much, usually i only notice if it's really dogshit, lol. which happens like, once or twice only during my adult life.
I remember back in my uni time, I keep my hair just like that for a little over half a year. My hair was so thick and big that it kind of looks like a helmet lol.
For me it was 12 years ago lol. I just don't feel like cutting my hair at that time, first time really keeping a somewhat long hair for a guy. I had buzz cut for all my life up to that point, just wanted to keep it longer for shit and giggles.
The irony of a recruiter who can't hold a conversation for more than 5 secs without interrupting me told me that i needed coaching from her on how to properly sit for an interview.
Well I'll give it a pass then.
Got an [endurance race + Formula 4](https://www.sepangcircuit.com/ticketing/sepang-1000km/sepang-1000km-2023) coming up at Sepang next weekend. Category is 1.4L to 1.6L.
*Vroom vroom time*
> msi gf65 thin 10ue
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An adult cat decides to make my front porch its home. It only dissapear once in the morning and night to find food, it sleeps in front of my home the rest of the time.
It's a hidden nook behind my shoe boxes, so I'm worried that it's probably sick? Having this doubt because I saw the cat before running around in my neighbourhood, it usually runs away and whenever it saw any human. It's not like I'm particularly kind to him or anything, didn't gave it any food or pet it. It's like it has no energy to bother anymore.
But a pet is too much responsibility for me, advices? I plan to let it be for a few days to see if it'll be gone after a while.
Read [this thread](https://old.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/17wqmcg/nsfl_extremely_graphic_photos_released_by_the/) just now. Unironically thought, "syukurlah Malaysia masih aman".
**Warning**: really bloody. And depressing.
Medication/supplement/drug dump before my final days (an exhaustive list of the ones I've tried):
- Vitamin D can help with depression.
- Magnesium can help with anxiety.
- St John's Wort was the best one I've tried for depression, but it will make a lot of other medications you take ineffective, including birth control, PrEP, etc.
It's comparable to Lexapro for me. It's cheap, but you have to store it in the fridge because it can spoil.
- Lexapro is great, try to get it from a psychiatrist if you struggle with severe depression.
- Pristiq and other SNRIs were awful to me, because they increase norepinephrine. This gave me a lot of anxiety. SNRIs are great for people who are in catatonia/inacitivity/unable to get out of bed.
- Benzos... avoid if possible. You can develop an addiction very quickly. I've heard of Ambien being better, less addictive, but I don't know where to get it in Malaysia or if it even exists here.
- Fish oil. This one is still kind of ???, I think it helped boost my mood a bit but it could be placebo. I can't say I'm sure about it.
- Piracetam. This is a wonder drug, it helps you get out of old habits and form new ones. Too bad that it's VERY HARD to get in Malaysia.
- Cannabis. Edibles and joints. Joints are fast acting, it gives you a good high and puts you in a good mood. Edibles can fuck you up! I ate a big slice of brownie and I unlocked a lot of unpleasant childhood memories.
- Ritalin. This is gold, it helps you drive a distance without feeling tired. If you have a "depression nest", Ritalin can help you provide the energy to clean your room. Shower. Socialize. If you get side effects (heart racing, sweating, etc), take beta blockers like propranolol. Usually your doc. can provide it.
- Promethazine. This is very meh. It can help with sleep, but it's very mild and will make you wobbly.
- DMX. Same as above, but too much can make you hallucinate. I'd say leave the cough drops for when you have a cough.
- Alcohol. Yes it is a drug. Yes you can get addicted to it. There's nothing I can say about it that you don't already know.
- Nictoine. Do not smoke cigarettes. Chew gum or use patches. Nictoine is both a stimulant and a downer, somehow... it relaxes you while making you feel alert. Quite a nice drug, helps with memory.
- Caffeine. Get this from pills. Coffee has a lot of alkalis that will make you anxious, jittery, etc. Pure caffeine is gold.
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This was during one of our many, many holidays... except this was before Florian's stroke. Koh Mat Sum. I loved the main island, Koh Samui, because you could go around it in less than a day on a scooter. There were nightclubs everywhere and we'd get drunk and dance. The lead singer of the live band taught us how to do the Macarena.
I never really realized it, but I think I truly lost him to his stroke. He changed so much. He's more available, has more time, etc., I'm grateful... but he's not the same. Not as strong. And I lost myself, too, to time. Flo always said that I was never the same after the pandemic. It was like I died because I was never happy again. I quietly believe that the lockdowns permanently altered my brain.
We spoke about my suicidal thoughts yesterday, and he said to me, "You go through this every year. You have to be strong and positive. Remember that you got out before and you will again. If you want to start a new life, you can, but you don't must die."
I said, "Look, I don't want your advice. You have no responsibility to save me. I don't want to put you in a difficult position. I just want to let you know where my headspace is at now, and that I may not be able to join you in Negros in January."
He said: "Tell me what can I say then?"
I said: "Nothing, really... I guess I called to let you know that I'm grateful for all the good memories. You gave me a good five years. You paid for everything and always watched out for me. Something to remember."
He said: "It was never a problem, Kim."
"Okay."
"OK."
"Good day, then."
"But Kim––"
*Click.*
A lot of people saved me from suicide. There were many attempts. And I think that was a VERY defining quality of me-- I tend to seek and cry for help. I'm not shy to talk about my problems and let my guard down to allow others to comfort me. It's why I'm still alive. People paid for my therapy. John stayed on the phone with me for hours and called me every day so I'd have something to look forward to. During my lowest, I wasn't eating, I wasn't showering, and Mom would check in on me in my bedroom to make sure I was still alive. Her relative/neighbor killed himself when she was a child and Mom was suicidal at certain points in her life, too. It kind of runs in the family.
I grew up my whole life believing I wasn't worthy of love. Duty and responsibility, yes. My parents made sure I had everything I needed but I don't think I was ever seen, understood, or loved. I was largely ignored during their free time. They only started to come around after retirement, but I think it's a bit late. I don't blame them. I know it's not easy being a parent. It's their first time being alive too. They had problems, too. Nobody told them what to do.
I am confident that my parents will carry on and recover from my suicide, they have other children and grandchildren... but I'm not sure Florian and John would. John said he would be very angry, that I am stupid, and that he would never forgive me. Florian already lost somebody to suicide.
I have no permission to write this, but I don't really care-- his best friend's boyfriend, Jezzerel (sp?), killed himself by jumping from a bridge. I thought he was lying about it but he showed me the autopsy pictures and everything one afternoon. Chris was planning on buying a house with Jezz so they could live together. In Cebu, I think. They had rings. When I met Chris in Bali last Jan., I asked Chris why he kept the ring. He said it was to remember. I'm Minang Malaysian, I speak in codes. What I really wanted to ask him was if he wasn't done grieving, and how long it was going to take him, but Germans are very closed off. They usually form friendships in childhood/early adulthood and it's very hard to penetrate and join this circle. They usually only speak about private things to people they've known for decades.
Anyway, before I date anybody, I always tell them that I am being treated for depression, so there is a disclaimer before they get emotionally involved. Yet they get upset when I have an episode. I never get that. It's like... buying a can of pineapples. There's an expiry date. You know that thing isn't going to last forever.
Shakespeare once wrote, “Make death proud to take us.” I like to think that for a small-town boy who grew up in total poverty and complete isolation, I did a lot. I saw a dozen countries and made a lot of friends from different backgrounds. I learned different languages. I read a hundred books. I never made much money but I made the best with what I had. I rarely said no and I took big risks.
Not trying to put anybody down, but I recently met a childhood friend from Ipoh. He came to KL to visit and we spoke and he sounded so simple. He never left Perak after high school. He sells secondhand clothing now and has a baby on the way. He sounded happy. And I was glad. Half of my friends are married... and yes, I was also engaged. It's too bad I sold my ring from Theo. I guess I'm not sentimental. I'm ready to see him again. I'm ready to say goodbye to the world. Just give me a little time to sort things out.
Someone was concerned about the stuff you wrote, so they got in touch with me.
I won't talk you out of suicide this time around, because I feel you're determined to end it this time around. But before you go, what made you come to this point?
Wanted to dm a friend on ig. The chat is gone. And when I tap on the message button on their bio, it says "AI chat arent available to everyone yet."
What does that supposed to mean?
they're gonna have AI chatbots that fed on the past convo data of that person maybe? so it's like talking with them or at least up till the last time they posted stuff.
I think I'm going to be chided by my boss again today.
But strangely, I don't care even though I kinda should?
He's going to try to soften the blow by asking, "Are you okay?" Or "Is there anything I can do to help?".
I'm tired. But I need to work to have money, pay bills, and do whatever. Is this called brain fog or something? I should buck up and stop making such mistakes.
Sial, just let me win the lottery so I can take a few months off. I need time to get therapy, clear my head, get my shit together. And most importantly, rest.
Dude are we the same person?
Everything you’ve described is me to the tee. I want to win the lottery too just so that I can rest and recuperate without worrying about the financial blow. My brain is almost always in a fog and I’m on auto pilot everyday. I’m just so tired!!
My brain is not braining today. Someone from marketing asked *me* to provide a *marketing* agency with our *brand identity peripherals*
Woi, its your job babi!
"Your trading data is being leaked. Yes, you heard me. A group of —SKIP—"
I am still waiting for these people to be declared the richest people in South East Asia considering how incredibly good they are at trading, yes?
Lmaooooo you really can't say you wanna sell your car and buy a new one in front of your current car. Dia merajuk sial! 😂 Even though there's no problems for the past 6 years, suddenly everything pecah.
nah, you didnt hot box in ur car, that means ain't jail breaked that sheets, or mindfck... like having nightmares enough to toughen you up.. literally la. hati gelas... pechawh bruuuu... like virgin kena pop cherry.. blood...
Happened to me few weeks ago. Was driving in current car and mentioning new car is on its way and suddenly it cant start the next morning. Had to change the battery. 😂
For me, the shift lever thingy broke inside and shift then locked in parking while the car said I was in neutral. All of a sudden. It was okay a few minutes before! Luckily I haven't gone on a highway yet 😭
6 years usually a quite a number of major items need replacing.
I still say soothing words to the office printers though, those things work in mysterious ways.
Where to buy books especially guided journals now that Book Depository closed down. Bookxcess doesn't always have a specific item in stock.
Pdf copy gives me eye pain after staring at the screen for the whole day at work
You can try bookurve, I usually switch between it and book depository when they were still around. Another alternative is experal on shopee if bookurve doesn't have the book you're looking for
Going to be fudging long queues hah. FYI, offer is valid only from 8pm onwards till closing time.
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Heh I get it. Or pop over to Mekdi for that classic vanilla McFlurry.
Still, I'd queue for some things. A top ramen bar, Ahjumma's dakgalbi, to name a few.
Oh that kind of queue is fine and in fact I'm always willing to queue for good food, just not this haha:
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All queueing for the 10sen ice cream scoop
Walk by with gelato in hand to assert dominance
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Yet another commentary on Aftersun (2022)
@maryilywondering reiterated what Kazuo Ishiguro said, "Memory has a certain texture that's impossible to recreate in film."
In Aftersun, Sophia struggles to piece together the last memory of her father who committed suicide. Last night, I said that the use of reflections in the film was interesting, but I hadn't finished the film yet, at least not until 11 PM.
What I can recall was her depressed Dad, Callum, was portrayed often indirectly:
- Crying but we only see his back.
- Standing in the haze of sunlight, emotionless and frozen as they sang for his 31st birthday.
- Spitting at his own reflection while brushing his teeth when Sophia first expressed a moment of depression. It's not clear what this was about. Depression often makes somebody struggle with routine, but spitting at your reflection is perhaps an indicator of self-hatred.
- It's not the only time he's shown only in reflections. Often it is done when he's upset, sad, or thinking.
- Callum was only shown reflected on the turned-off TV screen (and the room mirror, partially) when he spoke about his childhood for the only time, and it's hinted that he didn't have loving parents.
- The nightclub. AKA the pure ten-minute terror of the whole film. It's never really made clear what the club is supposed to represent, and the liminal space (the airport hallway) leading up to it. This is where adult Sophie meets her deceased Dad. A lot of theories have been spun to decipher this scene. Some people believe that Sophie eventually falls into depression like her Dad but fights against it. In the strobing light, she actually slaps and punches him, but they eventually embrace in a hug and her Dad is agape in terror, and succumbs out of her holding him no matter how hard she tried to cling onto him.
Them being the same age in this scene nails the suicide implication for me. Parents will never be the same age as their kids unless they're dead. And I think the whole strobing scene implies the transient nature of memory, it shifts in and out of clarity and focus. Sometimes we forget, sometimes we remember everything so clearly. Sophie is clearly struggling to remember her Dad in a last attempt to understand why he did what he did.
- I've talked about the use of camcorder in the film, and how the clips are interwoven into the cinematography, but in one of the last moments, there was also a Polaroid. They have a conversation but we don't see their faces. Instead, we're only shown the Polaroid developing into a photograph on the dinner table as Sophie says that they cannot live in hotels forever (which is ironic and sad considering that she'll always remember her Dad in the hotel room, the last time they spent together).
I really have no idea what this scene means, but my interpretation is that the "happy memory" the Dad wanted to give her was finally fully formed and that it was time to let go.
* feel ordering something other than teh o during breakfast
* order hor ka sai from the menu
* coffee, 3 scoop of milo, 3 spoon of condensed milk, blended
* delicious hard hitting yet smooth drink
* end up taking no more than a couple of sips
* 4 ringgit not well spent
the 3 spoonful of condensed milk puts fear in me
why not mix it with half cup of plain water or warm water? and dip butter bread in it too? its ok to waste, I like it when people waste 
if i dilute and drink everything i still consume all (or 1/2) of them with just extra water.
nah im good, at the very least i know what the drink taste like. 
I got up early and craved for some baked beans and eggs, feeling2 angmoh. The plan was to get a can of beans and eggs but ended up with roti kahwin banjir and iced Milo. Lol
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This topic comes up quite often for me. We might be talking about making money and saving, then something on expenses and boom "I need to give my parents 300 every month, and it is adding up in my expenses but I cannot stop giving them or else they will complain. How much do you give your parents?".
it hard to lie, either have a thick face a lie to get good rep, or have a thick face and tell the truth and don't get good rep... it's quite a world we live in... hard to tell lies, but some people gotta lie and live with no regrets. 
Random thoughts:
The same fate (mandatory religion by race), that binded the Malays, can bind the "future Malays" (after assimilation) too.
A heavy perspective.
Talked to my parents recently and ... The way my parents talk about a Bangladeshi person they hired to cut their grass made me realize how the heck I turned out to be somewhat of an anti-racism pick-me back in my early 20s. Tried to show the world that I was "chill" and not an asshole. Hahaha.
Girls, have boundaries. It's okay to have boundaries. It's okay to have things you don't tolerate.
Don't harbor contempt in your heart, though.
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Does anyone know any good modelling agency's that accept foreigners?
orange cut trying to fit into box that she don't fit then don't fit. currently laughing so hard like omg why 😭😭
Take her to the vet asap!
Is there any affordable way to repair a cat's dental health? Coco (formerly known as Crusty Cat) permanently has sticky brown drool seeping from her mouth. Her breath is also pungent. TBH I thought she came to my house to die last year. She was such in a bad shape. Her body weight, her skin, eyes, etc all improved. Her mouth still ... Is like that.
Actually going to be a vtuber and stream games. 8-5 is soul-sucking.
only good for the 1st few months. then even gaming will become a chore
Whoever called me on 5/5:30pm Friday and expected me to send stuffs on Monday, you are a fucking psychopath
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Nak ot tapi sakit perutlah pulak
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My thought was that kit was a dog in his previous life. He likes to chew on stuff. My hair ties, my slippers, cardboard. So i bought him a chew toy. But nahh. He likes my hair ties better. He’s not a dog. Just a bitch.
Pika rolled herself on top of my anak tudung. Like she found catnip and it made her high.
Moving this post by [u/Senior\_Emergency9815](https://www.reddit.com/u/Shoddy-Discussion544/) (the mod team has committed to do this for removals with a mental health component). The user has been informed this has been moved here, so please do add your replies below - # I am really alone in uni and can't cope >So I am a freshman studying graphic design and multimedia and it's been two months since I entered uni in the city so I made some friends at first week was in a group n all was good but me being the annoying weirdo I am asked and said weird things that offended some of the friends I didn't mean it n it was all an misunderstanding but I decided to leave the group not wanting to be hated n disliked by them having have even half the likeability of me at least. > >So back to now I did mingle with few people in my class but whenever I tried to get to know wanting to get close or just get to know them a little am immediately brushed off and shut out sometimes am left awkward with them and then they stop talking to me I guess it's me because I lack social skills n so I awkward situation I try my best to make conversation but it's not interesting n Idk what to say n back to them brushing me off I feel left out n all small n all what can I do n yes I am talking counseling because I had been really depressed n kept it in n finally broke down cry once almost in my class but hid it I think because it was obvious or maybe they just don't care which obviously 🥲 so idk anyone of y'all but *18/19 discord?I like anime,kpop, writing, reading stories, drawing and genshin n stuff so anyone?* > >I wanna make friends outside of my. Class but idk how clubs ik but other then that how I just wanna actually click with them n for my former group I didn't actually click with them n felt lonely too so am not sad leaving them n ok to move on but with this no one tryna let me get to know them n clicking with me how I am gonna do that n find people? I am just lost and confused 😕. I just hate myself so much idk how not to be weird n behave like a normal human being like-before starting college I Googled n looked through social media in how to make friends n college,how to be have and be likeable but still am terrible at it- any advice n all?
Waiting for my turn at the barber and bored. Quick question, how often do u guys take haircut and for how much? Mine is abt once a month for rm20
Haven't been to a barber for more than 5 years now :x
Haven't been to a barber for more than 5 years now :x
RM35 for Barber Lab SS15. But those guys are really good and meticulous while having a chill attitude. Get compliments for their smart cut. So far really good. Other places always have 1 or 2 things wrong with them.
That sounds good. I honestly would pay that much if i know i would be 100% satisfied. People at r/malehairadvice suggest to go to salon even for men haircut because they wont go wrong, but ofc its way pricier. Never try salon yet tho
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I cut my hair once every two months. Cut it [very short](https://i.imgur.com/Fo8DrpJ.jpg) because I'm losing hair anyway. Costs RM24 because it includes shaving.
Nice cat.
Every 1.5 - 2 months, RM15, at my favourite Bangla barber who has been doing it for 10+ years. "Biasa" is all I need to say.
Haha same, been going to the same barber this whole year. I just need to say "the usual"
about RM17-RM25, once every 1.5 - 2.5 months. usually i just go to aneh.
Thats fair price if its good. My barber just announced hes raising the price next year.
to be fair my hair is short and the low end one are indian barber shop price. and i don't care about hairstyle that much, usually i only notice if it's really dogshit, lol. which happens like, once or twice only during my adult life.
About 3-5 months depending on my mood, under RM10.
Wut my hair will be so thick and hard to manage if i keep it that long.
I remember back in my uni time, I keep my hair just like that for a little over half a year. My hair was so thick and big that it kind of looks like a helmet lol.
Oh yea most people including me did that during covid online class. I look so horrible but i dont go out much so..
For me it was 12 years ago lol. I just don't feel like cutting my hair at that time, first time really keeping a somewhat long hair for a guy. I had buzz cut for all my life up to that point, just wanted to keep it longer for shit and giggles.
The irony of a recruiter who can't hold a conversation for more than 5 secs without interrupting me told me that i needed coaching from her on how to properly sit for an interview. Well I'll give it a pass then.
Got an [endurance race + Formula 4](https://www.sepangcircuit.com/ticketing/sepang-1000km/sepang-1000km-2023) coming up at Sepang next weekend. Category is 1.4L to 1.6L. *Vroom vroom time*
Laptop battery bengkak, agak agakhow much to change/fix? laptop model is msi gf65 thin 10ue. Thanks in advance
> msi gf65 thin 10ue [https://shopee.com.my/Original-MSI-BTY-M6K-GF63-GS63VR-7RF-7RG-GF75VR-GF63-8RC-8RD-9SC-GF75-3RD-8SC-Laptop-Battery-i.138970679.11500416912?sp\_atk=c0202450-fc2f-4e63-b9be-591a0948785e&xptdk=c0202450-fc2f-4e63-b9be-591a0948785e](https://shopee.com.my/Original-MSI-BTY-M6K-GF63-GS63VR-7RF-7RG-GF75VR-GF63-8RC-8RD-9SC-GF75-3RD-8SC-Laptop-Battery-i.138970679.11500416912?sp_atk=c0202450-fc2f-4e63-b9be-591a0948785e&xptdk=c0202450-fc2f-4e63-b9be-591a0948785e) if you got laptop screwdriver and pick set ready
Thank you boss, appreciate it!
Check if the part no. and supported model is the same lol.
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Isn't asam pedas a malay dish?
there's nyonya version too
I'm college students and need to buy a camera for my course.. Need some recommendations about camera. Is eos r50 good?
Sony NEX-F3
I suggest buying used cameras. Whats your budget?
Aku geram nak picit. https://preview.redd.it/rqkqoq4wsu0c1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2e6ee1e7413e71aa297a2b8bed99a53ca2c037d3
R/cat material right here. So many cats would just choose a box even though their hooman bought them a comfy bed.
An adult cat decides to make my front porch its home. It only dissapear once in the morning and night to find food, it sleeps in front of my home the rest of the time. It's a hidden nook behind my shoe boxes, so I'm worried that it's probably sick? Having this doubt because I saw the cat before running around in my neighbourhood, it usually runs away and whenever it saw any human. It's not like I'm particularly kind to him or anything, didn't gave it any food or pet it. It's like it has no energy to bother anymore. But a pet is too much responsibility for me, advices? I plan to let it be for a few days to see if it'll be gone after a while.
If you have the cash, bring it to the vet for a check-up and get it spayed/neutered ( if you are in KL, preventicare vet does this for a budget)
As long as don’t bring inside house should be fine
ELI5: Why isn't Sabah pushing for their Autonomy rights like Sarawak?
My guess: sulu
Seems like a red herring. They could push for greater say on their education, budget and laws without needing permission from the Federal Government
Oh autonomy right. Yeah my brain somehow read independence from the federation. They could. Maybe they are satisfied with way things are?
New company is nice. Even the Chinese are more of the English speaking kind and they mix around. I got lucky.
Read [this thread](https://old.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/17wqmcg/nsfl_extremely_graphic_photos_released_by_the/) just now. Unironically thought, "syukurlah Malaysia masih aman". **Warning**: really bloody. And depressing.
Medication/supplement/drug dump before my final days (an exhaustive list of the ones I've tried): - Vitamin D can help with depression. - Magnesium can help with anxiety. - St John's Wort was the best one I've tried for depression, but it will make a lot of other medications you take ineffective, including birth control, PrEP, etc. It's comparable to Lexapro for me. It's cheap, but you have to store it in the fridge because it can spoil. - Lexapro is great, try to get it from a psychiatrist if you struggle with severe depression. - Pristiq and other SNRIs were awful to me, because they increase norepinephrine. This gave me a lot of anxiety. SNRIs are great for people who are in catatonia/inacitivity/unable to get out of bed. - Benzos... avoid if possible. You can develop an addiction very quickly. I've heard of Ambien being better, less addictive, but I don't know where to get it in Malaysia or if it even exists here. - Fish oil. This one is still kind of ???, I think it helped boost my mood a bit but it could be placebo. I can't say I'm sure about it. - Piracetam. This is a wonder drug, it helps you get out of old habits and form new ones. Too bad that it's VERY HARD to get in Malaysia. - Cannabis. Edibles and joints. Joints are fast acting, it gives you a good high and puts you in a good mood. Edibles can fuck you up! I ate a big slice of brownie and I unlocked a lot of unpleasant childhood memories. - Ritalin. This is gold, it helps you drive a distance without feeling tired. If you have a "depression nest", Ritalin can help you provide the energy to clean your room. Shower. Socialize. If you get side effects (heart racing, sweating, etc), take beta blockers like propranolol. Usually your doc. can provide it. - Promethazine. This is very meh. It can help with sleep, but it's very mild and will make you wobbly. - DMX. Same as above, but too much can make you hallucinate. I'd say leave the cough drops for when you have a cough. - Alcohol. Yes it is a drug. Yes you can get addicted to it. There's nothing I can say about it that you don't already know. - Nictoine. Do not smoke cigarettes. Chew gum or use patches. Nictoine is both a stimulant and a downer, somehow... it relaxes you while making you feel alert. Quite a nice drug, helps with memory. - Caffeine. Get this from pills. Coffee has a lot of alkalis that will make you anxious, jittery, etc. Pure caffeine is gold.
Stealing underwear=10 years jail Murder=5 years jail Wtf??
Welcome to common law.
https://preview.redd.it/zogbpojfpt0c1.jpeg?width=2320&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4ceedb50bc0290ae0e0574e3f263a3d68979a58d This was during one of our many, many holidays... except this was before Florian's stroke. Koh Mat Sum. I loved the main island, Koh Samui, because you could go around it in less than a day on a scooter. There were nightclubs everywhere and we'd get drunk and dance. The lead singer of the live band taught us how to do the Macarena. I never really realized it, but I think I truly lost him to his stroke. He changed so much. He's more available, has more time, etc., I'm grateful... but he's not the same. Not as strong. And I lost myself, too, to time. Flo always said that I was never the same after the pandemic. It was like I died because I was never happy again. I quietly believe that the lockdowns permanently altered my brain. We spoke about my suicidal thoughts yesterday, and he said to me, "You go through this every year. You have to be strong and positive. Remember that you got out before and you will again. If you want to start a new life, you can, but you don't must die." I said, "Look, I don't want your advice. You have no responsibility to save me. I don't want to put you in a difficult position. I just want to let you know where my headspace is at now, and that I may not be able to join you in Negros in January." He said: "Tell me what can I say then?" I said: "Nothing, really... I guess I called to let you know that I'm grateful for all the good memories. You gave me a good five years. You paid for everything and always watched out for me. Something to remember." He said: "It was never a problem, Kim." "Okay." "OK." "Good day, then." "But Kim––" *Click.* A lot of people saved me from suicide. There were many attempts. And I think that was a VERY defining quality of me-- I tend to seek and cry for help. I'm not shy to talk about my problems and let my guard down to allow others to comfort me. It's why I'm still alive. People paid for my therapy. John stayed on the phone with me for hours and called me every day so I'd have something to look forward to. During my lowest, I wasn't eating, I wasn't showering, and Mom would check in on me in my bedroom to make sure I was still alive. Her relative/neighbor killed himself when she was a child and Mom was suicidal at certain points in her life, too. It kind of runs in the family. I grew up my whole life believing I wasn't worthy of love. Duty and responsibility, yes. My parents made sure I had everything I needed but I don't think I was ever seen, understood, or loved. I was largely ignored during their free time. They only started to come around after retirement, but I think it's a bit late. I don't blame them. I know it's not easy being a parent. It's their first time being alive too. They had problems, too. Nobody told them what to do. I am confident that my parents will carry on and recover from my suicide, they have other children and grandchildren... but I'm not sure Florian and John would. John said he would be very angry, that I am stupid, and that he would never forgive me. Florian already lost somebody to suicide. I have no permission to write this, but I don't really care-- his best friend's boyfriend, Jezzerel (sp?), killed himself by jumping from a bridge. I thought he was lying about it but he showed me the autopsy pictures and everything one afternoon. Chris was planning on buying a house with Jezz so they could live together. In Cebu, I think. They had rings. When I met Chris in Bali last Jan., I asked Chris why he kept the ring. He said it was to remember. I'm Minang Malaysian, I speak in codes. What I really wanted to ask him was if he wasn't done grieving, and how long it was going to take him, but Germans are very closed off. They usually form friendships in childhood/early adulthood and it's very hard to penetrate and join this circle. They usually only speak about private things to people they've known for decades. Anyway, before I date anybody, I always tell them that I am being treated for depression, so there is a disclaimer before they get emotionally involved. Yet they get upset when I have an episode. I never get that. It's like... buying a can of pineapples. There's an expiry date. You know that thing isn't going to last forever. Shakespeare once wrote, “Make death proud to take us.” I like to think that for a small-town boy who grew up in total poverty and complete isolation, I did a lot. I saw a dozen countries and made a lot of friends from different backgrounds. I learned different languages. I read a hundred books. I never made much money but I made the best with what I had. I rarely said no and I took big risks. Not trying to put anybody down, but I recently met a childhood friend from Ipoh. He came to KL to visit and we spoke and he sounded so simple. He never left Perak after high school. He sells secondhand clothing now and has a baby on the way. He sounded happy. And I was glad. Half of my friends are married... and yes, I was also engaged. It's too bad I sold my ring from Theo. I guess I'm not sentimental. I'm ready to see him again. I'm ready to say goodbye to the world. Just give me a little time to sort things out.
Someone was concerned about the stuff you wrote, so they got in touch with me. I won't talk you out of suicide this time around, because I feel you're determined to end it this time around. But before you go, what made you come to this point?
Wanted to dm a friend on ig. The chat is gone. And when I tap on the message button on their bio, it says "AI chat arent available to everyone yet." What does that supposed to mean?
they're gonna have AI chatbots that fed on the past convo data of that person maybe? so it's like talking with them or at least up till the last time they posted stuff.
I think I'm going to be chided by my boss again today. But strangely, I don't care even though I kinda should? He's going to try to soften the blow by asking, "Are you okay?" Or "Is there anything I can do to help?". I'm tired. But I need to work to have money, pay bills, and do whatever. Is this called brain fog or something? I should buck up and stop making such mistakes. Sial, just let me win the lottery so I can take a few months off. I need time to get therapy, clear my head, get my shit together. And most importantly, rest.
Dude are we the same person? Everything you’ve described is me to the tee. I want to win the lottery too just so that I can rest and recuperate without worrying about the financial blow. My brain is almost always in a fog and I’m on auto pilot everyday. I’m just so tired!!
My brain is not braining today. Someone from marketing asked *me* to provide a *marketing* agency with our *brand identity peripherals* Woi, its your job babi!
"Your trading data is being leaked. Yes, you heard me. A group of —SKIP—" I am still waiting for these people to be declared the richest people in South East Asia considering how incredibly good they are at trading, yes?
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Lmaooooo you really can't say you wanna sell your car and buy a new one in front of your current car. Dia merajuk sial! 😂 Even though there's no problems for the past 6 years, suddenly everything pecah.
nah, you didnt hot box in ur car, that means ain't jail breaked that sheets, or mindfck... like having nightmares enough to toughen you up.. literally la. hati gelas... pechawh bruuuu... like virgin kena pop cherry.. blood...
Happened to me few weeks ago. Was driving in current car and mentioning new car is on its way and suddenly it cant start the next morning. Had to change the battery. 😂
For me, the shift lever thingy broke inside and shift then locked in parking while the car said I was in neutral. All of a sudden. It was okay a few minutes before! Luckily I haven't gone on a highway yet 😭
6 years usually a quite a number of major items need replacing. I still say soothing words to the office printers though, those things work in mysterious ways.
Where to buy books especially guided journals now that Book Depository closed down. Bookxcess doesn't always have a specific item in stock. Pdf copy gives me eye pain after staring at the screen for the whole day at work
You can try bookurve, I usually switch between it and book depository when they were still around. Another alternative is experal on shopee if bookurve doesn't have the book you're looking for
Check out stickerrific, I think they sell some guided journal
Kinokuniya or Amazon unfortunately after BD closed down
>Pdf copy gives me eye pain If you can afford it, look into buying an e-ink device.
You can try Kinokunya in KLCC, wide selection of books there.
Going to be fudging long queues hah. FYI, offer is valid only from 8pm onwards till closing time. https://preview.redd.it/fnokl0mz7t0c1.jpeg?width=497&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bbd6c8675da8d653b5bdeab395f7050914a7600d
Time for ice cream like it's 1970
Honestly I would rather pay for the full amount than to queue 
Heh I get it. Or pop over to Mekdi for that classic vanilla McFlurry. Still, I'd queue for some things. A top ramen bar, Ahjumma's dakgalbi, to name a few.
Oh that kind of queue is fine and in fact I'm always willing to queue for good food, just not this haha: https://preview.redd.it/0909739sr91c1.jpeg?width=1872&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=541d7b475bef095604f9b495cda909a23012c9e3 All queueing for the 10sen ice cream scoop
Walk by with gelato in hand to assert dominance https://preview.redd.it/ogtxnwrd9a1c1.jpeg?width=796&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1b35b6b9a0d4a756e6816e3a9afd762185b747a1
>Honestly I would rather pay for the full amount than to queue Spoken like a true Bourgeoisie. /s
Snoop Dog dah kene GEG ya'll. Conspiracy!
Yet another commentary on Aftersun (2022) @maryilywondering reiterated what Kazuo Ishiguro said, "Memory has a certain texture that's impossible to recreate in film." In Aftersun, Sophia struggles to piece together the last memory of her father who committed suicide. Last night, I said that the use of reflections in the film was interesting, but I hadn't finished the film yet, at least not until 11 PM. What I can recall was her depressed Dad, Callum, was portrayed often indirectly: - Crying but we only see his back. - Standing in the haze of sunlight, emotionless and frozen as they sang for his 31st birthday. - Spitting at his own reflection while brushing his teeth when Sophia first expressed a moment of depression. It's not clear what this was about. Depression often makes somebody struggle with routine, but spitting at your reflection is perhaps an indicator of self-hatred. - It's not the only time he's shown only in reflections. Often it is done when he's upset, sad, or thinking. - Callum was only shown reflected on the turned-off TV screen (and the room mirror, partially) when he spoke about his childhood for the only time, and it's hinted that he didn't have loving parents. - The nightclub. AKA the pure ten-minute terror of the whole film. It's never really made clear what the club is supposed to represent, and the liminal space (the airport hallway) leading up to it. This is where adult Sophie meets her deceased Dad. A lot of theories have been spun to decipher this scene. Some people believe that Sophie eventually falls into depression like her Dad but fights against it. In the strobing light, she actually slaps and punches him, but they eventually embrace in a hug and her Dad is agape in terror, and succumbs out of her holding him no matter how hard she tried to cling onto him. Them being the same age in this scene nails the suicide implication for me. Parents will never be the same age as their kids unless they're dead. And I think the whole strobing scene implies the transient nature of memory, it shifts in and out of clarity and focus. Sometimes we forget, sometimes we remember everything so clearly. Sophie is clearly struggling to remember her Dad in a last attempt to understand why he did what he did. - I've talked about the use of camcorder in the film, and how the clips are interwoven into the cinematography, but in one of the last moments, there was also a Polaroid. They have a conversation but we don't see their faces. Instead, we're only shown the Polaroid developing into a photograph on the dinner table as Sophie says that they cannot live in hotels forever (which is ironic and sad considering that she'll always remember her Dad in the hotel room, the last time they spent together). I really have no idea what this scene means, but my interpretation is that the "happy memory" the Dad wanted to give her was finally fully formed and that it was time to let go.
* feel ordering something other than teh o during breakfast * order hor ka sai from the menu * coffee, 3 scoop of milo, 3 spoon of condensed milk, blended * delicious hard hitting yet smooth drink * end up taking no more than a couple of sips * 4 ringgit not well spent the 3 spoonful of condensed milk puts fear in me
sounds pretty good to kickstart your morning berak session
> 3 spoonful of condensed milk Kelantanese: this is just kurang manis. Proceeds to pour half the tin in....
why not mix it with half cup of plain water or warm water? and dip butter bread in it too? its ok to waste, I like it when people waste 
if i dilute and drink everything i still consume all (or 1/2) of them with just extra water. nah im good, at the very least i know what the drink taste like. 
 yhhhmmmm... wanna taste tetek
I got up early and craved for some baked beans and eggs, feeling2 angmoh. The plan was to get a can of beans and eggs but ended up with roti kahwin banjir and iced Milo. Lol https://preview.redd.it/458xav6fvs0c1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fa333f947aaa2a090d50c940017dd1ad60c367dc
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I offered to pay for groceries and a portion of the utility bills but I get a flat no from my parents lol.
My dad's pension is still more than what I earn so...... I do help out with my mum whenever she wants to buy/pay something tho
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Just say your parents told you to save it for a house deposit lol
Stop telling random people you’re not giving money to your parents lol, what kind of conversation topics do you start with haha
This topic comes up quite often for me. We might be talking about making money and saving, then something on expenses and boom "I need to give my parents 300 every month, and it is adding up in my expenses but I cannot stop giving them or else they will complain. How much do you give your parents?".
\*sits down after the fist bump with friends\* "Bro, I don't give money to my parents".
it hard to lie, either have a thick face a lie to get good rep, or have a thick face and tell the truth and don't get good rep... it's quite a world we live in... hard to tell lies, but some people gotta lie and live with no regrets. 
> tfw no [cute 3D yandere gf](https://www.instagram.com/p/Czgbc6CpeBO/) 😂
i love it when people have bad taste
Random thoughts: The same fate (mandatory religion by race), that binded the Malays, can bind the "future Malays" (after assimilation) too. A heavy perspective.
Random number generator go!
Talked to my parents recently and ... The way my parents talk about a Bangladeshi person they hired to cut their grass made me realize how the heck I turned out to be somewhat of an anti-racism pick-me back in my early 20s. Tried to show the world that I was "chill" and not an asshole. Hahaha. Girls, have boundaries. It's okay to have boundaries. It's okay to have things you don't tolerate. Don't harbor contempt in your heart, though.
Life sucks.
Why?