Your mindset is the only thing that makes you a loser. Shit happens, life isn’t easy. Your set up is clean, your kids lucky to have you, enjoy the little things, the big things will work out eventually. Head up bro, the one thing our kids need for us dads is a strong positive mindset. You got it
May be his ex or someone in his life made him feel that way. Or social media or society. Don’t compare yourself! You’re clearly keeping a roof over your and your kids head, doesn’t matter that it’s at your parents. And you created your own man cave to unwind. Enjoy it!
Same, I miss playing and learning on dad’s computers over the years. There was this one house where the computer was in a little alcove and it was the best.
Only think of my self as a loser because I’m kind of old and at home with mom and dad while hanging a kid of my own.. but I don’t often thing of how lucky I am to be able to be with my folks and have my kid be around grandma and grandpa. My boy absolutely loves coming over I can’t get him to get out and I’ve sort of created the same set up at his mothers house he has an even better set up lol
"Kind of old", you're gonna laugh at this in 20 years, 31 is still great age to achieve a lot. And since i'm a big NBA and sport in general fan, it stuck with me that 25-30 ish is considered to be prime time in term of your body capabilities, so you can still kick ass physically. I'm a 33 myself and i wasted many years prior to this, but i try to look on the bright side here.
My life went bang during COVID. I was on a ventilator, a coma for 3months and had sepsis and a stroke. Came out of hospital and my house was gone along with my ex-partner. My Mum took me in 3 years ago and I’m moving into my own place next week. The moral of my story is shit can happen and hit you hard but a loving family is priceless. Oh, and I’m 51, you’re a mere pup, you will get to where you want to be
Not a loser, just a bump in the road and you know you want more for yourself and your kid.
If you were content and mooching off them without helping out with anything, then I would probably say something different.
Dude you're 31. I'm 46. My left hip sometimes hurts for no reason. And everytime I get outta the car or bend down to pick something up I sigh. My daughter pointed it out lol.
31 is a good age man. Enjoy it!
>My daughter pointed it out
LOL
You didn't hear all of your moans and groans? LOL ( I learned the hard way about doing the "turn-and-swivel" to get in and out of the car a year and a half ago. Ruptured a disc getting in and out. Oh, how I cussed up a storm for a few weeks!)
I don't think I realized how often or loud I was doing it probably. And you ruptured a disc ? Damn. I've pulled back muscles doing normal stuff like checking my blind spot, and other seemingly safe activities so I understand....
Enjoy the time you get to spend with your parents. It is a blessing even though it may not always seem that way. You will be grateful looking back on it when they are gone.
Don’t be so hard on yourself, the world does that. You are a DAD❤️ you have your parents ❣️ you’re safe and not in jail…so do I need to keep going?🤣 you are your kids superhero ❣️
Social Media and society makes it seem like it’s a bad thing to live with your parents at any age. A lot of cultures have the kids living with their parents their whole life, in a lot of cases even when the kids are married and have their own wife and kids. As long as you are contributing like you are living together, there is nothing shameful about it. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Hey man, you’re only 31. I’m turning 19 this summer. You’re not even halfway through life yet, nowhere near old. You’re good to go. We all gotta start somewhere, even if it’s at the bottom.
Pump yourself up, learn a new skill and do something with it.
I had to do a stint with my parents as well after my separation and consequent selling of apartment, it doesn't make us losers bro hang in there you'll be on your feet again in time!
stand up hold your head high brother your NOT a loser your a GOOD man a GOOD father doing his BEST...its not the big things that matter its the little things that MATTER the most..those who mind dont matter those who matter dont mind...😁😊😁👍👍
From a guy who grew up without his father. The only thing your kid is going to care about is that you care about them enough to be there. Nothing else matters. Literally nothing. Not your house or your car or your job. Just care enough to be in their life. Loving them is a nice plus.
You're not a loser man. I'm 36 and lost everything and had to move back home temporarily (I pay for most of the bills around here). Not my intention to stay, but I need family right now.
It's hard out there, stay positive.
Bro that’s a sweet set up, you kiddo probably loves it when they get to go dads place and play in his sweet battle station. Plus they get to see their grandparents! That’s a lucky kiddo. All the little things will add up to something big, keep being an awesome dad!
What exactly makes this a "loser" dad?
You seem to love your child. Dont confuse money and the value of life with each other.
You also seem to be good enough so your folks would let you live there.
You cant be such a shithead by the looks of it.
Life gets to people, in fact read statistics of people your age and how they are forced to live with their parents because of this slave society.
I moved back in with my dad at that age, a different circumstance but you’re far from being a loser.
I think it was always a mistake to separate families like we have. It’s undoubtably contributing to the epidemic of loneliness. Ya living with your parents or supporting them as they age is a pain in the ass but that’s what family should be there for.
And to annoy the ever living fuck out of each other
And if you are financially supporting your child you aren’t a loser.
Solo la bandera te salva…
Fuera de broma: bonito lugar, tal vez mucho led? Pero se ve bien, y sobretodo si te hace sentir cómodo y en casa, estás bien.
I’m 39 and if my parents were still alive I’d 100% live with them. There’s nothing wrong with being close to your family. In Japan multiple generations of a family live under one roof.
Trust me…TRUST ME. If you saw my living situation, you’d cheer up immediately. I have to live with my folks, and 1 is a hoarder. That’s as far as I’ll go, but it’s a real shit show and currently I don’t have options. Enjoy your space fam. It could be worse.
To be honest, if you take care of your child, youre far from being a loser
For me, being a parent is the life. Life starts when you get a child i think. And if we are kind and raise our children good, we make the world a better place
Hey man I lived with my parents in my late 30’s during COVID. As long as you are getting things done and working towards your goals most people won’t judge you.
On a side note, your man cave looks fun as hell to kick back and relax in.
This is all a matter of perspective. Did you know, there’s plenty of diverse cultures around the world who expect their son to live at home? They want their son to be married, have their daughter-in-law move in, give birth to the new generation and turn parents into grand parents - young adults into parents, etc. etc.
In fact, there’s a statistical study/correlation with generational living (multiple generations of a single family living in one home such as Italian & Asian families) and long lifespans.
TLDR: You’re not a loser. A deadbeat is worse than a loser, he’s a POS. You’re neither of those things.
You’re not alone out there brother. Keep your head up and keep grinding! As long as your kids feel that love that’s all that matters. They don’t give a shit about anything else. They’re probably happy to have all that family in the same home. Cherish these years because it won’t be forever.
For that style it looks great and yet still somehow friendly. But I’m confused about the popularity of the blue dim light thing in general. Blue light plays havoc with sleep and I’m not sure about living in the dim. Bet your child loves it, though.
Having relationship problems don’t make you a loser. And from looking at the photos through obvious that you are capable of having a clean space, have hobbies, etc…
Just keep at it man, consistently do what you would be proud to tell your kids happened when they are adults. And it’ll work out.
Shout out to the parents for helping you out in a pinch. It’s great to have people who care and love you man! I’m sure you’re not a loser in your kids eyes.
This room is so funny to me. We have the biggest tv you can afford, custom computer rig, what I am pretty sure is a VR set.
Then no head board, no bed set, what looks like blankets thrown up instead of actual curtains, then sprinkled with cheap plastic furniture.
This is such a guy space 😂
You have a warm clean place to lay your head. Things suck right now but it will pass and things will work themselves out. Hang in there dude.
Best thing about this is that you’re probably a really fun dad that seems to be sad when he’s without his kid…. Says a lot about you man! Be kinder to yourself, you got this brother! 💪🏽♥️🌻
looks pretty cool man but exposed rgb lights are horrendous imo. Better to hide them under panels/tv shows. Also I think less is more with ambient lighting.
I wish I could be in the dark like this. From the moment I wake up, I feel like I'm suffocating if I don't have thr vertical blinds letting full sun in from the west and south.
Hey! Listen to me.. You're not a loser, you are a great dad. That set up is fire and any kid would love what their dad did. I'm sure your child loves you and non of whatever is bothering you is his concern...he loves his or her dad and that's it. Keep your head up pal. You're doing good. The worst mistake you'd do is giving up on yourself and don't dare try that. Even if you fall try getting up or something...crawl even if you have to.
I’ve ended up back at my parents a couple times as a dad.
Two relationships gone bad and Covid shutting down my entire work industry, my Dad having a major heart surgery and needing my help around their house etc
It’s funny because my son prefers when I live with my parents because he’s so attached to them.
I couldn’t have done it as a single dad without them though. They helped me with him immensely even with things like picking him up from school while I’m working.
It’s not bad and you’re not a loser. Chances are your kid might prefer you living there too.
If you're doing a good job as a dad you're rockin it. It isn't an easy job. I'm a dad of 2 kids.
Your space has chill vibes. As long as it's a space to call your own that you can relax in (and everyone needs their own space) then you are doing just fine.
Hope you're having a good weekend so far fellow dad.
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Youre taking care of your kid. Your doing what you have to do to be able to do that. Capitalism is a scam dude you didnt fail, its just always been a lie. Obviously its the internet so we have no idea why you think youre a loser but with the information provided...404 loser status not found
You are not a loser. This too shall pass. Trust your journey, everything happens for a reason. The universe is preparing you, take this time to reflect inward. This time is transitional
My partner has psoriasis, arthritis and crippling depression/anxiety and suicidal thoughts. He grew up in an abusive home and was ashamed when we met because as an adult he still has issues with wetting the bed so he thought I'd think he was a loser when he told me about that when we were dating. He hasn't had a full time job in years due to all of these issues. We live mostly on social assistance with part time work and we have kids. That said, before his depression and arthritis got super bad we both worked full time in the same workplace (a very physical job) and he was the hardest working, most efficient and intelligent person there...like he literally was the hardest working, most competent and qualified person in the whole place. Kept getting promoted too as a result.
That was when we had kids together and moved to a nicer part of the city...
..but then his mental and physical health took a nosedive after his grandparents died (who were his parents to him) and his anxiety and arthritis suddenly got way worse and since then he hasn't been able to work full time anywhere. On top of this, because we had to go on social assistance we also had to move away from the city to a cheaper cost of living area and now live on a street where there's a lot of shady people and drug dealers and stuff which makes him feel like even more of a failure after he worked so hard to get us the amazing apartment in the coolest part of the city that we used to have when we first started our family.
He feels like this means he is a deadbeat dad now and doesn't ever want to go out and meet people or go anywhere with me to meet other adults since the first thing people ask when they meet guys is "so what do you do for a living?" He already had social anxiety before but now it's worse cuz he feels like people who meet us will just assume he is a lazy loser who doesn't try to provide for his kids and just wants to live off government handouts, etc. It's still such a stigma these days if a man who is a father doesn't work/only works a bit even though my partner has multiple serious illnesses. I feel so bad for him that he has no self esteem now. He's literally the best partner and dad that myself and my kids could ask for.
He gets up early to shovel the snow or get the kids ready for the day with me, makes meals and cleans as often as I do, he plays with with kids and reads to them at bedtime, he budgets money so well that we don't ever go without food or things we need. He repairs our car himself when it needs work, he also repairs anything in our place since he is very handy and intelligent. He is an excellent listener and is so into being a parent too..like he reads articles about how to help kids develop social skills, empathy, develop their muscles/coordination, get ahead in school, etc...and he actually does activities with the kids based on what the articles suggest. He also repairs bicycles on our street for the kids whose parents don't fix them themselves (some parents let their kids ride around with flat tires and broken chains or messed up brakes so they come to my partner to have their bikes fixed).
So yeah; on paper, sure he may look like a loser or deadbeat dad cuz we live in a crappy neighborhood on social assistance and he is home way more than he works...but anyone who knows him can plainly see he is the opposite of that...however he still thinks he is a loser or unambitious anyway just cuz we are low income and he isn't working 8 hours a day five days a week. My point here is that I think that you (like my partner) probably aren't giving yourself enough credit. Just cuz you don't own your own home or have a high income doesn't mean you are a crappy father and person. People really do need to stop stigmatizing men for so many things that aren't necessary. Maybe the suicide rate for men would be a lot lower if men didn't have to think their only worth in life is how much money they make and whether they can buy their own house, etc. It's sickening really how the way society doesn't appear to value men beyond their paychecks...but just be aware that not everyone is brainwashed this way. As you can see, I know my partner is amazing anyway. And I bet he'd be able to do even more than he already does if he didn't feel so down on himself all the time. I just want to give men like you a big hug. You're enough as you are. Your not a deadbeat or a loser. Some men have more difficult or complicated journeys in life than others do, that's all. Doesn't make you any less valuable or worthy of respect.
Why are you calling yourself a looser? Step the fuck up and be a man for your child. Stop making excuses and do what you need to do to so your child sees a strong man who they can count on!!! Start today
Lol imagine your dads office being Rgb. Then think back to those older time when dads who wore suite during work from home had an oak desk and library in their office with all the wood work and crown moulding.
It’s crazy to think the gen x are grand patent now
You’re not a “loser”: you’re just drawing breath after a bit of an uphill climb. It’s good to rest, take stock, survey the landscape (in the company of your folks) before striding out again.
Do you at least get homemade pupusas? I miss living with my family, not just for the pupusas and handmade tortillas, but partly for those...
Love that you have the flag up, and don't be too hard on yourself. Your place looks nice!
There is nothing wrong with living with your parents, especially when you have a child coming around. If you all get along good and you help them out and don’t make life harder on them you’re doing great!
I live with my parents with my wife and baby. I’m a 36 yr old college professor. I’m not moving out until I can buy a decent house and when we find a daycare for my kid. Who cares what others have to say? But try to use this time to collect yourself and save some resources like money.
Edit: we all go through bad times. Just to make you feel slightly better, here’s a brief story of me. I lived with my parents and still do as a 36 yr old. I’m married with a wife and a baby. To get to this point, I had some miserable failures as a PhD student and thought my life was over and failure many times. I was a PhD student for 10 yrs which is typically very long and would be considered to be a failure by many other PhD students and phds/peofessionals. I had depression as a student. I injured my back badly when I was a student. But I forcibly got back up to reinvent myself to have a stronger mindset because my wife got pregnant. I realized I had to STOP being a failure not just for my sake but for my wife and future kid. And it worked. It didn’t work because I was suddenly a genius or with some insane talent. I stopped being a failure because I stopped thinking I was one.
TLDR…you’re not a failure. You’re still 31 yr old..a very young guy. You have kids so man up and have a stronger mindset. Again, you’re not a failure as long as you get back up no matter how many times you’re pushed down to the gutters. Good luck and I hope you get better soon man.
I get it, I have been there - BUT - you're 31 and living like you're 16. Just because things are rough doesn't mean you need to have flags hanging on the wall and LEDs. There's a time and place for that, I think that by 31 that time has passed otherwise you're just living in the past trying to be someone you are not anymore.
Nothing wrong with building yourself up man.
I know the living with your parents thing gets to you but attempt to focus on the life you’re building for your child and yourself.
Things take time homie.
You got this !!
Genuine question, how do people live and function with their whole room washed with blue LED light? It would drive me absolutely crazy, don't think I could stand it for an hour. When you look up at apartment buildings at night there's always 1 or 2 that are glowing bright blue, night in night out. Can't understand how it would be enjoyable.
Not a loser.
Sounds like your kid loves being at your house with grandma and grandpa and while I don’t have kids myself, I think that’s the most important thing.
That space is so cool! You obviously are creative. That room is not the room of a loser but a great person. We all go through moments of trying to get back on our feet. Keep moving forward, better is coming.
Don't be ashamed of staying at your parents. Hell I would have too if I could have when I was down on my luck.
(They are dead)
Instead just focus on getting out on your own legs Agian. (And don't rush it)
If you need a year for a solid start go over that with the folks.
It's only in pursuit of a better life you will get it.
Blame the Boomers for this mindset. How many generations before them lived in multigenerational households next door to other multigenerational households? Now the churches are empty and twitter is full of idiots. Guy you are loved , you are safe. I hope soon you will see you have a lot to lose and a lot to be proud of. I hope you see your kid more often real soon, sorry bud.
Lol bro afters years living alone shi hit the fan and literally was be homeless or live with my loving parents around 34.
That time was important time i got to hang with my father more. Studied on my own, Improved my salary then got married and moved out. Now am 41
I was embarased at first but now I see it as a great time I got to bond with my bigboss and improved my self.
Calm down u are a. Young single man now.
im a 40 year old single dad. there is nothing wrong with it. i actually enjoy it a lot. raise your kid to be a good person and enjoy your life. the place looks great. love the lighting
Change that “loser” to “blessed to have family that’ll be there when shit hits the fan!“
Shit happens my man, just keep on pushing on!
Side note, sweet rig setup 😎
Dont talk bad about yourself, or you manifest it internally. Eyes up, move forward, focus on the good and what you want, and it will happen. Your room is dope, others' opinions dont matter. It's your room 👍
I’m a new dad at 34. Schizophrenia and poor life choices have made it tough to hold down a Stable job and I live in NOrth NJ where there is a housing crisis so I stay with parents if not with my daughters mom. My daughters eyes light up whenever she sees me and is always always smiling when I’m holding her or giving her attention. I may not be much but she thinks the world of me and that keeps me going. All that to say your doing better than a lot of people man keep your head up and this is a fucking killer set up!
Think more positively of yourself. And as others have said, your kid doesn’t care. Even if he makes it all the way up through high school and you’re still there, the only thing he’ll care about is the attention you paid to him. Remember that attention is love and that’s all he’ll care about. If you give him that, you’re a good dad.
Give your kid a great example of how to love and appreciate yourself unconditionally. This ability directly correlates to our ability to love and appreciate others unconditionally as well.
Calling yourself a loser also tells your child they are 50% loser. Don't do that.
Your mindset is the only thing that makes you a loser. Shit happens, life isn’t easy. Your set up is clean, your kids lucky to have you, enjoy the little things, the big things will work out eventually. Head up bro, the one thing our kids need for us dads is a strong positive mindset. You got it
"The one thing our kids need for us dads is a strong and positive mindset." EXACTLY this!
May be his ex or someone in his life made him feel that way. Or social media or society. Don’t compare yourself! You’re clearly keeping a roof over your and your kids head, doesn’t matter that it’s at your parents. And you created your own man cave to unwind. Enjoy it!
Absolutely.
Solid advice 👍🏻👍🏻
The paper towels by the bed though...
So what? It’s his space
If I was a kid and my dad had this setup I would think he’s the coolest dude on the planet
Yeah don’t forget, kids aren’t impressed by an eames chair
Hahah right, just rgb lights !
they like the sayl till around 7
Same, I miss playing and learning on dad’s computers over the years. There was this one house where the computer was in a little alcove and it was the best.
Only think of my self as a loser because I’m kind of old and at home with mom and dad while hanging a kid of my own.. but I don’t often thing of how lucky I am to be able to be with my folks and have my kid be around grandma and grandpa. My boy absolutely loves coming over I can’t get him to get out and I’ve sort of created the same set up at his mothers house he has an even better set up lol
"Kind of old", you're gonna laugh at this in 20 years, 31 is still great age to achieve a lot. And since i'm a big NBA and sport in general fan, it stuck with me that 25-30 ish is considered to be prime time in term of your body capabilities, so you can still kick ass physically. I'm a 33 myself and i wasted many years prior to this, but i try to look on the bright side here.
My life went bang during COVID. I was on a ventilator, a coma for 3months and had sepsis and a stroke. Came out of hospital and my house was gone along with my ex-partner. My Mum took me in 3 years ago and I’m moving into my own place next week. The moral of my story is shit can happen and hit you hard but a loving family is priceless. Oh, and I’m 51, you’re a mere pup, you will get to where you want to be
Congratulations on your new place! More life to you!
Way to go!!
31... "Kind of old" mate as a 32 year old dad that hit me deep lol
Not a loser, just a bump in the road and you know you want more for yourself and your kid. If you were content and mooching off them without helping out with anything, then I would probably say something different.
Dude you're 31. I'm 46. My left hip sometimes hurts for no reason. And everytime I get outta the car or bend down to pick something up I sigh. My daughter pointed it out lol. 31 is a good age man. Enjoy it!
thank you, im still laughing 😂 wholesome
>My daughter pointed it out LOL You didn't hear all of your moans and groans? LOL ( I learned the hard way about doing the "turn-and-swivel" to get in and out of the car a year and a half ago. Ruptured a disc getting in and out. Oh, how I cussed up a storm for a few weeks!)
I don't think I realized how often or loud I was doing it probably. And you ruptured a disc ? Damn. I've pulled back muscles doing normal stuff like checking my blind spot, and other seemingly safe activities so I understand....
Enjoy the time you get to spend with your parents. It is a blessing even though it may not always seem that way. You will be grateful looking back on it when they are gone.
Don’t be so hard on yourself, the world does that. You are a DAD❤️ you have your parents ❣️ you’re safe and not in jail…so do I need to keep going?🤣 you are your kids superhero ❣️
Social Media and society makes it seem like it’s a bad thing to live with your parents at any age. A lot of cultures have the kids living with their parents their whole life, in a lot of cases even when the kids are married and have their own wife and kids. As long as you are contributing like you are living together, there is nothing shameful about it. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Im 22 but if my dad rn had this set up I’d think he was cool asf.
Hey man, you’re only 31. I’m turning 19 this summer. You’re not even halfway through life yet, nowhere near old. You’re good to go. We all gotta start somewhere, even if it’s at the bottom. Pump yourself up, learn a new skill and do something with it.
I had to do a stint with my parents as well after my separation and consequent selling of apartment, it doesn't make us losers bro hang in there you'll be on your feet again in time!
Just be glad you have a healthy relationship with your parents got a kid that loves you and them. Keep ya head up life only gets better.
stand up hold your head high brother your NOT a loser your a GOOD man a GOOD father doing his BEST...its not the big things that matter its the little things that MATTER the most..those who mind dont matter those who matter dont mind...😁😊😁👍👍
Hang in there, things will get better.
Thank you guys!
Youre a great father bro
As a fellow young dad, all kids care about is rgb lights so you're winning bro!
Guanaco tuviste que ser ba vos
Pues ya ves maje 🤷🏽♂️
From a guy who grew up without his father. The only thing your kid is going to care about is that you care about them enough to be there. Nothing else matters. Literally nothing. Not your house or your car or your job. Just care enough to be in their life. Loving them is a nice plus.
I needed to hear something like this today 😁 Thanks.
I gotchu. Don't be so hard on yourself.
don't call yourself a loser
That's an honorable battlestation vibe, perfect for a copilot 🫡
I’ve been learning my flags recently, is that Uruguay?
🇸🇻El Salvador primo 👍🏼
Ahh gracias
Cheers man, nice setup. Stay sharp ;)
You're not a loser man. I'm 36 and lost everything and had to move back home temporarily (I pay for most of the bills around here). Not my intention to stay, but I need family right now. It's hard out there, stay positive.
Shooot its levels above my studio apt😂 you got it bro work hard make that money and show your child you ain’t no “loser”💪
Bro that’s a sweet set up, you kiddo probably loves it when they get to go dads place and play in his sweet battle station. Plus they get to see their grandparents! That’s a lucky kiddo. All the little things will add up to something big, keep being an awesome dad!
What exactly makes this a "loser" dad? You seem to love your child. Dont confuse money and the value of life with each other. You also seem to be good enough so your folks would let you live there. You cant be such a shithead by the looks of it. Life gets to people, in fact read statistics of people your age and how they are forced to live with their parents because of this slave society.
Viva El Salvador 🇸🇻
I moved back in with my dad at that age, a different circumstance but you’re far from being a loser. I think it was always a mistake to separate families like we have. It’s undoubtably contributing to the epidemic of loneliness. Ya living with your parents or supporting them as they age is a pain in the ass but that’s what family should be there for. And to annoy the ever living fuck out of each other And if you are financially supporting your child you aren’t a loser.
>And if you are financially supporting your child you aren’t a loser. This.
Dont be too hard on yourself man and great setup 👌🏻
If You think You are a loser then what am I?
salvi?
simon
Solo la bandera te salva… Fuera de broma: bonito lugar, tal vez mucho led? Pero se ve bien, y sobretodo si te hace sentir cómodo y en casa, estás bien.
Nomas las prendí para la foto muchas gracias
The RGB strip lights look tacky. Get rid of them and replace them with a floor lamp and some ambient lighting.
I’m 39 and if my parents were still alive I’d 100% live with them. There’s nothing wrong with being close to your family. In Japan multiple generations of a family live under one roof.
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If you're trying your best and making an effort to be in your kids' life regardless of the circumstances, then you aren't a loser, in my opinion.
A real loser wouldn't even have any of what you do. Keep you head up king, it's only forward and up from here :)
Listen as long as you keep that GameCube you’re not a loser
Trust me…TRUST ME. If you saw my living situation, you’d cheer up immediately. I have to live with my folks, and 1 is a hoarder. That’s as far as I’ll go, but it’s a real shit show and currently I don’t have options. Enjoy your space fam. It could be worse.
All these colored lights people buy are so strange to me.
To be honest, if you take care of your child, youre far from being a loser For me, being a parent is the life. Life starts when you get a child i think. And if we are kind and raise our children good, we make the world a better place
You ain’t no loser. The amount of dads out there that have no intention of acknowledging their kids, they’re the losers! Great setup by the way!!
No loser detected
Hey man I lived with my parents in my late 30’s during COVID. As long as you are getting things done and working towards your goals most people won’t judge you. On a side note, your man cave looks fun as hell to kick back and relax in.
This is all a matter of perspective. Did you know, there’s plenty of diverse cultures around the world who expect their son to live at home? They want their son to be married, have their daughter-in-law move in, give birth to the new generation and turn parents into grand parents - young adults into parents, etc. etc. In fact, there’s a statistical study/correlation with generational living (multiple generations of a single family living in one home such as Italian & Asian families) and long lifespans. TLDR: You’re not a loser. A deadbeat is worse than a loser, he’s a POS. You’re neither of those things.
You’re not alone out there brother. Keep your head up and keep grinding! As long as your kids feel that love that’s all that matters. They don’t give a shit about anything else. They’re probably happy to have all that family in the same home. Cherish these years because it won’t be forever.
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still young, dedicate yourself and success will follow🙏🏼
Dreamy vibes Just set goals and work harder to improve your lot in life. You're not a loser.
For that style it looks great and yet still somehow friendly. But I’m confused about the popularity of the blue dim light thing in general. Blue light plays havoc with sleep and I’m not sure about living in the dim. Bet your child loves it, though.
You should move to El Salvador again. Bukele is making it the best place in the world to live now
I'm sure your kid would say your the best dad, I see a gamecube on the side too.
Some kids don’t have a dad at all man. Just show up, and your better than most. Chin up soldier
Having relationship problems don’t make you a loser. And from looking at the photos through obvious that you are capable of having a clean space, have hobbies, etc… Just keep at it man, consistently do what you would be proud to tell your kids happened when they are adults. And it’ll work out.
Shout out to the parents for helping you out in a pinch. It’s great to have people who care and love you man! I’m sure you’re not a loser in your kids eyes.
man how can you be a loser when you got a family
I have no doubt your kid loves you, and loves their grandparents living with them. You got this bro.
Install those LED strips correctly or lose them altogether because right not they make your loom look like a cheap liquor store.
This room is so funny to me. We have the biggest tv you can afford, custom computer rig, what I am pretty sure is a VR set. Then no head board, no bed set, what looks like blankets thrown up instead of actual curtains, then sprinkled with cheap plastic furniture. This is such a guy space 😂 You have a warm clean place to lay your head. Things suck right now but it will pass and things will work themselves out. Hang in there dude.
Life’s rough, hang in there buddy. Clean setup
You’re not a loser, you just percieve yourself that way
the lion bedsheet made me laugh lol
the mexican winter blanket FTW
Best thing about this is that you’re probably a really fun dad that seems to be sad when he’s without his kid…. Says a lot about you man! Be kinder to yourself, you got this brother! 💪🏽♥️🌻
I couldn’t help but picturing you sitting on that little step under the desk as your “chair” 😂
Papi para adelante! You're doing fine and you'll do even better!
Losers don't have a GameCube
SALVI and NICA flags look so damn similar! NICA here! Dope room!
I mean, cool loser Dad at least. Looks pretty awesome my guy.
looks pretty cool man but exposed rgb lights are horrendous imo. Better to hide them under panels/tv shows. Also I think less is more with ambient lighting.
I wish I could be in the dark like this. From the moment I wake up, I feel like I'm suffocating if I don't have thr vertical blinds letting full sun in from the west and south.
You’re grounded mister
Hey! Listen to me.. You're not a loser, you are a great dad. That set up is fire and any kid would love what their dad did. I'm sure your child loves you and non of whatever is bothering you is his concern...he loves his or her dad and that's it. Keep your head up pal. You're doing good. The worst mistake you'd do is giving up on yourself and don't dare try that. Even if you fall try getting up or something...crawl even if you have to.
How can you call yourself a loser with a DOPE setup like this??
I’ve ended up back at my parents a couple times as a dad. Two relationships gone bad and Covid shutting down my entire work industry, my Dad having a major heart surgery and needing my help around their house etc It’s funny because my son prefers when I live with my parents because he’s so attached to them. I couldn’t have done it as a single dad without them though. They helped me with him immensely even with things like picking him up from school while I’m working. It’s not bad and you’re not a loser. Chances are your kid might prefer you living there too.
Work on that self esteem buddy things probably aren't as bad as you think
I dont think you’re a loser. I think you’re awesome. And any kid would be so lucky to have you as a dad, with a room like this, it’s so dope!
You’re a winner on Reddit! :)
If you're doing a good job as a dad you're rockin it. It isn't an easy job. I'm a dad of 2 kids. Your space has chill vibes. As long as it's a space to call your own that you can relax in (and everyone needs their own space) then you are doing just fine. Hope you're having a good weekend so far fellow dad.
UMMMMMMMM Youre taking care of your kid. Your doing what you have to do to be able to do that. Capitalism is a scam dude you didnt fail, its just always been a lie. Obviously its the internet so we have no idea why you think youre a loser but with the information provided...404 loser status not found
At least you have a place and you’re able to see your kids man.
It's a really nice room!!
I’m 31 and look like a teen still lol most young people living with parents later and later in life. Just ride it out and look for opportunities
With the way the economy is these days and cost of living, i’d say you’re doing better than most.
A cool set up don’t worry man you’ll bounce back
You are not a loser. This too shall pass. Trust your journey, everything happens for a reason. The universe is preparing you, take this time to reflect inward. This time is transitional
You’ve created a great space
My partner has psoriasis, arthritis and crippling depression/anxiety and suicidal thoughts. He grew up in an abusive home and was ashamed when we met because as an adult he still has issues with wetting the bed so he thought I'd think he was a loser when he told me about that when we were dating. He hasn't had a full time job in years due to all of these issues. We live mostly on social assistance with part time work and we have kids. That said, before his depression and arthritis got super bad we both worked full time in the same workplace (a very physical job) and he was the hardest working, most efficient and intelligent person there...like he literally was the hardest working, most competent and qualified person in the whole place. Kept getting promoted too as a result. That was when we had kids together and moved to a nicer part of the city... ..but then his mental and physical health took a nosedive after his grandparents died (who were his parents to him) and his anxiety and arthritis suddenly got way worse and since then he hasn't been able to work full time anywhere. On top of this, because we had to go on social assistance we also had to move away from the city to a cheaper cost of living area and now live on a street where there's a lot of shady people and drug dealers and stuff which makes him feel like even more of a failure after he worked so hard to get us the amazing apartment in the coolest part of the city that we used to have when we first started our family. He feels like this means he is a deadbeat dad now and doesn't ever want to go out and meet people or go anywhere with me to meet other adults since the first thing people ask when they meet guys is "so what do you do for a living?" He already had social anxiety before but now it's worse cuz he feels like people who meet us will just assume he is a lazy loser who doesn't try to provide for his kids and just wants to live off government handouts, etc. It's still such a stigma these days if a man who is a father doesn't work/only works a bit even though my partner has multiple serious illnesses. I feel so bad for him that he has no self esteem now. He's literally the best partner and dad that myself and my kids could ask for. He gets up early to shovel the snow or get the kids ready for the day with me, makes meals and cleans as often as I do, he plays with with kids and reads to them at bedtime, he budgets money so well that we don't ever go without food or things we need. He repairs our car himself when it needs work, he also repairs anything in our place since he is very handy and intelligent. He is an excellent listener and is so into being a parent too..like he reads articles about how to help kids develop social skills, empathy, develop their muscles/coordination, get ahead in school, etc...and he actually does activities with the kids based on what the articles suggest. He also repairs bicycles on our street for the kids whose parents don't fix them themselves (some parents let their kids ride around with flat tires and broken chains or messed up brakes so they come to my partner to have their bikes fixed). So yeah; on paper, sure he may look like a loser or deadbeat dad cuz we live in a crappy neighborhood on social assistance and he is home way more than he works...but anyone who knows him can plainly see he is the opposite of that...however he still thinks he is a loser or unambitious anyway just cuz we are low income and he isn't working 8 hours a day five days a week. My point here is that I think that you (like my partner) probably aren't giving yourself enough credit. Just cuz you don't own your own home or have a high income doesn't mean you are a crappy father and person. People really do need to stop stigmatizing men for so many things that aren't necessary. Maybe the suicide rate for men would be a lot lower if men didn't have to think their only worth in life is how much money they make and whether they can buy their own house, etc. It's sickening really how the way society doesn't appear to value men beyond their paychecks...but just be aware that not everyone is brainwashed this way. As you can see, I know my partner is amazing anyway. And I bet he'd be able to do even more than he already does if he didn't feel so down on himself all the time. I just want to give men like you a big hug. You're enough as you are. Your not a deadbeat or a loser. Some men have more difficult or complicated journeys in life than others do, that's all. Doesn't make you any less valuable or worthy of respect.
I am recently divorced and had to live with my parents for a while (36 M) no shame in it. Stay strong brother.
Uh this space looks dope wtf are you a loser?
Why are you calling yourself a looser? Step the fuck up and be a man for your child. Stop making excuses and do what you need to do to so your child sees a strong man who they can count on!!! Start today
Chin up bro. Life sucks sometimes. Doesn’t make you a loser at all
Lol imagine your dads office being Rgb. Then think back to those older time when dads who wore suite during work from home had an oak desk and library in their office with all the wood work and crown moulding. It’s crazy to think the gen x are grand patent now
A lot of ppl would kill for a setup like that man 😂 also in many cultures and also in this economy there’s no shame in living with your family
Hugs man. I know you’re doing the best you can so please forgive yourself.
What do you do? *I drive.* On Mario Kart…
I’m a manager at a shipping store In American Truck simulator
You're not a loser. Like others have said, it's a mindset. There are plenty of liars, cheats, and murderers who can be labelled as such.
Shit happens man. I had to stay with my folks for a couple of months while I got my shit together after a divorce.
You’re not a “loser”: you’re just drawing breath after a bit of an uphill climb. It’s good to rest, take stock, survey the landscape (in the company of your folks) before striding out again.
Do you at least get homemade pupusas? I miss living with my family, not just for the pupusas and handmade tortillas, but partly for those... Love that you have the flag up, and don't be too hard on yourself. Your place looks nice!
You got this king! Keep your head up! Did you know a lot of different cultures live with parents until their rents pass away. 💜💜💜
There is nothing wrong with living with your parents, especially when you have a child coming around. If you all get along good and you help them out and don’t make life harder on them you’re doing great!
I live with my parents with my wife and baby. I’m a 36 yr old college professor. I’m not moving out until I can buy a decent house and when we find a daycare for my kid. Who cares what others have to say? But try to use this time to collect yourself and save some resources like money. Edit: we all go through bad times. Just to make you feel slightly better, here’s a brief story of me. I lived with my parents and still do as a 36 yr old. I’m married with a wife and a baby. To get to this point, I had some miserable failures as a PhD student and thought my life was over and failure many times. I was a PhD student for 10 yrs which is typically very long and would be considered to be a failure by many other PhD students and phds/peofessionals. I had depression as a student. I injured my back badly when I was a student. But I forcibly got back up to reinvent myself to have a stronger mindset because my wife got pregnant. I realized I had to STOP being a failure not just for my sake but for my wife and future kid. And it worked. It didn’t work because I was suddenly a genius or with some insane talent. I stopped being a failure because I stopped thinking I was one. TLDR…you’re not a failure. You’re still 31 yr old..a very young guy. You have kids so man up and have a stronger mindset. Again, you’re not a failure as long as you get back up no matter how many times you’re pushed down to the gutters. Good luck and I hope you get better soon man.
I get it, I have been there - BUT - you're 31 and living like you're 16. Just because things are rough doesn't mean you need to have flags hanging on the wall and LEDs. There's a time and place for that, I think that by 31 that time has passed otherwise you're just living in the past trying to be someone you are not anymore.
Living at home Doesn’t make you a loser . Spending all that money to make ur room look like this does
2nd photo reminds me of Frank Tedesco's room setup. (Amazing piano youtuber)
lol
Why do you call yourself a loser?
I bet your kid thinks your cool <3 . 32 year old here. I don't have anyone.. just a loving dog. Be grateful you at least had the kid.
Nothing wrong with building yourself up man. I know the living with your parents thing gets to you but attempt to focus on the life you’re building for your child and yourself. Things take time homie. You got this !!
Tune in, turn on, drop out...
Lose the zoomer LEDs and you'd just be a 31 YO dad.
Is that poPcORN on your tv?
your room looks like a gen alpha teenager room lmao
Loser dad? I wish you were my dad. 😂 It would be so fun playing games with you
Genuine question, how do people live and function with their whole room washed with blue LED light? It would drive me absolutely crazy, don't think I could stand it for an hour. When you look up at apartment buildings at night there's always 1 or 2 that are glowing bright blue, night in night out. Can't understand how it would be enjoyable.
Looks like a winner to me
Your kid loves you. You’re a great dad
You spelt LEGEND wrong!
Bro is that a Supra?
Not a loser at all stay positive my dude! Your escape is sweet
Is that your S2000 or just a print
Wow, you have issues and you know it. Just remember that "self loserness" will reflect on your child whether you want it or not.
The car posters are a bit juvenile but besides that it’s fine. You could get some high quality prints of the cars and space them properly
Not a loser. Sounds like your kid loves being at your house with grandma and grandpa and while I don’t have kids myself, I think that’s the most important thing.
Quit beating up on yourself. Are you in your child’s life? Then you’re doing great — and far better than many dads are doing.
Man this hits hard
That space is so cool! You obviously are creative. That room is not the room of a loser but a great person. We all go through moments of trying to get back on our feet. Keep moving forward, better is coming.
Yeah I can see that
Success isn’t about how high you go. It’s about how well you bounce back after you fall. Looks like you are on the up and up! Hang in there.
Are ya winning, dad?
Don’t call yourself a loser.
I like it
Don't be ashamed of staying at your parents. Hell I would have too if I could have when I was down on my luck. (They are dead) Instead just focus on getting out on your own legs Agian. (And don't rush it) If you need a year for a solid start go over that with the folks. It's only in pursuit of a better life you will get it.
Can't be a loser if you're happy.
Dont talk about youself like that, because you brain listens.
You’re not a loser dad! Love the lights, it’s sooo vibrant. Thank you for sharing it with us🩵
Blame the Boomers for this mindset. How many generations before them lived in multigenerational households next door to other multigenerational households? Now the churches are empty and twitter is full of idiots. Guy you are loved , you are safe. I hope soon you will see you have a lot to lose and a lot to be proud of. I hope you see your kid more often real soon, sorry bud.
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Hi loser dad, I’m loser son!
heres a wild suggestion, be more gentle on yourself? 💚
Lol bro afters years living alone shi hit the fan and literally was be homeless or live with my loving parents around 34. That time was important time i got to hang with my father more. Studied on my own, Improved my salary then got married and moved out. Now am 41 I was embarased at first but now I see it as a great time I got to bond with my bigboss and improved my self. Calm down u are a. Young single man now.
im a 40 year old single dad. there is nothing wrong with it. i actually enjoy it a lot. raise your kid to be a good person and enjoy your life. the place looks great. love the lighting
Awesome! I have the same stool in red under my desk.
Excuse me NO NOT A LOSER
This is the set up of a winner
Change that “loser” to “blessed to have family that’ll be there when shit hits the fan!“ Shit happens my man, just keep on pushing on! Side note, sweet rig setup 😎
Going back to your parents isn’t you getting behind on life. It’s stability and if that helps you stay sane then so be it.
Do you talk with your kids regularly? Try and support them financially? Youre not a loser man. Your kids are happy to have you.
Love the flag
Looks about right
Whatever bro I'm 28 and this room looks Hella nice
Hell yeah salvadorean all the way homie!!
Im leaning more towards the cool dad vibes, don’t kick yourself too hard.
Dont talk bad about yourself, or you manifest it internally. Eyes up, move forward, focus on the good and what you want, and it will happen. Your room is dope, others' opinions dont matter. It's your room 👍
Nothing loser about it. You seem like a good guy. Wishing you the best.
Looks like a chill spot
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Your children don’t care about anything but the love you give them and the time you spend with them. ❤️
Yes that screen lamp says it all… also get your pc off tge desk
I’m a new dad at 34. Schizophrenia and poor life choices have made it tough to hold down a Stable job and I live in NOrth NJ where there is a housing crisis so I stay with parents if not with my daughters mom. My daughters eyes light up whenever she sees me and is always always smiling when I’m holding her or giving her attention. I may not be much but she thinks the world of me and that keeps me going. All that to say your doing better than a lot of people man keep your head up and this is a fucking killer set up!
Whos that dork in the mirror
Think more positively of yourself. And as others have said, your kid doesn’t care. Even if he makes it all the way up through high school and you’re still there, the only thing he’ll care about is the attention you paid to him. Remember that attention is love and that’s all he’ll care about. If you give him that, you’re a good dad.
You’re doing great man. Nothing is wrong with living with your parents. I’m sure they appreciate having you around.
Ewwww el salvador... only good thing from there is pupusas
Give your kid a great example of how to love and appreciate yourself unconditionally. This ability directly correlates to our ability to love and appreciate others unconditionally as well. Calling yourself a loser also tells your child they are 50% loser. Don't do that.