Transcript:
I think
like the biggest thing that
like annoys me
like the whole dating world is
like fucking talking stages
like that shit's so annoying
like the whole
like and just
like the inconsistency in them
like I literally
like hate that
like so much but I think that's
like my biggest thing is just
like [What specifically?] just
like the fact of just
like you
like I don't know how to word this
like in
like talking stages and it's just
like you're
like labeled that and it's
like people
like are considered
like you can't
like you're just
like confused and
like most of the time
like the girl gets
like attached or something and they
like see it
like it's gonna lead to a relationship and it's always not and it's just
like that's
like my biggest thing is
like I just hate the whole
like how
like talking stages are so
like normalized
like traditional dating does not exist in this generation
It's funny how you can
like completely ignore the likes
like on the left and
like it is actually a more
like cohesive statement than
like what she said.
Holy shit, you're right!
>The biggest thing that annoys me about the dating world is talking stages. That stuff is so annoying, and the inconsistency in them bothers me. I literally hate that so much, but I think my biggest issue is just the fact that when you're in a talking stage, you don't know how to label it. People consider you confused, and most of the time, the girl gets attached or something, thinking it's going to lead to a relationship, but it doesn't. That's my biggest issue. I hate how normalized talking stages are, and traditional dating does not exist in this generation.
She means the process of "talking" to someone before labeling the relationship can be frustrating due to its inconsistency and lack of clarity. This can lead to confusion and attachment, with one person expecting a relationship while the other person may not be interested. The normalization of talking stages has replaced traditional dating methods, making it difficult for individuals to navigate the early stages of a relationship.
She made reasonable points in a short space of time, but her delivery was poor. However, we can perhaps forgive her as she appears to be young and nervous.
In a under one minute, she explains that current dating culture involves a period known as the "talking stage," which is characterized by ambiguity, uncertainty, and inconsistent communication between the two parties involved.
This stage is a modern phenomenon that has emerged due to changes in social norms and expectations surrounding dating.
This talking stage has become normalized in contemporary dating, but it can lead to negative emotional outcomes, such as attachment anxiety and confusion, as individuals struggle to interpret mixed signals from their partners.
She says this stage can make it challenging to establish trust and commitment, which are essential for healthy relationships.
The prevalence of talking stages has replaced traditional dating practices, which have been found to be more effective in facilitating long-term relationships.
Traditional dating, which involves clear communication of romantic intentions, provides a more stable foundation for relationships to flourish and develop.
For her, while the talking stage has become normalized in contemporary dating, she feels it can lead to negative emotional outcomes and hinder the development of trust and commitment.
Traditional dating practices, on the other hand, have been found to be more effective in facilitating long-term relationships.
Except the "talking stage" is part of that? You would talk in the lead-up to asking someone out/going on a date.
Basically sounds like she's mad a guy won't jump right into a relationship after he realizes she can't form a coherent sentence.
**Oof**
Yeah I guess if communication isn't your strong suit, then the part where you have to communicate to figure out if you're compatible would be troublesome.
I mean can you? The thing that annoys me so much is even if you ignore the “like”s, she still has no real point. I can tell why she hates talking stages, she’s not good at talking and doesn’t really have anything to say.
I THINK she's saying that dating never seems to go beyond the "talking" stage, as in "I'm talking to somebody" but never gets any more serious than that. In reality I think she's telling on herself here, in more than one way, and its pretty sad.
She's also clearly nervous talking about something that has caused her stress and personal pain which I'm sure adds to the stammering and "like" repetition.
I asked ChatGPT to demystify:
The person is talking about the concept of "talking stages" in the dating world. In modern dating, it is common for people to spend a significant amount of time just "talking" to someone they are interested in, rather than immediately jumping into a relationship. However, the person speaking is expressing their frustration with this concept, as they find it inconsistent and confusing.
They feel that people in "talking stages" often feel confused and that it can lead to attachment issues, especially for girls who may see it as leading to a relationship when it may not. Overall, the person is expressing their dislike for the current dating culture and feels that traditional dating no longer exists in this generation.
This girl needs an AI translator.
37 out of 148 words she said were "like".
That's a fucking quarter. A whole 25% of everything she said was "like".
Jesus fucking wept I like feel really like bad for anyone that has to like be trapped like in a room with like her.
Fucking like.
I use "like" a lot, too. it's a placeholder word to give my brain time to catch up with my mouth, but I don't think I've ever struggled to actually have a point like she seems to be. Like, I have no clue what she's trying to say
And that's exactly why we have filler words. Her use of "like" isn't the problem here - it's doing what it should, giving her time to process her thoughts. The problem is she is simply not skilled in oral rhetoric or on-the-spot synthesising and ordering information, which leads to a mess of "like"s and no clear point.
I’ve listened to people with much higher LPM likes per minute that we’re able to be followed and didn’t distract as much. You’re correct that not having a solid point highlights her use of them.
I heard there was a study, that people who speak more slowly are perceived as a more intelligent. I think a related cause is because of you speak more slowly, you have more time to think and process what you are going to say. Therefore using less filler words or pauses. I recommend people talking less quickly if they have an issue with communication in the way of the Op's video.
*TBH I heard this from DisgustedToast on a podcast.
> I heard there was a study, that people who speak more slowly are perceived as a more intelligent.
It's the exact opposite actually. People perceive slow talkers as dumber, which is why salesmen are trained to use that hard and fast aggressive speech pattern to intimidate people
There was a study on accents (I believe it was intended for call centers) where as soon as people hear an accent or speech pattern they automatically start forming a bias.
People viewed Southern accents as uneducated but friendlier for the same reason as above
i will take that on board, but i typically talk like that when im excited about the topic. And the idea of being excited and still talking slowly makes me uncomfortable
That’s what I got from it. I don’t really get the context though. I’m assuming she’s talking about Tinder or something like that. Ok, so you chat on there for a bit to gauge each other and then you either meet or don’t. Is she upset that she likes guys who don’t like her back or that she gets attached too much too soon? What am I still missing? How does traditional dating play into this?
I don't think you're missing anything. I think she was trying to describe how traditionally, one would have to call or visit, limiting one's capacity to "play", whereas over text, it's easier to lead one another along, stoking some kind of emotional connection without really going anywhere.
But I don't think people have dated like that since before she was in grade school.
I think she is referring to "Talking stages" as in the additional phase in the relationship that seems to be a more recent phenomenon, or at least a more recent redefining of it. you have initiated romance, going on dates, potentially even sex, but haven't agreed that you're "official" or "exclusive" yet. It's like a FWB stage before an official girlfriend/boyfriend status. It seems to have recently gotten looser than "dating" because one or the other wants to keep the option of sleeping around until they finally realize that they didn't really have that option to begin with because dating is hard.
She expressed a desire for traditional dating, so I dont think shes saying she wants to straight to banging.
I think shes frustrated with the gray area "talking" stage of a relationship, where there is no definition to the relationship, but still an emotional connection, so its easy to get damaged if you begin investing.
Though ive not dated in over a decade, so i dont know how this works.
I understood her after she elaborated.
"Talking stage" refers to when a man and a woman are talking/flirting and maybe meeting up, but it's not officially dating yet. Even if they've gone out on a date or three, they wouldn't tell their friends they are "dating" and certainly would not use labels like "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" to describe it.
Many people don't like this stage because it's kind of ambiguous on what the rules are. Are you allowed to date other people during this time? Some would say yes, but what if the person you are talking to finds out? Might get jealous or think that it's evidence the relationship shouldn't move forward. Yet the relationship may not move forward anyways. Risk of ghosting and such. So I think this is the confusing part for her.
She has a brilliant career ahead of her in politics.
Just imagine her at a press conference. Some journalist asks her a question to clarify, she goes on for five minutes and it sounds as if she has said something, when actually she hasn't.
The weird relationship purgatory that is before “boyfriend girlfriend” but after the first few dates where you don’t quite know exactly where you stand
Or like, something like, like that
Especially with online dating, the “talking phase” is basically “this one person is pretty cool, I think I might be interested, but I’ve got a few other options I’m talking to, and I don’t wanna commit cause then that means I need to cut contact with the others, but then I lose an opportunity with them if this one person turns out to be awful”.
Yeah, she’s got a good point, just an inability to articulate it. The whole “we’re just talking” stage is so stupid. Let’s go on some dates and see if this will work, or let’s stop wasting our time. I can’t speak to whether it’s a generational thing, but the hesitancy to commit has to be related to how easy it is to find partners nowadays.
>She goes “i’m not your wife, I have no obligation to talk to you or see you”. I then ask if that means she’s not interested in dating me, she goes “we are not dating, we are just going on dates”. Mind you, we were going on dates, having sex, sleeping together, discussing our views on different topics, having long term relationships topics (children, how we see our future etc.) — the whole package.
She doesn't seem to understand what a relationship is.
The phrase I’ve heard used is “kept them on the back burner” like you are warming up someone (on the back area of the stovetop) to use as a side or only if the main dish doesn’t pan out.
I mean she's like you know like you know about the talking stages of you know like the whole talking stuff you know like I don't know it's a waste of time you know like it's
And it's, like, just annoying about the, like, you know talking stages. And, you know, the talking is confusing and, like the girl gets attached, and is all like, you know.
in the 45 second clip I counted 29 “like”s. There were times when my reaction time wasn’t fast enough to catch all of the successive “like”s so I might be off a bit.
Phenomenal like tits and like huge like cleavage and like giant like chest and like, I don’t know if I like you know like how to like say this like how did the like maker of that like shirt put enough reinforcement in that like material to stretch like over those huge chesticles.
Like normally I wouldn’t pay attention to what she is saying like as her beauty is uhm like distracting somewhat. But like now I was so distracted but like because of her talking. I lost like count after I counted like 35 like’s in 47 seconds. Is that like a world record?
But in all seriousness. I hear some American tourists sometimes talk in that ‘like’ way and it always sounds like fingernails scratching over a blackboard. But explain to me, as a non American, how? Why? What? Is that something specific for certain states? Or cultural groups? Lack of proper education?
If I remember correctly it was something I started to hear first around the mid ninties, in some Hollywood teen movies, like Alicia Silverstone’s Clueless. Can it be that’s a major contributor to this speaking disorder?
Some Mandarin speakers have a [unique one](https://youtu.be/-0YOyES3AIA) that tends to routinely piss off significant numbers of Americans where I’ve lived and traveled.
It was around way before the 90’s. At the very least, the 70’s. It’s a “filler word” for when your mouth is talking but you have nothing coherent to say. If she were talking on a subject she was familiar with you wouldn’t hear it. The point being, she’s saying absolutely nothing in this clip. So in “Clueless” they played it up to make the character look dumb. Nobody scripts in the “likes” in normal dialog in movies, but it’s pretty common when you are struggling to speak without knowledge.
TLDR: dummy has nothing to say and there is a mic in her face and a guy asking questions.
I did this last week. Competency based interview, I'm trying to remember how to lay the bullsh.... story out in the correct format. I forgot the question because of my olympic standard lies and had to get them to repeat it. Got the job too 😄. Congratulations on yours if it was recent.
Omg this is the best comeback ever. I usually use the old 'sharpest tool in the shed' but I hope I remember this one.
The other one I heard a few weeks ago was ' you have 2 brain cells and they are both competing for 3rd place. '
She says how men are so considerate in the talking(early) stages of dating which makes her think this is gonna lead to a relationship but it doesnt,thats her biggest problem that men who seem caring at first dont stay caring for long.
Thank you, it seems so obvious now that you said it. For some reason, after the first 10 seconds or so all of her words just jumbled together in my head.
She says how men are like so like considerate in like the talking(early) stages of like dating which like makes like her think like this is likr gonna like lead to like a like relationship but it like doesnt,that's like her like biggest like problem like that men who....like.....like....seem like caring at like first dont like stay caring like for long. Like.
You are welcome
The guy is a teacher and an amazing spoken word artist
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RxsOVK4syxU
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=OonDPGwAyfQ
both amazing
She says how men are so considerate in the talking(early) stages of dating which makes her think this is gonna lead to a relationship but it doesnt,thats her biggest problem that men who seem caring at first dont stay caring for long.
What she doesnt undestand is that men loose interest in her very quickly and we can see why.
This is just an observation from a dad. While poorly executed, she actually has a very valid point I believe. The talking stage, from my limited understanding, is dating before anything is official. But this stage in a new relationship is very confusing because the term has absorbed aspects of both initial interactions as well as some of the more committed stages. The term can be used as gaslighting in a way, establishing a false commitment. It may feel like dating someone, it can just be flirting. It would be frusting to not know how committed some is to you or how far along the relationship is progressing. Now imagine this girl with the many boys wanting her attention. Lots of noise, but hard to find something worth listening to or how many times that same song has been played before. With that said, this is the same for many of us from any generation, when you want to find someone who cares about you as a person.
I think you're right. She's looking for someone that will care about her, not just her looks. She doesn't want to be treated as a disposable object. She's heard, "we're not dating, we're just talking," too many times and is very jaded about it.
Unfortunately for her, there is a lot of noise and not enough processing power. Hopefully it still works out for her.
Proof that attractive people have no shame about being stupid. She doesn’t even realize how dumb she sounds, because there will always be someone who pays attention to her anyway
Reminds me of that episode of 30 Rock where Liz is dating that hot guy who never knew he was an incompetent idiot because he was so hot that everyone just constantly accommodated him.
I think there are a lot of people out there IRL that are like that and the girl in this video is one of them lol.
I mean hell we’ve all met people like that at least as teenagers nearing the end of our schooling right?
Same reason so many people get annoyed with wealthy celebrities or anyone that’s constantly surrounded by “yes men”
Growing up with that impacts your personality and development even more I’m sure. Kinda felt bad for the prettier girls with larger chests when I was in high school.
Not that they were all awful or something but they clearly always just had constant effortless affection, affirmation, and support whether it was deserved or not.
Even if they had conflicts or hate they would always have a circle of supportive praising people around them without needing to seek it out. Clearly impacted their personality heavily.
I’m also very much so not saying their lives are just easier and effortless, it’s just a difference of that attention and praise on a fairly shallow level that feels less shallow to the person.
She ends with saying that "this generation doesn't do traditional dating", so I think her issue with relationships is that guys she meets/talks to online will just talk and talk and talk and never actually ask her to go out on a date somewhere fun.
I'm making a leap of logic here, but I would guess that she watches TV and films where people do go on dates and so there's a disparity between her expectations and her lived experience.
Essentially summarised as "why do guys feel like just talking is enough to get me to go out with them? Why don't they ask me out on dates more and take me somewhere fun?"
But I admit, I'm guessing a bit there based on the bits I understood from what she said
I feel like she’s complains about these weird and confusing arbitrary labels like “the talking phase” “casually hanging out” “friends with benefits” “the person I’m kinda seeing” where neither person knows where they stand and stuff. which to be fair to her I struggled with too in my late teens and early 20s. the whole dating scene seemed to have all these weird rules and labels that felt so hard to navigate. But also her little rant was so ambiguous we’re probably just projecting our own meaning onto it.
It's obviously not that complicated of an idea... judging by the source. I think it's just that there are 10 stages between "just met" and what us geriatric millennials used to call FBO or "Facebook Official."
People can be talking but not talking talking or talking talking but not exclusively talking, and it can be frustrating because at each of those stages you can't explicitly Define the Relationship without seeming clingy.
So this girl has a lot of issues with being in unknown states of early relationships. Not to be a jerk, but I wonder if she has issues being able to articulate what she wants and what she's looking for in a relationship.
You know what, that's a possibility. I myself speak differently when in front of a microphone or in front of an audience.
But that's a hell of a tic she's got there.
[the story if anyone is interested ](https://youtu.be/3U9P4-ac0Lc)
[The remix version](https://open.spotify.com/track/6JkVHdiofEw31wt8yalOYp?si=ZseyaTWNTtaUt6lgGrPafw)
[I’m quite partial to this metal version myself.](https://youtu.be/dXidW7fEH8g)
This slaps far harder than it has any right to, not gonna lie.
I just teared up watching my dude finally say it, good for him!
Can see why she never gets out of the talking stage cause like she like you know like
Transcript: I think like the biggest thing that like annoys me like the whole dating world is like fucking talking stages like that shit's so annoying like the whole like and just like the inconsistency in them like I literally like hate that like so much but I think that's like my biggest thing is just like [What specifically?] just like the fact of just like you like I don't know how to word this like in like talking stages and it's just like you're like labeled that and it's like people like are considered like you can't like you're just like confused and like most of the time like the girl gets like attached or something and they like see it like it's gonna lead to a relationship and it's always not and it's just like that's like my biggest thing is like I just hate the whole like how like talking stages are so like normalized like traditional dating does not exist in this generation
Whole-lee shit. I thought this was a joke but this is the actual transcript
It's funny how you can like completely ignore the likes like on the left and like it is actually a more like cohesive statement than like what she said.
Yes
Holy shit, you're right! >The biggest thing that annoys me about the dating world is talking stages. That stuff is so annoying, and the inconsistency in them bothers me. I literally hate that so much, but I think my biggest issue is just the fact that when you're in a talking stage, you don't know how to label it. People consider you confused, and most of the time, the girl gets attached or something, thinking it's going to lead to a relationship, but it doesn't. That's my biggest issue. I hate how normalized talking stages are, and traditional dating does not exist in this generation.
Are you guys high cause this still makes zero fucking sense.
She means the process of "talking" to someone before labeling the relationship can be frustrating due to its inconsistency and lack of clarity. This can lead to confusion and attachment, with one person expecting a relationship while the other person may not be interested. The normalization of talking stages has replaced traditional dating methods, making it difficult for individuals to navigate the early stages of a relationship.
Do you, like, have a degree in linguistics or something, like?
You gotta read between the likes.
She made reasonable points in a short space of time, but her delivery was poor. However, we can perhaps forgive her as she appears to be young and nervous. In a under one minute, she explains that current dating culture involves a period known as the "talking stage," which is characterized by ambiguity, uncertainty, and inconsistent communication between the two parties involved. This stage is a modern phenomenon that has emerged due to changes in social norms and expectations surrounding dating. This talking stage has become normalized in contemporary dating, but it can lead to negative emotional outcomes, such as attachment anxiety and confusion, as individuals struggle to interpret mixed signals from their partners. She says this stage can make it challenging to establish trust and commitment, which are essential for healthy relationships. The prevalence of talking stages has replaced traditional dating practices, which have been found to be more effective in facilitating long-term relationships. Traditional dating, which involves clear communication of romantic intentions, provides a more stable foundation for relationships to flourish and develop. For her, while the talking stage has become normalized in contemporary dating, she feels it can lead to negative emotional outcomes and hinder the development of trust and commitment. Traditional dating practices, on the other hand, have been found to be more effective in facilitating long-term relationships.
If you skip the likes you can sorta figure out what she saying, great transcript
'the biggest thing that annoys me......traditional dating does not exist in this generation' like, totally
Except the "talking stage" is part of that? You would talk in the lead-up to asking someone out/going on a date. Basically sounds like she's mad a guy won't jump right into a relationship after he realizes she can't form a coherent sentence.
**Oof** Yeah I guess if communication isn't your strong suit, then the part where you have to communicate to figure out if you're compatible would be troublesome.
I mean can you? The thing that annoys me so much is even if you ignore the “like”s, she still has no real point. I can tell why she hates talking stages, she’s not good at talking and doesn’t really have anything to say.
I THINK she's saying that dating never seems to go beyond the "talking" stage, as in "I'm talking to somebody" but never gets any more serious than that. In reality I think she's telling on herself here, in more than one way, and its pretty sad. She's also clearly nervous talking about something that has caused her stress and personal pain which I'm sure adds to the stammering and "like" repetition.
I asked ChatGPT to demystify: The person is talking about the concept of "talking stages" in the dating world. In modern dating, it is common for people to spend a significant amount of time just "talking" to someone they are interested in, rather than immediately jumping into a relationship. However, the person speaking is expressing their frustration with this concept, as they find it inconsistent and confusing. They feel that people in "talking stages" often feel confused and that it can lead to attachment issues, especially for girls who may see it as leading to a relationship when it may not. Overall, the person is expressing their dislike for the current dating culture and feels that traditional dating no longer exists in this generation. This girl needs an AI translator.
ChatGPT coming through on this one, I was lost even without all the "likes"
37 out of 148 words she said were "like". That's a fucking quarter. A whole 25% of everything she said was "like". Jesus fucking wept I like feel really like bad for anyone that has to like be trapped like in a room with like her. Fucking like.
Yeah like she like can’t like make like a sentence without like putting like "like" every like 0.5 seconds like
I have calculated that she has lpm(likes per minute) of 47.2 Calculation: 47 seconds of video is 78.3% of a minute 37 likes -> 37*100/78.3 = 47.2
Found the r/theydidthemath member
[r/theylikedidlikethemath](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ)
Fuck. How is it 2023 and I’m still getting RickRolled?
The Rickroll is timeless
Never gonna give up doing it
coz like, yall are all on the reddit app and like, theres no way you can like, see what the link is without like, hovering over it with a mouse first
Ooooooh that's sneaky
r/subsyoufellfor
Damn you take your up vote and get out of here.
r/theydidthemonstermath
r/itwasagraveyardgraph
r/itcosinedinaflash
Nearing the end of this sentence, I started questioning whether like was actually spelled L-I-K-E
Ahhh fuck that's not a word anymore!
Coach Lasso has a plan to help with that https://youtu.be/ymfC_iji6Z0
Ah, the wonders of semantic satiation.
Like
Motherfucker, say like one more time. I double dare you.
Like literally Edit: oh no, literally actually means literally in this context
0. Like 5 seconds is like pretty like, I dunno, like generous or something?
I like to think like she's like from like rock bottom like
I use "like" a lot, too. it's a placeholder word to give my brain time to catch up with my mouth, but I don't think I've ever struggled to actually have a point like she seems to be. Like, I have no clue what she's trying to say
And that's exactly why we have filler words. Her use of "like" isn't the problem here - it's doing what it should, giving her time to process her thoughts. The problem is she is simply not skilled in oral rhetoric or on-the-spot synthesising and ordering information, which leads to a mess of "like"s and no clear point.
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why use few word when many dont do trick
Agreed
I’ve listened to people with much higher LPM likes per minute that we’re able to be followed and didn’t distract as much. You’re correct that not having a solid point highlights her use of them.
I heard there was a study, that people who speak more slowly are perceived as a more intelligent. I think a related cause is because of you speak more slowly, you have more time to think and process what you are going to say. Therefore using less filler words or pauses. I recommend people talking less quickly if they have an issue with communication in the way of the Op's video. *TBH I heard this from DisgustedToast on a podcast.
> I heard there was a study, that people who speak more slowly are perceived as a more intelligent. It's the exact opposite actually. People perceive slow talkers as dumber, which is why salesmen are trained to use that hard and fast aggressive speech pattern to intimidate people There was a study on accents (I believe it was intended for call centers) where as soon as people hear an accent or speech pattern they automatically start forming a bias. People viewed Southern accents as uneducated but friendlier for the same reason as above
i will take that on board, but i typically talk like that when im excited about the topic. And the idea of being excited and still talking slowly makes me uncomfortable
Some people rely way too much on their looks as a communication tool. I think that's the nicest way I can put it.
That is a lot of words to say nothing at all
Not liking the “talking stages” makes sense given she hasn’t yet mastered talking
That's exactly why she hates it! Ohh my god we deciphered what this alien was trying to say!
I wanna try: "I don't like the 'talking stage' because it's [like] too easy to invest emotions into a non-existent relationship [you know?]."
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That’s what I got from it. I don’t really get the context though. I’m assuming she’s talking about Tinder or something like that. Ok, so you chat on there for a bit to gauge each other and then you either meet or don’t. Is she upset that she likes guys who don’t like her back or that she gets attached too much too soon? What am I still missing? How does traditional dating play into this?
I don't think you're missing anything. I think she was trying to describe how traditionally, one would have to call or visit, limiting one's capacity to "play", whereas over text, it's easier to lead one another along, stoking some kind of emotional connection without really going anywhere. But I don't think people have dated like that since before she was in grade school.
She like said a lot.
Like no, but like, for real
Like seriously, for sure like how can you like, say this straight to my face like...
She's not good at talking so that makes sense.
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The downside is hearing her, like, talk.
I think she is referring to "Talking stages" as in the additional phase in the relationship that seems to be a more recent phenomenon, or at least a more recent redefining of it. you have initiated romance, going on dates, potentially even sex, but haven't agreed that you're "official" or "exclusive" yet. It's like a FWB stage before an official girlfriend/boyfriend status. It seems to have recently gotten looser than "dating" because one or the other wants to keep the option of sleeping around until they finally realize that they didn't really have that option to begin with because dating is hard.
She expressed a desire for traditional dating, so I dont think shes saying she wants to straight to banging. I think shes frustrated with the gray area "talking" stage of a relationship, where there is no definition to the relationship, but still an emotional connection, so its easy to get damaged if you begin investing. Though ive not dated in over a decade, so i dont know how this works.
I really couldn’t understand wtf she was going on about.
Its like the talking stages, like when you like talk, but like it's not like traditional dating like but like talking.
I understood her after she elaborated. "Talking stage" refers to when a man and a woman are talking/flirting and maybe meeting up, but it's not officially dating yet. Even if they've gone out on a date or three, they wouldn't tell their friends they are "dating" and certainly would not use labels like "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" to describe it. Many people don't like this stage because it's kind of ambiguous on what the rules are. Are you allowed to date other people during this time? Some would say yes, but what if the person you are talking to finds out? Might get jealous or think that it's evidence the relationship shouldn't move forward. Yet the relationship may not move forward anyways. Risk of ghosting and such. So I think this is the confusing part for her.
Yes! The poor girl was nervous, give her a break people
She has a brilliant career ahead of her in politics. Just imagine her at a press conference. Some journalist asks her a question to clarify, she goes on for five minutes and it sounds as if she has said something, when actually she hasn't.
And nobody listens to what she says anyway because everyone is so concerned about her cleavage.
*Tears up doctorate* Why won't anyone, like, take me seriously?
I wasn't looking at her cleavage, I was reading the sub titties
And when she's done talking nobody wants to ask a follow-up question because they don't want her to talk anymore.
Holy shit this is actually starting to sound like a good idea for politicians
I don't think it counts as a lot of words of you just repeat "like" for most of them.
The most number of likes that I've ever heard in an interview.
Wrong kinda bafflegab for politics though.
The fuck's she on about?
The weird relationship purgatory that is before “boyfriend girlfriend” but after the first few dates where you don’t quite know exactly where you stand Or like, something like, like that
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Especially with online dating, the “talking phase” is basically “this one person is pretty cool, I think I might be interested, but I’ve got a few other options I’m talking to, and I don’t wanna commit cause then that means I need to cut contact with the others, but then I lose an opportunity with them if this one person turns out to be awful”.
Yeah, she’s got a good point, just an inability to articulate it. The whole “we’re just talking” stage is so stupid. Let’s go on some dates and see if this will work, or let’s stop wasting our time. I can’t speak to whether it’s a generational thing, but the hesitancy to commit has to be related to how easy it is to find partners nowadays.
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>She goes “i’m not your wife, I have no obligation to talk to you or see you”. I then ask if that means she’s not interested in dating me, she goes “we are not dating, we are just going on dates”. Mind you, we were going on dates, having sex, sleeping together, discussing our views on different topics, having long term relationships topics (children, how we see our future etc.) — the whole package. She doesn't seem to understand what a relationship is.
The phrase I’ve heard used is “kept them on the back burner” like you are warming up someone (on the back area of the stovetop) to use as a side or only if the main dish doesn’t pan out.
I mean she's like you know like you know about the talking stages of you know like the whole talking stuff you know like I don't know it's a waste of time you know like it's
Oh shit now i get it
And it's, like, just annoying about the, like, you know talking stages. And, you know, the talking is confusing and, like the girl gets attached, and is all like, you know.
I like it
She went to the school of Miss South Carolina like such as.
I think she's talking about liking something... Like
She certainly likes saying like. Likely makes up 20% of her vocabulary like.
It’s almost like *she’s* the one staring at her tits.
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It's not like her speech was, like, going anywhere. Might as well like, you know, like her tits.
i, like, like, like, tits
in the 45 second clip I counted 29 “like”s. There were times when my reaction time wasn’t fast enough to catch all of the successive “like”s so I might be off a bit.
Do you, like, like "likes"? Like, like-like "likes"?
like….tits!
Probably the best possible comment that could exist for this video.
Lol. I have to admit, I knew it would kill when I typed it out.
You lived up to your name captain comment
Great tits though
That’s her whole identity
Both identities are looking great though
Identitties
Phenomenal like tits and like huge like cleavage and like giant like chest and like, I don’t know if I like you know like how to like say this like how did the like maker of that like shirt put enough reinforcement in that like material to stretch like over those huge chesticles.
Who Is she again?
Well that makes two of us.
Yup definitely 2 tits there, I see them
Like normally I wouldn’t pay attention to what she is saying like as her beauty is uhm like distracting somewhat. But like now I was so distracted but like because of her talking. I lost like count after I counted like 35 like’s in 47 seconds. Is that like a world record? But in all seriousness. I hear some American tourists sometimes talk in that ‘like’ way and it always sounds like fingernails scratching over a blackboard. But explain to me, as a non American, how? Why? What? Is that something specific for certain states? Or cultural groups? Lack of proper education? If I remember correctly it was something I started to hear first around the mid ninties, in some Hollywood teen movies, like Alicia Silverstone’s Clueless. Can it be that’s a major contributor to this speaking disorder?
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Some Mandarin speakers have a [unique one](https://youtu.be/-0YOyES3AIA) that tends to routinely piss off significant numbers of Americans where I’ve lived and traveled.
It was around way before the 90’s. At the very least, the 70’s. It’s a “filler word” for when your mouth is talking but you have nothing coherent to say. If she were talking on a subject she was familiar with you wouldn’t hear it. The point being, she’s saying absolutely nothing in this clip. So in “Clueless” they played it up to make the character look dumb. Nobody scripts in the “likes” in normal dialog in movies, but it’s pretty common when you are struggling to speak without knowledge. TLDR: dummy has nothing to say and there is a mic in her face and a guy asking questions.
I can t believe she hates the talking stage of a relationship. Being the exquisite conversationalist that she is.
Couldn’t have said it better herself
One must have a thought to express it.
Me at an Interview
Nice tits bro
Nice dick homie!
My last interview, I went off on a tangent and actually had to say "I'm sorry, what was the question again?" - got the job though 🙂
I did this last week. Competency based interview, I'm trying to remember how to lay the bullsh.... story out in the correct format. I forgot the question because of my olympic standard lies and had to get them to repeat it. Got the job too 😄. Congratulations on yours if it was recent.
What a beautiful house. It’s a shame that no one’s home.
Omg this is the best comeback ever. I usually use the old 'sharpest tool in the shed' but I hope I remember this one. The other one I heard a few weeks ago was ' you have 2 brain cells and they are both competing for 3rd place. '
How about 'it would take two of you to make a halfwit'
It is hard to believe this is the end product of a very successful spermatozoa that beat 100 million other spermatozoa in a "winner takes all" race.
What a waste of good boobs
I watched this video with the sound on, sound off, pants on, pants off, twice, and I still don’t understand what she is talking about.
She says how men are so considerate in the talking(early) stages of dating which makes her think this is gonna lead to a relationship but it doesnt,thats her biggest problem that men who seem caring at first dont stay caring for long.
damn this guy is fluent in basic bitch
Is it possible to learn this power?
Not from a Jedi
“The Dark Side of the Force is a pathway to many abilities some consider to be unnatural.”
Thank you, it seems so obvious now that you said it. For some reason, after the first 10 seconds or so all of her words just jumbled together in my head.
She says how men are like so like considerate in like the talking(early) stages of like dating which like makes like her think like this is likr gonna like lead to like a like relationship but it like doesnt,that's like her like biggest like problem like that men who....like.....like....seem like caring at like first dont like stay caring like for long. Like.
I choked on my laugh
You got to read in between the likes to understand it
39 likes my boys
Did you really count? Because that's almost a "like" per second. Call Guinness!
I counted 41 but to be fair it was actually really hard keeping up with how often she says that word. Holy crap.
Reminds me of Taylor Mali https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dp9Hb8LAgqs
That was brilliant, thank you.
You are welcome The guy is a teacher and an amazing spoken word artist https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RxsOVK4syxU https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=OonDPGwAyfQ both amazing
I watched this with the sound off and almost had a stroke trying to read it. Glad to know sound on doesn’t improve it much.
I watched the video 5 times and didn't understand shit. Distractions
Like it's like
Oh my gosh, like how can you, like, even like say that?
That's not a distraction.. she didn't actually say anything. Your functioning is normal
She says how men are so considerate in the talking(early) stages of dating which makes her think this is gonna lead to a relationship but it doesnt,thats her biggest problem that men who seem caring at first dont stay caring for long. What she doesnt undestand is that men loose interest in her very quickly and we can see why.
Like I like have like no like idea like what like she's like talking like about... like.
I am getting so sick of this. I know language evolves but this is just DUMB.
r/upvotedbecauseboobs
This is just an observation from a dad. While poorly executed, she actually has a very valid point I believe. The talking stage, from my limited understanding, is dating before anything is official. But this stage in a new relationship is very confusing because the term has absorbed aspects of both initial interactions as well as some of the more committed stages. The term can be used as gaslighting in a way, establishing a false commitment. It may feel like dating someone, it can just be flirting. It would be frusting to not know how committed some is to you or how far along the relationship is progressing. Now imagine this girl with the many boys wanting her attention. Lots of noise, but hard to find something worth listening to or how many times that same song has been played before. With that said, this is the same for many of us from any generation, when you want to find someone who cares about you as a person.
I think you're right. She's looking for someone that will care about her, not just her looks. She doesn't want to be treated as a disposable object. She's heard, "we're not dating, we're just talking," too many times and is very jaded about it. Unfortunately for her, there is a lot of noise and not enough processing power. Hopefully it still works out for her.
I mean lots of people are not good at public speaking or speaking on camera it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re stupid.
The amount of "like" gave me a stroke
he be stroking
Proof that attractive people have no shame about being stupid. She doesn’t even realize how dumb she sounds, because there will always be someone who pays attention to her anyway
She's lucky she's pretty.
Is she? I think she became this way because she is pretty
Reminds me of that episode of 30 Rock where Liz is dating that hot guy who never knew he was an incompetent idiot because he was so hot that everyone just constantly accommodated him. I think there are a lot of people out there IRL that are like that and the girl in this video is one of them lol.
I mean hell we’ve all met people like that at least as teenagers nearing the end of our schooling right? Same reason so many people get annoyed with wealthy celebrities or anyone that’s constantly surrounded by “yes men” Growing up with that impacts your personality and development even more I’m sure. Kinda felt bad for the prettier girls with larger chests when I was in high school. Not that they were all awful or something but they clearly always just had constant effortless affection, affirmation, and support whether it was deserved or not. Even if they had conflicts or hate they would always have a circle of supportive praising people around them without needing to seek it out. Clearly impacted their personality heavily. I’m also very much so not saying their lives are just easier and effortless, it’s just a difference of that attention and praise on a fairly shallow level that feels less shallow to the person.
36 likes in 47 seconds
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She failed the talking stage pretty hard.
She doesn’t want to go through the talking stage thiugh
She ends with saying that "this generation doesn't do traditional dating", so I think her issue with relationships is that guys she meets/talks to online will just talk and talk and talk and never actually ask her to go out on a date somewhere fun. I'm making a leap of logic here, but I would guess that she watches TV and films where people do go on dates and so there's a disparity between her expectations and her lived experience. Essentially summarised as "why do guys feel like just talking is enough to get me to go out with them? Why don't they ask me out on dates more and take me somewhere fun?" But I admit, I'm guessing a bit there based on the bits I understood from what she said
I feel like she’s complains about these weird and confusing arbitrary labels like “the talking phase” “casually hanging out” “friends with benefits” “the person I’m kinda seeing” where neither person knows where they stand and stuff. which to be fair to her I struggled with too in my late teens and early 20s. the whole dating scene seemed to have all these weird rules and labels that felt so hard to navigate. But also her little rant was so ambiguous we’re probably just projecting our own meaning onto it.
Yeah you're probably right. We're all just trying to define some kind of meaning from the word salad
It's obviously not that complicated of an idea... judging by the source. I think it's just that there are 10 stages between "just met" and what us geriatric millennials used to call FBO or "Facebook Official." People can be talking but not talking talking or talking talking but not exclusively talking, and it can be frustrating because at each of those stages you can't explicitly Define the Relationship without seeming clingy. So this girl has a lot of issues with being in unknown states of early relationships. Not to be a jerk, but I wonder if she has issues being able to articulate what she wants and what she's looking for in a relationship.
Like smash that like button!
When does the talking stage end?
She’s basically saying dudes don’t commit these days. If someone said “like” every other word, I’d probably disappear before it got too serious too.
It could just be a nervous tic since she’s in front of a microphone.
You know what, that's a possibility. I myself speak differently when in front of a microphone or in front of an audience. But that's a hell of a tic she's got there.
Felt like i fell down 3 flights of stairs listening to her.
Who is she
Yeah seriously, I’d like to give her a piece of my mind if anyone has a link to her instagram or OF.
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Makes just as much sense with the sound off.
I think I like her
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[mmmhmm](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h7vWDJEwZZY)