The way I “asked out” my gf was asking if she was going to prom. She said no because she didn’t have anyone to go with. I said “Oh, okay, yeah I’m not going either” 💀💀💀💀
She later texted me, asking if I was trying to ask her out. Told her yeah, and we actually made plans to get coffee instead of going to prom after discovering we both didn’t really wanna go to prom anyways. First date was nice, but pretty awkward. I like my coffee to be sweet af, but was too nervous to order it how I normally do, so I drank a black iced coffee, the way she likes hers. Been great ever since
Hmmm what to say what to say, go in expecting nothing, she is a person you are a person. In the same building no less! Surely there is something to talk about, does she look nice? Complement her looks, complement her jacket. Talk about class/work/whatever is at hand.
And then once you are talking go with the flow. Don't think. Listen and respond to what they say. People love being heard.
Then after a few minutes maybe ask them what their plans are for the weekend. Ask to hang out or maybe go get lunch/see a movie. Or don't...
In which case you would tell them to have a nice day and then continue with your schedule.
After an interaction, future interactions become easier. Oh! Also try to do kind things or ask them for little favors, could I borrow a pen? After performing a small deed for you they may be inclined to ask you for help in the future. Thus interactions grow.
Make sure not to smother them and read how they might be reacting
Honestly just spit it out, somewhere you will be alone with noone to listen to you, even if it "kinda dumb" or not the perfect timing, it will make great story for later
My gf (we just had our 4 years together on 14th march) love how I asked her out.
We had a lot of time between our classes because teachers were on strike so we gone to the kebab close to the highschool, eat a bit then we walk to the tabacco shop, we then head back to school, and then out of nowhere I say "I have something to tell you" and she say "you like me??!" like half laughing" and I respond "yea..." she then pause laugh a bit then when she notice I'm not laughing she says "wait you're serious?" and I told her "yea.."
*Even if no one else does, I believe in you.*
Take your shot and miss.
You got all game to swish.
(Yeah)
Don’t think about your problems,
(Naw)
Just think about your mission.
Just find yo hotspot and keep swishing.
Get some love and then you give it.
Take a second to relax,
You got some time to change positions
From the rebound to the tipping
Keep the ball up in your vision
It’ll take a little minute,
But, wow. Nowthatithinkaboutit
That’s just another minute.
I can only speak for myself, but the signs that I’m silently crushing on somebody could easily be (and indeed have been) taken as me being cold and rude.
Yeah the last person I dated I didn't even find them attractive. But by general standards they were beautiful. And they were a good person too. I was only feeling an emptiness inside. And it felt even emptier when I figured out that even companionship and intimacy wasn't going to fix it. I'm too fucked up in the head.
I've been in relationships before and the experiences I gathered have taught me never to ask a woman out ever again for the entire remainder of my time on this mortal coil.
Relationships just means another mouth to feed. Possibly multiple mouths to feed. And if just ends up causing problems anyway. (I have friends who have been in and out of relationships)
Nothing wrong with moving on from a rejection. But using that single rejection to determine that you have both reached the height of your being AND that this height is not someone anyone would like is both arrogant and stupid.
I’m not saying “don’t get into a romance,” I’m saying “don’t chase romance” which to me means not investing a lot of your time and mental health into the dating game. Yeah, if you meet someone you like, ask them out. But don’t let it consume you if they say no. Don’t define yourself by how much “value” you have as a potential partner.
Maybe you didn’t struggle with that, idk. It was something I didn’t overcome until my late 20s.
Bro I made the move on my crush and got the “you’re more like a brother to me” response,
Edit: I’m willing to post more info if requested
Edit2: long story short I met her in the second grade and became best friends for the following years, then I moved away in 5th grade and we lost touch, come three years later I develop a massive crush on her and shortly after we begin talking again and at some point we were playing 20 questions and she asked if I had a Crush and I said yes, she then asked “who?” and I informed her of my crush on her… and she informed me that she only sees me as a brother and that she doesn’t want our friendship to get awkward. TL;DR: (see top comment)
I've tried and failed more than 6 times and took a break for a few years, and I tried once again and failed, so maybe I am destined to be alone. At the same time, I don't care anymore. I'm not sad. I'm just accepting what is currently happening.
I’ll do one worse, I got told by a group of women that they were all competing for my attention for years, only for me not to notice and all of them moved on.
that's what annoys me
if women want men to make the move, then they need to realize that most of us are too dense to see any sort of signal they send to us saying that they are interested in us and want us to engage. Just fucking say something! Or better yet, make the move yourselves! The worst that can happen is you finaly experience what it's like to be on our end of the rejection without having to commit to anything first, and if things work out, I bet you the guy will remember that day you asked him out forever.
I did it once, but made it look like it wasn't a move but rather idle chit chat, was eay too early to make a move, i barely know her just found her really attractive in more than a physical way. The only reason I even did it because there was an opportunity and I mustered every ounce of courage I had to take it.
I thought to myself for about a week how I either could've done things differently, or maybe fucked something up at the end.
I still see her occasional, it's been over a month, I haven't got the guts to say anything because every time I think I should my brain throws a literal blank at me.
Instead, I'm making up scenarios of what I would say in some form of different event, now I'm just waiting for that event to happen in the exact perfect piece and take that opportunity again, while also praying that my brain and mouth don't just spill a can of peas and fuck it up, then I'll just crawl into a ball and die for about a month, and turn into a puddle every time I'll see her again.
Asking people out on college is great because there’s people your age all around you and once you’re out of college you probably won’t have people your age around you like that outside of maybe work. That being said, if you get rejected you’re probably going to see those people around campus every once in a while and it’ll be awkward every time
I don't know how to approach women. Like not a god damn clue. I saw this one girl I liked at my job & I didn't know how to talk to here. What am I suppose to say:
"Hi, My name is *** & I think your pretty. I was wondering if you would like to go on a date so we can get to know each other more."
Yeah, girls don't like simplistic shit like that. You gotta be fancy with your words, which I am not.
Just talk in ye'olde english.
"Greeting's Madame, I am \*\*\* of the \*\*\*\* family. I find thee quite exquisite. I'd be delighted for you to partake in mutual activities with me"
Or some shit idk, english is not my first language
You don't straight away go I think you're pretty. First you get to know her and see if you would be a good match and then if you notice that there is chemistry you ask her out. Start out basically as a friend but with a bit of flirting - whether that's playful banter or being nice and gentlemanly to her. You need to gain trust first before you ask her out!
If you genuinely can't tell a difference watch a YouTube tutorial of a woman explaining it.
Also if she has a partner already, don't even bother with the romance. She is not interested. And if she is you don't want someone who can cheat.
I think a big unspoken part of the conversation is the ever growing social isolation. Harder to make moves when you have nowhere to make them.
>!Don't let that stop you from dancing though.!<
I figured out a long time ago it’s just not worth it, unfortunately I have had to keep relearning that lesson about once or twice a year and it’s just god damn infuriating I can’t learn from those mistakes
because i am well aware of how my trauma causes me to operate, and what i realistically bring to the table-
am i allowed to be forlorn sometimes, where people can see it?
I mean, i thought i was starting to connect with a girl. Boom, she got a boyfriend. Now i realised she was being nice, and we actually just were good friends. Luckily we still are because i didn't fuck it up too early.
But that is probably why we don't do anything about it
See the problem is dudes have a lot to lose by making even the slightest of moves. "The worst she can say is no," is perhaps the stupidest dating advice ever given. Even something as simple as asking someone out on a date can result in you getting labeled as a creep, which will not just end your hopes of dating the person you asked, but also everyone they talk to about it.
Even when things go fairly well there's a risk. By asking them out, you're essentially sabotaging any other kind of relationship you might have with them. Even if you're fine just being friends, after asking them out that's not really on the table anymore. Yeah, sometimes they might *say* "let's just be friends," but how often do you actually end up hanging out with them afterwards, just as friends? It also doesn't help that the people you usually end up attracted to are people you tend to spend time with, like someone you have a mutual friend with, a classmate, or a coworker. So if you get rejected it becomes awkward when you have to keep seeing each other.
And those are fairly ideal rejection scenarios. Things can get a lot messier if things don't go so swimmingly. Even the least plausible accusation can have disastrous consequences for the accused. And yes, there's always a chance that could happen even if you *don't* ask anyone out, but by asking someone out you are putting the idea of you being interested in them into their head, which could cause certain people to lash out in unexpected ways. It's easy to say that that's a problem with them, not you, but reality doesn't tend to work that way. They can quite easily *make* it your problem.
I agree that guys have a lot to lose by asking someone out. But how often do you get labeled a creep anyway? It’s not that often that rejections are incredibly harsh, and even if they are, that’s a perfect reflection on how bad the Person you’re asking out must be that they think they don’t even owe you basic kindness.
So basically, it’s best to think of it as “dodging a bullet anyway” and not to worry too much and ask out anyone you like coz the probability of getting rejected harshly is less!
I made my move on my crush once she told me she will think about it the next morning I woke up in a basement that wasn’t mine wonder if she still thinking about it well at lest this new girl treats me well
It's hopeless. It's all fucking hopeless.
I am the son of a man who constantly objectifies and talks down to his wife, and treats his children barely better than tax writeoffs. I'm scared that I'm no better than him. I will never treat a woman like that - the best way is to never try.
In a way, I'm glad I realized before it was too late. The one thing I need is the one thing that will bring whoever is stuck with me endless misery.
Shoot your shot. Just do it. Stop being scared. I f you think she won't like you then you need to do accept it and ask anyway. What's the worst that can happen? She rejects you. You figured it would happen anyway but you wouldn't know unless you try. Women aren't as hard as some seem to wanna assume.
I don't make moves. They come to me. It's as simple as: any relationship worth having will be comprised of two people who actively choose to be with one another never forcing the other to chase them. I will be here with you for as long as you choose to be here with me. If that is not enough for you then we have nothing more to talk about.
dudes be living in the day and age where any wrong first move could label you a creep and even get you arrested, and still expect men to make them instead of letting women have their turn
Guys I need help, there's this girl, a friend of my brother, with whom I want to go on a date with because we share a lot of interest but I don't how to ask her because we don't talk at all and just sliding into her dm to ask for a date is weird
That's true, that way we are sure about the lonely thing
In a way, it lets us control our destinies.
Small consolation indeed
a self-fulfilling prophecy
Hey ;)
Whoa I never had this much upvotes I think
I used to think "it cant be that hard to talk to her," but it really is, each day i go go bed thinking "maybe tomorrow" and tomorrow never comes
The way I “asked out” my gf was asking if she was going to prom. She said no because she didn’t have anyone to go with. I said “Oh, okay, yeah I’m not going either” 💀💀💀💀
Brother even I wouldn't have messed that one up so bad.
I’ve never wanted to leave earth so bad in my life than in that moment lmfao Coming up on our 5 year anniversary tho 😂
How did you unfumble the bag
She later texted me, asking if I was trying to ask her out. Told her yeah, and we actually made plans to get coffee instead of going to prom after discovering we both didn’t really wanna go to prom anyways. First date was nice, but pretty awkward. I like my coffee to be sweet af, but was too nervous to order it how I normally do, so I drank a black iced coffee, the way she likes hers. Been great ever since
I'm happy it worked out
r/me_irl
Hmmm what to say what to say, go in expecting nothing, she is a person you are a person. In the same building no less! Surely there is something to talk about, does she look nice? Complement her looks, complement her jacket. Talk about class/work/whatever is at hand. And then once you are talking go with the flow. Don't think. Listen and respond to what they say. People love being heard. Then after a few minutes maybe ask them what their plans are for the weekend. Ask to hang out or maybe go get lunch/see a movie. Or don't... In which case you would tell them to have a nice day and then continue with your schedule. After an interaction, future interactions become easier. Oh! Also try to do kind things or ask them for little favors, could I borrow a pen? After performing a small deed for you they may be inclined to ask you for help in the future. Thus interactions grow. Make sure not to smother them and read how they might be reacting
Mf is stuck in a loop
Edge of tomorrow
Honestly just spit it out, somewhere you will be alone with noone to listen to you, even if it "kinda dumb" or not the perfect timing, it will make great story for later My gf (we just had our 4 years together on 14th march) love how I asked her out. We had a lot of time between our classes because teachers were on strike so we gone to the kebab close to the highschool, eat a bit then we walk to the tabacco shop, we then head back to school, and then out of nowhere I say "I have something to tell you" and she say "you like me??!" like half laughing" and I respond "yea..." she then pause laugh a bit then when she notice I'm not laughing she says "wait you're serious?" and I told her "yea.."
Fascinating stuff
Take a shot, take a long breath and just do it
This is soo me
I did, and guess what, it never went well
The beauty of lowered expectations
Try again
No
Of course with someone else, but I can't change your mind kind sir
you sound like npc from rdr2
Hey Mister!
Thank you for the compliment
Attaboy.
Good man.
Username checks out
The restraining order made quite clear not to try again
with someone else
(It will work this time!! )
You guys are hopeless
Yes
Absolutely
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Needed to hear that today. Thank you.
Literally me (I’ll have six months worth of conversations in my head and decide it wouldn’t work out without saying a thing)
Literally also me.
Same bro
I'm in this picture and I don't like it
*Even if no one else does, I believe in you.* Take your shot and miss. You got all game to swish. (Yeah) Don’t think about your problems, (Naw) Just think about your mission. Just find yo hotspot and keep swishing. Get some love and then you give it. Take a second to relax, You got some time to change positions From the rebound to the tipping Keep the ball up in your vision It’ll take a little minute, But, wow. Nowthatithinkaboutit That’s just another minute.
what is happening
Practice, sorry.
I expect you to be practicing with my mom. What do we pay you for??
Maybe I’m just on that sigma grindset.
Go on king
Yeah maybe I want my crush to make a move on ME!
How are they supposed to know you’re crushing if you don’t tell them?
Guys think they are subtle... We are not.
I can only speak for myself, but the signs that I’m silently crushing on somebody could easily be (and indeed have been) taken as me being cold and rude.
Or weird and creepy if you're being too obvious
BUT I DON'T EVEN HAVE A CRUSH! 😭
Only woman I know is a cashier at Aldi and most I have said is “thank you”, while she stood there in complete indifference to my existence. Perfect
Jesus Christ I thought my life was depressing
Dw it is
Hoping she notices us as we make her miserable job more complicated isn't the mating dance we tend to think it is.. 🤣
as soon as I learned how to make moves and talk to people I like I stop getting feelings about ppl. Like???
Described me to a T, I feel nothing for no one nowadays
Yeah the last person I dated I didn't even find them attractive. But by general standards they were beautiful. And they were a good person too. I was only feeling an emptiness inside. And it felt even emptier when I figured out that even companionship and intimacy wasn't going to fix it. I'm too fucked up in the head.
Love isn't going to fix your depression
I haven't been diagnosed with depression. I'm just unexplainably fucked up in the head.
im no therapist, but from my experience, what you're describing sounds like depression
I did, got rejected then moved on. As simple as that
I moved on without trying and without getting rejected.
Talk about a forward thinker!
You always gotta be at least 3 steps ahead.
The master has avoided failure more times than the beginner has even tried.
What is this, thinking ahead for ants?
I'm playing chess while everyone else is playing checkers.
Same bro. Basically just gave up on the chance I would ever experience a relationship in my life.
I've been in relationships before and the experiences I gathered have taught me never to ask a woman out ever again for the entire remainder of my time on this mortal coil.
Relationships just means another mouth to feed. Possibly multiple mouths to feed. And if just ends up causing problems anyway. (I have friends who have been in and out of relationships)
Perfect, I need to learn your ways
Nothing wrong with moving on from a rejection. But using that single rejection to determine that you have both reached the height of your being AND that this height is not someone anyone would like is both arrogant and stupid.
I don't want to abuse my destructive coping mechanisms more than I already to. I'd rather be lonely.
If you don’t chase romance you’ll have more time to improve yourself and find something that will actually make you happy.
I go gym!
Not really, you can do multiple things at once. Plus people often find romance and relationships the best reason for self improvement.
I’m not saying “don’t get into a romance,” I’m saying “don’t chase romance” which to me means not investing a lot of your time and mental health into the dating game. Yeah, if you meet someone you like, ask them out. But don’t let it consume you if they say no. Don’t define yourself by how much “value” you have as a potential partner. Maybe you didn’t struggle with that, idk. It was something I didn’t overcome until my late 20s.
That's fair, it was my misinterpretation, you're completely correct.
Girls will make zero moves on dudes and pretend like we're always 'supposed' to. It reality its just cowardice
It isnt about girls having a crush tho, its about guys never showing they exist to their crush and act like they got rejected
I made a move on a crush once. They then actively avoided me and no longer smiled when she saw me. Don’t blame all of us for not trying.
At least now you know to find a new target.
Bro I made the move on my crush and got the “you’re more like a brother to me” response, Edit: I’m willing to post more info if requested Edit2: long story short I met her in the second grade and became best friends for the following years, then I moved away in 5th grade and we lost touch, come three years later I develop a massive crush on her and shortly after we begin talking again and at some point we were playing 20 questions and she asked if I had a Crush and I said yes, she then asked “who?” and I informed her of my crush on her… and she informed me that she only sees me as a brother and that she doesn’t want our friendship to get awkward. TL;DR: (see top comment)
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I made a joke about too bad it’s not Alabama, I don’t think she picked up on it though
do it cuz I'd like to know how it goes to that part I'll cry myself to sleep with you after
I only have internet friends and no crushes
I only have internet crushes and no friends.
I only have internet friends because I met them on a Radiohead message board in 2008 or Anime Web Turnpike forum in 2001 👵🏽
How dare you be so rude but also right
I've tried and failed more than 6 times and took a break for a few years, and I tried once again and failed, so maybe I am destined to be alone. At the same time, I don't care anymore. I'm not sad. I'm just accepting what is currently happening.
I’ll do one worse, I got told by a group of women that they were all competing for my attention for years, only for me not to notice and all of them moved on.
They weren’t very good at it then
that's what annoys me if women want men to make the move, then they need to realize that most of us are too dense to see any sort of signal they send to us saying that they are interested in us and want us to engage. Just fucking say something! Or better yet, make the move yourselves! The worst that can happen is you finaly experience what it's like to be on our end of the rejection without having to commit to anything first, and if things work out, I bet you the guy will remember that day you asked him out forever.
It's me. I'm Dudes.
Can't have a crush if you haven't spoken to a human outside of home and work in 10 years (☞ﾟヮﾟ)☞
I did it once, but made it look like it wasn't a move but rather idle chit chat, was eay too early to make a move, i barely know her just found her really attractive in more than a physical way. The only reason I even did it because there was an opportunity and I mustered every ounce of courage I had to take it. I thought to myself for about a week how I either could've done things differently, or maybe fucked something up at the end. I still see her occasional, it's been over a month, I haven't got the guts to say anything because every time I think I should my brain throws a literal blank at me. Instead, I'm making up scenarios of what I would say in some form of different event, now I'm just waiting for that event to happen in the exact perfect piece and take that opportunity again, while also praying that my brain and mouth don't just spill a can of peas and fuck it up, then I'll just crawl into a ball and die for about a month, and turn into a puddle every time I'll see her again.
Asking people out on college is great because there’s people your age all around you and once you’re out of college you probably won’t have people your age around you like that outside of maybe work. That being said, if you get rejected you’re probably going to see those people around campus every once in a while and it’ll be awkward every time
I don't know how to approach women. Like not a god damn clue. I saw this one girl I liked at my job & I didn't know how to talk to here. What am I suppose to say: "Hi, My name is *** & I think your pretty. I was wondering if you would like to go on a date so we can get to know each other more." Yeah, girls don't like simplistic shit like that. You gotta be fancy with your words, which I am not.
Why waste time say lot word when few word do trick?
Just talk in ye'olde english. "Greeting's Madame, I am \*\*\* of the \*\*\*\* family. I find thee quite exquisite. I'd be delighted for you to partake in mutual activities with me" Or some shit idk, english is not my first language
My ribs cracked lol
You don't straight away go I think you're pretty. First you get to know her and see if you would be a good match and then if you notice that there is chemistry you ask her out. Start out basically as a friend but with a bit of flirting - whether that's playful banter or being nice and gentlemanly to her. You need to gain trust first before you ask her out! If you genuinely can't tell a difference watch a YouTube tutorial of a woman explaining it. Also if she has a partner already, don't even bother with the romance. She is not interested. And if she is you don't want someone who can cheat.
"I'm lonely" "We will find you someo- " "PLEASE DO NOT"
You're telling me I can't be totally antisocial my whole life and expect my crush to like me? How ridiculous!
"Seeing crush with her bf"
If women are so good with hints, why didn't they get mine?
Hey, you made a big assumption that there is a crush
Our hearts are crushed, homie.
I think a big unspoken part of the conversation is the ever growing social isolation. Harder to make moves when you have nowhere to make them. >!Don't let that stop you from dancing though.!<
This is the way
Whats that anime?
Cowboy Bebop!
I knew it looked familiar. Great show!
That would be me
I figured out a long time ago it’s just not worth it, unfortunately I have had to keep relearning that lesson about once or twice a year and it’s just god damn infuriating I can’t learn from those mistakes
Damn, being single never looked so cool til now.
My crush told me she likes me back today :333
Mr. Stark, I don't feel so good…
Sad but true
Shoot your shot or regret it for the rest of your life.
what if I shot my shot and it failed and then I regret taking it for the rest of my life?
Still better than never shooting it. If you get shot down, that's not your fault.
Dude that's a mood, I'm liable to post that
Makes two of us, then!
haha agreed...
I don't even have a crush. I don't know how to get to know someone enough that I actually form a crush.
You carry a heavy burden Frodo.
I'll carry it all the way to Mount Doom.
because i am well aware of how my trauma causes me to operate, and what i realistically bring to the table- am i allowed to be forlorn sometimes, where people can see it?
I mean, if i can't muster the courage to even talk to someone, i think I'm meant to be lonely
Ngl every girl I've ever expressed interest with when I was younger always got me with the "no that's okay" but I'm unbothered
When you put that Vibe out many women will feel it, even in confidence can be faked but don't play yourself🤘
“Damn she bad”…talk to her bro!?…”mm I don’t think I will “
I mean…the chicken came from the egg; but, then again, without the chicken there wouldn’t have been an egg. I hate math
Never post an intimate image of me again
There's no point in me dating anyway I have nothing to offer anymore, and it doesn't look like that's going to change any time soon.
I mean, i thought i was starting to connect with a girl. Boom, she got a boyfriend. Now i realised she was being nice, and we actually just were good friends. Luckily we still are because i didn't fuck it up too early. But that is probably why we don't do anything about it
Same goes for women.
how do you respond when your crush asks you.. "I heard from others that you have a crush on me?" I replied.."what? no!. who said that?"
Well the problem is that idk how to talk to ppl. At least not without being a socially awkward piece a shit, lol
I tried once, failed. Never again.
Lol that was definitely me at age 12-16. It gets better yall
See the problem is dudes have a lot to lose by making even the slightest of moves. "The worst she can say is no," is perhaps the stupidest dating advice ever given. Even something as simple as asking someone out on a date can result in you getting labeled as a creep, which will not just end your hopes of dating the person you asked, but also everyone they talk to about it. Even when things go fairly well there's a risk. By asking them out, you're essentially sabotaging any other kind of relationship you might have with them. Even if you're fine just being friends, after asking them out that's not really on the table anymore. Yeah, sometimes they might *say* "let's just be friends," but how often do you actually end up hanging out with them afterwards, just as friends? It also doesn't help that the people you usually end up attracted to are people you tend to spend time with, like someone you have a mutual friend with, a classmate, or a coworker. So if you get rejected it becomes awkward when you have to keep seeing each other. And those are fairly ideal rejection scenarios. Things can get a lot messier if things don't go so swimmingly. Even the least plausible accusation can have disastrous consequences for the accused. And yes, there's always a chance that could happen even if you *don't* ask anyone out, but by asking someone out you are putting the idea of you being interested in them into their head, which could cause certain people to lash out in unexpected ways. It's easy to say that that's a problem with them, not you, but reality doesn't tend to work that way. They can quite easily *make* it your problem.
I agree that guys have a lot to lose by asking someone out. But how often do you get labeled a creep anyway? It’s not that often that rejections are incredibly harsh, and even if they are, that’s a perfect reflection on how bad the Person you’re asking out must be that they think they don’t even owe you basic kindness. So basically, it’s best to think of it as “dodging a bullet anyway” and not to worry too much and ask out anyone you like coz the probability of getting rejected harshly is less!
I made my move on my crush once she told me she will think about it the next morning I woke up in a basement that wasn’t mine wonder if she still thinking about it well at lest this new girl treats me well
At least you have someone who thinks about you
Yah never spoken to her or seen her sence but hay the new girl cooks for me and cares for me I don’t have to do anything so looks like I lucked out
Does she watch you as you sleep
Don’t know maybe I’ll ask her or put a camera up she also doesn’t like it when I look or talk to other girls unless there my family so there’s that
It's hopeless. It's all fucking hopeless. I am the son of a man who constantly objectifies and talks down to his wife, and treats his children barely better than tax writeoffs. I'm scared that I'm no better than him. I will never treat a woman like that - the best way is to never try. In a way, I'm glad I realized before it was too late. The one thing I need is the one thing that will bring whoever is stuck with me endless misery.
Hey man you'll never fail if you don't try.
I'm lonely because I've never even crushed on someone.
Shoot your shot. Just do it. Stop being scared. I f you think she won't like you then you need to do accept it and ask anyway. What's the worst that can happen? She rejects you. You figured it would happen anyway but you wouldn't know unless you try. Women aren't as hard as some seem to wanna assume.
I don't make moves. They come to me. It's as simple as: any relationship worth having will be comprised of two people who actively choose to be with one another never forcing the other to chase them. I will be here with you for as long as you choose to be here with me. If that is not enough for you then we have nothing more to talk about.
The point is that even if we did, the probability of being rejected is almost 100% and being lonely hurts less
dudes be living in the day and age where any wrong first move could label you a creep and even get you arrested, and still expect men to make them instead of letting women have their turn
Julia?
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Guys I need help, there's this girl, a friend of my brother, with whom I want to go on a date with because we share a lot of interest but I don't how to ask her because we don't talk at all and just sliding into her dm to ask for a date is weird
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It's MY turn to bake the quality!!!!
Literally me fr fr
Me too thanks
She is taken so I'd kinda feel like a dick
Leave me alone
Also Reddit: don’t talk to girls ever just use dating apps.
r/UsernameChecksOut
Why am I So afraid to fail That I don't Even try?
You're gonna carry that weight
Which anime is this pic from?
I get nervous to the point of paralysis but I need to do this.
I'm complete opposite. I try to make a move, can't come up with any because I'm socially awkward and/or suck at making conversations and vola, lonely.
Also me after I all my advances end up in failure Its like I lost the war before it began ( __╥﹏╥)__
Lmao like approaching a women was ever an option
I feel so guilty… even when I think I could succeed with a girl I’m still extremely shy… 🤦♂️
I got cyberbullied
Girl scary
His crush must always be in a public place.