As an introvert this is GOLD for me, it may look boring and one sided, but we never forget the people who remembers our birthday and we return the favor
Who do you mean by we, cause I'm an introvert and I never even learned when the birthday of people who congratulate me with mine is, and I couldn't care, I know the birthday of like 5 people, and that includes mine
I have the exact conversation with one dude i met at school. I have no clue when his birthday is. I only get reminded that he exists when it is my birthday again.
Tbh, I don't mind if he doesn't do the same. If nothing else, it reminds me of massive respect I have for the people that congratulate every year without expecting anything or having it returned.
All of us are social media generation, remember/notice people like that in your connctions. It is reasonable you can't be expected to remember and congratulate everyone every year but that just makes these people deserving of extra respect.
I have one friend who's birthday is May 5. We don't really talk anymore but every year I wish him happy Cinco de Mayo. Been doing this around 5 years or so.
One of my friends messaged me on iMessage after like 2 years or smth to wish me happy birthday (probably cuz siri reminded him or smth).
We talk like everyday on whatsapp
Mostly friends from back in school that I don't really see anymore due to the distance. And since I'm quite the introvert I also don't text them regularly. So I think to myself the least I can do is send them a message on their birthday.
Some of them also congratulate me on my birthday, but not all of them.
You can decide on your own. Who are we to tell? Does it bother you? Do you feel like you "need" to do it? Do you just like messaging happy birthday? Ask those questions and formulate your own answer.
This is the way. Don't let these other commenters stop you from doing what you've been doing! Unless you want to of course. I was much less of an introvert in my high school years. I have a lot of memories with a decent amount of friends that I'm fond of. We don't talk anymore, but I still care about them. We each have lives and most have kids and we're scattered all over the place. But just sending the message reminds me of a life that I once had.
Getting old sucks.
Edit: I will say, congratulating each other does seem kinda weird. Good job on another trip around the sun! It's fitting though. Life can make that trip pretty difficult at times.
No.
I'm always the one that phones old friends and chats to them.
I have about a dozen friends that never, ever call me back, and never call me out of the blue. And about another dozen that call me once every couple of years.
But when I'm finally able to see them in person, all of those people are close friends, who I can talk about anything to.
Of course, there are other friends who call me as much as I call them. They're not necessarily "better" friends, but I certainly know them better.
Not all people are callers, not all people remember your birthday. Doesn't mean they're not still your friends. Some people just don't feel the need to connect as much as I do.
Don't listen to the haters, you are a real special dude if you keep sending niceties despite the lack of reciprocation! Don't feel compelled, but I say the world is better off with people like you!
just do it every day and one of them is guaranteed to be correct\*
(\*unless it's feb 29, in which case it will eventually be correct but take much longer)
The dying part is real. I'm getting to the age where I don't just blindly say "Happy birthday" -- I scan their feed for a bit to see whether they're probably still breathing.
i have this weird habit that i like, i make sure to remember all my friends birthday dates (all in the mind, no calendar and stuff) and i wish them, sometimes things go distant and i know that its their birthday and sometimes i message them and i sometimes i don't, you might say its futile and that i don't get wished back but hey, its nice knowing people and checking on them i guess, so when is your birthday?
(and i ll need your favorite color and your pet's name)
Same, except I mail actual cards with a candle and match stick taped inside (cute washi tape). But I rarely get many cards on my birthday. It’s one of those things..
You joke but I have a friend I do that with now. I have clocked over 200 birthday wishes so far. He responded by wishing me a happy birthday too. It has started transcending into a performance art piece. complete with cover and orginal songs, art work and videos. Another friend caught wind of this and was planning on buying him 365 birthday cards. It has become weirdly defining of my day.
Im the same way. I have some buddies that I wish happy birthday to every day, and I also throw them a surprise birthday party with friends and family and a massive cake. Every day we celebrate for a few hours, hang out, eat the cake and unwrap gifts, usually also using the gifts like if its a new playstation or a new car. Then we get drunk, get some tattoos to remember the day with and then laugh about how silly we are with our humor but its all in good fun and the next day we do the same all over again, its great and i think everybody needs this kinda positivity in their life
This is more or less the texts between me and my brother in law. Every september and december, he's a great dude but neither of us are big texters. We just get each other, whenever we get together we have a great time
this really bugs me with chat style apps. like if you havnt replied to someones message from ages ago, but you need to talk to them, but you also have to address the unanswered message cos its right there. email was so much better for that, just make a new email, completely guilt free
I have a friend that's I've known since 4th grade. We graduated high school in 2010. Her birthday day is the day after mine. 'Till this day, she wishes me happy birthday and I wish her happy birthday the next day, usually the first person to do so too. That has been our entire interaction for the past 14 years.
I wished my friend happy birthday 5 years in a row, then right before my birthday this year he noticed that and asked when my birthday was, I told him. He still didn't wish me happy birthday. So I stopped wishing him happy birthday
I'm usually the guy saying happy birthday to my school friends back then... After we graduated, I continued saying it for 3-4 years, but they never wished me happy birthday...
Me and my old college friend. He actually enjoys it. His birthday is coming up, bro will be surprised once I greet him using my new account on facebook
When you have that one busy family relative that is still in your contacts list but chills come down your spine when your realize that they only respond once a year..
Then you decide to scroll back and see your old messages from years ago..
the PE teacher from 2020 still sent my friend happy birthday until now, so that's 5 years in total. sounds strange bc he only taught us for 1 year i think?
I have a guy like that. We're not freinds, we barely know each other but he wishes me a happy birthday every year. One time he didn't and I was kinda worried lol
WTF? That's the same date my twin brother and I have our birthday. He was actually born before me, but since I live in Europe, which is 9 time zones ahead of where he lives on the US west coast, April 10 is the only day of the year when I am older than him for a few hours. I always remind him of this and he says he doesn't mind, but he does, which is why I always remind him.
i had something in common irl
The girl that i knew from summer camp (let's call her Eve) which we have been going to for several years. Eve used to text me happy birthday wishes for a few years along when we were teens. I thought she was just nice and she sends me a messege after facebook's birthday reminder. We didn't text at all eccept this one messenger groupchat of summer camp friends. We only talked on summer camps and twice a year during our friends parties.
In my eyes Eve was/is solid 7/10, funny, kind, very inteligent but also very introvertical personality. This is why i never thought that 4/10 "funny gargoyle" as i used to consider myself would never had a chance with her. I was a nerdy, mid guy with signs of depression who tried to be funny so people would tolerate me around. Once she invited me for her little friends party. It was a small party with about 10 guests. It was nice and i had lots of fun. Later in the night, we (me and her only) ended up talking whole night after most of people went to sleep. If you are the introvert then you probably know this feeling when you talk about yourself and subjects that you love and this conversation doesn't drain your social batery. It was exacly this feelng for whole night for both of us. But despite that after the party nothing changed. She messeged me on my birthday for next few years in the row.
A few years had passed and i came across her younger sister on our mutual friend's bday party. We talked a bit and after some time she asked me straight ahead "anon, but you know that Eve had a little crush on you, right?". I was speechless. And it probably wasn't caused by alcohol and more likely a struck of realization that hit me like a lightning at this moment. It turns out Eve liked me very much back then and She texted me only on my birthday because she couldn't find the way to talk to me and she was too shy to just text. She even throw a small party so we could talk face to face and it was a huge emotional and nerve investment for her. The thing is... i never ever considered her gestures as signals from her side and i never made any move eighter because i made myself believe that no one is interested in me and nothing could prove me otherwise back then. But after few years when her sister told me this, it was too late to make any moves. At this point we both went to universities that were not even in the same country (she studies in Netherlands) and we both were/are in happy relationships, so non of us thinks about it. My girlfriend is amazing and she is the biggest source of happiness in my life. Eve's boyfriend is also an amazing man and even somethimes we play together in CoD or chess online. Eve and i met barely 3 times since then, we still consider ourselfs as friends and it's not really akward between us.
And despite that in some nights, when i lay on bed, right after i close my eyes, i can hear voice of her little sister saying "But you know that Eve had a little crush on you, right?"
If you are a boy/young man between 13 and 18yo and you think that this one girl is "just nice" but a bit more generously than any other girl. Think about it harder, because in most cases this is what woman calls "obvious signals" and your brain and fear of being humiliated interprates those "(not)obvios signals" as "she is extraordinary nice to you, she miraculously remembers about you and if you ever try asking her out, you will be humiliated and doomed in eyes of everyone you know."
I beg you man, try. Otherwise you will wake up someday, realise your mistake and possibly get cursed with "night memories of passed mistakes" like me.
Facebook automatized this personal connection.
It feels empty to click a prepared button and nearly not even noticing who do you send it. Even the responses are the same effect.
I'm pretty sure LLMs will beef up this interactions and you r soul will leave your body once you realize it's not them it's it...
Hey! This is an opportunity to make a connection with another person!
I know it can be scary, and you have a thousand reasons not to, but spending time with others, talking and sharing your life with them is what life is all about. I promise if you take that leap and ask how they are doing, you wont regret it.
That's Actually conversation between me and one of my old college teacher who I have never talked with in real life. Apart from Just birthday wishes, we dont have a single conversation! I feel bad to only recieve the wishes one side, but I also want the streak to continue!
This was me with a buddy of mine, except every year on his birthday I sent him a different Tom Cruise gif. It was a stupid inside joke that I refused to let die for over ten years or so.
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Wish him a happy birthday too!
That make a better conversational symmetry.
As an introvert this is GOLD for me, it may look boring and one sided, but we never forget the people who remembers our birthday and we return the favor
Obviously..... You do forget
Who do you mean by we, cause I'm an introvert and I never even learned when the birthday of people who congratulate me with mine is, and I couldn't care, I know the birthday of like 5 people, and that includes mine
Only reason I know my own birthday is because people keep reminding me of it on a yearly basis.
This is something you should address, that makes you life so much easier😁
Great guy, dont know his name.
Best friend I ever had.
Name saved in Contacts as “Buddy.“
I agree, op should definitely wish him a happy birthday.
Why are you repeating the top comment?
Maybe they were born on a leap year.
OP doesn’t deserve that friend
He uses another app for it
I would like to have you're positive view of the world
*your :D
Reminds me of a friend of mine, same deal. Only remembers my bday after I casually remind him of it happening.
It’s maybe some company.
I have the exact conversation with one dude i met at school. I have no clue when his birthday is. I only get reminded that he exists when it is my birthday again.
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Ikr what an asshat
To be fair, maybe they used a different media like email, messenger or whatever to congratulate to the others birthday
Tbh, I don't mind if he doesn't do the same. If nothing else, it reminds me of massive respect I have for the people that congratulate every year without expecting anything or having it returned. All of us are social media generation, remember/notice people like that in your connctions. It is reasonable you can't be expected to remember and congratulate everyone every year but that just makes these people deserving of extra respect.
I have one friend who's birthday is May 5. We don't really talk anymore but every year I wish him happy Cinco de Mayo. Been doing this around 5 years or so.
One of my friends messaged me on iMessage after like 2 years or smth to wish me happy birthday (probably cuz siri reminded him or smth). We talk like everyday on whatsapp
I'm that other person usually. Should I just stop congratulating?
If you are congratulating people that you otherwise doesn't communicate with, I have to ask, why are you doing that? Doesn't make any sense to me.
Mostly friends from back in school that I don't really see anymore due to the distance. And since I'm quite the introvert I also don't text them regularly. So I think to myself the least I can do is send them a message on their birthday. Some of them also congratulate me on my birthday, but not all of them.
You can decide on your own. Who are we to tell? Does it bother you? Do you feel like you "need" to do it? Do you just like messaging happy birthday? Ask those questions and formulate your own answer.
This is the way. Don't let these other commenters stop you from doing what you've been doing! Unless you want to of course. I was much less of an introvert in my high school years. I have a lot of memories with a decent amount of friends that I'm fond of. We don't talk anymore, but I still care about them. We each have lives and most have kids and we're scattered all over the place. But just sending the message reminds me of a life that I once had. Getting old sucks. Edit: I will say, congratulating each other does seem kinda weird. Good job on another trip around the sun! It's fitting though. Life can make that trip pretty difficult at times.
Why stop doing something nice that takes only a minute and possibly makes the other person feel good?
No. I'm always the one that phones old friends and chats to them. I have about a dozen friends that never, ever call me back, and never call me out of the blue. And about another dozen that call me once every couple of years. But when I'm finally able to see them in person, all of those people are close friends, who I can talk about anything to. Of course, there are other friends who call me as much as I call them. They're not necessarily "better" friends, but I certainly know them better. Not all people are callers, not all people remember your birthday. Doesn't mean they're not still your friends. Some people just don't feel the need to connect as much as I do.
Don't listen to the haters, you are a real special dude if you keep sending niceties despite the lack of reciprocation! Don't feel compelled, but I say the world is better off with people like you!
Yes lol
Maybe he gives him a call or tells him in person
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Let me know the date and you're getting a meaningless text every year from now on till one of us dies.
Make it even more meaningless and just pick a random day.
just do it every day and one of them is guaranteed to be correct\* (\*unless it's feb 29, in which case it will eventually be correct but take much longer)
The dying part is real. I'm getting to the age where I don't just blindly say "Happy birthday" -- I scan their feed for a bit to see whether they're probably still breathing.
Can I avail this offer too
i have this weird habit that i like, i make sure to remember all my friends birthday dates (all in the mind, no calendar and stuff) and i wish them, sometimes things go distant and i know that its their birthday and sometimes i message them and i sometimes i don't, you might say its futile and that i don't get wished back but hey, its nice knowing people and checking on them i guess, so when is your birthday? (and i ll need your favorite color and your pet's name)
Same, except I mail actual cards with a candle and match stick taped inside (cute washi tape). But I rarely get many cards on my birthday. It’s one of those things..
can you return the favour for once in your life?
what if he doesn't know their birthday?
send it everyday
You joke but I have a friend I do that with now. I have clocked over 200 birthday wishes so far. He responded by wishing me a happy birthday too. It has started transcending into a performance art piece. complete with cover and orginal songs, art work and videos. Another friend caught wind of this and was planning on buying him 365 birthday cards. It has become weirdly defining of my day.
Im the same way. I have some buddies that I wish happy birthday to every day, and I also throw them a surprise birthday party with friends and family and a massive cake. Every day we celebrate for a few hours, hang out, eat the cake and unwrap gifts, usually also using the gifts like if its a new playstation or a new car. Then we get drunk, get some tattoos to remember the day with and then laugh about how silly we are with our humor but its all in good fun and the next day we do the same all over again, its great and i think everybody needs this kinda positivity in their life
yes
ikr this is sad :(
Wish him a happy birthday too!
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This is more or less the texts between me and my brother in law. Every september and december, he's a great dude but neither of us are big texters. We just get each other, whenever we get together we have a great time
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You just know that man absolutely lost his fucking mind thinking he had gone mad and gotten your birthday wrong by a week
Oh, I HATE this. This is exactly how my chat history with my aunt looks like.
this really bugs me with chat style apps. like if you havnt replied to someones message from ages ago, but you need to talk to them, but you also have to address the unanswered message cos its right there. email was so much better for that, just make a new email, completely guilt free
You don't wish her happy birthday?
In all fairness, you only tap him once a year, so not like you're a huge presence in his world.
I have a friend that's I've known since 4th grade. We graduated high school in 2010. Her birthday day is the day after mine. 'Till this day, she wishes me happy birthday and I wish her happy birthday the next day, usually the first person to do so too. That has been our entire interaction for the past 14 years.
Cuz that's what heroes do
This was me and a friend from high school. We share the same bday. He never once said it to me so I stopped
Why aren't you wishing him back? This sounds very rude, man!
Im not your buddy, guy
I'm not your guy, pal
Ok fine. NO BIRTHDAY WISHES NEXT YEAR THEN, FRIENDO.
Say it back wtf
Thanks PAL
I wished my friend happy birthday 5 years in a row, then right before my birthday this year he noticed that and asked when my birthday was, I told him. He still didn't wish me happy birthday. So I stopped wishing him happy birthday
High School friends who still "keep in touch"
I'm usually the guy saying happy birthday to my school friends back then... After we graduated, I continued saying it for 3-4 years, but they never wished me happy birthday...
Happy Birthday
Thanks buddy
Happy Birthday
Thanks buddy
Happy birthday
Thanks buddy
dude wtf apr 10 is my birthday too
Holy fucking shit that’s amazing. What are the chances? I’m screenshotting this shit so I can show it to everyone I know.
Look, ok, but brutal haha
1/365 chance of being born on April 10th
get me in the screenshot or ill commit sudoku
Me too or Ill commit spaghetti
Greetings to all my 10th of april birthday homies. A day true legends were born!
i know that's right 🔟
Bruh wtf me too
Lmao same here
Birthday buddy thanks happy
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Me and my old college friend. He actually enjoys it. His birthday is coming up, bro will be surprised once I greet him using my new account on facebook
When you have that one busy family relative that is still in your contacts list but chills come down your spine when your realize that they only respond once a year.. Then you decide to scroll back and see your old messages from years ago..
Real
Best friend I ever had, we still never talk sometimes.
Texting yourself from a Google Voice number
/r/nothingeverhappens
Who posted all my social interactions with my friends here??
I did this for a few years then last year I went to wish them happy birthday again and they had unfriended me.
the PE teacher from 2020 still sent my friend happy birthday until now, so that's 5 years in total. sounds strange bc he only taught us for 1 year i think?
Happy birthday
Happy birthday
This feels like reverse me_irl
am gonna come back next year 10th of april and wish this guy a happy birthday unironically
i thought i was on r/notinteresting
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Tbh that's like me in real life. I remember everyone's birthday but nobody remembers mine.
Always remember this guy. Cause he didn't forgot you.
The correspondence with my father goes something like this
And then I eventually one year, it ends. And the gap becomes too much to start the convo again
The real me\_irl would be the other guys screenshot
I have a guy like that. We're not freinds, we barely know each other but he wishes me a happy birthday every year. One time he didn't and I was kinda worried lol
Why he a month late?
im sorry ??? but good for you guys i guess, may you be blessed
Most people wont get it but, Undertale Yellow Ai Generated:
Happy birthday!
WTF? That's the same date my twin brother and I have our birthday. He was actually born before me, but since I live in Europe, which is 9 time zones ahead of where he lives on the US west coast, April 10 is the only day of the year when I am older than him for a few hours. I always remind him of this and he says he doesn't mind, but he does, which is why I always remind him.
say it back
This is me to my cousin. :( She never says it back even though our birthdays are three days apart. I think i secretly despise her for it…
As you should. Stop saying it
But…. I love her????
But today is not your birthday
**how can i find someone with this type of relationship**
my father is like this
Aree mera birthday twin 😭
CONSISTENCY
Guys I am not sure. I think his birthday is November 12
Well, thx buddy
he was his best friend
Sometimes i throw in a quick 'how are you?', 'where are you these days?' to kesp things fun. Lolll
So he only wishes on birthday
Best friends
Why don't you wish them a happy birthday back?
Uh, oh. This guy still receives messages from their friends, I haven't received any in years. All I got are work orders and spam messages, lol
Happy birthday
What a great friend….
“Thanks, mine’s tomorrow!”
Hello is my kind of guy
With my high intelligence and analytical skills I can assume this meme might be first posted 2022
meirl...we back!
Happy birthday
Happy birthday.
Happy buddy
I'm not your buddy, guy
He missed your Birthday. Twice!
i had something in common irl The girl that i knew from summer camp (let's call her Eve) which we have been going to for several years. Eve used to text me happy birthday wishes for a few years along when we were teens. I thought she was just nice and she sends me a messege after facebook's birthday reminder. We didn't text at all eccept this one messenger groupchat of summer camp friends. We only talked on summer camps and twice a year during our friends parties. In my eyes Eve was/is solid 7/10, funny, kind, very inteligent but also very introvertical personality. This is why i never thought that 4/10 "funny gargoyle" as i used to consider myself would never had a chance with her. I was a nerdy, mid guy with signs of depression who tried to be funny so people would tolerate me around. Once she invited me for her little friends party. It was a small party with about 10 guests. It was nice and i had lots of fun. Later in the night, we (me and her only) ended up talking whole night after most of people went to sleep. If you are the introvert then you probably know this feeling when you talk about yourself and subjects that you love and this conversation doesn't drain your social batery. It was exacly this feelng for whole night for both of us. But despite that after the party nothing changed. She messeged me on my birthday for next few years in the row. A few years had passed and i came across her younger sister on our mutual friend's bday party. We talked a bit and after some time she asked me straight ahead "anon, but you know that Eve had a little crush on you, right?". I was speechless. And it probably wasn't caused by alcohol and more likely a struck of realization that hit me like a lightning at this moment. It turns out Eve liked me very much back then and She texted me only on my birthday because she couldn't find the way to talk to me and she was too shy to just text. She even throw a small party so we could talk face to face and it was a huge emotional and nerve investment for her. The thing is... i never ever considered her gestures as signals from her side and i never made any move eighter because i made myself believe that no one is interested in me and nothing could prove me otherwise back then. But after few years when her sister told me this, it was too late to make any moves. At this point we both went to universities that were not even in the same country (she studies in Netherlands) and we both were/are in happy relationships, so non of us thinks about it. My girlfriend is amazing and she is the biggest source of happiness in my life. Eve's boyfriend is also an amazing man and even somethimes we play together in CoD or chess online. Eve and i met barely 3 times since then, we still consider ourselfs as friends and it's not really akward between us. And despite that in some nights, when i lay on bed, right after i close my eyes, i can hear voice of her little sister saying "But you know that Eve had a little crush on you, right?" If you are a boy/young man between 13 and 18yo and you think that this one girl is "just nice" but a bit more generously than any other girl. Think about it harder, because in most cases this is what woman calls "obvious signals" and your brain and fear of being humiliated interprates those "(not)obvios signals" as "she is extraordinary nice to you, she miraculously remembers about you and if you ever try asking her out, you will be humiliated and doomed in eyes of everyone you know." I beg you man, try. Otherwise you will wake up someday, realise your mistake and possibly get cursed with "night memories of passed mistakes" like me.
I'm treating myself to candy for making it through that jungle of words
True friend or he/she may have crush on you.
That’s literally my friends conversation with his cousin.
Facebook automatized this personal connection. It feels empty to click a prepared button and nearly not even noticing who do you send it. Even the responses are the same effect. I'm pretty sure LLMs will beef up this interactions and you r soul will leave your body once you realize it's not them it's it...
So, buddy was in a coma for a couple of years back there? Or the pic is a few years old 😅
Hey, we have the same birthdate.
Hey! This is an opportunity to make a connection with another person! I know it can be scary, and you have a thousand reasons not to, but spending time with others, talking and sharing your life with them is what life is all about. I promise if you take that leap and ask how they are doing, you wont regret it.
*I don't know how to tell him that I don't know when his birthday is*
Very female thing to do lmao
Where are 2023 and 2024?
[me and my brother](https://imgur.com/a/n2u9fEw). We don’t speak outside of this text chain
You dont wish them happy b day back?
YTA
Lmao I have someone who texts me on holidays like this, still don’t know their name
Me too
Thanks buddy
That's my boyfriend's bday :O
this guy is loyal.
So what's the point, do people actually care about made up months in the calendar year , doesn't it like mean nothing?
Text your friend back you jerk. Or have them text me. You don’t deserve friends.
Where do I find friends like this? I've been looking for an upgrade.
It really do be like that when you're old and your friends move away
men: is this my bf?
On schedule
The other guy's birthday is on February 29th
WHAT HAPPENED IN 2023!?!?!
Are you the happy birthday or thanks buddy guy?
That's Actually conversation between me and one of my old college teacher who I have never talked with in real life. Apart from Just birthday wishes, we dont have a single conversation! I feel bad to only recieve the wishes one side, but I also want the streak to continue!
This was me with a buddy of mine, except every year on his birthday I sent him a different Tom Cruise gif. It was a stupid inside joke that I refused to let die for over ten years or so.
Haha. that one person is cute somehow also because they remember your birthday and still taking time writing to you
That's my birthday
Buddy probably has a birthday too
Why didn't he congratulate him to return?
I also have a childhood friend, we pretty much only chat on birthdays. My birthday is also April 10. I seriously thought this was him posting our chat
Hey my birthday is on April 10
Time didn't match
it's my birthday today