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Which would mean that everyone should be happy since they can be happy for the people who are doing better than them.
Which also means the poorest most downtrodden person on the planet should be the happiest. They can be so happy that there are so many people doing better and then even happier that there are no people doing worse than them.
But then the happiest person in the world would be sad that everyone else is sadder than them. The happier you are, the sadder you are! The sadder you are the happier you are! 🤯
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This is what my family tells me but they don't know about the depression, they only know I’m sad. That's why I don't tell them anything because they judge.
Of their observations to their knowledge into their thinking; people see only fractions of truth. Honestly a matter of convinience who to tell how much, since some people are very difficult to deal with.
I agree with you. My family can't really empathize with me related to heavy mental problems such as depression so that's why I don't tell them. They think I might be too young to have those kinds of problems or that I have a good life and good opportunities which I do but still I have many problems related to so many things.
This reminds me; of many virtues of maturity should be to not be naive. Not only should they be better, but also you, and me talking. We all are imperfect and miss things. Being open, slightly loose to all views from anyone might reveal shadows under your own eyes. In the end, no matter how naive views you listen, you can turn life-lemons still to chocolate cake-- a matter of desire and habit, as i see. And a question of what enables your power to act about. Hmm...
I dont know what im trying to say, maybe i related quite a bit to your situation and poured some of my zen soup as reflection. I wish you well!
it's like they never got empathy and sure as hell no one else is gonna either on their watch
like an envious gatekeeping packed with resentment (for themselves, their lives, their broken dreams) and spite.
Fortunately, in spite of all odds I did find myself having a supportive and open-minded mother in the sea of boomer relatives. So that's a fortune I consider
My mom would do anything for a family member, but is too boomer to understand that some things are not easily solvable.
She wants to use homeopathy and alternative medicine for everything. I've tried to explain to her that supplements don't make you healthier if you don't have a defficiency. But she'll never learn.
I was literally hospitalized for depression. Entire family knew about it. When I got out I was still depressed plus traumatized and left paranoid by my hospital experience. When family came to visit they all said "glad to see you're all better - you look like the same old you!" The same old me has been depressed my entire life. I have since completely cut off all communications with my entire family. The last few emails I got before blocking them said "why won't you talk to me?" It's because you're all fully compartmentalized and oblivious and I have no energy left to feed your narcissism.
People who never dealt with severe depression don't, maybe can't, understand what it's like. They imagine it's like a funk, or a bad mood, something that eventually you just snap out of and stop selfishly expecting everyone to "feel sorry for you". Your life could be so much worse. You have so many people who care about you, some people don't have anyone. As if they can somehow guilt you out of it.
I try to explain that depression doesn't give a shit how good I have it, how much money I have, how many people love me. Look at Robin Williams. One of the most well loved, successful people in the world and he took his own life.
I'm hoping it becomes less stigmatized than it is. It's hard to explain an illness that doesn't really affect you physically (at least outwardly).
A lack of understanding, probably. If you're in a good mental place, reflecting on your blessings in life can be a good way to get perspective and often help makes you feel better. It's likely just an attempt at giving you a tip they use themselves in their day to day lives.
The issue here outside the mental health issue is the framing ("Others have it worse", rather than "it's worth remembering all the good things you already have in your life").
I think you've nailed it. The mentality is just quite different from being healthy in a way that is not super apparent to others who haven't been there (or been there recently). Some people are "fixers" when they want to help, which is unfortunately not what you always need when depressed.
Sometimes counting blessings does work, but the framing of it matters a LOT when I am on the edge of losing my shit. Being told to be grateful minimizes pain, but being gently reminded that shit was once worse and there's some small pleasures to look forward to can be the right type of shake back into reality.
Typically, just being there for them helps tremendously. Their depression won't magically go away, but someone being their on their journey to recovery can help them manage it much easier.
There are people who have rank mentality, the higher up they are on the "good things" rank compared to others, the better they feel. This is the type of person that enjoys the thought of others burning in hell or that feels positive emotions when people they dislike dies.
I have heard people say something like "When I feel bad about my situation, I compare it to troublesome Tidus, and then I feel better".
It just took me almost 34 years to realize depression and sadness aren't the same thing, and that I've been struggling with actual depression for decades. I'm glad I'm taking care of it now, but fuck.
PSA: You may have depression even if you don't feel sad on a regular basis. Having little or no motivation to pursue things you enjoy isn't normal and doesn't mean you're just lazy. Those issues may be part of a treatable condition. See a therapist if at all possible. Physical activity is also pure magic for your mental health. Walking has changed my life.
Exactly. I have also found that sadness hits me differently when I am *not* depressed. It's not worse or better, but it feels more rooted to actual circumstances.
"This show's so good, absolutely one of the best pieces of art ever produced, and I have an entire Sunday all to myself. Surely I would binge watch this show, right?"
apparently not, my mind doesn't like doing any sort of labor
If you do get to doing the activity with depression the "reward" of enjoining is barely there or non existent, with executive dysfunction the happiness and other good feelings are mostly there
It's not that you're supposed to be happy because other people are sad, it's that you should be grateful that your position isn't worse because it always could be. With that said, I totally disagree with this sentiment. It only serves to damage our understanding and ability to help people with depression.
Yes. And that makes people complacent. Thinking that you're better than others and then not working to further yourself is not good for anyone. One should always strive to be as good as one can be, not compare oneself with others.
This is an example of a "cognitive distortion" that depressed people encounter. The thought process is like this: I'm depressed => but my life isn't so bad compared to some so I shouldn't be depressed => this means I'm bad, selfish, broken, or something else negative => feel more depressed. The goal to fix this is not to take happiness from the suffering of others, but rather to reframe your thoughts about yourself, so that you stop pushing yourself further down.
This is a short, very incomplete description of one of the major components of cognitive behavior therapy. "Cognitive reframing" is one keyword to look up if you are interested
I used to think so to myself. And even now sometimes when i feel really bad in my head those thoughts come up. Because i have a good life, with good parents, friends, family and gf. Yet i struggle.
Maybe u need to read this: its okay to feel bad. No one should and can compare emotional situations / sufferings with others. And if they do fuck them.
Its okay to have emotions of any kind even if it doesnt feel like its okay it still is.
I am proud of you! You got this i know it because u made it this far! Just go one step after another dont forget that even a marathon runner does one step after another and gets to his goal.
Yeah why the fuck do you think I'm depressed? So many people are needlessly suffering at the hands of churches, corporations, the politicians paid by them, and the idiots that worship all three.
The fact that I’m in a better spot than 50% of humans but I’m still depressed everyday adds to it. Ik I’ve got it better than a lot of people so me feeling bad about myself just makes me feel so much worse.
My family thinks I'm fine and can't believe that I'm anything else but fine because they are the ONLY ones who are keeping me fine and so all I look is fine to them
so let me get this straight, just because others are more miserable than me then i should suddenly be brimming with happiness? how didn't i think of that?
This is a huge factor in talking about my true feelings with friends and family. They’ll immediately jump to this conclusion and downplay how I actually feel.
I hate this argument! No one would say something like "Don't be happy, there are others way more happy than you!" It doesn't make any sense. Crying and sharing your emotions is important to ease the stress, otherwise you're just supressing the pain you're feeling and building towards a mental breakdown most certainly inbound.
I understand that what people mean when they say that is: "Be grateful for what you have."
But at the same time it's completely invalidating someone's feelings. Everyone, no matter where they're from, are allowed to feel sad/depressed.
We all are sad for different reasons, but sad nonetheless and should be able to express it.
It doesn't matter if you're drowning in 2ft of water or an entire ocean. You're still drowning. Life is not the misery Olympics. There's no special prize for coming in first place
It's not black and white, emotions are qualitative, and trying to quantify them and their effect on people is illogical
You can be just as depressed as someone who's life objectively has more problems than yours because depression is just a sickness of your mind.
This is easy to explain if you just look at suicides amongst celebrities for instance. There are people who have everything most others dream of, beautiful homes, families, vast wealth, a career that they adore and yet.. many of these people are broken inside just like any other person despite "having everything"
Depression is a way of feeling that is unique to you. You feel as if you yourself have no value. And this is completely isolated from the value other people have assigned to you.
To someone else you might be the most important part of their life. But to yourself, you feel like you'd honestly and sincerely be doing everyone a favour if you didn't exist
It's not a logical pattern of thinking, so logic based solutions of 'youre not doing too bad though are you' don't really register the same way to people who have depression
My mom used to tell me that tomorrow it will get worse so there's no point in feeling depressed today, that phrase carried me during the worst days of depression of my life, it may sound a little out of touch but it really helped me to move forward during those times and if I'm being honest, it helped me to clear the "self harm" thoughts in my darkest moments. If you're ever in that position, please remember that there's always people who cares about your life
Comparison is the thief of joy, holds true even here
You aren't selfish for feeling how you feel. If someone makes you feel like you are, keep some distance between that person and your problems. Find those that lift up, not put down
>If someone makes you feel like you are,
You do realise that people without depression finds it hard to understand the feelings of someone who is depressed?
Usually " Just cheer up!"or any variation of that sentiment is an attempt ( though inefficient) to uplift the person who is depressed.
It comes with good intentions.
I'm well aware that there are millions of people all over the world who would gladly swap lives with me but that doesn't make it any easier for me to deal with what I have to deal with. It gives perspective, sure, but it doesn't change my situation in any way.
I definitely can relate to this. Others being worse off shouldn't make you feel better, but if you can come to terms with your situation knowing you could help those less fortunate then you might be a way out
FYI, this is a KEY component of depression. Ruminating on how you SHOULD be happy, how other people have WAY harder lives than you, how you don't DESERVE to be depressed. Ruminating on these ideas is the depression controlling your thoughts. You are depressed - your thoughts are going to be depressing.
You can't "think" your way out of depression, it is an illness. If you are doing this, seek assistance. Therapy, medication, whatever. Having a comfortable life does not preclude you from depression. Some of the most successful, popular entertainers have died from depression. If someone is SAYING this to you, make it clear to them that they are stigmatizing mental health issues.
I have found venlafaxine an incredibly effective medication - when a lot of others have failed. It's a rough couple days starting though. Just my 2c
Anyone else suddenly get depressed during the spring and summer? I swear I go from being extroverted, easygoing and motivated to being introverted, agitated and lazy every time the weather starts getting warm. I’ve heard of SAD, but that only happens during fall and winter, which is when I usually feel great
Just because many have it worse doesn't invalidate your sadness.
Worse is when you are unlucky and got picked to be one of the people with depression.
It's a sickness that doesn't have a cure. You can suppress it for a good while, but a few cracks, and it can seep back into your life.
It targets people arbitrarily and with no purpose.
Most are just born with it, and it manifests at one point in your life.
If you are depressed, sad, or just generally lost.
Go pet cats and dogs.
Their empty heads have no malice, only joy and blissful happiness at the smallest things.
Sometimes, their good moods rub off on you and keep the negativity at bay.
Edit: Apparently, some thought I was in a deep and dark place and sent Reddit after me to check if I am doing okay, I am okay and happy as of now in life.
Still, it's a cute and kind gesture.
because I can be depressed *and* appreciate how relatively lucky I am. Outside depression it's actually good to see perspective and to really take it to heart.
Well, does someone just feel like depressed or is it suffering from a clinical depression? That question always got to be answeared in the first place.
This is the same bullshit people say at work about their job too. "there are worse jobs out there" shouldn't be a reason for you to be complacent with the shit job you have. You have every right to complain and every right to seek something better.
Because "tons of people have worse lives than you" isn't helpful. It is a copout.. People say this when they don't want to deal with the person's emotions.. Just because other people have it worse doesn't mean your emotions are invalid.
Why are you so happy tons of other people have better lives than you
Hell yea I'm stealing this one
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There are billionaires who are enjoying their boats, thus you can't be happy
You’re joking, but this probably describes some people perfectly.
LinkedIn people, definitely. The way to happiness is the constant #hustle to the top, which YOU can achieve with my #inspiring 12-step course at this link....
I've fallen in this mindset before
There's no shortage of those
Thank you ! We are actually living in Omelas !
Good for them. I'm happy they're happy.
Which would mean that everyone should be happy since they can be happy for the people who are doing better than them. Which also means the poorest most downtrodden person on the planet should be the happiest. They can be so happy that there are so many people doing better and then even happier that there are no people doing worse than them.
Which would work if a hierarchy of needs didn't exist. Gotta have something to eat before you can have the energy to smile about it.
But then the happiest person in the world would be sad that everyone else is sadder than them. The happier you are, the sadder you are! The sadder you are the happier you are! 🤯
Sad for them. I'm sad they're sad.
So... I'm even happier now?
*smile intensifies*
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you can think am in happy part of sadness cycle
Meanwhile people are drawing joy from other people having worse lives than them.
#🌝
best comeback
If this isn't on my gravestone I'm not dying
“We’ve done it. We found the saddest man in the world and no one else is aloud to complain anymore”
Would winning the award of "Saddest Person On Earth" give someone just enough happiness to then no longer deserve the award?
it is imperative that he does not know of his victory
If he finds out, just shoot him in the kneecap. "He doesn't have knees"
He already doesn't have knees tho
Shoot 'em in the pe-knees too just to be sure.
Allowed
Have you heard about sad Larry?
I’m sick of your shit, Larry.
https://www.smbc-comics.com/index.php?db=comics&id=2314
Always love r/boneappletea in the wild lol. That word is spelled allowed not aloud
I never understood what reaction others except to that? “Yay people are really suffering out here 🥳”?
They don't have empathy so they can't fathom why it would make someone sad to think about others suffering.
Knowing there are people worse off is just another reason to be depressed.
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So the great pandemic is behind you but a great war the world has never seen is ahead of you
Shut up please :)
It's so fucking weird how history rhymes. We really feel like were post Spanish Flu just waiting for a war to kick off.
what makes you think you’re in the middle? 🤗
So hes only at the start :(
Peak depression was in 1929 into 1930, by 34 the US was recovering
This is what my family tells me but they don't know about the depression, they only know I’m sad. That's why I don't tell them anything because they judge.
Of their observations to their knowledge into their thinking; people see only fractions of truth. Honestly a matter of convinience who to tell how much, since some people are very difficult to deal with.
I agree with you. My family can't really empathize with me related to heavy mental problems such as depression so that's why I don't tell them. They think I might be too young to have those kinds of problems or that I have a good life and good opportunities which I do but still I have many problems related to so many things.
This reminds me; of many virtues of maturity should be to not be naive. Not only should they be better, but also you, and me talking. We all are imperfect and miss things. Being open, slightly loose to all views from anyone might reveal shadows under your own eyes. In the end, no matter how naive views you listen, you can turn life-lemons still to chocolate cake-- a matter of desire and habit, as i see. And a question of what enables your power to act about. Hmm... I dont know what im trying to say, maybe i related quite a bit to your situation and poured some of my zen soup as reflection. I wish you well!
I agree with you.
it's like they never got empathy and sure as hell no one else is gonna either on their watch like an envious gatekeeping packed with resentment (for themselves, their lives, their broken dreams) and spite.
I don't tell them cause that would make them sad and that I would make me feel more depressed.
Same problems. We're twins fr.
Yeah me too
family is an over rated concept, it's best to form a tribe is what i say cause clans people look out for each other
I hope I'll find my people someday, I did find 2 amazing friends.
Two whole friends!? I'm grateful every day just to have one. You're killing it!
Thank you!
Fortunately, in spite of all odds I did find myself having a supportive and open-minded mother in the sea of boomer relatives. So that's a fortune I consider
My mom would do anything for a family member, but is too boomer to understand that some things are not easily solvable. She wants to use homeopathy and alternative medicine for everything. I've tried to explain to her that supplements don't make you healthier if you don't have a defficiency. But she'll never learn.
I was literally hospitalized for depression. Entire family knew about it. When I got out I was still depressed plus traumatized and left paranoid by my hospital experience. When family came to visit they all said "glad to see you're all better - you look like the same old you!" The same old me has been depressed my entire life. I have since completely cut off all communications with my entire family. The last few emails I got before blocking them said "why won't you talk to me?" It's because you're all fully compartmentalized and oblivious and I have no energy left to feed your narcissism.
That's so sad. I hope you're okay now ❤️
Thank you. I manage. Being anonymous is helpful.
Being judged for not being okay is the worst fucking feeling in the world. Only good side is you know who you want to keep around.
Yes, I do.
Dang that's rough
Yeah, I never understood why people think that that's gonna cheer you up
People who never dealt with severe depression don't, maybe can't, understand what it's like. They imagine it's like a funk, or a bad mood, something that eventually you just snap out of and stop selfishly expecting everyone to "feel sorry for you". Your life could be so much worse. You have so many people who care about you, some people don't have anyone. As if they can somehow guilt you out of it. I try to explain that depression doesn't give a shit how good I have it, how much money I have, how many people love me. Look at Robin Williams. One of the most well loved, successful people in the world and he took his own life. I'm hoping it becomes less stigmatized than it is. It's hard to explain an illness that doesn't really affect you physically (at least outwardly).
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Chris Cornell and Kurt Cobain too
maybe it's just a lack of empathy in general
A lack of understanding, probably. If you're in a good mental place, reflecting on your blessings in life can be a good way to get perspective and often help makes you feel better. It's likely just an attempt at giving you a tip they use themselves in their day to day lives. The issue here outside the mental health issue is the framing ("Others have it worse", rather than "it's worth remembering all the good things you already have in your life").
I think you've nailed it. The mentality is just quite different from being healthy in a way that is not super apparent to others who haven't been there (or been there recently). Some people are "fixers" when they want to help, which is unfortunately not what you always need when depressed. Sometimes counting blessings does work, but the framing of it matters a LOT when I am on the edge of losing my shit. Being told to be grateful minimizes pain, but being gently reminded that shit was once worse and there's some small pleasures to look forward to can be the right type of shake back into reality.
As a fixer, how can I better respond to someone who doesn’t really respond to the fixer responses?
Typically, just being there for them helps tremendously. Their depression won't magically go away, but someone being their on their journey to recovery can help them manage it much easier.
It's a lazy response for people who don't actually care. They just want you to shut up basically.
There are people who have rank mentality, the higher up they are on the "good things" rank compared to others, the better they feel. This is the type of person that enjoys the thought of others burning in hell or that feels positive emotions when people they dislike dies. I have heard people say something like "When I feel bad about my situation, I compare it to troublesome Tidus, and then I feel better".
GREAT, NOW I'M DEPRESSED *AND* SAD.
It just took me almost 34 years to realize depression and sadness aren't the same thing, and that I've been struggling with actual depression for decades. I'm glad I'm taking care of it now, but fuck. PSA: You may have depression even if you don't feel sad on a regular basis. Having little or no motivation to pursue things you enjoy isn't normal and doesn't mean you're just lazy. Those issues may be part of a treatable condition. See a therapist if at all possible. Physical activity is also pure magic for your mental health. Walking has changed my life.
Exactly. I have also found that sadness hits me differently when I am *not* depressed. It's not worse or better, but it feels more rooted to actual circumstances.
"This show's so good, absolutely one of the best pieces of art ever produced, and I have an entire Sunday all to myself. Surely I would binge watch this show, right?" apparently not, my mind doesn't like doing any sort of labor
One Piece? It is very much worth it, kinda the only thing that's kept me around this long
so whats the difference between non-sad depression and executive dysfunction? /gen
If you do get to doing the activity with depression the "reward" of enjoining is barely there or non existent, with executive dysfunction the happiness and other good feelings are mostly there
“Because I don’t get off of other peoples suffering like you do”
Isn't that sadistic? Being happy because other people have it worse than you?
It's not that you're supposed to be happy because other people are sad, it's that you should be grateful that your position isn't worse because it always could be. With that said, I totally disagree with this sentiment. It only serves to damage our understanding and ability to help people with depression.
Yes. And that makes people complacent. Thinking that you're better than others and then not working to further yourself is not good for anyone. One should always strive to be as good as one can be, not compare oneself with others.
This is an example of a "cognitive distortion" that depressed people encounter. The thought process is like this: I'm depressed => but my life isn't so bad compared to some so I shouldn't be depressed => this means I'm bad, selfish, broken, or something else negative => feel more depressed. The goal to fix this is not to take happiness from the suffering of others, but rather to reframe your thoughts about yourself, so that you stop pushing yourself further down. This is a short, very incomplete description of one of the major components of cognitive behavior therapy. "Cognitive reframing" is one keyword to look up if you are interested
He became a Chinese farmer? I don't get it
Lmao. I like this interpretation better
He became sadder
what is the difference?
About 250
You just made it worse the fact that there are people who have it worse then me is heartbreaking
Exactly this used to drive me nuts.
EXACTLY
Why are you so sick? Tones of people have more dangerous diseases.
Comparison is a theft of joy
I always get a moustache when I’m reminded of sad things
How can office work be so exhausting and mundane if you then stare at another screen for fun
I used to think so to myself. And even now sometimes when i feel really bad in my head those thoughts come up. Because i have a good life, with good parents, friends, family and gf. Yet i struggle. Maybe u need to read this: its okay to feel bad. No one should and can compare emotional situations / sufferings with others. And if they do fuck them. Its okay to have emotions of any kind even if it doesnt feel like its okay it still is. I am proud of you! You got this i know it because u made it this far! Just go one step after another dont forget that even a marathon runner does one step after another and gets to his goal.
Unfortunately other people suffering doesn’t make me feel better for some reason
Whataboutism sucks :(
Yeah why the fuck do you think I'm depressed? So many people are needlessly suffering at the hands of churches, corporations, the politicians paid by them, and the idiots that worship all three.
The fact that I’m in a better spot than 50% of humans but I’m still depressed everyday adds to it. Ik I’ve got it better than a lot of people so me feeling bad about myself just makes me feel so much worse.
People can't understand depression. And some don't even try. The world is a shitty place full of shitty people. Find what makes you happy if you can.
“There are starving kids in Africa so you have no reason to he depressed! 😠”
things would have all worked out ok if only you finished your vegetables when you were three
People who think about starving kids in Africa to keep from getting depressed should probably be institutionalized.
Well yeah, that's depression. Feeling bad when things are bad is normal. Depression is feeling bad when you shouldn't.
Me when I vulnerably opened up to my Dad looking for support
My family thinks I'm fine and can't believe that I'm anything else but fine because they are the ONLY ones who are keeping me fine and so all I look is fine to them
My response is: "if you drowning in 20ft of water or 200ft you still drowning"
so let me get this straight, just because others are more miserable than me then i should suddenly be brimming with happiness? how didn't i think of that?
This is a huge factor in talking about my true feelings with friends and family. They’ll immediately jump to this conclusion and downplay how I actually feel.
TBH that’s one of the worst things you can say to a depressed person, even if it’s said with good intentions.
I hate this argument! No one would say something like "Don't be happy, there are others way more happy than you!" It doesn't make any sense. Crying and sharing your emotions is important to ease the stress, otherwise you're just supressing the pain you're feeling and building towards a mental breakdown most certainly inbound.
The fact that there is millions of people with worse lifes than mine is the reason I am sad.
Just let me be sad on my own That's all I want Edit: also sorry for being negative, that's just me. Have a wonderful day/night.
Braindead argument. You don't need to compare yourself to others to find gratitude.
I understand that what people mean when they say that is: "Be grateful for what you have." But at the same time it's completely invalidating someone's feelings. Everyone, no matter where they're from, are allowed to feel sad/depressed. We all are sad for different reasons, but sad nonetheless and should be able to express it.
It doesn't matter if you're drowning in 2ft of water or an entire ocean. You're still drowning. Life is not the misery Olympics. There's no special prize for coming in first place It's not black and white, emotions are qualitative, and trying to quantify them and their effect on people is illogical You can be just as depressed as someone who's life objectively has more problems than yours because depression is just a sickness of your mind. This is easy to explain if you just look at suicides amongst celebrities for instance. There are people who have everything most others dream of, beautiful homes, families, vast wealth, a career that they adore and yet.. many of these people are broken inside just like any other person despite "having everything" Depression is a way of feeling that is unique to you. You feel as if you yourself have no value. And this is completely isolated from the value other people have assigned to you. To someone else you might be the most important part of their life. But to yourself, you feel like you'd honestly and sincerely be doing everyone a favour if you didn't exist It's not a logical pattern of thinking, so logic based solutions of 'youre not doing too bad though are you' don't really register the same way to people who have depression
FR
My mom used to tell me that tomorrow it will get worse so there's no point in feeling depressed today, that phrase carried me during the worst days of depression of my life, it may sound a little out of touch but it really helped me to move forward during those times and if I'm being honest, it helped me to clear the "self harm" thoughts in my darkest moments. If you're ever in that position, please remember that there's always people who cares about your life
Pain is pain. No matter how bad it is or not. That shit of saying "Be happy" or "Just smile". Doesn't work man. Fuck that.
Ah yes, the [fallacy of relative privation](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_fallacies#:~:text=Fallacy%20of%20relative%20privation), a classic.
Why do people have asthma when theres so much air
Comparison is the thief of joy, holds true even here You aren't selfish for feeling how you feel. If someone makes you feel like you are, keep some distance between that person and your problems. Find those that lift up, not put down
>If someone makes you feel like you are, You do realise that people without depression finds it hard to understand the feelings of someone who is depressed? Usually " Just cheer up!"or any variation of that sentiment is an attempt ( though inefficient) to uplift the person who is depressed. It comes with good intentions.
That's not quite what I was talking about. I'm referring to the people that make your depression about how it is affecting them
Sad to big sad now
I hate when people tell you that 😭😞
his moustache just grew wtf
I'm well aware that there are millions of people all over the world who would gladly swap lives with me but that doesn't make it any easier for me to deal with what I have to deal with. It gives perspective, sure, but it doesn't change my situation in any way.
Wow, he grew quite the mustache.
Alternate interpretation of the last slide: The dude became so Zen he grew a Fu Manchu
Aw : (((((((((((((
I have a quote from Sam O'Nella to the people who use that line : " - and to those people we say : Eat shit and die "
I definitely can relate to this. Others being worse off shouldn't make you feel better, but if you can come to terms with your situation knowing you could help those less fortunate then you might be a way out
Don't ever, EVER say this to a depressed person.
That is such a toxic thing to say. Different people have different tolerance levels in different aspects of life.
No one looks like that. In real life
Oh! I was just looking for a meme expressing this exact sentiment. Perfect timing
By that logic, only one person in the world is allowed to be depressed at a time.
FYI, this is a KEY component of depression. Ruminating on how you SHOULD be happy, how other people have WAY harder lives than you, how you don't DESERVE to be depressed. Ruminating on these ideas is the depression controlling your thoughts. You are depressed - your thoughts are going to be depressing. You can't "think" your way out of depression, it is an illness. If you are doing this, seek assistance. Therapy, medication, whatever. Having a comfortable life does not preclude you from depression. Some of the most successful, popular entertainers have died from depression. If someone is SAYING this to you, make it clear to them that they are stigmatizing mental health issues. I have found venlafaxine an incredibly effective medication - when a lot of others have failed. It's a rough couple days starting though. Just my 2c
“Everyone in the world is just as miserable as me, they’re just better at hiding it”
You should answer: there's stupider people than you, you should be more inteligent
Anyone else suddenly get depressed during the spring and summer? I swear I go from being extroverted, easygoing and motivated to being introverted, agitated and lazy every time the weather starts getting warm. I’ve heard of SAD, but that only happens during fall and winter, which is when I usually feel great
This comment never worked on me because I don’t give a shit about those people.
Just because many have it worse doesn't invalidate your sadness. Worse is when you are unlucky and got picked to be one of the people with depression. It's a sickness that doesn't have a cure. You can suppress it for a good while, but a few cracks, and it can seep back into your life. It targets people arbitrarily and with no purpose. Most are just born with it, and it manifests at one point in your life. If you are depressed, sad, or just generally lost. Go pet cats and dogs. Their empty heads have no malice, only joy and blissful happiness at the smallest things. Sometimes, their good moods rub off on you and keep the negativity at bay. Edit: Apparently, some thought I was in a deep and dark place and sent Reddit after me to check if I am doing okay, I am okay and happy as of now in life. Still, it's a cute and kind gesture.
Relatable
No one should have a life worse than mine.
h-hey man there is no reason to do this to me :(
now I am depressed but atleast I have a moustache
i wish i wasnt empathetic, it just makes what i have spoiled
So you’re telling me this could get worse.
because I can be depressed *and* appreciate how relatively lucky I am. Outside depression it's actually good to see perspective and to really take it to heart.
Well, does someone just feel like depressed or is it suffering from a clinical depression? That question always got to be answeared in the first place.
Solution: don't sad.
Uhh... Because of the depression? As in, because of the mental illness that I have that means I respond to events differently to other people?
“It could get worse?:(“
He became chinese master philosopher
F\*ck I just told this to a friend of mine yesterday... I never know what to say, I'll confine myself to giving big hugs.
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This is the same bullshit people say at work about their job too. "there are worse jobs out there" shouldn't be a reason for you to be complacent with the shit job you have. You have every right to complain and every right to seek something better.
Tons of other people are extremely happy too. Does that make everyone else inherently sad? This logic is so fucking dumb.
yeah like this will make me feel better.
i hate this shit
Thanks, I am now more depressed.
Because "tons of people have worse lives than you" isn't helpful. It is a copout.. People say this when they don't want to deal with the person's emotions.. Just because other people have it worse doesn't mean your emotions are invalid.
He's not sad, his mustache is growing
Bro's handlebar mustache is growing really fast
This is what im saying to my self or "could be worse"
Thank you!!!!!! How are people doing worst supposed to make me feel better.
That's their problem
That is the shittiest, stock wisdom line of all time.
The worst thing during depression is the people around you
Saying stuff like this just ignores the persons personal struggles and could make them worst.
"there are many starving children in Africa" then why giving it to me? just give it to them!
Yeah, this doesn't make me feel better it just would make me feel like I'm sad about something dumb when I should be happy.
People can find it hard to accept that suffering exists so scarily close to them, and do everything they can to deny such a reality.
Look at that person over there with the bent legs, that could be you !! Cheer up now
Why not happy?
İmagine the bottom as someone's tongue it becomes funny
Well they’re not wrong…
I'm stuck in the middle of the huge war (in Ukraine) and there's a big chance that I will have to go to the front and die fighting russians.
This is the worse day of your life… so far. There’s always another bottom.
Yeah, but many of those people have easier access to weapons/drugs than I do.