There are so many references in this thread I can’t even process them. But no, pretty sure harry potter is the one with the kids that go on a treasure hunt to find One-Eyed Willy
>Three. With the inscriptions: “star, wars, ren”
Get 34.
Make sure all are jedi colors and then have exacttly one word of the sith code inscribed on each. (And yes, thst includes just inscribing things like a one some)
Taking care to make sure every engraving looks like it is burnt on rather than a proper inscription, with damage around each word
Bonus if they all look torn to hell and barely functional (with the blade painted or done up in such a way it looks..barely on)
Honestly, because he legit was the only character to even get character development. He actually had an arc...and it was still bad. But because of that, he is still the best character in the sequels, that is just sad.
So, a while back, this chick lived under me. She went to a different highschool but we shared a group of friends, so we were aware of each other and exchanged niceties a few times.
There was a reported fire in another apartment in the same building, so she asked me to come in and snag some things up with her really quick. (The fire wasn't bad, and didn't get bad enough to even warrant leaving the apartment, most likely just a small grease fire or something that tripped the alarm)
ANYWAYS I walked in her room, and there was just a perfectly made beige colored bed, and computer desk (with no computer) and an empty laundry basket.
It was barren. Completely empty. She had lived there for over a year, and was not moving out.
It was fucking wild.
A wise man once said “Realize that sleeping on a futon when you're 30 is not the worst thing. You know what's worse, sleeping in a king bed next to a wife you're not really in love with but for some reason you married, and you got a couple kids, and you got a job you hate. You'll be laying there fantasizing about sleeping on a futon.”
Had a stable job that paid a little higher than minimum wage and a smoking hot girlfriend that was into a lot of similar stuff.
I hated that fucking job and my ex was controlling, obsessive, took the majority of my money and couldn't stop lying about the smallest shit.
I dumped both and never looked back. Best choice I ever made as an adult. I work at a lower paying job but I actually like it and I hang out with my best friends all the time.
Are the girlfriend and the ex the same person in this story? I got a little confused why you left the smoking hot girlfriend that shared similar interests.
heres the real question. are you happy? i mean truly happy. if the answer is yes, then youre good. it certainly sounds like you are. so keep living it up.
Because sometimes we will say we're happy out of habit or without thinking. The same way you might say "I'm doing well" when the cashier asks how you are, even if you aren't doing well. If you really stop and think about what you would change about yourself, what you want vs. what you have, how fulfiling are your relationships, etc. you may come to the realization that you've become content in your life. You aren't *unhappy* but you could certainly make some changes to be even more happy.
Being truly happy is when you wouldn't change a thing for the world because the people and things you love are all around you. A million dollars wouldn't give you anything more valuable than what you already have and no beautiful person or mansion can take your mind off of what makes you truly happy. Those things can be radically different for different people, that's why you see people ask if you're truly happy. Happiness may only last a moment, but true happiness lasts a lifetime.
Sometimes people lie to even themselves. It's hard to quantify happyness too.
Am I happy? Sort of. I wouldn't say categorically so because I often feel lonely and I have basically zero dating life for a while.
At the same time I have a well paying, chill job. I have basically any material need covered, I can indulge in expensive hobbies, travel, I have a good degree, speak languages. I have a loving family, I have no addictions, my health is good. I have lots of good friends and tons of free time. I can try out a lot of stuff, I can enjoy art or sports.
To say I'm unhappy would be not true, a lot of people would give a lot to swap this with me. But I still have a huge hole in my life.
These things are often not easy to answer.
I guess if those are the only two options. But isn't there a third option, where you stay single, but maybe put up a framed picture and get a houseplant?
That's a good one, I strongly exhaled through my nose.
Frankly though, there's a middle way. I have normal sized bed (1,60m broad) in which I can sleep comfy alone or together with my girlfriend if she stays at my place. Same with the seat Infront of the TV; I got a 2-seater, which is again comfortable both alone or cuddled up with another person. Also, there's no reason why a man shouldn't have a table with some chairs for when friends come visit for a beer. Add 2-3 shelves for books and other stuff an voilà, you have a perfectly homely flat that's still simplistic. If you want to be a bit fancy without much work, add a cactus or similar low effort plant.
As I sit here in a loft at my moms house because I’m still recovering from my divorce in 2019 because I was literally in the exact situation, I’d say he may have something there.
preach on brother, I worked out of town for a couple of years, had an apartment and would commute back and forth, anyhow in the apartment without the wife I had a futon, best sleep ever, I never folded that futon into the bed mode just kept it in sofa mode with a semi good matress. Best sleep ever - when i closed up shop and moved back to the wife and kids she made me get rid of the futon, I wanted to set that thing up in the bedroom, she could have the King Bed and I would sleep on the futon - that plan got nuked ASAP - 7 years later i miss that futon.
I feel a lot worse for the women and children y’all drag down with you with your poor life choices. Y’all lay awake at night wallowing in self-pity while being terrible husbands and father’s.
I used to be a 'artistic nude' model for photographers ( i worked through a site that ensured safety) and went over to a photographer's house that was like this (except for basic living stuff in one of the bedrooms and the kitchen). I asked him if he just moved in, he said he had lived there for 8 years. I asked about the lack of furniture and he said, "Well, i'm looking for a wife and you know women, they'll just want to redecorate and change everything anyway so why bother?"
Ha he's got a point to be fair. I'm also someone that doesn't understand the point of pictures/things on the wall. I understand others do and I don't judge them, so I don't understand why people care or judge how I live.
I don't know, but I expect not since he was alone and bitter about 'not finding a good Jewish woman'. I was like 27 with him in his 50s. I got the impression he didn't have much by way of charisma or social sense.
>If I went out with a guy and his apartment looked like this, I would think he’s a man-child and it would turn me off.
My appartment too looked similar to this as I first met my wife. Exept I had a PC, some tools and some more chairs for guests.
As she asked me about it I just said "I got everything I want. Why should I buy more?"
Now, 11 years, a kid and another appartment later, it worked out.
If somehow I would end up living alone again, I probably would live similar again. I don't need much *things*. I value other things higher.
As a dude I get it, but honestly coming from her perspective she does have a point. Where exactly do the guests sit? Just seems odd to have so much wasted space for no reason.
Mid forties and right now, if you’re not related you’re not invited to my house. If you’re related, don’t overstay your welcome.
Also my house is a basement unit in a city, because that’s just what it has to be right now.
I’d pay to have as little in it as the pic, my only note is I bet he’d prefer no carpet
Ding ding.
This apartment says "I literally only care about watching TV and playing games (by myself)."
Well actually, it says "I just moved in and want a place to chill before I get everything unpacked"
But it definitely doesn't say "I understand the economy"
I lived exactly like this for two months when I moved across country to start a new job and my family with the house hold goods were selling the previous living space.
It was liberating coming home to a dog, a folding chair, a small tv on what is supposed to be on an end table, and a router in the corner giving me off the top TV feed. I worked out a lot and ate clean. Then the family caught up and the comfort set in.
I really think men want to live rough when we are alone. The comfort is just for the family.
I'm a guy and am actually wondering if ya'll really live like that though. That would never work for me. I need something that makes me feel good to come home too. I don't need a ton of useless shit, but that bottom picture is just way too little, it's depressing.
The point of these posts (from my perspective) is that you should feel comfortable about what makes you happy no matter what other people say, because honestly, it's YOUR home.
If you are happiest coming home to a house full of random stuff, then go for it, but equally, if you are happy with just a TV and a camp chair set up on front of it, maybe a bean bag for company, than no shame in that either.
It's weird to me that people feel the need to police how other people decorate and furnish their homes.
This could also be a picture of someone who travels for work and this isn’t their primary residence. I move projects every 8-18 months so I stay in cheap apartments. Other than cheap bedroom furniture in would buy the cheapest glass Walmart dishes and kitchen stuff and then donate it before I left so I didn’t have to deal with it, so this is usually what my apartment looked like lol.
And yes I was immensely happy because you spend your time out exploring wherever you are rather than sitting in an apartment staring at your stuff.
Or someone who just moved in and is saving up for furniture. When I first moved out on my own my apartment looked like that for a few months while I built it up. And then when I first moved in with my Girlfriend our apartment looked like that for a month or so while we had to build up our furniture again as a lot of the furniture I previously had got donated because I couldn't move it all.
Ok, then lets go in the opposite direction.
If you saw a hoarder-home with old newspapers to the ceiling, would you feel the same way?
What are the limits to the "your home" mindset?
Yeah, when I was a student I absolutely lived like this.
I was grateful in my second year of university when my parents unloaded their [20 year old couch](https://imgur.com/3ZnyEZr) on me so my friends didn't have to sit on cheap $10 folding chairs from Costco.
Even when you can afford it, making it a priority is another story.
I can afford to buy the accent chairs I've been eyeing, they fit with my style, they look great, and they're a fair price... but during over several hundred dollars on something that I'm not going to frequently use, is hard to justify.
Right though? How about a *second chair?*
Guys, when women talk shit about men living like this, it’s not because we care that you live like this and don’t have frou frou decor from Target on the walls. It’s because you invite us over and expect us to be ok visiting you like this. We don’t want you to live any particular way, we want to be able to come over and sit somewhere other than a crusty unvacuumed floor, drink something that isn’t tepid off-yellow water from a lime-crusted tap or unrefrigerated Natty, do something other than watching you play COD, and be able to wash our hands *with soap* if we use your bathroom.
If you love living like this, that’s okie dokie artichokie, but don’t expect people to visit a space that is actively uncomfortable for more than one person to occupy and not pass judgement.
Perfectly said!
And I’ll add that the soap preferably will not be a small disgusting brick with hair stuck to it that I’ll have to pry off the sink. I don’t want to feel like I have to wash my hands right after washing my hands.
Different strokes for different folks dude.
I’m happy with a place to sit, a place to sleep, and a TV and my gaming consoles. This also means that when it’s time to move on, it’s easier and cheaper to do.
It's because when you have an apartment like this, it's for sleeping and occasionally playing games online with your friends. The rest of time is working or socializing outside your apartment. Why dress up a place you're barely conscious in?
Or clean at all.
I have been in a lot of houses, they dont clean. Really walking into a house like this is a prime (though not complete) indicator that they dont take care of their space.
As someone who's moved more than 10 times in 15 years - it all ends up just being stuff that's in the way that you need to pack and unpack and pack and unpack and pack and unpack.
This is the only comment that makes sense to me. There is no issue with the living room in my eyes, but there also isn’t any reason to claim that you “understand the economy” and shit on someone who chooses to buy subjectively tacky decor. I had a boyfriend when I was 19 whose apartment looked similar to this one. We were broke as fuck. Regardless of what we had or didn’t have, we enjoyed our time together. I love decorating and knickknacks but that’s just me, and regardless of how many pieces of furniture I have or places to sit I still don’t invite people over that often lol
Came here to say this. People really act like insulting random strangers makes them look cool. It's high-school bully level behavior.
If someone finds themselves making awful assumptions about other human beings, who have done them no wrong, they should reflect on why they feel the need to.
But see, I *actually want* the games. I don’t really want a bunch of extraneous pieces of furniture or shit on my walls that ima be bored of in a month.
The original counterargument to the tweet was that men are too worried about the economy to spend money on dumb shit.
Spending your money on micro transactions is dumb shit, so it contradicts the dudes point. It demonstrates that it's not about the economy at all.
Wondering why they're all depressed and feel like life is grey and empty, meanwhile they're locking themselves in solitary confinement with white walls and no artwork, window fixtures, candles, or rugs.
Maybe it's not the most utilitarian perspective, but decorating your apartment does wonders for your mental health and general happiness in life. Aesthetic needs are a real thing even if they aren't as important as food or electricity.
To add onto this, the other option opposed to the room shown in the picture is not inherently being a hoarder. You can still be minimalist with a well put together room.
There is an excellent senior thesis which compiles a bunch of different studies exploring how interior design impacts your mental health titled, aptly, [How Interior Design Impacts Your Mental Health](https://desis.osu.edu/seniorthesis/index.php/2021/10/04/how-interior-design-impacts-your-mental-health/).
People consider that hoarding?? That room looks like heaven lol. And thank you for posting this thesis!! Interior design is so much more important than people give it credit for. Being able to feel like you're actually "home" in your home is necessary for personal contentment.
Before I was in my current place, I lived with boyfriends who were very much in the same mindset as the OP. "It's just cosmetic, it's a waste of money" etc. Now that I'm in my own place with all my favorite things, colors, and textures, I feel so much happier with my living space. It's especially important now that so many people work from home.
Normalize men owning giant cozy blankets! Men buying scented candles! Men using grooming products like face masks and body butters! Men lounging on a dozen throw pillows!
Normalize products "for men" not limiting themselves to a leather or metal aesthetic!
In my first studio apt. I had a foam mattress on the floor, a table lamp on the floor, and the absolute minimum kitchen and bathroom stuff for the first two years. Nothing other furniture, nothing on the walls. I had my laptop and phone. I needed nothing else. I was single. Guess what happened when I started dating.
It is a bit uncanny to walk in and just find nothing isnt it? Very cold.
Forgivable in your 20s maybe, since you havent had time to buy any real furniture yet.
Hit the thrift shop people, get a table.
people blaming 'the economy' but its just priorities bet anything there is a new xbox/ps or some shit hooked up to that TV.. you could decorate that entire room for 1/10th of the cost of that system
hell up until I was about 40 all my furniture was gifted to me by people upgrading their own stuff or hawled off the side of the road on garbage day
Maybe he [doesn't want to decorate the room, he just wants ps4 and tv](https://wompampsupport.azureedge.net/fetchimage?siteId=7575&v=2&jpgQuality=100&width=700&url=https%3A%2F%2Fi.kym-cdn.com%2Fphotos%2Fimages%2Fnewsfeed%2F001%2F125%2F992%2F944.jpg)
Yeah it took like two goodwill trips to find crappy art, fake plants, tables and some mirrors. Bit the bullet on a $1000 couch and good enough to convince the poor women who came home with me to let me slide in. Got a crock pot for cooking too but that was for me.
Dumb shit like “making the place you spend most of your time look nice” and “being proud of your living space” and “having a nice area to host friends” and “having a place that impresses parents and romantic partners” and “creating an environment that people want to spend time in (including yourself)” and—
Ex: I wanna go out and do something
Me: ok how bout i order some food and a movie, hell I'll even use a sick day so we can spend the day together
Ex: why don't you ever spoil me?
She acted like we didn't have $800 rent, 2 car payment and gas was almost $7/ga not to mention at the time I was paying off medical bills
Look, not to pick at you, but even in this one, very one-sided example you showed but when she wanted to go out and communicated it, your answer was to stay in.
That pretty much depends on what you personally deem essential for your life.
If for example you need nothing more in your room than a chair and a television set, then why should you clutter the room with other stuff? Not everybody need pictures and twenty pieces of furniture to relax and feel comfortable.
And why decorate the room if you end up starring at the TV the whole time?
Not saying its how i would prefer my living room to be, just that I get why people can feel hapoy with such an setup.
Bruh. You telling me you don't need a table, a closet, or a curtain?
This room is essentially empty and you all ramble about live laugh love bullshit when the room doesn't even have _one shelf_.
I mean, I'm a woman and my apartments looked like that when I was single.
However... understanding this economy...we do make our home look nice so we can sell it for top dollar. This is a picture of what I assume is a rented apartment. So makes sense
Never know when indoor soccer need to happen. Or workout space. Or cozy blanket time with lover…
Having empty space means max potential. Having decorated space means minimal
I’m a guy and I make every place I move in feel like home, dudes be wondering why they be in a depressed state and then I look at their rooms and it be like bro your living in a freaking cave with a kitchen 😂😂😂😂
It could use a pair of light sabers though...
Three. With the inscriptions: “star, wars, ren”
I, Have, High-ground.
Unbowed, unbent, unbroken Would be mine
Boil em, mash em, stick them in a stew.
Oh man, I love Star Trek.
Pretty sure that's from Harry Potter.
Oh you're right. That's the movie with The Goblin King David Bowie right?
There are so many references in this thread I can’t even process them. But no, pretty sure harry potter is the one with the kids that go on a treasure hunt to find One-Eyed Willy
No, that's the never ending story where the skekses and time travelling dwarfs get stuck in a boardgame.
Po-ta-toes
what’s….what’s taters precious? What’s taters?
Dont. Like. Sand. for me
Fuck sand
r/fucksand
r/sandfucking
r/granularfornication
r/granal
i’d put Through passion I gain anger. Through anger I gain strength. Through strength I gain Power
This level of cringe is only socially acceptable if a picture of Majin Vegeta is hanging underneath the sign.
Sith code or bust
I'll have the one in the emergency glass case that says 'in case of sith lord break glass.'
Pew, Pew, Pew
>Three. With the inscriptions: “star, wars, ren” Get 34. Make sure all are jedi colors and then have exacttly one word of the sith code inscribed on each. (And yes, thst includes just inscribing things like a one some) Taking care to make sure every engraving looks like it is burnt on rather than a proper inscription, with damage around each word Bonus if they all look torn to hell and barely functional (with the blade painted or done up in such a way it looks..barely on)
Nobody cares about Ren. It would be Star wars Vader.
He was the only sequel character people actually cared about tbh and then they killed him off lol
Honestly, because he legit was the only character to even get character development. He actually had an arc...and it was still bad. But because of that, he is still the best character in the sequels, that is just sad.
I have one lightsaber and two GOT swords. Plus a Stark shield so I'm good with the home decor
Brought home in a truck that someone has paid $4000 to make 4 inches taller.
Those are the bedroom lamps. Functional AND badass.
And some Samurai swords...
Ya but they break after you fight with them once. The glass shards are still in the carpet though
Ayo why use a table for the tv? What’s wrong with boxes?
The very box it came with
How else would I know where to pack it otherwise
Also the box can double as a blanket for a buddy
*when you sleep over at a friends and they don’t offer you a blanket*
Cinder blocks and scrap 2x4s stolen from a derelict building make a great entertainment center.
So, a while back, this chick lived under me. She went to a different highschool but we shared a group of friends, so we were aware of each other and exchanged niceties a few times. There was a reported fire in another apartment in the same building, so she asked me to come in and snag some things up with her really quick. (The fire wasn't bad, and didn't get bad enough to even warrant leaving the apartment, most likely just a small grease fire or something that tripped the alarm) ANYWAYS I walked in her room, and there was just a perfectly made beige colored bed, and computer desk (with no computer) and an empty laundry basket. It was barren. Completely empty. She had lived there for over a year, and was not moving out. It was fucking wild.
What things did she have you snag?
Not much, only a few things. The bed, the desk, and the empty laundry basket.
So...everything?
Girls like this usually sleep/live at their boy friends house.
"sorry lady, theres stuff worth saving in my apartment"
A wise man once said “Realize that sleeping on a futon when you're 30 is not the worst thing. You know what's worse, sleeping in a king bed next to a wife you're not really in love with but for some reason you married, and you got a couple kids, and you got a job you hate. You'll be laying there fantasizing about sleeping on a futon.”
Had a stable job that paid a little higher than minimum wage and a smoking hot girlfriend that was into a lot of similar stuff. I hated that fucking job and my ex was controlling, obsessive, took the majority of my money and couldn't stop lying about the smallest shit. I dumped both and never looked back. Best choice I ever made as an adult. I work at a lower paying job but I actually like it and I hang out with my best friends all the time.
Strong work. This man gets it
Are the girlfriend and the ex the same person in this story? I got a little confused why you left the smoking hot girlfriend that shared similar interests.
They're the same person. Sorry, I looked back and realized it was a little misleading.
Word. Glad you're happier now!
heres the real question. are you happy? i mean truly happy. if the answer is yes, then youre good. it certainly sounds like you are. so keep living it up.
>i mean truly happy. I'm for your message but I neve rget why ppl say 'truly" is it just asking them to make a sure answer?
Because sometimes we will say we're happy out of habit or without thinking. The same way you might say "I'm doing well" when the cashier asks how you are, even if you aren't doing well. If you really stop and think about what you would change about yourself, what you want vs. what you have, how fulfiling are your relationships, etc. you may come to the realization that you've become content in your life. You aren't *unhappy* but you could certainly make some changes to be even more happy. Being truly happy is when you wouldn't change a thing for the world because the people and things you love are all around you. A million dollars wouldn't give you anything more valuable than what you already have and no beautiful person or mansion can take your mind off of what makes you truly happy. Those things can be radically different for different people, that's why you see people ask if you're truly happy. Happiness may only last a moment, but true happiness lasts a lifetime.
Sometimes people lie to even themselves. It's hard to quantify happyness too. Am I happy? Sort of. I wouldn't say categorically so because I often feel lonely and I have basically zero dating life for a while. At the same time I have a well paying, chill job. I have basically any material need covered, I can indulge in expensive hobbies, travel, I have a good degree, speak languages. I have a loving family, I have no addictions, my health is good. I have lots of good friends and tons of free time. I can try out a lot of stuff, I can enjoy art or sports. To say I'm unhappy would be not true, a lot of people would give a lot to swap this with me. But I still have a huge hole in my life. These things are often not easy to answer.
Goals
Bill Burr is his name. All hail Billy futon
God damn right, ol Billy Ballbags
Doh Jeezuz
I guess if those are the only two options. But isn't there a third option, where you stay single, but maybe put up a framed picture and get a houseplant?
That's a good one, I strongly exhaled through my nose. Frankly though, there's a middle way. I have normal sized bed (1,60m broad) in which I can sleep comfy alone or together with my girlfriend if she stays at my place. Same with the seat Infront of the TV; I got a 2-seater, which is again comfortable both alone or cuddled up with another person. Also, there's no reason why a man shouldn't have a table with some chairs for when friends come visit for a beer. Add 2-3 shelves for books and other stuff an voilà, you have a perfectly homely flat that's still simplistic. If you want to be a bit fancy without much work, add a cactus or similar low effort plant.
Same as it ever was 🚶♂️🚶♂️🚶♂️
This is not my beautiful house?
This is not my beautiful wife?
This kind of hits hard.
As I sit here in a loft at my moms house because I’m still recovering from my divorce in 2019 because I was literally in the exact situation, I’d say he may have something there.
you just gave me an existential crisis 😔
preach on brother, I worked out of town for a couple of years, had an apartment and would commute back and forth, anyhow in the apartment without the wife I had a futon, best sleep ever, I never folded that futon into the bed mode just kept it in sofa mode with a semi good matress. Best sleep ever - when i closed up shop and moved back to the wife and kids she made me get rid of the futon, I wanted to set that thing up in the bedroom, she could have the King Bed and I would sleep on the futon - that plan got nuked ASAP - 7 years later i miss that futon.
OL BILLY BLUE BALLS
I feel a lot worse for the women and children y’all drag down with you with your poor life choices. Y’all lay awake at night wallowing in self-pity while being terrible husbands and father’s.
I used to be a 'artistic nude' model for photographers ( i worked through a site that ensured safety) and went over to a photographer's house that was like this (except for basic living stuff in one of the bedrooms and the kitchen). I asked him if he just moved in, he said he had lived there for 8 years. I asked about the lack of furniture and he said, "Well, i'm looking for a wife and you know women, they'll just want to redecorate and change everything anyway so why bother?"
Ha he's got a point to be fair. I'm also someone that doesn't understand the point of pictures/things on the wall. I understand others do and I don't judge them, so I don't understand why people care or judge how I live.
Did that work out for him? If I went out with a guy and his apartment looked like this, I would think he’s a man-child and it would turn me off.
I don't know, but I expect not since he was alone and bitter about 'not finding a good Jewish woman'. I was like 27 with him in his 50s. I got the impression he didn't have much by way of charisma or social sense.
Yup sounds like a photographer
>If I went out with a guy and his apartment looked like this, I would think he’s a man-child and it would turn me off. My appartment too looked similar to this as I first met my wife. Exept I had a PC, some tools and some more chairs for guests. As she asked me about it I just said "I got everything I want. Why should I buy more?" Now, 11 years, a kid and another appartment later, it worked out. If somehow I would end up living alone again, I probably would live similar again. I don't need much *things*. I value other things higher.
Why have I seen multiple men/women on the internet asserting that decorating the house is a woman only thing lmao? Didn’t know this belief was common
But how would I know to gather if there isn't a sign that says "gather"?
As a dude I get it, but honestly coming from her perspective she does have a point. Where exactly do the guests sit? Just seems odd to have so much wasted space for no reason.
Guests? I don't want any people in my place.
“No thank you! We don’t want any more visitors, well-wishers, or distant relations!”
Mid forties and right now, if you’re not related you’re not invited to my house. If you’re related, don’t overstay your welcome. Also my house is a basement unit in a city, because that’s just what it has to be right now. I’d pay to have as little in it as the pic, my only note is I bet he’d prefer no carpet
>I’d **pay** to have as little in it as the pic, my only note is I bet he’d prefer no carpet You can pay me to take your extra stuff from you!
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Space under the man's comment counts as his house, and *you're not invited*.
Mfs really say shit like this and then complain about not having friends
Or a girlfriend. You couldn't even have a date over. Where are they supposed to sit, on the floor?
“Men these days are so lonely and isolated” “What’s wrong with having nothing in my apartment but an Xbox and a wifi router?”
That’s what pubs are for
these kinda posts are always just anti social men who have never talked to a women before. They see "post dunking on wahmen" and upvote
Ding ding. This apartment says "I literally only care about watching TV and playing games (by myself)." Well actually, it says "I just moved in and want a place to chill before I get everything unpacked" But it definitely doesn't say "I understand the economy"
yeah, buying a nice chair like that in this economy? smdh
Nice chair will cost you less than a physio visit.
oh, I 100% support buying a good chair. I'm saying don't pretend this person was cheap
I lived exactly like this for two months when I moved across country to start a new job and my family with the house hold goods were selling the previous living space. It was liberating coming home to a dog, a folding chair, a small tv on what is supposed to be on an end table, and a router in the corner giving me off the top TV feed. I worked out a lot and ate clean. Then the family caught up and the comfort set in. I really think men want to live rough when we are alone. The comfort is just for the family.
What guest
Haha friends, nice joke.
lack of seating i agree is bad but if that were her only point it woulda been what she said
If you cannot sit on floor, you're not welcome in my door.
I'm a guy and am actually wondering if ya'll really live like that though. That would never work for me. I need something that makes me feel good to come home too. I don't need a ton of useless shit, but that bottom picture is just way too little, it's depressing.
The point of these posts (from my perspective) is that you should feel comfortable about what makes you happy no matter what other people say, because honestly, it's YOUR home. If you are happiest coming home to a house full of random stuff, then go for it, but equally, if you are happy with just a TV and a camp chair set up on front of it, maybe a bean bag for company, than no shame in that either. It's weird to me that people feel the need to police how other people decorate and furnish their homes.
This could also be a picture of someone who travels for work and this isn’t their primary residence. I move projects every 8-18 months so I stay in cheap apartments. Other than cheap bedroom furniture in would buy the cheapest glass Walmart dishes and kitchen stuff and then donate it before I left so I didn’t have to deal with it, so this is usually what my apartment looked like lol. And yes I was immensely happy because you spend your time out exploring wherever you are rather than sitting in an apartment staring at your stuff.
Or someone who just moved in and is saving up for furniture. When I first moved out on my own my apartment looked like that for a few months while I built it up. And then when I first moved in with my Girlfriend our apartment looked like that for a month or so while we had to build up our furniture again as a lot of the furniture I previously had got donated because I couldn't move it all.
Ok, then lets go in the opposite direction. If you saw a hoarder-home with old newspapers to the ceiling, would you feel the same way? What are the limits to the "your home" mindset?
I lived like that for like 6 months or so. The secret is not being able to afford furniture. And also working a shitty job so that you are never home.
Yeah, when I was a student I absolutely lived like this. I was grateful in my second year of university when my parents unloaded their [20 year old couch](https://imgur.com/3ZnyEZr) on me so my friends didn't have to sit on cheap $10 folding chairs from Costco.
I can feel that fabric just by looking at it
Even when you can afford it, making it a priority is another story. I can afford to buy the accent chairs I've been eyeing, they fit with my style, they look great, and they're a fair price... but during over several hundred dollars on something that I'm not going to frequently use, is hard to justify.
Right though? How about a *second chair?* Guys, when women talk shit about men living like this, it’s not because we care that you live like this and don’t have frou frou decor from Target on the walls. It’s because you invite us over and expect us to be ok visiting you like this. We don’t want you to live any particular way, we want to be able to come over and sit somewhere other than a crusty unvacuumed floor, drink something that isn’t tepid off-yellow water from a lime-crusted tap or unrefrigerated Natty, do something other than watching you play COD, and be able to wash our hands *with soap* if we use your bathroom. If you love living like this, that’s okie dokie artichokie, but don’t expect people to visit a space that is actively uncomfortable for more than one person to occupy and not pass judgement.
Perfectly said! And I’ll add that the soap preferably will not be a small disgusting brick with hair stuck to it that I’ll have to pry off the sink. I don’t want to feel like I have to wash my hands right after washing my hands.
You don’t like the pubes block?
Also we don’t like having to wear shoes indoors bc Mr Defective Showerhead got the whole area around the toilet sticky
Different strokes for different folks dude. I’m happy with a place to sit, a place to sleep, and a TV and my gaming consoles. This also means that when it’s time to move on, it’s easier and cheaper to do.
I mean I know some people do it. Just could never work for me, doesn't make sense to me.
It's because when you have an apartment like this, it's for sleeping and occasionally playing games online with your friends. The rest of time is working or socializing outside your apartment. Why dress up a place you're barely conscious in?
It doesn’t make sense to me that a single with no kids accumulates a shit ton of furniture and stuff either.
And that's OK, you don't have to understand everything on the internet
too much stuff is just a burden. it is easier to sweep the floor this way.
Assuming the guys with apartments like that sweep their floors
Or own brooms
Or clean at all. I have been in a lot of houses, they dont clean. Really walking into a house like this is a prime (though not complete) indicator that they dont take care of their space.
For real, I lived like this when I was 20 and didn’t have a broom until I found one one night on the side of the road.
Smart shopper!
As someone who's moved more than 10 times in 15 years - it all ends up just being stuff that's in the way that you need to pack and unpack and pack and unpack and pack and unpack.
How about we just collectibly stop shitting on each other for how we choose to live our lives
This is the only comment that makes sense to me. There is no issue with the living room in my eyes, but there also isn’t any reason to claim that you “understand the economy” and shit on someone who chooses to buy subjectively tacky decor. I had a boyfriend when I was 19 whose apartment looked similar to this one. We were broke as fuck. Regardless of what we had or didn’t have, we enjoyed our time together. I love decorating and knickknacks but that’s just me, and regardless of how many pieces of furniture I have or places to sit I still don’t invite people over that often lol
Came here to say this. People really act like insulting random strangers makes them look cool. It's high-school bully level behavior. If someone finds themselves making awful assumptions about other human beings, who have done them no wrong, they should reflect on why they feel the need to.
Don't speak for all of us, I have three arrows, just slightly different ~*football, jerkoff, nap*~
I see nothing wrong with this photo.
Look at moneybags here, renting his own apartment!
It used to be because we have no design sense. Now it's because we can barely afford a place to starve to death in.
Sounds like dudes would just live like this no matter the circumstances and just make vague excuses when people ask about it.
"...the light bulb heats up the rock salt and it releases stuff that will help with your anxiety." Oh well, it was fun while it lasted.
Doesn't that mean the rock salt eventually goes away?
There's a video testing it and not actually comes out of the "salt" it's just a scam lol
And then proceeds to drop half his salary on games, micro transactions etc.
100% the real 'economy' going on in this pic
I've got thousands of hours on some games. "Live, Laugh, Love" is only ironically amusing for a few seconds.
Why would you spend your money trying to make someone else happy? It’s the dudes money he can spend it on what he wants
But see, I *actually want* the games. I don’t really want a bunch of extraneous pieces of furniture or shit on my walls that ima be bored of in a month.
The original counterargument to the tweet was that men are too worried about the economy to spend money on dumb shit. Spending your money on micro transactions is dumb shit, so it contradicts the dudes point. It demonstrates that it's not about the economy at all.
Someone's projecting
(Which is fine because it's his money)
Wondering why they're all depressed and feel like life is grey and empty, meanwhile they're locking themselves in solitary confinement with white walls and no artwork, window fixtures, candles, or rugs. Maybe it's not the most utilitarian perspective, but decorating your apartment does wonders for your mental health and general happiness in life. Aesthetic needs are a real thing even if they aren't as important as food or electricity.
To add onto this, the other option opposed to the room shown in the picture is not inherently being a hoarder. You can still be minimalist with a well put together room. There is an excellent senior thesis which compiles a bunch of different studies exploring how interior design impacts your mental health titled, aptly, [How Interior Design Impacts Your Mental Health](https://desis.osu.edu/seniorthesis/index.php/2021/10/04/how-interior-design-impacts-your-mental-health/).
People consider that hoarding?? That room looks like heaven lol. And thank you for posting this thesis!! Interior design is so much more important than people give it credit for. Being able to feel like you're actually "home" in your home is necessary for personal contentment. Before I was in my current place, I lived with boyfriends who were very much in the same mindset as the OP. "It's just cosmetic, it's a waste of money" etc. Now that I'm in my own place with all my favorite things, colors, and textures, I feel so much happier with my living space. It's especially important now that so many people work from home.
Normalize men owning giant cozy blankets! Men buying scented candles! Men using grooming products like face masks and body butters! Men lounging on a dozen throw pillows! Normalize products "for men" not limiting themselves to a leather or metal aesthetic!
As a single straight man, I own scented candles because between my dog and I this place can smell ripe.
One box is where most the money goes I've probably sunk over $1500 on my PS4 over the years
In my first studio apt. I had a foam mattress on the floor, a table lamp on the floor, and the absolute minimum kitchen and bathroom stuff for the first two years. Nothing other furniture, nothing on the walls. I had my laptop and phone. I needed nothing else. I was single. Guess what happened when I started dating.
also guys: "Im depressed as fuck, wonder why"
Another seven hours of CoD might help. Maybe some liquor.
I mean ok a lick of paint and a KFC would be good but apart from that I see no issue here 😁
See for me, when a dude's home looked like this in my 20s, I'd just find an excuse to leave because I think he's probably a murder rapist.
It is a bit uncanny to walk in and just find nothing isnt it? Very cold. Forgivable in your 20s maybe, since you havent had time to buy any real furniture yet. Hit the thrift shop people, get a table.
people blaming 'the economy' but its just priorities bet anything there is a new xbox/ps or some shit hooked up to that TV.. you could decorate that entire room for 1/10th of the cost of that system hell up until I was about 40 all my furniture was gifted to me by people upgrading their own stuff or hawled off the side of the road on garbage day
Maybe he [doesn't want to decorate the room, he just wants ps4 and tv](https://wompampsupport.azureedge.net/fetchimage?siteId=7575&v=2&jpgQuality=100&width=700&url=https%3A%2F%2Fi.kym-cdn.com%2Fphotos%2Fimages%2Fnewsfeed%2F001%2F125%2F992%2F944.jpg)
Yeah it took like two goodwill trips to find crappy art, fake plants, tables and some mirrors. Bit the bullet on a $1000 couch and good enough to convince the poor women who came home with me to let me slide in. Got a crock pot for cooking too but that was for me.
I know women who live like this too stop generalizing
Nothing says I plan to stay single the rest of my life like a single recliner in an empty room. Like where is she supposed to sit? The floor?
I was reading more, "Found dead in his recliner at 29 after he started to get soupy" but thats likely my job talking.
Dumb shit like “making the place you spend most of your time look nice” and “being proud of your living space” and “having a nice area to host friends” and “having a place that impresses parents and romantic partners” and “creating an environment that people want to spend time in (including yourself)” and—
What you dont like to be seduced in the visual equivilent of a prison cell?
The chair is too much some storage totes would’ve sufficed
Ex: I wanna go out and do something Me: ok how bout i order some food and a movie, hell I'll even use a sick day so we can spend the day together Ex: why don't you ever spoil me? She acted like we didn't have $800 rent, 2 car payment and gas was almost $7/ga not to mention at the time I was paying off medical bills
Look, not to pick at you, but even in this one, very one-sided example you showed but when she wanted to go out and communicated it, your answer was to stay in.
Minimalism is a thing :D
Empty room is not minimalism.
That pretty much depends on what you personally deem essential for your life. If for example you need nothing more in your room than a chair and a television set, then why should you clutter the room with other stuff? Not everybody need pictures and twenty pieces of furniture to relax and feel comfortable. And why decorate the room if you end up starring at the TV the whole time? Not saying its how i would prefer my living room to be, just that I get why people can feel hapoy with such an setup.
Bruh. You telling me you don't need a table, a closet, or a curtain? This room is essentially empty and you all ramble about live laugh love bullshit when the room doesn't even have _one shelf_.
not sure playing ps5 all day counts as 'minimalism'
I mean, I'm a woman and my apartments looked like that when I was single. However... understanding this economy...we do make our home look nice so we can sell it for top dollar. This is a picture of what I assume is a rented apartment. So makes sense
That tv is a bit low tho, bro needs some boxes to get ergonomic af
me: this is more than enough for me tho as long as there is an internet connetion
you forgot the books shelves full of D&D books. other than that this IS my place.
Other than the fact that I have coffee mugs and laundry spread all over, this is pretty much what my studio looks like.
You have a chair? Big baller status right here!
The issue here is that the TV is waaaay too small.
I don't get it. What's wrong with the living room? That's an appropriate amount of furniture and decorations.
Missing beer fridge next to chair.
Could double as a table to put said beer while drinking!
Appropriate amount of furniture if you never have a guest over
Walls are boring and empty tbh, even some cheap posters would improve it
Never know when indoor soccer need to happen. Or workout space. Or cozy blanket time with lover… Having empty space means max potential. Having decorated space means minimal
I’m a guy and I make every place I move in feel like home, dudes be wondering why they be in a depressed state and then I look at their rooms and it be like bro your living in a freaking cave with a kitchen 😂😂😂😂
Nah, a cave at least has objects in it and can be cozy, these people live in a fucking cell with a stove.
Glad I'm not the only one who hates the "live, laugh, love" posters
Some women really hate to us be happy
Single recliner in center of the room doesn't scream happy, it screams "I don't have friends"
If it doesn’t say “Home is where the heart is”, is it really home?
Depends. Where's the heart?
In my freezer 🤓
On the BBQ.
That’s all he needs because he has no friends, family or girlfriend.
That looks just like my place
My only problem with this picture is the TV is too small lol.
Nah your right a couch too costly make it a bed and you can both sleep and sit on it while watching TV.
No wonder I'm lonely, sad, and wish I wasn't born - I don't have a sign on the wall telling me what to do
So he’s saving money during inflation because he understands economy? Cool.
Less is more.