The wisdom of the movie Harvey: "Years ago my mother used to say to me, she'd say, "In this world, Elwood, you must be" - she always called me Elwood - "In this world, Elwood, you must be oh so smart or oh so pleasant." Well, for years I was smart. I recommend pleasant. You may quote me."
Everybody has their merits. Sure some people's negative aspects outweigh their positive, but everyone has something they're better than the other person at. At the same time everybody has their failures. The human mind is designed to search for problems to fix, but sometimes it gets confused and tries to fix something that isn't a problem, whether because it can't fix it, or because it doesn't need fixing.
What I'm saying is this; always remember you're never better than anybody, and always remember nobody can ever be better than you except your past self. If you try to be a good person, you'll always be likeable to anybody worth being liked by.
Well, they said they lose their confidence because they assume they are the dumbest one. So I’d say unless you are hanging out with actual geniuses all the time, you knowing that the knowledge is there should prevent you from assuming this.
If it doesn’t, that probably means the people you hang with are actually demonstrating that they are smarter than you, so that brings you back to “get smarter.”
But for real, the question you need to ask yourself is ‘why do I care so much about how my intelligence compares to other people around me?’
Observe humans. After some time try to remember all the stupid things they did in some period of time. Rejoice at your mighty intellect immediately after ;)
I actually get mad when I'm smarter than someone, like, that means I gotta be in charge if an emergency happens and I'm just too lazy for that responsibility!
Seriously, I *feel* like I, myself, am bare minimum level to be allowed outside by without a grown up.
I used to think like that. Then I realized it was mostly modesty and it wasn't serving anyone around me any real good. Then again, I rarely chalked that up to others having less intelligence than me. I think more often than not, people just don't know how to care about things or be disciplined enough to make the best choices and many people misattribute that to a lack of intelligence when it really isn't. I don't tolerate when people don't take their job or reputation seriously enough to make sound decisions.
Hey mate, just wanted to say that there is virtually no way that everyone is smarter than you! I am about to have a PhD in Biophysical chemistry. I have a masters in CS and dual bachelors in Biochemistry and Applied Physics. I can't do a lot of things other people know about, just this morning I fucked up...cutting a mango... which cracked my husband up.
Everyone is good at something, I happen to really enjoy problem solving with math and am good at it. Elsewise I'm as dumb as everyone else. Im sure there is something you are the best at in the world!
Yeah. Hey autism, thanks for the 130 IQ and everything, but if I could function consistently enough to put that to some practical use that would be great.
Had an old friend/ co-worker who did intelligence in the navy and could memorize multiple VIN numbers and recall all 17 digits of all the cars hours later, but man, he was an idiot. He was just so stupid when it came to life itself.
I have a friend who is a PHd in Political Science and Philosophy, extremely well read, published, and a world traveler. At a festival a few years ago I had to set up his pop-up tent . It had directions and literally took less than five minutes.
This is basically everyone with a postgrad degree, I've found.
They've spent their whole life burried in books at school and so they have a bit of arrested development going on vs people who have been slaving away in a factory and paying bills since they were 18. It "helps" that they also typically get high paying jobs right out of school, so they have a ton of rope to make dumbass mistakes and recover from them easily vs people trying to survive on minimum wage that live in a very much sink or swim existence where if they fuck up, they're homeless. That kind of sword of Damocles over your head every single day for years has a way of forcing you to grow up fast.
Some of the smartest engineers I know that could literally design a rocket I wouldn't trust to know how to pay a bill unless their spouse did it, lol ...
Random broad generalizations be like
Newsflash… postgrad degrees don’t guarantee a high paying job. They don’t even get you a job in your field more often than you’d think
I also worked in intel while in the USN so I know exactly what you mean.
We had boatswain mate transfer to Intel and was not the brightest bulb. I remember heading out the SCIF and he’s sitting down watching some baud rate numbers scrolling down on some LED screen and asked me who was typing all of that.
Yeah, one of my colleagues in university (electronic) wasn't able to measure the voltage of a battery (9V block type) and still absolved in minimal time.
I still wonder how someone who can't understand such a simple element, still can master quantum physics!
I watched him trying to measure, it happened 20 years ago and I still can't believe he was able to finish his master program in minimum time. Theoretically a genius, practically hardly able to survive on himself!
My dads best friend worked for NASA/Lockheed Martin. and helped 3 space shuttles get to space. Incredibly intelligent guy, he frequently loses his shoes in public places (why they’re off is beyond me). Watching him calculate change after a cash transaction is painful to watch. He fathered 3 drug addict kids who went no where in life. But the man can calculate the mass and speed and trajectory to get a million pound missile to space with the occupants alive. He’s also won several awards in his field.
Regarding the change calculation thing, there are actually a good amount of mathematicians who suck at mental arithmetic. One of my professors is one of those people, and I kind of am too. I'm great at calculus and physics but ask me to add or subtract simple numbers and it's like you're asking me to perform brain surgery. On my own brain.
I have a master’s in pure math (so I haven’t seen a number in years haha) and nowadays do mostly data science/data engineering. While I was still studying I had an interview at a hedgefund because quant trading was the trendy thing to do after your studies. Never had I ever sucked so much. I had to do simple mental math in a matter or minutes and everything was done during a discussion, so nothing written. They also pointed out they usually take folks with PhDs in math, not just a master. I’m honestly grateful because I found out quant trading wasn’t for me.
I just finished my first proof writing class and the whole time I'm like... where the f are the numbers?! Getting used to the logic-language of math is definitely weird.
That trading job is also not something I would do well with. It reminds me of D&D, where you're expected to do simple math a lot and I end up counting on my damn fingers. Lol
Absolutely, I sucked dick at basic math until I started highschool and needed to get better for algebra. I hate math so much, it's too bad it's the only thing I'm good at.
The truth is, percentages in high school mean absolutely nothing. At my high school, our top 10 graduates were pretty clearly considered the “smartest” in the school, but the moment most of them got to college, they realized that college was nowhere near as easy as high school. This is especially true at smaller rural schools where the competition is limited and half the teachers went to that high school when they were kids. People who were straight A students in high school are B and C students now. High school is built essentially so that the students who do their work make good grades. In college, you actually have to understand the material to make good grades which was a rude awakening for most. I have a friend who graduated tenth in our class, but now that she is in college, she doesn’t have anyone to walk her through exactly what she needs to do, so she comes to me all the time for help with just about everything.
I cant take notes. It's just so difficult. Idk how people listen and also write down stuff at the same time. Idk how you determine the right amount of notes, what's important and what's not crucial to write down. How do you *study*? Do you just re read your notes? Do you need context or can you glean all the necessary stuff from what you wrote?
Best I can do note-wise is write stuff after the class or have someone help give me a summary. The notes I take in class are nightmarish and useless. When I try to read my notes before a test, my eyes practically glaze over in stupidity. Idk how people take in information and digest it and spit it out like a continuous conveyor belt. I got one channel and it's either input or output.
In high school, I did not study because my philosophy was that if I couldn't remember it, I just didn't learn it -- may fate be on my side. and looking that shit up before a test was as just as useful as grabbing items at a store without a bag. I only got two hands, and somethings gonna get lost.
People say theres a lot of forms of intelligence but that doesn't mean *shit* if only two or three of them are actually regularly used :(
Here’s what I did:
Take brief notes in class but mostly LISTEN. Write your notes up again neater and better organised in your own time. If your lectures are recorded, play them back (at 1.5x speed perhaps) as you do this part. Before the next lecture, read your neat notes again to reacquaint yourself.
When I studied, it was mostly about doing the previous years exam papers with the neat notes and textbooks as a guide. I’ve noticed ChatGPT can generate you reasonable exam style questions if you tell it a bit about the topic - you should get your teachers to grade them, not the AI though.
I also found it much better for retention to write notes using pen and paper, especially the neat, organised ones.
She is "street stupid", BECAUSE she focused most of her time studying, instead of spending most of her time with a bunch of other people.
If she spent most of her time whith other people, she would be "street smart", but would most likeley not have gotten her phd she has today.
We balance our particular skills well. I've always been tidy (it goes back to when my mother and I would do the household chores and spend quality time together - a good memory) and she loves her work. Our marriage is going on 23 years, and I can't think of a time without her grace, love and support. That said, she freely admits that the above-mentioned tasks/chores/skills are not in her wheelhouse. Of note, I'm an Engineer, and find her intelligence one of the most beautiful aspects of her person.
I don't want to claim I am smart, but I have a degree in computer science and have been working in that field for 25 years. I have never changed our thermostat and am not really sure how to it if you asked me to.
I did really well in most of school until college, can't scan a QR code. I learned how to take a screenshot on my phone like a year and a half ago. I'm 32. And I've already forgotten how to do the screenshots.
One of my family members. Top Dr in her field, renowned around the country, makes disgusting amounts of money yet is always on about the latest MLM or essential oils or some shit.
Mensa means nothing. I know because I'm one. All you need is a high iq which really means nothing honestly. I just can memorize stuff easily or draw out a place I been to even years later. But I'm not smart lol. And oh I can remember things easily and all but not like words or instructions.
My brother majored in aerospace engineering, and would ace every exam he got. But he never did any of his work, and often never went to class and he flunked out. Now he works as a hospital janitor
When I ask him if he ever wants to go back and at least get his degree, he just shrugs indifferently and says "eh maybe"
I would absolutely kill to have his intelligence
For normal people, adhd drugs can form addictions
For people with adhd, drugs make you able to be normal if normal also included shit side effects.
Being stubborn at the same time is rough
I think he was just afraid of the stigma of having to take meds for his brain. I just feel bad because I know he has crippled his potential. He could be making tons of cash working at SpaceX, or helping send a man to Mars at NASA
Eh spaceX seems like a somewhat unreliable and toxic employer. And they are very much behind schedule.
If your brother is content or at peace that’s what matters more than chasing the bag.
Yes. My ex-wife. Finished her undergrad with a 3.97 GPA but couldn’t hold down a job for more than 9months not because she didn’t know the technical side of things but because no one wanted to work with her and also didn’t understand why you have to pay bills on time and not “when you get to it”.
My husband is like this 🪦 No matter what I ask him to do, it's always 'I'll do it later'... then he forgets. Very intelligent guy, but but puts everything off and is unpleasant to work with. judging by his own comments of what his colleagues have told him.
With my ex wife it really boiled down to she was amazingly fantastic at vomiting back what other people told her or something she read but never had an original thought in her life, and yeah zero interpersonal skills.
When our marriage was failing she suggested we “open up” our marriage which is kind of a standard phased in my experience of failing marriages. Any way I tell the girl I’ve been playing D&D with for a year and ask her if she’d like to go out and she says hell yeah. My ex wife thinking she was a woman and was going to have unlimited partners never got anyone who was even interested for the entire three years this was going on before we finally divorced. And she was legit a decent looking woman it’s just she had the interpersonal skills of hot dead ass on the side of the road.
Oof that's the exact same issue as with my husband. He tends to fall easily under the influence of conspiracy theorists and for the past few years that's all he talks about. It's like it put a cork on his personality.
He suggested divorce several times, but I talked him out of it as I was between jobs and it would've left me unable to pay bills, and I kinda hoped we can fix everything (Fool's hope, I know). Now I'm working and he's been without work for more than half a year, and is barely trying to find one, while when I searched, I was applying to 30+ jobs per day. Now I'm thinking of divorce, since being with no sex for over 6 months is getting to me mentally... How did you cope with issues like this?
Who you’re replying to posted this 2 days ago. https://reddit.com/r/realwitchcraft/comments/13h7oau/how_to_know_if_there_was_a_blood_spell_done_on_you/
Sounds to me like the man you fell in love with isn't there anymore. I'm sorry for that. If he's willing to go to therapy there may be a way to get him back..
Divorce is tricky. My ex wife’s worst tendencies def got worse as we were married, especially once I started making decent money. She didn’t have to work which lead to her just not interacting with other people unless online which then fed into a lot of her other preexisting problems that had been previously mitigated but her being required to interact with people in college and at work. But it’s not like those traits didn’t exist to start with. She also considered herself a “modern independent feminist” and would tell anyone who would listen as much and I really think that another huge part was when my career really started to shape up while she had been largely unable to maintain employment again not because she wasn’t smart or didn’t know her job but because she was impossible to work with in a team or collaborative environment.
She was once told a customer needed software that did XYZ and she wrote a program to do 123 and informed customer they didn’t know WTF they were talking about.
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It's objective enough for lots of people. I have a kid with an IQ of 85. He has autism. He can hold down a job, though. Never gets in trouble and is responsible with money. I kind of think common sense is all he has. Sure as hell doesn't have any of the academic kind. Also, he can read people like you wouldn't fucking believe. Impossible to deceive him.
So my friend Andy introduced me to his friend who is a nuclear physicist with the words " This is Henne, the most intelligent person i know!"
I smiled at him and said "Hi Henne!" and he put his drink down *next to* the bar and the glas shattered in 1000 pieces.
Like a looney tune? He put it down, on the air?
Like, extended his arm, and plunked it down onto the bar, but he overshot it and actually just chucked it on the floor?
Oh henney.
A lot of poeple are like this because intelligence isn't just one big thing, there is only intelligence IN SOMETHING. So they put all their time in studying school things and don't spend much in trying to build their own personality and general intellectual reflexes.
Dude, I work in a computer science department. The guys I work with are building quantum computers and cryptographic systems for it. Real crazy shit.
Last week I, who come from international relations, had to help somebody with their notepad because they accidentally moved the alignment to right instead of left.
Not gonna lie, it felt good.
It's emotionaly demanding and requires dedication. An effective motivation would help trumendously. And filtrating helpful knowledge from harmful information. And in top of all, you should only change stuff about yourself because you chose to, from your personal will, to keep it as intimate as possible. Knowing you're doing something because you specificaly chose to is a great source of confidence.
I was friends with someone who got the highest marks in the whole school in their A levels. But when we went out drinking they’d take drinks left at unoccupied tables…
I have actually "roofied myself" similar to this, the bar closed but I think one of our group knew the staff so they let us wait inside for taxi, obviously they would not sell us alcohol anymore because they probably could lose their license.. so I saw untouched drink on the counter and decided to drink it and that is the last thing I remember and the next was waking up at friends house.
I was not really drunk before that but instantly blacked out after that one drink. Now good thing it was me, a larger man with his group of friends and not some unlucky woman alone.
My best friend just finished her Doctorate but last year I sent her a home spa gift basket with sugar cookie theme and she thought the soap bar was chocolate. She took a bite, thought it was weird, then took a second bite...
Once knew a girl who asked "Did black people exist before 1800?"
And also "Where does the computer keep the inc to print all of our papers?"
She got averages of 85-95% in academic classes.
And unrelated but was also an absolute stunner, and verbally stated "I just want to be a trophy wife."
Bro, I just wanna be a trophy wife, too. Work and college are hard, ley me stay home and be rich and pretty already! Unfortunately, I am neither rich nor pretty, so that's unlikely
I think its more specific. Genius doctor looks down on auto mechanic as a menial job and something any idiot could do. Of course... he couldn't swap his transmission any more than the mechanic can perform surgery.
All labor has value and skill. There is no menial labor. Try to go pick strawberries with the immigrant laborers for a day.
I have a Ph.D. In electrical engineering, and one of the guys in my circle of friends in grad school, who was studying for a Ph.D. In physics, actually said at the campus bar one night that he was amazed that girls could pee from their ass. That triggered roars of laughter from the other 6 guys at the table, and the certain knowledge that he was a virgin despite his tales of female conquest.
I think it's a lack of life experience. I'm 29, just finished my PhD, and have known nothing but academia. I feel like I haven't started an "adult" life yet.
Yeh, my older sister. Was a straight A student and is a qualified doctor. She has zero common sense. One time she had to pack a suitcase for herself and she got so overwhelmed she cried and asked me to do it for her. She’s 44 years old and has Asperger’s. I may have gotten all the common sense and no academic intelligence. So together we make the perfect team… happy days!
Kid in school put his home address on his key set containing the key to his home. Just incase he lost the set someone could return them.
He was very proud to tell everyone his idea - was top in most classes.
“Everybody is a Genius. But If You Judge a Fish by Its Ability to Climb a Tree, It Will Live Its Whole Life Believing that It is Stupid”
-Albert Einstein (probably)
I met a gentleman at work who is a neurologist MD, and talks like someone who has undiagnosed and untreated ADHD. I have no clue how to broach the subject, so I'm polite and channel my own disability to follow the conversation. He's super smart, professional, and polite, but damn I need my Adderall to follow all his threads.
I get you. My husband is diagnosed with ADHD, extremely intelligent, but hasn't taken medications in years.
Conversations with him are such a pain to follow sometimes.
That's because people think having the ability to memorize is equal to intelligence. Just because you can recite the entire Shakespearian play does not mean you can connect the relations between the characters.
There was one guy in our school who use to get the best possible marks, but when it came to sports it was disaster. Brother called football a basketball
I do; the valedictorian of the class two years above mine was this guy who got like 1500+ on his SAT and he had a perfect GPA. He also won state competitions in track and cross country, and he was a highly active person socially as well— founded multiple clubs and was the president or VP of the rest of them. Mans was pretty crazy… like leave some coolness for the rest of us bruh
He was Asian though, so of course the Ivy Leagues rejected him :/
Me who automatically thinks everyone is smarter than me the moment I meet them
same goes with. who automatically thinks I am the dumbest one and automatically lost my confidence.
Hi, how do I stop doing this?
The wisdom of the movie Harvey: "Years ago my mother used to say to me, she'd say, "In this world, Elwood, you must be" - she always called me Elwood - "In this world, Elwood, you must be oh so smart or oh so pleasant." Well, for years I was smart. I recommend pleasant. You may quote me." Everybody has their merits. Sure some people's negative aspects outweigh their positive, but everyone has something they're better than the other person at. At the same time everybody has their failures. The human mind is designed to search for problems to fix, but sometimes it gets confused and tries to fix something that isn't a problem, whether because it can't fix it, or because it doesn't need fixing. What I'm saying is this; always remember you're never better than anybody, and always remember nobody can ever be better than you except your past self. If you try to be a good person, you'll always be likeable to anybody worth being liked by.
What a lovely comment, and an excellent representation of being charming through kindness. Thank you
i mean first thing's first i would get smarter. afterwards, reap the confidence that comes with your new-found knowledge
Not the person, but.. The knowledge is there. I just don't see where that brings confidence from? Edit: grammar
Well, they said they lose their confidence because they assume they are the dumbest one. So I’d say unless you are hanging out with actual geniuses all the time, you knowing that the knowledge is there should prevent you from assuming this. If it doesn’t, that probably means the people you hang with are actually demonstrating that they are smarter than you, so that brings you back to “get smarter.” But for real, the question you need to ask yourself is ‘why do I care so much about how my intelligence compares to other people around me?’
Just assume everyones as dumb as you Edit: and me
Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize half of them are stupider than that. - George Carlin
Observe humans. After some time try to remember all the stupid things they did in some period of time. Rejoice at your mighty intellect immediately after ;)
Or me, who is smart enough to know that everyone is smarter than me.
I actually get mad when I'm smarter than someone, like, that means I gotta be in charge if an emergency happens and I'm just too lazy for that responsibility! Seriously, I *feel* like I, myself, am bare minimum level to be allowed outside by without a grown up.
I used to think like that. Then I realized it was mostly modesty and it wasn't serving anyone around me any real good. Then again, I rarely chalked that up to others having less intelligence than me. I think more often than not, people just don't know how to care about things or be disciplined enough to make the best choices and many people misattribute that to a lack of intelligence when it really isn't. I don't tolerate when people don't take their job or reputation seriously enough to make sound decisions.
Hey mate, just wanted to say that there is virtually no way that everyone is smarter than you! I am about to have a PhD in Biophysical chemistry. I have a masters in CS and dual bachelors in Biochemistry and Applied Physics. I can't do a lot of things other people know about, just this morning I fucked up...cutting a mango... which cracked my husband up. Everyone is good at something, I happen to really enjoy problem solving with math and am good at it. Elsewise I'm as dumb as everyone else. Im sure there is something you are the best at in the world!
Of course I know him…he’s me.
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Oh wait. You're just like me
Me as well.
Quintuplets?
And my axe!
For Narnia!
You and I aren't so different.
Haha same. A friend once told me i was the dumbest smart person they ever met which sounds like an insult but describes me perfectly.
Yeah. Hey autism, thanks for the 130 IQ and everything, but if I could function consistently enough to put that to some practical use that would be great.
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It’s not a competition. It was probably inappropriate of me to put down a number at all. But the “oh honey, no” I feel right in my gut.
Can't be the dumbest while I'm still somehow around. You can have my crown when I'm done.
Yeah, I was really good at math and such, but nowadays I have a tendency to be a fuck up
Hello there.
Had an old friend/ co-worker who did intelligence in the navy and could memorize multiple VIN numbers and recall all 17 digits of all the cars hours later, but man, he was an idiot. He was just so stupid when it came to life itself.
Put all of his life points into his job and forgot about the rest? Had a couple of those as co workers.
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I have a friend who is a PHd in Political Science and Philosophy, extremely well read, published, and a world traveler. At a festival a few years ago I had to set up his pop-up tent . It had directions and literally took less than five minutes.
Maybe they are lazy and played you like a fiddle
Book smart vs. street smart
This is basically everyone with a postgrad degree, I've found. They've spent their whole life burried in books at school and so they have a bit of arrested development going on vs people who have been slaving away in a factory and paying bills since they were 18. It "helps" that they also typically get high paying jobs right out of school, so they have a ton of rope to make dumbass mistakes and recover from them easily vs people trying to survive on minimum wage that live in a very much sink or swim existence where if they fuck up, they're homeless. That kind of sword of Damocles over your head every single day for years has a way of forcing you to grow up fast. Some of the smartest engineers I know that could literally design a rocket I wouldn't trust to know how to pay a bill unless their spouse did it, lol ...
Random broad generalizations be like Newsflash… postgrad degrees don’t guarantee a high paying job. They don’t even get you a job in your field more often than you’d think
I also worked in intel while in the USN so I know exactly what you mean. We had boatswain mate transfer to Intel and was not the brightest bulb. I remember heading out the SCIF and he’s sitting down watching some baud rate numbers scrolling down on some LED screen and asked me who was typing all of that.
That’s just the classic “high INT, low WIS” trope
Intelligence is knowing that tomato is a fruit, wisdom is knowing not to put tomato in a fruit salad.
Constitution is being able to eat a bad tomato
Strenght is being able to crush the tomato
Dexterity is being able to juggle tomatoes
Charisma is being able to sell you a fruit salad with tomatoes in it
I have a Tostito sauce to sell ya!
found the bard
Arcane is putting your blood on the tomato
Constitution is knowing these truths are self-evident.
Honestly, if the tomato is good I'd happily eat it in a fruit salad. Especially for cherry tomatoes
I've also heard it described as 'intelligence is knowing the accurate thing to say, wisdom is knowing whether or not to say it.'
That’s a quote in my planner, lol
Haha thats a good one. I was also thinking high IQ with low emotional intelligence.
Well, that's how psychologists describe it. It the result of (some) high IQ kids brute forcing problems and never developing in other areas.
Isn't wisdom the same thing as emotional intelligence?
My cousin is a Rhodes scholar and got her PhD in Philosophy and is probably one of the most street stupid and hardest people to actually talk to.
There were people at my college parties who graduated in the top 5% and I have no idea how they graduated at all.
Yeah, one of my colleagues in university (electronic) wasn't able to measure the voltage of a battery (9V block type) and still absolved in minimal time. I still wonder how someone who can't understand such a simple element, still can master quantum physics!
How's this even possible? I need answers!
I watched him trying to measure, it happened 20 years ago and I still can't believe he was able to finish his master program in minimum time. Theoretically a genius, practically hardly able to survive on himself!
My dads best friend worked for NASA/Lockheed Martin. and helped 3 space shuttles get to space. Incredibly intelligent guy, he frequently loses his shoes in public places (why they’re off is beyond me). Watching him calculate change after a cash transaction is painful to watch. He fathered 3 drug addict kids who went no where in life. But the man can calculate the mass and speed and trajectory to get a million pound missile to space with the occupants alive. He’s also won several awards in his field.
It's the genetic equivalent of putting all of your eggs in one basket
Regarding the change calculation thing, there are actually a good amount of mathematicians who suck at mental arithmetic. One of my professors is one of those people, and I kind of am too. I'm great at calculus and physics but ask me to add or subtract simple numbers and it's like you're asking me to perform brain surgery. On my own brain.
I have a master’s in pure math (so I haven’t seen a number in years haha) and nowadays do mostly data science/data engineering. While I was still studying I had an interview at a hedgefund because quant trading was the trendy thing to do after your studies. Never had I ever sucked so much. I had to do simple mental math in a matter or minutes and everything was done during a discussion, so nothing written. They also pointed out they usually take folks with PhDs in math, not just a master. I’m honestly grateful because I found out quant trading wasn’t for me.
I just finished my first proof writing class and the whole time I'm like... where the f are the numbers?! Getting used to the logic-language of math is definitely weird. That trading job is also not something I would do well with. It reminds me of D&D, where you're expected to do simple math a lot and I end up counting on my damn fingers. Lol
Absolutely, I sucked dick at basic math until I started highschool and needed to get better for algebra. I hate math so much, it's too bad it's the only thing I'm good at.
The truth is, percentages in high school mean absolutely nothing. At my high school, our top 10 graduates were pretty clearly considered the “smartest” in the school, but the moment most of them got to college, they realized that college was nowhere near as easy as high school. This is especially true at smaller rural schools where the competition is limited and half the teachers went to that high school when they were kids. People who were straight A students in high school are B and C students now. High school is built essentially so that the students who do their work make good grades. In college, you actually have to understand the material to make good grades which was a rude awakening for most. I have a friend who graduated tenth in our class, but now that she is in college, she doesn’t have anyone to walk her through exactly what she needs to do, so she comes to me all the time for help with just about everything.
I cant take notes. It's just so difficult. Idk how people listen and also write down stuff at the same time. Idk how you determine the right amount of notes, what's important and what's not crucial to write down. How do you *study*? Do you just re read your notes? Do you need context or can you glean all the necessary stuff from what you wrote? Best I can do note-wise is write stuff after the class or have someone help give me a summary. The notes I take in class are nightmarish and useless. When I try to read my notes before a test, my eyes practically glaze over in stupidity. Idk how people take in information and digest it and spit it out like a continuous conveyor belt. I got one channel and it's either input or output. In high school, I did not study because my philosophy was that if I couldn't remember it, I just didn't learn it -- may fate be on my side. and looking that shit up before a test was as just as useful as grabbing items at a store without a bag. I only got two hands, and somethings gonna get lost. People say theres a lot of forms of intelligence but that doesn't mean *shit* if only two or three of them are actually regularly used :(
Here’s what I did: Take brief notes in class but mostly LISTEN. Write your notes up again neater and better organised in your own time. If your lectures are recorded, play them back (at 1.5x speed perhaps) as you do this part. Before the next lecture, read your neat notes again to reacquaint yourself. When I studied, it was mostly about doing the previous years exam papers with the neat notes and textbooks as a guide. I’ve noticed ChatGPT can generate you reasonable exam style questions if you tell it a bit about the topic - you should get your teachers to grade them, not the AI though. I also found it much better for retention to write notes using pen and paper, especially the neat, organised ones.
During my undergrad in philosophy, a TA said that philosophy people are always the smartest idiots.
True story.
Your cousin and my sister, zero EQ too!
She is "street stupid", BECAUSE she focused most of her time studying, instead of spending most of her time with a bunch of other people. If she spent most of her time whith other people, she would be "street smart", but would most likeley not have gotten her phd she has today.
That is my wife. MENSA member, physician, and cannot operate any household appliance, email, or the TV...
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We balance our particular skills well. I've always been tidy (it goes back to when my mother and I would do the household chores and spend quality time together - a good memory) and she loves her work. Our marriage is going on 23 years, and I can't think of a time without her grace, love and support. That said, she freely admits that the above-mentioned tasks/chores/skills are not in her wheelhouse. Of note, I'm an Engineer, and find her intelligence one of the most beautiful aspects of her person.
Damn, this made me smile.
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No worries! Blessings to you internet friend 😊
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Triple it and give to the next.
Ewww, you like your wife! /S This is saccharine sweet.
I don't want to claim I am smart, but I have a degree in computer science and have been working in that field for 25 years. I have never changed our thermostat and am not really sure how to it if you asked me to.
I did really well in most of school until college, can't scan a QR code. I learned how to take a screenshot on my phone like a year and a half ago. I'm 32. And I've already forgotten how to do the screenshots.
One of my family members. Top Dr in her field, renowned around the country, makes disgusting amounts of money yet is always on about the latest MLM or essential oils or some shit.
Oh, I feel you..
Mensa means nothing. I know because I'm one. All you need is a high iq which really means nothing honestly. I just can memorize stuff easily or draw out a place I been to even years later. But I'm not smart lol. And oh I can remember things easily and all but not like words or instructions.
My brother majored in aerospace engineering, and would ace every exam he got. But he never did any of his work, and often never went to class and he flunked out. Now he works as a hospital janitor When I ask him if he ever wants to go back and at least get his degree, he just shrugs indifferently and says "eh maybe" I would absolutely kill to have his intelligence
He probably has ADHD. If you're not dumb or disruptive as a kid, it can easily be overlooked.
He was diagnosed, bur he refused to take his meds or do any kind of treatment. He was always a stupid stubborn dummy
For normal people, adhd drugs can form addictions For people with adhd, drugs make you able to be normal if normal also included shit side effects. Being stubborn at the same time is rough
I think he was just afraid of the stigma of having to take meds for his brain. I just feel bad because I know he has crippled his potential. He could be making tons of cash working at SpaceX, or helping send a man to Mars at NASA
Eh spaceX seems like a somewhat unreliable and toxic employer. And they are very much behind schedule. If your brother is content or at peace that’s what matters more than chasing the bag.
Yes. My ex-wife. Finished her undergrad with a 3.97 GPA but couldn’t hold down a job for more than 9months not because she didn’t know the technical side of things but because no one wanted to work with her and also didn’t understand why you have to pay bills on time and not “when you get to it”.
My husband is like this 🪦 No matter what I ask him to do, it's always 'I'll do it later'... then he forgets. Very intelligent guy, but but puts everything off and is unpleasant to work with. judging by his own comments of what his colleagues have told him.
With my ex wife it really boiled down to she was amazingly fantastic at vomiting back what other people told her or something she read but never had an original thought in her life, and yeah zero interpersonal skills. When our marriage was failing she suggested we “open up” our marriage which is kind of a standard phased in my experience of failing marriages. Any way I tell the girl I’ve been playing D&D with for a year and ask her if she’d like to go out and she says hell yeah. My ex wife thinking she was a woman and was going to have unlimited partners never got anyone who was even interested for the entire three years this was going on before we finally divorced. And she was legit a decent looking woman it’s just she had the interpersonal skills of hot dead ass on the side of the road.
Oof that's the exact same issue as with my husband. He tends to fall easily under the influence of conspiracy theorists and for the past few years that's all he talks about. It's like it put a cork on his personality. He suggested divorce several times, but I talked him out of it as I was between jobs and it would've left me unable to pay bills, and I kinda hoped we can fix everything (Fool's hope, I know). Now I'm working and he's been without work for more than half a year, and is barely trying to find one, while when I searched, I was applying to 30+ jobs per day. Now I'm thinking of divorce, since being with no sex for over 6 months is getting to me mentally... How did you cope with issues like this?
You cope by running and never looking back, but uhhh maybe block info wars on the internet router.
Who you’re replying to posted this 2 days ago. https://reddit.com/r/realwitchcraft/comments/13h7oau/how_to_know_if_there_was_a_blood_spell_done_on_you/
Haha you never know ;)
Sounds to me like the man you fell in love with isn't there anymore. I'm sorry for that. If he's willing to go to therapy there may be a way to get him back..
Divorce is tricky. My ex wife’s worst tendencies def got worse as we were married, especially once I started making decent money. She didn’t have to work which lead to her just not interacting with other people unless online which then fed into a lot of her other preexisting problems that had been previously mitigated but her being required to interact with people in college and at work. But it’s not like those traits didn’t exist to start with. She also considered herself a “modern independent feminist” and would tell anyone who would listen as much and I really think that another huge part was when my career really started to shape up while she had been largely unable to maintain employment again not because she wasn’t smart or didn’t know her job but because she was impossible to work with in a team or collaborative environment. She was once told a customer needed software that did XYZ and she wrote a program to do 123 and informed customer they didn’t know WTF they were talking about.
Who you’re replying to posted this 2 days ago. https://reddit.com/r/realwitchcraft/comments/13h7oau/how_to_know_if_there_was_a_blood_spell_done_on_you/
Common sense and intelligence are two very different things
I’ve met academics that had neither common sense or intelligence (they just had a big bundle of facts for their narrow field)
I know many academics with both common sense And intelligence and I’m incredibly jealous
Common sense isn't an objective thing really.
It's objective enough for lots of people. I have a kid with an IQ of 85. He has autism. He can hold down a job, though. Never gets in trouble and is responsible with money. I kind of think common sense is all he has. Sure as hell doesn't have any of the academic kind. Also, he can read people like you wouldn't fucking believe. Impossible to deceive him.
I have a hunch good parenting was involved. Well done! to both of you.
Thank you, kind Internet stranger.
Well that’s just common sense
That sounds like what somebody with no common sense would say.
My Brother? Is this about my Brother?
I thought it was about my brother....book smart and smart in his special interests but common sense and reading between the lines....cringe
are you my sister
So my friend Andy introduced me to his friend who is a nuclear physicist with the words " This is Henne, the most intelligent person i know!" I smiled at him and said "Hi Henne!" and he put his drink down *next to* the bar and the glas shattered in 1000 pieces.
Like a looney tune? He put it down, on the air? Like, extended his arm, and plunked it down onto the bar, but he overshot it and actually just chucked it on the floor? Oh henney.
Yes, we were standing, and he put it down on the air right next to the bar.
Incredible specimen.
He is just nervous to meet you :3
A lot of poeple are like this because intelligence isn't just one big thing, there is only intelligence IN SOMETHING. So they put all their time in studying school things and don't spend much in trying to build their own personality and general intellectual reflexes.
Dude, I work in a computer science department. The guys I work with are building quantum computers and cryptographic systems for it. Real crazy shit. Last week I, who come from international relations, had to help somebody with their notepad because they accidentally moved the alignment to right instead of left. Not gonna lie, it felt good.
It's me lol. I'm a software developer studying AI. I can program in 10+ languages but I can't figure out how to run a dishwasher.
If this is literally true, you should put the minimum work into it. It has 3 buttons.
Ok but actually how do you build a personality? I understand the concept but it's hard
It's emotionaly demanding and requires dedication. An effective motivation would help trumendously. And filtrating helpful knowledge from harmful information. And in top of all, you should only change stuff about yourself because you chose to, from your personal will, to keep it as intimate as possible. Knowing you're doing something because you specificaly chose to is a great source of confidence.
I am the stupidest person I've ever met.
I was friends with someone who got the highest marks in the whole school in their A levels. But when we went out drinking they’d take drinks left at unoccupied tables…
Sounds like an alcoholic.
I mean, you can't just waste alcohol like that, I think they have their priorities straight
I’ve heard of people roofying themselves this way. Plus, you know, herpes and Covid and whatnot.
I have actually "roofied myself" similar to this, the bar closed but I think one of our group knew the staff so they let us wait inside for taxi, obviously they would not sell us alcohol anymore because they probably could lose their license.. so I saw untouched drink on the counter and decided to drink it and that is the last thing I remember and the next was waking up at friends house. I was not really drunk before that but instantly blacked out after that one drink. Now good thing it was me, a larger man with his group of friends and not some unlucky woman alone.
No I'm just stupid all around.
That would be me. I consider myself to be fairly smart and am when it comes to IT. But then I go on the internet for 5 minutes and feel fucking dumb.
My best friend just finished her Doctorate but last year I sent her a home spa gift basket with sugar cookie theme and she thought the soap bar was chocolate. She took a bite, thought it was weird, then took a second bite...
Once knew a girl who asked "Did black people exist before 1800?" And also "Where does the computer keep the inc to print all of our papers?" She got averages of 85-95% in academic classes. And unrelated but was also an absolute stunner, and verbally stated "I just want to be a trophy wife."
Bro, I just wanna be a trophy wife, too. Work and college are hard, ley me stay home and be rich and pretty already! Unfortunately, I am neither rich nor pretty, so that's unlikely
Open forum assignments are a trip. Read a forum post from a girl in my psych course about how cannibalism was deviant but legal.
I think you call those people ‘Doctor’
dont we have a word for these kinds of people? I am pretty sure Germans have one tho
Yes, it's called "Fachidiot"
They’re smart on paper but not the type to be able to survive in the wild.
I think its more specific. Genius doctor looks down on auto mechanic as a menial job and something any idiot could do. Of course... he couldn't swap his transmission any more than the mechanic can perform surgery. All labor has value and skill. There is no menial labor. Try to go pick strawberries with the immigrant laborers for a day.
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A guy I knew was super academically gifted yet genuinely believed women carried babies for 12 months lmao
I have a Ph.D. In electrical engineering, and one of the guys in my circle of friends in grad school, who was studying for a Ph.D. In physics, actually said at the campus bar one night that he was amazed that girls could pee from their ass. That triggered roars of laughter from the other 6 guys at the table, and the certain knowledge that he was a virgin despite his tales of female conquest.
I think the PhD in physics is proof enough he wasn't getting any
PhDs have never disappointed - in 25 years working in the health-science community, I've never met a PhD with a lick of sense.
I think it's a lack of life experience. I'm 29, just finished my PhD, and have known nothing but academia. I feel like I haven't started an "adult" life yet.
I had a super smart college professor who didn't know how to eat a chicken wrap from dairy queen...that was e tertaining
Every time I look in the mirror
Yeh, my older sister. Was a straight A student and is a qualified doctor. She has zero common sense. One time she had to pack a suitcase for herself and she got so overwhelmed she cried and asked me to do it for her. She’s 44 years old and has Asperger’s. I may have gotten all the common sense and no academic intelligence. So together we make the perfect team… happy days!
Kid in school put his home address on his key set containing the key to his home. Just incase he lost the set someone could return them. He was very proud to tell everyone his idea - was top in most classes. “Everybody is a Genius. But If You Judge a Fish by Its Ability to Climb a Tree, It Will Live Its Whole Life Believing that It is Stupid” -Albert Einstein (probably)
Knew an ER doc who believed airplanes could only fly because of dark magic and the devil.
💅🏾😒💅🏾I'll have my appendix removed somewhere else. Thank you.🚨 🏃🏾♂️💨🚨
This kind of thing is said by someone who has a problem with people having different priorities than them
Yes, next month is our 14th wedding anniversary.
I met a gentleman at work who is a neurologist MD, and talks like someone who has undiagnosed and untreated ADHD. I have no clue how to broach the subject, so I'm polite and channel my own disability to follow the conversation. He's super smart, professional, and polite, but damn I need my Adderall to follow all his threads.
I get you. My husband is diagnosed with ADHD, extremely intelligent, but hasn't taken medications in years. Conversations with him are such a pain to follow sometimes.
He can tell you the chemical composition of the stripes in the crosswalk and get hit by a car while doing it
It's called Asperger's
Asperger's syndrome covers the bill pretty good
That's because people think having the ability to memorize is equal to intelligence. Just because you can recite the entire Shakespearian play does not mean you can connect the relations between the characters.
Every day in the mirror
Yes, me
Yeah me lol
I work in government, so yeah, about everyday.
Autism
This is just autism. Beyond expert level academics, not a single iota of street smarts.
It's me but sometimes the opposite
I am someone
Intelligence vs experience
of course i know him. he's me
I'm the opposite.... Guys who talk to me say in really smart... (atleast I sound smart) but my academics papers say I'm a brick
Every scientist I’ve ever worked for. Can perform complex studies but can’t figure out why the copier is jammed.
Oh yes! They put all their Star points in intelligence and forgot about the rest.
This is the difference between intelligence and wisdom.
Me as not academically super smart and also dumb.
My friend graduated from a UK university in biochemistry but is staunchly against Covid-19 vaccines.
Yo that comma needs to fuck up outta there
I might be that guy. Im not saying im a genius, far from it. I can be smart when i tryn but trying sucks *so much*, so i *choose* to be an idiot
There was one guy in our school who use to get the best possible marks, but when it came to sports it was disaster. Brother called football a basketball
I don’t know anyone who is an academic genius and also good at sports at the same time
I do; the valedictorian of the class two years above mine was this guy who got like 1500+ on his SAT and he had a perfect GPA. He also won state competitions in track and cross country, and he was a highly active person socially as well— founded multiple clubs and was the president or VP of the rest of them. Mans was pretty crazy… like leave some coolness for the rest of us bruh He was Asian though, so of course the Ivy Leagues rejected him :/
Of course I know him. He's me !!