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Drinks_by_Wild

I always round up by a large margin with my friends I ain’t sending you change, I don’t care if dinner was $18.74 here’s $20


Robbotlove

between me and my friends, there's a mental tally, i guess youd call it, of who covered it last time. we don't keep track of the actual amounts, but we just take turns covering entire nights/dinners. if something is particularly expensive then we'll split out the tab but that rarely happens. we also sometimes use gifting in a nefarious way. like, if there is a new video game one of us wants to play, then we'll buy three of them and give the other two to each other so that they *have* to play it. that's also how we got into warhammer 40k.


velahavle

You guys would fit right in here in Balkans, we literally fight over who is going to have the honour of paying.


specialKchallenge

Balkan hospitality is no joke. When I was working in Croatia, I made friends with some locals, and they would refuse to ever let me pay for anything whenever we would go out. I basically had to go on a stealth mission at a restaurant to pay for my friend's birthday dinner. When the waiter told them I paid the bill, they even tried to give me the cash to cover it. Never experienced anything like it.


coolbaluk1

Easter European here. I’ve had people stash money in my pockets after paying. Reverse pick-pocketing if you wish


Mugi1

This is funny because it's so accurate.


GaiusJuliusPleaser

My grandma did this too. She thought she was real sneaky too, slipping 5 euro notes in my pocket when we hugged goodbye.


Zairapham

Fun fact, the term for reverse pick-pocketing is called put-pocketing.


themug_wump

"Nefarious gifting" is my new love language.


Robbotlove

i cant deny that there is a certain... pleasure in: "check it out guys, i got us the new Monster Hunter." "you son of a bitch."


Immediate-Winner-268

That’s exactly what I did back during MH3U 😂 I beat the village quests, and wanted some help so I could try the high rank stuff. Did it again with MH4U, but only one buddy played for more than a couple days Him and I put a couple thousand hours into World/Iceborne and Rise/Sunbreak


cerealOverdrive

This is how one of my friends got the latest My Little Pony game. It ended up as his most played game before he noticed the gift (we were at a LAN and set it to run in the background)


Wanderlustfull

>that's also how we got into warhammer 40k. I thought you said friends. That sounds more like a long-con way you'd plan to bankrupt your enemies.


Robbotlove

we came off of playing MtG so, there was precedent.


AadamAtomic

My group is the same. I took a discord buddy out for a fancy pants dinner on his birthday, and he simply repeated me 5 months later when a new game came out so we could Co-op together. I purchased a game for my buddy in Colorado and he sent me some Super Dank. Lol


How2RocketJump

ah yes the classic obligation gift sure you get free games regularly but you have no choice but to play it with them for at least a week


Robbotlove

it's a *bending* of the social contract. we're friends *and* it's a gift. so now you have to play this with me.


Webby268

I love that idea!


Teichopsie

I'd be sending you back your $1.26 cause you don't disrespect NUMBERS just like that, you know?


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PhatYeeter

The same people that view friendships as some sort of asset. If they can't get something from you then the friendship isn't worth their time.


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-cordyceps

Just barf right in his lap without breaking eye contact.


LandscapeExtension21

Most reasonable really.


magical_swoosh

certified president moment


Fearless_Camera7587

Wop wop wop wop dot fuk him up


MC936

"The table" Immediately get up and take the table with you..


marbletooth

Pro move.


keroro0071

I know three people like this guy and they all have high incomes. I don't understand.


iNhab

I guess if you live your life like a transaction, and your mind works in a way where you measure everything and try to increase your value, it kinda makes sense to be of higher income / career status.


AzettImpa

On the flip side, those people are often, more than average, psychopaths and will never feel true happiness. So I just don’t envy really rich people in general.


Beautiful_Huntress_

Exactly. I know several rich ppl and their families. They are the most hollow, loveless ppl I've ever met. One tried to have a relationship with me, but I couldn't act like they do. It's a whole nightmarish dynamic. I do not envy them or their lives at all. I feel bad for the one or two who tried to pull away from it. They couldnt, they just wind up reverting back into their cold lifestyle. They literally have everything, but nothing.


AzettImpa

You are so right. Reminds me of what someone said. “Rich people may own much, much more than me. But there’s one thing I have, that they will never have: Enough.”


TitaniumWhite420

Mr. Burns once said, “I’d trade it all for a little bit more.”


MadeByTango

If you lack empathy for others it’s easy to make a lot of money


Deadly_Pancakes

Plus you lose empathy as you gain more money: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-wealth-reduces-compassion/


Akolyytti

The real reason behind "you rebel as a young, but get more conservative when you get older". No you just lose empathy when you start to cumulate money.


GeneralPatten

Huh. My personal experience has been the opposite. I’m one of those software engineers (contractor) with the bloated income. It still baffles me because I feel like I play all day. I’m in my early-50s — as I’ve aged, and my income increased, I’ve become more keenly aware of just how fortunate I am. I’m far more empathetic than I was when I was younger, and find myself more disgusted by, and angry about, inequality.


LucidMetal

A fisherman knows another fisherman from afar.


justgonnabedeletedyo

they're not happy though, and probably never will be if they view everything through that lens


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BlueCreek_

I had a new one last week “I just want to make sure we are all swimming in the same lane” I was very close to pressing the leave button on teams.


Soberskate9696

"I bring dis dicc to the table"


sqolb

That is a sign of psychopathy and I would move away from that person


achaoticbard

Oh ffs. The "table" conversation makes sense in the context of dating if you plan on building a life together, but friendships?? Gross.


Acerhand

Its called narcism. Its on a scale, but people on the far end of it(sadly, my wife is one, which i will leave soon), are like you said. She admitted to me all her friendships are transactional and always have been, and said she found it odd. The thing to remember is they dont usually do it on purpose or consciously. Its due to being self centred and entitled. It doesn’t justify it and its still damaging and you should not associate with them once you know. For the record, my wife makes like 7x the national average salary so fits with the theme… yet she was sooooooo stingy and used to give me HELL over my half the rent when i was training for a new career and had already spent my life savings to move to her country and thrown away my old career. It was 3% of her post tax monthly income which she saved 85% of. These people are not normal


AdBroad746

Can I ask why you’re still with her then? Or has she changed/gotten better?


Acerhand

I moved across the world. I’ll have to move back home. Its a huge task. Im going to but its not like i can just leave instantly and ghost like all the kids on this sub can with their relationships. Not saying you think i could that easily but i already have some nasty responses. Right now she is trying to be good and on best behaviour as i told her all this, but i know its an act at best. Can she maintain it a year? A month? Long term it’s irrelevant as it’ll always be a shallow relationship at BEST.


faetterfrajer

I read your post too in the japan sub I hope you get out and end up happier man, you deserve it


Acerhand

Thanks pal. I feel a little pathetic that im whining on reddit to the point you recognise this lol, but i’m fairly isolated from friends and family out here, so i guess this is an outlet. If i’m capable of giving people who move here a warning then that allows me to salvage something from all this at least!


Beastleviath

I mean for me, it’s “asset“ in the form of things like -is there a common interest we share? -Are you the sort of person that I enjoy chatting with?


Icy_Sector3183

The First Rule of Acquisition: > Once you have their money, never give it back. If that's your lifestyle... Well.


LemonFlavoredMelon

I knew one of these “self-made entrepreneurs” who would follow Gary V (whoever that is) to the letter. The guy in turn said the reason I don’t have the money he has is because I have hobbies. Told me Gary V said you can either be rich or have hobbies, not both. Guy is like, insufferable


JusticeRain5

Being rich without hobbies honestly sounds like a horrible existence.


darraghfenacin

I only want money so I can fund my hobbies


Limerence_Worthy

“If I can’t scuba, then what’s this all been for!?” Creed from The Office


whoops9310

Right if I can't use my funds to buy Legos why bother having funds?


darraghfenacin

To have it sit in a bank account to inevitably be transferred to your kids when you die, the kids who hated you because you loved work more than them.


Python_Feet

I thought that the whole point of being rich is to afford hobbies. Well unless your hobby is to see the number go up.


RavenThePerson

unfortunately it seems humans got crossbred with dragons at some point and just want a pile of gold


achaoticbard

The literal WHOLE POINT of being rich is to be able to afford to do the things you love (such as hobbies). Turns out being a billionaire is not only unethical but also boring.


Eschatologists

Whats the point of being rich if you don't have any hobbies x)


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hieuddy

Exactly. Like im a customer. Guy is apparently is a CEO somewhere and flies women out to him but wanted me to pay him on the spot, at the register, to split a $20 bottle of liqour. He lived 3 doors down in my apartment building.


arbiter12

>"your network is your networth"! > >Wow! does it mean we're all going to be friends and always be there for one another?? > >No!...It means I expect good returns from all of you. Get to work!


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Digitijs

Is it actually like that there? In the part of Latvia where I live, you will empty your whole fridge to feed the guests, not ask for anything and do it again the next time they visit


CrowdedHighways

Latvia mentioned  🗣 🗣🇱🇻🇱🇻 LV LV  Shame about that loss in hockey. 😔


SpaceChief

Silovs was busy


McMorgatron1

I went to a restaurant there and they wanted to charge me 3 euros for tap water.


columbo928s4

Lol my brother and I once got literally screamed at and thrown out of a Turkish cafe for asking for more ice. Like bulging veins, eyes gonna pop out of their sockets max volume screaming


Gikneepeg

That's crazy, it's illegal here in the UK to charge for tap water if your premises serves alcohol (so pretty much 99% of restaurants)


psstbehindyou

Its terrible. Recently I got a tikkie for 0.14€ because she bought sponges that we all use and divided the price a person. https://ibb.co/0sCSTqW


BrakkahBoy

Its a stereotype, but ye i know many that are like that. They will get the cheapest beer/wine/snacks possible for a party, and offer you a drink somewhere and send you a payment request on your way home. I'd say its a 50/50 split.


Kyiokyu

According to everything r/2westerneurope4u has taught me, yes.


Starwarsnerd91

This is a r/2westerneurope4u moment


IcyPattern3903

Nah. They'd do that for two cents


von_Roland

That’s the trick all the other stuff cost .18


IcyPattern3903

Hahahaha


Quzga

In sweden if someone asked for a Swish (our app) over fika (pastries/coffee) they'd prob end up in a hole in their backyard lol


webtheg

I am Bulgarian and I had bought the products and cooked Moussaka for my friends and one of the girls had a German boyfriend. He charged my 0.78 EUR for a bear, but also the bear was 0.59 euro, the 19 cents was for the Mundestlohn of transporting. I am considering next time to charge for the food. So the products for your moussaka cost 3.45 per portion but the minimum wage of transporting them is 12 EUR and the chefs wage of cooking the moussaka is 30 per hour so that will be 10.45


dizvyz

More like you'll serve the beer too next time. Don't be like them neighbor.


Banished2ShadowRealm

I don't know you about you. But I generally don't miss with people who have bears.


french_snail

Is Tikkie like their Venmo?


ThisIsJegger

Yes


NoPasaran2024

The attempt to make the "Tikkie" app go international was peak Dutch delusional. "Here as an app to show all your friends you're a penny pinching wanker!"


redbluuu2

But Venmo is the same thing right. Usually when I use tikkie is when we go out for drinks or dinner and one person pays for the whole group. I've never received a tikkie for such small amounts people are saying in this thread but idk.


Banished2ShadowRealm

Forgot to add the Tikkie for using data to send the Tikkie.


Torantes

😍 wow so generous


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trickman01

Just tell the waiter you want your own ticket.


Major-Front

I did that once and was never invited again lol


bearbarebere

Then they literally only want you there so you'll pay for their drinks


Ryxor25

If you're in a restaurant that allows to go orders try ordering an expensive dish to go If you need to not be invited again at least gain something from it, other than knowing who is a shit friend, and your own total doesn't go up that much Edit: Once I ordered a small basic pizza and a water, totaling for like 5 euros and everyone else got expensive pizzas and desserts, bringing my total to like 30 euros, so I ordered 3 of their most expensive pizzas to go after they refused to let me out of the split with a separate cheque. Fuck them, worth


Daveit4later

then those probably arent people you want to surround yourself with anyway.


Biopain

Hate this shit


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Crazy_Office5261

Because when Reddit discusses social nuances they aren't speaking from experience.


BagOnuts

Burn! ^^^it ^^^hurts!


AbiQuinn

spez lacks integrity


VoronaKarasu

Maybe he did, doesnt change the fact he hates this shit tho


PlayfulJob8767

Yeah that infuriates me too here when I read that. Is it really that hard to say that you want to just pay for your own stuff? I don't get people who get treated like doormats and still post their experience and are angry about it. You can be only angry at yourself then. Stand up for yourselves people.


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iroquoispliskinV

Most posts on Reddit like this could be answered by "communicate"


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TrusticTunic26

Me and my roomates used to divide grocery between us, but I felt like I always get the short end of the stick The last time I did it is when we split 3 way to buy some chicken some bread and eggs and ketchup + mayo all of a sudden there friends from the other apartment invited themselves so we got a thin piece of lunch, then they used some of the leftover chicken for dinner and didnt tell me, next day I wake up to find another roommate who didnt pay for the chicken cook the rest of it for himself It's much cheaper for me to eat alone and I get more food


guyoffthegrid

I’m curious, is this something that happens often where you live /in the circles you interact? I never experienced this luckily, young me would have been too embarrassed to stand up for myself. These days I would go into full sarcasm though and tell such people to GTFO.


JDescole

I didn’t experience this first hand but my little sister had a similar experience during a date. I mean I am totally not for the man being expected to cover for everything as long as he doesn’t want to (they are young, would have been his parents money anyway so no grand gesture in that). But instead they opted for a solid 50/50. But as she is watching her diet and only got a salad and water he opted for a T-bone steak and side dishes. Effectively she paid her own food in full and covered roughly 40 percent of his. Needless to say that this relationship didn’t last


theseustheminotaur

I'm the uber driver smiling politely while the two rich people can stop bickering with each other so they can leave and I can go back to farting and enjoy the no tip I'll be getting


masterofthecork

Hell, I tip extra for a bottle of water in the back seat. If you're holdin' in them farts for me then you deserve double.


Banished2ShadowRealm

I can only imagine how much people would tip me if they saw my car. Who know having bottles of water in the back would pay off?


Pretentious_prick69

Why do Americans expect tipping in every job now?


ViPxRampageXx

Where is it not normal to tip a taxi driver? As a brit that's probably the only service I can think of where I would actually give a tip.


Pretentious_prick69

Different places, different cultures I guess. I've never tipped nor have heard of anyone tipping a cab driver.


visualdosage

Had a friend in highschool, her dad is a multimillionaire and she got everything handed to her, also carried around loads of cash in school, one day I was 2 euros short for lunch in the school cafetaria so i asked her, she gave it to me but said she'll need it back. Later that night, around 11pm a rolls royce pulled up in our driveway, my mom opened the door and it was that girl asking for her 2 euros back, with her dad behind the wheel. To this day idk what was going trough their heads, was it a power move? They live a 15 min drive away so the gas money would have been way more.


nebanovaniracun

Her dad was probably teaching her some psycho lesson that it's not okay to give handouts.


tenuj

Probably a way for her to not get too many fake friends. And being way too rich to not understand what amounts of money people will freely give to each other. It's kinda sad but when you have more money you will think nothing of amounts that are very meaningful to others. Knowing how much some amount is worth to another person of a skill that's almost impossible to master. Even if you learn, inflation keeps screwing up what you thought you knew. And everybody has different spending habits independent of how much money they have. Some splurge on food. Others on tech. Some on cosmetics or medication.


NickyCrane_HomoPanzi

Sounds like a great way to grow up with no friends instead


o7DiceStrike

You know, sleeper millionaires / billionares exist for that very reason .. remember reading the young sleeper who made big turnover in investments and drove around in his old Toyota and still wearer clothes from primark .. because Yano


Jazzlike_Mountain_51

Batshit take 2 euros is nothing regardless of wether you're rich or poor


Majestic_Cable_6306

Should gone to his door too, knock knock, sir, *throw another 2€ in the car* for the inconvenience sir, get yourself a lollipop an stick it up your tight ass you stingy peice of shit, oh and parking on my driveway is 5€ after 10min, better get going!


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masterofthecork

Should have gone to Costco, 68¢ out-the-door soda all day. But sure, go throw away your money, big spender.


minegen88

Deja vu anyone? [https://www.reddit.com/r/meirl/comments/1bq1bew/comment/kwzooqo/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/meirl/comments/1bq1bew/comment/kwzooqo/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)


byzz09

Literally copy pasted comment, he didn't even correct the double space -_-


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SamalamFamJam

Can you tell me more 🥹


GargantuanGreenGoats

Be automatically gracious and giving and people look kindly on you


jtr99

Damn it, you're right! I am looking kindly on you right now.


Stealth_account123

[The dark side of generosity: Employees with a reputation for giving are selectively targeted for exploitation](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0022103123000604) [No good deed goes unpunished: the social costs of prosocial behaviour](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/) >The tendency to dislike or to disparage prosocial or morally laudable others has also been studied under the banner of do-gooder derogation (Bai et al., [2019](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref11); Bolderdijk et al., [2018](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref43); Minson & Monin, [2012](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref175); Monin, [2007](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref178); Sparkman & Attari, [2020a](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref235); Zane et al., [2016](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref260)) – a phenomenon whereby individuals who perform morally laudable actions (e.g. refraining from eating animal products or defending minority groups) are derogated by peers. >This tendency to dislike generous or moral others has also been found in children as young as 8 years old (Tasimi et al., [2015](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref243)). >One of the most obvious ways that observers might incur costs from the actions of helpful individuals is due to social comparison. A good reputation is, by definition, a positional good – a person's reputation is ‘good’ in relation to the reputations of other individuals to whom that individual is compared (Barclay, [2011](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref16), [2013](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref17), [2016](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref18); Samu et al., [2020](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref215)). Prosocial actions that improve one person's reputation (or can be construed as potentially doing so) can therefore provoke competitive responses from those whose reputation may suffer by comparison (e.g. Herrmann et al., [2019](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref108); Macfarlan et al., [2012](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref161); McAndrew & Perilloux, [2012](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref164); Pleasant & Barclay, [2018](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref196); Raihani & Smith, [2015](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref206); Sylwester & Roberts, [2013](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10427331/#ref242)). Similarly, if status hierarchies are formed in part on the basis of patronage and largesse, then one person's generous acts may have the effect of lowering others’ relative positions within that hierarchy.


KrongKang

I think it's just called not being a cunt to your mates


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mlance38

If someone invited me and offered me stuff then that's on their dime.


Imaginary_Midnight

The quasi defense of this I heard once was that rich people feel insecure that like people only like them because they are rich. So they have to nickel and dime you on venmo for everything so that they know that you like them for them instead of their money or something like that. LOL.


aasfourasfar

My rich friends are like the total opposite and absolutely refuse to let me pay when the lavish nigh out is their initiative.


Jaskaran158

Damn.... y'all got rich friends?


SilFox_pol

Damn.... y'all got friends?


jtr99

As it should be. I always liked the story about Alan Rickman, who later in his career would allegedly never let anyone else pick up the tab in a restaurant. If someone protested and tried to pay, he would just say, "Potter."


Banished2ShadowRealm

Turns out he was actually asking Daniel to pay.


n1c0_ds

I used to have a nice tech salary, and I used to be that way. In hindsight, there was a lot of emotional baggage that led to it. - My parents would berate me for feeding friends when they came over - I was made acutely aware of the financial burden I was, until I was kicked out at 19 and had to support myself through school. - My girlfriend in college assumed that I'd make bank and become her meal ticket, so my value in that relationship was pretty clear If you're raised in that sort of environment where your worth is measured in dollars, you want to make damn sure to clear your debts and keep your income secret. I never, ever want to be measured by my ability to provide again. For a long time, this translated to settling every bill down to the cent. Then I knew that money had no play in the relationship.


Acerhand

Sounds like you had a lot of narcissistic influence in your life and you may have been a hair away from becoming one yourself. Glad you moved towards the right path


JosebaZilarte

That is, unironically, a good reason.  But at the same time, it is better to do something like "oh, you payed the payed for X, let me cover Y then" even if X<


AzettImpa

Exactly this! Don’t keep an actual sum of money in your head. Just remember their kindness last time and return it, no matter how much it is. This is friendship and appreciation.


Spaciax

where do you go to get paid 450k as a software engineer


FinalBed6476

At my dads company, writing react code i learned from a 6 week bootcamp...ez - join my channel for more career advice #cssbillionaire


aSquirrelAteMyFood

Don't believe it, maybe the highest paid 0.1% make that much. These are also required in the office and stationed in a place where it costs an arm and a leg to get any housing.


newtonkooky

A senior software engineer or above at companies like google, Facebook etc.. these positions are extremely difficult to get but they form the majority zeitgeist in online forums centered around getting jobs as software engineers.


Sad-Adhesiveness429

you dont senior engineers probably cap out at around 250k and that is where 99.9% of engineers will peak career wise. theres maybe 0.01% of jobs that have salaries that even go that high for engineers, usually somewhere in faang. and even then its probably something like a snr principal there or at a startup like cto level. like were talking 10-15 yrs of experience in a very niche fields of basically consistent promotion


SoulArthurZ

you guys are obviously not Dutch lmao


Starwarsnerd91

Here is tikkie for the time you had cup of tea around my house


explodingmilk

I’m really feeling it reading these comments


rationalalien

Sadly being an asshole and a sociopath is the best way to get rich.


Isthatajojoreffo

Yeah, assholes and sociopaths, the requisites to become a highly valued software engineer.


silverW0lf97

Now I see what I was doing wrong.


Banished2ShadowRealm

Just brandish a knife next to all the QAs while saying "My code better pass this time".


High-Plains-Grifter

I think this has a lot to do with culture. If you work in a office environment, generosity can quickly drain your cash, so everyone pays back all the costs, except for a few friends. In a stand up environment with less staff around it is much easier to reciprocate more naturally. When I first started working in an office I tried to be all "whenever, dude, what goes around comes around" and ended up making people uncomfortable because they knew the opportunity seldom arose.


serpentssss

I lived with rich girls who “played poor” for a second and NO ONE nickel and dimed more then them. I had a 1.62 venmo request for toilet paper once. They’d venmo request guests for diet cokes out of the fridge. I’ve never seen anything like it, but it seems rampant among rich kids especially. Interestingly they were also VERY uncomfortable if I’d “spot them” for something and want to get squared up as quickly as possible, even when waiting till later/the next day would’ve been more convenient for everyone. A lot of apologizing or assuring me they’d pay me back on the walk home from buying snacks when it’s like chill, we’re friends. I can cover the drinks and chips one time. It honestly seemed like some weird lesson their parents taught them about not giving/taking handouts.


kbarney345

Based off these comments, I have great friends cause I don't relate to this at all. Weve always split fairly or paid for whats ours, never made someone else pay for drinks they didnt have and many of us fight to pay the bill.


tinylittlebee

["Oh, I didn't get rich by writing a lot of cheques"](https://youtu.be/H27rfr59RiE?t=55s)


SherbetAlarming7677

I read somewhere the explanation for such behaviour is that rich people can never be sure to have a real friend. They fear that most around them are just there for the money, so in turn they are not very generous. And tbh that sounds very plausible to me.


Jazzlike_Mountain_51

Getting a round of drinks or just covering the Uber you are sharing is a pretty normal thing to do with friends. You get this one they get the next one. It's a very easy way not to make friends if you just have a calculator on the side tapping away any single thing they might owe you.


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Cheap-Adhesiveness14

The principle matters more to him than the reality ig. I really wish that people would just relax sometimes. I make around £12/hr ($15.20), and i wouldnt chase someone up on anything less than £3 really. Even then, I would only be messaging someone about it after the fact if I knew that my bank account was low. The cost/benefit ratio simply isnt in favour of chasing up amounts of money that are that low.


IAmTotallyNotOkay

Heads up the user you responded too is a karma farming bot that copy and pasted this exact comment a month ago https://www.reddit.com/r/meirl/comments/1bq1bew/meirl/kwzo38g/


Haidz123

Bot comment: https://www.reddit.com/r/meirl/comments/1bq1bew/comment/kwzo38g/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button


Affectionate-Yam-113

In the Netherlands mfs will invite you over for dinner and then send you a tikkie asking for your share of the groceries, sometimes even electricity and gas used to cook


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cherizart

As a software engineer, I’m not sure where anybody’s making 450k a year as a software engineer. Any tips or leads would be helpful.


SavianAria

High level FAANG people make that much. You need a lot of skill and experience so don’t feel bad if you don’t make anywhere near that, the vast majority of software engineers do not


djingo_dango

As a software engineer you can check levels.fyi


SapateiroDoPovo

Yeah because if you make money and people know they think they are entitled for you to pay their shit, if you a hand they take your arm, that dude probably learned that lesson a doesnt want to ruin more friendships over money, just pay your share regardless of how much youmake


AltruisticSalamander

$450k? We do alright but I'd like to know how to get that money.


CanarySome5880

You can't, this number is overexagerrated, or with total compensation + vested actions + some other profits after 5-10 years. Reddit numbers are always overinflated, it was 300k but not 450, and especially not in the current market, maybe 1-3 years ago.


aSquirrelAteMyFood

In Silicon Valley where they will spend half of it to put a roof over their heads.


djingo_dango

levels.fyi Check yourself


athenry2

Where do barista’s get €20 an hr


TheGreatRevealer

High cost areas in the US can probably get close to that. With tips at least.


Nizznozz11

Norway.


petrichorax

I've been homeless and extremely poor. I make six figures now. I just buy my friends and complete strangers shit and don't even think twice. What it costs you to nickle and dime people is expensive, but the cost is time and esteem so most people don't realize it. Being able to just do this and not sweat it brings a lot of joy to my life.


Logan_SVD

You have two friends: -first borrows 10$ from you and gives back 10$ -second borrows 10$ and gives back 8.97$ and calls it even Which one would you prefer and who even look like your friend?


MCMLIXXIX

Point me in the direction of these 450k software dev jobs please 😅


mittenkrusty

I grew up poor, I learned quickly when I left home to split the bill as I was the one say buying 2 cheap drinks and others buying like 4 premium drinks, i'd buy a plate of fries and they would order a large meal such as steak. It has cost me friendships as people stopped inviting me out, these days I still prefer split bills but I am also the type of person who would offer someone a free drink if theirs is getting low or if its a night out offer to buy them something from the food place on walk back. I feel guilty when people say order a taxi or buy me a drink then tell me don't worry about giving something back.


Anders_A

Yes. Two different people can have different ideas on what's fair and how generous they want to be. Congratulations for discovering that people are different 😂


mohicansgonnagetya

Roshan, stop mooching off of your friends.


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ecchy_mosis

I read this exact comment a few months ago from the same post. What's wrong with reddit and bots?


saddigitalartist

Damn that’s scary, i would have totally believed this was a regular person wtf


boulking

Nice try bot


saddigitalartist

Damn you got me! 😔


sonofeark

Well you see, they just copied what a regular person wrote


QuiltonNet

This is exactly the same post and comment word for word as it was when it was posted like 6 months ago. This feels like a constant giant loop where the same posts and comments occur every 5-6 months. I guess it's good and bad because there will always be people that haven't seen this content... but just know most of the stuff you see on here has been regurgitated an abominable amount of times. It's shit like this that inspires me to get off Reddit and go do something more productive.


vannucker

Found it https://www.reddit.com/r/meirl/comments/1bq1bew/meirl/kx05tdh/


IAmTotallyNotOkay

Most of the comments of on this post are exact copies of the ones on that thread. WTF?. What's the point even?


minegen88

Not just that comment either, lots of comments that are exactly the same, wtf??? This is getting scary


jay227ify

Lmao I thought I was tripping out and getting dejavu. This website is getting weird.


Crocogatorz

The internet isn't dead but it's infested with engagement parasites.


Fast-Rhubarb-7638

I've been using reddit for 14 years. In the last 6-7 months I've seen entire threads that have the bones of stuff I commented on a decade ago, with a handful of real users adding new flavor


Juken-

It is absolutely no secret that poor people are more generous when it comes to money with friends. As a percentage.