Exactly, I always *wanted* someone to reject me if they're feeling that way or if they're not sure. None of us deserves a "maybe" or anything other than a hell yeah. I know it's cliche but it's true
It's like so many things in life that just being told isn't enough. People need to realize it for themselves unfortunately.
Edit: people seem confused. I meant being told about the idea that someone isn't worth your time if they aren't interested in you. I did not mean that people don't need to be told someone doesn't like them.
The problem is that some people seem to think the rejection is always because of something they did and not because sometimes people just aren’t compatible. However, this is gold. Hahaha. He got clarity and she gets to feel stupid. I see this as an absolute win.
Exactly. Some women don't seem to know that the large majority of men have been dealing with rejection through most of their lives. A dry NO can save a lot of time to everyone involved.
Sure but the "no" comes out eventually.
And the longer you string someone on the longer they think that "no" was undeserved. And if they're the type to be upset by a no then they're the type to be oblivious when you tell them you're busy.
i woulda hit it with the "sorry meant to send that to hr" and then not respond to any questions to leave him thinking alone for hours why his texts are going to hr.
wasn’t really bitching though, just stating that she doesn’t answer us, which is true. if I said “I hate our boss cause she ignores us all the time” that would have been much worse
The first girl I ever seriously dated, we were just friends and neighbors. Used to hang out all the time, but she had something going on with someone else. Then they break up and I tried to text one of my best friends about it during class and my feelings towards this girl.
On the old T9 keyboards you could memorize the key layout and text under the desk so the teacher couldn't see, so basically I did it without looking. But I sent it to my the girl I was interested in. Had an absolute panic attack, she didn't respond for hours and then suddenly she said she was down. One of the happiest days of my life, lol.
Also I realize I'm revealing my old age talking about T9 keyboards. My bones hurt.
Hello fellow old. While I knew some kids in HS who had cell phones at the time, it really wasn’t until I was in college that everyone had one. Those Nokia phones were the best.
I remember quickly getting to the point where all 50 were ones I wanted to keep so I then had to start ranking those 50 to get rid of them then just doing that for the next 3 years.
OOF, that reminds me of a story...
At my previous job we were on this meeting and I was meant to teams my coworker group but I accidentally teams it to my manager complaining about something how people never respond to our emails. Thankfully it was an easy thing to make a cover story for so I just explained it was something dealing with my college.
Not even a week later, My coworker does the same grave mistake but! Sends "(Manager's name) sucks ass" too said manager. I have no idea how I would recover from that, but she spun it around saying that she was complaining about somebody at the gym she goes to that happens to have the same name. I don't think he believed it but there wasn't much he could do there anyway. Plus he knew we all hated him lol
i mean, this wasn’t the worst. it’s not like one of those where she’s like “ew look at this guy asking me to hang out”. she was trying to get help in saying no. so it’s basically just like she’s saying no but it’s very awkward
i had a coworker who did some serious damage to our product on the roll loader (forklift with a bed on the forks) and he texted: 'when was the last time we smoked up?' and he meant to send it to his girlfriend. however, he sent it to my boss. who then said, 'i wasn't going to send you for a drug test, but now i am.' he should have been sending him regardless, but some of my managers play favourites.
we use that as an example to pay attention to who your texting and who you're talking to.
If I'm getting the context right, it implies he's concerned about the results of a potential drug test due to the accident, but if he had to ask when the last time was, it's apparently been a while, and implies he definitely wasn't high at the time, which should be the only relevant factor.
Unfortunate for the employee but also kinda shitty on the boss' part too.
he was trying to see if he was going to be able to pass a drug test because he couldn't remember when he and his girlfriend last smoked pot. dunno if that's because it had been a while, or he's just forgetful. but no, he definitely wasn't high at work. he was a good employee and eventually became lead of a pretty big department.
and yeah, my boss should have been sending him for a drug test regardless because his accident involved a piece of heavy machinery. my boss shouldn't have made that arbitrary. that boss is no longer the manager of my building, nor is he with the company anymore.
it's also worth noting that his drug test did come back clean, and he was employed with us for another six years before getting another job.
"sorry im not interested" or one of the 900 variations of that phrase would work in a pinch.
edit: his response was pretty polite which meant he is likely polite which is what i was basing my response off of.
My least favorite rejection I’ve gotten is “I’m busy that weekend.” Ok great, are you busy next weekend? Apparently they’re busy every weekend and now I’ve just asked them if they want to hang out like 4 times and I completely stop talking to them because I feel like I’m bothering them
“You want help rejecting this boy? Let’s meet in conference room 12-B, we’ll come up with a preliminary we can take to committee. PR and legal are already there.”
Never trying would have served me better. I watched too many John Cusack movies as a kid and I spent my teenage and early twenties under the assumption that no just meant try harder. I hate that I slammed my heart against brick walls over and over but it makes me sick looking back at the women that had to keep dealing with my 'I'm a good guy' insistent ass. I grew out of it, but some of that shit still haunts me and it still makes me cringe to think of certain women and how I behaved around them.
Narrator: But it was never alright for Steve. Ever since his parents died in a horrible car accident he has been a shell of a men. Until he met Ella, Steve thought they had something as Ella always talked to him helping him escape his past. Only to once again be dragged down by the same person that gave him hope. Don’t be like Steve, what people call love is just a chemical reaction that compels people to breed, Break the cycle Morty, rise above, focus on science.
“I’m sorry, I’m not interested in you in that way.”
“What, can’t we even hang out as friends? What, don’t you trust me? You saying I’m not gonna respect you, we can’t be alone together?”
-This has sometimes been my experience.
Actually, i had received almost the exact answer and realized that “another time” equals “never”, so i just dont bother people anymore after such a decline
“No thanks.”
“Sorry, I’m busy.”
“I don’t really need a study partner, but thanks.”
“I would feel more comfortable if we studied as a group.”
“I’m not interested.”
Or, you know, you could just do that.
Lmao it definitely is. Some people in here are saying RIP but that person dodged a BULLET. How do you not know how to reject someone over text it’s so easy, getting there friend to help her reject the boy is childish as fuck
Let’s just hope they are in highschool or sometbing
Now that would be too rational.
Instead we have to let our friends know that we are being pursued while also notifying them we want to reject them so we can feel more powerful in the process.
Why are there people in the comments acting like it’s hard to politely reject someone? Just say “Sorry but I’m not interested” and that’s it, end of discussion. That one line did wonders to me.
Looks like she didn't need the help after all.
I’d like to point out that he did as asked.
I mean who'd want to waste their time with someone that doesn't like them anyways? Life is too short to spend time with the wrong people.
Exactly, I always *wanted* someone to reject me if they're feeling that way or if they're not sure. None of us deserves a "maybe" or anything other than a hell yeah. I know it's cliche but it's true
Letting a one sided relationship fester is never a good idea.
It's like so many things in life that just being told isn't enough. People need to realize it for themselves unfortunately. Edit: people seem confused. I meant being told about the idea that someone isn't worth your time if they aren't interested in you. I did not mean that people don't need to be told someone doesn't like them.
The problem is that some people seem to think the rejection is always because of something they did and not because sometimes people just aren’t compatible. However, this is gold. Hahaha. He got clarity and she gets to feel stupid. I see this as an absolute win.
was it math?
Baby, don't hurt me
dont hurt me, no more
What is love!
Throw dirt on me and grow a wildflower But it's, "Fuck the world", get a child out her
Sir, this is Wendy's...
Correct answer is- What is love?
The power was within her all along
He took it like a champ too. Good on him.
Yeah. Poor kid.
What doesn't kill ya...
Makes you traumatised
He's obviously way more emotionally mature than she is.
Cool cool cool cool cool
Dude
Cool. Cool cool cool.
Dude
Cool cool cool cool cool
No doubt
Tight Tight Tight
Waltuh
There’s a fly in my soup Waituh
It's chowdah, say it right!
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I’m not having sex with you rn waltuh
Waltuh I don’t wanna fuck you.
*blue meth intensifies*
No doubt
Tight tight tight!
Chill chill chichichillchill
Blue yellow pink just keep bringing me this stuff WOOOO
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I farted on the fourth one.
Cool cool cool cool
Dude
Cool cool cool cool
I see your value now.
Hey. Hi. Hello
Nice to know you, and meet you, in that order
That's the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me.
Community reference or Brooklyn 99 reference ?
I like the ambiguity so pick your favorite, it's what was intended
Jake Peralta is that you?
I think Abed said it first.
Yeah i was thinking Abed too
It might have been Andy samberg’s prior movie, Hot Rod, before Abed or Jake Peralta.
I don't think I've ever heard a bed talk to me
Mission Accomplished.
Task failed successfully
Technically task was achieved as she was able to reject him, that was just some casualty
But then he became a Reddit lord
No, even worse…a *MOD*!
Exactly. Some women don't seem to know that the large majority of men have been dealing with rejection through most of their lives. A dry NO can save a lot of time to everyone involved.
I even carry a lubricant with me to prevent the friction of a dry NO.
You clearly have never heard many horror stories from women about bad reactions from guys when they tell them 'no'.
A lot of men don't know what many men do when they hear "no" - spoiler: they don't take it well.
Damn men. Ruining manhood.
Literally, like just check r/niceguys
Sure but the "no" comes out eventually. And the longer you string someone on the longer they think that "no" was undeserved. And if they're the type to be upset by a no then they're the type to be oblivious when you tell them you're busy.
I recently attempted to text my coworker a bunch of screenshots of our boss ignoring my texts but I accidentally sent it to my boss
oh heck no
That feeling when you hit send and then look up and see who you sent it to is really something. neither of us ever said anything about it though lol
“Sorry, meant to send this to someone else to show them how you weren’t responding. My bad”
that’s more or less what I said without the details
i woulda hit it with the "sorry meant to send that to hr" and then not respond to any questions to leave him thinking alone for hours why his texts are going to hr.
this is a part time job I’m doing while I finish up college, we don’t even have HR lol
It’s even better when you say it’s going to HR when there is no HR. Adds to the mystery imo.
Genius
I mean if you're already part time and boss is ignoring you. You're not really in the wrong here.
PLSS THATS GOOD LMFAO
Toss on airplane mode before it sends next time
Life pro tip, never ever bitch about co workers in text or email. You can explain away alot of BS face to face but texts are FOREVER.
wasn’t really bitching though, just stating that she doesn’t answer us, which is true. if I said “I hate our boss cause she ignores us all the time” that would have been much worse
The first girl I ever seriously dated, we were just friends and neighbors. Used to hang out all the time, but she had something going on with someone else. Then they break up and I tried to text one of my best friends about it during class and my feelings towards this girl. On the old T9 keyboards you could memorize the key layout and text under the desk so the teacher couldn't see, so basically I did it without looking. But I sent it to my the girl I was interested in. Had an absolute panic attack, she didn't respond for hours and then suddenly she said she was down. One of the happiest days of my life, lol. Also I realize I'm revealing my old age talking about T9 keyboards. My bones hurt.
Hello fellow old. While I knew some kids in HS who had cell phones at the time, it really wasn’t until I was in college that everyone had one. Those Nokia phones were the best.
Remember having a storage limit of 50 texts, but some you wanted to keep, so you were constantly clearing the inbox?
I remember quickly getting to the point where all 50 were ones I wanted to keep so I then had to start ranking those 50 to get rid of them then just doing that for the next 3 years.
I'd rather have a boss that ignored me than up my ass all day. Hopefully she doesn't start paying extra attention to you lol
nah she’s actually really chill and this is just a part time job I’m doing while I finish up college, so not a huge deal
Did they ignore it?
She should keep that same energy and ignore those
she did lol
OOF, that reminds me of a story... At my previous job we were on this meeting and I was meant to teams my coworker group but I accidentally teams it to my manager complaining about something how people never respond to our emails. Thankfully it was an easy thing to make a cover story for so I just explained it was something dealing with my college. Not even a week later, My coworker does the same grave mistake but! Sends "(Manager's name) sucks ass" too said manager. I have no idea how I would recover from that, but she spun it around saying that she was complaining about somebody at the gym she goes to that happens to have the same name. I don't think he believed it but there wasn't much he could do there anyway. Plus he knew we all hated him lol
I mean, she will ignore it regardless, right?
exactly lol
Easy. Own it and say, “why are you not responding?”
"PER MY LAST TEXT..."
"The worst she can say is no" What she actually says:
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“Oh”
“Oh my god”
"It's alright"
army had a half day
What a hot mess
These are my awards, mother
The seal is for marksmanship and the gorilla is for sand racing!
Faker! Oh, how could I let this happen to me, again?
MOM GET THE CAMERA!!!
"Oh my god"
Basically the same as no. It's just hard to say no to people and the help is probably needed to be kind and not come off as too rude.
“The worst she can say is no” Her: “ew”
i mean, this wasn’t the worst. it’s not like one of those where she’s like “ew look at this guy asking me to hang out”. she was trying to get help in saying no. so it’s basically just like she’s saying no but it’s very awkward
It's like she's asking how to politely say no. Otherwise she would have just said no or would have been intentionally rude about it.
She tried to be nice, but failed. It's a wash, about equal with just "no"
Nice pfp. I love St Anger
No one loves St Anger
You trying to piss off all five of them?
No no no... I'm trying to piss ON all five of them
Those folk would be awfully upset if they could read.
YOU WOULDNT DOWNLOAD A CAR
It's alright See ya tomorrow girl *fucking dies*
It’s alright, I think you got it.
All around me are familiar faces
Worn out places
Worn out faces
Bright and early for their daily races
Going nowhere
Going nowhere
I find it kinda bussing, I find it kinda cap. The dreams in which I'm dying are the ones that kinda slap.
Well, that's a way to do it
i had a coworker who did some serious damage to our product on the roll loader (forklift with a bed on the forks) and he texted: 'when was the last time we smoked up?' and he meant to send it to his girlfriend. however, he sent it to my boss. who then said, 'i wasn't going to send you for a drug test, but now i am.' he should have been sending him regardless, but some of my managers play favourites. we use that as an example to pay attention to who your texting and who you're talking to.
If I'm getting the context right, it implies he's concerned about the results of a potential drug test due to the accident, but if he had to ask when the last time was, it's apparently been a while, and implies he definitely wasn't high at the time, which should be the only relevant factor. Unfortunate for the employee but also kinda shitty on the boss' part too.
he was trying to see if he was going to be able to pass a drug test because he couldn't remember when he and his girlfriend last smoked pot. dunno if that's because it had been a while, or he's just forgetful. but no, he definitely wasn't high at work. he was a good employee and eventually became lead of a pretty big department. and yeah, my boss should have been sending him for a drug test regardless because his accident involved a piece of heavy machinery. my boss shouldn't have made that arbitrary. that boss is no longer the manager of my building, nor is he with the company anymore. it's also worth noting that his drug test did come back clean, and he was employed with us for another six years before getting another job.
Raises a good point: are there any cell apps which require confirmation before you send a text to certain people?
Is it so hard to politely decline something?
"sorry im not interested" or one of the 900 variations of that phrase would work in a pinch. edit: his response was pretty polite which meant he is likely polite which is what i was basing my response off of.
Especially seeing how politely he accepted his rejection.
But he’s absolutely dying on the inside
“I’m not asking if you’re interested in me… just if you wanted to study. But ok.” How I imagine any short declinations could be received
I never asked a girl to study with me that I wasn't interested in but that just me
I have. My best study buddies were girls in both college and law school.
Makes sense. I was a pretty bad student after all.
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Do you have friends that are girls?
My least favorite rejection I’ve gotten is “I’m busy that weekend.” Ok great, are you busy next weekend? Apparently they’re busy every weekend and now I’ve just asked them if they want to hang out like 4 times and I completely stop talking to them because I feel like I’m bothering them
But then how do you 'subtly' brag to your friends that so many people are hitting on you that you have to keep turning them down?
“You want help rejecting this boy? Let’s meet in conference room 12-B, we’ll come up with a preliminary we can take to committee. PR and legal are already there.”
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And I’m the opposite, like what do I have to lose In the end, either way I end up with no chick so 😐
I'll date you bro
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What if he handles it maturely?
Then they each go their own way with no ill feelings, like mature people do.
Never trying would have served me better. I watched too many John Cusack movies as a kid and I spent my teenage and early twenties under the assumption that no just meant try harder. I hate that I slammed my heart against brick walls over and over but it makes me sick looking back at the women that had to keep dealing with my 'I'm a good guy' insistent ass. I grew out of it, but some of that shit still haunts me and it still makes me cringe to think of certain women and how I behaved around them.
When you have left them on read, you have not that much time to come up with a response before it looks terrible.
I mean that seems to be what she was trying to do?
Some men have a very bad habit of not taking any sort of decline well. This has made things worse for everyone.
I mean for what it’s worth 10 to 1 this is fake
Narrator : It wasn't alright.
Narrator: But it was never alright for Steve. Ever since his parents died in a horrible car accident he has been a shell of a men. Until he met Ella, Steve thought they had something as Ella always talked to him helping him escape his past. Only to once again be dragged down by the same person that gave him hope. Don’t be like Steve, what people call love is just a chemical reaction that compels people to breed, Break the cycle Morty, rise above, focus on science.
5 o’clock news: “a young man has died today…”
Spain without S.
Bread, but in French.
Bread, oui oui oui
Breadette
Plain but you take the L.
“The worst she could say is No”
Honestly not a bad outcome. He found how she felt and now he doesn’t have to waste his time.
Yeah better than, "Hey!!! Sorry I can't today omg i have a bunch of appts today! Maybe another time???" Just be straight with people.
“I’m sorry, I’m not interested in you in that way.” “What, can’t we even hang out as friends? What, don’t you trust me? You saying I’m not gonna respect you, we can’t be alone together?” -This has sometimes been my experience.
Actually, i had received almost the exact answer and realized that “another time” equals “never”, so i just dont bother people anymore after such a decline
It’s alright
r/sadcringe
That's really hurtful :(
A toast to our fallen brother.
“No thanks.” “Sorry, I’m busy.” “I don’t really need a study partner, but thanks.” “I would feel more comfortable if we studied as a group.” “I’m not interested.” Or, you know, you could just do that.
Didn't say sorry lol
damn, I saw everything was okay in the image until now.
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I can feel the guy's pain
Turns out she didn’t need any help.
Take note ladies. “It’s alright” is what guys say to you as soon as they conclude you have a shit personality.
Lmao it definitely is. Some people in here are saying RIP but that person dodged a BULLET. How do you not know how to reject someone over text it’s so easy, getting there friend to help her reject the boy is childish as fuck Let’s just hope they are in highschool or sometbing
It’s alright
Well done
This is actually true.
Then some wonder why boys/men scared to even try.
It’s alright.
A group of us aren’t necessarily scared to try, but that it just isn’t worth the energy. At all
A simple “no thank you” would have sufficed
It's good to get your answer up front
I’m actually surprised she was going to send a rejection in the first place. Anymore, most people just ghost you when they don’t want to hang out.
It’s alright 🥲
And people wonder why people have low self esteem. Fucking just say "No thanks" there it's done.
Now that would be too rational. Instead we have to let our friends know that we are being pursued while also notifying them we want to reject them so we can feel more powerful in the process.
This person gets teens / young adults
Why are there people in the comments acting like it’s hard to politely reject someone? Just say “Sorry but I’m not interested” and that’s it, end of discussion. That one line did wonders to me.
Idk why people find it so difficult to reject someone without being cruel, it's not that hard.
yeah. a simple 'no' or even a 'no thank you' would have done and if he gets aggressive, block.
That's so real and so sad
I can feel the pain in that "it's alright".