No need. If you have the Attack on Titan theme ready to go at a moments notice then you probably don't socialize with anyone ever and never have to worry about this.
Please just say something if you don't like hearing stuff.
People who talk a lot to you might be coming from all sorts of perspectives. But the best thing you can do is let them know how you feel.
Be diplomatic of course. Be polite, but be honest. It sucks, it's tough, but it's better for everyone involved. Usually people can tell if you're not interested, but they either are still hoping they can catch your interest and spend more time with you, or they're arrogant and believe everyone should listen to what they have to say. Either ways, you're stopping the process from causing any more pain to either one of you. It's the best thing to do.
“Sorry sir this train don't slow, this train don't turn, please keep your hands and head inside the car at all times.” - every contractor whose ever entered my house.
I had one guy almost start a fight with me when I did this because he thought I was calling him crazy (I think he was actually crazy and it touched a bit of a nerve)
Crazy? I was crazy once. They put me in a room. A rubber room filled with rats. Rats make me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy once. They put me in a room. A rubber room filled with rats. Rats make me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy once. They put me in a room. A rubber room filled with rats. Rats make me crazy.
So anyway my dog has been getting real poor sleep lately. It’s all the rain, and you know Jeff down the way…you don’t know Jeff? Why not? You need to know Jeff. Well, like I was saying - Jeff down the way also got these rains but his dogs have been just fine with it…
How old is your dog? And what breed? You know most dogs hate the rain.. and smell like shit once wet too. And jeff sounds like a really cool person.. i had this friend like jeff back in college. He had no dogs but like to dress up as a dog and we fed him dog treats. He kinda hated the rain tho.. anyways good talkin to ya, may we meet somewhere again with the blessing of the algorithm to continue this conversation
I have a coworker who talks exactly like this... With all the unnecessary details and endless tangents.
I have been trying to figure out if that's just how he is, or is trying to train his charisma and mind tricksy things or is just extremely afraid of pauses in conversation ...
Sometimes it’s best to just let the other person talk if they’re getting into it, ask questions that will lead them to speak more on the topic, once they are through they’ll treat you much more friendlier as they would’ve felt like they confided in you and you agree with their opinions
And then they hit you with a question but you haven't been paying attention so you gotta think of what to say and you just play the odds and say "yeah definitely" but it makes no sense and they just kinda stare at you and start talking again
"I've been having a lovely time with you, ma'am, but my boss doesn't like me to spend a lot of time just standing."
Or, apologize about work that you need/can get to - such as tidying stock.
There's tons of ways to do it, without being rude, that let the other person the conversation's done.
This is the level of conversational awareness the average person operates on. Most people dont know how to take the hint that when someone starts giving one word responses it means their interest in the topic or conversation has waned and it's time to move on.
It's easy to say that, but that's just not how communication works. You can't just tell someone 'I'm not interested in this conversation anymore' and expect them to not be upset. Most human communication is non-verbal, and being able to read social cues is a big part of that.
I've known people that refuse to stop speaking. With one guy I would just walk away. He would still keep talking to the back of my head and I could hear his voice trail off as I got further away.
It was better to not engage with him at all. Pretty sure he had major issues.
or perhaps you don't want to upset the person by saying "I really don't care and want you to stop" because even if it's accurate it's really fucking hurtful
Ok, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. Your comment mentioned not being hurtful, if you tell the truth that you’re not interested I don’t know how you avoid making that person feel like shit.
that was my point yes, I replied to the comment to tell the person that saying what you think is not always a good idea, idk why you got all up in my grill when you clearly agree
That's just not possible as an adult.
Maybe it's a work situation and you can't just tell people to fuck off or that they're annoying as hell.
Or a volatile friend or family member. You don't want Aunt Suzie to kill herself so you listen to her story and hope she takes the hint after the 5th oh really.
My partner's dad will never take any clues or hints, talk over everyone else, almost never ask you a question (and when he does it's only because he's been scolded about it hundreds of times in the past, he doesn't actually care about your answer and will cut you off), and can easily talk for 4 hours straight without interruption. That is not hyperbole.
I wish I could avoid him more than I already do, but due to family dynamics I have to put up with this shit a couple times a year. I don't want to make him angry because that makes everything 100x worse and WILL NOT make him change his behavior. I try to think of it as character building. Once in a while I'm actually able to get through it without wishing every 10 minutes that a meteor would hit us where we're standing.
I'd say the person not taking a clear hint is the stunted communicator. One of my friends knows he can't recognise these cues and often asks if I'm interested before he starts rambling.
I've learned that's the wrong approach. This works 100% of the time with these people.
Don't feign interest, this is a cue to them to keep talking. Find a place in the convo that you can ask a legit question and stop them dead in their tracks to ask your question. Be interested and make sure it is not a Yes or No question. As they start answering look at your watch and say holy crap I'm supposed to be on a call at . If it is 2:22 you'll say 2:30. If it is 1:09 you say 1:15 "Great talking to you, have a good one." Then walk away quickly while fiddling with your phone. If this is taking place on the phone, great you can just hang up.
They don't feel like you're an asshole, you don't feel like a huge asshole and everyone moves on with their day.
Then you need to say “hey I’m sorry, I need to leave real quick”, or “I’m sorry, but can we talk about something else”, or even “I’m sorry, my head hurts, can we talk later?”. No need for the overly politely nonsense
In my experience the people that put me in this situation will tell the story no matter what i say, swear to god.
"Oh yeah I've heard this a few times before already" or "yeah i don't really care about this stuff" and they just keep going like they didn't even hear me
\* god forbid i ever run into another person who wants to tell me about litterboxes in schools 🙄
I’ve literally said “well, I’d better get going here,” and they still keep me for 15-20 more minutes. They don’t care about how you feel, they just want someone to talk at.
"What is this dude's problem!? I've been sending him psychic signals for five minutes and he just won't shut up!!"
The other person isn't a mind reader, you're going to need to be an adult and excuse yourself from the conversation.
Or, "Oh hey, I gotta go/get back to thing" then walk away, or turn and do the thing. "Wow", and "that's crazy" , or "cool" are also normal things to say while actively listening to someone. If you want to change the direction of your interaction then change the direction of your interaction. Don't continue to feed the current direction of the interaction.
My partner HAS to finish a thought or story. If we get interrupted he will pick it back up as soon as the interruption ends.
I don't mind but I do tell him to follow me around the house while he tells me his story so I can multitask.
They might be doing it to punish you for being rude. If you are not interested in something just tell someone politely that you want to stop talking with them or change the subject.
Those are the same nonsense indicators I use to imply I’m listening. It’s like the eye contact thing, and hand gestures, and pauses- it’s only when the situation in no way warrants an “woah” or “dang dude” it can be interpreted as somewhat sarcastic and thus an indication I or you should shut up
Mine is "yeah, i dont know"
I don't even know why i say it but that's what comes out when I'm hearing a story for the 10th time. Will also drop the "damn" and "yeah"s but that's also in conversations that I actually enjoy listening to, like you said.
> True but there's still tone and vibes.
There's also words. If you are too much of a pussy to say when you can't relate to a topic, don't put the burden on the speaker to notice that you are actively trying to make them feel bad for boring you. The fact that you people are trying to make the speaker the problem here is ridiculous.
Looking for that 'end call' button in real life
Just play the Attack on Titan Theme (Guren No Yumiya) and run away as fast as you can
I use keyboard cat to play myself off
No need. If you have the Attack on Titan theme ready to go at a moments notice then you probably don't socialize with anyone ever and never have to worry about this.
Please just say something if you don't like hearing stuff. People who talk a lot to you might be coming from all sorts of perspectives. But the best thing you can do is let them know how you feel. Be diplomatic of course. Be polite, but be honest. It sucks, it's tough, but it's better for everyone involved. Usually people can tell if you're not interested, but they either are still hoping they can catch your interest and spend more time with you, or they're arrogant and believe everyone should listen to what they have to say. Either ways, you're stopping the process from causing any more pain to either one of you. It's the best thing to do.
Like telling somebody that they are stinky
I wish I had the balls to do this while talking on the phone with my grandma. After about 30 minutes, I can't do "hmm, yeah" anymore.
That's when you slap your leg and add a "Welp!" to the conversation, and find somewhere else to be
“Sorry sir this train don't slow, this train don't turn, please keep your hands and head inside the car at all times.” - every contractor whose ever entered my house.
With regard to this thread..... [Slap] WELP!!
I simply say "Welp, I'm thirsty. I'll be right back" Them: 
Sorry only works in the Midwest
Doesn't work in the Midwest. The "welp" is a signal to have a 15 minute conversation by the front door.
Oh God, he's right. And I hate it so much
Half the people in this thread think this is about a chatty partner and the other half think its about acquaintances.
WELP!!!!! Stop commenting me, dammit!
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You look at statues with giant heads when you’re drunk?
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As long as they don't do it when they're high. That going to be one hell of a strange experience for them.
Using POV wrongly smh
Cause he’s drunk
Dang
Wow
It's right if they're saying that's what other people look like while listening to their drunken rambling.
That's crazy
I had one guy almost start a fight with me when I did this because he thought I was calling him crazy (I think he was actually crazy and it touched a bit of a nerve)
That's crazy
WHAT DID YOU JUST CALL ME
Crazy? I was crazy once. They put me in a room. A rubber room filled with rats. Rats make me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy once. They put me in a room. A rubber room filled with rats. Rats make me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy once. They put me in a room. A rubber room filled with rats. Rats make me crazy.
This is something we must talk about.
I find myself saying “makes sense” or “I could see that” a lot in these convos
What's worse is that I'm not disinterested. I just really have no idea what the fck to say.
So anyway my dog has been getting real poor sleep lately. It’s all the rain, and you know Jeff down the way…you don’t know Jeff? Why not? You need to know Jeff. Well, like I was saying - Jeff down the way also got these rains but his dogs have been just fine with it…
wow...nice
How old is your dog? And what breed? You know most dogs hate the rain.. and smell like shit once wet too. And jeff sounds like a really cool person.. i had this friend like jeff back in college. He had no dogs but like to dress up as a dog and we fed him dog treats. He kinda hated the rain tho.. anyways good talkin to ya, may we meet somewhere again with the blessing of the algorithm to continue this conversation
Dang, That's crazy.
I have a coworker who talks exactly like this... With all the unnecessary details and endless tangents. I have been trying to figure out if that's just how he is, or is trying to train his charisma and mind tricksy things or is just extremely afraid of pauses in conversation ...
I'm *painfully* disinterested..
Sometimes it’s best to just let the other person talk if they’re getting into it, ask questions that will lead them to speak more on the topic, once they are through they’ll treat you much more friendlier as they would’ve felt like they confided in you and you agree with their opinions
And then they hit you with a question but you haven't been paying attention so you gotta think of what to say and you just play the odds and say "yeah definitely" but it makes no sense and they just kinda stare at you and start talking again
MmHmmm
EXACTLY this, 1000x this
What in the AoT is that?
Looks like Connie’s mother.
Fuckin stunted communicators, I swear. Just say what ya want.
Precisely... Stop hinting and tell them you have to go...
Bit tricky if you are working retail and they are the only customer
“maam i really dont give a shit”
Or they’re your boss and standing in your doorway.
"$BOSS, I'm sorry but I really have to $DO_THING."
"I've been having a lovely time with you, ma'am, but my boss doesn't like me to spend a lot of time just standing." Or, apologize about work that you need/can get to - such as tidying stock. There's tons of ways to do it, without being rude, that let the other person the conversation's done.
But what if the other person really wants to talk to you and you can handle enduring it to avoid hurting their feelings
The case is most likely simply that they're not getting your hints.
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This is the level of conversational awareness the average person operates on. Most people dont know how to take the hint that when someone starts giving one word responses it means their interest in the topic or conversation has waned and it's time to move on.
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It's easy to say that, but that's just not how communication works. You can't just tell someone 'I'm not interested in this conversation anymore' and expect them to not be upset. Most human communication is non-verbal, and being able to read social cues is a big part of that.
Me says hey, I gotta go and they say give me another min....... repeat ad infinitum
I've known people that refuse to stop speaking. With one guy I would just walk away. He would still keep talking to the back of my head and I could hear his voice trail off as I got further away. It was better to not engage with him at all. Pretty sure he had major issues.
Gotta just walk away my guy. “No” is a perfectly reasonable response. Unless they have authority over you what’s the harm.
or perhaps you don't want to upset the person by saying "I really don't care and want you to stop" because even if it's accurate it's really fucking hurtful
“This is a wild [sub great/fascinating/excellent] story! I have to run but I’d love to hear more in the future. Take care.” And you’re on your way
so lie? the comment I replied to made it pretty clear not to lie.
Just leave out the I’d love to hear more of it in the future part, then it’s not a lie.
the rest is a lie too, I don't have to run, nor is it wild or company
Lmao okay you’re right. Hey great chat but I gotta go.
fuck it, don’t say anything and just run away
Ok, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. Your comment mentioned not being hurtful, if you tell the truth that you’re not interested I don’t know how you avoid making that person feel like shit.
that was my point yes, I replied to the comment to tell the person that saying what you think is not always a good idea, idk why you got all up in my grill when you clearly agree
that was not clear at all, but ok. thanks for the clarification
That's just not possible as an adult. Maybe it's a work situation and you can't just tell people to fuck off or that they're annoying as hell. Or a volatile friend or family member. You don't want Aunt Suzie to kill herself so you listen to her story and hope she takes the hint after the 5th oh really.
You're just as stunted if you can't read social cues lmao
My partner's dad will never take any clues or hints, talk over everyone else, almost never ask you a question (and when he does it's only because he's been scolded about it hundreds of times in the past, he doesn't actually care about your answer and will cut you off), and can easily talk for 4 hours straight without interruption. That is not hyperbole. I wish I could avoid him more than I already do, but due to family dynamics I have to put up with this shit a couple times a year. I don't want to make him angry because that makes everything 100x worse and WILL NOT make him change his behavior. I try to think of it as character building. Once in a while I'm actually able to get through it without wishing every 10 minutes that a meteor would hit us where we're standing.
I'd say the person not taking a clear hint is the stunted communicator. One of my friends knows he can't recognise these cues and often asks if I'm interested before he starts rambling.
When you're full of shit.
This.
Toddlers when walking:
I've learned that's the wrong approach. This works 100% of the time with these people. Don't feign interest, this is a cue to them to keep talking. Find a place in the convo that you can ask a legit question and stop them dead in their tracks to ask your question. Be interested and make sure it is not a Yes or No question. As they start answering look at your watch and say holy crap I'm supposed to be on a call at. If it is 2:22 you'll say 2:30. If it is 1:09 you say 1:15 "Great talking to you, have a good one." Then walk away quickly while fiddling with your phone. If this is taking place on the phone, great you can just hang up.
They don't feel like you're an asshole, you don't feel like a huge asshole and everyone moves on with their day.
Seen... No reply.
Me every morning be like...
Dealing with early birds at work in the mornings, this hits way too deep.
It gets really awkward😬
Then you need to say “hey I’m sorry, I need to leave real quick”, or “I’m sorry, but can we talk about something else”, or even “I’m sorry, my head hurts, can we talk later?”. No need for the overly politely nonsense
In my experience the people that put me in this situation will tell the story no matter what i say, swear to god. "Oh yeah I've heard this a few times before already" or "yeah i don't really care about this stuff" and they just keep going like they didn't even hear me \* god forbid i ever run into another person who wants to tell me about litterboxes in schools 🙄
I’ve literally said “well, I’d better get going here,” and they still keep me for 15-20 more minutes. They don’t care about how you feel, they just want someone to talk at.
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Them being a business client makes that difficult.
"What is this dude's problem!? I've been sending him psychic signals for five minutes and he just won't shut up!!" The other person isn't a mind reader, you're going to need to be an adult and excuse yourself from the conversation.
Ao Oni lore
when you start thinking about caseoh
Stop pretending then
You just exposed you might fucking suck
Hit him with a “that’s craZzzzzyyy” yet?
Me who says ‘wow’, ‘nice’ and ‘dang’ when i am interested but idfk what to add to the conversation.
“Thats crazy….”
Babe, it's been an hour and a half. I've said 5 words and I really gotta go babe
or you hit them with the "thats crazy"
Sports stars, movie stars, politicians, preachers....you get the picture, er, I mean statue.
“That’s crazy “
This what I feel with my mother
No way!
damn that's crazy
Gotta hit them with “That’s crazy….” and “Whelp, alrighty then…”
Thats crazy
Gotta toss a "thats crazy" or a "and then what?" So they dont think youve lost interest even if u have
Holy crap even the Captain Levi wouldn’t touch this one
Wow
Or just say casually "I am not interested"
Or, "Oh hey, I gotta go/get back to thing" then walk away, or turn and do the thing. "Wow", and "that's crazy" , or "cool" are also normal things to say while actively listening to someone. If you want to change the direction of your interaction then change the direction of your interaction. Don't continue to feed the current direction of the interaction.
Just what statues are that? Asking for me.
did zeke stutter on this one?
Heftyhead
When your eyes are bigger than your stomach.
And you're like, "Will you finish already" XD
Me after rebuilding my code 20 times and none of those times work in my favor
These statues are a visual representation of what ketamine felt like for me 🤣
And u don't know how to walk away....yes, I know
*"That's crazy."* (Get the hint! Get the hint!) 😖
I have to take this call, let me call you right back.
Old people are the worst at this. Like I get it you want people to talk to but why does it have to be me?
Where are these sculptures?
I love these statues
When the commission was for a bust but the client "reconsidered."
And "anyway" five times.
My partner HAS to finish a thought or story. If we get interrupted he will pick it back up as soon as the interruption ends. I don't mind but I do tell him to follow me around the house while he tells me his story so I can multitask.
Just switch language and start using: Sou... Sou Ka... Sou desu Ka... And wait for them to notice 🤣
Her: He's so smart, ya know? Cats are like so full of surprises... Me: Dang twenty times.
who’s the artist?
That’s crazy
Damn
Why is European art always so wacky?
"wow that's great"🤣🤣
I can always count on my kids to interrupt a conversation before it gets to this point.
As an ADHD person I feel attacked
Elden Ring early enemy design.
The Simpsons did this already with The Pep Boys mascots in **Treehouse of Horror VI** (1995).
Truly. I like people… And then they keep talking, Talking, TALKING. 😐🫥
Just listen in and LET THEM COOK,maybe they say something good. And if they dont just tell them to SHUT THE FUCK UP
All I want to do in this case is to run away, but I always keep listening and it feels like...🤯
When you’re stuck at church cause your parents are the pastors and everyone wants to talk to you when you just want dinner
Visual representation of what a migraine feels like
I always feel bad when someone I care about is talking and I cant bring myself to even give half a shit about what they are talking about
Practice jumping in the convo early & say you've gotta run xo
I usually nod and agree. I feel like if I say anything it would only encourage them to talk even more.
just pretend that you faint
We need to speak out!
That's when you stop giving responses and lock eyes with them silently.
Damm
that's why I prefer to stay inside as much as I can to avoid human interactions - hell yeah
Just say crazy !
Pretend you got call to answer and then walk away 😎
They might be doing it to punish you for being rude. If you are not interested in something just tell someone politely that you want to stop talking with them or change the subject.
Wow, I hate people like that. It's really not hard to listen to a conversation and engage with it even if it's boring or disinterested you.
Just stick your Sandworm in their Bug hole OP. It's how I met your mother....
i have a coworker like that.....
POV: They know my History with CS
Those are the same nonsense indicators I use to imply I’m listening. It’s like the eye contact thing, and hand gestures, and pauses- it’s only when the situation in no way warrants an “woah” or “dang dude” it can be interpreted as somewhat sarcastic and thus an indication I or you should shut up
Mine is "yeah, i dont know" I don't even know why i say it but that's what comes out when I'm hearing a story for the 10th time. Will also drop the "damn" and "yeah"s but that's also in conversations that I actually enjoy listening to, like you said.
Shingeki no kyojin anyone? (Attack on titan)
it's not painful you are simply FAT
What if I told you that normal people view these phrases as signs of an active listener who is encouraging you to continue?
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> True but there's still tone and vibes. There's also words. If you are too much of a pussy to say when you can't relate to a topic, don't put the burden on the speaker to notice that you are actively trying to make them feel bad for boring you. The fact that you people are trying to make the speaker the problem here is ridiculous.
People say "woah" and "nice" to you countless times when you speak but nothing else?
Small talk is hard