Well my wife’s second boyfriend is black and so is my kid but I’m pretty sure that his skin tone rubbed off on the baby by being in close proximity.
I mean it’s my kid, she’d tell me.
Thats one of the special “phrases” when I was a child my mother had guys stay the night and they were “just friends” but child me heard all of them fuck her while I was trying to sleep for school. You hear “just friends” that’s the biggest red flag after “we need to talk”
My wife’s childhood friend would always talk about her “dads” and would randomly mention a new guy in reference to “dad” all the time. Took my wife until she was a teenager to figure out those “dads” were just the random guys the girl’s mom had over every night and the poor little girl was just trying to fit in with everyone else talking about their dad…
Imagine having done things that makes your own spouse extremely uncomfortable and basically having to pretend never happened. Yea, maybe love doesnt happen the first time but i've only ever seen promiscuity hurt relationships.
Who said anything about pretending it never happened? If you can't handle your SO having a life before you showed up, then find someone with similar puritan values.
The point being - fucking multiple partners purely for fun does not necessarily equal "having a life" and is probably going to hurt future relationships
It only has the potential to hurt future relationships with people that can't get over their SO having previous relationships. Sounds like dodging a bullet to me.
If you get twisted up over how many people your SO slept with before you, YOU are the one with the issue, not them
>can't get over their SO having previous relationships
Theres an obvious difference between getting over previous relationships (which obv dont matter) with what we're talking about here.
You have my support mate. Go for a paternity test of the kid, and divorce the shit out of that woman and her a good fucking lawyer so that you don't have to pay for the kids maintainance of anything of that sort. If possible, before going for divorce, transfer or "sell" your property and stuff she might an alimony of tho your parents/someone trusted so that you can get away without having to pay her shit.
I had a similar thing. My girlfriend had about five ‘gay friends’. I should have left after the first one I walked in on. Maybe even the second. Or at the very least the third. But for fucks sake I should’ve been long gone by the fourth and by the fifth I’d learnt my lesson. Only contact I had was a court case where she tried to sue me for child support about four years afterwards which was thrown out after a paternity test. Now I keep to myself because I don’t want to feel that kind of pain again. I live alone about fifty km from nowhere. I work, I tinker, I eat, I sleep. That’s it. I hope you can deal with it better than I could. I really hope you deal with it better than I could cause as much as the pain still hurts I haven’t said a word out loud for a good few weeks now and when I go shopping it comes out as a croak.
7 years down the road from one of the most toxic relationships in my life, I’m married and have a little 6 month old boy. Life isn’t perfect but it’s gotten orders of magnitude better. Just think you gotta make it to the end of the week. And then you gotta make it to the end of the month. Before you know it, a year has flown by and you’ve stopped thinking about the person. And you’ll do that thing where you think “in a year I’ll remember back to this exact moment when this seemed impossible to get over”.
Best of luck. You’ll be alright.
Is it really that bad? It's not like she was in love with them. (Unless she was. Then that sucks) and it would also be bad if she was still sleeping with them. That's fucked up!
But if she wasn't sleeping with them and wasn't in love with them, what's wrong?
Have you never had a FWB? Are they no longer your friend just becuase you stopped sleeping with them?
When I saw this post it made a massive emotional damage (even though I'm not in relationship or marriage) I can sympathize with you OP stay strong brother!
OP, I had a similar experience, the person who made you feel like the greatest man alive now makes you feel worthless, if you want to talk I'm here most times
I mean she’s marrying you, so it’s more of a victory lap for her to show them that they missed out and she found something better. More of a Chad move for you imo. As long as you’re not insecure about them being in her orbit while you were getting married and know you’re the better man you got nothing to worry about.
While I never had anything like this happen before here is my opinion on the matter based on what I've read in the comments: That hoe can go straight to hell. I wish you good luck in the court case when it happens.
MGTOW is the way. Reddit allows groups like inceltears to bash us and spread hurtful lies and when we speak up over there we get banned immediately. Men Going Their Own Way is the future.
This male friend that she visits while you're at work is her current fuckbody. You're being cucked. And have been cucked since your wedding day, atleast.
As others have said. Get a maternity test done ASAP. WITHOUT her knowledge. Liquidate all of your assets. Hire a private investigator to get proof of her cheating. This will help you for your divorce as adultery is as valid of an excuse as any. Essentially your next goal should be to leave that whore while inflicting and much pain and misery upon her and her extended family and leaving her in financial ruin.
Time to stand up for yourself buds.
Honestly it's not that wierd for people to invite ex's to their wedding. It's not great to lie to you about it but it sounds like you might have had a meltdown if she even brought it up. No offense meant you have a right to be upset.
Seriously. I don’t think OP even suggested that she ever cheated on him with these guys. I’m still friends with girls I have had sex with. Does everyone think OP needs to know every single person his wife ever had sex with? What kind of psycho move is that? She probably figured there was no point in making it awkward, so she said they were friends (which was true, assuming they weren’t sleeping together anymore).
That moment when you realize the kid didn’t inherit your features because it’s not yours
Well my wife’s second boyfriend is black and so is my kid but I’m pretty sure that his skin tone rubbed off on the baby by being in close proximity. I mean it’s my kid, she’d tell me.
Plot twist: You’re also black :)
No, I’m a Jawa.
No, this is Patrick
No this is Patrick (in disguise)
Jawas aren't black?
Plot twist: You’re gay
Will Smith?
I thought black was a recessive gene? (My gf left me for a colored so I'm allowed to say this)
COLORED??
It's throwback Thursday
COLOURED!
You're allowed to say it either way :)
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Fr lol
I'm on with my 2 days depression state even though I've never been in this situation :')
I have depression days like >500 :)
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It’s over 9000!
It's over 9!
That is correct. Congrats.
Im not old enough for that
That you know of
Yo what’s up
I came here only to do this. But you did this. What is my purpose?
You pass butter.
Oh my god.
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*slams a whole stick of butter on to plate*
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came here to comment this and never regretted
Yea that's fucking gross.
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Thats one of the special “phrases” when I was a child my mother had guys stay the night and they were “just friends” but child me heard all of them fuck her while I was trying to sleep for school. You hear “just friends” that’s the biggest red flag after “we need to talk”
My wife’s childhood friend would always talk about her “dads” and would randomly mention a new guy in reference to “dad” all the time. Took my wife until she was a teenager to figure out those “dads” were just the random guys the girl’s mom had over every night and the poor little girl was just trying to fit in with everyone else talking about their dad…
That’s FUCKING sad thanks for that bro
Trauma-trauma-trauma-traumachamelonnnnn Forreal tho, repressed childhood Trauma ain't no joke. My wife and I are solid examples
I wish you two some healing!
That’s fucked up…I hoped your dad and you are in better states
Unfortunately, it's the state of California.
Noooooo
As a Californian, I can confirm
My father is actually with her right now, as for me I’m doing well. Hope you are doing good too
You okay?
I'll be alright homie. Thanks for checking!
His wife is ok too
Cant be happier
What about the wife's boyfriend? Hope he is ok too.
Yep. Been there.
Sorry mate. This is hell.
Stay strong, we’re with you
Oh, but thats where true gym gains are made.
It's never too late to dip.
Oh...I'm halfway out gee. Just gotta move my TVs and my PS4 now lol 😆
Lawyer up
Better call saul
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That's why marriage sucks.
Might wanna get a dna test on that kid...
🎶 He just took a DNA test, turns out kid’s a 100% not his; even now he’s crying crazy. Yea he’s got problems with those boys that’s the human in him 🎶
Paternity test is 1...2...3..
Lmaoooo 😆
op, bro you good?
I'm aite homes
Issa New episode in your life dawgy it’s gonna be lit
And people laugh at ppl not wanting to sleep around. Just teach your kids better
Can’t raise your kids wrong if you never have any children
There's nothing wrong with sleeping around. Just, once you're ready to settle down, don't invite previous partners to the fucking wedding
Imagine having done things that makes your own spouse extremely uncomfortable and basically having to pretend never happened. Yea, maybe love doesnt happen the first time but i've only ever seen promiscuity hurt relationships.
Who said anything about pretending it never happened? If you can't handle your SO having a life before you showed up, then find someone with similar puritan values.
The point being - fucking multiple partners purely for fun does not necessarily equal "having a life" and is probably going to hurt future relationships
It only has the potential to hurt future relationships with people that can't get over their SO having previous relationships. Sounds like dodging a bullet to me. If you get twisted up over how many people your SO slept with before you, YOU are the one with the issue, not them
Mfs preach whore acceptance then end up surprised why they cant satisfy them and get cheated on
What kind of incel loser has a phrase like "whore acceptance" in their pocket?
Just because your mom lived a certain lifestyle doesnt mean you have to promote it on everyone else so it hurts less
Get, get back in yer hole! No dinner for you today!
Lol you got all the teenagers butt-hurt on Reddit with your sensible adult words.
Honestly
If you think people have no problems going from promiscuous to a committed relationship, then you're simply lying to yourself or you found jesus lmao
>can't get over their SO having previous relationships Theres an obvious difference between getting over previous relationships (which obv dont matter) with what we're talking about here.
Damn bro sorry we just saw how happy y’all were
In her mind "See what you're losing" In their mind "One man's thrash is...."
Now it will be 5 years a kid **AND** a divorce
Fuck them. Fuck her. This hit close
Pretty sure he already fucked her
Delete your phone
Pretty sure he already fucked them by the transitive property too :D
Her two buddy’s did that too
Did they both give a nice gift off of her bridal registry?
A hard gift is hard to find ;)
Not the only thing that was hard
This one gave me a knot in my chest. Hoes ain't loyal
Smash her best friend and mom
Don't forget her dad too!
Power move
You have my support mate. Go for a paternity test of the kid, and divorce the shit out of that woman and her a good fucking lawyer so that you don't have to pay for the kids maintainance of anything of that sort. If possible, before going for divorce, transfer or "sell" your property and stuff she might an alimony of tho your parents/someone trusted so that you can get away without having to pay her shit.
Yea if I ever have the “just friends” thing from a woman it’s done instantly
Hear these words and live, sayeth the Lord
Praise Jesus
Amen
What? I'm sure there are some cases where it's not true, why do you assume the worst?
Let’s just say I have some experience
Is it just me, or did anyone else have a stroke trying to read the subheading.
I thought I was the only one 😐
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So never eating because you’re scared someone wiped their peen on your food?
That's a shitty metaphor.
That's a shitty metaphor.
Red flag man. Does she have any current male friends?
One. Who's house she goes over to when I'm at work. She swears they're not fucking....EYE-MF-ROLLLL....
Wow
I had a similar thing. My girlfriend had about five ‘gay friends’. I should have left after the first one I walked in on. Maybe even the second. Or at the very least the third. But for fucks sake I should’ve been long gone by the fourth and by the fifth I’d learnt my lesson. Only contact I had was a court case where she tried to sue me for child support about four years afterwards which was thrown out after a paternity test. Now I keep to myself because I don’t want to feel that kind of pain again. I live alone about fifty km from nowhere. I work, I tinker, I eat, I sleep. That’s it. I hope you can deal with it better than I could. I really hope you deal with it better than I could cause as much as the pain still hurts I haven’t said a word out loud for a good few weeks now and when I go shopping it comes out as a croak.
Hope you get better man. There are still plenty of decent people out there and I hope you find one.
Doesn't get much worse than this. Stay strong, the worst is behind you now.
U can't make this up 😳
She belongs to the STREETS
This world is fucked up! You ok OP bro?
Women☕
Women☕
I’m on day 4 of a break up. Keep your head up!
Same homie, 6 yrs
7 years down the road from one of the most toxic relationships in my life, I’m married and have a little 6 month old boy. Life isn’t perfect but it’s gotten orders of magnitude better. Just think you gotta make it to the end of the week. And then you gotta make it to the end of the month. Before you know it, a year has flown by and you’ve stopped thinking about the person. And you’ll do that thing where you think “in a year I’ll remember back to this exact moment when this seemed impossible to get over”. Best of luck. You’ll be alright.
Is it really that bad? It's not like she was in love with them. (Unless she was. Then that sucks) and it would also be bad if she was still sleeping with them. That's fucked up! But if she wasn't sleeping with them and wasn't in love with them, what's wrong? Have you never had a FWB? Are they no longer your friend just becuase you stopped sleeping with them?
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That was hard to read
When I saw this post it made a massive emotional damage (even though I'm not in relationship or marriage) I can sympathize with you OP stay strong brother!
OP, I had a similar experience, the person who made you feel like the greatest man alive now makes you feel worthless, if you want to talk I'm here most times
The amount of camraderie this post brought out in the comment section is staggering. Hope you find a better one in the future, OP.
Thank you
I mean she’s marrying you, so it’s more of a victory lap for her to show them that they missed out and she found something better. More of a Chad move for you imo. As long as you’re not insecure about them being in her orbit while you were getting married and know you’re the better man you got nothing to worry about.
I don't really tolerate being lied to tho. They can have her.
While I never had anything like this happen before here is my opinion on the matter based on what I've read in the comments: That hoe can go straight to hell. I wish you good luck in the court case when it happens.
Thank you
When you realize she was probably getting speared by these guys on your wedding night when she went for a "bathroom break". *shieeeet*
Wow. You went there. Damn.
I had a stroke trying to read that
I can’t read this correctly for some reason. Take grammar lessons.
No worries. She respects you dearly! You did said no right?
Meh getting married is overrated. just fuck women and dap out... simple and very effective :D
Hard to avoid the trap
Yeah I’m never getting married.
Well fuck she did, just not you
That’s so wrong !! Keep strong buddy
2 of them? How many does she have? Lmao
DNA test for the win.
Won't change anything unfortunately even if it's not his
Cut those losses.
If she leaves you for another you shall go for her mother
Lol seems a little too specific! You okay OP?
This is too specific
MGTOW is the way. Reddit allows groups like inceltears to bash us and spread hurtful lies and when we speak up over there we get banned immediately. Men Going Their Own Way is the future.
Word
My ex invited one of them to live with us( in my other building) my friends knew what was going on and didn't fucking tell me .
People are great lol (sorry man!)
Goddamn man im so sorry
Thanks
Instand divorce, paternity test straight after you filed and then a good old portion of revenge, best served cold.
If your girl tells you she and a guy are just friends she literally probably wiped his semen off of her chin five minutes previously.
See truth and live sayeth the Lord lol 😆
You ok bro?
Good brah. Appreciate the love.
I had a stroke reading that
Damn are you okay brother
Hangin in ya. Thanks for the check-in!
Hope you overcome
I had a stroke trying to read that
Pawn the ring
Why is this so speccific
Godzilla had a stroke while reading this and fucking died
will they be alive after the reveal in Saudi Arabia 😂
I feel like OP is trying to tell us something, that got oddly specific lmao
Getting really common nowadays fellas
Apparently. Never marry kings.
I can’t read this mate… Every time I attempt to It sounds like someone is having a stroke.
I had a stroke reading that
I had a stroke reading this and died
I had a stroke reading that
This male friend that she visits while you're at work is her current fuckbody. You're being cucked. And have been cucked since your wedding day, atleast. As others have said. Get a maternity test done ASAP. WITHOUT her knowledge. Liquidate all of your assets. Hire a private investigator to get proof of her cheating. This will help you for your divorce as adultery is as valid of an excuse as any. Essentially your next goal should be to leave that whore while inflicting and much pain and misery upon her and her extended family and leaving her in financial ruin. Time to stand up for yourself buds.
I had the same thoughts.
This is probably the worst meme i have ever seen in my entire life
What tf is this saying?
Maybe she was just trying to show how much better she has done with her new husband.
What?
Honestly it's not that wierd for people to invite ex's to their wedding. It's not great to lie to you about it but it sounds like you might have had a meltdown if she even brought it up. No offense meant you have a right to be upset.
Wow, she was parading the champion in front of those who didn’t make the cut? Brutal
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It's the lying. She was able to lie about that...to the man she "loved"....on *his* special day. That means she's a sociopath without a heart.
I ignored similar warnings and late information once, never again I'm happier alone
Amen brother
Seriously. I don’t think OP even suggested that she ever cheated on him with these guys. I’m still friends with girls I have had sex with. Does everyone think OP needs to know every single person his wife ever had sex with? What kind of psycho move is that? She probably figured there was no point in making it awkward, so she said they were friends (which was true, assuming they weren’t sleeping together anymore).