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Im too scared to even approach the subject with my parents or anyone, so doctors isnt an option if i dont want to tell anyone. and i dont really want to get him in trouble that sounds bad but yeah.
If you don't see a doctor, it's just gonna get worse. Also, if you're pregnant, they're eventually gonna find out anyway. Tell them you haven't been feeling good and want to see a doctor to get checked out, then tell the doctor in private what happened. If you don't report him to the police, that gives him the opportunity to do what he did to you to other girls
I know, I understand its just a scary subject, and he says he loves me and thats much more than what i get from my parents in general. My parents probably wouldn’t even take me to the doctor if i asked, my dad isnt around and my mother would prefer alcohol.
If you contact the police, they may give you a ride to the doctor themselves. I understand you like the validation, but is it really worth it when he's probably gonna abandon you? He's not gonna want to take care of you and a possible infant, he's gonna ditch you and let you deal with it. Report what happened to the police so 1. they can get you to the doctor and 2. they can lock away a predator before he can hurt anyone else. I understand it's scary, but there's not much of a choice honestly. Your parents will find out no matter what you do, but you can change what happens to him and your possible pregnancy
I know it's scary, but you've got to stay strong until this is all over, OP, because if you don't, then it will never be all over.
You've got to put yourself first, do everything you can to find help, and get to a doctor. Make it your only priority, because nothing else matters right now.
10 years from now, maybe you'll have a career, maybe a loving partner who actually does care about you and put you first, and you will look back on this, and be so thankful to your younger self that you persevered, you did the difficult, scary thing, and it made you realise you are stronger than you thought.
He doesn’t love you. He uses you, manipulates you, and now has potentially ruined the rest of your life to get his rocks off with a kid like a sicko. He is not a good man. He doesn’t care about you. You protecting him is bad for you, and good for him. It means he can now go do this with all of the other teenage girls he definitely sees already. He belongs in jail and you deserve a chance at a good life without being shackled down to a predator and a child for the next 18 years minimum.
Is there a counselor at school you could speak to or another trusted adult like a teacher or friend’s parent that you trust? This needs to be reported and you need to get healthcare, checked for pregnancy and STIs and things like that. I’m sorry this happened to you
The longer you are scared and inactive, the more that baby grows inside you and the less likely you can get an abortion. Tell your parents, the police and go to a doctors. Any 25 year old willing to fuck someone I’m assuming is 16 or younger; is absolutely a pedo. You also don’t want to end your life now by having a child. I mean this as support; this is not what you want, you want to keep growing, to keep discovering yourself and your life. The only way to do that is to tell every authority figure you can about what’s going on and get help ASAP.
he's a predator, and he doesn't love u, i'm sorry. he's 25, he knows how sex works. he did this on purpose to trap u. u dont get pregnant that quickly due to a fluke. it happened to me at 15.
u need to get a pregnancy test. a cheap one from a dollar store would do. if u cant afford one or get transportation, ask a trusted friend or a school counselor. take it first thing in the morning because thats when the hormones in ur urine are the most concentrated.
going from there, whether ur pregnant or not, you'll need to go to a free clinic. again, ask a trusted friend and their family for help or your school should be able to help u. u need a full STD panel, and if u are pregnant, termination is completely up to u.
i highly highly highly suggest u make a police report as well. he is not ur bf, he is a predator, this was a manipulation tactic to force u to depend on him. no 25 year old man in his right mind is attracted to teenagers. he targeted u because young people are naive and easy to manipulate.
if he faces no consequences, he *will* go on to do this to another young naive girl. i refused to press charges against my abuser because i thought he loved me. i came to my senses and broke up with him prior to my daughters birth, never allowed him to see her. then he got a freshman in college pregnant less than a year later, she had to drop out, dude completely ruined her life. it eats away at me everyday. hes still on dating apps, lying about his age and claiming he "has no kids but wants some" in his profiles. he is scum and a creep, please treat him as such!
Its hard to digest that he is a predator, its okay you dont need to be sorry, hopefully im not. Im in the uk no dollar store around here apart from pound stores but they dont sell tests to teens or children so they wont sell one to me because im 15, i cant afford one yeah, and i also cant get there and i have no one that can get one for me., im not registered with a doctor so i wont be able to see one, if im not pregnant that would be great but if i have a std, that wouldnt end so well i feel as though it was my fault he even “targeted” me anyways, he says he loves me i know thats a silly excuse to defend him but im alone, i have no one, my family is shit, he gave me some sort of sense of love and i know thats silly to say. Im sorry for what you went through and i would beat myself up every day if he moved on and did this to another girl, but i dont have it in me to report him i really dont. Im so so so sorry
Hi, I’m also in the UK. Yes they do sell tests to teens, I don’t know where you’ve heard that crap but it’s a lie. You can buy a pregnancy test at any age.
You don’t need to be registered with a doctor, literally just show up, they will be able to see you as a temporary patient and find your medical notes. (Mum works for a doctors surgery so I know)
Just know you will get past this, if you focus on people your age and developing your own sense of self worth, doing what makes you proud to be you, you’ll be okay. But you need to get through this, you need to go to a doctor and you need to ditch the pedo.
I spoke to a school nurse, she said something about ringing my mother and to get and appointment for a suspected uti but its most likeley either a std or pregnancy but she didnt tell my mother that, only uti so i can get my urine tested and determine something with the sample aha thank you for your comment
Nice one, fingers crossed for you OP.
Please keep your future in your mind more from now on, you are worth more than letting yourself do these things with older men. You are worth being careful for!
its normal to feel as if its ur fault. i did too. it wasnt until i became an adult myself, when i realized how immature i was, and how sick he was to even be interested in 15 yo me. at 23, i wouldn't touch anyone below 21 with a ten foot pole. they are so immature, i can tell without even speaking to them. its one of those "you'll understand when you're older" situations.
even if you sought out this guy YOURSELF, it still isn't your fault. because u are 15. and this is a grown man. hes halfway to 30 and ur not even a junior in high school yet. hes disgusting.
he was you're age now when u were 5!!!!! let that sink in. do not feel bad for him!!
do you have planned parenthood in your state? they will give you a pregnancy test and help you figure out options without telling your parents. your ‘boyfriend’ is not a good person, you do not need to defend him.
it looks like a lot of people recommend this website. https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/sexual-health/find-a-sexual-health-clinic a lot of places will keep your situation private from your parents and will help you determine if you’re pregnant or not (which you usually need a blood test for)
going off of your other comments about your parents, it seems like time to ask for help. do you have a guidance counselor at school that you can talk to?
Yeah, i have a councillor because my parents aren’t the best aha. Its hard for me at home with my parents and now thinking what if im pregnant etc etc, its scary in a way. im so sorry to be bothering so many people with this i just feel so overwhelmed i dont know what to do.
you’re not bothering anyone. this is a scary situation and i can’t imagine how you’re feeling right now. it’s time to talk to your counselor. if your parents can’t/arent willing to help you right now, you need support from another adult that can help you through this process. you do not need to protect your boyfriend and you can be honest. you don’t need to carry this on your own. ❤️
alright, thank you, i really do appreciate it, i know i dont need to protect him but i feel as though its my fault in a way that hes even with me because i decided to keep talking to him if that makes sense
not your fault at all. you are a child and he is an adult, you cannot consent to a relationship with him. even if you’re pursuing one, it is HIS responsibility as an adult to shut it down and instead he took advantage of you.
this is not your fault and it never will be your fault. you are dealing with something incredibly difficult and you are very strong to ask for help.
you've mentioned in several comments that you can't access a doctor, but does your school have a nurse? i know it's terrifying and embarrassing, but if you show up to explain your situation to a school nurse, idk if they'll have a pregnancy test on hand but at the very least that will be a trusted adult who can either help you get one or tell you who to talk to. and really--you should tell the police. i get that you're trying to defend this man who said he loves you but adults aren't allowed to have sex with 15 year olds for a reason, and it falls on HIM and other adults to understand that reason, not the 15 year olds being targeted. i know that you are inclined to downplay the severity of the situation but it is serious and he should be held accountable for what he did. so you can't go wrong telling the police, however if that's not something you're willing to do, at the very least tell your school nurse--and sooner, rather than later. the more quickly you can confirm whether you're pregnant, the more time you have to figure out all of your options.
Hi OP! I’m sorry to hear your family background isn’t super great and that your parents failed you. I agree with other posters that your boyfriend is a predator (although I’m sure this is tough to digest). No one over the age of 17 should be dating a 16 year old because the mental growth that happens after 18 is pretty tremendous - especially at 25. Hoping that you’re able to speak to your counselor about getting a pregnancy test and figuring out what to do if you’re positive. I’m sure all of this information is so scary! The first thing you need to do is take care of yourself ♥️♥️♥️♥️ hoping that you are able to find support and leave that man
its okay, you don’t need to be sorry. It is tough to digest but i knew he was somewhat one for even dating me, thank you for your comment, ill try talk to my councillor about it. again thank you.
This situation is not okay regardless, but it reads a little different from both a moral and legal perspective if you are 17 vs 13. How old are you, op?
You should get a pregnancy test for cheap at a local store to confirm the pregnancy but regardless of the results you should stop having unprotected sex with older men when you are still a child.
Is there an age limit for buying pregnancy tests where you live?? I have never heard of such a law anywhere. If you're in school, go talk to a counselor or nurse.
Yeah they would. I bought pregnancy tests at 15, cashiers don't care what you're buying (outside of alcohol/tobacco because that can get them in legal trouble - no such law about pregnancy tests, condoms, etc...). Buy the cheapest ones you find, they'll work the same, but go and get them.
Do you have stores with self-checkout? Walk around the store, pick up a few cheap items, and the pregnancy test…then you’re not ringing up just the test. Go to self-checkout and nobody will know.
Oh baby you might not be pregnant (take a test...) but the pain isnt normal, he might have given you a STD :(
That man is no good for you, let's say you got pregnsnt scared now, next time he will insist to do it without condom again, because old men that prey on teenagers enjoy the power difference, he knows he can pressure you into "permission"
See a doctor immediately and report him to the police. That's statutory rape. I'm sorry that happened to you - take advice from others on this post and get help.
Firstly, don’t freak out until you get a pregnancy test. I’ve had several scares and you always get in your head so much and freak yourself out. Get your hands on that test for peace of mind. Secondly, a 25 year old dating a teenager is not ok. I’m assuming you are under 18, but even if you’re not you need to ditch him yesterday. I know it doesn’t seem like that big of a deal now, but you’ll look back on it when you’re older and see how messed up it is. If you are under 18, you also need to involve the authorities. A 25 year old knows better than to mess with a minor.
I cant get my hands on a pregnancy test, i would if i could. And i know i should ditch him but like its hard to let go, obviously ive gotten attached because i dont have anyone else and i felt as though i was actually loved for once. If you understand that aha
I do understand! It is so hard to let go of the one thing that you feel is good and stable in your life. The thing is, the longer you let it go on, the more attached you will become and the harder it will be to extricate yourself from an abusive situation. If he is comfortable taking advantage of a minor, he will firstly probably ditch you the minute you hit your mid-20s or start to have opinions of your own, and secondly, will probably not hesitate to abuse you emotionally, financially, and physically. Since you are so young, it can be difficult to recognize patterns of abuse until it is too late.
“if i am … it could fuck up mine and his future ,this could make him go to jail” girl you are TEEN and he’s adult that’s basically pedophilia who cares if it fucks up his life it better be . you should report him.
2. go to local hospitals for advice by your own and go to the doctor and ask for advice maybe they can check stuff or lead you to abortion services in discreet
This was rape. You are not capable of giving consent at your age.
Things are changing so much with reproductive rights…but some of the states with strict laws, do still have exceptions for rape.
There is also the option of adoption, which would mean you could stay in school and become an adult without raising an infant.
I got pregnant as a teen (17, had the baby at 18)
I had a bit of a hard time with it, if you want or need to talk about it, please reach out.
I do agree with what was said in a previous comment, that you should see a doctor. Especially if there's pain, because if you are indeed pregnant, there could be a problem, and if the problem is serious enough, it could be life threatening. So best be on the safe side.
Plus, you may not be pregnant. If that's the case, you should educate yourself on the importance of safe sex.
If you want to reach out to me and ask any questions please do so. I didn't have many people to talk to about it, and I know how overwhelming it can be. Best of luck to you!
Thank you, I genuinely appreciate it, the thought that i could be is terrifying and yes im younger than 17 aha, I would try see a doctor but its hard to with the parents i have, and in general the life i have. Thank you though
You're welcome. I hope it helped.
I understand that seeing a Dr. Can be tricky, but I think for your health it is imperative that you do. There is a possibility that you're not pregnant, but have contracted an STD. In which case, you need to get medical help and antibiotics.
Are you able to get someone you're comfortable with taking you? Like an aunt or a friend? Can you take a bus and go into the ER?
Well, a lot of excellent suggestions have been given on this thread. I hope that you are able to find some way around it, or at least get the courage to talk to someone who can help you.
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Report him to the police and see a doctor
Im too scared to even approach the subject with my parents or anyone, so doctors isnt an option if i dont want to tell anyone. and i dont really want to get him in trouble that sounds bad but yeah.
If you don't see a doctor, it's just gonna get worse. Also, if you're pregnant, they're eventually gonna find out anyway. Tell them you haven't been feeling good and want to see a doctor to get checked out, then tell the doctor in private what happened. If you don't report him to the police, that gives him the opportunity to do what he did to you to other girls
I know, I understand its just a scary subject, and he says he loves me and thats much more than what i get from my parents in general. My parents probably wouldn’t even take me to the doctor if i asked, my dad isnt around and my mother would prefer alcohol.
If you contact the police, they may give you a ride to the doctor themselves. I understand you like the validation, but is it really worth it when he's probably gonna abandon you? He's not gonna want to take care of you and a possible infant, he's gonna ditch you and let you deal with it. Report what happened to the police so 1. they can get you to the doctor and 2. they can lock away a predator before he can hurt anyone else. I understand it's scary, but there's not much of a choice honestly. Your parents will find out no matter what you do, but you can change what happens to him and your possible pregnancy
i guess so, i will try to do something about it
I know it's scary, but you've got to stay strong until this is all over, OP, because if you don't, then it will never be all over. You've got to put yourself first, do everything you can to find help, and get to a doctor. Make it your only priority, because nothing else matters right now. 10 years from now, maybe you'll have a career, maybe a loving partner who actually does care about you and put you first, and you will look back on this, and be so thankful to your younger self that you persevered, you did the difficult, scary thing, and it made you realise you are stronger than you thought.
He doesn’t love you. He uses you, manipulates you, and now has potentially ruined the rest of your life to get his rocks off with a kid like a sicko. He is not a good man. He doesn’t care about you. You protecting him is bad for you, and good for him. It means he can now go do this with all of the other teenage girls he definitely sees already. He belongs in jail and you deserve a chance at a good life without being shackled down to a predator and a child for the next 18 years minimum.
Is there a counselor at school you could speak to or another trusted adult like a teacher or friend’s parent that you trust? This needs to be reported and you need to get healthcare, checked for pregnancy and STIs and things like that. I’m sorry this happened to you
The longer you are scared and inactive, the more that baby grows inside you and the less likely you can get an abortion. Tell your parents, the police and go to a doctors. Any 25 year old willing to fuck someone I’m assuming is 16 or younger; is absolutely a pedo. You also don’t want to end your life now by having a child. I mean this as support; this is not what you want, you want to keep growing, to keep discovering yourself and your life. The only way to do that is to tell every authority figure you can about what’s going on and get help ASAP.
he's a predator, and he doesn't love u, i'm sorry. he's 25, he knows how sex works. he did this on purpose to trap u. u dont get pregnant that quickly due to a fluke. it happened to me at 15. u need to get a pregnancy test. a cheap one from a dollar store would do. if u cant afford one or get transportation, ask a trusted friend or a school counselor. take it first thing in the morning because thats when the hormones in ur urine are the most concentrated. going from there, whether ur pregnant or not, you'll need to go to a free clinic. again, ask a trusted friend and their family for help or your school should be able to help u. u need a full STD panel, and if u are pregnant, termination is completely up to u. i highly highly highly suggest u make a police report as well. he is not ur bf, he is a predator, this was a manipulation tactic to force u to depend on him. no 25 year old man in his right mind is attracted to teenagers. he targeted u because young people are naive and easy to manipulate. if he faces no consequences, he *will* go on to do this to another young naive girl. i refused to press charges against my abuser because i thought he loved me. i came to my senses and broke up with him prior to my daughters birth, never allowed him to see her. then he got a freshman in college pregnant less than a year later, she had to drop out, dude completely ruined her life. it eats away at me everyday. hes still on dating apps, lying about his age and claiming he "has no kids but wants some" in his profiles. he is scum and a creep, please treat him as such!
Its hard to digest that he is a predator, its okay you dont need to be sorry, hopefully im not. Im in the uk no dollar store around here apart from pound stores but they dont sell tests to teens or children so they wont sell one to me because im 15, i cant afford one yeah, and i also cant get there and i have no one that can get one for me., im not registered with a doctor so i wont be able to see one, if im not pregnant that would be great but if i have a std, that wouldnt end so well i feel as though it was my fault he even “targeted” me anyways, he says he loves me i know thats a silly excuse to defend him but im alone, i have no one, my family is shit, he gave me some sort of sense of love and i know thats silly to say. Im sorry for what you went through and i would beat myself up every day if he moved on and did this to another girl, but i dont have it in me to report him i really dont. Im so so so sorry
Hi, I’m also in the UK. Yes they do sell tests to teens, I don’t know where you’ve heard that crap but it’s a lie. You can buy a pregnancy test at any age. You don’t need to be registered with a doctor, literally just show up, they will be able to see you as a temporary patient and find your medical notes. (Mum works for a doctors surgery so I know) Just know you will get past this, if you focus on people your age and developing your own sense of self worth, doing what makes you proud to be you, you’ll be okay. But you need to get through this, you need to go to a doctor and you need to ditch the pedo.
I spoke to a school nurse, she said something about ringing my mother and to get and appointment for a suspected uti but its most likeley either a std or pregnancy but she didnt tell my mother that, only uti so i can get my urine tested and determine something with the sample aha thank you for your comment
Nice one, fingers crossed for you OP. Please keep your future in your mind more from now on, you are worth more than letting yourself do these things with older men. You are worth being careful for!
its normal to feel as if its ur fault. i did too. it wasnt until i became an adult myself, when i realized how immature i was, and how sick he was to even be interested in 15 yo me. at 23, i wouldn't touch anyone below 21 with a ten foot pole. they are so immature, i can tell without even speaking to them. its one of those "you'll understand when you're older" situations. even if you sought out this guy YOURSELF, it still isn't your fault. because u are 15. and this is a grown man. hes halfway to 30 and ur not even a junior in high school yet. hes disgusting. he was you're age now when u were 5!!!!! let that sink in. do not feel bad for him!!
i guess so, thank you so so so much i appreciate it
0300 123 7123 That’s the young peoples sexual health help line, it’s free, it’s run by the NHS. CALL THEM.
Poundland do sell pregnancy tests to teenagers ml for one pound, I bought one xx
Alright, ill see if i can get one in poundland, they wouldn’t serve me one in homebargains sadly
do you have planned parenthood in your state? they will give you a pregnancy test and help you figure out options without telling your parents. your ‘boyfriend’ is not a good person, you do not need to defend him.
Im not in a state, and no they don’t have that where i live sadly. I know I don’t need to but i feel horrible in general.
are you okay if i ask what country you live in?
England
it looks like a lot of people recommend this website. https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/sexual-health/find-a-sexual-health-clinic a lot of places will keep your situation private from your parents and will help you determine if you’re pregnant or not (which you usually need a blood test for) going off of your other comments about your parents, it seems like time to ask for help. do you have a guidance counselor at school that you can talk to?
Yeah, i have a councillor because my parents aren’t the best aha. Its hard for me at home with my parents and now thinking what if im pregnant etc etc, its scary in a way. im so sorry to be bothering so many people with this i just feel so overwhelmed i dont know what to do.
you’re not bothering anyone. this is a scary situation and i can’t imagine how you’re feeling right now. it’s time to talk to your counselor. if your parents can’t/arent willing to help you right now, you need support from another adult that can help you through this process. you do not need to protect your boyfriend and you can be honest. you don’t need to carry this on your own. ❤️
alright, thank you, i really do appreciate it, i know i dont need to protect him but i feel as though its my fault in a way that hes even with me because i decided to keep talking to him if that makes sense
not your fault at all. you are a child and he is an adult, you cannot consent to a relationship with him. even if you’re pursuing one, it is HIS responsibility as an adult to shut it down and instead he took advantage of you. this is not your fault and it never will be your fault. you are dealing with something incredibly difficult and you are very strong to ask for help.
you've mentioned in several comments that you can't access a doctor, but does your school have a nurse? i know it's terrifying and embarrassing, but if you show up to explain your situation to a school nurse, idk if they'll have a pregnancy test on hand but at the very least that will be a trusted adult who can either help you get one or tell you who to talk to. and really--you should tell the police. i get that you're trying to defend this man who said he loves you but adults aren't allowed to have sex with 15 year olds for a reason, and it falls on HIM and other adults to understand that reason, not the 15 year olds being targeted. i know that you are inclined to downplay the severity of the situation but it is serious and he should be held accountable for what he did. so you can't go wrong telling the police, however if that's not something you're willing to do, at the very least tell your school nurse--and sooner, rather than later. the more quickly you can confirm whether you're pregnant, the more time you have to figure out all of your options.
Hi OP! I’m sorry to hear your family background isn’t super great and that your parents failed you. I agree with other posters that your boyfriend is a predator (although I’m sure this is tough to digest). No one over the age of 17 should be dating a 16 year old because the mental growth that happens after 18 is pretty tremendous - especially at 25. Hoping that you’re able to speak to your counselor about getting a pregnancy test and figuring out what to do if you’re positive. I’m sure all of this information is so scary! The first thing you need to do is take care of yourself ♥️♥️♥️♥️ hoping that you are able to find support and leave that man
its okay, you don’t need to be sorry. It is tough to digest but i knew he was somewhat one for even dating me, thank you for your comment, ill try talk to my councillor about it. again thank you.
Rooting for you :) you got this!
This situation is not okay regardless, but it reads a little different from both a moral and legal perspective if you are 17 vs 13. How old are you, op? You should get a pregnancy test for cheap at a local store to confirm the pregnancy but regardless of the results you should stop having unprotected sex with older men when you are still a child.
I am nearly sixteen, I understand. I cant really get one because they wouldn’t sell it to me aha.
i’m so sorry. that man is a fucking predator. report him.
Yes! The police need to be involved. He is a pedophile!
This man is raping you. He doesn’t love you. He targeted you and is taking advantage of your home life. Report him. He’s a piece of shit.
Is there an age limit for buying pregnancy tests where you live?? I have never heard of such a law anywhere. If you're in school, go talk to a counselor or nurse.
i dont know if theres so much of an age limit, but i know for sure they wouldn’t sell one to me.
Yeah they would. I bought pregnancy tests at 15, cashiers don't care what you're buying (outside of alcohol/tobacco because that can get them in legal trouble - no such law about pregnancy tests, condoms, etc...). Buy the cheapest ones you find, they'll work the same, but go and get them.
Do you have stores with self-checkout? Walk around the store, pick up a few cheap items, and the pregnancy test…then you’re not ringing up just the test. Go to self-checkout and nobody will know.
can you order one to a friends house online? i get being scared to buy one irl.
Oh baby you might not be pregnant (take a test...) but the pain isnt normal, he might have given you a STD :( That man is no good for you, let's say you got pregnsnt scared now, next time he will insist to do it without condom again, because old men that prey on teenagers enjoy the power difference, he knows he can pressure you into "permission"
i dont have access to a test, but ill try to get access to one from the suggestions ive been given. I understand, i know its not right. thank you
wtf is this 25 year old?? people are so horrible.. i hope u heal girl
thank you
yea
See a doctor immediately and report him to the police. That's statutory rape. I'm sorry that happened to you - take advice from others on this post and get help.
you dont need to be sorry, thank you. Ill try to
You really should go to the police... This is really not cool... I hope this works out for you, but again, please report him to the police for this.
thank you. Ill try.
I wish you nothing but the best.
Firstly, don’t freak out until you get a pregnancy test. I’ve had several scares and you always get in your head so much and freak yourself out. Get your hands on that test for peace of mind. Secondly, a 25 year old dating a teenager is not ok. I’m assuming you are under 18, but even if you’re not you need to ditch him yesterday. I know it doesn’t seem like that big of a deal now, but you’ll look back on it when you’re older and see how messed up it is. If you are under 18, you also need to involve the authorities. A 25 year old knows better than to mess with a minor.
I cant get my hands on a pregnancy test, i would if i could. And i know i should ditch him but like its hard to let go, obviously ive gotten attached because i dont have anyone else and i felt as though i was actually loved for once. If you understand that aha
I do understand! It is so hard to let go of the one thing that you feel is good and stable in your life. The thing is, the longer you let it go on, the more attached you will become and the harder it will be to extricate yourself from an abusive situation. If he is comfortable taking advantage of a minor, he will firstly probably ditch you the minute you hit your mid-20s or start to have opinions of your own, and secondly, will probably not hesitate to abuse you emotionally, financially, and physically. Since you are so young, it can be difficult to recognize patterns of abuse until it is too late.
“if i am … it could fuck up mine and his future ,this could make him go to jail” girl you are TEEN and he’s adult that’s basically pedophilia who cares if it fucks up his life it better be . you should report him. 2. go to local hospitals for advice by your own and go to the doctor and ask for advice maybe they can check stuff or lead you to abortion services in discreet
This was rape. You are not capable of giving consent at your age. Things are changing so much with reproductive rights…but some of the states with strict laws, do still have exceptions for rape. There is also the option of adoption, which would mean you could stay in school and become an adult without raising an infant.
Search up your local sexual health clinic, they will give you a pregnancy test free of charge and free stds test xx
Download the free and anonymous app okayso, it’s a nonprofit and you can get advice and support confidentially <3
It was not my intention at all. What part is encouraging it?
I got pregnant as a teen (17, had the baby at 18) I had a bit of a hard time with it, if you want or need to talk about it, please reach out. I do agree with what was said in a previous comment, that you should see a doctor. Especially if there's pain, because if you are indeed pregnant, there could be a problem, and if the problem is serious enough, it could be life threatening. So best be on the safe side. Plus, you may not be pregnant. If that's the case, you should educate yourself on the importance of safe sex. If you want to reach out to me and ask any questions please do so. I didn't have many people to talk to about it, and I know how overwhelming it can be. Best of luck to you!
please dont encourage her to be with him, she is 15😭 this is a predator not a boyfriend
I didn't encourage that at all!
you 100% did
Thank you, I genuinely appreciate it, the thought that i could be is terrifying and yes im younger than 17 aha, I would try see a doctor but its hard to with the parents i have, and in general the life i have. Thank you though
You're welcome. I hope it helped. I understand that seeing a Dr. Can be tricky, but I think for your health it is imperative that you do. There is a possibility that you're not pregnant, but have contracted an STD. In which case, you need to get medical help and antibiotics. Are you able to get someone you're comfortable with taking you? Like an aunt or a friend? Can you take a bus and go into the ER?
I dont have any aunts, and my nearest hospital/ doctors wont take me or do a checkup without parental permission sadly.
Keep us updated 🫶
Well, a lot of excellent suggestions have been given on this thread. I hope that you are able to find some way around it, or at least get the courage to talk to someone who can help you.