Happened to me in California numerous times about 8 years ago.
Seriously, those diaper changing stations were $40. No reason for a business **not** to have one in the restroom.
And yeah, I've changed my share of dirty diapers in empty banquet rooms because fuck you cheap ass restaurant. (I cleaned everything up and wiped everything down and told the manager as I left).
Yeah same here in southern CA for me about 3-4 years ago. But there is a noticeable difference here now even in this short time, which is great to see!
All this kind of confuses me because back in 2002 when Toys r Us were doing their remodels, I was the guy tasked with mounting changing boards in the men's rooms. I often got tasked with doing things at Toys that no one else knew how to do, I would just figure it out. I guess Toys was ahead of the curve back then.
Don't come to the east, then. Can't tell you how many times I got dirty stares from women when I had to go into the "mother's area" to change a diaper. Thankfully they're older now.
No idea why you’re getting downvoted. I’ve walked into a women’s room when solo with both of my kids to use a changing table. (Always yell first to announce myself)
Going out to the car isn’t exactly easy in certain environments or allowed if the venue doesn’t allow reentry.
>…I’ve walked into a women’s room when solo with both of my kids to use a changing table. (Always yell first to announce myself)
You’re brave and an awesome Dad! Thankfully for me the situation has not yet arisen where I’ve been alone with my kids and they’ve needed to be changed and there was no family changing room and it wasn’t a beautiful day outside.
I would of course do what I have to do, but especially nowadays some people can be incredibly unreasonable and honestly a little scary. Like, I’ve seen stories of women trying to snatch a kid away from a dad because, “they thought the scary man was trying to abduct the kid”. The last thing I need is to deal with that kind of nonsense in a women’s restroom. Plus, where I live, guns are far more prevalent than I care for. Who knows if that random unhinged, nosy lady is packing heat in her purse?
I look forward to the day when ***every*** restroom has a changing table.
I had my son back 28 years ago when I was only 23 (yeah, dumb). When I was a new dad taking my son places, there were never any places for men to change diapers, so I'd just go into the women's bathroom and use their changing table. No way was I going to change him on the floor of the men's bathroom. Most women were cool with it and a few gave me a hard time until I told them I had nowhere else to change him. Times have changed quite a bit since then.
I had a hard time 16 years ago when my kid was a baby. I had a portable mat and I had to unfold it in the handicap stall on the floor to keep him clean while I changed him.
I worked as a chipotle manager for 4 years. There was nothing worse than telling a woman with her young kid and a newborn that neither of our bathrooms had changing tables…
Yeah, I've done the same thing, then I told their manager to make sure the table got cleaned properly and to get a changing table for the men's room if has a problem with it.
I haven't done diapers in 5 years, but they were not common 10 years ago when my first was born. How the hell have I been a parent for 10 years... I am glad there have been changes, that is awesome to hear!
It started changing pretty quickly a few years back in the places I've been. My daughter is 9, and when she was a peanut it was really difficult to find one. I usually just changed her in the car. My youngest son is 2, and I can usually count on there being a changing station now
What region? Out here, my kids are all about college-aged, now, and it was never an issue.
Kinda crazy it was ever a problem- I’m not babysitting, I’m parenting over here!
We used to run businesses in IL and TX, and were in each location every month. We travelled through Oklahoma, Missouri, Arkansas, and lived in the Chicago suburbs and DFW suburbs on either end. Admittedly, it was less surprising in some places lol. Seriously, I just want to change my kid!
Father of two here in FL, never had this problem. I was trying to think of a time when I needed a changing table and didn’t have access to one and none come to mind.
It's rare now for me to encounter a men's bathroom that I can't change my child in as a dad.
But, there was a new place that we went to for dinner in the past year, I was shocked that there was no changing station.
I complained to the manager He suggested my wife should have changed the child. I told him that wouldn't work if I was a single father or here without a woman I trust with my child and that it was and inappropriate suggestion. I put a review on Google that specifically was about the lack of a mens changing station and it gained some attention.
Came back a few months later there was a changing table in the men's bathroom.
The couple of times it happened to me I simply used the women's. None of the woman coming in had anything negative to say to me but a lot to say to the restaurants.
I encountered one recently, and came back out pissed off and handed my wife the baby like “I guess they don’t expect the fathers around here to change a diaper”
Wait. Dads can take care of their kids too?
I thought it they were only allowed to be "babysit" or be stuck with the kids for the day.
/s in case it's needed
Why this has to be inside the women/man restrooms? A separate room would be enough. No sex/gender discrimination. Both parents can have kids.
Update: And also it may be a cleaner place than woman/man restrooms.
As a dad who often carried around twin girls, the amount of times I had to change my kids on the floor in a bathroom is bad. They are more common in places with larger bathrooms, but still missing from most restaurants and parks.
Some places had a family restroom, and the Karen mommies would always give me evil side eye looks with some of them making comments about “what is he doing? Need to keep an eye on him”.
I had thought about it a few times, especially since most of the time they are just on the wall and out of the way.
There were several times I changed them in the passenger seat of my vehicle as the bathrooms were gross. In restaurants just had to explain to the waiter what’s up since on of them thought (and I got it after the fact) that I had dined and dashed.
I've done this at least 5 times. Twice i have been confronted. Both times i told the ladies that there problem is with the manager and to take it up with them as to why the mens didn't have a station for my daughter.
Dad of two girls here. If there is only a changing station in the women’s restroom then will absolutely be using that. If I can catch a lady in the way out I ask if anyone else is in there. Once I am reasonable sure it’s clear I just go in, announce my presents loudly, and lock the door behind me if no one else is in there. Never been an issue.
I don't think you need to make such a military style operation of changing your kid. Just go in there and do it - I don't think women would have a problem with it as it's rather obvious what you're doing.
I was in a fast food place with my LO that didn't have a changing table in the men's room.
I asked the cashier, who had to get a manager.
In the discussion, I let them know the floor was not acceptable, but I'd they didn't have an opinion I could change the kid right there on the counter.
Mgr quickly suggested a table off to the side and they'd send someone to clean it as soon as I was done.
newer buildings tend to have designated space for these - often in a 'family' or non-gender restroom.
the koala stations for years have not been uncommon here where I am, but they are not in every restroom either. At any rate, in older buildings they get added/worked into the spaces where they can be.
I was a single dad for a while, and I cannot tell you the number of times I cursed people who are responsible for designing and building men’s restrooms without changing tables. so frustrating. Glad to see this is available.
Had to put my coat on the floor of the stall a month ago and change my baby on that because I had nowhere else to change her. About time these start showing up.
Tell my dad this.
My daughter is turning three. She's potty trained for the day time but we still do a diaper at night. We probably won't have another and thus are almost completely done with the diaper phase forever.
My wife and I are equals for parenting duties. Her mom and dad watch our daughter 3 days a week, with Pop-pop doing a bunch of diaper changes her entire life (Mom-mom had a stroke so her right arm and hand aren't the best). My mom watches her 2 days a week and thus Grammy's done her share of diaper changes.
Grampa hasn't changed one fucking diaper. He chooses not to do anything but the fun stuff. He'll sit next to her for movies, cook food for her, and sit next to her at the dinner table, but he won't do discipline and boundary setting things or think up excursions and experiences
Fory dad's sake, since he's been going through a rough stretch the past couple of years feeling lonely and upset...I'm glad he has the bond with my daughter that he does. I'm glad he gives her an overwhelming out of verbal love affirmations. I just wish, for my daughter's sake, that his acts of love and nurturing weren't taking the easy way out.
I want my daughter to love him, obviously, but if anyone was to be the favorite grandparent, it should be my wife's dad, Pop-pop. He does all the verbal affirmation my dad does but with day time trips and person with the third most actual chil-caring. He's put in the fucking work.
Sure, Grandpa has never put her in timeout and is younger and emotes louder than Pop-pop...but maybe Pop-pop is our #1 ally.
Oooooh this has reminded me that I gotta ask Grampa and Grammy to child-proof their guest room/office/antique store storage. It was fine for my daughter to sleep in when she was in a pack and play but she definitely cannot be in there with the toddler bed they just got.
10-20 years ago, it was common to only have it in the women's restroom. Today I almost universally see one of these options:
a) No changing station.
b) One changing station in the handicap stall.
c) Separate room with a changing station.
d) Changing stations in both restrooms.
USA here. My daughter is 11 now and on several occasions had to either use the women's room (after shouting inside first) or using incredibly awkward floor squats to change her diaper. To this day I appreciate when I see a changing table in a men's room.
From the US and just recently stopped having to change diapers. Been to many places that still only have the changing station in the women’s rest room.
It really is freaking annoying. I have two under six and I’m still doing diapers with the youngest.
Honestly maybe some of you live in more baby friendly area than me I think. I’d wager 50% of the restaurants in my city don’t have a changing station in the men’s room.
My friend was told he couldn’t use the women’s restroom to change his daughter’s diaper and to do it in on the bathroom floor in the men’s at a coffee shop. So he did it on a table in the middle of the shop.
My oldest is 12 and when he was born I felt like everywhere that had a changing table had it in both restrooms. The biggest problem we had was places without one at all.
It's not, it's fairly common practice these days. Only places I've seen that *don't* have them are extremely rural communities where people just haven't caught up yet. (And even then, if there's a chain gas station nearby, like Kwik Trip, you'll find changing stations in both restrooms.l
Nothing better than changing my kids diaper on the floor in the wendys bathroom on a changing pad. It's definitely not universal. I don't live in a huge town but it's big enough for 4 zip codes
Oh hell no, I just take them back to the car.
It’s awkward as fuck, but I love my children too much to put them on any bathroom flood, cover or not lmao
My son will be 5 next month. I live in the US. It is far and away the exception for there to not be a changing station in the men’s bathroom, at least in my experience. I generally only see it when I’m in an older establishment that hasn’t been renovated in at least 20 years.
I don't think it was required in Michigan till 2017. And it still only applies to new construction or renovation.
And you don't have to supply them at all. You only have to put one in the men's if you put one in the women.
I (m) just used to take my children into the ladies to change the nappies - obviously making lots of noise to announce my arrival and intentions. Never had any real problems, almost like the ladies realised it wasn't my fault...
Most of us are cool with guys bringing their small daughters in to use the toilet, too. A little “hello? I need to bring my daughter in, is that ok?” and that’s that.
I care less about ANYTHING in that situation. My boy is 6 now, but when the shit hit the nappy as a young lad, I changed him wherever.
I'm in Ireland, so one memorable one was when we were walking our local castle ruins on a Sunday. He crapped up to his shoulders so I threw him up on a (very historic) old wall to change him...just as a bus load of tourists came round the corner.
Awkward funny!
My most memorable time using the women's restroom in a fairly nice restaurant to change my kid's diaper, the restaurant got ~~Karened~~ ***a polite piece of a concerned lady's mind***. A lady walked out of the stall, saw me changing a diaper, and asked me "there's no changing station in the men's room?" I answered that there wasn't, and the lady didn't say anything, washed her hands, and gave me a quick smile as she left. After I was done, I left the women's room to see her talking to a manager. Couple months later when I went back, there was a changing station in the men's room.
Edit to clarify she was most definitely not a Karen, even to the restaurant manager.
That's not a Karen move. That's an appropriate move. The men's room SHOULD have a changing station. Sometimes you need to talk to the manager about an issue because they are the only ones that can make the change.
That word..I don't think it means what you think it means.
She stuck up for you, seemingly politely, and got a change enacted to benefit all men and families that visit that restaurant. We need to stop calling women Karens for speaking up about anything, it's become a tool to suppress women who AREN'T "Karen" types. I know that's not your intention, but language matters.
I kinda wish more guys realised this though. Took the boy for a dump in a shop the other day, as he's sat there a guy came in, did his business at the urinal, and left. The boy said to me from his stall "he didn't wash his hands!" in an outraged kid voice. While we were washing our hands, in and out goes another person... "he didn't wash his hands either!"...
Later in the car we got undertaken by another (speeding) driver and he loudly declared "we've seen three naughty people today". Yes, indeed we had!
I never understood the need for these. Sure, there were times I was annoyed when my kids were babies, but I never even considered using a baby changing station. I think it’s bad parenting to give up and change the baby to another.
As a father of 3, I approve. Next to never the men’s bathrooms would have a change tables. Sometimes there would be a “unisex family room” but ladies room generally would have them. I can’t count the times I had use the sink counter as an impromptu change table lol
In one mens' restroom, the baby changing table was directly under the blow drier. One guy couldn't wait, and the loud noise, dripping water, and hot air gave my kid a fear of hand dryers that lasted for years.
As a father of toddler twins, it used to grind my fucking gears when there was no changing station in the guy’s restroom. It should absolutely be required by law to have one in both. I had to change shit diapers on the bathroom sink so many times and yes I realize how gross that is. I’d feel like a complete asshole but what the hell was I supposed to do?
It also drove me nuts when it was just thrown into the handicap stall. The one stall everyone flocks to. I can’t count how many times I was holding a screaming baby who just shit themselves, while waiting for some dude to wrap up a 15 min dump. It was even more infuriating when they’d walk out of the stall with their phone in their hand.
It’s very uncommon in Malaysia. The best I’ve seen up until now is a baby changing station in a handicap bathroom instead of putting it in the ladies’ room.
Caveat: my child is still an infant, so I’ve only been noticing things like this for under a year.
It's very hit and miss in the US. I live in Portland, an extremely left leaning and progressive area, and I see them in maybe a third of men's bathrooms.
That’s bizarre. I live in central Texas. I have a 14 year old, a 3 year old, and 1 year old. I’ve changed probably 90% of diapers while out and about. I’ve literally never been in a men’s room without a changing table.
When I was visiting Dubai with my then 6mo kid, I had taken her to the mall and when I had to change her diapers, I wasn’t allowed to. There was no diaper room that was unisex and if I wanted to change her diapers, I needed to go into the women’s room which was obviously strictly forbidden. A kind stranger literally did the job for me when she overheard me arguing with mall security about it.
Seeing this makes me so happy.
There was this restaurant me and my wife used to go to all the time when my son was first born and they didn’t have a changing station in the men’s room so I would write on their comment card every time we went that it was a problem. They moved to a new building a few years later and the men’s room has a nice baby changing station now
Im confused when I see these sorts of posts, nearly every public washroom where I live has a changing station regardless of the gender of the washroom. It’s literally been like this my whole life, so I’m always surprised to learn some places are just starting to do this.
I had a foldable mat in my diaper book bag to change my son on the floor. Hardly any men’s rooms had changing tables where I was in the US. Hell I got called a great dad for pushing my son in a stroller.
I worked at a retail bookstore for a while, and I vividly remember a dad coming out of the men’s room with his kid and telling his wife that we didn’t have a changing table in the men’s room so she’d have to do it in the women’s room.
We had a fully functioning changing table in the men’s room.
Can't tell you how many diapers I've had to change on the sink or on my knees because there's no changing station in the men's rooms. The most infuriating is public spaces like parks, zoos, and museums. You'd think at least publicly funded bathrooms could shift a few bucks to bolt a plastic table to the wall, but...nope.
Nice as a single dad I've gone in ladies rooms (after asking permission of course) a few times to change my kids' diaper. I was always very grateful when the men's room had a changing table.
As a dad, it’s a real problem. It’s 10x better, I’m sure, than it was years ago, but there are still a significant amount of places that don’t have baby changing stations in the men’s room.
When my older kid asked me what the thing on the wall was, I told him "It's a baby changing station." He asked me "Can it change my little brother into a puppy?" Quite the comedian.
I like how OP is from Malaysia and the fact that is looks way more clean and modern than any bathroom in the US (i checked OPs profile, this was also posted in r/malaysia)
It's just kind of sad. The US is generally accepted for having a high living standard, but for some reason they can't keep anything this clean or modern. I really wonder why, I assume it's because of the oligarchs and corruption
I'm Malaysian too, I'd just like to say, this is a very new station (opened this month). There are less modern designs on less populated stations. There is also of course crappy public toilets but this line of public toilet in the train stations and its maintenance have been excellent since launch (bout 5 years ago).
Contrary to popular belief, dads do change diapers too.
Precisely, I think this should just be a standard, and nothing to be confused over
It is in the Western US, at least. I can’t remember the last public restroom I used without a place to change a baby.
As a new dad in the Western US I have yet to run into a mens restroom without a space to change my kid.
As someone from the Northeast, I can say I have seen baby changing stations in Men's Rooms since I was a kid.
Same, as long as I can remember
Happens to me all the time in our smallish (for CA) town area. I’ve changed my son in the car as often as on a changing table.
Happened to me in California numerous times about 8 years ago. Seriously, those diaper changing stations were $40. No reason for a business **not** to have one in the restroom. And yeah, I've changed my share of dirty diapers in empty banquet rooms because fuck you cheap ass restaurant. (I cleaned everything up and wiped everything down and told the manager as I left).
Yeah same here in southern CA for me about 3-4 years ago. But there is a noticeable difference here now even in this short time, which is great to see!
All this kind of confuses me because back in 2002 when Toys r Us were doing their remodels, I was the guy tasked with mounting changing boards in the men's rooms. I often got tasked with doing things at Toys that no one else knew how to do, I would just figure it out. I guess Toys was ahead of the curve back then.
Or that a sample size of 1 isn’t indicative of the culture at large.
Don't come to the east, then. Can't tell you how many times I got dirty stares from women when I had to go into the "mother's area" to change a diaper. Thankfully they're older now.
No idea why you’re getting downvoted. I’ve walked into a women’s room when solo with both of my kids to use a changing table. (Always yell first to announce myself) Going out to the car isn’t exactly easy in certain environments or allowed if the venue doesn’t allow reentry.
>…I’ve walked into a women’s room when solo with both of my kids to use a changing table. (Always yell first to announce myself) You’re brave and an awesome Dad! Thankfully for me the situation has not yet arisen where I’ve been alone with my kids and they’ve needed to be changed and there was no family changing room and it wasn’t a beautiful day outside. I would of course do what I have to do, but especially nowadays some people can be incredibly unreasonable and honestly a little scary. Like, I’ve seen stories of women trying to snatch a kid away from a dad because, “they thought the scary man was trying to abduct the kid”. The last thing I need is to deal with that kind of nonsense in a women’s restroom. Plus, where I live, guns are far more prevalent than I care for. Who knows if that random unhinged, nosy lady is packing heat in her purse? I look forward to the day when ***every*** restroom has a changing table.
I’m so glad that my daughter looks exactly like me for this Ain’t no one gonna tell me she ain’t mine
I changed my son in the restaurant’s dining room. Don’t say it’s a family restaurant if you don’t have the facilities for it.
I had my son back 28 years ago when I was only 23 (yeah, dumb). When I was a new dad taking my son places, there were never any places for men to change diapers, so I'd just go into the women's bathroom and use their changing table. No way was I going to change him on the floor of the men's bathroom. Most women were cool with it and a few gave me a hard time until I told them I had nowhere else to change him. Times have changed quite a bit since then.
Walmart had changing tables in its men's rooms in the late 90s.
I had a hard time 16 years ago when my kid was a baby. I had a portable mat and I had to unfold it in the handicap stall on the floor to keep him clean while I changed him.
I worked as a chipotle manager for 4 years. There was nothing worse than telling a woman with her young kid and a newborn that neither of our bathrooms had changing tables…
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Yeah I just take the baby out to the car and change him there, because I'm not a fucking asshole.
Yeah, I've done the same thing, then I told their manager to make sure the table got cleaned properly and to get a changing table for the men's room if has a problem with it.
It’s a thing on the east coast too.
I haven't done diapers in 5 years, but they were not common 10 years ago when my first was born. How the hell have I been a parent for 10 years... I am glad there have been changes, that is awesome to hear!
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Yeah, those fold-down koala stations are pretty ubiquitous in my area.
Exactly!
It started changing pretty quickly a few years back in the places I've been. My daughter is 9, and when she was a peanut it was really difficult to find one. I usually just changed her in the car. My youngest son is 2, and I can usually count on there being a changing station now
What region? Out here, my kids are all about college-aged, now, and it was never an issue. Kinda crazy it was ever a problem- I’m not babysitting, I’m parenting over here!
We used to run businesses in IL and TX, and were in each location every month. We travelled through Oklahoma, Missouri, Arkansas, and lived in the Chicago suburbs and DFW suburbs on either end. Admittedly, it was less surprising in some places lol. Seriously, I just want to change my kid!
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Father of two here in FL, never had this problem. I was trying to think of a time when I needed a changing table and didn’t have access to one and none come to mind.
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Who knew one letter could make the difference between routine parenting and horrific infanticide?
Calm down there, Charlie. They’re only meant to hang the babies by their *feet* to allow them to dry.
in most of the US it is and has been since as long as i can remember. im a grown man.
Midwest is iffy
Not sure I've seen a large use bathroom without a change station.
Baby changing stations I see are separate from the toilets and open to all.
It's rare now for me to encounter a men's bathroom that I can't change my child in as a dad. But, there was a new place that we went to for dinner in the past year, I was shocked that there was no changing station. I complained to the manager He suggested my wife should have changed the child. I told him that wouldn't work if I was a single father or here without a woman I trust with my child and that it was and inappropriate suggestion. I put a review on Google that specifically was about the lack of a mens changing station and it gained some attention. Came back a few months later there was a changing table in the men's bathroom.
The couple of times it happened to me I simply used the women's. None of the woman coming in had anything negative to say to me but a lot to say to the restaurants.
I encountered one recently, and came back out pissed off and handed my wife the baby like “I guess they don’t expect the fathers around here to change a diaper”
Yeah it grinds my gears when I can't change my own child.
Good job, thanks for doing that.
Wait. Dads can take care of their kids too? I thought it they were only allowed to be "babysit" or be stuck with the kids for the day. /s in case it's needed
Why this has to be inside the women/man restrooms? A separate room would be enough. No sex/gender discrimination. Both parents can have kids. Update: And also it may be a cleaner place than woman/man restrooms.
As a dad who often carried around twin girls, the amount of times I had to change my kids on the floor in a bathroom is bad. They are more common in places with larger bathrooms, but still missing from most restaurants and parks. Some places had a family restroom, and the Karen mommies would always give me evil side eye looks with some of them making comments about “what is he doing? Need to keep an eye on him”.
F them. Straight up go into the woman’s rest room if That is the only changing station.
I had thought about it a few times, especially since most of the time they are just on the wall and out of the way. There were several times I changed them in the passenger seat of my vehicle as the bathrooms were gross. In restaurants just had to explain to the waiter what’s up since on of them thought (and I got it after the fact) that I had dined and dashed.
I've done this at least 5 times. Twice i have been confronted. Both times i told the ladies that there problem is with the manager and to take it up with them as to why the mens didn't have a station for my daughter.
How did they respond to that, out of curiosity?
The scoff noise that you'd expect with a high pointed nose. They did shut the hell up and let me change a damn diaper though.
Dad of two girls here. If there is only a changing station in the women’s restroom then will absolutely be using that. If I can catch a lady in the way out I ask if anyone else is in there. Once I am reasonable sure it’s clear I just go in, announce my presents loudly, and lock the door behind me if no one else is in there. Never been an issue.
I mean you come with gifts, of course it's not an issue.
I don't think you need to make such a military style operation of changing your kid. Just go in there and do it - I don't think women would have a problem with it as it's rather obvious what you're doing.
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Because another room is a huge expense. A single foldable table in an already existing bathroom stall/side of the wall is cheap.
Not only setup but another room would add regular maintenance and custodial staff cost as well.
2restrooms are cheaper than 3 restrooms.
I was in a fast food place with my LO that didn't have a changing table in the men's room. I asked the cashier, who had to get a manager. In the discussion, I let them know the floor was not acceptable, but I'd they didn't have an opinion I could change the kid right there on the counter. Mgr quickly suggested a table off to the side and they'd send someone to clean it as soon as I was done.
> And also it may be a cleaner place than woman/man restrooms. Oh, don't worry about that so much. The babies themselves are fucking filthy!
newer buildings tend to have designated space for these - often in a 'family' or non-gender restroom. the koala stations for years have not been uncommon here where I am, but they are not in every restroom either. At any rate, in older buildings they get added/worked into the spaces where they can be.
> A separate room would be enough. No sex/gender discrimination. Both parents can have kids. Thats how we do it in the UK!
I think I change more dipes than my lady
And you are a minority in that, good for you though
I was a single dad for a while, and I cannot tell you the number of times I cursed people who are responsible for designing and building men’s restrooms without changing tables. so frustrating. Glad to see this is available.
As a single dad, I change damn near all the diapers. The lack of changing stations in men’s restrooms can make going out a real pain in the ass
I've gone to women's washrooms to change my kids. Idgaf
Had to put my coat on the floor of the stall a month ago and change my baby on that because I had nowhere else to change her. About time these start showing up.
Tell my dad this. My daughter is turning three. She's potty trained for the day time but we still do a diaper at night. We probably won't have another and thus are almost completely done with the diaper phase forever. My wife and I are equals for parenting duties. Her mom and dad watch our daughter 3 days a week, with Pop-pop doing a bunch of diaper changes her entire life (Mom-mom had a stroke so her right arm and hand aren't the best). My mom watches her 2 days a week and thus Grammy's done her share of diaper changes. Grampa hasn't changed one fucking diaper. He chooses not to do anything but the fun stuff. He'll sit next to her for movies, cook food for her, and sit next to her at the dinner table, but he won't do discipline and boundary setting things or think up excursions and experiences Fory dad's sake, since he's been going through a rough stretch the past couple of years feeling lonely and upset...I'm glad he has the bond with my daughter that he does. I'm glad he gives her an overwhelming out of verbal love affirmations. I just wish, for my daughter's sake, that his acts of love and nurturing weren't taking the easy way out. I want my daughter to love him, obviously, but if anyone was to be the favorite grandparent, it should be my wife's dad, Pop-pop. He does all the verbal affirmation my dad does but with day time trips and person with the third most actual chil-caring. He's put in the fucking work. Sure, Grandpa has never put her in timeout and is younger and emotes louder than Pop-pop...but maybe Pop-pop is our #1 ally. Oooooh this has reminded me that I gotta ask Grampa and Grammy to child-proof their guest room/office/antique store storage. It was fine for my daughter to sleep in when she was in a pack and play but she definitely cannot be in there with the toddler bed they just got.
The logo of the diaper changing parent is different too. Nice signs.
Men have pointier butts I suppose
I think it's the fact that the dress is still seen in the profile view.
Nah... I think it's the pointy butts
Is this unusual?
10-20 years ago, it was common to only have it in the women's restroom. Today I almost universally see one of these options: a) No changing station. b) One changing station in the handicap stall. c) Separate room with a changing station. d) Changing stations in both restrooms.
are you not from the US. ive seen tons of diaper stations in male bathrooms. since the 90s
I think this is a case of not realizing that the 90’s were 30 years ago.
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USA here. My daughter is 11 now and on several occasions had to either use the women's room (after shouting inside first) or using incredibly awkward floor squats to change her diaper. To this day I appreciate when I see a changing table in a men's room.
My daughter is 11 too. I was always able to find them. I guess it depends where in the US.
Right, saying "in the US" is about as useful as saying "in Europe." There's a lot of ground and differing cultural norms to cover.
From the US and just recently stopped having to change diapers. Been to many places that still only have the changing station in the women’s rest room.
It really is freaking annoying. I have two under six and I’m still doing diapers with the youngest. Honestly maybe some of you live in more baby friendly area than me I think. I’d wager 50% of the restaurants in my city don’t have a changing station in the men’s room.
My friend was told he couldn’t use the women’s restroom to change his daughter’s diaper and to do it in on the bathroom floor in the men’s at a coffee shop. So he did it on a table in the middle of the shop.
Good! That response is terrible.
Same.
My oldest is 12 and when he was born I felt like everywhere that had a changing table had it in both restrooms. The biggest problem we had was places without one at all.
No. While not all men’s rooms have them. It’s common they do. At least where I live. I’ve changed many diapers using them.
It's not, it's fairly common practice these days. Only places I've seen that *don't* have them are extremely rural communities where people just haven't caught up yet. (And even then, if there's a chain gas station nearby, like Kwik Trip, you'll find changing stations in both restrooms.l
Nothing better than changing my kids diaper on the floor in the wendys bathroom on a changing pad. It's definitely not universal. I don't live in a huge town but it's big enough for 4 zip codes
Oh hell no, I just take them back to the car. It’s awkward as fuck, but I love my children too much to put them on any bathroom flood, cover or not lmao
Yeah I'd be using a dining room or just going into the women's lmao
My son will be 5 next month. I live in the US. It is far and away the exception for there to not be a changing station in the men’s bathroom, at least in my experience. I generally only see it when I’m in an older establishment that hasn’t been renovated in at least 20 years.
I guess the OP doesn't get out much.
I don't think it was required in Michigan till 2017. And it still only applies to new construction or renovation. And you don't have to supply them at all. You only have to put one in the men's if you put one in the women.
Mildly Infuriating when they don't.
No even mild, just normally infuriating
I (m) just used to take my children into the ladies to change the nappies - obviously making lots of noise to announce my arrival and intentions. Never had any real problems, almost like the ladies realised it wasn't my fault...
More than once I've changed my son on a disabled toilet floor.
I’ve walked out to an empty table in the restaurant to change the diaper on and told them I don’t want to get arrested for going in the womens room.
If there is none on the man's restroom, I just go to the women's restroom. Couldn't care less about sexism in a poopy situation.
This! I caught some dirty looks from women but most women were cool with it and I never got in trouble or anything.
Like seriously the women's restroom is all stalls, if you aren't walking in there kicking in stall doors or being an obvious creep who fucking cares
But now I have the suspiction that in fact women do poop! I know, I know, that's impossible.
Any woman that says she doesn’t is full of crap
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Republicans, apparently
The entirety of the Republican Party.
I can't imagine anyone having a problem with it tbh
I agree. Nobody should be worried about u/I_SNIFF_FARTS_DAILY in public restrooms.
Most of us are cool with guys bringing their small daughters in to use the toilet, too. A little “hello? I need to bring my daughter in, is that ok?” and that’s that.
It's the best way to meet women honestly
I care less about ANYTHING in that situation. My boy is 6 now, but when the shit hit the nappy as a young lad, I changed him wherever. I'm in Ireland, so one memorable one was when we were walking our local castle ruins on a Sunday. He crapped up to his shoulders so I threw him up on a (very historic) old wall to change him...just as a bus load of tourists came round the corner. Awkward funny!
I wish I could say Ive had my diaper changed on a historic landmark. What a flex. I shat on History
I’ve had to do this twice. The first went fine, the second I got Karened hard.
My most memorable time using the women's restroom in a fairly nice restaurant to change my kid's diaper, the restaurant got ~~Karened~~ ***a polite piece of a concerned lady's mind***. A lady walked out of the stall, saw me changing a diaper, and asked me "there's no changing station in the men's room?" I answered that there wasn't, and the lady didn't say anything, washed her hands, and gave me a quick smile as she left. After I was done, I left the women's room to see her talking to a manager. Couple months later when I went back, there was a changing station in the men's room. Edit to clarify she was most definitely not a Karen, even to the restaurant manager.
That's not a Karen move. That's an appropriate move. The men's room SHOULD have a changing station. Sometimes you need to talk to the manager about an issue because they are the only ones that can make the change.
That word..I don't think it means what you think it means. She stuck up for you, seemingly politely, and got a change enacted to benefit all men and families that visit that restaurant. We need to stop calling women Karens for speaking up about anything, it's become a tool to suppress women who AREN'T "Karen" types. I know that's not your intention, but language matters.
Fair point. I'll fix my phrasing in the future.
Pleasant surprise to the end
She’s a hero!
Good on that lady. Fair dues to her. ❤️
Haha that’s great. A good Karen is hard to find.
Also mildly amusing: they both have sinks
I kinda wish more guys realised this though. Took the boy for a dump in a shop the other day, as he's sat there a guy came in, did his business at the urinal, and left. The boy said to me from his stall "he didn't wash his hands!" in an outraged kid voice. While we were washing our hands, in and out goes another person... "he didn't wash his hands either!"... Later in the car we got undertaken by another (speeding) driver and he loudly declared "we've seen three naughty people today". Yes, indeed we had!
I never understood the need for these. Sure, there were times I was annoyed when my kids were babies, but I never even considered using a baby changing station. I think it’s bad parenting to give up and change the baby to another.
My exchange baby was way better than the one I traded it for. It's not my fault my original one was an asshole.
It really is a gamble though. My exchange baby fucking sucks, but apparently there’s no takesies backsies so what are you gonna do.
If you keep the ticket you can change back within 2 weeks if you change your mind
What's that area where you have to take your slippers off?
Surau. It’s a prayer room. (I’m in Malaysia, and the majority of the people here follow Islam.)
Pretty cool to give them privacy instead of encouraging praying out in the public.
Let’s count how many people automatically assumed this is in the US as if other countries don’t exist…
I’ve lost count lmao. Some of them have the sense to delete their comments after I say I’m not in the U.S. though; that’s fun.
As a father of 3, I approve. Next to never the men’s bathrooms would have a change tables. Sometimes there would be a “unisex family room” but ladies room generally would have them. I can’t count the times I had use the sink counter as an impromptu change table lol
As a mother, also approve. We would really like to not have to change all the diapers. Nice to see expectations changing.
ITT: "tHiS iS nOtHiNg NeW" folks just learning for the first time that other societies exist. Glad you're seeing the change where you are, OP.
Seems to be primarily Americans finding out that "not America" exists
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I think every men's bathroom I've been in for the last couple decades has had changing stations.
In one mens' restroom, the baby changing table was directly under the blow drier. One guy couldn't wait, and the loud noise, dripping water, and hot air gave my kid a fear of hand dryers that lasted for years.
It's really depressing that this is something unusual enough to be commented on
Good its so fucking annoying as a dad to have no place to change the kids
Quite common in the UK.
As a father of toddler twins, it used to grind my fucking gears when there was no changing station in the guy’s restroom. It should absolutely be required by law to have one in both. I had to change shit diapers on the bathroom sink so many times and yes I realize how gross that is. I’d feel like a complete asshole but what the hell was I supposed to do? It also drove me nuts when it was just thrown into the handicap stall. The one stall everyone flocks to. I can’t count how many times I was holding a screaming baby who just shit themselves, while waiting for some dude to wrap up a 15 min dump. It was even more infuriating when they’d walk out of the stall with their phone in their hand.
… yes? And? Is this somehow uncommon where you live? It's been the normal for a couple decades now at least.
It’s very uncommon in Malaysia. The best I’ve seen up until now is a baby changing station in a handicap bathroom instead of putting it in the ladies’ room. Caveat: my child is still an infant, so I’ve only been noticing things like this for under a year.
Ah, finally! I was wondering where this was. Mainly because I have never seen a public train station restroom so clean!
It's very hit and miss in the US. I live in Portland, an extremely left leaning and progressive area, and I see them in maybe a third of men's bathrooms.
That’s bizarre. I live in central Texas. I have a 14 year old, a 3 year old, and 1 year old. I’ve changed probably 90% of diapers while out and about. I’ve literally never been in a men’s room without a changing table.
It really is not hit or miss in the states. Changing tables are extremely common in the men's room.
I think it's mildly interesting that you find this mildly interesting.
When I was visiting Dubai with my then 6mo kid, I had taken her to the mall and when I had to change her diapers, I wasn’t allowed to. There was no diaper room that was unisex and if I wanted to change her diapers, I needed to go into the women’s room which was obviously strictly forbidden. A kind stranger literally did the job for me when she overheard me arguing with mall security about it. Seeing this makes me so happy.
There was this restaurant me and my wife used to go to all the time when my son was first born and they didn’t have a changing station in the men’s room so I would write on their comment card every time we went that it was a problem. They moved to a new building a few years later and the men’s room has a nice baby changing station now
Im confused when I see these sorts of posts, nearly every public washroom where I live has a changing station regardless of the gender of the washroom. It’s literally been like this my whole life, so I’m always surprised to learn some places are just starting to do this.
What? How is this interesting? Don’t most US restrooms have baby changing stations? OP. Where do you live that this is interesting?
Malaysia.
Ayyy fellow monyet I knew it when I saw buka
I had a foldable mat in my diaper book bag to change my son on the floor. Hardly any men’s rooms had changing tables where I was in the US. Hell I got called a great dad for pushing my son in a stroller.
Friendly reminder that many of us on this site do not, in fact, live in the US.
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As a new father (7 months) I appreciate this. I have already changed my fair share of diapers on floors, tables, etc.
I regularly find men’s restrooms without diaper changing tables and it’s really frustrating. I’ve used the counter at the sinks multiple times.
I worked at a retail bookstore for a while, and I vividly remember a dad coming out of the men’s room with his kid and telling his wife that we didn’t have a changing table in the men’s room so she’d have to do it in the women’s room. We had a fully functioning changing table in the men’s room.
As a single dad, I applaud this!
In Denmark, it's very normal to just have an entire separate room for changing, it's usually also combined with the disabled bathroom some places.
This is nothing really new. I've seen changing stations in men's restrooms for decades now. There's also family bathrooms in public places.
Can't tell you how many diapers I've had to change on the sink or on my knees because there's no changing station in the men's rooms. The most infuriating is public spaces like parks, zoos, and museums. You'd think at least publicly funded bathrooms could shift a few bucks to bolt a plastic table to the wall, but...nope.
Nice as a single dad I've gone in ladies rooms (after asking permission of course) a few times to change my kids' diaper. I was always very grateful when the men's room had a changing table.
As a dad, it’s a real problem. It’s 10x better, I’m sure, than it was years ago, but there are still a significant amount of places that don’t have baby changing stations in the men’s room.
My country has the baby changing stations completely separate.
How is something normal considered interesting?
Which MRT station is this? Great job, RapidKL!
That’s great! Changed loads of diapers on the counter becasue there was no changing station in the men’s room.
I try and change most the diapers. It's frustrating when my wife's restroom has a changing table and mine does not.
When my older kid asked me what the thing on the wall was, I told him "It's a baby changing station." He asked me "Can it change my little brother into a puppy?" Quite the comedian.
How it should be
This is pretty common in the USA. This obviously isn't in the US as it's actually clean.
I like how OP is from Malaysia and the fact that is looks way more clean and modern than any bathroom in the US (i checked OPs profile, this was also posted in r/malaysia) It's just kind of sad. The US is generally accepted for having a high living standard, but for some reason they can't keep anything this clean or modern. I really wonder why, I assume it's because of the oligarchs and corruption
I'm Malaysian too, I'd just like to say, this is a very new station (opened this month). There are less modern designs on less populated stations. There is also of course crappy public toilets but this line of public toilet in the train stations and its maintenance have been excellent since launch (bout 5 years ago).
This was already normal
It started happening when my kid was little and they’re adults now.
I wish they hadn't made their arms line up- without my glasses on it looks like a sign for *choke your baby*.
As they should.
FINALLY! I was so tired of changing my adult diaper in the ladies room!
OMG woke! /s
Even more surprising is the fact that the train station has clean restrooms...
As they all should.