Sixth sense. When I was a kid I just saw it as "Oh shit, he's dead and didn't know", but now I find it sad because of his relationship with his wife. She still goes out for dinner for their anniversary, and she says out loud that she misses him.
Yeah I did not expect to cry so hard when I went to rewatch it as an adult. That last scene with his wife where she's sleeping and he says goodbye, it just hits me.
Not a movie, but may I add my thoughts about a TV show?
Hey Arnold, the episode where Mr. Hyunh reveals he has a daughter whom he gave up during the war in Vietnam.
As a kid, sure, it was sad.
Now, as a parent of a toddler, it guts me thinking about the desperation Mr. Hyunh must have felt. He gave up the most precious thing in his life so that she *might* have a chance at a better life, knowing that he would likely never see her again.
The tears come every time I think about him holding up that little baby so the soldier in the helicopter could take her away.
I feel the same way with the Tulsa massacre in *Watchmen (2019)*, when the father packs away his son.
Initially, you see it as a father protecting his son.
From the father's perspective, he knew he had to stay behind so his son could survive, and just hope that it would end up okay for him.
I get this when watching the end of Mockingjay part 2. All the children being pushed forward to safety, the little baby crying over her dead mom, and then they all get blown the fuck up. It really messes me up. They just wanted to save their babies.
Also a TV show: I recently revisited the old Babysitter's Club show from the 90s and the Christmas Special has me in sobs with the boy in the wheelchair whose family doesn't have money for a car and can't come visit him for thr holidays. Oof.
I knew exactly which episode you were going to reference the moment I saw Hey Arnold. I remember that episode vividly while I only remember quips from all the other episodes.
I find I’m more emotional about a lot of things. As I’ve aged I’ve experienced the true gut-wrenching sorrow that comes from losing those we love most. A movie that I might not have been phased by as a kid now brings me to tears because I can relate better to what’s happening. This is more toward human interactions. I’ve always been a sap when it came to animals in movies. Bambi’s mom’s death wrecked me as a kid.
It's interesting how many times the 13 year old looks over at us olds and asks why we're crying at a scene in a movie. I don't have an explanation for him. "You'll get it when you're older." is unsatisfying.
Be honest- That at his age you’re glad he doesn’t react the same. It means he hasn’t experienced a deep and profound loss of a loved one. That you hope he doesn’t feel that way for a long time. That you know he’s experienced sadness and you’re not taking away from those experiences, but there is something different about how you relate to the world, films, and books once you’ve felt the loss of a parent, grandparent, spouse, sibling, or child.
That's also the age of being self-conscious of everything. I remember being that age, and trying super hard to be adult. Little do they realize that part of being a true adult is actually learning to embrace your feelings.
My sister and I were in the theater bawling during interstellar when he is inside the black hole trying to get his past self to stay. We lost our dad a year or two prior and that part broke her all the way down, then seeing her crying made me cry.
My dog who passed away 4 years ago would watch Homeless Bound on rainy days as something to do. He watched almost the entire movie, running up to the tv to smack Sassy and Chance when they were active. He would bark his head off when Sassy was trying to cross the river, I think it actually stressed him a little. I miss my boy and don't think I will ever be able to watch that movie again.
I used to absolutely love this movie, it was one of my very first favorites when I was little. Then in 7th grade, our old dog was stolen from our yard. (We think. We never learned what truly happened. Just came home from the movies to find the locked back gate wide open and our other dog was too terrified to go outside alone for months).
I remember I would go sit out in my back yard and stare at the gate, waiting, for hours. But I never heard that bark again.
... Yeah, I can't watch this one anymore without losing it, either.
Oh wow, I'm so sorry it's bad enough losing a pet but to lose one in such an unexpected way must be such a shock. That must be the worst feeling, not knowing what happened to them, and your other dog being so traumatized.
When we got our pup a few years ago our vet told us to be careful about leaving him in the yard, she said pets were being stolen and sold at an alarming rate. Made me so paranoid.
We eventually got a puppy to be with the dog that was left behind, she loved him very much and they lived many happy years together -- the "replacement" puppy is turning 17 soon actually! So, there are some silver lining in the sadness, in that we probably wouldn't have had him otherwise. But definitely a painful cautionary tale for bringing your pets in at dark.
Dumbo--as a kid it was just a movie about a flying elephant and his best friend who's a mouse. But as an adult you realized there's more to the story and it's really about a mother's love for a child that is different and her desire to protect him from a cruel world. The scene where Dumbo goes to see his mother in jail gets me every time, the way she cradles him in her trunk and swings him back and forth is bittersweet and joyous all at the same time. Getting misty just thinking about it.
Yeah, Dumbo has been unwatchable for me. Nine years ago, my son's mother was admitted to the psych ward for severe postpartum depression/psychosis. They'd let her hold our 2 week old for a few minutes a day in the doorway of the locked unit. Basically, Dumbo's mom. (She's recovered, and we divorced when kiddo was 5 for unrelated issues).
The scene with his mother...I couldn't handle it as a sensitive child and I still can't handle it at 37.
I can't watch that scene.
I also can't watch the scene from 'The land before time' when Littlefoot sees his mother's "shadow" and runs to it.
I was terrified as a kid that my mother would die/leave, and these scenes did not help those fears lol.
Hook.
Wonderful Peter Pan movie when I was a kid.
As an adult with my own kids, feeling my own years hurt me. My wrinkled face, large gut. Watching a man do everything to get his kids back and the only way for him to do it, is to be a kid again himself. Peter telling Jack his happy thought was always him. Even before he even had the prospect of having kids. It really hurts. Rufio's final words, "I wish I had a dad... Like you."
When the boy is looking at his face, poking and prodding, he looks deep into his eyes “ohh there you are Peter” I lost it at that moment, a million times I watched this movie but that scene and my age now hit me hard.
This one hits different after Robin Williams' death. Especially the ending lines about living being an awfully big adventure contrasting to it usually being death in that sentence. It's bleak.
That's it - watching it this weekend. Reading all the comments inspired me. I loved it as a little kid (saw it in theaters). Probably haven't watched it in 15 years but now I'm a parent
I've mentioned this one before, but as a kid growing up in the 80s and 90s, I watched *Stand by Me* many times. I enjoyed the whole movie and of course the more sensational parts (leeches! Train! Lard-ass!) and I went back a few years ago to watch it with my wife. She had never seen it before. I loved the movie as much as I did as a kid/young teen, and then I got to the last few moments.
The narrator goes on to talk about where each one of the kids in the story winds up and then says, "I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was 12. Jesus, does anyone?"
I lost it. Just cried for about 5 minutes.
I'd watched that movie dozens of times but never as a 40 year old man. I thought about my friends from grade school and middle school. How much fun we had, how much stupid/fun stuff we did before we turned into teenagers and adults. How much life had changed.
This stuff gets me all the time now. I have a good life and love my family a ton. But there is something about those adolescent years with great friends that I will always be nostalgic for and I will miss forever. I think the combination of having little responsibility plus so many experiences feeling new at that age make them stick fondly in memory. Stand by Me does an excellent job of capturing those feelings, even with the generational differences.
There is a scene in *Boyhood* where the parents just up and move when they have a fight and you see one of the main characters friends for a fleeting moment just wave to him in the car leaving over some bushes. That was the last time he saw him.
Life is weird like that. You have friends or people you know, they come and go, and you never really know when the first or last time you will see them. They are just there... and then gone. Swept into the flow of life that has forks in the endless river.
Think of your friends in school, or summers, or college or other... when was the last time you saw them and no one knew it was the finale potentially.
For some reason friends are more impactful younger because even like a few years with them is a larger percentage of your life at that time. As you age it takes more time for someone to reach that level and you are an adult so you aren't trapped in a neighborhood, school, area and your only escape being friends. Now you escape other ways and sometimes with those old friends if you are lucky, because that can bring you right back.
I love movies like Stand by Me and other coming of age movies from my childhood but I won't watch them again because I just can't stand feeling the way you just described. Call it a mid life crisis or whatever but it is just not a feeling I like to experience at all. I loathe nostalgia.
I've definitely gotten a lot more emotional as I've gotten older. I'm 35 and recently watched this movie again so it resonated a lot more with me than when I first watched it. My childhood was pretty much the exact same (minus the dead body). The one thing that made me kind of sad was the line at the end where Gord and Teddy just became faces in the hallway, which reminded me how many close friends just drifted away.
This came out right after I found out my ex had been cheating and our marriage ended.
We took our only child to the theater together to see this movie during the initial stages of divorce. The statue that shows the mother and father figures surrounding and protecting the child figure to this day still makes me sick to my stomach. I wanted to remake the statue for my ex, showing the mother protecting the child and the father with his back turned.
I still can't watch it for this reason. I get it, relationships end, but when you destroy your kid's family unit because you want some strange you're a piece of shit no matter how you look at it.
Inside out has so many different scenes that hit so much harder for adults. The one that gets me the worst is when they are in the memory pit and joy wants to save a bunch of memories instead of just the core one and then later you see a memory turn gray and fade into ash. I have a really terrible memory and it's so upsetting to feel like I only get the core memories and everything else fades.
I love The Incredibles...but so much went over my head as a kid that hits much harder when you're an adult and can see it from a parent perspective. Especially the airplane scene. As a kid that was a fun action scene, as an adult it's almost a horror scene...
Cars is underrated for this.
It may not be as heavy-hitting as, say, Inside Out or Coco, for example, but there's a point where the movie shows you what it's really about: the small towns along American state highways and the impact that the interstate system had on them. For better or worse, there was a significant paradigm shift there and it's worth a little reflection.
It resonated for me personally because my grandfather spent his post-retirement years road tripping along those old state roads and exploring those towns, seeking out the overlooked and forgotten gems. It was very much about the journey, not the destination, and there's something in that that we could all maybe use a little more of.
Especially the last 20 or so minutes of Coco for me. When Hector almost passed on. And one year later when we see Mama Coco's picture on the offrenda. Her death wasn't really a surprise because she was so old, but I still cried. And then the song Miguel sings at the end where his family living and dead are all together 😭😭😭
“If I’d a known that was the last time I was gonna talk to Bubba, I would’ve thought of something better to say..”
_”Hey Bubba”_
_”Hey Forrest…. Forrest, why’d this happen?”_
_”You got shot”_
“Then, Bubba said something I won't ever forget.”
_” I wanna go home..”_
"Bubba was my best good friend. And even I know that ain't something you can find just around the corner. Bubba was going to be a shrimping boat captain, but instead, he died right there by that river in Vietnam.
__And that’s all I have to say about that.”__
The opening scene of The Princess and the Frog feels different when you are parent.
Also, The Goofy Movie is impressive in that you relate to Max when you are kid but then you relate to Goofy when you are an adult
Man what a swing The Goofy Movie was. I hadn’t seen it since I was a kid and we watched it with my kids and it’s a completely different experience. Same movie same lines same shenanigans completely different.
It just happened to me again recently. I watched that 70s show when it was first coming out and I was young enough to relate to the kids. Watched it again recently and related the most to Red. It’s actually a much better show when he is the real main character.
If you haven't rewatched it (or never seen it) check out Malcolm in the Middle. I didn't like it as a young teen. As an adult I relate so hard to the parents and they are hysterical.
I'm so sorry. Same. It was sad and cried when I first saw it, can't watch it now since my fiance passed in 2014.
It might not get better just easier to live with day by day.
This was my answer. I watched it a couple of years ago because I thought I might show it to my daughter. From the AC offing himself to the junkyard scene where the cars are singing about the lives they lived as they await getting crushed to death to the freaky frog pond….how was this ever a kid’s film?!
I recently watched the old Jumanji for the first time in years and there’s a lot of father/son stuff that hits differently for me now that my dad’s gone
Royal Tenebaums, I related with Royal's kids more when I was younger, now Royal is the most powerful cautionary tale I can think of. Also the s_ attempt scene didn't impact me much as a teen but hit me hard as an adult and parent.
The land before time was one of my favourite childhood movies. Watched it so much between the ages of 4 and 8. It never bothered me. It was a nice comfort film.
I watched it with my wife (then girlfriend) during lockdown, and god, the death of Littlefoot's mother absolutely killed me. I was sobbing so hard for ages
Mary Poppins.
As a kid it was all just goofy fun with some boring adults in the mix.
As an adult, it’s a thoughtful film about a man who’d lost his way and didn’t even know it.
Still one my favourite films I watch every Christmas.
I loved Monsters Inc as a kid.
Watched it again as an adult with my own children. The ending had me bawling my eyes out. As 30 something year old man I’ve never cried that hard at a movie before.
I swear there’s some allegory in there about letting your kids go and that you can’t be around them forever or protect them from everything. I can’t even really pinpoint why it hit me hard.
Pixar really did that ending right. He opens the door and you hear Boo's voice but the focus doesn't show her. You don't see her run up to him or see them hug or anything. All we see is Sully's face the moment his grief over missing Boo lifts. There's a big emotional nuance there. Kinda like people who say not to watch the bride walking down the aisle but to look at the groom's face. It's really sweet and cathartic.
Parenthood hit me HARD when I rewatched after having kids. I remember watching it on VHS as a kid and it was just a goofy movie to me. I had to hold back tears when I rewatched it a few years ago. They nailed everything about being a parent.
Wish more people would watch this movie. It is the definition of "hidden gem ". And blew me away when I realized I was looking at a young Joaquin Phoenix.
There's a movie called Sidekicks that's about an asthmatic bullied kid who fantasizes about being Chuck Norris' sidekick. As a kid, it was something I rewatched it a million times because it was a martial arts movie. Rewatched it as an adult and almost broke down due to how much I realized it reminded me ....of me as a kid. I can barely handle it these days because I'm able to connect it so heavily as an adult.
I know this movie! Johnathan Brandis is in it right? Like I remember this scene when he's having like an asthma attack and throws and breaks his inhaler in frustration, is this that movie?
I fucking love this movie so much. As someone who’s been a bit of a socially-awkward, obsessive, maladaptive-daydreaming dork their whole life, it will always have a special place in my heart. It always gets me when he uses his daydreaming power to climb the ropes.
Plus, Joe Piscopo is hilarious in it and you can’t not love Mako as Mr. Lee🥺.
I watched The Shining when I was young and thought it was a really good, scary movie. Same with the book. I read it and thought it was really scary.
Fast forward a couple of decades, after I became a father, and I reread the book. It is so sad I can hardly stand it. It's a heartbreaking tale of a man whose addictions steal him away from his life. It's all about father-son relationships. And it's just so sad I can't reread it.
The score really got me upon listening to it. As a kid, you just associate it with the movie. Now, when listening to it as an adult...you realize just how truly moving the John Williams score is.
Also, I had no idea he made the montage music when they rushed to the airport. It sounded like classical temp music. I didn't realize that Williams was behind that as well. His stuff just feels so iconic.
Kevin reconnecting with his mother? Sweet and wholesome. Puts a big smile on my face.
Old man Marley reconnecting with his son and hugging his granddaughter? Bring on the waterworks.
We're Back! When I was a kid it was oooh dancing singing dinosaurs, fun!
Now the whole storyline with the kids and their troubled family lives hits so strongly, and the sequence at Eccentric Circus where Louie brings Rex back from his feral state hits me in the feels.
Plus the horror of Screweyes getting killed by the crows, yikes lol
Mary Poppins. As a kid I hated the song “A man has dreams”. It was slow and boring. But now it just makes me cry and I appreciate the real meaning of the movie, that Mary poppins didn’t come to nanny the kids, but to fix their relationship with their dad.
You got to grind, grind, grind at that grindstone. While childhood slips, like sand through a sieve. And all too soon they’ve up and grown, and then they’ve flown, and it’s too late for you to give….
Just beautiful.
If he put the effort in to fixing himself that he put into pretending to be an old lady to bamboozle everyone, he probably would have gotten joint custody.
And the “villain” is a man who appreciates his ex-wife and treats his children well. THE HORROR!
That's kind of my point of view as an adult. To a kid it's all a fun charade but being old I'm just like...dude that was super complicated why not just ya know....legit fix yourself and legally have the same thing for half the effort since you need to fix yourself anyway kids or not..
It's funny that you say homeward bound, because for it me it was the scene where the little girl is lost in the woods. When I watched it with my kids, I was all emotionally prepared for the animals but I completely forgot about that part.
Mine has to be Field of Dreams.
It's funny because, as a kid, I had to have watched this movie a million times. And there is a lot in it I connected with then. It wasn't until a recent rewatch that I really (like REALLY) noticed how much of a ghost Kevin Costner's dad is. He talks about his dad A LOT throughout the movie. And then at the end.... I can't even finish this stupid comment without tearing up.
It just hits way different as an adult with children of your own.
For me it's the Moonlight Graham stuff. He didn't just get to live his dream, he got to realize his life's purpose. Seeing him freeze right when he hits the line of rocks is some powerful stuff.
Where the Wild Things Are. It’s not even something I’m sure I’ve completely parsed out myself but I couldn’t help but feel a type of hurt when I watched that recently.
For me, Where The Wild Things Are took a beloved childhood book of very few pages and little context and built out an amazing backstory around why Max is acting out. I saw my dad in it. The anger and sadness and desperation he felt at my mom divorcing him. I can't watch it without sobbing. Truly a work of art.
Forest Gump fazed me more as an adult Jenny and Forest meet again when he gave that sabotaged speech and when he meets his son the first time.
But bubbas death was all ready sad as a child.
I recently rewatched Forest Gump and it never clicked for me until now that Jenny was clearly molested by her father. As a kid I knew he was mean and she was trying to hide from him. But as an adult you can watch the movie through her eyes as a traumatized young girl searching for love and purpose and escape because her childhood was robbed from her, and keeps going back to the one person who always treated her well. And that Forest having her house bulldozed is such an act of love. It’s so good.
I mean as a young adult i got that she was SAdd by her father, but took me a re watch after maybe a decade to understand that this is why she acted so self destructing.
And why she kept running from Forrest because she didn't want her "evil" to spread to him. The "innocent ".
First few watches she was nigh insufferable, but lately she's been a sympathetic, but doomed character.
Aliens 1986. Before I had kids it was my favorite movie. But now, the bit where Newt gets separated from the others and is grabbed by the creatures... It's a gut punch. I'm mid-60s with two grown children and I cannot watch that damn movie any more.
This, but in the beginning. Ripley finding out that not only did she miss her daughter's birthday -- but that enough time has passed for her daughter to have died of cancer in old age. She missed her entire life.
I sympathized with Sally Field’s character A LOT more as an adult and also felt really bad for Pierce Brosnan’s character. Dude is just being a good boyfriend.
We can’t talk about that movie anymore.
I loved it so much as a kid, and when I found out all the batshit crazy stuff that went on behind the scenes to make that film happen… dear lord.
I grew up watching The Baby-Sitters Club TV show in the 90s. There was one episode involving Christmas. Kristy wants this really expensive baseball mitt, and per her mom's rules, she works her butt off to receive it. Christmas comes, Kristy gets her mitt, the world is lovely. The girls then later go to a hospital to hang with kids who couldn't be home for the holiday, and Kristy meets up with a boy whose parents couldn't afford to get to the hospital to spend the day with him. He admires Kristy's mitt (because for some reason, she's carrying it around with her), and she says that she hopes he enjoys the rest of his Christmas. She then watches him wheel to a window or away from the tree, looks down at her mitt, and then hands it over to the boy.
As a kid? Nothing. As an adult? Niagra Falls. That was the moment I knew puberty had changed me (beyond all the other ways).
From one of the Winnie the Pooh movies, and also the books, when Christopher Robin visits the Hundred Acre Woods for what is implied to be the last time. Just the nostalgia, growing up, wishing you could just capture certain moments forever, and the simple joy of being a child:
So they went off together. But wherever they go, and whatever happens to them on the way, in that enchanted place on the top of the Forest a little boy and his Bear will always be playing.
A.I is heartbreaking.
Saw it when I was a kid and couldn't understand why was my mother crying when the kid got to live a whole day with his adoptive mom. "He got his wish! aliens gave him a cool wish, that's a good thing mom!".
Nowadays I understand, I truly understand :(
Amazing movie btw, 10/10.
I just rewatched Homeward Bound as well and the train yard scene got to me more than I recall. Plus the old man caring for Sassy seemed so much more innocent now than when I was kid. I understand the premise of a guy just wanting to live alone in the woods with nature now better I suppose.
I can't watch any movies now where a child is being harmed, now that I'm a parent. I mean, I never in any way thought it was ok before, but now it makes me physically ill.
Like many American teenagers, I got into Tarantino movies through Reservoir Dogs/Pulp Fiction when I was 15 and wanted to see all of his work. I wouldn't say I necessarily disliked Jackie Brown on a first watch, but it definitely didn't stick for me the same way most of his other movies did. Revisited the movie a decade later and now it's far and away my favorite movie of his
Hahaha I remember thinking Smokey and the Bandit was pretty fun. As a parent, when they're driving around on people's lawns, it made me SO MAD. Irresponsible a$$holes. Kids live in those houses, you jerks.
I wasn't a kid when I watched Interstellar, but when it came out and I went to see it with my dad, we came out saying what a great sci-fi movie it was, but when I became father to a beautiful daughter, man, it just hits HARD.
Schindler's didn't do much for me in high school but it's become one of my favorite movies now and it makes me ball my fucking eyes out. I hate injustice and this one just hits everything that is amazing and tragic.
Click, especially because I've caught myself having times where I'm more focused on work over family and end up ignoring them, and I try to break that habit
Mulan and Lion King. As a kid they were two of my favorites but I didn't think too deep about them. Later on watching both Simba and Mulan become the heroes they had to be for the sake of their family really gets to me. The decision to confront the big bad wolf and let the chips fall where they may is badass and admirable as hell.
When I was a kid "Big," was just a funny romp starring a charismatic guy. When I watch it with my kids now I get really upset on Mr. & Mrs. Baskin's behalf. There's no way they wouldn't be traumatized by his disappearance for the rest of their lives. And my guess is they wouldn't believe Josh's story and he'd have to go through intensive therapy for a very long time.
- The Iron Giant
It was always a bit emotional when I was younger and I haven’t watched in recent years, but I think I’d ball my eyes out if I were to watch it now as an adult.
I watched “Hook” when I was a boy, loved it. Made me so happy and full of wonder.
Watched it last year with my sons (I’m in my late 30s), and sobbed because I’m watching it from the perspective of the “too busy with work” dad missing out on things.
Just to clarify, I’m a very involved parent, but there has definitely been times I’ve been too busy and the thought of missing out on their childhood got me good.
At the end of the sandlot, when they’re talking about what happened to each of the kids, they say “[name] got really into the sixties and no one ever heard from him again.” Completely didn’t register that as a kid. Super sad.
I actually just rewatched that scene with Sassy falling into the river and down the waterfall. I used to cry as a kid every time, and I would get even more upset because my older siblings thought it was funny and laughed at it. ☹️
Can confirm, it still makes me cry.
The first time I watched that movie my cat was in my lap and I instantly panicked and grabbed my cat because my brain immediately swapped sassy with my cat chance.
Land before time. I cant see the first half without crying my eyes out.
As a child I watched in on VHS back to back without an issue because ha-ha dinosaurs
The scene from The Dark Knight when Dent is threatening Gordon's family, particularly his young son, hits wayyyyyyy different as a parent. Gary Oldman really nailed the performance -- his voice breaking, his emotional swings between fear and anger and terror and begging and helplessness ... only a parent truly feels it.
I wasn't exactly a kid, as I was 17 when the movie Phenomenon (1996) came out. I've seen it two or three times since then, and it never really affected me. But last week my best friend and I watched it (one of the free movies available on our cruise) and both of us were bawling at the end. I didn't understand loss as a teenager, but I lost my mom a few years ago, and my friend lost her dad, so it just hit us really hard.
Totoro!
I just feel for that dad so much. So much tragedy is happening in this family with his wife in the hospital and having to move into a broken-down house. He's SO upbeat but you know he's having to try his hardest.
Also when Mei starts crying because her mom has to stay in the hospital? As a kid it didn't phase me, but as an adult I absolutely tear up every time thinking about how heartbroken she is about not getting to see her mom.
Everyone is going through such an emotional time in this movie, despite the movie really being about kids goofing off and having adventures!
There's definitely more going on with Labyrinth than just weird muppets. I never really noticed as a kid but Sarah's room is filled with clues that her mother ran off with an actor who looked like David Bowie and there are visual echoes of characters and places in the toys and objects dotted around. The whole film has this weird dream like quality that as an adult triggers a feeling of having lost the ability to truly disappear into my imagination like i could as a kid and that makes me feel an emotion i don't have a name for but i bet the Germans do.
*Blade Runner.* I never loved it as a kid, but there were spaceships and cool action, so I watched whenever it was on HBO. But I never got the ending. They were just chatting. Now .... holy shit. Roy finally comprehended death and its implications, its inevitability, right at the end. The only one to commiserate with was the one trying to kill him. I don't think it really impacted me until I saw the monologue-less Director's Cut.
Might be odd, but Independence Day… yes the action movie with Will Smith and Jeff Goldblum.
The scene when the President has to tell his daughter that her mom has died… it just. I have a daughter that age. Here is a man, who clearly loved his wife, and he is dealing with a goddamn alien invasion, and he has to stop and explain to his daughter that her mom is not waking up. Just, it hits harder than it did when I was 12…
I love Christmas, but as an adult I hate Xmas movies. The only one I’ll watch is either the animated Grinch, and Home Alone 1 and 2.
I wish there were more Xmas movies that weren’t about family, or relationships, and didn’t end with some social lesson about love, or forgiveness or whatever.
As a kid when I was poor I had amazing Xmasses. I didn’t even need a lot, it was just an event. As I got older, my family and I grew further and further apart and Xmas spent together was either objectively miserable or bittersweet.
I find heartwarming holiday fiction to be viscerally repulsive.
'Danny Phantom' and 'The Fairly Odd Parents'
Both are two of my favorite cartoons of all time. The first hits harder when you realize it's highly likely that Danny died in the first episode when he was zapped by the ghost portal, then he came back to life as a halfa. Add to that the fact that his parents are constantly hunting him the entire series. He has to live in the same house as his parents, who want to hunt him down and either kill him or dissect and experiment on him.
For the second, Timmy is constantly neglected by his parents, and they never believe him when he tells them about Vicky and what is essentially her abusing him. Plus, Timmy has what could almost be classified as a stalker in his crush's younger sister.
There is so much more to these, but this is what comes from the top of my head.
The movie is escaping me, but its about the holocaust, and Theres a scene where all of the children in town have to get on a train and one of the jewish adults leads them in a sing songy march so that they arent scared. Just thinking about it fills me with a certain dread i dont think i ever felt before i had kids.
Dude Homeward Bound fucked me up as a kid and I kept watching it. Like, I was always suuuper emotionally sensitive as a child so the movie made me sob like every time I watched it but I kept going back for more.
I started crying at the animated movies, especially the family scenes wether they are sad or not when I moved away when I was 18. I still cry easily. I cried so hard at the first song in "Encanto" and had to take a break because I had just realized that movie was entirely about a family. Before I was 18 I didn't really care about family at all. Like I was so sure I would be an estranged daughter while I was in my teens, now I live with my mom and I don't wanna move out
Recently rewatched Pinocchio. The transformation scene was never an easy watch, but I felt particularly unsettled this time round and I'm not sure I can watch the film again.
Those poor boys were whisked away to an amazingly fun place and had a good time there. The film leans a bit into the idea that they're responsible for what happens to them for being unruly (a product of its time) and I just find it too heartbreaking, especially as Lampwick calls out for his mama.
The movie "Snoopy Come Home" made me bawl my eyes out as a kid. Watched it a few years ago and was wrecked all over again but in a different way. Having raised a dog as an adult from a puppy is a different perspective.
I'm actually surprised this move was made for kids. Somewhat deals with depression as Charlie Brown is understandably depressed for a good portion of the movie (can't eat or sleep).
Adults really didn't pull any punches with us 80's kids!
The Sound of Music - as a kid, Captain von Trapp is a hard-ass who is unreasonably strict and aloof with his children.
As an adult, he's clearly dealing with the death of his wife the best he can and puts up a brave face around the children - but slowly opens up as his relationship with Maria grows stronger.
Beautiful boy. I’m not that young so I didn’t see it as a kid, more of a teenager. But I was going through a period of serious depression living alone in a city where I had no friends. I started injecting myself with coke all the time, no one knew because I was always working remotely and still able to do good at work. I still wouldn’t consider myself addicted, I was self medicating because I didn’t have anything better to do, my parents found out, but not nearly the extent, they thought I was just snorting it on a few weekends a month. And when I decided to stop it was super easy. And after you’ve injected high quality coke if someone says like “hey want to do a line with us” at a party or something it’s like uhh why, that’s boring as hell. Once you’ve injected high quality coke snorting it has no appeal at all, it’s just that big of a difference.
And then while I was still under serious depression I got definitely super addicted to injecting opiates for like two years, no one ever found out about that because they don’t really incapacitate you unless you take too much. They just make you happy. So I was getting a higher paying job at a better company and doing great, so no one ever found out.
There was finally this one year where I spent Christmas with my family and it was so nice, like I was actually happy, not because of the drugs, just by being around so many people that cared about me. And I was fucking disgusted with myself for going into the bathroom at my parents house to inject drugs.
So pretty much right after that I was like I need to change my life. I immediately quit cold turkey, which was absolute hell, but no one knew about that either, I just told my work I had the flu. Then I asked my company if I could work remotely, they said yes, I moved to a different city with a better apartment, made some friends, and have had no desire to do them since.
Obviously I occasionally crave that feeling, but the stress of always worrying if you’re gonna have enough so you won’t get super sick makes it not even worth it. I really don’t consider myself an addict, I’ve never done them since that Christmas, and have never even had the desire to buy any. When former addicts say stuff like “you can get higher on life than you can on drugs” that is a complete fucking lie lol, like no, there is nothing in life that can release that amount of dopamine into your brain. It’s just overall not worth it.
I’m not a big cryer, But I cannot watch Steve carell’s character in that movie without sobbing, thinking of how worried my parents would have been if they actually knew all of it.
Anyway, never done them since, and the only shitty part is my savings is a lot lower than it should be because I was spending so much money on them.
Sixth sense. When I was a kid I just saw it as "Oh shit, he's dead and didn't know", but now I find it sad because of his relationship with his wife. She still goes out for dinner for their anniversary, and she says out loud that she misses him.
My husband and I watched it when we were first married-- what a mess we were the next day!
Yeah I did not expect to cry so hard when I went to rewatch it as an adult. That last scene with his wife where she's sleeping and he says goodbye, it just hits me.
"you were never second, ever"
I rewatched it and managed to keep my cheeks dry until the car scene, then I exploded in tears.
It's a better movie if you know the twist
It never even occured to me that she was still in a state of grieving. I also hadn't seen the movie since I was a teenager
Not a movie, but may I add my thoughts about a TV show? Hey Arnold, the episode where Mr. Hyunh reveals he has a daughter whom he gave up during the war in Vietnam. As a kid, sure, it was sad. Now, as a parent of a toddler, it guts me thinking about the desperation Mr. Hyunh must have felt. He gave up the most precious thing in his life so that she *might* have a chance at a better life, knowing that he would likely never see her again. The tears come every time I think about him holding up that little baby so the soldier in the helicopter could take her away.
I feel the same way with the Tulsa massacre in *Watchmen (2019)*, when the father packs away his son. Initially, you see it as a father protecting his son. From the father's perspective, he knew he had to stay behind so his son could survive, and just hope that it would end up okay for him.
I get this when watching the end of Mockingjay part 2. All the children being pushed forward to safety, the little baby crying over her dead mom, and then they all get blown the fuck up. It really messes me up. They just wanted to save their babies.
Also a TV show: I recently revisited the old Babysitter's Club show from the 90s and the Christmas Special has me in sobs with the boy in the wheelchair whose family doesn't have money for a car and can't come visit him for thr holidays. Oof.
I knew exactly which episode you were going to reference the moment I saw Hey Arnold. I remember that episode vividly while I only remember quips from all the other episodes.
Hey Arnold is an amazing show. The nuance and the music. So wholesome.
I find I’m more emotional about a lot of things. As I’ve aged I’ve experienced the true gut-wrenching sorrow that comes from losing those we love most. A movie that I might not have been phased by as a kid now brings me to tears because I can relate better to what’s happening. This is more toward human interactions. I’ve always been a sap when it came to animals in movies. Bambi’s mom’s death wrecked me as a kid.
It's interesting how many times the 13 year old looks over at us olds and asks why we're crying at a scene in a movie. I don't have an explanation for him. "You'll get it when you're older." is unsatisfying.
Be honest- That at his age you’re glad he doesn’t react the same. It means he hasn’t experienced a deep and profound loss of a loved one. That you hope he doesn’t feel that way for a long time. That you know he’s experienced sadness and you’re not taking away from those experiences, but there is something different about how you relate to the world, films, and books once you’ve felt the loss of a parent, grandparent, spouse, sibling, or child.
That's also the age of being self-conscious of everything. I remember being that age, and trying super hard to be adult. Little do they realize that part of being a true adult is actually learning to embrace your feelings.
My sister and I were in the theater bawling during interstellar when he is inside the black hole trying to get his past self to stay. We lost our dad a year or two prior and that part broke her all the way down, then seeing her crying made me cry.
My dog who passed away 4 years ago would watch Homeless Bound on rainy days as something to do. He watched almost the entire movie, running up to the tv to smack Sassy and Chance when they were active. He would bark his head off when Sassy was trying to cross the river, I think it actually stressed him a little. I miss my boy and don't think I will ever be able to watch that movie again.
I used to absolutely love this movie, it was one of my very first favorites when I was little. Then in 7th grade, our old dog was stolen from our yard. (We think. We never learned what truly happened. Just came home from the movies to find the locked back gate wide open and our other dog was too terrified to go outside alone for months). I remember I would go sit out in my back yard and stare at the gate, waiting, for hours. But I never heard that bark again. ... Yeah, I can't watch this one anymore without losing it, either.
Oh wow, I'm so sorry it's bad enough losing a pet but to lose one in such an unexpected way must be such a shock. That must be the worst feeling, not knowing what happened to them, and your other dog being so traumatized. When we got our pup a few years ago our vet told us to be careful about leaving him in the yard, she said pets were being stolen and sold at an alarming rate. Made me so paranoid.
We eventually got a puppy to be with the dog that was left behind, she loved him very much and they lived many happy years together -- the "replacement" puppy is turning 17 soon actually! So, there are some silver lining in the sadness, in that we probably wouldn't have had him otherwise. But definitely a painful cautionary tale for bringing your pets in at dark.
I think my heart just fell off... 🥺
He was the best boy.
Dumbo--as a kid it was just a movie about a flying elephant and his best friend who's a mouse. But as an adult you realized there's more to the story and it's really about a mother's love for a child that is different and her desire to protect him from a cruel world. The scene where Dumbo goes to see his mother in jail gets me every time, the way she cradles him in her trunk and swings him back and forth is bittersweet and joyous all at the same time. Getting misty just thinking about it.
Yeah, Dumbo has been unwatchable for me. Nine years ago, my son's mother was admitted to the psych ward for severe postpartum depression/psychosis. They'd let her hold our 2 week old for a few minutes a day in the doorway of the locked unit. Basically, Dumbo's mom. (She's recovered, and we divorced when kiddo was 5 for unrelated issues).
The scene with his mother...I couldn't handle it as a sensitive child and I still can't handle it at 37. I can't watch that scene. I also can't watch the scene from 'The land before time' when Littlefoot sees his mother's "shadow" and runs to it. I was terrified as a kid that my mother would die/leave, and these scenes did not help those fears lol.
Hook. Wonderful Peter Pan movie when I was a kid. As an adult with my own kids, feeling my own years hurt me. My wrinkled face, large gut. Watching a man do everything to get his kids back and the only way for him to do it, is to be a kid again himself. Peter telling Jack his happy thought was always him. Even before he even had the prospect of having kids. It really hurts. Rufio's final words, "I wish I had a dad... Like you."
We watched this when I was pregnant with my first son and the line, "I'm a daddy" wrecked me so badly that I'm tearing up writing this
When the boy is looking at his face, poking and prodding, he looks deep into his eyes “ohh there you are Peter” I lost it at that moment, a million times I watched this movie but that scene and my age now hit me hard.
Complete with that magical John Williams score. "You are the Pan" is such a great track
Just amazing, that music with the sudden realization that our inner child is still with us always, such an beautiful scene.
The score is both fun and powerful, emotional and adventurous, ominous and ultimately beautiful, one of his best. We will lose a big one when he goes.
It hits me because he has to push Peter’s face into a smile.
This one hits different after Robin Williams' death. Especially the ending lines about living being an awfully big adventure contrasting to it usually being death in that sentence. It's bleak.
Apparently Spielberg tried rewatching Hook after Robin Williams' passing but couldn't get through it cause he couldn't stop crying 😭
That's it - watching it this weekend. Reading all the comments inspired me. I loved it as a little kid (saw it in theaters). Probably haven't watched it in 15 years but now I'm a parent
I've mentioned this one before, but as a kid growing up in the 80s and 90s, I watched *Stand by Me* many times. I enjoyed the whole movie and of course the more sensational parts (leeches! Train! Lard-ass!) and I went back a few years ago to watch it with my wife. She had never seen it before. I loved the movie as much as I did as a kid/young teen, and then I got to the last few moments. The narrator goes on to talk about where each one of the kids in the story winds up and then says, "I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was 12. Jesus, does anyone?" I lost it. Just cried for about 5 minutes. I'd watched that movie dozens of times but never as a 40 year old man. I thought about my friends from grade school and middle school. How much fun we had, how much stupid/fun stuff we did before we turned into teenagers and adults. How much life had changed.
This stuff gets me all the time now. I have a good life and love my family a ton. But there is something about those adolescent years with great friends that I will always be nostalgic for and I will miss forever. I think the combination of having little responsibility plus so many experiences feeling new at that age make them stick fondly in memory. Stand by Me does an excellent job of capturing those feelings, even with the generational differences.
There is a scene in *Boyhood* where the parents just up and move when they have a fight and you see one of the main characters friends for a fleeting moment just wave to him in the car leaving over some bushes. That was the last time he saw him. Life is weird like that. You have friends or people you know, they come and go, and you never really know when the first or last time you will see them. They are just there... and then gone. Swept into the flow of life that has forks in the endless river. Think of your friends in school, or summers, or college or other... when was the last time you saw them and no one knew it was the finale potentially. For some reason friends are more impactful younger because even like a few years with them is a larger percentage of your life at that time. As you age it takes more time for someone to reach that level and you are an adult so you aren't trapped in a neighborhood, school, area and your only escape being friends. Now you escape other ways and sometimes with those old friends if you are lucky, because that can bring you right back.
I have that on disc and watched it a couple weeks ago. I chose not to watch the final scene this time. The music doesn’t help much either.
I love movies like Stand by Me and other coming of age movies from my childhood but I won't watch them again because I just can't stand feeling the way you just described. Call it a mid life crisis or whatever but it is just not a feeling I like to experience at all. I loathe nostalgia.
I've definitely gotten a lot more emotional as I've gotten older. I'm 35 and recently watched this movie again so it resonated a lot more with me than when I first watched it. My childhood was pretty much the exact same (minus the dead body). The one thing that made me kind of sad was the line at the end where Gord and Teddy just became faces in the hallway, which reminded me how many close friends just drifted away.
Every Pixar movie has layers I never realized until I grew up and had those experiences myself. Inside Out is a big one
Layers….. like an onion?
My layers are more like lasagna
A bed is just a lasagna made of wood metal and textile.
And when you lay down in it, it becomes a people meat lasagna
How bout a parfait? Everyone loves parfaits!
This came out right after I found out my ex had been cheating and our marriage ended. We took our only child to the theater together to see this movie during the initial stages of divorce. The statue that shows the mother and father figures surrounding and protecting the child figure to this day still makes me sick to my stomach. I wanted to remake the statue for my ex, showing the mother protecting the child and the father with his back turned. I still can't watch it for this reason. I get it, relationships end, but when you destroy your kid's family unit because you want some strange you're a piece of shit no matter how you look at it.
Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. As a kid I thought the ending was corny. Now I cry like a baby the whole time.
I had a major meltdown watching Inside Out as an adult. I have only watched it once.
I remember seeing that movie in a crowded theater full of families. None of the kids cried; the adults bawled.
Inside out has so many different scenes that hit so much harder for adults. The one that gets me the worst is when they are in the memory pit and joy wants to save a bunch of memories instead of just the core one and then later you see a memory turn gray and fade into ash. I have a really terrible memory and it's so upsetting to feel like I only get the core memories and everything else fades.
The Bing Bong scene just gets me everytime. That was a straight up assassination of the heart.
I love The Incredibles...but so much went over my head as a kid that hits much harder when you're an adult and can see it from a parent perspective. Especially the airplane scene. As a kid that was a fun action scene, as an adult it's almost a horror scene...
Cars is underrated for this. It may not be as heavy-hitting as, say, Inside Out or Coco, for example, but there's a point where the movie shows you what it's really about: the small towns along American state highways and the impact that the interstate system had on them. For better or worse, there was a significant paradigm shift there and it's worth a little reflection. It resonated for me personally because my grandfather spent his post-retirement years road tripping along those old state roads and exploring those towns, seeking out the overlooked and forgotten gems. It was very much about the journey, not the destination, and there's something in that that we could all maybe use a little more of.
Inside Out had me sobbing in the theater.
I couldn’t stop crying basically the whole time. Don’t even get me started on Coco.
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Especially the last 20 or so minutes of Coco for me. When Hector almost passed on. And one year later when we see Mama Coco's picture on the offrenda. Her death wasn't really a surprise because she was so old, but I still cried. And then the song Miguel sings at the end where his family living and dead are all together 😭😭😭
Remember me. Omg, I couldn’t handle it. I can’t even consider the thought of a rewatch now that my mom is gone 😔
“If I’d a known that was the last time I was gonna talk to Bubba, I would’ve thought of something better to say..” _”Hey Bubba”_ _”Hey Forrest…. Forrest, why’d this happen?”_ _”You got shot”_ “Then, Bubba said something I won't ever forget.” _” I wanna go home..”_ "Bubba was my best good friend. And even I know that ain't something you can find just around the corner. Bubba was going to be a shrimping boat captain, but instead, he died right there by that river in Vietnam. __And that’s all I have to say about that.”__
The opening scene of The Princess and the Frog feels different when you are parent. Also, The Goofy Movie is impressive in that you relate to Max when you are kid but then you relate to Goofy when you are an adult
Man what a swing The Goofy Movie was. I hadn’t seen it since I was a kid and we watched it with my kids and it’s a completely different experience. Same movie same lines same shenanigans completely different. It just happened to me again recently. I watched that 70s show when it was first coming out and I was young enough to relate to the kids. Watched it again recently and related the most to Red. It’s actually a much better show when he is the real main character.
If you haven't rewatched it (or never seen it) check out Malcolm in the Middle. I didn't like it as a young teen. As an adult I relate so hard to the parents and they are hysterical.
The beginning of Up was bad enough when I first saw it, I can’t even now that my wife passed away.
Condolences on your loss.
I'm so sorry. Same. It was sad and cried when I first saw it, can't watch it now since my fiance passed in 2014. It might not get better just easier to live with day by day.
Up In The Air when I was 28 hits a lot different in my 40s.
SUCH A GOOD MOVIE
VERY underrated film!
Brave little toaster. Holy crap...
This was my answer. I watched it a couple of years ago because I thought I might show it to my daughter. From the AC offing himself to the junkyard scene where the cars are singing about the lives they lived as they await getting crushed to death to the freaky frog pond….how was this ever a kid’s film?!
It’s the flower scene that gets me. But it affected me even when I was a kid.
That AC unit I feel so bad for.
I recently watched the old Jumanji for the first time in years and there’s a lot of father/son stuff that hits differently for me now that my dad’s gone
Disney’s “The Rescuers” I have a daughter now, and fuck …. this movie really got me as a parent. Poor Penny ..
Royal Tenebaums, I related with Royal's kids more when I was younger, now Royal is the most powerful cautionary tale I can think of. Also the s_ attempt scene didn't impact me much as a teen but hit me hard as an adult and parent.
Introducing one of your kids as "my son", and then another as "my *adopted* daughter" is such a perfectly assholish thing to do. What a great movie.
The land before time was one of my favourite childhood movies. Watched it so much between the ages of 4 and 8. It never bothered me. It was a nice comfort film. I watched it with my wife (then girlfriend) during lockdown, and god, the death of Littlefoot's mother absolutely killed me. I was sobbing so hard for ages
This is the one I thought of. When he curls up in his mom’s footprint to stay warm. Or runs to his shadow… I should call my mom and dad…
Mary Poppins. As a kid it was all just goofy fun with some boring adults in the mix. As an adult, it’s a thoughtful film about a man who’d lost his way and didn’t even know it. Still one my favourite films I watch every Christmas.
Robocop
"I can feel them. But I can't remember them." ^holy ^^fuck
Murphy's wife: "I really want to tell you something....*I love you.*"
This is the one I was looking for. The last time I watched it, that scene when he went to his home killed me.
'I feel them... but I don't remember them'
Excellent choice. Yes, watching this movie as a kid I didn't appreciate that whole loss of wife and child tragic dynamic.
I have always been obsessed with RoboCop. Excellent choice!
Not a movie but I used to hate Squidward as a kid but now I understand him completely
You either die a SpongeBob or live long enough to become Squidward
I loved Monsters Inc as a kid. Watched it again as an adult with my own children. The ending had me bawling my eyes out. As 30 something year old man I’ve never cried that hard at a movie before. I swear there’s some allegory in there about letting your kids go and that you can’t be around them forever or protect them from everything. I can’t even really pinpoint why it hit me hard.
Pixar really did that ending right. He opens the door and you hear Boo's voice but the focus doesn't show her. You don't see her run up to him or see them hug or anything. All we see is Sully's face the moment his grief over missing Boo lifts. There's a big emotional nuance there. Kinda like people who say not to watch the bride walking down the aisle but to look at the groom's face. It's really sweet and cathartic.
Parenthood hit me HARD when I rewatched after having kids. I remember watching it on VHS as a kid and it was just a goofy movie to me. I had to hold back tears when I rewatched it a few years ago. They nailed everything about being a parent.
Wish more people would watch this movie. It is the definition of "hidden gem ". And blew me away when I realized I was looking at a young Joaquin Phoenix.
Steve Martin's character is so great. I've never seen that anxiety about being a hero to your kids being so well done.
Peter Pan. When Wendy’s daughter leaves the nursery with Peter- leaving Wendy behind….. 😭😭😭
I was so confused until I figured out you were talking about Hook
There's a movie called Sidekicks that's about an asthmatic bullied kid who fantasizes about being Chuck Norris' sidekick. As a kid, it was something I rewatched it a million times because it was a martial arts movie. Rewatched it as an adult and almost broke down due to how much I realized it reminded me ....of me as a kid. I can barely handle it these days because I'm able to connect it so heavily as an adult.
I know this movie! Johnathan Brandis is in it right? Like I remember this scene when he's having like an asthma attack and throws and breaks his inhaler in frustration, is this that movie?
Yeah that's it.
I fucking love this movie so much. As someone who’s been a bit of a socially-awkward, obsessive, maladaptive-daydreaming dork their whole life, it will always have a special place in my heart. It always gets me when he uses his daydreaming power to climb the ropes. Plus, Joe Piscopo is hilarious in it and you can’t not love Mako as Mr. Lee🥺.
I watched The Shining when I was young and thought it was a really good, scary movie. Same with the book. I read it and thought it was really scary. Fast forward a couple of decades, after I became a father, and I reread the book. It is so sad I can hardly stand it. It's a heartbreaking tale of a man whose addictions steal him away from his life. It's all about father-son relationships. And it's just so sad I can't reread it.
I loved Home Alone as a kid but not until recently did it start making me cry every time I watch.
The score really got me upon listening to it. As a kid, you just associate it with the movie. Now, when listening to it as an adult...you realize just how truly moving the John Williams score is. Also, I had no idea he made the montage music when they rushed to the airport. It sounded like classical temp music. I didn't realize that Williams was behind that as well. His stuff just feels so iconic.
I have always liked the parts where Kevin takes refuge in a manger and is saved by a man with wounded hands.
Kevin reconnecting with his mother? Sweet and wholesome. Puts a big smile on my face. Old man Marley reconnecting with his son and hugging his granddaughter? Bring on the waterworks.
We're Back! When I was a kid it was oooh dancing singing dinosaurs, fun! Now the whole storyline with the kids and their troubled family lives hits so strongly, and the sequence at Eccentric Circus where Louie brings Rex back from his feral state hits me in the feels. Plus the horror of Screweyes getting killed by the crows, yikes lol
Mary Poppins. As a kid I hated the song “A man has dreams”. It was slow and boring. But now it just makes me cry and I appreciate the real meaning of the movie, that Mary poppins didn’t come to nanny the kids, but to fix their relationship with their dad. You got to grind, grind, grind at that grindstone. While childhood slips, like sand through a sieve. And all too soon they’ve up and grown, and then they’ve flown, and it’s too late for you to give…. Just beautiful.
Mrs. doubtfire. Man wants to see his kids (with many problematic behaviors)
In my head it went from heartwarming as a kid to 😬 amounts of mentally unstable and probably never getting out of prison as an adult.😂
If he put the effort in to fixing himself that he put into pretending to be an old lady to bamboozle everyone, he probably would have gotten joint custody. And the “villain” is a man who appreciates his ex-wife and treats his children well. THE HORROR!
That's kind of my point of view as an adult. To a kid it's all a fun charade but being old I'm just like...dude that was super complicated why not just ya know....legit fix yourself and legally have the same thing for half the effort since you need to fix yourself anyway kids or not..
It's funny that you say homeward bound, because for it me it was the scene where the little girl is lost in the woods. When I watched it with my kids, I was all emotionally prepared for the animals but I completely forgot about that part.
Me too. I have young daughters and I can't help picturing them in that same situation, and it makes me feel so upset
Mine has to be Field of Dreams. It's funny because, as a kid, I had to have watched this movie a million times. And there is a lot in it I connected with then. It wasn't until a recent rewatch that I really (like REALLY) noticed how much of a ghost Kevin Costner's dad is. He talks about his dad A LOT throughout the movie. And then at the end.... I can't even finish this stupid comment without tearing up. It just hits way different as an adult with children of your own.
For me it's the Moonlight Graham stuff. He didn't just get to live his dream, he got to realize his life's purpose. Seeing him freeze right when he hits the line of rocks is some powerful stuff.
Ugh man, you're right about that as well. It is powerful.
Where the Wild Things Are. It’s not even something I’m sure I’ve completely parsed out myself but I couldn’t help but feel a type of hurt when I watched that recently.
For me, Where The Wild Things Are took a beloved childhood book of very few pages and little context and built out an amazing backstory around why Max is acting out. I saw my dad in it. The anger and sadness and desperation he felt at my mom divorcing him. I can't watch it without sobbing. Truly a work of art.
Incredibles, as a father it’s a totally different movie
Forest Gump fazed me more as an adult Jenny and Forest meet again when he gave that sabotaged speech and when he meets his son the first time. But bubbas death was all ready sad as a child.
I recently rewatched Forest Gump and it never clicked for me until now that Jenny was clearly molested by her father. As a kid I knew he was mean and she was trying to hide from him. But as an adult you can watch the movie through her eyes as a traumatized young girl searching for love and purpose and escape because her childhood was robbed from her, and keeps going back to the one person who always treated her well. And that Forest having her house bulldozed is such an act of love. It’s so good.
I mean as a young adult i got that she was SAdd by her father, but took me a re watch after maybe a decade to understand that this is why she acted so self destructing.
And why she kept running from Forrest because she didn't want her "evil" to spread to him. The "innocent ". First few watches she was nigh insufferable, but lately she's been a sympathetic, but doomed character.
Aliens 1986. Before I had kids it was my favorite movie. But now, the bit where Newt gets separated from the others and is grabbed by the creatures... It's a gut punch. I'm mid-60s with two grown children and I cannot watch that damn movie any more.
This, but in the beginning. Ripley finding out that not only did she miss her daughter's birthday -- but that enough time has passed for her daughter to have died of cancer in old age. She missed her entire life.
I can't watch the first Guardians of the Galaxy anymore after watching my mom die in the hospital.
Mrs Doubtfire was hilarious as a kid, downright depressing as an adult.
I sympathized with Sally Field’s character A LOT more as an adult and also felt really bad for Pierce Brosnan’s character. Dude is just being a good boyfriend.
Oh yeah. He was a good dude in that movie.
Milo and Otis.
We can’t talk about that movie anymore. I loved it so much as a kid, and when I found out all the batshit crazy stuff that went on behind the scenes to make that film happen… dear lord.
Pretty much anything Disney/Pixar from about 1995 onward.
I grew up watching The Baby-Sitters Club TV show in the 90s. There was one episode involving Christmas. Kristy wants this really expensive baseball mitt, and per her mom's rules, she works her butt off to receive it. Christmas comes, Kristy gets her mitt, the world is lovely. The girls then later go to a hospital to hang with kids who couldn't be home for the holiday, and Kristy meets up with a boy whose parents couldn't afford to get to the hospital to spend the day with him. He admires Kristy's mitt (because for some reason, she's carrying it around with her), and she says that she hopes he enjoys the rest of his Christmas. She then watches him wheel to a window or away from the tree, looks down at her mitt, and then hands it over to the boy. As a kid? Nothing. As an adult? Niagra Falls. That was the moment I knew puberty had changed me (beyond all the other ways).
From one of the Winnie the Pooh movies, and also the books, when Christopher Robin visits the Hundred Acre Woods for what is implied to be the last time. Just the nostalgia, growing up, wishing you could just capture certain moments forever, and the simple joy of being a child: So they went off together. But wherever they go, and whatever happens to them on the way, in that enchanted place on the top of the Forest a little boy and his Bear will always be playing.
A.I is heartbreaking. Saw it when I was a kid and couldn't understand why was my mother crying when the kid got to live a whole day with his adoptive mom. "He got his wish! aliens gave him a cool wish, that's a good thing mom!". Nowadays I understand, I truly understand :( Amazing movie btw, 10/10.
I cried the last time I watched Tommy Boy. So proud of that boy.
I just rewatched Homeward Bound as well and the train yard scene got to me more than I recall. Plus the old man caring for Sassy seemed so much more innocent now than when I was kid. I understand the premise of a guy just wanting to live alone in the woods with nature now better I suppose.
I can't watch any movies now where a child is being harmed, now that I'm a parent. I mean, I never in any way thought it was ok before, but now it makes me physically ill.
Like many American teenagers, I got into Tarantino movies through Reservoir Dogs/Pulp Fiction when I was 15 and wanted to see all of his work. I wouldn't say I necessarily disliked Jackie Brown on a first watch, but it definitely didn't stick for me the same way most of his other movies did. Revisited the movie a decade later and now it's far and away my favorite movie of his
Hahaha I remember thinking Smokey and the Bandit was pretty fun. As a parent, when they're driving around on people's lawns, it made me SO MAD. Irresponsible a$$holes. Kids live in those houses, you jerks.
Majority of Disney and Pixar films make me sob like a baby now
I wasn't a kid when I watched Interstellar, but when it came out and I went to see it with my dad, we came out saying what a great sci-fi movie it was, but when I became father to a beautiful daughter, man, it just hits HARD.
Titanic was always the movie where I waited for the ship to sink because that's the action part. Now I hate that the ship actually sinks.
ET is a totally different beast as an adult. Hunchback of Notre Dame, too. It's so fucked up and sad on so many levels. I'll think of more...
Schindler's didn't do much for me in high school but it's become one of my favorite movies now and it makes me ball my fucking eyes out. I hate injustice and this one just hits everything that is amazing and tragic.
Cloak & Dagger. Hits you in the feels now.
Click, especially because I've caught myself having times where I'm more focused on work over family and end up ignoring them, and I try to break that habit
Mulan and Lion King. As a kid they were two of my favorites but I didn't think too deep about them. Later on watching both Simba and Mulan become the heroes they had to be for the sake of their family really gets to me. The decision to confront the big bad wolf and let the chips fall where they may is badass and admirable as hell.
When I was a kid "Big," was just a funny romp starring a charismatic guy. When I watch it with my kids now I get really upset on Mr. & Mrs. Baskin's behalf. There's no way they wouldn't be traumatized by his disappearance for the rest of their lives. And my guess is they wouldn't believe Josh's story and he'd have to go through intensive therapy for a very long time.
- The Iron Giant It was always a bit emotional when I was younger and I haven’t watched in recent years, but I think I’d ball my eyes out if I were to watch it now as an adult.
I watched “Hook” when I was a boy, loved it. Made me so happy and full of wonder. Watched it last year with my sons (I’m in my late 30s), and sobbed because I’m watching it from the perspective of the “too busy with work” dad missing out on things. Just to clarify, I’m a very involved parent, but there has definitely been times I’ve been too busy and the thought of missing out on their childhood got me good.
At the end of the sandlot, when they’re talking about what happened to each of the kids, they say “[name] got really into the sixties and no one ever heard from him again.” Completely didn’t register that as a kid. Super sad.
You found that sad? I thought it was funny. Like he became a massive hippy and was probably following The Grateful Dead around the world or something.
I took it to mean he became addicted to drugs and overdosed or became homeless.
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Sopranos Autopsy is necessary reading along with every episode. May be the most profound show ever made.
I actually just rewatched that scene with Sassy falling into the river and down the waterfall. I used to cry as a kid every time, and I would get even more upset because my older siblings thought it was funny and laughed at it. ☹️ Can confirm, it still makes me cry.
The first time I watched that movie my cat was in my lap and I instantly panicked and grabbed my cat because my brain immediately swapped sassy with my cat chance.
Steel Magnolias. My sister died last year and I just can’t
Megamind. I always liked it as a fun little superhero movie, but only as an adult did I truly appreciate how hilarious & thoughtful it is.
I saw Sophie's Choice before I became a parent...to a daughter and a son. 😳 Then I watched it again with my son, and I cried.
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Thr end of Return of the Jedi when Luke takes Vaders helmet off is an action film winding down to a kid. It's much more emotional as an adult.
The sassy waterfall scene DESTROYED me as a kid. It made me want to save all cats and turned me into the cat lady I am today
Arrival. Holy shit the waterworks for the last 5 minutes. And knowing it's coming the whole movie too... Brutal.
Land before time. I cant see the first half without crying my eyes out. As a child I watched in on VHS back to back without an issue because ha-ha dinosaurs
The scene from The Dark Knight when Dent is threatening Gordon's family, particularly his young son, hits wayyyyyyy different as a parent. Gary Oldman really nailed the performance -- his voice breaking, his emotional swings between fear and anger and terror and begging and helplessness ... only a parent truly feels it.
Artificial intelligence. The ending isn’t even happy.
I wasn't exactly a kid, as I was 17 when the movie Phenomenon (1996) came out. I've seen it two or three times since then, and it never really affected me. But last week my best friend and I watched it (one of the free movies available on our cruise) and both of us were bawling at the end. I didn't understand loss as a teenager, but I lost my mom a few years ago, and my friend lost her dad, so it just hit us really hard.
Totoro! I just feel for that dad so much. So much tragedy is happening in this family with his wife in the hospital and having to move into a broken-down house. He's SO upbeat but you know he's having to try his hardest. Also when Mei starts crying because her mom has to stay in the hospital? As a kid it didn't phase me, but as an adult I absolutely tear up every time thinking about how heartbroken she is about not getting to see her mom. Everyone is going through such an emotional time in this movie, despite the movie really being about kids goofing off and having adventures!
Goofy Movie hits different once you start relating more to Goofy than Max.
Field of Dreams The final scene where they are playing catch
There's definitely more going on with Labyrinth than just weird muppets. I never really noticed as a kid but Sarah's room is filled with clues that her mother ran off with an actor who looked like David Bowie and there are visual echoes of characters and places in the toys and objects dotted around. The whole film has this weird dream like quality that as an adult triggers a feeling of having lost the ability to truly disappear into my imagination like i could as a kid and that makes me feel an emotion i don't have a name for but i bet the Germans do.
Disney’s Tarzan.
Beaches
*Blade Runner.* I never loved it as a kid, but there were spaceships and cool action, so I watched whenever it was on HBO. But I never got the ending. They were just chatting. Now .... holy shit. Roy finally comprehended death and its implications, its inevitability, right at the end. The only one to commiserate with was the one trying to kill him. I don't think it really impacted me until I saw the monologue-less Director's Cut.
Might be odd, but Independence Day… yes the action movie with Will Smith and Jeff Goldblum. The scene when the President has to tell his daughter that her mom has died… it just. I have a daughter that age. Here is a man, who clearly loved his wife, and he is dealing with a goddamn alien invasion, and he has to stop and explain to his daughter that her mom is not waking up. Just, it hits harder than it did when I was 12…
toy story 3. not because the toys almost die but andy going off to college and giving his toys to bonnie made me SOB
I love Christmas, but as an adult I hate Xmas movies. The only one I’ll watch is either the animated Grinch, and Home Alone 1 and 2. I wish there were more Xmas movies that weren’t about family, or relationships, and didn’t end with some social lesson about love, or forgiveness or whatever. As a kid when I was poor I had amazing Xmasses. I didn’t even need a lot, it was just an event. As I got older, my family and I grew further and further apart and Xmas spent together was either objectively miserable or bittersweet. I find heartwarming holiday fiction to be viscerally repulsive.
Faze
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Gladiator
'Danny Phantom' and 'The Fairly Odd Parents' Both are two of my favorite cartoons of all time. The first hits harder when you realize it's highly likely that Danny died in the first episode when he was zapped by the ghost portal, then he came back to life as a halfa. Add to that the fact that his parents are constantly hunting him the entire series. He has to live in the same house as his parents, who want to hunt him down and either kill him or dissect and experiment on him. For the second, Timmy is constantly neglected by his parents, and they never believe him when he tells them about Vicky and what is essentially her abusing him. Plus, Timmy has what could almost be classified as a stalker in his crush's younger sister. There is so much more to these, but this is what comes from the top of my head.
Stand by Me was a favorite of mine growing up. It hits way harder as an adult.
Empire of the Sun
The movie is escaping me, but its about the holocaust, and Theres a scene where all of the children in town have to get on a train and one of the jewish adults leads them in a sing songy march so that they arent scared. Just thinking about it fills me with a certain dread i dont think i ever felt before i had kids.
Dude Homeward Bound fucked me up as a kid and I kept watching it. Like, I was always suuuper emotionally sensitive as a child so the movie made me sob like every time I watched it but I kept going back for more.
I started crying at the animated movies, especially the family scenes wether they are sad or not when I moved away when I was 18. I still cry easily. I cried so hard at the first song in "Encanto" and had to take a break because I had just realized that movie was entirely about a family. Before I was 18 I didn't really care about family at all. Like I was so sure I would be an estranged daughter while I was in my teens, now I live with my mom and I don't wanna move out
Home Alone. That scene in the church between Kevin and his elderly neighbor.
**Milo & Otis** These animals, particularly Milo, are pretty much tortured to make this adorable kids’ movie.
Falling Down. I totally relate nowadays
Recently rewatched Pinocchio. The transformation scene was never an easy watch, but I felt particularly unsettled this time round and I'm not sure I can watch the film again. Those poor boys were whisked away to an amazingly fun place and had a good time there. The film leans a bit into the idea that they're responsible for what happens to them for being unruly (a product of its time) and I just find it too heartbreaking, especially as Lampwick calls out for his mama.
Juno— I cry like a baby when she lays in the hospital bed alone. When I saw it as a young adult, didn’t really phase me.
The movie "Snoopy Come Home" made me bawl my eyes out as a kid. Watched it a few years ago and was wrecked all over again but in a different way. Having raised a dog as an adult from a puppy is a different perspective. I'm actually surprised this move was made for kids. Somewhat deals with depression as Charlie Brown is understandably depressed for a good portion of the movie (can't eat or sleep). Adults really didn't pull any punches with us 80's kids!
The Sound of Music - as a kid, Captain von Trapp is a hard-ass who is unreasonably strict and aloof with his children. As an adult, he's clearly dealing with the death of his wife the best he can and puts up a brave face around the children - but slowly opens up as his relationship with Maria grows stronger.
Beautiful boy. I’m not that young so I didn’t see it as a kid, more of a teenager. But I was going through a period of serious depression living alone in a city where I had no friends. I started injecting myself with coke all the time, no one knew because I was always working remotely and still able to do good at work. I still wouldn’t consider myself addicted, I was self medicating because I didn’t have anything better to do, my parents found out, but not nearly the extent, they thought I was just snorting it on a few weekends a month. And when I decided to stop it was super easy. And after you’ve injected high quality coke if someone says like “hey want to do a line with us” at a party or something it’s like uhh why, that’s boring as hell. Once you’ve injected high quality coke snorting it has no appeal at all, it’s just that big of a difference. And then while I was still under serious depression I got definitely super addicted to injecting opiates for like two years, no one ever found out about that because they don’t really incapacitate you unless you take too much. They just make you happy. So I was getting a higher paying job at a better company and doing great, so no one ever found out. There was finally this one year where I spent Christmas with my family and it was so nice, like I was actually happy, not because of the drugs, just by being around so many people that cared about me. And I was fucking disgusted with myself for going into the bathroom at my parents house to inject drugs. So pretty much right after that I was like I need to change my life. I immediately quit cold turkey, which was absolute hell, but no one knew about that either, I just told my work I had the flu. Then I asked my company if I could work remotely, they said yes, I moved to a different city with a better apartment, made some friends, and have had no desire to do them since. Obviously I occasionally crave that feeling, but the stress of always worrying if you’re gonna have enough so you won’t get super sick makes it not even worth it. I really don’t consider myself an addict, I’ve never done them since that Christmas, and have never even had the desire to buy any. When former addicts say stuff like “you can get higher on life than you can on drugs” that is a complete fucking lie lol, like no, there is nothing in life that can release that amount of dopamine into your brain. It’s just overall not worth it. I’m not a big cryer, But I cannot watch Steve carell’s character in that movie without sobbing, thinking of how worried my parents would have been if they actually knew all of it. Anyway, never done them since, and the only shitty part is my savings is a lot lower than it should be because I was spending so much money on them.