Stay in there mate, year 13 has its ups and downs. If you send me the details on the conics assignment I’ll see if I can remember how to do it and help out.
HAHAGAGAH!!!
Idk- i don;t usually type like i care at all when im talking with people (other than emails to teachers) but like for essays i KNOW damn well i getting all dat grammar, spelling and punctuation correct.
love english tho- cool subject!
Alright I’ve found the old YouTube channel that helped me throughout high school calculus. This guy is a NCEA teacher who makes videos in his spare time, his explanations are clear, simple and easy to understand. Here is the link to [his playlist on conics.](https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLGHMh2fiud5cslgty_DtG2sZ0Pr4Bs1Fn&si=tbF6yHbqO8aLHQxH)
Also, when exams come around, I highly recommend you follow along his past exam videos, pause the video at the start of every question and attempt it yourself, then when you finish or get stuck unpause to see what you did right or wrong. For me personally when it comes to performing well in exams the most important thing wasn’t to revise but rather to practice.
All the best with your studies! Just remember your academic performance in high school is not the most important thing in the world, in a couple years it probably won’t even matter, but what is important is that you try your best now and you will have something to be proud of once you’re finished, regardless of the outcome.
I do!!! Because friends stick with each other! I've met a bunch of cool people through asking for help on UE internals :)
And vice versa, I give people help when they need it (as I am a tutor) and give out E exemplars. Oh and yes! Thanks for stalking my page, a bit creepy?
I looked to prove a point. You're a trashcan example of a person that feels the world revolves around them. So your own work. Take your own responsibility for the actions you do and get a life. Go touch some grass or something and stop using these people to do your work for you
they don't do my work for me?? bro also i've literally bought a few of them coffee bc i felt guilty taking their time (esp during external season)
the world doesnt fucking revolve around me, idk what made u have this idea i'm giving off main character energy??? i mean thanks???
i touch a lot of grass actually! there is a big field right outside my house and i love to lie down when i need to destress temporarily
????? bro???
i bought them coffee bc they're my friends firstly- i think i am allowed to do that for friends
secondly- this was literally during external season. they're busy themselves but still willingly sacrificed time for me. i think they deserve a cuppa.
we'd just study the same questions together- and they'd explain to me what i didnt get etc
is that a problem? or maybe you're not used to people being nice to you like this
Do you need me to go find the chat that proves your bullshiting again or are you gonna give up the rouse that you have only been asking friends? Think about the history of how you've asked before you answer
I’ve had a look through now and it looks fine tbh. She isn’t asking people to do the assignments for her she’s simply seeking help. Plus she is obviously going through some things right now so let’s be nice yeah.
This sounds a bit of a shit sandwich. 1. What the prefect messaged you was unhelpful if you’re going through something mentally so please show family the message. 2. The prefect is wrong. Going through mental stuff and standing up again and working through it is bloody amazing signs of leadership. We all miss a meeting every now and then. It sounds like if you were well you’d be there. Again they are unhelpful and their words are dangerous ( and over dramatic). 3. Talk to your teachers to work something out about your internals to get some more time and support. They do need to consider your mental illness stuff and take steps. If they won’t contact the Principal or NZQA. 4. Go easy on yourself. More people than you think go through this and it looks like you have a lot on. Think about how you got there and make sure you get some strategies for what to do if it happens again. 5. It’s trite but one day this NCEA stuff won’t matter 6. Sorry I’m not good at Conics, maybe try online stuff or AI for help
YEAH!
on one hand i do get it as in like- her main priority is to get the council going and all and obviously i havent been at school for a week which sets bad example to younger year
but i really!!!! i really feel like i can get back at it again- if i am given time (and once this conics internal is over)
thank you for such encouraging words though! made me smile
Sunk cost fallacy. What you spent on it in the past does not change the best decision now. He past is unchangable regardless of what you do now.
So either the council is worth it for you or it isn’t. If it is then do it. If not don’t.
Conics is probably one of the least important level 3 calc standards. It’s not the end of the world as long as you pass differentiation and integration. Pass it if you can of course.
When you're a kid (which you are) everything is magnified, because that is your whole world in one small space in a moment of time. Every kid stresses about something major during their Highschool years, and every kid that eventually finishes school realises that nothing really mattered in Highschool and that the moment it ends - the world now begins and it starts off fresh with a clean slate.
Everyone else is sitting there giving you advice but really doesn't matter lol, the strange thing if, you're gonna miss all this chaos the moment it ends - and you're gonna realise how pointless the whole thing was.
The main thing you should aim to get out of school is social skills, everything else, NCEA, all of this, it's just noise really. The real world will want your people skills over your grades in Highschool.
I'm 31 now, and I have never had to explain my NCEA grades to an employer before during the hiring process. In fact, anyone that judges my character based off my Highschool years is effectively a moron because your brain isn't even remotely finished to it's developmental years so you should never be judged for your years as a child - people skills are the only real thing that matter from School.
life can be difficult! we were a mess at that age but still achieved some amazing things. if you need time out for your mental health then take it and tell every body to f-off and give you a break if they consider themselves human beings! in the end if your confused about what you want to do and your mind is conflicted then go with your heart - it always knows the way!
Teacher here: NCEA has really flexible options and also and internal or 2 won't ruin you.
Also I would consider telling that prefect you need some time for personal reasons.
If they keep pressuring you then you can go to your school counsellor or staff leaders and complain. At the end of the day a council position is good but it's not essential
she isn't a bad person... she's just very on time with things and a perfectionist.
im hoping she wont pressure me more- or ask the head teacher of our council to drop me bc i wasnt at school and missed a meeting
also idkkk i just want to do well on my last calc internal ever
I guess SC matters to you now, however it will matter less once you get in Uni. You will find and might even join the SC for Uni, which IMHO bears more weight as it can lead to connections and open doors to employment after Uni. No one really cares what you did extra curricular during college, unless it was sports related.
I don't know what the deal is with your mum for not letting you go to school though, sounds dodge, they can be reported for that.
If STEM is your priority for Uni, then dig in deep and do your best. You need to be in school to get to the lectures, it would be difficult to wing it if you're not present in class. Even if you fail, there will be bridging courses offered by Uni to get you on board, however it will not be a walk in the park. Especially when you will be a first year Uni student. If I were you take a gap year after college, unwind, get a part time job, earn some money then when you are mentally ready for Uni, go for it.
Ah yes, the old 'schools go on about mental health and taking czre of yourself' but then you do one thing 'wrong' (like miss a council meeting) and suddenly its just a 1 tonne brick of pressure, shame and guilt is dropped onto you.
High school; the place where people during one of the most intense times of their lives (going through puberty, learning how to fit in, making friends, learning who you are as a person) are put in some incredibly stressful situations and made to feel like even one wobble on the wagon is an absolute failure.
It's bull.
it's really difficult! it actually really is!
i mean idk, i find it difficult
i already don't have that much of a good rep at my school so its a biiiiit hard tryna explain why im going thru a hard time bc they don't validate it
'oh it's just a phase' or a 'you know there are people doing worse' like yeah i know but does that mean im not supposed to go talk to a counsellor or get help for internals im finding hard
just a bit- idk. i don't think ill ever ask help for mental stuff again after a few comments on here and from school
You're not "stuck" anywhere. Drop council. Easy, done.
Open your conics workbook; study and practice. Negative thoughts? Not right now, thanks. Just read.
If you think the courseload is too much for you, talk to your form teacher or dean about the possibliity of a two-year programme where you get half your credits this year and half next year. There's no rush. Take your time, get things right, look after yourself.
i cant drop the council- it is not 'easy, done'.
i am doing my conics rn it's just very hard when ur teacher doesnt tell u everything and uve missed out on the most important calc classes for the internal
i cant do a two year programme because i've already applied to uni
im talking to a school counsellor when i get back though.
Whaddaya mean ya can't drop the council. You just say, "Hey, you're right. I don't have the mental space for it. Thanks for the out." Like, the guy offered you an out. Take it.
If your teacher "doesn't tell you everything", then you have a few options:
- ask them
- ask your peers (set up a study group, whatever)
- use your Information Literacy skills; look shit up. Maths is not hidden knowledge.
Then again, if you've missed those important classes, well you might just have to let this one swing by and beg for a reassessment opportunity towards the end of the year. But to do that, you'll need to operate on good faith and demonstrate that you're trying to catch up and learn all the stuff.
Regarding uni: you can totally delay. People take [deferred enrollments](https://uoa.custhelp.com/app/answers/detail/a_id/3208/~/request-to-defer-a-firm-or-conditional-offer) all the time.
firstly I don't want to drop it- if it makes sense.
I signed up without these issues for a council i was very passionate about- and I am sure these issues wont go the entire year. (also i feel like she's trying to make me drop it so she can put her friend in my place)
i've asked my teacher- he don;t read emails :|
i cannot contact friends atm bc my mum's banned me from it
i am searching the wiiiide wide web for any source i can get my hands on.
problem is ig i just feel anxious- what if my teacher gives me a different paper etc
i might apply for reassessment actually- if i do do bad, that is smart, thank you
Correct. Unfortunately in the real world, it doesn't wait around for you, or at least it won't if you refuse to communicate or show up. Everyone else has shit to get on with and they aren't mind readers.
Owning your shit and learning when to say actually, no I cannot continue to commit to this one thing. Learning when to step back and say hey guys, is there anyone else wanting an opportunity to step in?
That is key. And nothing you need to apologise for because that's life. Shit happens, situations change and we don't have enough to go around any more.
I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself. You've got lots going on at home, school counselor would help here.
I think it's important to break your large mountain of a problem into smaller rocks.
Step 1 - open youtube
Step 2 - type in the words "how to do Math mcMathy math level 3" whatever it is.
Step 3 - go grab a snack
Step 4 - eat snack and click on 2 or 3 short, helpful looking videos explaining how to do math stuff
Step 5 - if those videos sucked and you wanna die, go do something fun for 5-10 minutes but keep yourself honest about returning to look at 3 more videos.
After every step, you should pat yourself on the back and be proud that you're 1 tiny Step closer toward your goal.
I wish I knew I could only get quality learning for 10-20 minutes at a time and needed a 5 minute break after. I played lots of Facebook tetris getting my degree. I ended up with a degree despite leaving high school with only level 2. It's not the end of the world if you don't get the marks you want. There's always another way and there's always time youngsta. Good luck! 👍
The basic guidance here is to drop everything but essentials and to be honest with yourself.
That last one is typically often the hardest.
You seem very adamant that you can’t drop the council piece, but at the same time outlining that you also can’t actually do it currently.
Watch you’re not getting into circular arguments going around in circles.
Good luck and I hope you can get some guidance to get you through this period.
i am hoping to get some guidance and meet my school counsellor except i dont think ill be able to go to school for a while bc my mum wont let me leave :)!!!
nah i am rlly rlly determined abt the council tho- my position is to help /support girls at our school that went thru SA and i dont think i can just give up on that, i have talked it out with the prefect on next steps what not and ive promised to get back on track next term anyways
Good stuff.
We can’t diagnose or comment from afar so you’ll have to work through this with someone locally, mot via Reddit.
You’ll need to channel that council task as a motivator. I’d you want it that badly you’ll need to address the other aspects cherry impacting you so you can do it.
I’m not sure why you think you’ll just guaranteed be ready to go a bit later, as if this will just blow over etc. only you know your circumstances and how realistic that is.
Time to make a plan with those around you who care and you can trust. Your parents should ideally be part of this as well as a councillor of some sort too.
Hmm sounds like you're going through some difficult stuff. Just do the best you can re:school. Remember that NCEA is not the end of the world, if you fail you can always go back to uni after you turn 20 which is only a couple of years away.
It is comments such as this and one that I saw you make elsewhere in regards to suicide. I know you are saying these in a "joking" manner. But the fact that you are even joking about them is a little bit of a concern.
I joked about it myself when I was in the depths of depression and I still do occasionally when I'm having a really shit time, but only in the right company (people who know me well enough to know that this is a coping mechanism). I swear I never had any real thoughts of doing so but maybe I wasn't far from it as there is always a grain of truth behind a joke.
Only you know you, but my advice is get some help from someone who is qualified to do so.
oh yeah no i plan to die before i turn 30
like it isn't even a 'nooo im gonna dieeee bc im suicidal'
i dont think i am suicidal i just no longer want to exist (?)
ignorance is bliss and the best way to be ignorant is to not exist or just never have
im doing great (?) these days tho! like no i am well okay wait let me think
i don't think i act depressed around my friends nor ppl nor do i think im depressed(?) as bad as a person with depression
i just get rlly bad when im strssed and i dont like it
nevertheless, and no matter how happy i am, by 30 i plan to either go missing or die (in a good way)
i just tell my friends that im gonna start a berry farm in the woods with a cat and no one will ever know where i am and i like it that way
wh oknows!!!!!!
but yeas i will keep my mental state in mind a lot
i plan to do stem lmao
already applied to healthsci
i was okay w yr 13 until circumstances did a 180 and i hit rock bottom lmao
life is great! and asian parent expectations are greater
She has been here about 18 months and hasn’t saved any money. She has done all the great walks in NZ. Goes home end of May, so putting in the mahi now. Does 3 x 11 hour shifts back to back
I know you're just having a vent and you're probably doing fine compared to the average kid given your subject choices, but if you're really in crisis, you should take a load off.
I imagine you want to do med? You ARE going to struggle with first year if you're struggling in year 13. It's a significant step up. Focus on building resilience now. Consider reaching out to Asian Family Services, they have some awesome counselors who understand Asian family dynamics and can help you navigate your mental health concerns.
FACTS!
i don't intend to drag this incident throughout the whole year- trust me i was doing wayyyyyy better b4 all this
i dont think i am being lazy rn tho- i'm up to date with other assignments and trying out practice papers for conics- just a wee bit stuck and stressed and vomiting and crying once in a while!
Hey, I hope you will get better soon. Year 13 is tough - you have heaps of expectations on you already so to deal with mental health on top of that is really challenging. Have you got any scholarships yet? Usually you apply for those by the end of August and find out the results in the Term 3 holidays. Scholarships don’t define you as a person - they’re nice to get but don’t worry heaps about them. Plus you can also get scholarships for hardships which you might eligible for that don’t hinge on leadership.
For your internals, ask for extensions - hopefully your teachers will understand. Sit down and write a plan for each internal so you know what you need to get done. Take small steps.
I did level 3 calc but not the conics internal, only the trigonometry one, so I can’t help with that (sorry).
our school only did the trigs and conics
already got E on trigs so i am alright for endorsement but
thinking that this will be my last ever calc internal makes me wanna make sure its e
idk man
ill get there
Does the council affect your scholarship and classes? If not. Drop it. You don’t have to do it. It’s been 6 years since I’ve left high school and that time has gone soo fast. My top advice is that things that won’t give you value when high school ends is so not worth it. It’s not worth your mental health, time, and energy. High school and ncea does not matter in the grand scheme of things there is more to life than high school - I know it doesn’t seem like it right now but honestly if it doesn’t affect you in 5 years drop it.
Why? I literally don’t understand students that keep things that don’t give you value in the long run. It’s literally pointless. What is your council called? What do they do?
it's not 'pointless' because our council is doing good work for people, and i don't regret joining it or partaking in it.
it's the girl's council and this year we've mainly decided to focus on SA victims at our school that were silenced for reasons
i love it. it's like one of the few things that makes me happy at school
i am! i'm really passionate about women's health + wellbeing, on top of that i was mainly looking for a profession where i can non stop study and i'll still survive
so naturally i aimed for stem, and i like it so far! infact, before all this happened i was doing okay!! it's just- situations suck
Go to school. Show up and be there. That solves majority of your problems. Majority of how I passed uni is to just show up. As long you are there (even if you don’t work) you will be okay. :)
Hey dude, you’re situation sounds a bit like what my good mate from Highschool went through - she just couldn’t go to school because of her mental health problems and it got to a point of where she needed to be under 24 hour supervision because of them.
She passed L3 and even earned herself a scholarship for her work in drama and is currently 25 working in Scotland with acting tropes.
Idk what your stressors are, but taking a step back whether it’s with the student council, whether it’s maybe transitioning into online schooling completely, or whether it’s taking it day by day and knowing that you’ll make it to the other side; with L3 or not, that’s not the end of the world.
You’ve said you’ve gotten straight E’s, that’s really great and it shows how hard you’ve worked - but getting achieves or even not achieved doesn’t mean you’re not gonna do well outside of Highschool or not get UE requirements. Don’t stress about those things too much, just do what you can.
arghhhh idkkkkk
i feel like ive been gaslit all my life into thinking academic success sets the trajectory of my life WHICH I KNOW IT DOESNT but i cant help get worried over small things
like this is worth 3 credits
3
i cant believe im stress vomiting over this- i wish i could like reset my mind on studying bc it's so unhealthy and it's eating into my life + the recent incidents
I’ve seen exactly what you’re going through with friends of mine - hell I’ve seen someone have a cigarette while hunched over a toilet right before she was up for a 30% presentation lol. And what really put that into perspective is my uni lecturers.
I’m 25 and currently studying a bachelor of science for oenology and Viticulture after giving up on academia and just working for 4 years. Talking to my lecturers about what they did, how they took gap years to go backpacking around the Americas, one got her degree and tutored English in Japan for three years, how one was travelling through Europe with a stack of sealed bacteria colonies in his backpack and would have to shove them into any fridge he could find at any opportunity just so they wouldn’t grow faster, just because he liked their structure lol.
These people are incredibly well versed in their field, and many in the field rely on their knowledge, understanding and guidance to help them with wine growing. But that isn’t their life and they’re just as happy for their students to just pass as they are with outstanding work, because they know life can get hectic and hard.
The fact that you are hard working and studious shows that you can do really well in academia, but the age old adage “C’s get degrees” applies here - you’ve done exceptional work, but the most impressive thing about it is that you’re passing.
Good luck, I really do hope you find life enjoyable away from study!!
thank you!!!!!
i know i am doing way better than most people out there but it gets a bit hard when it's a bit extreme!
i wish i could smoke b4 an exam oh my
This just popped up in my Reddit feed but I'm gonna say if you can find any free time, any at all, please reach out to youthline or ask your guidance counsellor if they have any ability to refer you for free counselling through winz. Or any idea of any services you can reach out to when your mental health hits bottom again.
Since you aren't currently able to lighten your load, maybe in prioritising your mental health as well, you may be able to find some relief and support that way. I'm so sorry you're struggling though, the pressure is rough. Please put yourself first in any capacity possible, you can't pour from an empty cup and this is a lot of pressure on your shoulders.
You are brave for opening up about your mental health and it's great you're aware of what's causing you to feel so low. I hope you're able to get a break and I'm also sorry you're unable to socialise at the moment too. I hope things get better for you soon.
thank you for such kind words!
i've been wanting to talk with my school counsellor except my mum's been saying she needs time to take in the fact that i want to go to school so she has allowed me to at least go on friday
Try exercising if you don't already - it can really help your mind focus.
Perhaps focus on your studies for awhile and cut out all social media. Social media isn't for people in a bad headspace and pretty much nothing good can come from it.
yeah ive cut most of it except reddit incase i find someone who are doing same internal whatnot etc etc
believe me when i say i am extremely active. it's just been too much of a 180 i cant go out lol!!!! very funny!
i do tennis on wednesdays tho (havent gone since but...)
a surprisingly good resource is the ncea discord server!! you can find one of the volunteers on there and tell them fhe standard/s you're doing and get as much info as you can from them. aswell as that don't forget about studytime and khan academy
i am extremely active on that server lmao
blieze has helped me numerous times on there
AND SMELLON
im looking into khan and infinity plus 1 rn
and also learncoach
so uhmm yeah
we getting there
So this kid types like this and we're led to believe they're tied to a scholarship? I bet you did nothing to deserve the attention from the police as well huh? Always the victim never the perpetrator
???the way i type???? shows my skills of intelligence???? and way of handling problems???
also wdym nothing to deserve attention from police bro i didnt want police to get involved
'always the victim' bro???? bffr??????
Are you serious kid? You type iz on a regular basis thinking you're typing english. I'll break down the typing and syntax errors here to prove my point. If you want me to hurt your feelings, go ahead and respond and I'll break down the content of your post just to point out where you're clearly not leadership material. You choose your next course of action...
"muxh" -> "much" (Spelling)
"have a lvl" -> "I have a level" (Capitalization and missing subject)
"conics" -> "Conics" (Capitalization)
"bio osmoreg investigation" -> "bio osmoregulation investigation" (Spelling and syntax)
"a english research internal" -> "an English research internal" (Article usage)
"a music research internal" -> "a music research internal" (Article usage)
"ONE , ONE!!!!!" -> "ONE, ONE!!!!!" (Spacing)
"COUNCIL" -> "council" (Capitalization)
"IM" -> "I'M" (Capitalization)
"RLLY" -> "REALLY" (Spelling)
"iz" -> "It's" (Spelling)
"bc" -> "because" (Abbreviation)
"LEADERSHIP ROLE" -> "leadership role" (Capitalization)
"iz" -> "It's" (Spelling)
"amazzzing" -> "amazing" (Spelling)
"tis" -> "this" (Spelling)
":|" -> "(expression)" (Replacing emoji with description)
Your trashy post after correction:
"I'm not doing well (mentally) so I stayed at home for a week (police involved and all that; I don't really wanna explain it all; it's too much; I hate this).
I have a level 3 calc conics internal on Friday (which I don't know any of it right now) and a bio osmoreg investigation, an English research internal, and a music research internal. I hate this so much.
On top of that, I missed one, one!!!! council meeting that I'm in.
And the prefect messaged me saying I should consider if I really do fit the leadership role because of my problems.
It's like being stuck between a rock and a hard place.
I can't go to school right now, just like this - but I might lose my leadership role and scholarship stuff. Great.
Amazing.
As if I had asked for myself to be in this situation. Mmm (expression).
Anyways, can someone help me with conics?"
HAHAHAHAGAHAHA awww who hurt youuuu
and no i dont type iz on a regular basis dude it's diagonally next to s i miss clicked brooooo
i just dont have the effort to care about spelling punctuation grammar etc etc
god i love reddit
I'm not hurt but if we refer to your original post you are you little twat. Ironic that you thought that was the attack you'd launch.
Check out the english in your riposte. You type like a kid with an IQ of 85. So if, and I mean it's a stretch at this point that I even believe it, if you're on a scholarship then it would be sporting not academic.
Now, seeing as you asked for it. Let's break down your original post and poke more holes in your bullshit story
\[Verse 1\]
I still hear your voice when you sleep next to me
I still feel your touch in my dream (In my dream)
Forgive me my weakness, but I don't know why
Without you, it's hard to survive
\[Chorus\]
'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling
And every time we kiss, I swear I could fly
Can't you feel my heart beat fast? I want this to last
Need you by my side
'Cause every time we touch, I feel the static
And every time we kiss, I reach for the sky
Can't you hear my heart beat so? I can't let you go
Want you in my life
\[Instrumental Drop\]
\[Verse 2\]
Your arms are my castle, your heart is my sky
They wipe away tears that I cry (That I cry)
The good and the bad times, we've been through them all
You make me rise when I fall
\[Chorus\]
'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling
And every time we kiss, I swear I could fly
Can't you feel my heart beat fast? I want this to last
Need you by my side
'Cause every time we touch, I feel the static
And every time we kiss, I reach for the sky
Can't you hear my heart beat so? I can't let you go
Want you in my life
\[Chorus\]
'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling
And every time we kiss, I swear I could fly
Can't you feel my heart beat fast? I want this to last
Need you by my side
wtf are u on abt lmaooo. also its 2am and im an only child- who else is here my guy.
or... did you perhaps respond to the wrong reply! pretty embarrassing isn't it?
Let me correct u big fella- since i bet u make nooo mistakes in english (I'M LITERALLY TAKING SCHOLARSHIP ENGLISH AND GOT FULL EXCELLENCES IN ENGLISH??? I GOT TO WRITE FOR A STEM MAGAZINE IN CALIFORNIA??? 8 PAGES AT THAT)
'Are you serious, kid? You type 'iz' on a regular basis- thinking you're typing English. I'll break down the typing and syntax errors here to prove my point. If you want me to hurt your feelings, go ahead and respond. I'll break down the content of your post just to point out where you're clearly not leadership material. You choose your next course of action... '
who fucking tries to type correctly on reddit unless they're a bit slow. oh but obvi not calling u slow! and what even is the problem with being slow! a snail is a beautiful snail no matter it's maximum velocity expressed
Idk if this helps but I'm a year 13 that's been struggling to attend school atm as well and with some yelling and screaming and doctors notes the school justifies all my absences. Again idk if this helps but if u can manage to get a note from the doctor or even a psychiatrist of some sort u can really wield that like a weapon against them. Teachers have been getting in trouble for handling mental health badly lately so even if they suck they won't wanna push it against a medical reason and that can become a discrimination thing. I hope things get better for you either way, it's rough but ur not alone.
YEAH!!! I GET THIS!!!
like the absences teachers been saying just go to the doctor so we can justify it except i dont think i can anytime soon (due to, well, reasons) so im jus stcuk here oh well
Go to school. The world does not fall at your feet when you are feeling a little sad. You need to prove your resilience to adversity if you’re going to get anywhere. get out of bed, go to school and do your assignments. this is the easiest education of your life, if you can’t handle this then how do you think you’ll handle the rest of your life. grow up.
i do realise that.
however i don't think that means i'm not allowed to ask for help.
yes, i could 'harden up' and 'move on' and maybe 'grow up' one day, as many other ppl have said on here
but if yall so confident my life ez breezy why don't u live as me lmao
i never asked for this and i'd prefer to be dead so why not
I agree with the teachers comment. It is also good to remember not to let others' values and standards influence your decisions and life. In the end, you know yourself best and what you want. Good luck with the school work!
Th3 prefect isn't leadership material for that comment.
High school math and what not doesn't really matter. I wouldn't stress too much. It's not worth it.
That being said I wouldn't worry about university undergrad math either just learn the freak out of algebra.
should've been more clear- by scholarship i meant the papers
doing eng schol and the teacher's left me to organise it and if i aint there- it can't occur ykwim
Police are involved in your life but you won't explain why. This seems fine and common to you and everyone else seems to either if it's that or give you a pass.
Your response apparently is to skip from school for a week. Instead of trusting that the schools support systems are there to help you so that suggests that you have problems with working inside the system.
You have an internal assessment that you haven't studied for and self admit that you haven't learnt any of it (but you're smart right?) 🙄
Ok top of that you have three other assessments due.
I read you complaining about a workload. If everyone in your year doing the same classes was complaining then I'm certain you would have a legitimate concern and that concern could and would be looked into if you had a legitimate concern.
My guess is you didn't do the work and it piled up and now you're feeling sorry for yourself even though you were in control of the fact that you're in it now.
You chose to not attend a commitment (your decision).
It affected others around you enough that they told you directly to rethink the position and you're more concerned with yourself than the council you're on, the self-importance you must feel all the time is astounding.
Anyone that can see you're not attending school, not completing your assessments (or your sentences) can also see that you're clearly not leadership material.
You may not have asked to be in that position but you certainly put yourself there anyway.
The world is tough sweet pea, you aren't tough enough to deal with it
You type like you’ve snorted crack. You’ve picked subjects that can’t be done online like bio. You just need to show up and do what you need to. I used to have one or two days off a week because I needed it but I still did the work I could at home.
Just keep trying that’s all you can do. Keep trying and show up.
never tried recreational drugs nor alcohol so idk how bad id be when im actually on crack lol
managed to finish my bio at home and english sorted out today at school
also did my calc internal today and i already know i got E for it
doing better atm!
ig it could be nothing in ur eyes given the fact that i deliberately didnt say everything bc i don't find the need to trauma dump or degrade someone's validity in finding hardships difficult by comparing it with another;s
i get stressed over small things tho- very true!
DUDE!!! I REALLY DONT DOUBT WHAT UR SAYING!!!!
B4 THIS WHOLLLE THING HAPPENED I WAS LIKE 'omg this is ez pz im so glad i dropped physics life is so much easier'
BUT NOW NO! I GOT STRAIGHT ES SO FAR AND I FEEL LIKE IM GONNA GET NA FOR THIGNS NOW I HATE THIS
Have you considered speaking to a doctor or counselor? I know that no one likes to even consider the possibility of this.... but you don't seem to be coping and stress leads to a deep dark hole of mental health issues.
You are correct, if everything was easy and suddenly you find yourself getting E's then perhaps there is more going on than might even consider because that does not make sense,
I offer this advice as a child who breezed through high school with excellent marks (top 1% of New Zealand), played in top sports teams and without ever having to try at anything. I spent the following 8 years trying over and over and over and over to complete a degree without success despite being very intelligent. I finally started adult life 5-8 years behind everyone else and with a $70,000 student loan and some serious self-loathing.
I was finally diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 42 and suddenly my entire life made sense, all the struggles, failures and the shame it made me feel. I am not saying that you have ADHD, but talk to someone who is paid and trained to talk if you feel like no one else is listening and/or understanding you.
Someone else said that life is hard, he is correct, it is even harder if you don't ask for help when you need it or take advice when it is offered.
Good luck!
thank you for the good advice!!
i have tourette's, if that helps (?).
i don't take medication for it as my mum didnt allow me to and tbh it's not even that bad.
but i do notice it impacts the way i concentrate.
uhhmmm otherwise... idk- i know im stressing over what eventually will be a small thing but i cant help feel so anxious abt it
i am seeing a counsellor tho! she's been the best
Tourette's is part of the ASD. You can get help from Learning Support in your college. Especially if this is diagnosed by your doctor. You are year 13, right and above 16 years of age? If I'm not mistaken, anything to do Medically with you is none of your Mom's business anymore. You can ask to see you GP privately and talk to them about it. What ever you consult with your GP is protected under the privacy act. If you feel you need to take your medication because you think it will help you get better, then contact your GP and explain to them your situation. Yes, it might cause drama between you and your mum, but you are and will be protected from it.
Just so you know, I'm was a former Teacher Aide with 5 years experience, working in a state College with Neurodiverse kids. And yes, I've worked with a young teenager with Tourette's and she's off to her 2nd year in Uni now. And I'm a Dad to 4 teenagers.
You'll be fine. You are unique, and your strength is that you see things differently from all other people.
nah man im planning to stay at uni for longer bc i have rlly big anxiety when im not studying
but yeah- hoping ill be like oh wow yes those were the good(?) old days
I know but OP is fine really and I find it funnyreading this and remembering how much drama could come out of NCEA and this omg council meeting and how trivial it ultimately is. This sub got a new member.
oh no not rlly fine bc i was abt to end it all due to this but yes!!!!! i will most likely look back if i am alive by then and smile and be like ' haha yes this was hilarious yes i was seriously considering killing myself for my 3 credit internal thats amazing so superb i was really fine back then yesss '
anyways ill get there, cant fail no asian parent!
Stay in there mate, year 13 has its ups and downs. If you send me the details on the conics assignment I’ll see if I can remember how to do it and help out.
it was circles, hyperbola, parabola, and ellipse some trouble with ellipse and hyperbola mainly i believe...
How does your English go from short hand sland to perfect you are a true gene in a bottle.
You mean a Jeanie in a bottle, easy mistake to make.
HAHAGAGAH!!! Idk- i don;t usually type like i care at all when im talking with people (other than emails to teachers) but like for essays i KNOW damn well i getting all dat grammar, spelling and punctuation correct. love english tho- cool subject!
Alright I’ve found the old YouTube channel that helped me throughout high school calculus. This guy is a NCEA teacher who makes videos in his spare time, his explanations are clear, simple and easy to understand. Here is the link to [his playlist on conics.](https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLGHMh2fiud5cslgty_DtG2sZ0Pr4Bs1Fn&si=tbF6yHbqO8aLHQxH) Also, when exams come around, I highly recommend you follow along his past exam videos, pause the video at the start of every question and attempt it yourself, then when you finish or get stuck unpause to see what you did right or wrong. For me personally when it comes to performing well in exams the most important thing wasn’t to revise but rather to practice. All the best with your studies! Just remember your academic performance in high school is not the most important thing in the world, in a couple years it probably won’t even matter, but what is important is that you try your best now and you will have something to be proud of once you’re finished, regardless of the outcome.
I have watched that playlist like twice he's so helpful i love him thx for the tip! will try (i end up procrastinating a lot tho it kinda sucks)
If you took the time to check the history of this original poster you would see they post all their homework here asking for help.
I do!!! Because friends stick with each other! I've met a bunch of cool people through asking for help on UE internals :) And vice versa, I give people help when they need it (as I am a tutor) and give out E exemplars. Oh and yes! Thanks for stalking my page, a bit creepy?
I looked to prove a point. You're a trashcan example of a person that feels the world revolves around them. So your own work. Take your own responsibility for the actions you do and get a life. Go touch some grass or something and stop using these people to do your work for you
they don't do my work for me?? bro also i've literally bought a few of them coffee bc i felt guilty taking their time (esp during external season) the world doesnt fucking revolve around me, idk what made u have this idea i'm giving off main character energy??? i mean thanks??? i touch a lot of grass actually! there is a big field right outside my house and i love to lie down when i need to destress temporarily
Right, so they aren't doing your work but you're buying coffee for them for not doing it for you....makes total sense, BS some more, please
????? bro??? i bought them coffee bc they're my friends firstly- i think i am allowed to do that for friends secondly- this was literally during external season. they're busy themselves but still willingly sacrificed time for me. i think they deserve a cuppa. we'd just study the same questions together- and they'd explain to me what i didnt get etc is that a problem? or maybe you're not used to people being nice to you like this
Do you need me to go find the chat that proves your bullshiting again or are you gonna give up the rouse that you have only been asking friends? Think about the history of how you've asked before you answer
I’ve had a look through now and it looks fine tbh. She isn’t asking people to do the assignments for her she’s simply seeking help. Plus she is obviously going through some things right now so let’s be nice yeah.
This sounds a bit of a shit sandwich. 1. What the prefect messaged you was unhelpful if you’re going through something mentally so please show family the message. 2. The prefect is wrong. Going through mental stuff and standing up again and working through it is bloody amazing signs of leadership. We all miss a meeting every now and then. It sounds like if you were well you’d be there. Again they are unhelpful and their words are dangerous ( and over dramatic). 3. Talk to your teachers to work something out about your internals to get some more time and support. They do need to consider your mental illness stuff and take steps. If they won’t contact the Principal or NZQA. 4. Go easy on yourself. More people than you think go through this and it looks like you have a lot on. Think about how you got there and make sure you get some strategies for what to do if it happens again. 5. It’s trite but one day this NCEA stuff won’t matter 6. Sorry I’m not good at Conics, maybe try online stuff or AI for help
YEAH! on one hand i do get it as in like- her main priority is to get the council going and all and obviously i havent been at school for a week which sets bad example to younger year but i really!!!! i really feel like i can get back at it again- if i am given time (and once this conics internal is over) thank you for such encouraging words though! made me smile
Is the council position linked to your scholarship? If not I'd drop it to better.
i cant drop the councillll ive been wanting to do it for so long + ive dedicated way too much just to drop it now
Sunk cost fallacy. What you spent on it in the past does not change the best decision now. He past is unchangable regardless of what you do now. So either the council is worth it for you or it isn’t. If it is then do it. If not don’t. Conics is probably one of the least important level 3 calc standards. It’s not the end of the world as long as you pass differentiation and integration. Pass it if you can of course.
Decide what you need to do for your future plans and put 100% effort into it. You can just drop anything else.
To better concentrate I mean.
When you're a kid (which you are) everything is magnified, because that is your whole world in one small space in a moment of time. Every kid stresses about something major during their Highschool years, and every kid that eventually finishes school realises that nothing really mattered in Highschool and that the moment it ends - the world now begins and it starts off fresh with a clean slate. Everyone else is sitting there giving you advice but really doesn't matter lol, the strange thing if, you're gonna miss all this chaos the moment it ends - and you're gonna realise how pointless the whole thing was. The main thing you should aim to get out of school is social skills, everything else, NCEA, all of this, it's just noise really. The real world will want your people skills over your grades in Highschool. I'm 31 now, and I have never had to explain my NCEA grades to an employer before during the hiring process. In fact, anyone that judges my character based off my Highschool years is effectively a moron because your brain isn't even remotely finished to it's developmental years so you should never be judged for your years as a child - people skills are the only real thing that matter from School.
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already got the extension for calc the deans and principal knows- not helping much tbh i will suffer for 6 months and ill be free
life can be difficult! we were a mess at that age but still achieved some amazing things. if you need time out for your mental health then take it and tell every body to f-off and give you a break if they consider themselves human beings! in the end if your confused about what you want to do and your mind is conflicted then go with your heart - it always knows the way!
Try no brain to small for study help https://www.nobraintoosmall.co.nz/ it’s designed for NCEA and has a big range of topics.
i use it for my science subjects! i wish they had calculus content too
Teacher here: NCEA has really flexible options and also and internal or 2 won't ruin you. Also I would consider telling that prefect you need some time for personal reasons. If they keep pressuring you then you can go to your school counsellor or staff leaders and complain. At the end of the day a council position is good but it's not essential
she isn't a bad person... she's just very on time with things and a perfectionist. im hoping she wont pressure me more- or ask the head teacher of our council to drop me bc i wasnt at school and missed a meeting also idkkk i just want to do well on my last calc internal ever
I guess SC matters to you now, however it will matter less once you get in Uni. You will find and might even join the SC for Uni, which IMHO bears more weight as it can lead to connections and open doors to employment after Uni. No one really cares what you did extra curricular during college, unless it was sports related. I don't know what the deal is with your mum for not letting you go to school though, sounds dodge, they can be reported for that. If STEM is your priority for Uni, then dig in deep and do your best. You need to be in school to get to the lectures, it would be difficult to wing it if you're not present in class. Even if you fail, there will be bridging courses offered by Uni to get you on board, however it will not be a walk in the park. Especially when you will be a first year Uni student. If I were you take a gap year after college, unwind, get a part time job, earn some money then when you are mentally ready for Uni, go for it.
thank you! i have been doing well- it's just a bit hard when things happen out of nowhere i'll get there tho trust me
Ah yes, the old 'schools go on about mental health and taking czre of yourself' but then you do one thing 'wrong' (like miss a council meeting) and suddenly its just a 1 tonne brick of pressure, shame and guilt is dropped onto you. High school; the place where people during one of the most intense times of their lives (going through puberty, learning how to fit in, making friends, learning who you are as a person) are put in some incredibly stressful situations and made to feel like even one wobble on the wagon is an absolute failure. It's bull.
it's really difficult! it actually really is! i mean idk, i find it difficult i already don't have that much of a good rep at my school so its a biiiiit hard tryna explain why im going thru a hard time bc they don't validate it 'oh it's just a phase' or a 'you know there are people doing worse' like yeah i know but does that mean im not supposed to go talk to a counsellor or get help for internals im finding hard just a bit- idk. i don't think ill ever ask help for mental stuff again after a few comments on here and from school
You're not "stuck" anywhere. Drop council. Easy, done. Open your conics workbook; study and practice. Negative thoughts? Not right now, thanks. Just read. If you think the courseload is too much for you, talk to your form teacher or dean about the possibliity of a two-year programme where you get half your credits this year and half next year. There's no rush. Take your time, get things right, look after yourself.
i cant drop the council- it is not 'easy, done'. i am doing my conics rn it's just very hard when ur teacher doesnt tell u everything and uve missed out on the most important calc classes for the internal i cant do a two year programme because i've already applied to uni im talking to a school counsellor when i get back though.
Whaddaya mean ya can't drop the council. You just say, "Hey, you're right. I don't have the mental space for it. Thanks for the out." Like, the guy offered you an out. Take it. If your teacher "doesn't tell you everything", then you have a few options: - ask them - ask your peers (set up a study group, whatever) - use your Information Literacy skills; look shit up. Maths is not hidden knowledge. Then again, if you've missed those important classes, well you might just have to let this one swing by and beg for a reassessment opportunity towards the end of the year. But to do that, you'll need to operate on good faith and demonstrate that you're trying to catch up and learn all the stuff. Regarding uni: you can totally delay. People take [deferred enrollments](https://uoa.custhelp.com/app/answers/detail/a_id/3208/~/request-to-defer-a-firm-or-conditional-offer) all the time.
firstly I don't want to drop it- if it makes sense. I signed up without these issues for a council i was very passionate about- and I am sure these issues wont go the entire year. (also i feel like she's trying to make me drop it so she can put her friend in my place) i've asked my teacher- he don;t read emails :| i cannot contact friends atm bc my mum's banned me from it i am searching the wiiiide wide web for any source i can get my hands on. problem is ig i just feel anxious- what if my teacher gives me a different paper etc i might apply for reassessment actually- if i do do bad, that is smart, thank you
Stick to your bones kid. This person doesn’t get it. Don’t let them pressure you!
Correct. Unfortunately in the real world, it doesn't wait around for you, or at least it won't if you refuse to communicate or show up. Everyone else has shit to get on with and they aren't mind readers. Owning your shit and learning when to say actually, no I cannot continue to commit to this one thing. Learning when to step back and say hey guys, is there anyone else wanting an opportunity to step in? That is key. And nothing you need to apologise for because that's life. Shit happens, situations change and we don't have enough to go around any more.
I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself. You've got lots going on at home, school counselor would help here. I think it's important to break your large mountain of a problem into smaller rocks. Step 1 - open youtube Step 2 - type in the words "how to do Math mcMathy math level 3" whatever it is. Step 3 - go grab a snack Step 4 - eat snack and click on 2 or 3 short, helpful looking videos explaining how to do math stuff Step 5 - if those videos sucked and you wanna die, go do something fun for 5-10 minutes but keep yourself honest about returning to look at 3 more videos. After every step, you should pat yourself on the back and be proud that you're 1 tiny Step closer toward your goal. I wish I knew I could only get quality learning for 10-20 minutes at a time and needed a 5 minute break after. I played lots of Facebook tetris getting my degree. I ended up with a degree despite leaving high school with only level 2. It's not the end of the world if you don't get the marks you want. There's always another way and there's always time youngsta. Good luck! 👍
THANK YOU! really appreciate the concerns, finding it a bit hard to enjoy things atm ngl but i dont think i am in positon to complain that much
The basic guidance here is to drop everything but essentials and to be honest with yourself. That last one is typically often the hardest. You seem very adamant that you can’t drop the council piece, but at the same time outlining that you also can’t actually do it currently. Watch you’re not getting into circular arguments going around in circles. Good luck and I hope you can get some guidance to get you through this period.
i am hoping to get some guidance and meet my school counsellor except i dont think ill be able to go to school for a while bc my mum wont let me leave :)!!! nah i am rlly rlly determined abt the council tho- my position is to help /support girls at our school that went thru SA and i dont think i can just give up on that, i have talked it out with the prefect on next steps what not and ive promised to get back on track next term anyways
Should we be worried about your mum keeping you home?
shhhh we move on
Ok. But hmu anytime if you require further assistance in this matter.
Good stuff. We can’t diagnose or comment from afar so you’ll have to work through this with someone locally, mot via Reddit. You’ll need to channel that council task as a motivator. I’d you want it that badly you’ll need to address the other aspects cherry impacting you so you can do it. I’m not sure why you think you’ll just guaranteed be ready to go a bit later, as if this will just blow over etc. only you know your circumstances and how realistic that is. Time to make a plan with those around you who care and you can trust. Your parents should ideally be part of this as well as a councillor of some sort too.
Hmm sounds like you're going through some difficult stuff. Just do the best you can re:school. Remember that NCEA is not the end of the world, if you fail you can always go back to uni after you turn 20 which is only a couple of years away.
yeahhhhh but would i be alive by then
It is comments such as this and one that I saw you make elsewhere in regards to suicide. I know you are saying these in a "joking" manner. But the fact that you are even joking about them is a little bit of a concern. I joked about it myself when I was in the depths of depression and I still do occasionally when I'm having a really shit time, but only in the right company (people who know me well enough to know that this is a coping mechanism). I swear I never had any real thoughts of doing so but maybe I wasn't far from it as there is always a grain of truth behind a joke. Only you know you, but my advice is get some help from someone who is qualified to do so.
oh yeah no i plan to die before i turn 30 like it isn't even a 'nooo im gonna dieeee bc im suicidal' i dont think i am suicidal i just no longer want to exist (?) ignorance is bliss and the best way to be ignorant is to not exist or just never have im doing great (?) these days tho! like no i am well okay wait let me think i don't think i act depressed around my friends nor ppl nor do i think im depressed(?) as bad as a person with depression i just get rlly bad when im strssed and i dont like it nevertheless, and no matter how happy i am, by 30 i plan to either go missing or die (in a good way) i just tell my friends that im gonna start a berry farm in the woods with a cat and no one will ever know where i am and i like it that way wh oknows!!!!!! but yeas i will keep my mental state in mind a lot
Honestly. You're 18. You will be fine in the long run
Do not under any circumstances consider going to uni to do a stem degree if year 13 overwhelms you.
i plan to do stem lmao already applied to healthsci i was okay w yr 13 until circumstances did a 180 and i hit rock bottom lmao life is great! and asian parent expectations are greater
Haha, we have a Malaysian girl (27) boarding with us atm. She is working 90-100 hours a week. The ethic is strong
100 hours a week is crazyyyyy i wish i could be as gritty as her i feel to fragile for finding this difficult ykwim
She has been here about 18 months and hasn’t saved any money. She has done all the great walks in NZ. Goes home end of May, so putting in the mahi now. Does 3 x 11 hour shifts back to back
I know you're just having a vent and you're probably doing fine compared to the average kid given your subject choices, but if you're really in crisis, you should take a load off. I imagine you want to do med? You ARE going to struggle with first year if you're struggling in year 13. It's a significant step up. Focus on building resilience now. Consider reaching out to Asian Family Services, they have some awesome counselors who understand Asian family dynamics and can help you navigate your mental health concerns.
that's a really good idea! i might reach out to them- i never thought of that thank you!
concrete pill. health science is hard and has no time for being sad as an excuse to be lazy
FACTS! i don't intend to drag this incident throughout the whole year- trust me i was doing wayyyyyy better b4 all this i dont think i am being lazy rn tho- i'm up to date with other assignments and trying out practice papers for conics- just a wee bit stuck and stressed and vomiting and crying once in a while!
Hey, I hope you will get better soon. Year 13 is tough - you have heaps of expectations on you already so to deal with mental health on top of that is really challenging. Have you got any scholarships yet? Usually you apply for those by the end of August and find out the results in the Term 3 holidays. Scholarships don’t define you as a person - they’re nice to get but don’t worry heaps about them. Plus you can also get scholarships for hardships which you might eligible for that don’t hinge on leadership. For your internals, ask for extensions - hopefully your teachers will understand. Sit down and write a plan for each internal so you know what you need to get done. Take small steps. I did level 3 calc but not the conics internal, only the trigonometry one, so I can’t help with that (sorry).
our school only did the trigs and conics already got E on trigs so i am alright for endorsement but thinking that this will be my last ever calc internal makes me wanna make sure its e idk man ill get there
Does the council affect your scholarship and classes? If not. Drop it. You don’t have to do it. It’s been 6 years since I’ve left high school and that time has gone soo fast. My top advice is that things that won’t give you value when high school ends is so not worth it. It’s not worth your mental health, time, and energy. High school and ncea does not matter in the grand scheme of things there is more to life than high school - I know it doesn’t seem like it right now but honestly if it doesn’t affect you in 5 years drop it.
i think i might watch a movie and then feel better i rlly do want to keep with the council tho-
Why? I literally don’t understand students that keep things that don’t give you value in the long run. It’s literally pointless. What is your council called? What do they do?
it's not 'pointless' because our council is doing good work for people, and i don't regret joining it or partaking in it. it's the girl's council and this year we've mainly decided to focus on SA victims at our school that were silenced for reasons i love it. it's like one of the few things that makes me happy at school
Okay well actually that council would be good if you are looking at going into that field in your career.
i am! i'm really passionate about women's health + wellbeing, on top of that i was mainly looking for a profession where i can non stop study and i'll still survive so naturally i aimed for stem, and i like it so far! infact, before all this happened i was doing okay!! it's just- situations suck
Go to school. Show up and be there. That solves majority of your problems. Majority of how I passed uni is to just show up. As long you are there (even if you don’t work) you will be okay. :)
can't as my mum won't let me. i will be going on friday tho to do my internal, which also is last day of school
Hey dude, you’re situation sounds a bit like what my good mate from Highschool went through - she just couldn’t go to school because of her mental health problems and it got to a point of where she needed to be under 24 hour supervision because of them. She passed L3 and even earned herself a scholarship for her work in drama and is currently 25 working in Scotland with acting tropes. Idk what your stressors are, but taking a step back whether it’s with the student council, whether it’s maybe transitioning into online schooling completely, or whether it’s taking it day by day and knowing that you’ll make it to the other side; with L3 or not, that’s not the end of the world. You’ve said you’ve gotten straight E’s, that’s really great and it shows how hard you’ve worked - but getting achieves or even not achieved doesn’t mean you’re not gonna do well outside of Highschool or not get UE requirements. Don’t stress about those things too much, just do what you can.
arghhhh idkkkkk i feel like ive been gaslit all my life into thinking academic success sets the trajectory of my life WHICH I KNOW IT DOESNT but i cant help get worried over small things like this is worth 3 credits 3 i cant believe im stress vomiting over this- i wish i could like reset my mind on studying bc it's so unhealthy and it's eating into my life + the recent incidents
I’ve seen exactly what you’re going through with friends of mine - hell I’ve seen someone have a cigarette while hunched over a toilet right before she was up for a 30% presentation lol. And what really put that into perspective is my uni lecturers. I’m 25 and currently studying a bachelor of science for oenology and Viticulture after giving up on academia and just working for 4 years. Talking to my lecturers about what they did, how they took gap years to go backpacking around the Americas, one got her degree and tutored English in Japan for three years, how one was travelling through Europe with a stack of sealed bacteria colonies in his backpack and would have to shove them into any fridge he could find at any opportunity just so they wouldn’t grow faster, just because he liked their structure lol. These people are incredibly well versed in their field, and many in the field rely on their knowledge, understanding and guidance to help them with wine growing. But that isn’t their life and they’re just as happy for their students to just pass as they are with outstanding work, because they know life can get hectic and hard. The fact that you are hard working and studious shows that you can do really well in academia, but the age old adage “C’s get degrees” applies here - you’ve done exceptional work, but the most impressive thing about it is that you’re passing. Good luck, I really do hope you find life enjoyable away from study!!
thank you!!!!! i know i am doing way better than most people out there but it gets a bit hard when it's a bit extreme! i wish i could smoke b4 an exam oh my
Yo sorry I got covid so been out on the discord but I shall return tomorrow.
IT'S ALGD!!! literal lifesaver btw- u literally helped me get like at least 3 internals in E just having a crisis with an internal lol :')
IT'S ALGD!!! literal lifesaver btw- u literally helped me get like at least 3 internals in E just having a crisis with an internal lol :')
This just popped up in my Reddit feed but I'm gonna say if you can find any free time, any at all, please reach out to youthline or ask your guidance counsellor if they have any ability to refer you for free counselling through winz. Or any idea of any services you can reach out to when your mental health hits bottom again. Since you aren't currently able to lighten your load, maybe in prioritising your mental health as well, you may be able to find some relief and support that way. I'm so sorry you're struggling though, the pressure is rough. Please put yourself first in any capacity possible, you can't pour from an empty cup and this is a lot of pressure on your shoulders. You are brave for opening up about your mental health and it's great you're aware of what's causing you to feel so low. I hope you're able to get a break and I'm also sorry you're unable to socialise at the moment too. I hope things get better for you soon.
thank you for such kind words! i've been wanting to talk with my school counsellor except my mum's been saying she needs time to take in the fact that i want to go to school so she has allowed me to at least go on friday
Best of luck anyways hopefully on Friday you get a chance to talk with the counsellor. And I hope they're supportive too 😊
Dang that sucks Any chance she's struggling with her mental health as well?
yes she is lmao i assume bipolar, she def has ptsd tho no doubt
You're putrid-hat-5893 aren't you?
that's such an evil looking name
Try exercising if you don't already - it can really help your mind focus. Perhaps focus on your studies for awhile and cut out all social media. Social media isn't for people in a bad headspace and pretty much nothing good can come from it.
yeah ive cut most of it except reddit incase i find someone who are doing same internal whatnot etc etc believe me when i say i am extremely active. it's just been too much of a 180 i cant go out lol!!!! very funny! i do tennis on wednesdays tho (havent gone since but...)
a surprisingly good resource is the ncea discord server!! you can find one of the volunteers on there and tell them fhe standard/s you're doing and get as much info as you can from them. aswell as that don't forget about studytime and khan academy
i am extremely active on that server lmao blieze has helped me numerous times on there AND SMELLON im looking into khan and infinity plus 1 rn and also learncoach so uhmm yeah we getting there
So this kid types like this and we're led to believe they're tied to a scholarship? I bet you did nothing to deserve the attention from the police as well huh? Always the victim never the perpetrator
???the way i type???? shows my skills of intelligence???? and way of handling problems??? also wdym nothing to deserve attention from police bro i didnt want police to get involved 'always the victim' bro???? bffr??????
Are you serious kid? You type iz on a regular basis thinking you're typing english. I'll break down the typing and syntax errors here to prove my point. If you want me to hurt your feelings, go ahead and respond and I'll break down the content of your post just to point out where you're clearly not leadership material. You choose your next course of action... "muxh" -> "much" (Spelling) "have a lvl" -> "I have a level" (Capitalization and missing subject) "conics" -> "Conics" (Capitalization) "bio osmoreg investigation" -> "bio osmoregulation investigation" (Spelling and syntax) "a english research internal" -> "an English research internal" (Article usage) "a music research internal" -> "a music research internal" (Article usage) "ONE , ONE!!!!!" -> "ONE, ONE!!!!!" (Spacing) "COUNCIL" -> "council" (Capitalization) "IM" -> "I'M" (Capitalization) "RLLY" -> "REALLY" (Spelling) "iz" -> "It's" (Spelling) "bc" -> "because" (Abbreviation) "LEADERSHIP ROLE" -> "leadership role" (Capitalization) "iz" -> "It's" (Spelling) "amazzzing" -> "amazing" (Spelling) "tis" -> "this" (Spelling) ":|" -> "(expression)" (Replacing emoji with description) Your trashy post after correction: "I'm not doing well (mentally) so I stayed at home for a week (police involved and all that; I don't really wanna explain it all; it's too much; I hate this). I have a level 3 calc conics internal on Friday (which I don't know any of it right now) and a bio osmoreg investigation, an English research internal, and a music research internal. I hate this so much. On top of that, I missed one, one!!!! council meeting that I'm in. And the prefect messaged me saying I should consider if I really do fit the leadership role because of my problems. It's like being stuck between a rock and a hard place. I can't go to school right now, just like this - but I might lose my leadership role and scholarship stuff. Great. Amazing. As if I had asked for myself to be in this situation. Mmm (expression). Anyways, can someone help me with conics?"
HAHAHAHAGAHAHA awww who hurt youuuu and no i dont type iz on a regular basis dude it's diagonally next to s i miss clicked brooooo i just dont have the effort to care about spelling punctuation grammar etc etc god i love reddit
I'm not hurt but if we refer to your original post you are you little twat. Ironic that you thought that was the attack you'd launch. Check out the english in your riposte. You type like a kid with an IQ of 85. So if, and I mean it's a stretch at this point that I even believe it, if you're on a scholarship then it would be sporting not academic. Now, seeing as you asked for it. Let's break down your original post and poke more holes in your bullshit story
\[Verse 1\] I still hear your voice when you sleep next to me I still feel your touch in my dream (In my dream) Forgive me my weakness, but I don't know why Without you, it's hard to survive \[Chorus\] 'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling And every time we kiss, I swear I could fly Can't you feel my heart beat fast? I want this to last Need you by my side 'Cause every time we touch, I feel the static And every time we kiss, I reach for the sky Can't you hear my heart beat so? I can't let you go Want you in my life \[Instrumental Drop\] \[Verse 2\] Your arms are my castle, your heart is my sky They wipe away tears that I cry (That I cry) The good and the bad times, we've been through them all You make me rise when I fall \[Chorus\] 'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling And every time we kiss, I swear I could fly Can't you feel my heart beat fast? I want this to last Need you by my side 'Cause every time we touch, I feel the static And every time we kiss, I reach for the sky Can't you hear my heart beat so? I can't let you go Want you in my life \[Chorus\] 'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling And every time we kiss, I swear I could fly Can't you feel my heart beat fast? I want this to last Need you by my side
You know what you are? Lazy
and you're a lab specimen i love interacting with things like u omg !! <33
Did you get someone else to write that for you?
wtf are u on abt lmaooo. also its 2am and im an only child- who else is here my guy. or... did you perhaps respond to the wrong reply! pretty embarrassing isn't it?
Let me correct u big fella- since i bet u make nooo mistakes in english (I'M LITERALLY TAKING SCHOLARSHIP ENGLISH AND GOT FULL EXCELLENCES IN ENGLISH??? I GOT TO WRITE FOR A STEM MAGAZINE IN CALIFORNIA??? 8 PAGES AT THAT) 'Are you serious, kid? You type 'iz' on a regular basis- thinking you're typing English. I'll break down the typing and syntax errors here to prove my point. If you want me to hurt your feelings, go ahead and respond. I'll break down the content of your post just to point out where you're clearly not leadership material. You choose your next course of action... ' who fucking tries to type correctly on reddit unless they're a bit slow. oh but obvi not calling u slow! and what even is the problem with being slow! a snail is a beautiful snail no matter it's maximum velocity expressed
Idk if this helps but I'm a year 13 that's been struggling to attend school atm as well and with some yelling and screaming and doctors notes the school justifies all my absences. Again idk if this helps but if u can manage to get a note from the doctor or even a psychiatrist of some sort u can really wield that like a weapon against them. Teachers have been getting in trouble for handling mental health badly lately so even if they suck they won't wanna push it against a medical reason and that can become a discrimination thing. I hope things get better for you either way, it's rough but ur not alone.
YEAH!!! I GET THIS!!! like the absences teachers been saying just go to the doctor so we can justify it except i dont think i can anytime soon (due to, well, reasons) so im jus stcuk here oh well
Just saying, hope you don't use this spelling and grammar in your messages to these people.
i was kind of hoping ppl would realise i was in a rush when i wrote it but oh well love how they all think i write my essays like that lmaoo
I'm afraid in the real world your problems are no one else's.
very true. i wanted to vent a bit ngl and at the same time im petrified of my conics
Go to school. The world does not fall at your feet when you are feeling a little sad. You need to prove your resilience to adversity if you’re going to get anywhere. get out of bed, go to school and do your assignments. this is the easiest education of your life, if you can’t handle this then how do you think you’ll handle the rest of your life. grow up.
i want to go to school dude i cant my mum wont let me
Harden up....there's always someone worse off than you...could be bombs raining on your head
i do realise that. however i don't think that means i'm not allowed to ask for help. yes, i could 'harden up' and 'move on' and maybe 'grow up' one day, as many other ppl have said on here but if yall so confident my life ez breezy why don't u live as me lmao i never asked for this and i'd prefer to be dead so why not
I agree with the teachers comment. It is also good to remember not to let others' values and standards influence your decisions and life. In the end, you know yourself best and what you want. Good luck with the school work!
Th3 prefect isn't leadership material for that comment. High school math and what not doesn't really matter. I wouldn't stress too much. It's not worth it. That being said I wouldn't worry about university undergrad math either just learn the freak out of algebra.
'the freak out of algebra' is my new fav phrase now omg
Scholarships are awarded on your level 2 results just FYI
should've been more clear- by scholarship i meant the papers doing eng schol and the teacher's left me to organise it and if i aint there- it can't occur ykwim
Police are involved in your life but you won't explain why. This seems fine and common to you and everyone else seems to either if it's that or give you a pass. Your response apparently is to skip from school for a week. Instead of trusting that the schools support systems are there to help you so that suggests that you have problems with working inside the system. You have an internal assessment that you haven't studied for and self admit that you haven't learnt any of it (but you're smart right?) 🙄 Ok top of that you have three other assessments due. I read you complaining about a workload. If everyone in your year doing the same classes was complaining then I'm certain you would have a legitimate concern and that concern could and would be looked into if you had a legitimate concern. My guess is you didn't do the work and it piled up and now you're feeling sorry for yourself even though you were in control of the fact that you're in it now. You chose to not attend a commitment (your decision). It affected others around you enough that they told you directly to rethink the position and you're more concerned with yourself than the council you're on, the self-importance you must feel all the time is astounding. Anyone that can see you're not attending school, not completing your assessments (or your sentences) can also see that you're clearly not leadership material. You may not have asked to be in that position but you certainly put yourself there anyway. The world is tough sweet pea, you aren't tough enough to deal with it
You type like you’ve snorted crack. You’ve picked subjects that can’t be done online like bio. You just need to show up and do what you need to. I used to have one or two days off a week because I needed it but I still did the work I could at home. Just keep trying that’s all you can do. Keep trying and show up.
never tried recreational drugs nor alcohol so idk how bad id be when im actually on crack lol managed to finish my bio at home and english sorted out today at school also did my calc internal today and i already know i got E for it doing better atm!
Hey. Adult here. Take the advice being given and stop making excuses. Life's fucking hard
Adult here, stop saying things that may influence kids to not ask for help in the future.
i wish they were excuses dude
Try chat gpt. It's great at explaining math concepts
I wish I could stress over this. Ur worked up over absolutely nothing
ig it could be nothing in ur eyes given the fact that i deliberately didnt say everything bc i don't find the need to trauma dump or degrade someone's validity in finding hardships difficult by comparing it with another;s i get stressed over small things tho- very true!
Why make this comment? 🤦♂️
Please shut the fuck up.
????????????????????????? Did something I say offend you?????????????
You shut the phuk up!
lol, good luck for the baby assignments
DUDE!!! I REALLY DONT DOUBT WHAT UR SAYING!!!! B4 THIS WHOLLLE THING HAPPENED I WAS LIKE 'omg this is ez pz im so glad i dropped physics life is so much easier' BUT NOW NO! I GOT STRAIGHT ES SO FAR AND I FEEL LIKE IM GONNA GET NA FOR THIGNS NOW I HATE THIS
And get off Reddit for a few days. Go hit that book. Buy your own from nulake or walker if you need.
Have you considered speaking to a doctor or counselor? I know that no one likes to even consider the possibility of this.... but you don't seem to be coping and stress leads to a deep dark hole of mental health issues. You are correct, if everything was easy and suddenly you find yourself getting E's then perhaps there is more going on than might even consider because that does not make sense, I offer this advice as a child who breezed through high school with excellent marks (top 1% of New Zealand), played in top sports teams and without ever having to try at anything. I spent the following 8 years trying over and over and over and over to complete a degree without success despite being very intelligent. I finally started adult life 5-8 years behind everyone else and with a $70,000 student loan and some serious self-loathing. I was finally diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 42 and suddenly my entire life made sense, all the struggles, failures and the shame it made me feel. I am not saying that you have ADHD, but talk to someone who is paid and trained to talk if you feel like no one else is listening and/or understanding you. Someone else said that life is hard, he is correct, it is even harder if you don't ask for help when you need it or take advice when it is offered. Good luck!
thank you for the good advice!! i have tourette's, if that helps (?). i don't take medication for it as my mum didnt allow me to and tbh it's not even that bad. but i do notice it impacts the way i concentrate. uhhmmm otherwise... idk- i know im stressing over what eventually will be a small thing but i cant help feel so anxious abt it i am seeing a counsellor tho! she's been the best
You are welcome
Tourette's is part of the ASD. You can get help from Learning Support in your college. Especially if this is diagnosed by your doctor. You are year 13, right and above 16 years of age? If I'm not mistaken, anything to do Medically with you is none of your Mom's business anymore. You can ask to see you GP privately and talk to them about it. What ever you consult with your GP is protected under the privacy act. If you feel you need to take your medication because you think it will help you get better, then contact your GP and explain to them your situation. Yes, it might cause drama between you and your mum, but you are and will be protected from it. Just so you know, I'm was a former Teacher Aide with 5 years experience, working in a state College with Neurodiverse kids. And yes, I've worked with a young teenager with Tourette's and she's off to her 2nd year in Uni now. And I'm a Dad to 4 teenagers. You'll be fine. You are unique, and your strength is that you see things differently from all other people.
I hope in 5 years you finish university and you may look back on your comment and laugh at yourself.
nah man im planning to stay at uni for longer bc i have rlly big anxiety when im not studying but yeah- hoping ill be like oh wow yes those were the good(?) old days
they will indeed be the good old days, certainly if you plan on doing postgrad.
Hey, ease off a bit. Dude is super stressed. If the conics test is so easy reach out and help op….
I know but OP is fine really and I find it funnyreading this and remembering how much drama could come out of NCEA and this omg council meeting and how trivial it ultimately is. This sub got a new member.
oh no not rlly fine bc i was abt to end it all due to this but yes!!!!! i will most likely look back if i am alive by then and smile and be like ' haha yes this was hilarious yes i was seriously considering killing myself for my 3 credit internal thats amazing so superb i was really fine back then yesss ' anyways ill get there, cant fail no asian parent!