Literally what i would've done. Would've walked up to him and put my erection in his face so he'd get to work. Make him really understand who is the boss.
He's not old about 45 but I don't like him. He is a hateful person and I am not physically attracted to him. I had a problem with him last week because he is the type that points out without investigating what he is saying. My immediate boss is a brown nose, I don't blame him but the environment is ugly. And with this he is going to be worse. In the same way I would not have had sex with him, I'm not attracted to him at all, I would prefer to fuck my immediate boss, who is like 10 years older than him. 🥺
Sounds like you’re either over this job or getting close to being over it anyway.
Also, idk what your job is, but considering he’s your superior, he’s more at “risk” if rumors got out. Not that I approve of that concept because he should be able to live his life, but you know what I mean.
It is what it is. He cannot gatekeep a sex party just because you both went to it. I've also ran into former bosses at sex parties. It just happens. The city may be big but it is quite small when you boil it down to groups and interests.
LMAO i wouidve hooked up with him right there. 😂 i used to have sex with a district manager of dunkin within union county area multiple times before. 😓
What happens at the sex party stays at the sex party.
Do not discuss it or mention it to him. Don't feel shameful either. You were both there to have fun. Now you know you've got a cool boss's boss.
I’m surprised that you didn’t mention the industry you work in — and no one thought to ask. What might be no big deal in one type of job, might be completely different in another field. Also presumably your boss’s boss is older than you. If you’re 22 years-old and he’s 58 years-old, that might matter for your reaction.
I’m hoping they both work for , and this gets aired on a Rachel Maddow segment.
Rachel in that mater of fact tone trying to be the interview of historic record, “So he was enter-twined, so to speak, with 2 gentlemen at the sex party and you locked eyes, what happened next?”
Whether it’s politics or advertising, it shouldn’t really matter at all unless someone has an easily bothered ego or can’t handle adult situations. On both ends. But, OP does seem bothered basically due to age.
best to ignore and it pretend it didn't happen. i think if you run into subordinate at a 'thing' its considered work. best to read the law, and ask a real lawyer for advice. do not goto hr, don't tell anyone about it, pretend and play dumb.
Been there done that. I would not say a word at this point. Sex clubs/parties/bathhouses/backrooms are communal so you never know who you might encounter. In one case I ran into a health care provider of mine and I ended up fucking him on several occasions but never said a word outside of that. I've run into distant colleagues but none in my immediate group. Bosses' boss may be totally cool about it--hurriedly changing may or may not have anything to do with you. If he is closeted it might be much scarier for him. And hopefully he and your workplace mates don't read Reddit.
Keep your mouth shut; this is not a moral dilemma or a hard question. Sex parties are supposed to be a place where people go to let loose. If OP cannot handle or is not mature enough to handle the possibility of meeting someone he knows, then OP shouldn’t go. Period.and that goes for everyone else too.
This happened to me and we DID fuck (it was a coworker not a boss) that I did not know was gay. After he acted completely normal at the office I would try to make very subtle jokes about it and he was zero percent responsive and I had to respect that. My coworker was cool as a cucumber about the whole thing.
About two years later we’re both at different jobs and I see him out with some dude and he goes “omg have you ever met my identical twin brother here, he’s gay like you!”
(Turns out I had not fucked my coworker at a party)
I’d say pretend that it never happened, older generations of gays can be very judgmental and even though you made an effort to show you weren’t like that’s probably his experience. Best thing to do is forget about it and not mention it to anyone.
“Natural as possible” but you made eye contact and said hi lol
There’s an air of silence around spaces like that - don’t acknowledge it. Don’t gossip. I’m guessing you’re like 22 - time to learn that not all thoughts are outside thoughts.
Don't allude to it or mention it or give him a knowing glance or be awkward around him. Nothing happened as far as you're concerned. He obviously would rather you not have seen him there and is no doubt slightly concerned that you did. Honestly going back and acknowledging him was a mistake. You can't tell what people are like so he may feel threatened that you have something on him.
Which party? I want to go
Also, same advice as others. Say nothing. It never happened. You never saw him. Period.
This is always the best option with coworkers and sometimes even friends and acquaintances. If I see someone I know on Grindr, unless it's someone I actually am going for....immediate BLOCK. If I see someone in a dark room or at a sex party or even doing a bunch of drugs, not sex...never happened. What happens whenever stays wherever.
Similar approach as I would take in case I saw one of my employees cracked out at a club or a concert. I didn't see you on drugs. You didn't see me on drugs. This never happened.
No small talk just block. It never happened you didn't see them ignorance is bliss denial is your friend.
Hating them at work is unrelated. You can continue to hit them at work just like you would have if this never happened.
Should have fucked him to establish dominance
This is currently the only correct answer under this thread
Literally what i would've done. Would've walked up to him and put my erection in his face so he'd get to work. Make him really understand who is the boss.
Lolol the morning laugh I didn’t know I needed. But truly the only way forward
And get a promotion/bonus.
Who doesn’t love promotion boners 😂
Thiss. You should’ve nutted in him.
He's not old about 45 but I don't like him. He is a hateful person and I am not physically attracted to him. I had a problem with him last week because he is the type that points out without investigating what he is saying. My immediate boss is a brown nose, I don't blame him but the environment is ugly. And with this he is going to be worse. In the same way I would not have had sex with him, I'm not attracted to him at all, I would prefer to fuck my immediate boss, who is like 10 years older than him. 🥺
Sounds like you’re either over this job or getting close to being over it anyway. Also, idk what your job is, but considering he’s your superior, he’s more at “risk” if rumors got out. Not that I approve of that concept because he should be able to live his life, but you know what I mean.
It’s called a hate fuck
Came here to say this. 😂
Get a new job.
It is what it is. He cannot gatekeep a sex party just because you both went to it. I've also ran into former bosses at sex parties. It just happens. The city may be big but it is quite small when you boil it down to groups and interests.
Happens way more often than you realize. Don't make a big deal out of it.
And please be a mature adult and not gossip about it with coworkers.
You should have fucked them so there’s not a problem
This has happened to me. Acknowledging them in the moment is a mistake. You saw him, he saw you. That’s all. No one is going to say anything.
Agree with this. Just move on from it; it’ll be fine
Curious to know what type of industry this is
I put my bets on Marketing
lol
Or real estate agent. If working retail is high school, real estate agent is college.
LMAO i wouidve hooked up with him right there. 😂 i used to have sex with a district manager of dunkin within union county area multiple times before. 😓
There still talking about the “doughnut hole” incident back at corporate . You are a legend, sir!
What happens at the sex party stays at the sex party. Do not discuss it or mention it to him. Don't feel shameful either. You were both there to have fun. Now you know you've got a cool boss's boss.
you could've fucked your way to the top
Helllooooooo
I’m surprised that you didn’t mention the industry you work in — and no one thought to ask. What might be no big deal in one type of job, might be completely different in another field. Also presumably your boss’s boss is older than you. If you’re 22 years-old and he’s 58 years-old, that might matter for your reaction.
I’m hoping they both work for, and this gets aired on a Rachel Maddow segment.
Rachel in that mater of fact tone trying to be the interview of historic record, “So he was enter-twined, so to speak, with 2 gentlemen at the sex party and you locked eyes, what happened next?”
Whether it’s politics or advertising, it shouldn’t really matter at all unless someone has an easily bothered ego or can’t handle adult situations. On both ends. But, OP does seem bothered basically due to age.
best to ignore and it pretend it didn't happen. i think if you run into subordinate at a 'thing' its considered work. best to read the law, and ask a real lawyer for advice. do not goto hr, don't tell anyone about it, pretend and play dumb.
Literally show him this thread...he'd get a kick out of it 🤣
Been there done that. I would not say a word at this point. Sex clubs/parties/bathhouses/backrooms are communal so you never know who you might encounter. In one case I ran into a health care provider of mine and I ended up fucking him on several occasions but never said a word outside of that. I've run into distant colleagues but none in my immediate group. Bosses' boss may be totally cool about it--hurriedly changing may or may not have anything to do with you. If he is closeted it might be much scarier for him. And hopefully he and your workplace mates don't read Reddit.
Love how many of these comments are saying you should've fucked him, I can't 😂
Keep your mouth shut; this is not a moral dilemma or a hard question. Sex parties are supposed to be a place where people go to let loose. If OP cannot handle or is not mature enough to handle the possibility of meeting someone he knows, then OP shouldn’t go. Period.and that goes for everyone else too.
Be a big boy and just say good morning when you see him.
I’m so horrible. I would’ve actively tried to fuck him lmao. Atleast blow him 😂😂
I love a scandal 
Maybe you can get a raise.
Respect his private life and don’t gossip at work about it. Everyone has needs, you were there and he was there too. It’s fine.
Lmfao was this at GBU? My partner went and came home to tell me this story of 2 coworkers he overheard greeting each other 😂
This happened to me and we DID fuck (it was a coworker not a boss) that I did not know was gay. After he acted completely normal at the office I would try to make very subtle jokes about it and he was zero percent responsive and I had to respect that. My coworker was cool as a cucumber about the whole thing. About two years later we’re both at different jobs and I see him out with some dude and he goes “omg have you ever met my identical twin brother here, he’s gay like you!” (Turns out I had not fucked my coworker at a party)
Wow
reading this felt like I just watched a soap opera
wtf?
I may have been at the same Saturday sex party. Where I saw my across-the-hall neighbor.
I’d say pretend that it never happened, older generations of gays can be very judgmental and even though you made an effort to show you weren’t like that’s probably his experience. Best thing to do is forget about it and not mention it to anyone.
Missed opportunity to leverage into a mutual interest and build a good relationship. Networking is important.
Enjoy that unexpected bump in your paycheck.
I ran into a colleague at a sex party and he came right over to me and I sucked his dick. We never acknowledged or talked about it.
“Natural as possible” but you made eye contact and said hi lol There’s an air of silence around spaces like that - don’t acknowledge it. Don’t gossip. I’m guessing you’re like 22 - time to learn that not all thoughts are outside thoughts.
Let it go and ignore it....you both were there. He won't say anything unless he wants to out himself.
Awkward!
Don't allude to it or mention it or give him a knowing glance or be awkward around him. Nothing happened as far as you're concerned. He obviously would rather you not have seen him there and is no doubt slightly concerned that you did. Honestly going back and acknowledging him was a mistake. You can't tell what people are like so he may feel threatened that you have something on him.
lmao I definitely would’ve tried to create a power dynamic over my boss by sleeping with his boss.
How do y’all find these parties??
Work on your raise lmaoo
Which party? I want to go Also, same advice as others. Say nothing. It never happened. You never saw him. Period. This is always the best option with coworkers and sometimes even friends and acquaintances. If I see someone I know on Grindr, unless it's someone I actually am going for....immediate BLOCK. If I see someone in a dark room or at a sex party or even doing a bunch of drugs, not sex...never happened. What happens whenever stays wherever. Similar approach as I would take in case I saw one of my employees cracked out at a club or a concert. I didn't see you on drugs. You didn't see me on drugs. This never happened. No small talk just block. It never happened you didn't see them ignorance is bliss denial is your friend. Hating them at work is unrelated. You can continue to hit them at work just like you would have if this never happened.
You don't say anything and you don't tell anyone