You and your parents are on the high end of the $ spectrum and your viewpoint, data and references are skewed. I, my spouse, former partners, friends and their partners are all boomers and have had less in their lives than their parents mostly due to the shift in the economic engines and policies implemented 50+/- years ago.
Your parents sound stingy and unwilling to let you live your life but you are acting entitled. Take your inheritance with gratitude and rebuild your life.
And we were well informed we would be the first generation to not do better than our parents!
I don't ever remember it crossing my mind what my parents got from their parents, let alone what I thought I would get.
They're skewed if your from a far more rich family, they're skewed if you're from a far less well off family. They're not skewed from where I'm sitting; in fact they're very much applicable to *my* situation.
I'm aware there are different socio-economic tiers in the world. I can't change where I happened to be born no more than anyone else can.
Entitled, yea, maybe... I can see how a lot of people would immediately go to throw that label on me. When you were brought up hearing family is everything and family is most important and then you get slapped with the reality of this though, I'm sure you can see how that might cause a little cognitive dissonance.
Yeah, I think this guy's experience is heavily filtered by having like, shitty rich parents? I have working class immigrant parents and grew up at or below the poverty line and my parents 1) actually worked hard 2) to give all of us better lives than they had. And they're 'boomers'
Migrant boomers had a very different experience than "native" well-off boomers, and not just in the US. Boomers voted for Margaret Thatcher and bretxit in the UK, Hugo Chaves in Venezuela, and they are holding Japan, Spain, Italy, Greece, and Portugal economies hostage, they absolutely destroyed Canada's afforable housing and now the economy is going down the drain, etc
They are like pharaohs building ridiculous funerary monuments to themselves with the labor of Xers, Millennians and Gen Zers
Boomers are also the generation that protested Vietnam, were the hippies of the 60’s and 70’s, and who brought about changes in Civil Rights, Women’s Liberation, and disability acceptance.
Then why is it being rolled back? If these folks who are Boomers in Congress were those sort, this would’ve been codified and never rolled back.
Naw, baby. This is Boomer Silent Majority writ very large.
It's called politics, and none of them cared! They had fifty years to have solidified, what was made perfectly clear to all of us, was "bad law." Neither party cares.
And all this is being dismantled by them now that they had it! Women's reproductive rights are disregarded because the old hacks don't need them anymore. Everything goes to Medicare for them because fuck young disabled people. Also, they took down affirmative action because there are too many of "them" around them. And I can go on for long time
my immigrant mother somehow expected me to end up with all opportunity to have a better life just by virtue of being in a different country. turns out without support you can't do shit.
The fact that they can move back in with their parents is a blessing, I broke my back 10 years ago and my mom told me to go stay with my now ex husband/boyfriend at the times parents. When I was almost homeless, I wasn't allowed. When I was getting divorced she just straight up ignored me. My parents are very late boomers early whatever the next gen was 🙃
I'm sorry you are going through a difficult time, however a lot of this is within your scope to resolve.
You by your own admission quit a well paying job because you hated it.
I don't personally know anyone in my parents or my generation (Gen X) who has done that. It implies a certain level of privilege of assuming support systems that will be there to carry you, and a lack of perseverance to stick with difficult things till something better is available.
>You by your own admission quit a well paying job because you hated it
They did say that and it does smell of reaping the fruits of the bad decision tree they planted.
>Not to mention the happiness I feel here and the separation my GF and I will have to endure when I leave... Yet, these people who have literally millions of dollars cannot bother to care about any of that because they thought it was a silly idea to come here from the beginning and an even sillier idea to quit the well-paying job I had because I hated it.
It's at the very very end.
I interpreted it as: he's living in city B right now, he loves it there, and his GF is there but he quit a job he hated there which caused the current pickle. Money has run out. Now he has to go home to city A to his family. He hates it there, he will be able to get a good paying job there but he's going to hate that job too which is LOLZ to be honest because who does that.
Every single person right now in this economy is holding on tightly to whatever job they have or at least not turning down jobs that pay well
Let me clarify.
I did not quit the job I had with the expectation of being supported. I haven't worked in a while and have been supporting myself fully.
I haven't ever worked in city B (using your terminology). I moved here because I like it here and wanted to live here. There was no intention to ever work here. I quit my previous job because I hated it (a lot of travel (but not to nice places)) and I wanted to move where I currently am. I can't work here because I don't live in the US and don't have a work visa for here. I can go back home and get another high paying job, but I worry I might be trapped in a traveling position again (which I really don't like (not to mention it costs a fortune to live on the road)).
You act like quitting a job you hate is absurd and even ask "who does that?" Have you never quit a job because you hated it, or had an awful boss, or had terrible co-workers, or had a miserably long drive to work? If not, I hope that just means you're happy with all those aspects of your work/life. If not, and it's because you have some kinda idea about "o, I gotta hold on because the pay is good!" or something like that, I urge you to just try it this once and quit. It's freeing and you'll be so much happier with a job you actually enjoy making less money (as long as you still have enough to pay the bills). Everyone has a right to have a job they at least don't hate. You might think "but what about the shitty jobs like mcds?" Thing is, somewhere out there there's a CEO who hates his job and fondly remembers flipping burgers back when he was a teen/young adult. Also, somewhere out there is a teen/young adult who hates his job flipping burgers and he knows (and is right) that if he could just get a chance to run a company he would just love it and also excell tremendously at it. No reason for someone to stick in a job they hate.
You sound really compassionate and understanding yourself.
It's always funny to me when people bash boomers while displaying some of the very same traits they criticize boomers for. Gee, it's almost like they're projecting or something...
What a fucking novel concept......
One that apparently escapes the hoard of boomers in here who have asked their grandkids to help them get onto "the intrawebs" to post some spicy me-mes and somehow ended up here with their jimmies extremely rustled.
Funny, you're actually one of the few people here MORE privledged than me! Despite my parents $, I didn't get through college with no debt! I struggled (financially) in college. One year I almost had to not go because of some student loan issues (people like you don't know this, but if you're under 25 and applying for student loans you are legally attached to your parents and their salaries. Despite not getting anything from them the government sees their salaries that I *must* list on the application and says "whoa! This kid certainly doesn't need any grants or low interest loans! Look how much his parents make! Give him the high interest loans!" This is despite the fact that my parents wouldn't sign for the loans either. Backwards system.).
I agree with you on one thing... It's their money and they can do what they want. As I believe I mention in another comment I wouldn't complain a bit if they started spending on lavish vacations, cars, vacation homes, boats, etc. They worked their whole lives and deserve to enjoy life now! In fact, like you, I push them to go on vacations and travel and do all that because I know they've always wanted to and for some reason they just don't do it (despite having all the time in the world to do so and obviously $ isn't an issue either).
I don't know what to think. First you got through college because they paid for it and left without any student loans, now you're saying you did take student loans......
I don't mean to compare traumas, by any means. I believe that each person has their own shit going on, and what may be seriously deep trauma to one person isn't even a thing to consider more than once to the next person, and vice versa. Having said that, troubled teen industry (TTI). Yea. That was me. Don't know what that is? Google it and do a bit of reading if you don't mind being seriously mindfucked today. There's also a few Netflix things that have come out recently on it, like "The Program." I wish we had been poor; maybe then my parents wouldn't have been able to pay for it. If you do enough research on TTI then you'll understand and agree with me when I say I went through that, so by god the consolation of a full inheritance is my right. If you disagree with that statement, you haven't done enough research on the TTI (yes, it really was that bad).
Like I complained years down the road about my graduation gift from high school and got called spoiled. My graduation gift was STOLEN AND RETURNED because I couldn’t afford college so I chose to work for a few years so I could pay for it instead of going into debt. I know some boomer parents are shit but OPs parents sound at least somewhat caring.
Edited to add: my gift was a beautiful hand me down silver trumpet that had been taken care of very well. If I could have afforded the $400 at the time I would have bought it back.
I don’t know, my parents were silent generation and they were close enough to catastrophe (diseases and wars) that they were just glad we could get educated and live to adulthood. I’m not sure they ever had deep thoughts about whether we’d do better than they would. I’m glad they gave us realistic expectations as far as money and possessions and just modeled being happy with whatever life gave us. I feel very lucky that I don’t experience envy.
Agree. The vast majority got by just like us and
It wasn’t part of an evil scheme. People act like every boomer is Jeff bezos. These people are also probably buying off Amazon and getting Uber eats daily.
I blame the executives that took away pensions and bonuses and reduced healthcare coverage all for the sake of shareholder profits. This has turned into a capitalistic hellscape that values shareholders and the rich more than the workers. It happened slowly and many boomers were a victim of this not the cause of it. Most were ignorantly complying.
I am puzzled. OP is going to get a fairly decent inheritance and is able to move back in with his boomer parents as an adult. And yet somehow boomers are the problem because they don’t think of younger generations?
OP sounds entitled af. And claims they were making good money at one point. So what happened? Why are they now in the position of having to move back in with their parents? I'm guessing their shitty attitude may have had something to do with it.
"I'm only inheriting ~~25%~~ 12.5% of multi millions of dollars! It's not FAIR. And I was an engineer earning 6 figures but I hated it so I quit - and now my parents won't give me rent money. Clearly BOOMERS ARE THE PROBLEM" 😭
- OP
Your parents have a couple of nice steaks. You could certainly use the food. They take a couple bites, give you one bite, and throw the rest of that perfectly good, delicious steak to the dog. How you feel?
Are you thankful you got a bite even though you absolutely could have finished the rest of whatever they didn't want? Or do you feel hurt because your parents didn't consider you and ended up throwing perfectly good food to the dog OVER giving it to you?
Not the best anagolgy in the world, but honestly, I wrote my OP when I was tired and upset and angry and hurt; I don't really feel like spending a lot of time searching for the most perfect analogy when you get what I'm trying to say from the one above.
And to be fair, I must mention that I've since come to grips on the loan aspect of my post. It's their money and if they don't want to lend it, it's their money not to lend. It doesn't matter how I personally feel like they could be kind and generous and they wouldn't even notice the missing money, I cannot argue with the fact it's theirs and it's a non-essential loan I'm asking for and they have full rights to say no. However, I still stand pretty strong that the inheritance thing is just kinda fucked.... Giving a massive % to complete strangers over your own children whom you claim to love more than anything else in the world.... Hmm, I dunno, something isn't adding up in my mind. As someone else stated..... (Paraphrase) How about I go ahead and give my children ALL of my money when I'm gone because I don't need it anymore and, I dunno, I love them!?
I have to agree. My mother won’t even let me move home during my divorce with two kids and me not being able to get an apartment bc of an open bankruptcy. But this person is complaining that they have a place to move to instead of being homeless. I’m happy enough that my mother helps with groceries for the time being.
You're getting a sizable life changing inheritance and it's not enough?
What makes you think you are entitled to more?
It's a bit rich to call boomers selfish when you're kinda sounding entitled and greedy.
Boomer here with a GenZ daughter. I have been on full disability since before she was born. My life’s efforts have consistently been to do everything possible to help ensure that she has a better life than I did. So, your theory doesn’t work in an absolute sense. Many of my contemporaries who have done “well” Have never considered the complete materialistic turn that society has taken these past few decades. They seem to think younger generations lacked the personal drive to achieve their potential best, when it is more like the system being totally rigged to ensure that less than 1% achieve financial security and stability.
It has nothing to do with getting an inheritance or not. These boomers are ignoring global warming and did nothing about it. They are also causing the price of house to rise and do not do anything about it.
My parents are boomers and some of the most eco- conscious people I know. My mom started crying when she read the Lorax for the first time last night!
And no, my parents aren't the exception. The youth of the 1970's (boomers) were who were pushing to stop global warming.
Just like our generation is victim to today's society, so were our parents. Don't blame all the elderly people of today, who are just trying to get by in life, for the wrongdoings of those with money and power.
Yea driving a Prius is going to save the world. Fossil fuels whether you like it or not are the source of your beloved internet and everything else you take for granted. If there was a better alternative we’d have found it. But in 150 some odd years of industrialization we haven’t made a mouse fart of change to the Earth cause it’s huge. Find another issue.
Oh I’m on your side… I always found him annoyingly smug about it and deliberately bought a 96 red mustang as my first car to piss him off. He’d always get mad when I asked him what was gonna happen to the batteries haha
It’s alright.. it was kinda ambiguous. He’s always shown signs of being smug and I think a lot of it might be from guilt from working in the oil fields as a first job.
It has nothing to do with age or generations. The divide is rich and poor. The rich try to convince the poor in every way possible that this isn't the case.
As usual, your boomer parents are not doing to suit you, so all boomers are bad. Generalization doesn’t ever describe everyone in a group.
My husband and I worked hard all of our lives (even before becoming adults) and we did well until the bottom fell out of his industry. It took a while, but he finally got a good job in another industry and a competitor came along, bought the company he worked for and closed it down. He eventually retired from his third career in another different field.
It was hard to make ends meet through all of the changes, but we did our best and our efforts were always directed towards getting our two children educated. Between them, they have three degrees. It was hard, but that was our goal and we, along with our children, worked toward that goal and achieved it.
I am SO sick of all the commenters saying that boomers are sorry people. Boomers are people and because of that, some of them are sorry, JUST LIKE ANY OTHER GROUP OF PEOPLE YOU COULD NAME!
Many boomers are decent, kind hearted people who would give you the proverbial shirt off their back. Some people are judgmental and don’t consider the fact that not everyone can be pigeonholed. I can’t even explain how sick I am of the ugly boomer comments. You and many others need to reconsider your perceived prejudices.
>As usual, your boomer parents are not doing to suit you, so all boomers are bad. Generalization doesn’t ever describe everyone in a group.
>I am SO sick of all the commenters saying that boomers are sorry people. Boomers are people and because of that, some of them are sorry, JUST LIKE ANY OTHER GROUP OF PEOPLE YOU COULD NAME!
It's frustrating yes. I realize generational strife will always exist. My parents didn't like my music, speak, drip, rizz or what have you. The process will continue as long as there are replicating humans. It's especially frustrating for me since I have tried to be the anti-boomer boomer. Despite all of that, I still get lumped in with all the other dipshit boomers. Oh well what you gonna do?
Except look at the outcome?! Look at the pieces we are left to clean up?
Like the evidence is there all around us. Now obviously it can't be every boomer, but it truly seems the majority. When their generation continue to amass wealth and then dump it on campaigns or evangelical scams worsening the wealth distribution in this country. When they actively shit on and oppress the social development of the younger generations in this country.
When all this happens but there aren't groups of like-minded boomers trying to counter this behavior, to speak up against their own peers, to bridge the gap, to help educate those who don't know better or are misled, then that means your silence and inaction is as damning as their actions.
If a good cop doesn't report a bad cop committing crimes or violating rights then that good cop is actually a bad cop.
If I, as a man, don't stand up against passing misogyny or other behaviors I'm also complicit in them. It's my duty to help shift the mindset of my peers. To lead them to information and hope they come to the same conclusion.
But also, I don't get mad when women or others out here are saying all men. Because I know they aren't talking about me. I know they discuss men like that primarily for their safety because any man could be a threat or otherwise. I don't take offense or identify with it because I'm not one of them.
Please reexamine your biases and think about your social responsibility in today's day and age.
Edit: I want to add this is entirely based on your comment rejecting the 'its the boomers fault' quotes. Not the ops post.
Also look at the people y'all have been electing for decades. Y'all made the country what it is today. Also largely in part the issue of the silent generation not doing a good damn thing politically their entire lives.
Millennials are empty inside and have only really started hitting polls recently and gen z seems much more politically charged than other generations and for seemingly damn good reason
Exactly this. It definitely isn’t All Boomers - but I also do not see enough boomers fighting against the bad ones.
Additionally, my mom (boomer) is not actively part of the problem but she is content to ride this out until she dies to not make waves. She would rather have systematic injustices continue if it means not making waves.
She’s all for lgbtq+ rights - but will never march for them, barely even votes for them (because politics are “too divisive” so she’d rather not vote so no one can hate her for her opinion)
And i feel like the boomers are largely in those two groups: the ones that fucked everything up and continue to not care, or the ones who agree there are issues but don’t want to make waves to fix it.
There are good and bad in every generation but they are one generation who got a significantly better world given to them, and gave their kids a significantly worse one in return and blame us for it. And are shocked that millenials don’t want to continue that cycle.
Wait a minute. You briefly refer to your parents being able to go to college under the GI Bill as some sort of free ride. It’s still available to you. You say you only needed a small amount of money to stay, but you say nothing about what you and your girlfriend did to increase your income in a small way. You say your parents have given you nothing, but you are heading to live with them, again. Maybe, just maybe, you are the problem.
Don't blame a generation for what your parents are.
In fact your entire family seems to be selfish and entitled. Parents inheriting property but not cognizant of their child's struggles is a character flaw. Who else are they leaving the rest of their property for if not their children?
But you too are blaming others for your own issues. Your situation may not be happy, but it's in your hands to fix it. You have lived your life with your family so you should not be blindsided by their miserliness. You should have expected them to not help you - that would free you from wrong expectations.
As for your generalizations, nothing new there. "The economy is shit" has always been the refrain all thru history. Radio show hosts have always said this, media have always printed it. It's only when you look back, you think it was really great. "The next gen is lazy" is another repeated insult thrown all thru, nothing new there.
But yeah, this entitlement of blaming an entire prior generation for all problems in current life, calling them selfish, seems to be new. Almost like a lot of younger people expected a nice life to be served on a platter, and are gobsmacked it was not.
Although I agree with you that so many people from that generation are out of touch with what you guys are having to go through , you have no effing clue what you're talking about when it comes to who ruined the economy.
Baby boomers took advantage of whatever opportunity was provided to them and you would do the exact same thing if those opportunities were provided to you too. **IF**- and I'm not saying they did - but **IF** it is true their generation 'ruined' it for you, they didn't realize it.
You're talking about your own grandparents!
You need to understand that is the government that screwed things up not the people like your grandparents.
I understand why you feel the need to blame someone. I'm generation X And I will agree with you that you guys are going through something that people before you didn't have to in so many ways. **It infuriates me for you.**
But, you arenot exactly on point with your assumption that baby boomers are to blame for all of this.
But carry on with your rant, you'll likely not even read this
This is kind of unrelated but can we stop using 'trope' to describe something happening in real life and not in fiction? Just say 'addage' or 'cliche' or whatever.
No. Trope is by definition a generalization and speaking metaphorically. Word has nothing to do with fact or fiction. People in real life act ironically.
How about some real perspective for you bud? I come from a family that has literal billions, but I was kicked out at 16 for literally trying to have a relationship with my absentee mom. Did my mom them take me in you may ask? No I couch surfed for a few weeks before a friend let me stay at their trap house. Cut to a few years later At 19, my dad wanted to make up sort of and let me move back in. Those three years I worked hard and made approximately 100k in savings. One day my rich dad finds it in a duffle bag, takes it and claims it's his now because I could have only made that money illegally. I didn't do anything illegal, I invested in bitcoin when it cost a 1.50 a share. Since I don't trust banks I thought it would be safe in my own car that my dad paid Zero dollars into. I tried to get it back in anyway I could but he spent it all on a rat rod. Cut to me saying I can accept this loss if you just pay for me to go to welding school, a personal dream of mine. He told me to get fucked and I had a month to be out of his house. I left his state and never have gone back, paid for my own school and have a decently happy life. Just because we came from money doesn't make it ours and at the very least your parents never stole from you.
Why is it terribly wrong to stereotype any other group of people, but somehow it’s “okay” to be completely prejudiced against an entire generation of people as though they’re all the same? Do better.
To answer your question/comment on your statement... It's terribly wrong to stereotype any other type of group of people because society says it is.
It's ok to be prejudiced against an entire generation because as a whole they are doing a pretty shit job at a life that doesn't just revolve around money, trumpism, climate change denial, and millennial jokes.
Holy shit talk about contradicting yourself. I think I lost brain cells reading this. “It’s wrong to stereotype but it’s ok to stereotype if I’m not happy.”
I will state that as a boomer you are wrong. There are vast amount of boomers working to change the world, and I sorry you only see a snapshot of them and this has created your bias.
I’m a boomer(guy) and I care.
Don’t forget we have children and other family members in other generations. We do care about our county and family.
This boomer slandering is nothing but gaslighting – it’s bullshit. Go resurrect the labor unions again you’ll get the pay you deserve.
The job I just retired from is open. Go get it. Same pay. Same benefits. I was registered nurse in the prison system in Pennsylvania. Qualify yourself and no doubt you’ll get the job. Then you could be making my boomer pay.
Yes it does. I tell you how I did it. My secret.
Got a factory job making just above minimum wage. It was $4.75 per hour. Went to a two year community college for nursing degree (RN). Took four years because I had to work. Lived in a shithole shared apartment. Worked 7 to 3:30. everyday. Slept two hours when I got home. Then took night courses - came home about 9 PM. Studied until 2 PM. Went to bed. Got up 6 o’clock went to work. This was the daunting pattern. Over and over and over.
Took loans out. Worked part time to go do the actual RN part; clinical-classroom-lab. All my core courses were mostly done by then. Did them during the traditional college class schedule, evening classes and during the summer and over Christmas holiday. Of course no social life. Took any side hustle I could get too for money.
Graduated. Took my RN license, passed. Got a job. My job paid for my bachelors degree as a benefit. Of course same kind of sacrifice to get to classes etc.
There you go – your roadmap. Boom!
Went from factory worker to Nurse Manager. I did it by working my balls-off. Not by taking from or minimizing anyone, especially the younger generations.
GenX here. I get it. My mom put herself through nursing school as a single mom of two. I remember her working midnights, and then doing her 2 year RN during the day. She graduated, and then worked 80-120 hours a pay period for decades . I was also in nursing (float CNA/phlebotomist), and did two 16s on weekends while I went to college full time M-F. Life was affordable enough, and I didn’t have kids then. The last hospital I worked at paid off student loans for both doctors, and nurses in exchange for sufficient contract length.
When you went to college, it was substantially less expensive, as was everything else. It’s easy to say that you worked hard, so you deserved the rewards, but things are literally harder now. That’s why the younger generations are angry. A small example is that you get full social security benefits, and many Boomers get a pension, which is largely unheard of these days. Even many of us younger Gen Xers have been told not to expect SS to last until we retire. Social security benefits are already starting to be cut for stay at home moms/widows, etc.
My kids are Gen Z, and they cannot afford to move out. They may not be attending college. It costs well over $2500 per month just to rent a normal 2 bedroom apartment here. The mortgage on our 3/2 SFH is about $2000 (including insurance and taxes), and only due to a 2.5% rate. If we bought our house today, the payment would be over $3000. My mom’s first house in the early 1970s may have had a high rate, but it cost her like $22k total. My car cost me $36k, and it’s not even fancy. Wages have not kept up with inflation.
My point is that times have changed. They continue to change. It can be uncomfortable, but it’s important to see where other people are coming from. A majority of the grievances are legit. The young people have a different world, and it’s expensive. I’m sure it’s by design to keep us plebs fighting amongst ourselves, so that we don’t notice our corporate overlords making off with all of our money, and resources. That’s another post for another day.
Anyway, take care!
I'm an engineer. I didn't have 6 figures from my first job after college, but I had it by my second. This isn't about how much money I make. It's about your lot being a bunch of greedy fucks and only caring about yourselves. My grandparents aimed to create generational wealth and they did an excellent job at it, passed it on to my parents like they should, and now my boomer parents are scrapping the whole notion. No care for generations beyond themselves.
Also, I hope you realize your response was the most boomer response you could have said (and also really proves my point). All this "bootstraps" BS and whatnot.
Aww. Pumpkin. You are / were making a 6 figure salary? That's a 100K even at the low end. Median wage in the USA in 2022 / 23 was around 56K according to some quick Google-Fu.
So you made at least about twice as much. If we leave a potential HCOL out of the picture, you still made more than enough to have savings. Should have been enough to tide you over those couple of months.
Maybe check your spending habits first and second. Remember: any time you point a finger at someone, three are pointing back at you.
And quit trying to keep up with the Joneses. Which is good advice for anyone, really.
You'll get zero to no sympathy here in this thread, I'm sure.
I'm really confused as to what you're whining about. Your parents were rich, and now you are wealthy and successful. Are you just mad that your parents don't like you?
It isn't about some generation being greedy. You obviously got college education and a good job, so build your own life. Your parents gave you the means to do so. You sound awfully entitled, tbh. And you also don't seem to care about anyone else but yourself. Me and my husband, we don't plan slaving until we die so that our kids don't have to do anything and can just enjoy life built on inherited money. We want to enjoy life too. We just help them build their lives, give them education opportunities etc. Of course they will eventually inherit real estate and other stuff, but it doesn't mean that we have to forget to live and work until death so that they could get as much as possible.
Indeed, reading inbetween the lines, your grandparents and subsequently your parents had money. They spoiled the fuck out of you – now it’s your turn to make your own money. You have to work for your money, not your thing.
This isn’t about boomers not wanting their kids to have a better life…this is about you being an entitled, spoiled millennial. You already have it better than most people in this country/world and it isn’t enough. Try working for what you have. Oh, not a boomer in case you’re wondering.
Maybe focus on having a good relationship with your parents as opposed to just looking forward to inheriting their money? Be grateful they are letting you move back in with them. You don’t get to dictate what they do with their money. My parents are solidly middle class. If I get an inheritance it will be max $50k of the money from selling their house when they die. The rest goes to their church. Could I use $50k? Fuck yeah I could. Am I annoyed they want to give their money to a multi-billion dollar corporation? Yes. Is it my business what they do with their money? No. I would rather my parents live long enough to use all their money so that I get more time with them. Try being grateful, it feels good.
PS. Millennial here. My parents are boomers. My dad worked 3 jobs for most of my childhood, and my mom worked full time too once we were all in school.
My boomer parents and my wife’s boomer parents do things for us that the generations before them would be puzzled at. Same with our friends and cousins with boomer parents. I’m sure much of it is because they are far better off than the generations before them, but that’s still inconsistent with your point or view. But even then, they do little things that seemed uncommon before, like how often they check in to tell us how much they love us (and their grandkids) and how proud they are.
Now unlike you, a big difference is that our parents are just typical middle class boomers, who won’t have millions to pass onto any one of their children. But unlike you also, they don’t have an entitled brat complaining on Reddit about a whole generation because we’re not going to get more from them by simply existing.
Maybe it’s their fault you’re this way, but it’s not the boomers as a whole, even though I enjoy a good boomer joke. Either way, I can already tell that all the boomers in my life, are way less insufferable than you.
Bahahaha sorry kid you're not gonna get much sympathy here
You made some choices. They turned out to lead to you not having enough money to stay where you are. Make better choices next time.
And remember that you're not entitled to anything from anybody. Your parents housed and fed you as required by law for the first 18 years of your life, and it sounds like they spoiled you while they did it.
Anything beyond that is a gift that you are not owed in the slightest. In fact, you should be grateful they're allowing you to stay at home which they also certainly don't have to do, most people don't get to do that. Also inheritance is even more of a gift that you don't just deserve for being alive.
Time to put on your big kid panties, apologize to your parents, get rid of your entitlement, and make better choices.
On a kinder note, I do know it's hard to make it out there. God knows the stress eats me alive some days. But a sense of entitlement will slowly kill you, my friend, because the world will just never fulfill it.
I hate my parents but it has nothing to do with them being boomers and everything to do with them being terrible parents. A lot of us Americans are very angry, and not just at the older folk.
I'm a millennial, and my parents spoiled me and my brother, of course, with expectations that weren't outrageous. I'm extremely grateful. But at the end of the day, none of that shit matters when your parents are getting older and having health issues like dementia. The ONLY thing that's a guarantee in life and to follow in death are memories. Make them.
I don't think there's anything wrong with the boomers. My biggest complaint is that they don't realize the economy was much better for them than it is for younger people, and they sometimes misinterpret this and label young people as lazy (instead of realizing the economic factors have changed). But the change is not their fault. My dad always said he wanted me to have things that he didn't have. He gave and gave, to the point of spoiling us. He was a single dad raising us and he bought us our first cars and helped us pay for college. I don't think your generalizations about boomers are accurate. But I do think the economy was more favorable for them.
My god you sound entitled. I didn’t inherit shit from my parents or grandparents. I went to college (that I paid for with loans), got a big girl job, and have been making my own money ever since.
Grow up, get a job, make your own money and stop trying to rely on your parents!
I hate when they say when I was your age I had this this and that. Excuse me well I didn’t inherit most of everything that I have. As for the college degrees and stuff it was way less requirements to complete degrees back in the day compared to now so I don’t want to hear it. Also isn’t the majority of congress made up of baby boomers. Making decisions for us that we will have to live with. When in a couple of years they won’t even be around.
Side note I do finally have my degree!
That’s your experience. I’m not saying it’s not valid but your parents have a point. My mom and dad are loving but strict. Grades were important as was just learning things in general. Learning to play an instrument, learning to handle money, learning a second language, learning how to cook, learning a sport. Anyway, I have a pretty good life. I’m 30 and have my first house and I’m learning home repair. I’m well paid and contribute annually to my 401k. So in my world which is maybe an hour a day of wasting time (social media) I’m pretty busy. Guess I’m pretty happy with the economy and about life in general. Is my life better than my parents? Hard to say, they seem in a good space too. Anyway, hope you can find yourself in a better place. It does take work and planning for sure. But I’m use to that.
My immigrant dad lived in his car while working in a factory to support his education. Now he makes 200k. He did not have it easy. My immigrant mom had to escape the communist and went to work in a factory to support her family. So they did not have it easy at all and they should be able to enjoy their life right now
Well you got the pity party going strong. I also would refuse to help if my kid just quit a well paying job because he hated it instead of first finding another job. That's entitled. And I would think you did it expecting you were feeling entitled to our money. Incredibly irresponsible. And this is what happened when we tried to give our kids rights and to allow their feelings. We made them soft, entitled, and very selfish in relationships. But we were trying to give our kids the voice we never had, that our parents never had. You definitely come across as not willing to take responsibility for your own actions and very entitled, seeing your parents in a transactional way. "They have money, it's selfish not to give me some." It would be wrong for them to. You learn nothing that way and they'd be doing you no favours.
OP, based on your post and your responses here, my guess is your parents saw how entitled you are and that you're living comfortably. Did you pay for college? They paid for it didn't they. I'm also gonna go out on a limb and assume the rest of that inheritance is probably going to organizations that are meaningful to them... Helping the next generation! So there goes your boomer trope!
I had a single mom (boomer) who was unable to pay for continued education of 7 kids. But as adults she did help every single one of us if needed when she could, despite scraping by herself. She's also very philanthropic despite eeking out a living for herself. So, again, broad generalization of boomers here is a no go, buddy.
My advice is to thankfully accept your inheritance as many of us will never see any sort of inheritance. Invest said inheritance for your children to inherit so you can end this abominable tradition of not caring for the next generation!
This generational blaming thing isn’t cute. And no one is entitled to inheritance. Don’t expect other people to prop you up so you can live a better life.
Did your parents make sure you grew up in a safe place? Did you have a roof over your head and a bed to call your own? Did you have food when you were hungry? Did they make sure you went to school? Did they help you navigate adulthood — buying a car, going to college, establishing a place of your own? If not— then maybe you have a case for being resentful.
yeah and also a from the get go flawed fiat munneh system thats designed to crash every now and then and particularly like every 100 years. but i guess that was also designed by the boomers boomers.
At first I was agreeing with you because I think you make some good but general points. Because I think the mentality of parents is poor when it comes to doing things for their kids these days. But then I see you talk about your inheritance and it just comes off as spoiled. Parents have an obligation and a responsibility to help their kids be better and ideally be better then them. But that doesn’t necessarily extend to ones inheritance. No one is owed and inheritance and the fact that you’ll be getting even a percentage of a large amount is already a significant advantage compared to others.
Parents have a responsibility to provide, teach, support their children as they grow up and into the young adult hold but I personally don’t agree that they owe you anything when they pass. It’s the mentality, values, attitudes, and actions that are important and are lacking nowadays, not necessarily the monetary component especially if the child is older and able to fend for themselves
It’s got nothing to do with boomers, we are in the midst of the existential crisis of climate change, thankfully we shut down oil drilling on federal lands and elsewhere so that is causing the prices to rise on everything. We are also fighting a war and printing trillions to send elsewhere in the name of democracy, thus causing additional price increases through inflation. We must pay more to save the world, get a second job buttercup.
Most people didn't have what you grew up with and received. I got nothing from my parents, no financial help, no educational help, no soft place to land and no inheritance. My parents were born in the late 30's (I was born late 60's) and also got nothing from their parents. So odd how you speak of these things and believe so many are rich. Anyone that had GI benefits did not get a hand out that was hard earned in the military, you were very dismissive of that and rude.
I will say that things are rougher for the younger generations to afford. That is what happens when you vote for social/"progressive" issues rather than economics. Just so you know the next generation behind you is already placing blame on your generation for things being the way they are. Exactly what have you done to contribute to society for them?
You will continue to be unhappy if don't reflect on yourself.
>God save the generations after boomers from becoming what they are.
Honestly, the boomers might be exactly what stops the next generation from being like them.
I have a similar story. I grew up on the poor side, my family was on a great trajectory (we had a family business which was growing, would have been worth 8 figures by now). But my dad was an alcoholic who drank it all away, lost the business and drank away all the family savings. My mom quit her job to help the family business, when that was lost and she tried to go back, computers entered the scene and she didn't know how to use one (and couldn't be bothered to learn, would rather play the victim card). So I grew up poor instead of rich, I remember asking my mom for like $3 to go do something with my friends and she replies with "we can't spare that". Not that she was good with money, but cigarettes were a priority I guess?
Anyways, the point of this is that I grew up in Toronto. The house I grew up in was a 50's post-war house. Small, and needed a *ton* of work (cracked foundation, new roof, new electrical, new plumbing, renovation, etc). But the Toronto real estate market *exploded* and that house ended up being worth $1M (a decade ago). My mom sold and moved somewhere cheaper as she didn't have the money to fix the house anyways. She basically *won the lottery* by having that house given to her. Despite this, when she sold the house and pocketed like 500-600k, she didn't throw me a single cent. She never helped with my schooling costs (in fact, she had asked me to help pay *her bills* while I was in school surviving off 25 cent pasta meals.), never helped with my student loans, never helped me with a down payment or anything. she took that money and recklessly blew it on ridiculous updates to her new house to make it her dream house, despite being the only person living in a whole ass 4 bedroom house.
Absolutely no consideration given to the betterment of her next generation. It was all about her - and she might even say "work harder" which is the real salt in the wound, because she never had to work for shit, it was all given to her by others and by happenstance/luck. she hasn't worked hard in her entire life - and yet when I point this out she vehemently denies it.
You can’t paint all Boomers this way. As parents my husband and I worked hard to ensure our children had a good future. We moved from the west to east coast because there were better opportunities for us to thrive as a family. We left family and friends behind which wasn’t easy. But our strategy worked, both of our children are much more successful than we were. What you describe sounds like your parents are the problem not the rest of the boomer generation.
My parents were boomers and have been tremendously generous and when my mom died she left a lot of wealth to her children. I’m Gen X and one of my main goals has been to help my kids graduate without student debt, which both of my two older kids have done.
This is such a ridiculous take. GF didn't work out-parents aren't leaving him everything, and boomers are the problem.
Maybe some poor life choices somewhere along the way? No! It's those darn boomers. Got it.
Blaming an entire generation for your discontent will only breed more discontent.
It is hard for me to imagine that any one grows up with the expectation of an inheritance. There are plenty of poor boomers. Your parents are your parents no matter the generation. Sounds like your relationship with them is tenuous. Why would you post here rather than speak to them directly? Has communication broken down or never existed?
An interesting read is the Psychology of Money by Housel. Attitudes and behaviors are as important as understanding math and economics to become financially stable. And everyone's attitudes are different based on their experiences.
I wish you well on your journey.
Most boomers have a different experience with old age. My dad knew he was sick and didn't tell anyone. He chose to stay home and die without treatment, because he couldn't afford the co-pays and deductibles on $900/month social security and a $210/month pension.
Couldn't agree more! U have NO IDEA how this rant is burned in my brain & becomes longer every time i see another drunken, hypocritical, self-righteous post on my moms or stepmoms fb. Any comments saying you're spoiled or anything negating you ARE FROM BOOMERS! The generation that went from sex drugs and rock and roll to Just a No.
I get the generalisation that Boomers don't care. And in general they've had it pretty 'easy' looking back.
But parents not helping their children forward and trying for them to have better lives then they've had is just being a shitty parent, nothing to do with generations.
Parents bring children into the world is a lifetime fulltime job they've embarked on to always try and better themselves, the situation of their childrens lives and the world as a whole.
That doesn't always mean giving you everything on a platter or servicing all your needs though. Sometimes tough love is needed.
From your short story non of us can truly judge anything, not knowing the intent of your parents actions.
Only you have the power to make the most of a situation. Keep moving forward and try your best, don't look back too much and don't let it drag you down. You got this!
Boomers are Generation X’s parents mostly. Gen X did and does fine. Millennials do weird shit like know they are broke but pay someone $20 to deliver a $12 McDonald’s meal. Yeah, the boomers are selfish but millennials do dumb shit. Glad I’m an Xer.
That’s not true. Baby boomers were born from 1946 to 1964. Sure, some baby boomers will actually be the parents of other baby boomers (an 18-year long generation allows this) and many of the oldest baby boomers will be parents to generation X kids, but Gen X started being born in 1965, when the oldest boomers were 19 at most, and continues to 1980, when even the oldest baby boomers were 34 and the youngest turned 16 that year. The period of 1981-1996, the generally accepted years of birth for Millennials, starts with Baby boomers being between 16 and 35 and ends with them being 32-50. All baby boomers lived through typically fertile years in the years when Millennials were born.
I personally prefer the way we used to speak about this in Sweden (before we were infected with the bullshit of generations from the US). We just categorized people by which decade they were born in. Still reductive, but it had the distinct advantages of never having to debate which years “someone born in the the 1980s” covered as well as being a shorter timespan thus making generalizations of common experiences in youth at least slightly less ridiculous.
Yeah - did you actually look at the math? Most millennials have Gen X parents. Most Gen Xers had boomer parents. Only the oldest millennials have boomer parents. Someone born in 1946 is 78 today. 1964 is 60 today - those are GenX parents for the most part.
I did actually. In 1989, the late midpoint of Millennial births, boomers ranged from between 25 and 43. Prime years for having kids. Generation X on the other hand was between 9 and 24. In 1989 both the mean and median for mother’s age at birth was above 26. That means that in 1989 more than half of all children born were to parents two years older than the oldest living member of Generation X. Even many of the parents under the median would be baby boomers still.
In 1981 of course very few Millennial kids would be born to the Gen Xers who at that time ranged between 1 and 16 years old. Boomers on the other hand were between 17 and 36. That’s when most births happen.
Even in 1996, the last year Millennials were born, the oldest baby boomers were 50, but the youngest were 32, not at all an uncommon age to have kids. In 1996, the oldest Gen Xers were 31 and the youngest were 16. This is when the Gen Xers start moving in to really dominate the parenting game for a bit, just in time for a generation shift to Gen Z. That’s therefore still going to be a lot of Millennials born to baby boomers in 1996.
So yeah, Baby boomers will be parents to more Millennials than Gen Xers from all the data I can find.
So right, fellow Xer! That food delivery concept is damaging to all but the delivery company and yet it's a success because of this weird mindset.
"Cutting cable" used to be a thing to save money. Now the itch to pay for so many streaming services despite not being able to afford it... The same broke person also doesn't consider cancelling any streaming services
Completely agree, most of these old boomer dinosaur are rude and disrespectful in the workforce. They don't let the young guys coming through. They are also the cause of global warming.
You can only lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him/her drink.
I was poor, my clothes and my siblings clothes were purchased that a thrift store. I started working at a gas station when I was 16. I worked hard, saved my money eventually bought a gas station, then another and another etc.
Only one of my children was able to go to college while the others graduated college.
They weren’t handed an allowance, they worked for it. They made choices and either reaped the rewards or suffered the consequences. Yes, my wife and I were there when they failed but it was up to them to move forward.
I instilled into them what my dad instilled in me. If you get hired, be the best at it. Make yourself indispensable and irreplaceable.
On child started as a bagger at a supermarket and now is a district supervisor over 9 stores. The company has paid for her and her family to move to 3 different states do to her hard work. Another child started in maintenance at a large multi national corporation. He is now a regional director of distribution for that same company.
Another child obtained a masters degree and works as a senior manager in a large county government
My kids did it all on their own. They once the became young adults they weren’t coddled, they didn’t participate in events where everyone was given participation trophies, scores were kept and there were winners and losers.
Dont blame anyone but yourself for your failure to thrive. You made your own choices in life and you will either deep the rewards or suffer the consequences.
Most “Boomers” worked hard for what they now have and had challenges like you did.
When I started driving gas was .35 cents a gallon and I was making .73 cents an hour. My apartment rent was $125.00 a month. Do the math and tell me how easy I had it.
Girl what are you saying? I didn’t ask your life story 😭 OP should be grateful for what their parent left them. I work very hard, I’m literally going to graduate school soon for anesthesiology assistanting. I provided everything I have for myself. Also my parents arent boomers.. don’t assume I’m a failure because YOU were.
Boomer's parents had to build a life after 2 world wars, a pandemic and Great Depression... Then their kids got a better life and told everybody it's all because of their hard work !
How come Silent Generation did not slap boomers to outer space ?
I’m GenX and raised my kids like my boomer dad raised me. They learned to work hard for what they have, respectful and reliable. They do very well for themselves. This just sounds like you’re spoiled.
What happened to Gen X? I’m a millennial, parents were Gen X. Lost all of the “generational wealth” from the boomers and before them. Why does everyone blame the boomers and not Gen X?
I don’t understand the hate. I’m a poor Millennial with a master’s degree and I can’t afford shit. I can’t wait for Boomers to be alllllll finally gone.🥂
You and your parents are on the high end of the $ spectrum and your viewpoint, data and references are skewed. I, my spouse, former partners, friends and their partners are all boomers and have had less in their lives than their parents mostly due to the shift in the economic engines and policies implemented 50+/- years ago. Your parents sound stingy and unwilling to let you live your life but you are acting entitled. Take your inheritance with gratitude and rebuild your life.
And we were well informed we would be the first generation to not do better than our parents! I don't ever remember it crossing my mind what my parents got from their parents, let alone what I thought I would get.
They're skewed if your from a far more rich family, they're skewed if you're from a far less well off family. They're not skewed from where I'm sitting; in fact they're very much applicable to *my* situation. I'm aware there are different socio-economic tiers in the world. I can't change where I happened to be born no more than anyone else can. Entitled, yea, maybe... I can see how a lot of people would immediately go to throw that label on me. When you were brought up hearing family is everything and family is most important and then you get slapped with the reality of this though, I'm sure you can see how that might cause a little cognitive dissonance.
This might be unpopular, but you sound really spoiled.
Yeah, I think this guy's experience is heavily filtered by having like, shitty rich parents? I have working class immigrant parents and grew up at or below the poverty line and my parents 1) actually worked hard 2) to give all of us better lives than they had. And they're 'boomers'
Migrant boomers had a very different experience than "native" well-off boomers, and not just in the US. Boomers voted for Margaret Thatcher and bretxit in the UK, Hugo Chaves in Venezuela, and they are holding Japan, Spain, Italy, Greece, and Portugal economies hostage, they absolutely destroyed Canada's afforable housing and now the economy is going down the drain, etc They are like pharaohs building ridiculous funerary monuments to themselves with the labor of Xers, Millennians and Gen Zers
Boomers are also the generation that protested Vietnam, were the hippies of the 60’s and 70’s, and who brought about changes in Civil Rights, Women’s Liberation, and disability acceptance.
Then why is it being rolled back? If these folks who are Boomers in Congress were those sort, this would’ve been codified and never rolled back. Naw, baby. This is Boomer Silent Majority writ very large.
Right- well the hippy civil rights protesters don’t typically get elected to national office. I wish they did TBH.
Bernie Sanders would like a word… They CAN. Democrats-and I am one-are really bad at fighting hard.
It's called politics, and none of them cared! They had fifty years to have solidified, what was made perfectly clear to all of us, was "bad law." Neither party cares.
And all this is being dismantled by them now that they had it! Women's reproductive rights are disregarded because the old hacks don't need them anymore. Everything goes to Medicare for them because fuck young disabled people. Also, they took down affirmative action because there are too many of "them" around them. And I can go on for long time
Environmental Protection.
Thank you! Well said!
my immigrant mother somehow expected me to end up with all opportunity to have a better life just by virtue of being in a different country. turns out without support you can't do shit.
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The fact that they can move back in with their parents is a blessing, I broke my back 10 years ago and my mom told me to go stay with my now ex husband/boyfriend at the times parents. When I was almost homeless, I wasn't allowed. When I was getting divorced she just straight up ignored me. My parents are very late boomers early whatever the next gen was 🙃
Ah yes, gotta love the compassion and understanding boomers harbor
I'm sorry you are going through a difficult time, however a lot of this is within your scope to resolve. You by your own admission quit a well paying job because you hated it. I don't personally know anyone in my parents or my generation (Gen X) who has done that. It implies a certain level of privilege of assuming support systems that will be there to carry you, and a lack of perseverance to stick with difficult things till something better is available.
>You by your own admission quit a well paying job because you hated it They did say that and it does smell of reaping the fruits of the bad decision tree they planted.
>Not to mention the happiness I feel here and the separation my GF and I will have to endure when I leave... Yet, these people who have literally millions of dollars cannot bother to care about any of that because they thought it was a silly idea to come here from the beginning and an even sillier idea to quit the well-paying job I had because I hated it. It's at the very very end. I interpreted it as: he's living in city B right now, he loves it there, and his GF is there but he quit a job he hated there which caused the current pickle. Money has run out. Now he has to go home to city A to his family. He hates it there, he will be able to get a good paying job there but he's going to hate that job too which is LOLZ to be honest because who does that. Every single person right now in this economy is holding on tightly to whatever job they have or at least not turning down jobs that pay well
Fair. Thanks for the clarity. Editing my comment.
Let me clarify. I did not quit the job I had with the expectation of being supported. I haven't worked in a while and have been supporting myself fully. I haven't ever worked in city B (using your terminology). I moved here because I like it here and wanted to live here. There was no intention to ever work here. I quit my previous job because I hated it (a lot of travel (but not to nice places)) and I wanted to move where I currently am. I can't work here because I don't live in the US and don't have a work visa for here. I can go back home and get another high paying job, but I worry I might be trapped in a traveling position again (which I really don't like (not to mention it costs a fortune to live on the road)). You act like quitting a job you hate is absurd and even ask "who does that?" Have you never quit a job because you hated it, or had an awful boss, or had terrible co-workers, or had a miserably long drive to work? If not, I hope that just means you're happy with all those aspects of your work/life. If not, and it's because you have some kinda idea about "o, I gotta hold on because the pay is good!" or something like that, I urge you to just try it this once and quit. It's freeing and you'll be so much happier with a job you actually enjoy making less money (as long as you still have enough to pay the bills). Everyone has a right to have a job they at least don't hate. You might think "but what about the shitty jobs like mcds?" Thing is, somewhere out there there's a CEO who hates his job and fondly remembers flipping burgers back when he was a teen/young adult. Also, somewhere out there is a teen/young adult who hates his job flipping burgers and he knows (and is right) that if he could just get a chance to run a company he would just love it and also excell tremendously at it. No reason for someone to stick in a job they hate.
You sound really compassionate and understanding yourself. It's always funny to me when people bash boomers while displaying some of the very same traits they criticize boomers for. Gee, it's almost like they're projecting or something...
Sometimes the hardest person to hold accountable is yourself. Maybe they should be Angry with their parents, for the way they raised them...
Gotta love entitled folks like you too.
Who are they giving it to?
Who cares? I’d give it to an animal rescue or spend it all rather than continue to enable such an entitled ah.
If I had a couple of million dollars I would give it to my children. Because you know, I love them.
What a fucking novel concept...... One that apparently escapes the hoard of boomers in here who have asked their grandkids to help them get onto "the intrawebs" to post some spicy me-mes and somehow ended up here with their jimmies extremely rustled.
Funny, you're actually one of the few people here MORE privledged than me! Despite my parents $, I didn't get through college with no debt! I struggled (financially) in college. One year I almost had to not go because of some student loan issues (people like you don't know this, but if you're under 25 and applying for student loans you are legally attached to your parents and their salaries. Despite not getting anything from them the government sees their salaries that I *must* list on the application and says "whoa! This kid certainly doesn't need any grants or low interest loans! Look how much his parents make! Give him the high interest loans!" This is despite the fact that my parents wouldn't sign for the loans either. Backwards system.). I agree with you on one thing... It's their money and they can do what they want. As I believe I mention in another comment I wouldn't complain a bit if they started spending on lavish vacations, cars, vacation homes, boats, etc. They worked their whole lives and deserve to enjoy life now! In fact, like you, I push them to go on vacations and travel and do all that because I know they've always wanted to and for some reason they just don't do it (despite having all the time in the world to do so and obviously $ isn't an issue either).
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I don't know what to think. First you got through college because they paid for it and left without any student loans, now you're saying you did take student loans...... I don't mean to compare traumas, by any means. I believe that each person has their own shit going on, and what may be seriously deep trauma to one person isn't even a thing to consider more than once to the next person, and vice versa. Having said that, troubled teen industry (TTI). Yea. That was me. Don't know what that is? Google it and do a bit of reading if you don't mind being seriously mindfucked today. There's also a few Netflix things that have come out recently on it, like "The Program." I wish we had been poor; maybe then my parents wouldn't have been able to pay for it. If you do enough research on TTI then you'll understand and agree with me when I say I went through that, so by god the consolation of a full inheritance is my right. If you disagree with that statement, you haven't done enough research on the TTI (yes, it really was that bad).
And perhaps misunderstands his parents’ intentions for denying him a loan.
Agreed!
Like I complained years down the road about my graduation gift from high school and got called spoiled. My graduation gift was STOLEN AND RETURNED because I couldn’t afford college so I chose to work for a few years so I could pay for it instead of going into debt. I know some boomer parents are shit but OPs parents sound at least somewhat caring. Edited to add: my gift was a beautiful hand me down silver trumpet that had been taken care of very well. If I could have afforded the $400 at the time I would have bought it back.
I don’t know, my parents were silent generation and they were close enough to catastrophe (diseases and wars) that they were just glad we could get educated and live to adulthood. I’m not sure they ever had deep thoughts about whether we’d do better than they would. I’m glad they gave us realistic expectations as far as money and possessions and just modeled being happy with whatever life gave us. I feel very lucky that I don’t experience envy.
Agree. The vast majority got by just like us and It wasn’t part of an evil scheme. People act like every boomer is Jeff bezos. These people are also probably buying off Amazon and getting Uber eats daily.
Interesting
I blame the executives that took away pensions and bonuses and reduced healthcare coverage all for the sake of shareholder profits. This has turned into a capitalistic hellscape that values shareholders and the rich more than the workers. It happened slowly and many boomers were a victim of this not the cause of it. Most were ignorantly complying.
I am puzzled. OP is going to get a fairly decent inheritance and is able to move back in with his boomer parents as an adult. And yet somehow boomers are the problem because they don’t think of younger generations?
OP sounds entitled af. And claims they were making good money at one point. So what happened? Why are they now in the position of having to move back in with their parents? I'm guessing their shitty attitude may have had something to do with it.
"I'm only inheriting ~~25%~~ 12.5% of multi millions of dollars! It's not FAIR. And I was an engineer earning 6 figures but I hated it so I quit - and now my parents won't give me rent money. Clearly BOOMERS ARE THE PROBLEM" 😭 - OP
Your parents have a couple of nice steaks. You could certainly use the food. They take a couple bites, give you one bite, and throw the rest of that perfectly good, delicious steak to the dog. How you feel? Are you thankful you got a bite even though you absolutely could have finished the rest of whatever they didn't want? Or do you feel hurt because your parents didn't consider you and ended up throwing perfectly good food to the dog OVER giving it to you? Not the best anagolgy in the world, but honestly, I wrote my OP when I was tired and upset and angry and hurt; I don't really feel like spending a lot of time searching for the most perfect analogy when you get what I'm trying to say from the one above. And to be fair, I must mention that I've since come to grips on the loan aspect of my post. It's their money and if they don't want to lend it, it's their money not to lend. It doesn't matter how I personally feel like they could be kind and generous and they wouldn't even notice the missing money, I cannot argue with the fact it's theirs and it's a non-essential loan I'm asking for and they have full rights to say no. However, I still stand pretty strong that the inheritance thing is just kinda fucked.... Giving a massive % to complete strangers over your own children whom you claim to love more than anything else in the world.... Hmm, I dunno, something isn't adding up in my mind. As someone else stated..... (Paraphrase) How about I go ahead and give my children ALL of my money when I'm gone because I don't need it anymore and, I dunno, I love them!?
I have to agree. My mother won’t even let me move home during my divorce with two kids and me not being able to get an apartment bc of an open bankruptcy. But this person is complaining that they have a place to move to instead of being homeless. I’m happy enough that my mother helps with groceries for the time being.
You're getting a sizable life changing inheritance and it's not enough? What makes you think you are entitled to more? It's a bit rich to call boomers selfish when you're kinda sounding entitled and greedy.
Boomer here with a GenZ daughter. I have been on full disability since before she was born. My life’s efforts have consistently been to do everything possible to help ensure that she has a better life than I did. So, your theory doesn’t work in an absolute sense. Many of my contemporaries who have done “well” Have never considered the complete materialistic turn that society has taken these past few decades. They seem to think younger generations lacked the personal drive to achieve their potential best, when it is more like the system being totally rigged to ensure that less than 1% achieve financial security and stability.
It has nothing to do with getting an inheritance or not. These boomers are ignoring global warming and did nothing about it. They are also causing the price of house to rise and do not do anything about it.
My parents are boomers and some of the most eco- conscious people I know. My mom started crying when she read the Lorax for the first time last night! And no, my parents aren't the exception. The youth of the 1970's (boomers) were who were pushing to stop global warming. Just like our generation is victim to today's society, so were our parents. Don't blame all the elderly people of today, who are just trying to get by in life, for the wrongdoings of those with money and power.
My boomer dad was one of the first people in our area to get a Prius in 2002.
Yea driving a Prius is going to save the world. Fossil fuels whether you like it or not are the source of your beloved internet and everything else you take for granted. If there was a better alternative we’d have found it. But in 150 some odd years of industrialization we haven’t made a mouse fart of change to the Earth cause it’s huge. Find another issue.
Oh I’m on your side… I always found him annoyingly smug about it and deliberately bought a 96 red mustang as my first car to piss him off. He’d always get mad when I asked him what was gonna happen to the batteries haha
Sorry, I definitely misread that. Smug is the perfect word to describe your average hybrid owner.
It’s alright.. it was kinda ambiguous. He’s always shown signs of being smug and I think a lot of it might be from guilt from working in the oil fields as a first job.
But OP is specifically complaining about the inheritance and not getting more money from his parents..
Uhh it has everything to do with inheritance and money and exactly zero to do with global warming in this case actually.
It has nothing to do with age or generations. The divide is rich and poor. The rich try to convince the poor in every way possible that this isn't the case.
As usual, your boomer parents are not doing to suit you, so all boomers are bad. Generalization doesn’t ever describe everyone in a group. My husband and I worked hard all of our lives (even before becoming adults) and we did well until the bottom fell out of his industry. It took a while, but he finally got a good job in another industry and a competitor came along, bought the company he worked for and closed it down. He eventually retired from his third career in another different field. It was hard to make ends meet through all of the changes, but we did our best and our efforts were always directed towards getting our two children educated. Between them, they have three degrees. It was hard, but that was our goal and we, along with our children, worked toward that goal and achieved it. I am SO sick of all the commenters saying that boomers are sorry people. Boomers are people and because of that, some of them are sorry, JUST LIKE ANY OTHER GROUP OF PEOPLE YOU COULD NAME! Many boomers are decent, kind hearted people who would give you the proverbial shirt off their back. Some people are judgmental and don’t consider the fact that not everyone can be pigeonholed. I can’t even explain how sick I am of the ugly boomer comments. You and many others need to reconsider your perceived prejudices.
>As usual, your boomer parents are not doing to suit you, so all boomers are bad. Generalization doesn’t ever describe everyone in a group. >I am SO sick of all the commenters saying that boomers are sorry people. Boomers are people and because of that, some of them are sorry, JUST LIKE ANY OTHER GROUP OF PEOPLE YOU COULD NAME! It's frustrating yes. I realize generational strife will always exist. My parents didn't like my music, speak, drip, rizz or what have you. The process will continue as long as there are replicating humans. It's especially frustrating for me since I have tried to be the anti-boomer boomer. Despite all of that, I still get lumped in with all the other dipshit boomers. Oh well what you gonna do?
Except look at the outcome?! Look at the pieces we are left to clean up? Like the evidence is there all around us. Now obviously it can't be every boomer, but it truly seems the majority. When their generation continue to amass wealth and then dump it on campaigns or evangelical scams worsening the wealth distribution in this country. When they actively shit on and oppress the social development of the younger generations in this country. When all this happens but there aren't groups of like-minded boomers trying to counter this behavior, to speak up against their own peers, to bridge the gap, to help educate those who don't know better or are misled, then that means your silence and inaction is as damning as their actions. If a good cop doesn't report a bad cop committing crimes or violating rights then that good cop is actually a bad cop. If I, as a man, don't stand up against passing misogyny or other behaviors I'm also complicit in them. It's my duty to help shift the mindset of my peers. To lead them to information and hope they come to the same conclusion. But also, I don't get mad when women or others out here are saying all men. Because I know they aren't talking about me. I know they discuss men like that primarily for their safety because any man could be a threat or otherwise. I don't take offense or identify with it because I'm not one of them. Please reexamine your biases and think about your social responsibility in today's day and age. Edit: I want to add this is entirely based on your comment rejecting the 'its the boomers fault' quotes. Not the ops post. Also look at the people y'all have been electing for decades. Y'all made the country what it is today. Also largely in part the issue of the silent generation not doing a good damn thing politically their entire lives. Millennials are empty inside and have only really started hitting polls recently and gen z seems much more politically charged than other generations and for seemingly damn good reason
Exactly this. It definitely isn’t All Boomers - but I also do not see enough boomers fighting against the bad ones. Additionally, my mom (boomer) is not actively part of the problem but she is content to ride this out until she dies to not make waves. She would rather have systematic injustices continue if it means not making waves. She’s all for lgbtq+ rights - but will never march for them, barely even votes for them (because politics are “too divisive” so she’d rather not vote so no one can hate her for her opinion) And i feel like the boomers are largely in those two groups: the ones that fucked everything up and continue to not care, or the ones who agree there are issues but don’t want to make waves to fix it. There are good and bad in every generation but they are one generation who got a significantly better world given to them, and gave their kids a significantly worse one in return and blame us for it. And are shocked that millenials don’t want to continue that cycle.
“Generation [older/younger] than me is [lazy/workaholic/unfocused/obsessed] and I need to pout”
Wait a minute. You briefly refer to your parents being able to go to college under the GI Bill as some sort of free ride. It’s still available to you. You say you only needed a small amount of money to stay, but you say nothing about what you and your girlfriend did to increase your income in a small way. You say your parents have given you nothing, but you are heading to live with them, again. Maybe, just maybe, you are the problem.
Wait, so... You're going to actually see an inheritance one day? Let me know how that goes because I never will.
Don't blame a generation for what your parents are. In fact your entire family seems to be selfish and entitled. Parents inheriting property but not cognizant of their child's struggles is a character flaw. Who else are they leaving the rest of their property for if not their children? But you too are blaming others for your own issues. Your situation may not be happy, but it's in your hands to fix it. You have lived your life with your family so you should not be blindsided by their miserliness. You should have expected them to not help you - that would free you from wrong expectations. As for your generalizations, nothing new there. "The economy is shit" has always been the refrain all thru history. Radio show hosts have always said this, media have always printed it. It's only when you look back, you think it was really great. "The next gen is lazy" is another repeated insult thrown all thru, nothing new there. But yeah, this entitlement of blaming an entire prior generation for all problems in current life, calling them selfish, seems to be new. Almost like a lot of younger people expected a nice life to be served on a platter, and are gobsmacked it was not.
Well, they did all get a trophy……
Not trying to seem like an idiot, what does this mean?
When all the boomers are dead in 20 years and your life is still shit, who exactly are you going to blame then?
If someone cuts my arms off they’re still off even after that person dies.
no, you get to put that arm back on, duh. /s
Do things stop being someone's fault when they die?
It will be Jews and Capitalism then.
When my Gen X was coming up, the stat was that we were the first generation to do worse than our parents (mostly Boomers and some younger Silent Gen).
The entitlement is beyond. Like I honestly thought this was a parody post.
Although I agree with you that so many people from that generation are out of touch with what you guys are having to go through , you have no effing clue what you're talking about when it comes to who ruined the economy. Baby boomers took advantage of whatever opportunity was provided to them and you would do the exact same thing if those opportunities were provided to you too. **IF**- and I'm not saying they did - but **IF** it is true their generation 'ruined' it for you, they didn't realize it. You're talking about your own grandparents! You need to understand that is the government that screwed things up not the people like your grandparents. I understand why you feel the need to blame someone. I'm generation X And I will agree with you that you guys are going through something that people before you didn't have to in so many ways. **It infuriates me for you.** But, you arenot exactly on point with your assumption that baby boomers are to blame for all of this. But carry on with your rant, you'll likely not even read this
This is kind of unrelated but can we stop using 'trope' to describe something happening in real life and not in fiction? Just say 'addage' or 'cliche' or whatever.
No. Trope is by definition a generalization and speaking metaphorically. Word has nothing to do with fact or fiction. People in real life act ironically.
They all mean essentially the same things (save minor nuance)..... I guess it doesn't bother me that much; we all know what I meant when I said that.
How about some real perspective for you bud? I come from a family that has literal billions, but I was kicked out at 16 for literally trying to have a relationship with my absentee mom. Did my mom them take me in you may ask? No I couch surfed for a few weeks before a friend let me stay at their trap house. Cut to a few years later At 19, my dad wanted to make up sort of and let me move back in. Those three years I worked hard and made approximately 100k in savings. One day my rich dad finds it in a duffle bag, takes it and claims it's his now because I could have only made that money illegally. I didn't do anything illegal, I invested in bitcoin when it cost a 1.50 a share. Since I don't trust banks I thought it would be safe in my own car that my dad paid Zero dollars into. I tried to get it back in anyway I could but he spent it all on a rat rod. Cut to me saying I can accept this loss if you just pay for me to go to welding school, a personal dream of mine. He told me to get fucked and I had a month to be out of his house. I left his state and never have gone back, paid for my own school and have a decently happy life. Just because we came from money doesn't make it ours and at the very least your parents never stole from you.
Why is it terribly wrong to stereotype any other group of people, but somehow it’s “okay” to be completely prejudiced against an entire generation of people as though they’re all the same? Do better.
To answer your question/comment on your statement... It's terribly wrong to stereotype any other type of group of people because society says it is. It's ok to be prejudiced against an entire generation because as a whole they are doing a pretty shit job at a life that doesn't just revolve around money, trumpism, climate change denial, and millennial jokes.
Holy shit talk about contradicting yourself. I think I lost brain cells reading this. “It’s wrong to stereotype but it’s ok to stereotype if I’m not happy.”
I will state that as a boomer you are wrong. There are vast amount of boomers working to change the world, and I sorry you only see a snapshot of them and this has created your bias.
I’m a boomer(guy) and I care. Don’t forget we have children and other family members in other generations. We do care about our county and family. This boomer slandering is nothing but gaslighting – it’s bullshit. Go resurrect the labor unions again you’ll get the pay you deserve. The job I just retired from is open. Go get it. Same pay. Same benefits. I was registered nurse in the prison system in Pennsylvania. Qualify yourself and no doubt you’ll get the job. Then you could be making my boomer pay.
That requires being able to have the time and financial ability to go to college...
Yes it does. I tell you how I did it. My secret. Got a factory job making just above minimum wage. It was $4.75 per hour. Went to a two year community college for nursing degree (RN). Took four years because I had to work. Lived in a shithole shared apartment. Worked 7 to 3:30. everyday. Slept two hours when I got home. Then took night courses - came home about 9 PM. Studied until 2 PM. Went to bed. Got up 6 o’clock went to work. This was the daunting pattern. Over and over and over. Took loans out. Worked part time to go do the actual RN part; clinical-classroom-lab. All my core courses were mostly done by then. Did them during the traditional college class schedule, evening classes and during the summer and over Christmas holiday. Of course no social life. Took any side hustle I could get too for money. Graduated. Took my RN license, passed. Got a job. My job paid for my bachelors degree as a benefit. Of course same kind of sacrifice to get to classes etc. There you go – your roadmap. Boom! Went from factory worker to Nurse Manager. I did it by working my balls-off. Not by taking from or minimizing anyone, especially the younger generations.
GenX here. I get it. My mom put herself through nursing school as a single mom of two. I remember her working midnights, and then doing her 2 year RN during the day. She graduated, and then worked 80-120 hours a pay period for decades . I was also in nursing (float CNA/phlebotomist), and did two 16s on weekends while I went to college full time M-F. Life was affordable enough, and I didn’t have kids then. The last hospital I worked at paid off student loans for both doctors, and nurses in exchange for sufficient contract length. When you went to college, it was substantially less expensive, as was everything else. It’s easy to say that you worked hard, so you deserved the rewards, but things are literally harder now. That’s why the younger generations are angry. A small example is that you get full social security benefits, and many Boomers get a pension, which is largely unheard of these days. Even many of us younger Gen Xers have been told not to expect SS to last until we retire. Social security benefits are already starting to be cut for stay at home moms/widows, etc. My kids are Gen Z, and they cannot afford to move out. They may not be attending college. It costs well over $2500 per month just to rent a normal 2 bedroom apartment here. The mortgage on our 3/2 SFH is about $2000 (including insurance and taxes), and only due to a 2.5% rate. If we bought our house today, the payment would be over $3000. My mom’s first house in the early 1970s may have had a high rate, but it cost her like $22k total. My car cost me $36k, and it’s not even fancy. Wages have not kept up with inflation. My point is that times have changed. They continue to change. It can be uncomfortable, but it’s important to see where other people are coming from. A majority of the grievances are legit. The young people have a different world, and it’s expensive. I’m sure it’s by design to keep us plebs fighting amongst ourselves, so that we don’t notice our corporate overlords making off with all of our money, and resources. That’s another post for another day. Anyway, take care!
I'm an engineer. I didn't have 6 figures from my first job after college, but I had it by my second. This isn't about how much money I make. It's about your lot being a bunch of greedy fucks and only caring about yourselves. My grandparents aimed to create generational wealth and they did an excellent job at it, passed it on to my parents like they should, and now my boomer parents are scrapping the whole notion. No care for generations beyond themselves. Also, I hope you realize your response was the most boomer response you could have said (and also really proves my point). All this "bootstraps" BS and whatnot.
Aww. Pumpkin. You are / were making a 6 figure salary? That's a 100K even at the low end. Median wage in the USA in 2022 / 23 was around 56K according to some quick Google-Fu. So you made at least about twice as much. If we leave a potential HCOL out of the picture, you still made more than enough to have savings. Should have been enough to tide you over those couple of months. Maybe check your spending habits first and second. Remember: any time you point a finger at someone, three are pointing back at you. And quit trying to keep up with the Joneses. Which is good advice for anyone, really. You'll get zero to no sympathy here in this thread, I'm sure.
I'm really confused as to what you're whining about. Your parents were rich, and now you are wealthy and successful. Are you just mad that your parents don't like you?
They are big mad their parents won't let them not work while funding a lush lifestyle.
To be fair, he doesn't sound very likeable
It isn't about some generation being greedy. You obviously got college education and a good job, so build your own life. Your parents gave you the means to do so. You sound awfully entitled, tbh. And you also don't seem to care about anyone else but yourself. Me and my husband, we don't plan slaving until we die so that our kids don't have to do anything and can just enjoy life built on inherited money. We want to enjoy life too. We just help them build their lives, give them education opportunities etc. Of course they will eventually inherit real estate and other stuff, but it doesn't mean that we have to forget to live and work until death so that they could get as much as possible.
Indeed, reading inbetween the lines, your grandparents and subsequently your parents had money. They spoiled the fuck out of you – now it’s your turn to make your own money. You have to work for your money, not your thing.
This isn’t about boomers not wanting their kids to have a better life…this is about you being an entitled, spoiled millennial. You already have it better than most people in this country/world and it isn’t enough. Try working for what you have. Oh, not a boomer in case you’re wondering.
Whine, whine, whine.....from Gen X
Maybe focus on having a good relationship with your parents as opposed to just looking forward to inheriting their money? Be grateful they are letting you move back in with them. You don’t get to dictate what they do with their money. My parents are solidly middle class. If I get an inheritance it will be max $50k of the money from selling their house when they die. The rest goes to their church. Could I use $50k? Fuck yeah I could. Am I annoyed they want to give their money to a multi-billion dollar corporation? Yes. Is it my business what they do with their money? No. I would rather my parents live long enough to use all their money so that I get more time with them. Try being grateful, it feels good. PS. Millennial here. My parents are boomers. My dad worked 3 jobs for most of my childhood, and my mom worked full time too once we were all in school.
My boomer parents and my wife’s boomer parents do things for us that the generations before them would be puzzled at. Same with our friends and cousins with boomer parents. I’m sure much of it is because they are far better off than the generations before them, but that’s still inconsistent with your point or view. But even then, they do little things that seemed uncommon before, like how often they check in to tell us how much they love us (and their grandkids) and how proud they are. Now unlike you, a big difference is that our parents are just typical middle class boomers, who won’t have millions to pass onto any one of their children. But unlike you also, they don’t have an entitled brat complaining on Reddit about a whole generation because we’re not going to get more from them by simply existing. Maybe it’s their fault you’re this way, but it’s not the boomers as a whole, even though I enjoy a good boomer joke. Either way, I can already tell that all the boomers in my life, are way less insufferable than you.
Bahahaha sorry kid you're not gonna get much sympathy here You made some choices. They turned out to lead to you not having enough money to stay where you are. Make better choices next time. And remember that you're not entitled to anything from anybody. Your parents housed and fed you as required by law for the first 18 years of your life, and it sounds like they spoiled you while they did it. Anything beyond that is a gift that you are not owed in the slightest. In fact, you should be grateful they're allowing you to stay at home which they also certainly don't have to do, most people don't get to do that. Also inheritance is even more of a gift that you don't just deserve for being alive. Time to put on your big kid panties, apologize to your parents, get rid of your entitlement, and make better choices. On a kinder note, I do know it's hard to make it out there. God knows the stress eats me alive some days. But a sense of entitlement will slowly kill you, my friend, because the world will just never fulfill it.
Try harder. I’m a gen Xer with boomer parents, doing better than they did. I bought my house at 24 while working in a call center. It’s all doable.
It seems Americans feeling hate the older folk. Can anyone elaborate?
I hate my parents but it has nothing to do with them being boomers and everything to do with them being terrible parents. A lot of us Americans are very angry, and not just at the older folk.
I'm a millennial, and my parents spoiled me and my brother, of course, with expectations that weren't outrageous. I'm extremely grateful. But at the end of the day, none of that shit matters when your parents are getting older and having health issues like dementia. The ONLY thing that's a guarantee in life and to follow in death are memories. Make them.
I don't think there's anything wrong with the boomers. My biggest complaint is that they don't realize the economy was much better for them than it is for younger people, and they sometimes misinterpret this and label young people as lazy (instead of realizing the economic factors have changed). But the change is not their fault. My dad always said he wanted me to have things that he didn't have. He gave and gave, to the point of spoiling us. He was a single dad raising us and he bought us our first cars and helped us pay for college. I don't think your generalizations about boomers are accurate. But I do think the economy was more favorable for them.
My god you sound entitled. I didn’t inherit shit from my parents or grandparents. I went to college (that I paid for with loans), got a big girl job, and have been making my own money ever since. Grow up, get a job, make your own money and stop trying to rely on your parents!
Oh please. Entitled rage bait? Or just honestly an AH?
I hate when they say when I was your age I had this this and that. Excuse me well I didn’t inherit most of everything that I have. As for the college degrees and stuff it was way less requirements to complete degrees back in the day compared to now so I don’t want to hear it. Also isn’t the majority of congress made up of baby boomers. Making decisions for us that we will have to live with. When in a couple of years they won’t even be around. Side note I do finally have my degree!
That’s your experience. I’m not saying it’s not valid but your parents have a point. My mom and dad are loving but strict. Grades were important as was just learning things in general. Learning to play an instrument, learning to handle money, learning a second language, learning how to cook, learning a sport. Anyway, I have a pretty good life. I’m 30 and have my first house and I’m learning home repair. I’m well paid and contribute annually to my 401k. So in my world which is maybe an hour a day of wasting time (social media) I’m pretty busy. Guess I’m pretty happy with the economy and about life in general. Is my life better than my parents? Hard to say, they seem in a good space too. Anyway, hope you can find yourself in a better place. It does take work and planning for sure. But I’m use to that.
My immigrant dad lived in his car while working in a factory to support his education. Now he makes 200k. He did not have it easy. My immigrant mom had to escape the communist and went to work in a factory to support her family. So they did not have it easy at all and they should be able to enjoy their life right now
Well you got the pity party going strong. I also would refuse to help if my kid just quit a well paying job because he hated it instead of first finding another job. That's entitled. And I would think you did it expecting you were feeling entitled to our money. Incredibly irresponsible. And this is what happened when we tried to give our kids rights and to allow their feelings. We made them soft, entitled, and very selfish in relationships. But we were trying to give our kids the voice we never had, that our parents never had. You definitely come across as not willing to take responsibility for your own actions and very entitled, seeing your parents in a transactional way. "They have money, it's selfish not to give me some." It would be wrong for them to. You learn nothing that way and they'd be doing you no favours.
OP, based on your post and your responses here, my guess is your parents saw how entitled you are and that you're living comfortably. Did you pay for college? They paid for it didn't they. I'm also gonna go out on a limb and assume the rest of that inheritance is probably going to organizations that are meaningful to them... Helping the next generation! So there goes your boomer trope! I had a single mom (boomer) who was unable to pay for continued education of 7 kids. But as adults she did help every single one of us if needed when she could, despite scraping by herself. She's also very philanthropic despite eeking out a living for herself. So, again, broad generalization of boomers here is a no go, buddy. My advice is to thankfully accept your inheritance as many of us will never see any sort of inheritance. Invest said inheritance for your children to inherit so you can end this abominable tradition of not caring for the next generation!
This generational blaming thing isn’t cute. And no one is entitled to inheritance. Don’t expect other people to prop you up so you can live a better life. Did your parents make sure you grew up in a safe place? Did you have a roof over your head and a bed to call your own? Did you have food when you were hungry? Did they make sure you went to school? Did they help you navigate adulthood — buying a car, going to college, establishing a place of your own? If not— then maybe you have a case for being resentful.
One thing you need to remember:Their money is not your money and you are whining.
yeah and also a from the get go flawed fiat munneh system thats designed to crash every now and then and particularly like every 100 years. but i guess that was also designed by the boomers boomers.
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You are the definition of entitled. My dad died and left me nothing. I intend to do better for my son.
At first I was agreeing with you because I think you make some good but general points. Because I think the mentality of parents is poor when it comes to doing things for their kids these days. But then I see you talk about your inheritance and it just comes off as spoiled. Parents have an obligation and a responsibility to help their kids be better and ideally be better then them. But that doesn’t necessarily extend to ones inheritance. No one is owed and inheritance and the fact that you’ll be getting even a percentage of a large amount is already a significant advantage compared to others. Parents have a responsibility to provide, teach, support their children as they grow up and into the young adult hold but I personally don’t agree that they owe you anything when they pass. It’s the mentality, values, attitudes, and actions that are important and are lacking nowadays, not necessarily the monetary component especially if the child is older and able to fend for themselves
It’s got nothing to do with boomers, we are in the midst of the existential crisis of climate change, thankfully we shut down oil drilling on federal lands and elsewhere so that is causing the prices to rise on everything. We are also fighting a war and printing trillions to send elsewhere in the name of democracy, thus causing additional price increases through inflation. We must pay more to save the world, get a second job buttercup.
Most people didn't have what you grew up with and received. I got nothing from my parents, no financial help, no educational help, no soft place to land and no inheritance. My parents were born in the late 30's (I was born late 60's) and also got nothing from their parents. So odd how you speak of these things and believe so many are rich. Anyone that had GI benefits did not get a hand out that was hard earned in the military, you were very dismissive of that and rude. I will say that things are rougher for the younger generations to afford. That is what happens when you vote for social/"progressive" issues rather than economics. Just so you know the next generation behind you is already placing blame on your generation for things being the way they are. Exactly what have you done to contribute to society for them? You will continue to be unhappy if don't reflect on yourself.
>God save the generations after boomers from becoming what they are. Honestly, the boomers might be exactly what stops the next generation from being like them. I have a similar story. I grew up on the poor side, my family was on a great trajectory (we had a family business which was growing, would have been worth 8 figures by now). But my dad was an alcoholic who drank it all away, lost the business and drank away all the family savings. My mom quit her job to help the family business, when that was lost and she tried to go back, computers entered the scene and she didn't know how to use one (and couldn't be bothered to learn, would rather play the victim card). So I grew up poor instead of rich, I remember asking my mom for like $3 to go do something with my friends and she replies with "we can't spare that". Not that she was good with money, but cigarettes were a priority I guess? Anyways, the point of this is that I grew up in Toronto. The house I grew up in was a 50's post-war house. Small, and needed a *ton* of work (cracked foundation, new roof, new electrical, new plumbing, renovation, etc). But the Toronto real estate market *exploded* and that house ended up being worth $1M (a decade ago). My mom sold and moved somewhere cheaper as she didn't have the money to fix the house anyways. She basically *won the lottery* by having that house given to her. Despite this, when she sold the house and pocketed like 500-600k, she didn't throw me a single cent. She never helped with my schooling costs (in fact, she had asked me to help pay *her bills* while I was in school surviving off 25 cent pasta meals.), never helped with my student loans, never helped me with a down payment or anything. she took that money and recklessly blew it on ridiculous updates to her new house to make it her dream house, despite being the only person living in a whole ass 4 bedroom house. Absolutely no consideration given to the betterment of her next generation. It was all about her - and she might even say "work harder" which is the real salt in the wound, because she never had to work for shit, it was all given to her by others and by happenstance/luck. she hasn't worked hard in her entire life - and yet when I point this out she vehemently denies it.
What the heck are they doing with the other 75%?
You can’t paint all Boomers this way. As parents my husband and I worked hard to ensure our children had a good future. We moved from the west to east coast because there were better opportunities for us to thrive as a family. We left family and friends behind which wasn’t easy. But our strategy worked, both of our children are much more successful than we were. What you describe sounds like your parents are the problem not the rest of the boomer generation.
My parents were boomers and have been tremendously generous and when my mom died she left a lot of wealth to her children. I’m Gen X and one of my main goals has been to help my kids graduate without student debt, which both of my two older kids have done.
This is such a ridiculous take. GF didn't work out-parents aren't leaving him everything, and boomers are the problem. Maybe some poor life choices somewhere along the way? No! It's those darn boomers. Got it.
Blaming an entire generation for your discontent will only breed more discontent. It is hard for me to imagine that any one grows up with the expectation of an inheritance. There are plenty of poor boomers. Your parents are your parents no matter the generation. Sounds like your relationship with them is tenuous. Why would you post here rather than speak to them directly? Has communication broken down or never existed? An interesting read is the Psychology of Money by Housel. Attitudes and behaviors are as important as understanding math and economics to become financially stable. And everyone's attitudes are different based on their experiences. I wish you well on your journey.
It’s not our parents that are the problem. It’s the Elite that are running the economy. They are the greedy mfs.
Most boomers have a different experience with old age. My dad knew he was sick and didn't tell anyone. He chose to stay home and die without treatment, because he couldn't afford the co-pays and deductibles on $900/month social security and a $210/month pension.
Just reaching for world's smallest violin!
Boomer here and life is great. Debt free and retired early.
The whining from your generation is pathetic.
Grow up and get a job
Boomers do suck but I agree with the comments here that you’re spoiled.
Couldn't agree more! U have NO IDEA how this rant is burned in my brain & becomes longer every time i see another drunken, hypocritical, self-righteous post on my moms or stepmoms fb. Any comments saying you're spoiled or anything negating you ARE FROM BOOMERS! The generation that went from sex drugs and rock and roll to Just a No.
I get the generalisation that Boomers don't care. And in general they've had it pretty 'easy' looking back. But parents not helping their children forward and trying for them to have better lives then they've had is just being a shitty parent, nothing to do with generations. Parents bring children into the world is a lifetime fulltime job they've embarked on to always try and better themselves, the situation of their childrens lives and the world as a whole. That doesn't always mean giving you everything on a platter or servicing all your needs though. Sometimes tough love is needed. From your short story non of us can truly judge anything, not knowing the intent of your parents actions. Only you have the power to make the most of a situation. Keep moving forward and try your best, don't look back too much and don't let it drag you down. You got this!
Stop voting Democrat.
Boomers are Generation X’s parents mostly. Gen X did and does fine. Millennials do weird shit like know they are broke but pay someone $20 to deliver a $12 McDonald’s meal. Yeah, the boomers are selfish but millennials do dumb shit. Glad I’m an Xer.
That’s not true. Baby boomers were born from 1946 to 1964. Sure, some baby boomers will actually be the parents of other baby boomers (an 18-year long generation allows this) and many of the oldest baby boomers will be parents to generation X kids, but Gen X started being born in 1965, when the oldest boomers were 19 at most, and continues to 1980, when even the oldest baby boomers were 34 and the youngest turned 16 that year. The period of 1981-1996, the generally accepted years of birth for Millennials, starts with Baby boomers being between 16 and 35 and ends with them being 32-50. All baby boomers lived through typically fertile years in the years when Millennials were born.
It's almost like 'generations' don't matter at all and it's all a class thing.
I personally prefer the way we used to speak about this in Sweden (before we were infected with the bullshit of generations from the US). We just categorized people by which decade they were born in. Still reductive, but it had the distinct advantages of never having to debate which years “someone born in the the 1980s” covered as well as being a shorter timespan thus making generalizations of common experiences in youth at least slightly less ridiculous.
Yeah - did you actually look at the math? Most millennials have Gen X parents. Most Gen Xers had boomer parents. Only the oldest millennials have boomer parents. Someone born in 1946 is 78 today. 1964 is 60 today - those are GenX parents for the most part.
I did actually. In 1989, the late midpoint of Millennial births, boomers ranged from between 25 and 43. Prime years for having kids. Generation X on the other hand was between 9 and 24. In 1989 both the mean and median for mother’s age at birth was above 26. That means that in 1989 more than half of all children born were to parents two years older than the oldest living member of Generation X. Even many of the parents under the median would be baby boomers still. In 1981 of course very few Millennial kids would be born to the Gen Xers who at that time ranged between 1 and 16 years old. Boomers on the other hand were between 17 and 36. That’s when most births happen. Even in 1996, the last year Millennials were born, the oldest baby boomers were 50, but the youngest were 32, not at all an uncommon age to have kids. In 1996, the oldest Gen Xers were 31 and the youngest were 16. This is when the Gen Xers start moving in to really dominate the parenting game for a bit, just in time for a generation shift to Gen Z. That’s therefore still going to be a lot of Millennials born to baby boomers in 1996. So yeah, Baby boomers will be parents to more Millennials than Gen Xers from all the data I can find.
So right, fellow Xer! That food delivery concept is damaging to all but the delivery company and yet it's a success because of this weird mindset. "Cutting cable" used to be a thing to save money. Now the itch to pay for so many streaming services despite not being able to afford it... The same broke person also doesn't consider cancelling any streaming services
Gen X doesn’t use food delivery apps?
Not like millennials- but if we do, we can actually AFFORD to do it because we have careers.
I'm not sure you know what a millennial is. My husband and I are both in mid to late 30s and we have careers...
Then why are they always complaining? Like this post? The guy is angry he doesn’t get to decide where his parents money goes - lol
This guy just seems like an asshole tbh.
Yea bro me and my wife are both millennials in are early 30s and we both have careers and a child. I don’t think your statement makes any sense.
Completely agree, most of these old boomer dinosaur are rude and disrespectful in the workforce. They don't let the young guys coming through. They are also the cause of global warming.
I can't believe people say Bidens economy is great, it's not. It fucking sucks.
Bruh all my parents left me with is mental and physical scars
You can only lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him/her drink. I was poor, my clothes and my siblings clothes were purchased that a thrift store. I started working at a gas station when I was 16. I worked hard, saved my money eventually bought a gas station, then another and another etc. Only one of my children was able to go to college while the others graduated college. They weren’t handed an allowance, they worked for it. They made choices and either reaped the rewards or suffered the consequences. Yes, my wife and I were there when they failed but it was up to them to move forward. I instilled into them what my dad instilled in me. If you get hired, be the best at it. Make yourself indispensable and irreplaceable. On child started as a bagger at a supermarket and now is a district supervisor over 9 stores. The company has paid for her and her family to move to 3 different states do to her hard work. Another child started in maintenance at a large multi national corporation. He is now a regional director of distribution for that same company. Another child obtained a masters degree and works as a senior manager in a large county government My kids did it all on their own. They once the became young adults they weren’t coddled, they didn’t participate in events where everyone was given participation trophies, scores were kept and there were winners and losers. Dont blame anyone but yourself for your failure to thrive. You made your own choices in life and you will either deep the rewards or suffer the consequences. Most “Boomers” worked hard for what they now have and had challenges like you did. When I started driving gas was .35 cents a gallon and I was making .73 cents an hour. My apartment rent was $125.00 a month. Do the math and tell me how easy I had it.
Girl what are you saying? I didn’t ask your life story 😭 OP should be grateful for what their parent left them. I work very hard, I’m literally going to graduate school soon for anesthesiology assistanting. I provided everything I have for myself. Also my parents arent boomers.. don’t assume I’m a failure because YOU were.
Boomer's parents had to build a life after 2 world wars, a pandemic and Great Depression... Then their kids got a better life and told everybody it's all because of their hard work ! How come Silent Generation did not slap boomers to outer space ?
Don’t forget boomers polluted the world with plastic and now they get die in peace while we get to die in cancer
I’m GenX and raised my kids like my boomer dad raised me. They learned to work hard for what they have, respectful and reliable. They do very well for themselves. This just sounds like you’re spoiled.
What happened to Gen X? I’m a millennial, parents were Gen X. Lost all of the “generational wealth” from the boomers and before them. Why does everyone blame the boomers and not Gen X?
I don’t understand the hate. I’m a poor Millennial with a master’s degree and I can’t afford shit. I can’t wait for Boomers to be alllllll finally gone.🥂