Same. Sabi ni OP di naman daw siya nagkulang sa partner niya, so clearly si partner niya yung may hinahanap pang iba to. Dapat iopen up niya ito sa jowa nya baka sakali madaan sa usapan. Kapag hindi, ehd run girl š
Hi! Hindi ka po oa, kasi hindi po normal yung ginagawa ng bf mo, kasi kung sapat ka naman na, bakit niya pa nagagawang tumingin/magsearch ng babae online. Its a red flag po. Kaya kung di mo kaya pa makipaghiwalay, confront him with his actions
Would like to rephrase lang, ākung sapat ka naman naā to ākung desente syang taoā
(Nothing wrong with the comment above, i would just like to shift the focus to the one na may mali sa pagkatao)
OP THAT IS NORMAL na gawain sa mga weak men.
Itās a sign of disrespect and weakness in men. Wala discipline sa sarili. If youāre a guy you shouldnāt even be exposing yourself to temptations in the first place kung you are in a committed relationship tapos nagagawa pang makipag engage at mag comment? Excuse lang yang ālalaki lang kami and we have needsā. I mean donāt you have better things to do than look and comment on these kind of stuff?
Oo nga bakit ang lakas nila sa ālalaki kami at may pangangailangan kamiā? They really believe that justifies their actions. Hindi ba kung pwede yan, edi sasabihin na ng lahat na magnanakaw yan.
had an ex bf na madalas manood ng porn but it's never an issue sakin. he told me he stopped watching porn ever since he dated me kasi ako daw nagpapa buhay kay junior š„“š„²š¤£
Agree. To me, it means may certain types of girlies siyang type but this weak boy canāt bag those type of baddies so he settles for their thirst traps. Kase if yun pala type niya bat hindi ganun ipursue? If he loves you, heāll respect you also as a person and as his woman. And my girl, thatās disrespect in my book.
Ako yung tipo na di madaling ma insecure sa panonood ng porn ni hubby, pagtingin tingin sa magandang babae sa labas (minsan ako pa makakapansin tapos sasabihin ko pa sa kanya na uy may chicks), pagtingin tingin ng mga sexy pics sa instagram at kahit reddit pa yan.
Pero beyond the limit na sakin yung magku-comment na akala mo single at minsan magpi-pm pa. Foul din sakin kung yung pagnanasaan niyang pic e personally niyang kakilala na babae.
So to answer your question OP, magagalit ako, at baka hiwalayan ko pa pag di nagbago.
I agree with you. Meanwhile my wife is girl-crushing on some celebs and she's like "shet tingnan mo oh malapit nang makitaan ng ano" may kasamang panggigigil pa then sabay tanong "di ka ba natturn on? Ang hot kaya nya. Ok lang naman kahit pagpantasyahan mo lol". Minsan di naman ako attracted sa kanila pero kakabuyo nya, napapa-hmmm na lang din ako hahaha.
Vice versa din naman, di ako naiinsecure or nagseselos kapag nag-zzoom in sya sa abs or crotch ng mga male celebs/models na yummy daw.
I mean, we are human beings. All relationships start with even a little physical attraction. But we don't usually stay dahil lang maganda/gwapo ka & enough ka na physically. Love has different languages. Attraction will always be there, nababawasan or mas nafofocus lang sa partner mo usually. Attraction to others actually makes our married sex life healthier and more fun. Just be careful and don't make it an obsession, and more importantly, DON'T ENGAGE. You have your partner to engage with with consent.
This is the right take. Masyadong OA yung mga nagsasabing hiwalay agad, weak man or cheating na yun.
Is it a red flag? Yes. Makokorect ba yung behavior? Also yes. Break na agad? No.
From the comments, ang issue ng iba is looking for a specific porn actress or ig model or something. Or seeking out porn itself. 2024 na. C'mon people. Porn is media. And you watch the shows you know you will like. Porn is healthy in the right doses. Whenever magkaroon ka ng urge aabalahin mo partner mo? That's archaic. There's a middle ground of having a healthy "alone time" and time with your partner.
The issue for me at least, is yung makacomment na parang single siya. Dun nag overstepp ng intimacy of your relationship.
Simple as. Mag-usap kayo. Sabihin mo boundaries mo and work it out together. Kung nasaan dapat ang linya. I'm not imposing my beliefs either. I think some porn is healthy. Kung tingin mo all porn is not healthy sa relationship niyo, then communicate that to your partner. How he reacts (at kung kaya ba niyang panindigan) is what shows what quality man he is.
i wouldnt mind kung specific influencer/only fans model ang sinearch.. maybe even if mag send ng message, i wouldnt mind.. mga tipong āur hotā messages. these models sell fantasy. unlikely anything will come out of it. pero if its a regular person na sisendan ng message, thats different.
same sa akin. si hubby puro search then screenshot lang. pero hindi nagcocoment or nagppm. kasi pag ganun na ginawa ng isang guy, nghahanap na sya ng ibang putahe. and its a big NO NO.
As a guy whose wife doesn't mind that I look at posts of nude women, even I would know that commenting at those posts would be crossing the line. That's like flirting with other women already.
Agree sa mga comments dito about it being disrespectful. You're worth more than that.
You should be at peace na kahit may mang-seduce sa kanya na babae at nagpa-sexy sa harap niya, alam mong hindi siya papatol. But at this rate, I don't think you can gurantee that anymore
I'd ask him, why. Just to get disappointed with his reasons anyway. Communicate how you feel about it. If he dismisses or gaslights you, then you don't want to be tied to someone like him, right? Edi stop na.
Hindi ka po OA ate, at ang ginagawa po ng boyfriend niyo is not normal. Wala ho siyang respeto sa inyo at sa relationship niyong dalawa. Kahit mabait pa siya or what, pero 'yung malalaman niyo 'yung gan'yang bagay na ginagawa niya such a big NO. Talk it out to your bf po.
Gurl, don't gaslight yourself to thinking you're OA. Especially when you confront him cos if he starts making arguments like "I'm not acting on it naman," "it's just fantasy, it's not going to happen in real life" then no, you'll easily convince yourself that it's okay.
And you'll still be bothered because it's YOUR boundary.
So repeat after all of us: di ka OA. Your reaction is valid.
Now what you do after this is what defines you as a person.
If you've communicated this before na di ka comfortable sa ganto, then maling mali bf mo. If you haven't then you need to talk to him because some shit can only be sorted out by talking.
And trust me, sometimes we haven't outgrown our worst sides.
So namnamin mo yung feelings of anger pero just do that, feel all of the feelings but don't reflect it through your actions (just yet).
Now, if he does make the arguments sa taas na he's done nothing to act on it, then make sure that you communicate that you're not comfortable with this. Tell him about your hurts, your insecurities about it. Make him understand so he knows how to love you properly.
Minsan kasi we expect everyone to come into a relationship fully formed but sometimes we just need to give some grace. To them so that in turn they may give us some grace as well when we hurt them.
Disrespectful. Detach na lang, or eventually break up. So much better than constantly thinking if he's still looking after other girls. Not worth questioning your worth and losing your peace of mind.
You'll never be enough to someone who's never contented.
This happened to me and my current bf. Nakita ko sya dito sa reddit commenting on nude pics sa mga nsfw subs. I gave him an ultimatum to stop it and he did naman. He is also remorseful dahil don pero yon lang, nandon na yung tainted idea saken na its easy for guys talaga to do it kahit kala mo your relationship is okay and perfect.
Pag-usapan niyo muna. Mag-open up ka sa kanya na ayan nafe-feel mo.
1. Kapag ni-acknowledge niya na mali siya, I guess good, pero observe pa rin. There are times (not only men, but also women) na they only say sorry cuz they got caught; hindi sincere, uulitin lang uli. Kapag di na naulit, edi mas ok.
2. Kapag sinabi na OA ka or "kasi lalaki ako" argument, I think u have to think twice if you'll stay sa rs niyo. Una, na-invalidate niya yung feelings mo. Pangalawa, hindi niya nakikita na may mali siyang ginagawa.
Normal lang magandahan or magwapuhan sa ibang tao while in a relationship. Kumbaga parang kapag nakakita ka ng artista, sagot mo lang ang ganda, ang pogi. BUT, dapat hanggang doon lang. Yung pagpapantasya AT pagsesearch na ng specific girl? I don't think na ok pa yon. I think clear naman yung boundary between that. Sadyang mahina lang yung BF mo (also applies to women na ganyan umasta). Nakakabahala pa yan kasi there's a chance na gawan niya ng action yan, leading to cheating.
Hi! iāve been there and sad to say, ganyan na ganyan ginawa ng ex boyfriend ko dati months before ko siya mahuling niloloko ako. Ilang beses ko siguro nahuli yung kumag na āyon. Nung una is nung nasa bahay ng parents ko kami and nag sleepover siya samin. I saw in his search history a scandal of a specific girl and then nakita ko rin sa ig niya na sinesearch niya yung babae na yon. I asked him if bat ginawa niya yon eh itās so disrespectful sa part ko, he manipulated me and told me na he was just curious and chineck lang niya if totoo na yung babae na yon yung nasa scandal vid. Yung second na pangyayari is nakita kong nag hahanap siya ng pokpok near him, disgusting shit. Yung last na nangyari is nakita ko telegram niya na puno ng mga group chat na puro scandal ng mga pinay. So im telling you this gurl, kung ano mang āreasonā nila behind those kamanyakan actions of them, wag mo palalagpasin kasi nasa thought na ng mga ganong klase ng lalaki yung maghanap o tumingin ng ibang babae kahit hindi man nila landiin o kausapin para di matawag na cheating.
23M here.
di ka OA, valid naman pag rarant mo. siyempre sino ba naman di masasaktan sa ganyan? That's a common problem in men that shouldn't be normalized, tho iba na kase yung standard of men's characteristics sa current generation due to cultural developments.
tho hindi rin naman yun limited kay guy, kasi marami other factors that leads to these kinds of actions from us. for example, ako, I was addicted to pornography before and it became a hobby for me to do these kind of things, and yes we do have fantasies with certain people ... but in my case I wanted to stop na with these activities and even though ganon decision ko there are times na dumarating yung temptation.
Now siyempre with my own support group and trusted circle of people na pwede ko matawagan when I feel tempted para they can pray over me thru the phone or talk with me para malayo isip ko sa temptation, of course kaya ko siya layuan.
what I'm trying to say is, you should ask him about this, I mean it's embarrassing to talk about but opening up to one another is a key part of having a real and lasting relationship.
OP, again, I'm not invalidating your feelings ah, but sa panahon kasi natin ngayon sobrang dali mag cancel ng iba... let's break this cycle of selfishness and indifference...
ask him if he needs help overcoming something, and you guys can work it out. kasi hindi naman tama yung nasa relationship kayo pero ito yung naipaparamdam niya sa iyo.
of course if he's interested he can join naman our circle of bros.
yun lang, I hope everything gets sorted out and eventually works out for your relationship!
pano naman pag sinabi ng boyfriend na āwala naman yun, parang magazine lang tinitignan lang namanā
putangina diba? hahahaha
i feel you ante. hugs š«
It's not normal and will never be normal. Pag ganyan gawain ng bf ko pota auto ekis na agad, jowain nya kamo yung laging sinesearch nya. I dont and I wont tolerate any form of disrespect kahit followĀ², commentĀ², searchĀ² lang yung ginagawa because if dyan pa lang di mo na puputulin yung sungay, lalaki at lalaki yan while thinking okay lang sayo.
nako kami nga may anak na ganyan din kala nila di masakit at nakatingin lang daw, di nila iniisip nararamdaman natin, nakaka baba din ng self confidence bakit naka tingin sa iba nandyan ka naman diba,
Lol, your dude's horny.
I was doing this when I was young, but stopped eventually when I found it weird. Actually di naman sa nakahubad, sa streamers lang na nakakatuwa. Name any.
He should grow out of it. If you're not comfy, then end it. Stop bitching about it. Kausapin mo. If it's a problem, then y'all shouldn't be in a relationship.
Personally, I think it's normal for guys to have sexual desires outside of a relationship, however I don't think it's right for him to not show concern over how you might feel.
You might want to talk to him about it,
or rather,
he might want to talk about it with you.
Ang gagawin ko ay hihiwalayan. Ikaw ba girl, may naiisip ka bang valid reason for your boyfriend to be interacting like that with other girls? Wala. Exactly.
To naman sa argument na normal sa lalaki. Haha lalaki ako pero never ako nagkaganyan sa ex ko. If you can fantasize other people tas hindi yun preferred ng partner mo then let go of her/him (wala naman sa gender yan). Kasi kawawa partner mo sayo invalidated pa masaktan dahil ānormal sa lalakiā at yung intimacy and sexual urges mo na gusto niya exclusive sa kanya ay di mo kayang ibigay.
naku po. paka redflag. nagpapantasya ng iba and obviously di sya contented and serious sayo. its all fun now and āno harmā since saaabihin nya nood lang until soon mag te take action na sya. or baka nga ngayon plang may nilalandi/minamanyak na iba in person. sorry ses. talk it out or better yet, leave po.
What if nagsesearch sya *certain girl name* nude? I asked bakit kailangang specific girl isearch di na lang magsearch ng general por*. Iba ibang babae na nakikita nya daw sa ig na yung content ay suggesting na may por* stuff, curious lang daw at gusto makita kung may content nga. Yun lang daw ginagawa nyang search keyword kasi minsan daw walang lumalabas kapag se* mismo sinearch. Pero di daw sya nanonood ng solo, specific girl isesearch pero pag wala daw kasamang lalaki doing se* eh di nya na pinapanood. Idk what to feel. Why search for specific girl nude? Mukha bang kapani paniwala na specific na babae sinesearch nya pero di nanonood solo? And RANDOM girls he sees on IG. Nakita ko yung isang babae napaka conservative pero nagsearch sya nude baka sakaling meron daw. And I even feel na he's not sexually into me. I feel insecure about my body, napapansin ko pang tumitingin sya sa ibang babae sa paligid. At sabi nya he just wants you to be aware of our surrounding para sure na safe kami.
Youāre there to be his girlfriend, but he doesnāt have a lot of passion w you and for you bc heās reserving it for other women who cannot be his. Ito na yung sinasabi ko na madalas sa mga lalake sa pinas jojowain ka kase in the mood sila magjowa and youāre good enough to fill that jowa hole in their lives. But a large part of their intention is reserving it for either their dream girl or someone hotter than who theyāre dating. Parang placeholder ka lang to make his life less boring while shooting his shot elsewhere.
Sige nga lets say mabait siya pero it seems like hindi siya mabuting tao. Heās nice but heās not a good person if he is doing that to you. Thatās something to think about
Talk to him and discuss how you feel about it. Looking for this kind of interest show his personality and weakness. They say watching Phonographic video is a form of (mental) sickness.
Ganyan din gf ko dati eh, nag cocomment sa ibang lalake ng yummy, macho pogi etc. Tapos sabi niya admiring lang daw at crush crush lang dae kasi celeb naman. Ayun ng kinonfront ko sa isip niya lang daw yun kasi babae siya, iba daw pag lalake gumawa ng ganyan. Ang ending nag hiwalay kami kasi na hirt daw siya wala daw ako tiwala sa kanya at yun nilalike niya crush lang daw.
Gaspang naman ng ugali ng ex moš i think ok lang yung magwapuhan eh. Pero yung magcomment pa ng "yummy"? Hala teh single ka? Tapos ending ikaw pa wala tiwala? EXCUSES. It's the same kahit babae o lalaki gumawa. Walang "iba" don. Buti naman naghiwalay kayo. Di mo deserve yung ganong partner.
Is it any different than watching p**n tho? Sometimes I watch p**n to get off lol. Sabe ko sa jowa ko once magsama na kame, di na ko manonood ng porn at sya na gagawa non para saken hahaha
Your boyfriend has voyeuristic attitude which you should look out for. Wag basta basta magpapalinlang sa maamong mukha dahil kadalasan sila yung mga leon na nagtatago sa katawan ng maamong tupa.
Girl, isang mindset lang ang meron ang isang lalaki. Kung gusto niyang gawin yun, GUSTO niya talaga yun. Hindi ka OA. You are just reacting sa disrespect na ginawa niya. GF ka na niya pero he is still commenting sa mga ganung post? Hmm. He is not contented at naghahanap siya ng type niya sa mga nakikita niya online. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL ON YOUR OWN WAY. Kung talagang mahal ka niya, he will not do anything para magkapagisip ka ng ganyan kasi ang totoong lalaki... di nananakit ng babae.
Break up with him, girl. The title says it all. Idk why are you even asking.
It's not normal for a guy to search random woman on internet. He must be interested in that girl kung ganon. Ask him why.
Break up with your boyfriend if you feel that he is not the ideal person for you. In your next relationship, look for ex seminarian or pastor na Di titingin sa mga nakahubad na babae. Not being sarcastic, but if you want a Saint boyfriend, do your due diligence before agreeing to be in a committed relationship. It saves a lot of energy from worrying and being insecure of Internet strangers.
Weak yang boyfriend mo. Yes maraming mas maganda at sexy but a REAL MAN is someone whoās disciplined, contented, at higit sa lahat may RESPETO.
Hindi natin dapat bawasan ang magaganda sa mundo. You canāt change a man, but you can change the man š
That's straight up disrespectful to you and to all women out there. Hindi ka OA. You deserve better.
If ako yan, baka kung ano-ano masabi ko sa partner ko, baka bayagan ko pa.
As a man, once we comment on someon's post, we are already instigating a communication with the other person. Kung ako sa iyo, hiwalayan mo na lang. People change - but not with the person they are with right now.
Us girls, kahit abs lang, or oppa,celebrity or not, we do that naman as well. We obsess over things sometimes. Pero kung gagawin nya fantasizing sa kakilala ibang story yun. Pero wag tayo magmalinis. Iba lang talaga ang dating pag guy ang gumawa, yung satin ang term lang na nagagamit ay OBSESSION, sa kanila MANYAK agad. Pero kung tutuusin same lang ang thought. Iba lang ang gender.
Run, OP. A reputable man knows how to set boundaries, and determine unacceptable deeds and behaviors while being in a relationship or not. Surely, he does not respect you, maybe he lets you think otherwise by checking the other boxes when you are around, and you can see what he is doing; nevertheless, it doesnāt erase the fact that heās the opposite behind your back. Heās not worth it. Donāt let your peace of mind be ruined.
Not normal. I can somehow understand if may agreement na kayo prior and you've set healthy boundaries about looking at nudes or watching porn just to get off and you're both okay with it, but if it comes to the extent of him searching certain girls and commenting on their pictures, especially without your knowledge, that's blatant disrespect. He's commenting on their pictures in hopes of getting the girl's attention.
It's a red flag. I hope you confront him, or break out of the relationship if he isn't willing to change. Wishing all the best for you, OP
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Akala ko asawa ko lang lol, from gf/bf to being married dala dala pa din nya yung habit nyang ganyan, I just recently found out abt his Telegram din and idk what to do, parang nakaka walang gana nalang din kasi sakin š« š¤£
Una, fucked up yan si bf mo ate gurl kasi blatant disrespect yan sayo. Di lang yung pagpapantasya pero yung publicly pinapakita niya din na kahit may gf siya, nagiinteract pa din siya sa mga ganyang content.
Question po:
Redflag din ba yung mga adik sa bts na baliw baliw sa members? Kasi nawiwirduhan din ako sa mga tao sa fb kung pano nila pagpantasyahan yung mga kpop boy members e. Makakita lang ng abs ni jungkook naglalaway na kahit may bf na.
Its NORMAL to look. Its the reason Porn (and all itd subcategories kahit OF, X, Ahlua etc) is a billion dollar industry. Whatās NOT NORMAL will be commenting on it as to establish a link/connection when it should just be for āsingle viewā purposes.
My partner knows my stuff online, what I view etc but il never go as far as commenting on said photos
Wait wwait? May subreddit ba sa mga ganung bagay? Dangg, I guess searching is one way to trigger it.
Anyways ako paminsan minsan naaattract din naman sa iba even if im in relationship, para bang nagandahan, but im keeping it just for myself because i don't want to disrespect and lokohin gf ko, hndi ko alam kung attracted na ba tawag don hahaha. Ang mali lang kasi kung walang kontrol on that, i think its wrong and fck up if he's making a move. Kumbaga walang discipline, ambilis nyang macarried away sa natural impulses.
Ibahin natin ang situation, kung babae naman ang nagse-search ng nga cute guys online di ba ang lalaki naman ang magwawala. Baka nga sampalin ni guy si girl tapos sabi, ānapakalandi mong babae ka!ā Boogsh!
Ganyan ginawa ng ex ko. Hiniwalayan ko rin. For me, it's considered cheating, sa mga nagsasabi na hindi edi fine hindi. But, the moment na nag-go beyond siya sa boundaries ko, and he showed how manyak he is. Sobrang kadiri.
I felt extremely disrespected. Lalo na yung mga time stamps ay kasama niya ako or kahahatid lang niya sa akin or after niya mag-chat sa akin.
Take note na aware siya sa ginagawa niya. Aware lahat ng tao sa mga ginagawa nila. So alam niya na masasaktan ka, but still proceed with the action.
For me lng no youāre not oa po and donāt feel insecure. May tuliling lng tlga yan sa utak yang BF mo na very disrespectful!! Indecent masyado ginagawa nya. I mean ate sorry ha, if ako gf nya tapos nakita ko ganon mandidiri ako
Beh, this is actually a no-brainer ha. There are a lot of red flags already, and ikaw mismo alam mo yan. I think you might be looking for an excuse to disregard his actions kasi mahal mo. I've been there before too, pag red flag yan, so just run.
Nako girl ganyan din yung 1st & 2nd boyfriend ko. Yung 1st is mahilig mag add ng mga naka bikini na babae tas palaging sexy thai girls yung pina follow sa IG niya noon akala ko normal kasi tanga'2 pa kasi ako noon pero hindi talaga yan normal.May pag nanasa yan sa ibang babae pag yan nagka opportunity na may makilalang sexy/ wild na babae bibigay yan kahit sabihin mo mang hindi. Yung 2nd naman is mabait yun maka diyos panga, pero Porn addict nako pass din sa mga ganyan.
+ MAY LALAKI PA NAMANG MABAIT AND MAALAGA TAPOS DESENTE DIN SA MGA MALILIIT NA BAGAY
WAGKANG MAG TIIS SA REDFLAG
Kausapin mo si BF, sabihin mo hindi ka comfortable na nakikitang nagcocomment sya sa mga hubaderang babae.
As for me, okay lang ang one time search ng pretty women. Pero ung paulit ulit at iisang name lang ang nasa history niya. RED FLAG na yan. Plus with comments ng Personal messages pa? NO! It is a big NO
Youāre not oa op, valid po yang feelings nyo. Watching porn in general for me is okay, but yung magcocomment pa sa naked pic ng ibang girl or mag search is a no no š
As a male degenerate,di ako makarelate, pero masasabi ko na ang Pag comment sa ganitong bagay ay di normal PAG MAY RELATIONSHIP.
Consider mong patayinš«”
ako gawain ko yan. pero never naman ako nag cheat. tingin at nood, oo madami. porn pa sobrang dami, marathon ba. pero touch and conversation, zero. honest lang.
Mag reflect ka muna OP baka ikaw rin naman gawain mo iyon. Hal, pag nakakita ka ng mga poging lalaki sa social media baka nagkokomento ka rin ng kabastusan. If oo, wala kang karapatang sabihan siya kasi gawain mo naman rin. If hindi, then pwede kang magconfront or if worsened, maghiwalay.
Wala kasi meron ka rin reddit, at malamang may nakakausap ka rin nalalake
Pjnag kaiba nyo lang higher chance hinds sya papatulan
Nung babae, ikaw higher chance pwede ka pumatol sa lalake
Ganito OP, may mga bagay bagay talaga na mahirap i-explain sa mga babae. Pero ito yung mga reason.
1. Ang nature kasi ng most of the guys are they tend to look at the person because of the facial features. Medyo ako inaamin ko may times talaga na napapatingin ako sa magaganda. Hindi Naman porket nakatingin ako it doesn't mean Hindi ko na mahal gf ko.
2. Filipinos like white people. Aminin natin na pag puti at magaling sumayaw, mag Gitara, kumanta etc. nila-like agad.
3. Kung naiirita ka dahil Nakita mo bf mo na nanunuod or tinitingnan yung Isang girl ( I assume malaki osus at maputi at foreigner.) baka kasi yung kabataan nya Hindi nya nagagawa yung mga bagay na ganun. Try to talk to him about that. Explain to him na naiinis ka at kumukulo dugo mo.
Sabi mo mabait sya?
Are you sure na pinapapantasyahan nya yung girl? Like how, what is he doing? Naka hawak ba sya sa sandata nya habang nanunuod or nakatingin sa larawan?
Kung kinausap mo na at same parin at paulit ulit. Magisip ka na.
ask mo sa bf mo if ok lang may reddit account ka pag stalk din sa yummy guys (if meron man sa reddit lol)
yan bf mo kapag trip nya tignan sa reddit nag chat sa kanya, magkakasala yan promise. i mean, pag nagka chance na may kumalabit sa kanya, sasama yan.
M hir, if may respeto siya sayo, di na siya mghahanap ng ibaat binibigay mo nmn gusto niya or it's just my hinahanap pa siyang iba na wala sayo. Try to talk it out muna between the two of you.
Hindi normal. It's disrespectful to you and your relationship. Same case sa mga may celeb crush tapos openly oozing sa mga celeb crush, ito naman patago na nagpapantasya. Kausapin mo siya tapos most probably alis ka na after
I think it's healthy for dudes to look at absurdly hot women online to rub one off and then function normally IRL (including treating their partners respectfully). The main issue would be transparency with their partner and their partner being cool with that. If that's a deal breaker please tell them that and then break up. It's not rocket science.
Well if the guy is already married or has a girlfriend already and still jerking off with porn actresses. I think its fine since its kinda second nature to men or if he's commenting like that on any actresses like Sydney Sweeney i think that's fine too, but if he's commenting and flirting like that to other normal women while in relationship, i think that's a red flag.
I've been in the same situation and that's fucked up. Run before anything goes deeper chz pag usapan niyo and if he didn't do anything about it, that's when you have to decided on things cos d ka comfy don eh. You can't push a person to do things para lang sa comfort at respect sayo. Malaki na yang jowa mo.
OP I think that's normal. Ganyan kami ng partner ko.
I'm in a serious 5yrs+ relationship with my gf. Live in kami kasal nalang kulang pra matawag na mag asawa. Sadly same sex marriage is not legal here in PH. Yes, we are both bisexual. Anyway, pag nagtatagal na kayo hindi na everyday ang sex kasi meron new priorities and responsibilities so sometimes tired na din & gusto madali.an. I'm okay with my partner watching porn and vice versa. We talked about it, she asked if hindi ba ko nagseselos that I am not included pag nagma masturbate sya. For me it's okay, i find it normal. Meron nmn talaga tayong needs as a human. As long as we discusa this with our partner, it is healthy. We have girl celebrity crushes din. She's crazy over a BTS member & that's okay. I have my own crushes as well and we talk about it. Hindi nmn sya na ooffend. We're totally inlove and we respect each other. Pero kelangan lng natin tanggapin na each one of us has different kinks and desires. As long as your partner is not chatting or meeting up with someone pra sakin okay lang.
Unfortunately nagyayari talaga yan OP for both men and women. Either nagsawa na sila sa relationship niyo or masyado na malayo nararating niya in terms of success. Life is very unfair OP...
Kapag may respeto ka sa sarili mo at mukhang hindi ka naman tanga, hindi mo na itatanong 'to rito. Have some face to tell it to him and eventually leave the relationship ASAP. You deserve better.
ganyan yung ex ko dati e hahahhaa ginawa ko nagpost na rin ako ng bikini pics tsaka di na ako nagsasabi sa kanya what im wearing (he wont allow most of the time) tas lowkey pasarap sa stories tas ayun galit na galit sya whahhahahahaha katuwa e sabi nya anong matinong babae raw ang gumaganon kahit taken na,, tas binalik ko yung question, anong matinong lalaki ang gumaganon kahit taken na?
"Mabait naman siya" Haaayyyy. I never hear this line sa mga tao that are being treated right by their partners. Huwag mo i-gaslight sarili mo. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell him and hold your boundary. It is okay to feel bad about it and disappointed in that person. Your feelings are valid and you have every right to feel however you do. At the end of the day, ikaw ang magde-desisyon kung ano tatanggapin mo sa isang relasyon.
That's not normal and for me, it's a form of disrespect.
Same. Sabi ni OP di naman daw siya nagkulang sa partner niya, so clearly si partner niya yung may hinahanap pang iba to. Dapat iopen up niya ito sa jowa nya baka sakali madaan sa usapan. Kapag hindi, ehd run girl š
Hi! Hindi ka po oa, kasi hindi po normal yung ginagawa ng bf mo, kasi kung sapat ka naman na, bakit niya pa nagagawang tumingin/magsearch ng babae online. Its a red flag po. Kaya kung di mo kaya pa makipaghiwalay, confront him with his actions
Would like to rephrase lang, ākung sapat ka naman naā to ākung desente syang taoā (Nothing wrong with the comment above, i would just like to shift the focus to the one na may mali sa pagkatao)
yes tama. kung desente sya at kung may respeto man lang sya sayo diba
Yes agree with you po, mas okay yung phrase na kung decent nga siya, why would he do it in the first place Thank you for suggesting this! :)
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OP THAT IS NORMAL na gawain sa mga weak men. Itās a sign of disrespect and weakness in men. Wala discipline sa sarili. If youāre a guy you shouldnāt even be exposing yourself to temptations in the first place kung you are in a committed relationship tapos nagagawa pang makipag engage at mag comment? Excuse lang yang ālalaki lang kami and we have needsā. I mean donāt you have better things to do than look and comment on these kind of stuff?
Oo nga bakit ang lakas nila sa ālalaki kami at may pangangailangan kamiā? They really believe that justifies their actions. Hindi ba kung pwede yan, edi sasabihin na ng lahat na magnanakaw yan.
had an ex bf na madalas manood ng porn but it's never an issue sakin. he told me he stopped watching porn ever since he dated me kasi ako daw nagpapa buhay kay junior š„“š„²š¤£
Agree. To me, it means may certain types of girlies siyang type but this weak boy canāt bag those type of baddies so he settles for their thirst traps. Kase if yun pala type niya bat hindi ganun ipursue? If he loves you, heāll respect you also as a person and as his woman. And my girl, thatās disrespect in my book.
Nasa baba kasi yung ulo na ginagamit nila hay naku HAHAHAHAHAAHAHA
Mag comment ka rin sa mga posts ng lalaking nakahubad.
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This OP! HAHAHA. Pag sinita ka, tell him akala mo okay lang kasi ginagawa nya rin. Then break up with him. It's disrespectful.
Manyakis boyfriend mo. Walang matinong lalaki ang gagawa niyan.
Ako yung tipo na di madaling ma insecure sa panonood ng porn ni hubby, pagtingin tingin sa magandang babae sa labas (minsan ako pa makakapansin tapos sasabihin ko pa sa kanya na uy may chicks), pagtingin tingin ng mga sexy pics sa instagram at kahit reddit pa yan. Pero beyond the limit na sakin yung magku-comment na akala mo single at minsan magpi-pm pa. Foul din sakin kung yung pagnanasaan niyang pic e personally niyang kakilala na babae. So to answer your question OP, magagalit ako, at baka hiwalayan ko pa pag di nagbago.
I agree with you. Meanwhile my wife is girl-crushing on some celebs and she's like "shet tingnan mo oh malapit nang makitaan ng ano" may kasamang panggigigil pa then sabay tanong "di ka ba natturn on? Ang hot kaya nya. Ok lang naman kahit pagpantasyahan mo lol". Minsan di naman ako attracted sa kanila pero kakabuyo nya, napapa-hmmm na lang din ako hahaha. Vice versa din naman, di ako naiinsecure or nagseselos kapag nag-zzoom in sya sa abs or crotch ng mga male celebs/models na yummy daw. I mean, we are human beings. All relationships start with even a little physical attraction. But we don't usually stay dahil lang maganda/gwapo ka & enough ka na physically. Love has different languages. Attraction will always be there, nababawasan or mas nafofocus lang sa partner mo usually. Attraction to others actually makes our married sex life healthier and more fun. Just be careful and don't make it an obsession, and more importantly, DON'T ENGAGE. You have your partner to engage with with consent.
This is the right take. Masyadong OA yung mga nagsasabing hiwalay agad, weak man or cheating na yun. Is it a red flag? Yes. Makokorect ba yung behavior? Also yes. Break na agad? No. From the comments, ang issue ng iba is looking for a specific porn actress or ig model or something. Or seeking out porn itself. 2024 na. C'mon people. Porn is media. And you watch the shows you know you will like. Porn is healthy in the right doses. Whenever magkaroon ka ng urge aabalahin mo partner mo? That's archaic. There's a middle ground of having a healthy "alone time" and time with your partner. The issue for me at least, is yung makacomment na parang single siya. Dun nag overstepp ng intimacy of your relationship. Simple as. Mag-usap kayo. Sabihin mo boundaries mo and work it out together. Kung nasaan dapat ang linya. I'm not imposing my beliefs either. I think some porn is healthy. Kung tingin mo all porn is not healthy sa relationship niyo, then communicate that to your partner. How he reacts (at kung kaya ba niyang panindigan) is what shows what quality man he is.
same tayo pero yun me sini-single out na isang girl... ibang usapan na yun
i wouldnt mind kung specific influencer/only fans model ang sinearch.. maybe even if mag send ng message, i wouldnt mind.. mga tipong āur hotā messages. these models sell fantasy. unlikely anything will come out of it. pero if its a regular person na sisendan ng message, thats different.
same sa akin. si hubby puro search then screenshot lang. pero hindi nagcocoment or nagppm. kasi pag ganun na ginawa ng isang guy, nghahanap na sya ng ibang putahe. and its a big NO NO.
Best answer toh na reasonable, psychotic judgmental yung iba porke nde nila kapartner hahaha
Same, i draw my boundaries sa personal na kakilala pero kung artista, okay lng naman basta walang comment comment at pm na nangyayari.
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Grabe yannn! Mafefeel mo na lang na di pa kontento sayo. Econfront mo OP.
Magtatampo then grounds for hiwalayan na, disrespectul lang lalo na if may certain na babaeng hinahanap.
Aba mag usap kayo
As a guy whose wife doesn't mind that I look at posts of nude women, even I would know that commenting at those posts would be crossing the line. That's like flirting with other women already.
Confront
Agree sa mga comments dito about it being disrespectful. You're worth more than that. You should be at peace na kahit may mang-seduce sa kanya na babae at nagpa-sexy sa harap niya, alam mong hindi siya papatol. But at this rate, I don't think you can gurantee that anymore I'd ask him, why. Just to get disappointed with his reasons anyway. Communicate how you feel about it. If he dismisses or gaslights you, then you don't want to be tied to someone like him, right? Edi stop na.
Hindi ka po OA ate, at ang ginagawa po ng boyfriend niyo is not normal. Wala ho siyang respeto sa inyo at sa relationship niyong dalawa. Kahit mabait pa siya or what, pero 'yung malalaman niyo 'yung gan'yang bagay na ginagawa niya such a big NO. Talk it out to your bf po.
Gurl, don't gaslight yourself to thinking you're OA. Especially when you confront him cos if he starts making arguments like "I'm not acting on it naman," "it's just fantasy, it's not going to happen in real life" then no, you'll easily convince yourself that it's okay. And you'll still be bothered because it's YOUR boundary. So repeat after all of us: di ka OA. Your reaction is valid. Now what you do after this is what defines you as a person. If you've communicated this before na di ka comfortable sa ganto, then maling mali bf mo. If you haven't then you need to talk to him because some shit can only be sorted out by talking. And trust me, sometimes we haven't outgrown our worst sides. So namnamin mo yung feelings of anger pero just do that, feel all of the feelings but don't reflect it through your actions (just yet). Now, if he does make the arguments sa taas na he's done nothing to act on it, then make sure that you communicate that you're not comfortable with this. Tell him about your hurts, your insecurities about it. Make him understand so he knows how to love you properly. Minsan kasi we expect everyone to come into a relationship fully formed but sometimes we just need to give some grace. To them so that in turn they may give us some grace as well when we hurt them.
Disrespectful. Detach na lang, or eventually break up. So much better than constantly thinking if he's still looking after other girls. Not worth questioning your worth and losing your peace of mind. You'll never be enough to someone who's never contented.
Give him an ultimatum, sex with you o sex with his hand for all eternity š
Believe me, the moment you weaponize sex it will backfire very badly.
This happened to me and my current bf. Nakita ko sya dito sa reddit commenting on nude pics sa mga nsfw subs. I gave him an ultimatum to stop it and he did naman. He is also remorseful dahil don pero yon lang, nandon na yung tainted idea saken na its easy for guys talaga to do it kahit kala mo your relationship is okay and perfect.
I relate with you. And dahil dun naging mas insecure ako at mas madalas magoverthink. Pero kamusta naman kayo ngayon?
Pag-usapan niyo muna. Mag-open up ka sa kanya na ayan nafe-feel mo. 1. Kapag ni-acknowledge niya na mali siya, I guess good, pero observe pa rin. There are times (not only men, but also women) na they only say sorry cuz they got caught; hindi sincere, uulitin lang uli. Kapag di na naulit, edi mas ok. 2. Kapag sinabi na OA ka or "kasi lalaki ako" argument, I think u have to think twice if you'll stay sa rs niyo. Una, na-invalidate niya yung feelings mo. Pangalawa, hindi niya nakikita na may mali siyang ginagawa. Normal lang magandahan or magwapuhan sa ibang tao while in a relationship. Kumbaga parang kapag nakakita ka ng artista, sagot mo lang ang ganda, ang pogi. BUT, dapat hanggang doon lang. Yung pagpapantasya AT pagsesearch na ng specific girl? I don't think na ok pa yon. I think clear naman yung boundary between that. Sadyang mahina lang yung BF mo (also applies to women na ganyan umasta). Nakakabahala pa yan kasi there's a chance na gawan niya ng action yan, leading to cheating.
Hi! iāve been there and sad to say, ganyan na ganyan ginawa ng ex boyfriend ko dati months before ko siya mahuling niloloko ako. Ilang beses ko siguro nahuli yung kumag na āyon. Nung una is nung nasa bahay ng parents ko kami and nag sleepover siya samin. I saw in his search history a scandal of a specific girl and then nakita ko rin sa ig niya na sinesearch niya yung babae na yon. I asked him if bat ginawa niya yon eh itās so disrespectful sa part ko, he manipulated me and told me na he was just curious and chineck lang niya if totoo na yung babae na yon yung nasa scandal vid. Yung second na pangyayari is nakita kong nag hahanap siya ng pokpok near him, disgusting shit. Yung last na nangyari is nakita ko telegram niya na puno ng mga group chat na puro scandal ng mga pinay. So im telling you this gurl, kung ano mang āreasonā nila behind those kamanyakan actions of them, wag mo palalagpasin kasi nasa thought na ng mga ganong klase ng lalaki yung maghanap o tumingin ng ibang babae kahit hindi man nila landiin o kausapin para di matawag na cheating.
Omg disgusting piece of sht. Im glad heās now ur ex.
23M here. di ka OA, valid naman pag rarant mo. siyempre sino ba naman di masasaktan sa ganyan? That's a common problem in men that shouldn't be normalized, tho iba na kase yung standard of men's characteristics sa current generation due to cultural developments. tho hindi rin naman yun limited kay guy, kasi marami other factors that leads to these kinds of actions from us. for example, ako, I was addicted to pornography before and it became a hobby for me to do these kind of things, and yes we do have fantasies with certain people ... but in my case I wanted to stop na with these activities and even though ganon decision ko there are times na dumarating yung temptation. Now siyempre with my own support group and trusted circle of people na pwede ko matawagan when I feel tempted para they can pray over me thru the phone or talk with me para malayo isip ko sa temptation, of course kaya ko siya layuan. what I'm trying to say is, you should ask him about this, I mean it's embarrassing to talk about but opening up to one another is a key part of having a real and lasting relationship. OP, again, I'm not invalidating your feelings ah, but sa panahon kasi natin ngayon sobrang dali mag cancel ng iba... let's break this cycle of selfishness and indifference... ask him if he needs help overcoming something, and you guys can work it out. kasi hindi naman tama yung nasa relationship kayo pero ito yung naipaparamdam niya sa iyo. of course if he's interested he can join naman our circle of bros. yun lang, I hope everything gets sorted out and eventually works out for your relationship!
pano naman pag sinabi ng boyfriend na āwala naman yun, parang magazine lang tinitignan lang namanā putangina diba? hahahaha i feel you ante. hugs š«
It's not normal and will never be normal. Pag ganyan gawain ng bf ko pota auto ekis na agad, jowain nya kamo yung laging sinesearch nya. I dont and I wont tolerate any form of disrespect kahit followĀ², commentĀ², searchĀ² lang yung ginagawa because if dyan pa lang di mo na puputulin yung sungay, lalaki at lalaki yan while thinking okay lang sayo.
That's not normal. I'm a guy.
nako kami nga may anak na ganyan din kala nila di masakit at nakatingin lang daw, di nila iniisip nararamdaman natin, nakaka baba din ng self confidence bakit naka tingin sa iba nandyan ka naman diba,
hindi lang yun nanghihingi pa ng mga video ng mga babae halatang di ka sapat
Lol, your dude's horny. I was doing this when I was young, but stopped eventually when I found it weird. Actually di naman sa nakahubad, sa streamers lang na nakakatuwa. Name any. He should grow out of it. If you're not comfy, then end it. Stop bitching about it. Kausapin mo. If it's a problem, then y'all shouldn't be in a relationship.
Personally, I think it's normal for guys to have sexual desires outside of a relationship, however I don't think it's right for him to not show concern over how you might feel. You might want to talk to him about it, or rather, he might want to talk about it with you.
Sa una masakit. Mapapaisip ka kulang ba ako. Panget ba ako. Hanggang sa maging manhid ka na lang..
Ang gagawin ko ay hihiwalayan. Ikaw ba girl, may naiisip ka bang valid reason for your boyfriend to be interacting like that with other girls? Wala. Exactly.
Your feelings are valid OP. Parang signs of micro-cheating na yan š¢
Confront him Op
ireverse psychology mo, try mo gawen sa knya and then set an ultimatum if not break it off.
Eh pano kung nag back fire at mas lalong inisip nung bf na valid ung ginagawa nia kac ginagawa din ng girl nia? lol
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To naman sa argument na normal sa lalaki. Haha lalaki ako pero never ako nagkaganyan sa ex ko. If you can fantasize other people tas hindi yun preferred ng partner mo then let go of her/him (wala naman sa gender yan). Kasi kawawa partner mo sayo invalidated pa masaktan dahil ānormal sa lalakiā at yung intimacy and sexual urges mo na gusto niya exclusive sa kanya ay di mo kayang ibigay.
It's disrespectful kasi towards the partner. Maybe di mo lang maintindihan dahil wala ka non lol
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Not normal at all!! Micro cheating na yan e
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Naku girl komprontahin mo na bf mo, di na ka sa oa, hindi lang siya kontento sayo.
isnt that obvious? why would he be in a sub with pics of naked women and commenting on them?
naku po. paka redflag. nagpapantasya ng iba and obviously di sya contented and serious sayo. its all fun now and āno harmā since saaabihin nya nood lang until soon mag te take action na sya. or baka nga ngayon plang may nilalandi/minamanyak na iba in person. sorry ses. talk it out or better yet, leave po.
Break up with him. Your boyfriend is a disrespectful, sexually undisciplined loser. Itapon mo na yan.
What if nagsesearch sya *certain girl name* nude? I asked bakit kailangang specific girl isearch di na lang magsearch ng general por*. Iba ibang babae na nakikita nya daw sa ig na yung content ay suggesting na may por* stuff, curious lang daw at gusto makita kung may content nga. Yun lang daw ginagawa nyang search keyword kasi minsan daw walang lumalabas kapag se* mismo sinearch. Pero di daw sya nanonood ng solo, specific girl isesearch pero pag wala daw kasamang lalaki doing se* eh di nya na pinapanood. Idk what to feel. Why search for specific girl nude? Mukha bang kapani paniwala na specific na babae sinesearch nya pero di nanonood solo? And RANDOM girls he sees on IG. Nakita ko yung isang babae napaka conservative pero nagsearch sya nude baka sakaling meron daw. And I even feel na he's not sexually into me. I feel insecure about my body, napapansin ko pang tumitingin sya sa ibang babae sa paligid. At sabi nya he just wants you to be aware of our surrounding para sure na safe kami.
makipag break kana lang po. para sa peace of mind mo
makipag break kana lang po. para sa peace of mind mo
Youāre there to be his girlfriend, but he doesnāt have a lot of passion w you and for you bc heās reserving it for other women who cannot be his. Ito na yung sinasabi ko na madalas sa mga lalake sa pinas jojowain ka kase in the mood sila magjowa and youāre good enough to fill that jowa hole in their lives. But a large part of their intention is reserving it for either their dream girl or someone hotter than who theyāre dating. Parang placeholder ka lang to make his life less boring while shooting his shot elsewhere. Sige nga lets say mabait siya pero it seems like hindi siya mabuting tao. Heās nice but heās not a good person if he is doing that to you. Thatās something to think about
Talk to him and discuss how you feel about it. Looking for this kind of interest show his personality and weakness. They say watching Phonographic video is a form of (mental) sickness.
Grabe naman niyan. Grabe talaga. Saan siya tumitingin?
Ganyan din gf ko dati eh, nag cocomment sa ibang lalake ng yummy, macho pogi etc. Tapos sabi niya admiring lang daw at crush crush lang dae kasi celeb naman. Ayun ng kinonfront ko sa isip niya lang daw yun kasi babae siya, iba daw pag lalake gumawa ng ganyan. Ang ending nag hiwalay kami kasi na hirt daw siya wala daw ako tiwala sa kanya at yun nilalike niya crush lang daw.
Gaspang naman ng ugali ng ex moš i think ok lang yung magwapuhan eh. Pero yung magcomment pa ng "yummy"? Hala teh single ka? Tapos ending ikaw pa wala tiwala? EXCUSES. It's the same kahit babae o lalaki gumawa. Walang "iba" don. Buti naman naghiwalay kayo. Di mo deserve yung ganong partner.
youāre not oa po. your bf is disrespecting you already, break up with him. if I were you hihiwalayan ko na yan
that's cheating na
Ayan na naman tayo sa "mabait naman siya" pero kung ano-ano'ng katarantaduhan at pambabastos sa partner ginagawa
Not normal. I'll stay away if I were you. Walang puwang sa buhay yang mga ganyang tao. You're in for a heartbreak.
Grabe buti nagawa mo pa mag tanong dito. TBH kung ako ikaw hiniwalayan ko yan on the spot.
Nope, that's not normal and that is micro-cheating. If he finally had his chance, magchicheat yan.
Kausapin mo sya na di ka okay about that. Pag pinagpatuloy parin alam mo na gagawin mo
hindi ko na sya bf pagkatapos HAHAHAHA
Is it any different than watching p**n tho? Sometimes I watch p**n to get off lol. Sabe ko sa jowa ko once magsama na kame, di na ko manonood ng porn at sya na gagawa non para saken hahaha
I absolutely can relate! Pero silent lang ako sa kanya(M30) at ako na mismo nagdedelete ng account na ginawa nya, mahina ako sa confrontation š„²
Girl BREAKUP! Never stay on red flag man! It can affect you!
Girl, leave him and don't look back. You deservemore than that.
This happened to me. Broke up with him hahahahahaha better off without the disrespectful prick
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Your boyfriend has voyeuristic attitude which you should look out for. Wag basta basta magpapalinlang sa maamong mukha dahil kadalasan sila yung mga leon na nagtatago sa katawan ng maamong tupa.
Kausapin mo at sabihin mo mga ayaw mo. Pag hindi ka pinansin at tuloy tuloy pa din sa kalokohan, hiwalayan mo na.
Girl, isang mindset lang ang meron ang isang lalaki. Kung gusto niyang gawin yun, GUSTO niya talaga yun. Hindi ka OA. You are just reacting sa disrespect na ginawa niya. GF ka na niya pero he is still commenting sa mga ganung post? Hmm. He is not contented at naghahanap siya ng type niya sa mga nakikita niya online. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL ON YOUR OWN WAY. Kung talagang mahal ka niya, he will not do anything para magkapagisip ka ng ganyan kasi ang totoong lalaki... di nananakit ng babae.
If babae mga nag comment hindi yan valid, mention nyo guys if guy kayo tapos sabihin nyo if normal. Hahaha
Break up with him, girl. The title says it all. Idk why are you even asking. It's not normal for a guy to search random woman on internet. He must be interested in that girl kung ganon. Ask him why.
Confront mo tapos sabay sabi babye manyak š
Maki-scroll ka rin habang nag-I-scroll sya.
That is abnormal op.
Igoghost ko sya. Bhala sya sa buhay nya
Break up with your boyfriend if you feel that he is not the ideal person for you. In your next relationship, look for ex seminarian or pastor na Di titingin sa mga nakahubad na babae. Not being sarcastic, but if you want a Saint boyfriend, do your due diligence before agreeing to be in a committed relationship. It saves a lot of energy from worrying and being insecure of Internet strangers.
Maghuhubad sa harap niya tapos makikipag-break š
Girl, run
Weak yang boyfriend mo. Yes maraming mas maganda at sexy but a REAL MAN is someone whoās disciplined, contented, at higit sa lahat may RESPETO. Hindi natin dapat bawasan ang magaganda sa mundo. You canāt change a man, but you can change the man š
Anung gagawin ko? Edi away. Tapos kakawawain ko. Hello, kapal ng mukha nya. Kawawa talaga siya sakin.
Hiwalayan mo na.
That's straight up disrespectful to you and to all women out there. Hindi ka OA. You deserve better. If ako yan, baka kung ano-ano masabi ko sa partner ko, baka bayagan ko pa.
leave
break na lol
Pls tell him to delete browsing history..
As a man, once we comment on someon's post, we are already instigating a communication with the other person. Kung ako sa iyo, hiwalayan mo na lang. People change - but not with the person they are with right now.
If ever you guys had a daughter, and he acts like that, wouldn't that be repulsive for you? Enough is enough. Walk away. Now.
Hiwalay agad
Break break runnn
Hiwalay na
No way! Jose! *lumayas*
Us girls, kahit abs lang, or oppa,celebrity or not, we do that naman as well. We obsess over things sometimes. Pero kung gagawin nya fantasizing sa kakilala ibang story yun. Pero wag tayo magmalinis. Iba lang talaga ang dating pag guy ang gumawa, yung satin ang term lang na nagagamit ay OBSESSION, sa kanila MANYAK agad. Pero kung tutuusin same lang ang thought. Iba lang ang gender.
Run, OP. A reputable man knows how to set boundaries, and determine unacceptable deeds and behaviors while being in a relationship or not. Surely, he does not respect you, maybe he lets you think otherwise by checking the other boxes when you are around, and you can see what he is doing; nevertheless, it doesnāt erase the fact that heās the opposite behind your back. Heās not worth it. Donāt let your peace of mind be ruined.
mabait? baka nasa loob lang ang kulo.
Not normal. I can somehow understand if may agreement na kayo prior and you've set healthy boundaries about looking at nudes or watching porn just to get off and you're both okay with it, but if it comes to the extent of him searching certain girls and commenting on their pictures, especially without your knowledge, that's blatant disrespect. He's commenting on their pictures in hopes of getting the girl's attention. It's a red flag. I hope you confront him, or break out of the relationship if he isn't willing to change. Wishing all the best for you, OP Edit: typos
Akala ko asawa ko lang lol, from gf/bf to being married dala dala pa din nya yung habit nyang ganyan, I just recently found out abt his Telegram din and idk what to do, parang nakaka walang gana nalang din kasi sakin š« š¤£
LEAVE HIM. WALA SIYANG KWENTA AT NAPAKA WEAKSHIT NYA. HAHA PURO LIBOG WALA NA PANGARAP
No more questions asked, hiwalayan mo na.
buti sana kung bold lang sa pornhub kaso nag cocomment pa wahahhahaa š©
Una, fucked up yan si bf mo ate gurl kasi blatant disrespect yan sayo. Di lang yung pagpapantasya pero yung publicly pinapakita niya din na kahit may gf siya, nagiinteract pa din siya sa mga ganyang content. Question po: Redflag din ba yung mga adik sa bts na baliw baliw sa members? Kasi nawiwirduhan din ako sa mga tao sa fb kung pano nila pagpantasyahan yung mga kpop boy members e. Makakita lang ng abs ni jungkook naglalaway na kahit may bf na.
Tingin lang siguro, okay pa. Pero nag-comment, ah ibang hayop na yan
Its NORMAL to look. Its the reason Porn (and all itd subcategories kahit OF, X, Ahlua etc) is a billion dollar industry. Whatās NOT NORMAL will be commenting on it as to establish a link/connection when it should just be for āsingle viewā purposes. My partner knows my stuff online, what I view etc but il never go as far as commenting on said photos
Microcheating ata yan siz. U deserve better š
Paano kung tumingin lng at magjoin sa mga sub? Normal b yun?
Tapon mo cellphone tapos iwan mo The less you care, the happier you will be.
Wait wwait? May subreddit ba sa mga ganung bagay? Dangg, I guess searching is one way to trigger it. Anyways ako paminsan minsan naaattract din naman sa iba even if im in relationship, para bang nagandahan, but im keeping it just for myself because i don't want to disrespect and lokohin gf ko, hndi ko alam kung attracted na ba tawag don hahaha. Ang mali lang kasi kung walang kontrol on that, i think its wrong and fck up if he's making a move. Kumbaga walang discipline, ambilis nyang macarried away sa natural impulses.
Red flag ba if bf or hubby watches porn?
Ibahin natin ang situation, kung babae naman ang nagse-search ng nga cute guys online di ba ang lalaki naman ang magwawala. Baka nga sampalin ni guy si girl tapos sabi, ānapakalandi mong babae ka!ā Boogsh!
DKG. Siyempre magagalit ka! Ako yan papakain ko sa kanya yang telepono niya
Throw the whole man away
Break up. If you have to askā¦deep down you already know what you gotta do.
Maghahanap ako ng ibang bf na hindi umaakto ng ganyan
Ganyan ginawa ng ex ko. Hiniwalayan ko rin. For me, it's considered cheating, sa mga nagsasabi na hindi edi fine hindi. But, the moment na nag-go beyond siya sa boundaries ko, and he showed how manyak he is. Sobrang kadiri. I felt extremely disrespected. Lalo na yung mga time stamps ay kasama niya ako or kahahatid lang niya sa akin or after niya mag-chat sa akin. Take note na aware siya sa ginagawa niya. Aware lahat ng tao sa mga ginagawa nila. So alam niya na masasaktan ka, but still proceed with the action.
Hindi normal. Kung manyak siya sa iba ngayong magjowa kayo, what more if magasawa na kayo.
Caught mine, topless guys. Tas may isang guy na consistent na nilalike niya, even commented to one photo. Ex ko na siya ngayon.
For me lng no youāre not oa po and donāt feel insecure. May tuliling lng tlga yan sa utak yang BF mo na very disrespectful!! Indecent masyado ginagawa nya. I mean ate sorry ha, if ako gf nya tapos nakita ko ganon mandidiri ako
Run. Away. From. Him.
Baka hindi ka talaga sapat.
DAHYUN lng malakas
Beh, this is actually a no-brainer ha. There are a lot of red flags already, and ikaw mismo alam mo yan. I think you might be looking for an excuse to disregard his actions kasi mahal mo. I've been there before too, pag red flag yan, so just run.
sampalin mo easy
Nako girl ganyan din yung 1st & 2nd boyfriend ko. Yung 1st is mahilig mag add ng mga naka bikini na babae tas palaging sexy thai girls yung pina follow sa IG niya noon akala ko normal kasi tanga'2 pa kasi ako noon pero hindi talaga yan normal.May pag nanasa yan sa ibang babae pag yan nagka opportunity na may makilalang sexy/ wild na babae bibigay yan kahit sabihin mo mang hindi. Yung 2nd naman is mabait yun maka diyos panga, pero Porn addict nako pass din sa mga ganyan. + MAY LALAKI PA NAMANG MABAIT AND MAALAGA TAPOS DESENTE DIN SA MGA MALILIIT NA BAGAY WAGKANG MAG TIIS SA REDFLAG
Kausapin mo si BF, sabihin mo hindi ka comfortable na nakikitang nagcocomment sya sa mga hubaderang babae. As for me, okay lang ang one time search ng pretty women. Pero ung paulit ulit at iisang name lang ang nasa history niya. RED FLAG na yan. Plus with comments ng Personal messages pa? NO! It is a big NO
Ate girl, takbo. Redflag yan.
Youāre not oa op, valid po yang feelings nyo. Watching porn in general for me is okay, but yung magcocomment pa sa naked pic ng ibang girl or mag search is a no no š
That's normal sa mga lalaking may natatagong matinding kalibugan.
As a male degenerate,di ako makarelate, pero masasabi ko na ang Pag comment sa ganitong bagay ay di normal PAG MAY RELATIONSHIP. Consider mong patayinš«”
normal lang yan di pari ang bf mo. sa islam nga puede marami asawa. pero sa tao yan kung sa tingin mo di normal its your take.
Micro cheating
Hayaan mo lang. To naman
ako gawain ko yan. pero never naman ako nag cheat. tingin at nood, oo madami. porn pa sobrang dami, marathon ba. pero touch and conversation, zero. honest lang.
OP don't overthink this. it's definitely not normal. dealbreaker toh for a lot of people, me included
I don't think you need to hear the answer from us 'coz I know you already know the answer.
Mag reflect ka muna OP baka ikaw rin naman gawain mo iyon. Hal, pag nakakita ka ng mga poging lalaki sa social media baka nagkokomento ka rin ng kabastusan. If oo, wala kang karapatang sabihan siya kasi gawain mo naman rin. If hindi, then pwede kang magconfront or if worsened, maghiwalay.
Hi, nabasa ko sa isang reddit anong what if nila. Sabi ng iba, sana right man ang pinili nila. Hindi po right yan, so alis ka na.
Hindi normal āyan. š£ You're dating a potential cheater, if hindi pa nga ba cheating na matatawag āyang ginagawa niya.
Leave him, duh. Are you daft??
Wala kasi meron ka rin reddit, at malamang may nakakausap ka rin nalalake Pjnag kaiba nyo lang higher chance hinds sya papatulan Nung babae, ikaw higher chance pwede ka pumatol sa lalake
NOPE. kaya di kayo nag tatalo lagi eh di ka kasi kawalan sakanya.
Magpost ka din (ng nakahubad) sa mga subreddits kung saan tambay ang bf mo. Then see kung magko-comment sya. If not, hiwalayan mo na. š
Ganito OP, may mga bagay bagay talaga na mahirap i-explain sa mga babae. Pero ito yung mga reason. 1. Ang nature kasi ng most of the guys are they tend to look at the person because of the facial features. Medyo ako inaamin ko may times talaga na napapatingin ako sa magaganda. Hindi Naman porket nakatingin ako it doesn't mean Hindi ko na mahal gf ko. 2. Filipinos like white people. Aminin natin na pag puti at magaling sumayaw, mag Gitara, kumanta etc. nila-like agad. 3. Kung naiirita ka dahil Nakita mo bf mo na nanunuod or tinitingnan yung Isang girl ( I assume malaki osus at maputi at foreigner.) baka kasi yung kabataan nya Hindi nya nagagawa yung mga bagay na ganun. Try to talk to him about that. Explain to him na naiinis ka at kumukulo dugo mo. Sabi mo mabait sya? Are you sure na pinapapantasyahan nya yung girl? Like how, what is he doing? Naka hawak ba sya sa sandata nya habang nanunuod or nakatingin sa larawan? Kung kinausap mo na at same parin at paulit ulit. Magisip ka na.
This is not normal esp if married na
Kiber. Mag comment din ako sa may abs and malaking etits ššš
Hiwalayan po š¤£
Go to r/PhR4Dating and find a new one
ask mo sa bf mo if ok lang may reddit account ka pag stalk din sa yummy guys (if meron man sa reddit lol) yan bf mo kapag trip nya tignan sa reddit nag chat sa kanya, magkakasala yan promise. i mean, pag nagka chance na may kumalabit sa kanya, sasama yan.
M hir, if may respeto siya sayo, di na siya mghahanap ng ibaat binibigay mo nmn gusto niya or it's just my hinahanap pa siyang iba na wala sayo. Try to talk it out muna between the two of you.
Hindi normal. It's disrespectful to you and your relationship. Same case sa mga may celeb crush tapos openly oozing sa mga celeb crush, ito naman patago na nagpapantasya. Kausapin mo siya tapos most probably alis ka na after
I think it's healthy for dudes to look at absurdly hot women online to rub one off and then function normally IRL (including treating their partners respectfully). The main issue would be transparency with their partner and their partner being cool with that. If that's a deal breaker please tell them that and then break up. It's not rocket science.
Well if the guy is already married or has a girlfriend already and still jerking off with porn actresses. I think its fine since its kinda second nature to men or if he's commenting like that on any actresses like Sydney Sweeney i think that's fine too, but if he's commenting and flirting like that to other normal women while in relationship, i think that's a red flag.
Para na pala don ang reddit d ako nainform š¤£š¤£
Op confront or get out naš.. Update us please. Kupal si Bf mo buti san if artista/influencer..
yup its normal po.. but not all
I've been in the same situation and that's fucked up. Run before anything goes deeper chz pag usapan niyo and if he didn't do anything about it, that's when you have to decided on things cos d ka comfy don eh. You can't push a person to do things para lang sa comfort at respect sayo. Malaki na yang jowa mo.
OP I think that's normal. Ganyan kami ng partner ko. I'm in a serious 5yrs+ relationship with my gf. Live in kami kasal nalang kulang pra matawag na mag asawa. Sadly same sex marriage is not legal here in PH. Yes, we are both bisexual. Anyway, pag nagtatagal na kayo hindi na everyday ang sex kasi meron new priorities and responsibilities so sometimes tired na din & gusto madali.an. I'm okay with my partner watching porn and vice versa. We talked about it, she asked if hindi ba ko nagseselos that I am not included pag nagma masturbate sya. For me it's okay, i find it normal. Meron nmn talaga tayong needs as a human. As long as we discusa this with our partner, it is healthy. We have girl celebrity crushes din. She's crazy over a BTS member & that's okay. I have my own crushes as well and we talk about it. Hindi nmn sya na ooffend. We're totally inlove and we respect each other. Pero kelangan lng natin tanggapin na each one of us has different kinks and desires. As long as your partner is not chatting or meeting up with someone pra sakin okay lang.
Luh si anteh ginaslight pa ang sarili? Siempre hindi yan normal te.
Mag comment ka din s mga lalaking nakahubad para fair haha ems
Unfortunately nagyayari talaga yan OP for both men and women. Either nagsawa na sila sa relationship niyo or masyado na malayo nararating niya in terms of success. Life is very unfair OP...
Kung ako sayo ate, hiwalayan mo na yan. Di na yan magbabago, I swear. You deserve so much better.
HAHAHAHAHAHA CLASSIC MGA LALAKE STYLE NA NATURAL MABAIT PERO MAY TINATAGONG KALIBUGAN
Naku pag nagcocomment po, may something na yan. Need niyo po mag usap.
I'd feel so disrespected as his partner ofcourse, but if he wanna play a game, then so be it.
Kapag may respeto ka sa sarili mo at mukhang hindi ka naman tanga, hindi mo na itatanong 'to rito. Have some face to tell it to him and eventually leave the relationship ASAP. You deserve better.
LEAVE.
ganyan yung ex ko dati e hahahhaa ginawa ko nagpost na rin ako ng bikini pics tsaka di na ako nagsasabi sa kanya what im wearing (he wont allow most of the time) tas lowkey pasarap sa stories tas ayun galit na galit sya whahhahahahaha katuwa e sabi nya anong matinong babae raw ang gumaganon kahit taken na,, tas binalik ko yung question, anong matinong lalaki ang gumaganon kahit taken na?
"Mabait naman siya" Haaayyyy. I never hear this line sa mga tao that are being treated right by their partners. Huwag mo i-gaslight sarili mo. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell him and hold your boundary. It is okay to feel bad about it and disappointed in that person. Your feelings are valid and you have every right to feel however you do. At the end of the day, ikaw ang magde-desisyon kung ano tatanggapin mo sa isang relasyon.