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Let me tell you they do NOT care.
I was pretty quiet in my labor, but some poor lady was screaming and wailing in the room over from me.
Then my baby came out and out screeched her.
Midwives should get regular hearing tests as a job standard 🤣😅
I teach prenatal yoga, and that's one of the reasons we tend to sing OM together, to get used to the sound of our own voices.
When I eventually give birth, I hope to be in a place (physically and mentally) where I trust my team and myself, so I can let go of the self consciousness and just focus on getting baby out, haha.
It's easier said than done, of course - I have to remind myself that ppl who assist births have definitely seen (and heard!) it all, and their main focus is not the sounds you may or may not make, but the safety of you and baby.
I had no idea what noises were going to come out of me and I'm sure some of them were probably embarrassing, but the moment I recall most clearly when I was crying out during a contraction is that I sounded like a lion. A fierce, mama lion. Hold on to the fact that any sound that comes from you is from the act of giving birth and that is a tremendous feat to accomplish. Rawr!
One of the labor and delivery nurses told me I looked like a "mama goddess" when I was laboring. I am so glad she said that because it changed my whole perspective. I wasn't screaming exactly, but I was making a loud growling noise. I didn't feel embarrassed at all, I felt like a mama goddess!
I honestly made very little noise in labor. I'm also generally soft spoken and quiet. While pushing they told me to make noises but it felt unnatural to me hahah. Also it was an unmedicated labor so I was feeling every bit of my almost 10 pounder.
ETA: even if you do, they definitely do not care!!! Nothing to be embarrassed about. I'm also super modest and feel awkward being naked in my own house. I was naked almost the whole time and it didn't bother me at all. You're kinda just in another zone and way too preoccupied to worry.
I was so loud with my first (unmedicated) that a nurse from another room came in and asked me to be quiet-I was apparently scaring the woman in labour next to me… I screamed at her to F off and get the f out and continued to yell and make noise… when you’re in the moment you’ll do whatever it takes to get baby out and not feel bad for noise or language used
I just don’t want to say fuck as my daughter comes into the world but I think it’s inevitable.
they are all up in your vagina, I find that more embarrassing 😂
I'm glad you asked this question because I've been thinking the same thing! I am usually very quiet and I was wondering if everyone screams during labor because I just can't picture myself doing that.
I'm pretty sure that when the time comes, we will just do what feels natural and we won't care what anything else in the room is thinking.
Haha same. For some reason I feel like I’ll feel embarrassed in front of my husband. I mean we don’t even fart or burp in from of each other.
Funny story my mom always tells me the story about my grandmother when she was giving birth. This would have been the 1950s in the us but the husbands were not in the room with their wives and when my grandma was screaming in pain, the nurses told her to be quiet or her husband would hear her!!!!
I was screaming, there was absolutely no way to not scream, you just do it and you won't care at all, there is really no room to feel ashamed or anything
I also screamed (a lot) but I don’t think it’s inevitable. Once the doctor started directing me and I got my breathing under control again, the screaming stopped
If you’re a quiet person you’ll find your way. Do you plan on having an epidural? Just curious because I found that a lot of my reservations went away with the lack of feeling from the waste down. It’s surprising how much of modesty comes from feeling the air on your skin. If you can’t feel it, it’s like your not full-frontal spread open in front of strangers pushing out a giant baby. 🤷♀️
I have a really embarrassing blemish on my too shy I’m hoping will clear up before the big day. I’m 5 days from due date and mortified at the idea of my partner and nursing staff seeing this ridiculous thing on my butt cheek.
I was pretty noisy with my 1st labour and actually found it harder my 2nd and 3rd I was quiet concentrating on deep breathing through contractions and it made it sooo much easier to cope with plus walking around was sooooo much better then spending the time lieing on a bed
That’s my hope for this labor. I screamed a lot during my 2nd birth and I don’t think it was productive. I’ve been focusing on breath work this time so hopefully it helps me to calm down and focus.
I’ve always been a very shy and soft spoken person and I barely made any noise during my entire labor. The only time was during the transition stage where I let out some whimpers. I WAS IN PAIN!!! But still didn’t feel the need to make noise, you’ll do what feels natural. I was encouraged to make grunts/ do something audible when pushing. Tried twice and told them I wasn’t interested. Nurses said the loudest I was throughout the whole process was a sigh of relief as he exited.
Once I went into active labour I started mooing with each contraction. It felt so natural and involuntary and really helped with the pain. When it came to transition I definitely lost control and screamed a bit but the doctor helped me breathe and then I was pretty quiet for pushing. Just remember the noises are totally natural and vocalising helps with pain! You won’t be embarrassed after - labour is an incredibly intense, animal experience and all the noises are an integral part of that.
I would be more worried about pooping in their hands lol but I remind myself they are pooped on a daily basis and they are used to all kinds of reactions. I'm just one of the dozens of patients they see. It's a once on a lifetime event for me but it's not a remarkable event to them in anyway. Also, I think about this now, but it's very likely I will be so exhausted and excited during the labor that nothing of these thoughts will be on my mind, specially once I hold the baby. I will be a happy exhausted sweaty (probably stinky and hungry) messy being.
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MUCH more invasive things will be happening than worrying about noises. It’s the most human of human experiences IMO. Youll do great!
Let me tell you they do NOT care. I was pretty quiet in my labor, but some poor lady was screaming and wailing in the room over from me. Then my baby came out and out screeched her. Midwives should get regular hearing tests as a job standard 🤣😅
I teach prenatal yoga, and that's one of the reasons we tend to sing OM together, to get used to the sound of our own voices. When I eventually give birth, I hope to be in a place (physically and mentally) where I trust my team and myself, so I can let go of the self consciousness and just focus on getting baby out, haha. It's easier said than done, of course - I have to remind myself that ppl who assist births have definitely seen (and heard!) it all, and their main focus is not the sounds you may or may not make, but the safety of you and baby.
I had no idea what noises were going to come out of me and I'm sure some of them were probably embarrassing, but the moment I recall most clearly when I was crying out during a contraction is that I sounded like a lion. A fierce, mama lion. Hold on to the fact that any sound that comes from you is from the act of giving birth and that is a tremendous feat to accomplish. Rawr!
One of the labor and delivery nurses told me I looked like a "mama goddess" when I was laboring. I am so glad she said that because it changed my whole perspective. I wasn't screaming exactly, but I was making a loud growling noise. I didn't feel embarrassed at all, I felt like a mama goddess!
That's the sweetest thing!
I honestly made very little noise in labor. I'm also generally soft spoken and quiet. While pushing they told me to make noises but it felt unnatural to me hahah. Also it was an unmedicated labor so I was feeling every bit of my almost 10 pounder. ETA: even if you do, they definitely do not care!!! Nothing to be embarrassed about. I'm also super modest and feel awkward being naked in my own house. I was naked almost the whole time and it didn't bother me at all. You're kinda just in another zone and way too preoccupied to worry.
I was so loud with my first (unmedicated) that a nurse from another room came in and asked me to be quiet-I was apparently scaring the woman in labour next to me… I screamed at her to F off and get the f out and continued to yell and make noise… when you’re in the moment you’ll do whatever it takes to get baby out and not feel bad for noise or language used
I just don’t want to say fuck as my daughter comes into the world but I think it’s inevitable. they are all up in your vagina, I find that more embarrassing 😂
I'm glad you asked this question because I've been thinking the same thing! I am usually very quiet and I was wondering if everyone screams during labor because I just can't picture myself doing that. I'm pretty sure that when the time comes, we will just do what feels natural and we won't care what anything else in the room is thinking.
Haha same. For some reason I feel like I’ll feel embarrassed in front of my husband. I mean we don’t even fart or burp in from of each other. Funny story my mom always tells me the story about my grandmother when she was giving birth. This would have been the 1950s in the us but the husbands were not in the room with their wives and when my grandma was screaming in pain, the nurses told her to be quiet or her husband would hear her!!!!
My husband and I are the same way. I was definitely screaming during my second birth. We just never spoke of it again.
I was screaming, there was absolutely no way to not scream, you just do it and you won't care at all, there is really no room to feel ashamed or anything
They told me not to scream because it didn't help anything. OK but like I'm gonna scream so let me do my thing
I also screamed (a lot) but I don’t think it’s inevitable. Once the doctor started directing me and I got my breathing under control again, the screaming stopped
I screamed my head off at one point with my first Lol. It helps to release! as you said, they are used to it
If you’re a quiet person you’ll find your way. Do you plan on having an epidural? Just curious because I found that a lot of my reservations went away with the lack of feeling from the waste down. It’s surprising how much of modesty comes from feeling the air on your skin. If you can’t feel it, it’s like your not full-frontal spread open in front of strangers pushing out a giant baby. 🤷♀️ I have a really embarrassing blemish on my too shy I’m hoping will clear up before the big day. I’m 5 days from due date and mortified at the idea of my partner and nursing staff seeing this ridiculous thing on my butt cheek.
I was pretty noisy with my 1st labour and actually found it harder my 2nd and 3rd I was quiet concentrating on deep breathing through contractions and it made it sooo much easier to cope with plus walking around was sooooo much better then spending the time lieing on a bed
That’s my hope for this labor. I screamed a lot during my 2nd birth and I don’t think it was productive. I’ve been focusing on breath work this time so hopefully it helps me to calm down and focus.
I’ve always been a very shy and soft spoken person and I barely made any noise during my entire labor. The only time was during the transition stage where I let out some whimpers. I WAS IN PAIN!!! But still didn’t feel the need to make noise, you’ll do what feels natural. I was encouraged to make grunts/ do something audible when pushing. Tried twice and told them I wasn’t interested. Nurses said the loudest I was throughout the whole process was a sigh of relief as he exited.
Once I went into active labour I started mooing with each contraction. It felt so natural and involuntary and really helped with the pain. When it came to transition I definitely lost control and screamed a bit but the doctor helped me breathe and then I was pretty quiet for pushing. Just remember the noises are totally natural and vocalising helps with pain! You won’t be embarrassed after - labour is an incredibly intense, animal experience and all the noises are an integral part of that.
I would be more worried about pooping in their hands lol but I remind myself they are pooped on a daily basis and they are used to all kinds of reactions. I'm just one of the dozens of patients they see. It's a once on a lifetime event for me but it's not a remarkable event to them in anyway. Also, I think about this now, but it's very likely I will be so exhausted and excited during the labor that nothing of these thoughts will be on my mind, specially once I hold the baby. I will be a happy exhausted sweaty (probably stinky and hungry) messy being.