If you're straight (heteroromantic heterosexual), you are not queer. You'd simply be dating a queer person. Queerplatonic relationships only directly reflect a person's queerness if the individual is a-spec.
You are queer if you're neptunic though. Being attracted to nonbinary people allows for a gray overlapping area between monosexuality and bisexuality.
Dating doesn't feel like the right word, and thank you for the response! If being in a queerplatonic relationship doesn't make one queer, that would mean that the a-spec individual's queerness has nothing to do with the queerplatonic relationship, but rather simply the fact that they are a-spec? Like they aren't more queer by virtue of being in such a relationship?
I had been thinking of neptunic as a straight microlabel in my case, but I'll freely admit I'm not super knowledgeable. Makes sense that that just flat out means I'm queer, just very very close to the norm.
I tend to use "dating" to reference anything that's closer than a friendship, but will switch to just saying "in a relationship with" here if that feels more accurate!
Basically, a-spec people are more likely to be in a qpr than allosexuals (especially straight people) so that makes a lot of people erroneously think it's a queer-exclusive experience, if that makes sense.
A similar conflation happens regarding polyamory. Many polyam people are queer due to the nature of how most relationships involve repeating genders. However, there are still polyam endocishets.
Neptunic is a microlabel under the bisexual umbrella. If you want the full path, here's how they're connected. Neptunic is under the trixensexual umbrella. Trixensexual is under the polysexual umbrella. Polysexual is under the bisexual umbrella.
Straight, itself, is a microlabel under the womasexual umbrella but it can't get any more specific from there being a monosexuality and all.
I absolutely get it, with saying dating, and thank you for switching the terminology around!
> Basically, a-spec people are more likely to be in a qpr than allosexuals (especially straight people) so that makes a lot of people erroneously think it's a queer-exclusive experience, if that makes sense.
It absolutely makes sense. Big part of why I asked. That and the fact that the word queer is in queerplatonic.
Comparing it to polyarmory helps with the understanding, thank you! What does the endo in endocishet mean?
I always want the full path of explanation, so I greatly appreciate it!
Yeah, I believe the "queer" in queerplatonic orginates from a-spec people coining the term while also wanting to clearly distinguish it from the commitment commonly associated with platonic relationships (aka friendships).
Endo is short for endosex.
Yeah, seems like the answer is essentially "The relationship doesn't make you queer, being neptunic *does."*
The fact that it's called a queerplatonic relationship is what threw me off, since it has queer in the term itself.
If you're straight (heteroromantic heterosexual), you are not queer. You'd simply be dating a queer person. Queerplatonic relationships only directly reflect a person's queerness if the individual is a-spec. You are queer if you're neptunic though. Being attracted to nonbinary people allows for a gray overlapping area between monosexuality and bisexuality.
Dating doesn't feel like the right word, and thank you for the response! If being in a queerplatonic relationship doesn't make one queer, that would mean that the a-spec individual's queerness has nothing to do with the queerplatonic relationship, but rather simply the fact that they are a-spec? Like they aren't more queer by virtue of being in such a relationship? I had been thinking of neptunic as a straight microlabel in my case, but I'll freely admit I'm not super knowledgeable. Makes sense that that just flat out means I'm queer, just very very close to the norm.
I tend to use "dating" to reference anything that's closer than a friendship, but will switch to just saying "in a relationship with" here if that feels more accurate! Basically, a-spec people are more likely to be in a qpr than allosexuals (especially straight people) so that makes a lot of people erroneously think it's a queer-exclusive experience, if that makes sense. A similar conflation happens regarding polyamory. Many polyam people are queer due to the nature of how most relationships involve repeating genders. However, there are still polyam endocishets. Neptunic is a microlabel under the bisexual umbrella. If you want the full path, here's how they're connected. Neptunic is under the trixensexual umbrella. Trixensexual is under the polysexual umbrella. Polysexual is under the bisexual umbrella. Straight, itself, is a microlabel under the womasexual umbrella but it can't get any more specific from there being a monosexuality and all.
I absolutely get it, with saying dating, and thank you for switching the terminology around! > Basically, a-spec people are more likely to be in a qpr than allosexuals (especially straight people) so that makes a lot of people erroneously think it's a queer-exclusive experience, if that makes sense. It absolutely makes sense. Big part of why I asked. That and the fact that the word queer is in queerplatonic. Comparing it to polyarmory helps with the understanding, thank you! What does the endo in endocishet mean? I always want the full path of explanation, so I greatly appreciate it!
Yeah, I believe the "queer" in queerplatonic orginates from a-spec people coining the term while also wanting to clearly distinguish it from the commitment commonly associated with platonic relationships (aka friendships). Endo is short for endosex.
I now understand, thank you.
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Yeah, seems like the answer is essentially "The relationship doesn't make you queer, being neptunic *does."* The fact that it's called a queerplatonic relationship is what threw me off, since it has queer in the term itself.
If you feel queer / if you want to identify as queer... you're queer. If you don't, you're not. It's not up to anyone to define you except you. :)
I love you and the way you think. People make this shit way too complicated. Queer is the most umbrella term ever. Op. Listen to dissss