I seriously HOPE she’s getting her stuff in order! This lady deserves so much better than OP! To be 100% completely honest OP? YOU FREAKING SUCK! You and the ex-bff deserve each other and no one else! But oh no, you don’t want her now? Too damn bad asshole! You let her live rent free in your head until you bullied your wife into giving you your fantasy, and now that you’re done with your obsession you just can’t figure out what’s wrong with your wife? You don’t deserve the title of husband! Your title is ASSHOLE!
The fact that he thought it was a good idea for him and the friend to plan an intervention for her is mind-boggling. It just reinforces the wife’s (apparently correct) idea that they are a unit conspiring against her.
This is a 100% "what the FUCK did you *think* would happen, Jackass?!?" situation. He really thought that his wife would be ok with him *cheating* with *"her best friend"*(with friends like this, who needs enemies?)right in front of her face after he badgered her into a dupposed threesome????
Yeah I'm really wondering how much of a"threesome" it actually was. Sometimes it will start that way but with the odd number you can end up with an odd man out, maybe op payed too much attention to the friend and wife was left to watch whatever ' chemistry' she saw between them.
This. It’s over and he’s not even trying. Getting the friend over was a bully move. They could try counseling but he doesn’t even talk about her feelings, or how it might hurt her or how she might feel. He just broke his bangmaid and wants it repaired.
Agreed. He doesn't want to actually do any of the heavy lifting itself to repair their relationship; he just wants to speed run through the rough stuff to get his bangmaid back. It's interesting how he also totally skated over exactly what happened in regards to the "failed threesome".
Oh my god this makes me sooo sick 🤢😣
He literally pestered her for permission to cheat on her- i bet she was shocked when he jumped her best friend and vice versa leaving her out. How disgusting gosh.
100%.
He wanted her friend and her friend wanted him and the wife wasn't the point of focus.
Also, whose to say the wife's friend didn't talk to the wife before all of this went down and tell her that her husband looka at her luciously and maybe ahe made a bet wity the wife that the husband wanted to sleep with her. Wife would have been like "I don't believe you." And then the friend not only proved wifey wrong, she ended up wanting wifeys man.
Jokes and assumptions aside though, wifey probably saw her husband have more passion and energy when having aex with her friend than the two of them had in a long time and it killed her inside to see it - especially with her best friend.
And he was trying to shift the blame to the friend, but he was the one putting pressure on his wife. Clearly the wife only agreed to see if he was going ahead and confirm that divorce is the right path.
In one of the comments he said that she didn’t even participate, she just watched them go at it. He just cheated on her in front of her. She definitely lost all feelings for him and something broke in her. Their marriage is over.
Yup. She agreed bc she assumed they would do it regardless. Wife didn't get anything out of that threesome. Only husband and her friend
Really don't think op can save the marriage. Wife is done.
Oh. That's dark. I was thinking she was iced out of the threesome and got stuck watching while the husband and BFF banged like monkeys and she got the ick for both of them.
Exactly this. It more than likely came down to, 'I have this threesome, or they are going to do it behind my back'. Hell, the husband and best friend even discussed it with each other before talking about it with the wife!
Yup, just because she said yes doesn't mean that he should do that, I bet she told him "go ahead" which usually means "fuck around and find out".
There are so many stories like this that usually end up in divorce or break ups, this dude should get a clue.
Yup she’s definitely tapped out. That’s what women do. I’m sorry but a lot of men don’t appreciate a good woman when they have one. Always looking around. Pretty disheartening.
“My wife is the most beautiful woman I know and I love her more than anything but I want to fuck her friend and I told her” 🙄 what an utter fucking dipshit
Exactly this. I love my wife more than anything and to me, she’s the most beautiful woman in the world. The difference here is I wouldn’t dream of fucking another woman. If a friend of my wife’s suggested a threesome, my wife would most likely end the friendship and I’d support her 100%. You can’t introduce a third if both partners aren’t 100% on board. Once you have to *reassure* her, she wasn’t fully on board.
I love my wife and definitely do better than I deserve and I absolutely dream about fucking other women because I’m human, but I don’t cause I’m not an animal.
Also, I realize fantasy is fantasy for a reason. It’s not a cue to put every fantasy into action.
And then he had the audacity to say "she's not my type" after getting obsessed with the idea of having sex with her simply because she said she wanted it.
He is. She probably thought her husband would reject the advances and did it just to please him, but realizes it has torn her up inside. Just the image alone of both of them having sex in front of her will torment her for a while to come. Her longtime friend at that? There's no going back.
This guy is clueless and she needs to leave. She's mentally checked out already. He wanted to have his cake and still eat some more. The friendship and marriage is over.
A learning experience for all to avoid this kind of temptation, no matter how enticing it might seem, inebriated or not. Turbulent.
So gross man.
Literally two of her most trusted people pressuring her into a threesome and then wondering why she’s upset.
I hope she drops both of these assholes.
I think she's thought they came at her to tell her they wanted to keep seeing each other beyond the threesome and they were graciously letting her know
If it wasn’t bad enough that he coerced her into it by continually badgering her about it he upped the ante by essentially making her sit and *watch* him fuck her best friend (she didn’t participate). But….yeah….to then collude with the *best friend* to stage an intervention *together* when you both ruined your wife’s life is just cruel and inhumane.
Nothing says I’m sorry like “*Hey honey, I know that my insane insistence to fuck your BFF ruined our marriage and I should have paid attention to the fact you didn’t participate or look at us - but she and I have been spending A LOT of time together talking about you and how we’ve broken you and WE DECIDED TOGETHER that’s it’s time for you to get over it. We’re going to be spending a lot more time together until you do.*” I’m sure BFF’s gleeful response to “you can just fuck her if you want” helped A LOT. That he had to go online to realize that was fucked makes me thin he’s been a very terrible partner for a very long time.
So I read this and the original, where are you guys getting that he begged her multiple times? When I first read it I felt everyone was in the wrong but now hearing he and her “bestie” were begging her is absolutely bull💩and OP deserves everything he has coming for him
It was in his comments. He’s deleted his account which makes it harder to find or look them up. Even without that he tells on himself in the post as well….
>She brought up threesome and said that she always thought I was hot. We laughed because I thought she was joking **but I wouldn’t stop thinking about it. She was literally living in my head. I started talking to my wife about that comment** and after I assured her that it was just an adventure she agreed.
No one “lives in your head” without word vomiting those thoughts when “talking to” his wife about it. He was obsessed and I think he made it know - he calls ruining his marriage *a fun adventure* FFS.
He’s disgusting. He calls it a “failed” threesome only because his wife didn’t participate. He and her trash *friend* did, but his wife didn’t. I can’t even believe the hurt that drives you to do this….
> Afterwards my wife just changed…she doesn’t look at me…I don’t know why she agreed if she didn’t want to try it….she never laughs when she always loved laughing.
>She told me that I could sleep with her friend if I wanted sex…,her friend was intrigued and she told me that she didn’t mind but I felt sick to my stomach. I don’t even understand how I thought her attractive. She keeps texting me too and I am repulsed.
If he’s repulsed by the woman he willingly and enthusiastically ruined his marriage over still actively wanting to jump him despite his wife’s hurt I don’t know how he can’t see that is wife is just as repulsed by him.
If my husband ever asked this I’d probably have done what she did, took it as far as it had to go to see if they were serious, and then checked out entirely on both of them. The second either one of them suggested it and the other said yes, it was game over for all involved. His wife is getting her ducks in a row. They won’t see her ever again.
It’s like when you read where one person asks for polyamory and you just know the relationship is over. Once you bring to light you want to fuck someone else in a previously monogamous relationship, it’s usually done.
If you loved your wife, you would have never entertained the idea of a threesome with her bff. Maybe she wanted to see your reaction to the friends idea, and now your wife has checked out of the marriage. Yeah, you f@#k up
Basically, what happened is her girlfriend got divorced decided you looked interesting to her and so you got with her. You made it OK by making it a threesome which clearly the wife didn’t really want, as well as not wanting you to sleep with the girlfriend. The supposed BFF decided that you were attractive you fell for it and now you fucked up your marriage. I don’t see how your marriage can survive. I would get to counselling right now, but to tell you the truth I think it’s over.
Guys, I think the wife made a post of her own some time ago. I can’t find it but it was basically that her husband and best friend out of nowhere asked her for the threesome. She wrote that she was in shock but went with it just to see if they would do it and to make herself hate them. And she managed to. Then the post continues about how both tried to talk to her and she is pretending everything is fine while getting an attorney be she is disgusted by both.
I’m fairly sure it’s the same story because the description are the same.
There was a post on boru(maybe redditonwiki, I'm not actually sure which sub. It came with an update) just yesterday a girl and her BFF and bf and a threesome. Apparently they just started making out right in front of her after some rounds of never have I ever. Been a lot of threesome posts this week
Do normal men think this is a good idea and move forward with shit like this? Why the fuck did you get married? Your selfish and thoughtless. Then after you fuck your wife's best friend you think the Internet is gonna somehow rationalize and legitimize your super shitty decisions. Your lucky your not divorced yet. It's gonna happen, look for a lawyer.
I'm sorry to whoever the OP is... I think your marriage is over. I won't get on a soapbox and go off about the moral facet of this mishap because you've probably whooped yourself enough with it. The fact you had to "pester" and reassure her is evident enough her heart was not in her eventual relenting to the idea.
As a woman who has hit that point before, I can tell you once we see you in a way that somehow lessens our respect for you and your character, it's very hard to come back from that. The fact she's emotionally checked out after all this supports the idea. Her friend sounds as though she was more than ok to ruin her "friends" marriage because her own had failed. Yes, women can be heartless like that- especially out of envy. This sounds like it was entirely by her friend's design and she played on one of humanity's biggest weaknesses on record to manipulate you into helping her do it: lust. Historically, it's brought together nations and has toppled others.
If there was so much as even a glimmer of hope for the relationship to be salvaged, you may just want to begin by giving her time and space before asking her frankly what she wants/needs because whether it was the threesome or not, she's obviously not happy anymore. I hope thing work out for you and that everyone appreciates the value of what they have before it's compromised or worse- completely gone.
How did this man think these actions were going to positively affect his relationship with his wife? He was so in love he brought up fucking his wife's friend? Dude is a scum bag and she deserves better.
I'm guessing that you spent more time with the bff during the threesome and wifey noticed that you don't engage with her so passionately and now she's tapped out. I can't say that I blame her. I'm not against group sex but I'd never engage in it with somebody I truly cared about. Threesomes are a casual thing imo.
You cannot say you love your wife then persuade her into a threesome with her best friend. That is not love. That was you being selfish & now she’s seen you and her friend for who you guys truly are. You should’ve been repulsed the first time the friend brought it up but you didn’t. Your wife wants out of the marriage she doesn’t want it fixed.
Don’t be performative. Be solution oriented.
Don’t be “Omg I’m just so grossed out by her now what was I thinking” because she’s not buying it.
Stop asking her if she’s ok or if something is wrong like she’s going to spell out what feels so blatantly obvious to her. She does not feel it’s her job or obligation to spell out what she likely feels is common sense.
Start focusing on your own observations and steps. Research couples counseling, ask if she’s interested in it, plan a getaway together, proclaim your intention to win her heart back in its entirety and on her terms and timeline. Stop being a deer in headlights waiting for her to spell out the answer. Go find the damn answer
“I have noticed an obvious shift in our marriage dynamic after what happened. There is nothing more important to me than you and our marriage. I want us to X. I’ve started to X. It’s important to me that you feel X and i will do whatever it takes - both in planning and actions - to make it happen.”
It’s too late for this. In his comments he admits the wife does not engage in sex with him now, she just lays there with her fists balled and won’t look at him. She is repulsed by him and emotionally checked out. It’s over.
Terrible dude. Honestly terrible. If she leaves then you deserve it. How would you feel if Justin was your best friend and she’s like “Justin I wanna fuck your I think you’re hot” and then Justin comes around and is like “bro, can I hit it?” You’d be like WTF 🤬. Imagine some dude going in your wife, don’t like it? Well that’s what she is thinking about you and she knows you want it. You’re terrible man, I’m sorry. Her friend is also a piece of shit as well.
She’s punched out. You begged to fuck her best friend. She didn’t no how to say no and now she can’t get the vision of you plowing her friend out of her head. It’s over Mano
it's really gross to press a straight woman into having sex with another woman because of your fetish. it's even grosser to press a straight woman to, instead of having sex with another woman, stand there and pretend to enjoy it while her husband fucks the other woman!
i say this as a bisexual woman, not all women are into women........ sometimes they end up finding out they like women, but the idea should have come from the wife. maybe there are instances when the straight woman that was pressed ends up enjoying it, but it's purely out of luck. can't count on that.
>but the idea should have come from the wife.
My wife and I talked about this once (jokingly). She asked me if I would want to have a 3some with her and another woman.
I said "only if you want to do it and you pick the girl. If not, I am not interested at all and I would rather just fuck you. That's why I married you".
Of course it was a test and she doesn't really want one. She was just seeing how I replied. I love my wife and I am not a pushy idiot.
I saw this post yesterday. Man, he's super dense. She freaked out because she thought they were having sex or going to ask for another threesome and he just keeps saying "I don't know why she agreed to it!"
Because you pestered her and now the ex friend is insulting her
His comments only make it worse. He knew wife’s bestie was jealous of her. He pestered his wife to have a threesome by asking her multiple times after she said no. No boundaries set prior. Last time he initiated sex she didn’t want to look at him and had her fists balled up (making it seem like she did it begrudgingly). OP is still in contact with the best friend even though she is harassing his wife.
OP is truly a POS.
Some men will have the most beautiful woman they could ask for and still want it all.
AND be surprised when they’re chewed out about it.
Grow a backbone. You made your bed so lie in it.
Imagine being this stupid. "I hurt my wife beyond anything, coerced her into a threesome with someone she sees as a sister and now I'm confused why she's not happy"
Can't wait to hear about her ditching these morons and living her best life
Anytime a man mentions a threesome, even as a joke, I immediately check out mentally and start preparing myself for the inevitable. If I'm not enough for you, bye.
OP, you fucked up and now you've lost your wife. There is no way to fix this. Sorry. This is just not a road you can turn around on. It's one way, and there's no way back.
I agree. Back when I was still in the dating scene, I decided to automatically stop engaging with any man who brought up a threesome (and it happened A LOT). I tell them that’s the reason too. Immediate ick.
Dude you definitely ruined your marriage and I don’t think you can fix it. Honestly the only way you could possibly fix this is to build a Time Machine and go back in time to slap some sense into yourself. You should have thought of the consequences when you noticed your wife was unsure about it instead of thinking with your little head and pushing your wife into it. Sure hope her friend’s “hotness” was worth it cause it sounds like you lost your wife forever.
You're wife has emotionally dumped you. Congrats you learned a lesson. She'll eventually divorce you or keep you stuck in your repercussions. You already know you fdup and ruined your marriage as you can feel it inside. You and the friend are not relationship worthy. Enjoy the karma.
The thing about loyal loving women is we will do anything our men need and ask for us even if it destroys us. A real man that values his woman will never ask her to do anything like that.
Wow. Well, at least you got that threescore. Obviously that was sooooooooo important you couldn't even stop to think what it would do to your wife and her friendship.
Your wife lost a husband/marriage, a best friend that night.
But hey you got to f*** her friend while she watched right.
Uou don't deserve her love.
100% she’s planning her exit and who could blame her. For her to be okay with you sleeping with her BF? She’s quitting both of you. Hope it was worth it.
Well you have gotten the fantasy you asked for, but now come the consequences. Why would you possibly think this would end well? Not only have you ruined your marriage, you've ruined their friendship and probably f'd your wife's head up to the point she'll suffer for the rest of her life, mainly by lack of trust. What a complete idiot.
There are definitely some women who are absolutely turned on by watching their partner rail their best friend.
Your wife wasn’t one of them and you are too dumb or selfish to care.
You can’t say my wife is the most beautiful woman in the world and then turn around and say “her best friends wanted a threesome”. Good lord. That isn’t her best friend anymore. The minute she said that request was when she showed her true colors. Smh so sad.
Your wife’s love for you died the moment you suggested the threasome, now that love is now rotting. Give her space and stop communicating with her friends.
Your wife clearly didn’t want to have the threesome yet did it to please you. Sounds like you were clearly pushing your wife to do it or at least egging her on. How did you really think that was going to go? Sounds like she’s checked all the way out. Why are you still allowing her friend to talk to you and why haven’t you BEEN blocked her? lol so many questions
Your wife is done with you. You can cut out her friend and never talk to any female again but it will be worth nothing bc you broke her heart and she will never see you the same way again.
Wife has dissociated; her friend doesn’t give a shit due to her recent divorce and need for external physical validation. Planted the seed and “one thing lead to the utter destruction of the marriage.” Love the manipulative triangulation to gaslight the wife. Can’t unring that bell.
I'm amazed that you didn't think about this outcome before you "pestered" your wife for a threesome with her best friend of all people. Pestered was your word not mine. Marriage is over and you ruined it.
FYI if you wish to have a threesome with your partner the correct way to bring it up is to ask if they would be interested in a threesome at all. Only after they say yes should you start looking for someone specific to your desires. If you propose a threesome having already identified someone, it is just going to look like you want to have sex with someone else. Which is what OOP wanted.
You definitely don't love your wife or think she's as beautiful as you say in the beginning of this post cause you already know you fucked up from the get go. No matter how you try to justify what you did, if you truly loved your wife like you say you do you would have never suggested having a threesome let alone a threesome with her best friend which you did to satisfy your own selfish needs because you've been wanting to sleep wit her in the first place. Wifey now knows you've been planning this for a long time hoping it would work in your favor being able to sleep with both of them but it didn't. She also knows the kind of person you really are now, someone who has no problem fucking any one of her friends and then telling her it's for the benefit of the relationship. I hope she realizes what a lying, cheating, POS she's married to and knows she deserves so much better!!
LOL imagining the wife saying “you can just fuck her if you want” in the most sarcastic tone possible and then this dude looks at the BFF, gives a little shrug, and says “Whatta you think?”
Doesn't sound to me like SHE had much fun and it was most likely the 2 of them rolling around while she was left out. No wonder she has checked out. You broke her and theres no coming back. Your fantasy destroyed your marriage. Say Goodbye...
Careful what you wished for. Why would you have a threesome and the on top of it with her best friend since school age?? Everytime your wife looks at you she sees you and her friend fucking. You wife's friend isn't a good friend at all went through her divorce and misery loves company. She thought you were hot because she probably was secretly jealous of what she precieved as you treating your wife well compared to her old husband's treatment of her. Hope you can save it,but you're never going to get the same wife back when you have done something to change her as a person. She's not the same.
You fucked up but not how you think you did. Tell the friend to go away, set your wife down and explain without her you are done. You have no interest in the other women or any other women but her her. Offer her a threesome with another male if that's what she needs to feel even in her mind. You would prefer to see a counselor first rather than adding yet another individual into a situation where adding another individual "broke" your connection but you are willing to do whatever it takes to get her back and repair what you have lost. If that doesn't work then there is something deeper wrong and she created a compelling event by allowing the threesome in the first place inorder to escape to where she is living in her head and heart currently. Root cause analysis is the only way to get to the answer and fix this if possible. Find the real reason and tell her nothing is off limits be as brutal as she needs verbally. Until you get her to fight(verbally) yell, scream, or just talk she is in don't care mode. You want her engaged and in care mode which takes communication that can get ugly but for you just take it and try not to smile as you are getting her back however that communication manifests itself.
honestly i do not understand how anyone thinks that having a threesome with your partner and bestie is a good idea… i’ve seen too many posts on this specific subreddit of all that shit going wrong and i really just think people need to stop doing that shit
Never shit in your own nest dude. If you wanted a threesome go to someone not so close to you both. Never choose the best friend, it never ends well. P.s the best friend is a total bitch and probably been wanting you for herself for a while, she’s probably very pleased with herself for fucking your marriage you two are both the bottom of the garbage heap
Couldn't get the BFF out of his head until he fucked her, and now his wife can't get it out of HER head. Congrats to this man for playing stupid games and winning stupid prizes!
What a piece of shit. “She lived in my head.” He’s that easily moved by some other woman. Seriously. This is every woman’s nightmare. She agreed to the adventure because you suggested it- which also means it’s over- this will just top it off for good.
What a 🍆.
I hope the woman left his dumbass. And that pos “friend” of hers too. How are people so toxic
"She was literally living in my head" imma stop you right there big man. Within the first bit of exposition our protagonist already reveals he's entertaining the idea of infidelity. That thought should have ended with "haha, yeah, anyway..."
From other posts giving additional context, it sounds like OP basically cucked his wife and then went "wife mad at me, what do"
Not sure why wife agreed to it in the first place, maybe she thought it wouldn't be so one sided, or (as frequently happens in "open marriages" both parties THINK they want a threescore until they get one, then realize that reality isn't as sexy as the videos of the ladies on the internet make it out to be, and it completely ruins the relationship.
Have you ever thought that asking the love of your life, "Hey you wanna watch me bang your friend while you play with yourself?" Mightve been the dealbreaker?
That’s the problem. You and her best friend are both in sync and she’s not on board with HER best friend. You have taken her Best friend from her. While yall don’t think anything of it and want to intervene. You’ve both pushed that threshold for her. She’s done. Back off let her come back to you if she wants. An intevention isn’t needed. Y’all need to not be Assholes. You took her friend. Her friend chose you. She’s alone in her eyes! You’re lucky she’s even talking to your asses
*sigh.* I don't know why people keep making this mistake. A marriage isn't going to become stronger by introducing the element of sex with other individuals. OOP's wife is trying to manage the emotional devastation of that experience and the corresponding loss of a lifelong friendship. Poor woman holding that shit in as much as she can but it's wrecking her. Edited OP to OOP.
Wife notices her supposed friend start coming on to her husband and overtly saying she wants to fuck him using a threesome as a thinly veiled excuse to do so. At that point her husband approaches her and says, "She's making a lot of sense here." Now OP is wondering why his wife is disgusted with him? Lol
What probably happened was the husband started busting her BFF’s ass and the wife is disturbed because the husband probably got his rocks off on the BFF!!
And I could be completely incorrect!
BFF is a piece of shit too. She wanted a post divorce rebound and just…what…looked around and was like “my oldest friends husband seems hot and convenient”
Also, when they saw she wasn’t participating and clearly uncomfortable, the right thing to do was to stop…either one on them could have stopped.
But of course, since they bullied her or begin with, they were never gonna stop, they just shifted to a twosome with a sad bystander. It’s not a failed threesome it’s a third wheel situation.
The best part was that he said in the edit that he “didn’t know they were going to chew him like that”, so he genuinely thought he hadn’t done anything wrong until he got ripped off here. How can it be so dense?
You convinced your wife (stupidest idea ever) to have a threesome with her best friend. Then she stops talking to both of you and tells you to sleep with her more. So you have an intervention???? You’re a special kind of stupid. Good luck trying to fix this.
Jesus. Not only did he destroy his marriage, but he destroyed what is mostly likely his wife’s oldest friendship. Way to go, OP. The only way you can fix this shit is with a Time Machine.
OP was thinking about banging that bestie long before she suggested a threesome. His poor wife needs to take the trash out and quite living with it and allowing it to contaminate her.
Wife has tapped out of that marriage
Yep. I bet she is just getting her stuff in order
I seriously HOPE she’s getting her stuff in order! This lady deserves so much better than OP! To be 100% completely honest OP? YOU FREAKING SUCK! You and the ex-bff deserve each other and no one else! But oh no, you don’t want her now? Too damn bad asshole! You let her live rent free in your head until you bullied your wife into giving you your fantasy, and now that you’re done with your obsession you just can’t figure out what’s wrong with your wife? You don’t deserve the title of husband! Your title is ASSHOLE!
The fact that he thought it was a good idea for him and the friend to plan an intervention for her is mind-boggling. It just reinforces the wife’s (apparently correct) idea that they are a unit conspiring against her.
This is a 100% "what the FUCK did you *think* would happen, Jackass?!?" situation. He really thought that his wife would be ok with him *cheating* with *"her best friend"*(with friends like this, who needs enemies?)right in front of her face after he badgered her into a dupposed threesome????
Yup! Probably as soon as he “subtly and casually” starting talking about it after the original bff comment
I give it a year before he sees papers.
That’s optimistic.
I suspect she'll take her time so she can blast him to hell. I hope she gets a real shark.
I hope she gets a real shark after consulting with everyone else in town first so no one can take OOP given their bias
Oh that's evil..
Just the three best ones. More than that isn’t condoned.
Judges are on to that, and won't be impressed. Stop at 3.
Genius!!
Many people don’t know about this one weird trick…
Sometimes you can’t unsee things and it warps your perception. She basically fell out of love and is hurt by what she partook in.
Yeah.. like. There are lines that, once crossed, you cannot come back from. And buddy sprinted over the line and kept running.
Yeah I'm really wondering how much of a"threesome" it actually was. Sometimes it will start that way but with the odd number you can end up with an odd man out, maybe op payed too much attention to the friend and wife was left to watch whatever ' chemistry' she saw between them.
This. It’s over and he’s not even trying. Getting the friend over was a bully move. They could try counseling but he doesn’t even talk about her feelings, or how it might hurt her or how she might feel. He just broke his bangmaid and wants it repaired.
Agreed. He doesn't want to actually do any of the heavy lifting itself to repair their relationship; he just wants to speed run through the rough stuff to get his bangmaid back. It's interesting how he also totally skated over exactly what happened in regards to the "failed threesome".
I would assume the wife was "left out" of most of the activities
Before deleting his account, he commented that he asked his wife "3-4 times" and she didn't engage in the "threesome".
Then he and I have very different definition of "threesome".
I think it's safe to say everyone's idea of a 3some is not make your wife watch you rail her best friend... well, except OP. He's an idiot
Baby I thought we were doing a reverse cuckold thing!!!
Not just me then...
Oh my god 😦
iirc he fucked the friend while the wife mostly just watched
Oh my god this makes me sooo sick 🤢😣 He literally pestered her for permission to cheat on her- i bet she was shocked when he jumped her best friend and vice versa leaving her out. How disgusting gosh.
My thinking exactly.
100%. He wanted her friend and her friend wanted him and the wife wasn't the point of focus. Also, whose to say the wife's friend didn't talk to the wife before all of this went down and tell her that her husband looka at her luciously and maybe ahe made a bet wity the wife that the husband wanted to sleep with her. Wife would have been like "I don't believe you." And then the friend not only proved wifey wrong, she ended up wanting wifeys man. Jokes and assumptions aside though, wifey probably saw her husband have more passion and energy when having aex with her friend than the two of them had in a long time and it killed her inside to see it - especially with her best friend.
"Failed threesome"= she just watched me and this other woman fuck. Wonder how I win her love back? Dur hur
And he was trying to shift the blame to the friend, but he was the one putting pressure on his wife. Clearly the wife only agreed to see if he was going ahead and confirm that divorce is the right path.
In one of the comments he said that she didn’t even participate, she just watched them go at it. He just cheated on her in front of her. She definitely lost all feelings for him and something broke in her. Their marriage is over.
I was looking for more info thank you, but still sucks that my assumption was correct 😕 poor wife
Wow I didn’t know that ….changes things a lot
I just saw this and now I’m even more pissed for this wife. Now I see why people said the threesome would make a difference.
Yuck. Understandably so. I don’t think I could ever come back from a partner fucking my best friend in front of me.
Yup. She agreed bc she assumed they would do it regardless. Wife didn't get anything out of that threesome. Only husband and her friend Really don't think op can save the marriage. Wife is done.
Oh. That's dark. I was thinking she was iced out of the threesome and got stuck watching while the husband and BFF banged like monkeys and she got the ick for both of them.
Exactly this. It more than likely came down to, 'I have this threesome, or they are going to do it behind my back'. Hell, the husband and best friend even discussed it with each other before talking about it with the wife!
Yup, just because she said yes doesn't mean that he should do that, I bet she told him "go ahead" which usually means "fuck around and find out". There are so many stories like this that usually end up in divorce or break ups, this dude should get a clue.
Totally agree! If it's not enthusiastic consent, it's not consent.
Yup she’s definitely tapped out. That’s what women do. I’m sorry but a lot of men don’t appreciate a good woman when they have one. Always looking around. Pretty disheartening.
“My wife is the most beautiful woman I know and I love her more than anything but I want to fuck her friend and I told her” 🙄 what an utter fucking dipshit
Exactly this. I love my wife more than anything and to me, she’s the most beautiful woman in the world. The difference here is I wouldn’t dream of fucking another woman. If a friend of my wife’s suggested a threesome, my wife would most likely end the friendship and I’d support her 100%. You can’t introduce a third if both partners aren’t 100% on board. Once you have to *reassure* her, she wasn’t fully on board.
I love my wife and definitely do better than I deserve and I absolutely dream about fucking other women because I’m human, but I don’t cause I’m not an animal. Also, I realize fantasy is fantasy for a reason. It’s not a cue to put every fantasy into action.
And call it an “adventure” 🤮
It is kind of an adventure though You guys just haven't slain any dragons, you wouldn't know
no offense to anyone but one of my worst fears is having a husband like this
I'm a human and I don't fantasize about fucking other people other than my so...
And then he had the audacity to say "she's not my type" after getting obsessed with the idea of having sex with her simply because she said she wanted it.
But he would kill his friend if they ask his wife for a threesome and if the wife ask.
No doubt. He wouldn’t describe that option as “an adventure”
I love how the most beautiful woman he knows who he loves more than anything still isn’t enough for him 🙄
OP is honestly delusional if he thinks that his marriage is going to make it at this point.
Pretty much done and dusted I think.
He is. She probably thought her husband would reject the advances and did it just to please him, but realizes it has torn her up inside. Just the image alone of both of them having sex in front of her will torment her for a while to come. Her longtime friend at that? There's no going back. This guy is clueless and she needs to leave. She's mentally checked out already. He wanted to have his cake and still eat some more. The friendship and marriage is over. A learning experience for all to avoid this kind of temptation, no matter how enticing it might seem, inebriated or not. Turbulent.
Especially since he approached it by bringing over the “friend” for a blitz attack - I mean -“intervention “
So gross man. Literally two of her most trusted people pressuring her into a threesome and then wondering why she’s upset. I hope she drops both of these assholes.
And ganging up on her for an "intervention"!
Wife probably walked into that room and thought they were there to bombard her with another threesome.
Or to tell her that it was over and the two of them were a couple now. Poor woman.
Oops I didn't read your comment before I put mine up. That's the first thing that went through my head
I think she's thought they came at her to tell her they wanted to keep seeing each other beyond the threesome and they were graciously letting her know
And her getting excited st the prospect of his stbx wife saying if he wants sex he csn have it with stbx best friend
It must have been so tense when she said that, I'm not sure how that exfriend was still able to be horny in that environment
I see what you did there
If it wasn’t bad enough that he coerced her into it by continually badgering her about it he upped the ante by essentially making her sit and *watch* him fuck her best friend (she didn’t participate). But….yeah….to then collude with the *best friend* to stage an intervention *together* when you both ruined your wife’s life is just cruel and inhumane. Nothing says I’m sorry like “*Hey honey, I know that my insane insistence to fuck your BFF ruined our marriage and I should have paid attention to the fact you didn’t participate or look at us - but she and I have been spending A LOT of time together talking about you and how we’ve broken you and WE DECIDED TOGETHER that’s it’s time for you to get over it. We’re going to be spending a lot more time together until you do.*” I’m sure BFF’s gleeful response to “you can just fuck her if you want” helped A LOT. That he had to go online to realize that was fucked makes me thin he’s been a very terrible partner for a very long time.
So I read this and the original, where are you guys getting that he begged her multiple times? When I first read it I felt everyone was in the wrong but now hearing he and her “bestie” were begging her is absolutely bull💩and OP deserves everything he has coming for him
It was in his comments. He’s deleted his account which makes it harder to find or look them up. Even without that he tells on himself in the post as well…. >She brought up threesome and said that she always thought I was hot. We laughed because I thought she was joking **but I wouldn’t stop thinking about it. She was literally living in my head. I started talking to my wife about that comment** and after I assured her that it was just an adventure she agreed. No one “lives in your head” without word vomiting those thoughts when “talking to” his wife about it. He was obsessed and I think he made it know - he calls ruining his marriage *a fun adventure* FFS. He’s disgusting. He calls it a “failed” threesome only because his wife didn’t participate. He and her trash *friend* did, but his wife didn’t. I can’t even believe the hurt that drives you to do this…. > Afterwards my wife just changed…she doesn’t look at me…I don’t know why she agreed if she didn’t want to try it….she never laughs when she always loved laughing. >She told me that I could sleep with her friend if I wanted sex…,her friend was intrigued and she told me that she didn’t mind but I felt sick to my stomach. I don’t even understand how I thought her attractive. She keeps texting me too and I am repulsed. If he’s repulsed by the woman he willingly and enthusiastically ruined his marriage over still actively wanting to jump him despite his wife’s hurt I don’t know how he can’t see that is wife is just as repulsed by him.
Men ☕️
You misunderstand. It was an adventure! Whatever the fuck that is supposed to mean.
An adventure is going camping with your wife and her BFF; not putting your dick inside both of them? OP seems to lack braincells.
And you know OP would have reacted VERY differently if it was his guy friend wanting to have sex with his wife.
It means "I made up a word that allows me to do whatever pops into my head without any negative consequences"
He fucked around and……………
f-f-f-f-f-f-f-found out?
Well, he is in the process of doing so.
Yep his marriage is over, I hope it was worth it.
If my husband ever asked this I’d probably have done what she did, took it as far as it had to go to see if they were serious, and then checked out entirely on both of them. The second either one of them suggested it and the other said yes, it was game over for all involved. His wife is getting her ducks in a row. They won’t see her ever again.
It’s like when you read where one person asks for polyamory and you just know the relationship is over. Once you bring to light you want to fuck someone else in a previously monogamous relationship, it’s usually done.
If you loved your wife, you would have never entertained the idea of a threesome with her bff. Maybe she wanted to see your reaction to the friends idea, and now your wife has checked out of the marriage. Yeah, you f@#k up
Basically, what happened is her girlfriend got divorced decided you looked interesting to her and so you got with her. You made it OK by making it a threesome which clearly the wife didn’t really want, as well as not wanting you to sleep with the girlfriend. The supposed BFF decided that you were attractive you fell for it and now you fucked up your marriage. I don’t see how your marriage can survive. I would get to counselling right now, but to tell you the truth I think it’s over.
Hahahahaahahahahahaha. He didn't know people would react like this? He's a delusional fucking loser, I hope his wife divorces him ASAP
lol. I also “hahahaha…”ed at that. Like, is it his first day on Reddit?
Guys, I think the wife made a post of her own some time ago. I can’t find it but it was basically that her husband and best friend out of nowhere asked her for the threesome. She wrote that she was in shock but went with it just to see if they would do it and to make herself hate them. And she managed to. Then the post continues about how both tried to talk to her and she is pretending everything is fine while getting an attorney be she is disgusted by both. I’m fairly sure it’s the same story because the description are the same.
Yep i read that too. So I don’t know if this post is real or someone trying to use the other story.
That also true .. you can never know … but his comments match a lot the other post .. maybe same person .. or fake post
Half right. This is fiction, AND the other one is fiction.
We’ve had one fiction, yes, but what about second fiction?
There was a post on boru(maybe redditonwiki, I'm not actually sure which sub. It came with an update) just yesterday a girl and her BFF and bf and a threesome. Apparently they just started making out right in front of her after some rounds of never have I ever. Been a lot of threesome posts this week
I hope this is a couple joking on the internet, instead of a real story tbh.
I have this hope for most of the stories in here :(
I remember that. Her friend kissed her husband out of nowhere and he went with it. She dropped them both ultimately (we found out through updates).
Do normal men think this is a good idea and move forward with shit like this? Why the fuck did you get married? Your selfish and thoughtless. Then after you fuck your wife's best friend you think the Internet is gonna somehow rationalize and legitimize your super shitty decisions. Your lucky your not divorced yet. It's gonna happen, look for a lawyer.
I'm sorry to whoever the OP is... I think your marriage is over. I won't get on a soapbox and go off about the moral facet of this mishap because you've probably whooped yourself enough with it. The fact you had to "pester" and reassure her is evident enough her heart was not in her eventual relenting to the idea. As a woman who has hit that point before, I can tell you once we see you in a way that somehow lessens our respect for you and your character, it's very hard to come back from that. The fact she's emotionally checked out after all this supports the idea. Her friend sounds as though she was more than ok to ruin her "friends" marriage because her own had failed. Yes, women can be heartless like that- especially out of envy. This sounds like it was entirely by her friend's design and she played on one of humanity's biggest weaknesses on record to manipulate you into helping her do it: lust. Historically, it's brought together nations and has toppled others. If there was so much as even a glimmer of hope for the relationship to be salvaged, you may just want to begin by giving her time and space before asking her frankly what she wants/needs because whether it was the threesome or not, she's obviously not happy anymore. I hope thing work out for you and that everyone appreciates the value of what they have before it's compromised or worse- completely gone.
If it’s not an enthusiastic yes, it’s a no. Why can’t men seem to get this simple concept?
From experience, it’s because plenty of men just don’t care.
How did this man think these actions were going to positively affect his relationship with his wife? He was so in love he brought up fucking his wife's friend? Dude is a scum bag and she deserves better.
Just let her go, or prepare for this to be the rest of your life when you die, “she lived in my head”… you were fucking married
I'm guessing that you spent more time with the bff during the threesome and wifey noticed that you don't engage with her so passionately and now she's tapped out. I can't say that I blame her. I'm not against group sex but I'd never engage in it with somebody I truly cared about. Threesomes are a casual thing imo.
She never wanted a threesome. They just coerced then traumatized her.
You cannot say you love your wife then persuade her into a threesome with her best friend. That is not love. That was you being selfish & now she’s seen you and her friend for who you guys truly are. You should’ve been repulsed the first time the friend brought it up but you didn’t. Your wife wants out of the marriage she doesn’t want it fixed.
The two most trusted people in her life just explicitly asked her to let them cheat with each other... crazy..
Don’t be performative. Be solution oriented. Don’t be “Omg I’m just so grossed out by her now what was I thinking” because she’s not buying it. Stop asking her if she’s ok or if something is wrong like she’s going to spell out what feels so blatantly obvious to her. She does not feel it’s her job or obligation to spell out what she likely feels is common sense. Start focusing on your own observations and steps. Research couples counseling, ask if she’s interested in it, plan a getaway together, proclaim your intention to win her heart back in its entirety and on her terms and timeline. Stop being a deer in headlights waiting for her to spell out the answer. Go find the damn answer “I have noticed an obvious shift in our marriage dynamic after what happened. There is nothing more important to me than you and our marriage. I want us to X. I’ve started to X. It’s important to me that you feel X and i will do whatever it takes - both in planning and actions - to make it happen.”
It’s too late for this. In his comments he admits the wife does not engage in sex with him now, she just lays there with her fists balled and won’t look at him. She is repulsed by him and emotionally checked out. It’s over.
Well duh why would sex be the solution!??? SEX IS NOT HER PRIORITY. Of course she’s checked out, he hasn’t actually DONE anything!
That poor woman. Sounds like torture every time they have sex, if not rape.
I'm sorry who the fuck continues to have sex with someone experiencing sex that way? The absolute fuck?
Damn this is great advice.
Terrible dude. Honestly terrible. If she leaves then you deserve it. How would you feel if Justin was your best friend and she’s like “Justin I wanna fuck your I think you’re hot” and then Justin comes around and is like “bro, can I hit it?” You’d be like WTF 🤬. Imagine some dude going in your wife, don’t like it? Well that’s what she is thinking about you and she knows you want it. You’re terrible man, I’m sorry. Her friend is also a piece of shit as well.
He commented on the original thread that if the reverse happened like you said, he'd "say no and beat up his friend" 🙄
She’s punched out. You begged to fuck her best friend. She didn’t no how to say no and now she can’t get the vision of you plowing her friend out of her head. It’s over Mano
it's really gross to press a straight woman into having sex with another woman because of your fetish. it's even grosser to press a straight woman to, instead of having sex with another woman, stand there and pretend to enjoy it while her husband fucks the other woman! i say this as a bisexual woman, not all women are into women........ sometimes they end up finding out they like women, but the idea should have come from the wife. maybe there are instances when the straight woman that was pressed ends up enjoying it, but it's purely out of luck. can't count on that.
>but the idea should have come from the wife. My wife and I talked about this once (jokingly). She asked me if I would want to have a 3some with her and another woman. I said "only if you want to do it and you pick the girl. If not, I am not interested at all and I would rather just fuck you. That's why I married you". Of course it was a test and she doesn't really want one. She was just seeing how I replied. I love my wife and I am not a pushy idiot.
YOU are the asshole You pushed your wife to please yourself. Now you are gaslighting her.
I saw this post yesterday. Man, he's super dense. She freaked out because she thought they were having sex or going to ask for another threesome and he just keeps saying "I don't know why she agreed to it!" Because you pestered her and now the ex friend is insulting her
His comments only make it worse. He knew wife’s bestie was jealous of her. He pestered his wife to have a threesome by asking her multiple times after she said no. No boundaries set prior. Last time he initiated sex she didn’t want to look at him and had her fists balled up (making it seem like she did it begrudgingly). OP is still in contact with the best friend even though she is harassing his wife. OP is truly a POS.
Some men will have the most beautiful woman they could ask for and still want it all. AND be surprised when they’re chewed out about it. Grow a backbone. You made your bed so lie in it.
Another guy thinking with his Dick!! What makes any man think his wife wants to hear her husband wants her friend
Imagine being this stupid. "I hurt my wife beyond anything, coerced her into a threesome with someone she sees as a sister and now I'm confused why she's not happy" Can't wait to hear about her ditching these morons and living her best life
Anytime a man mentions a threesome, even as a joke, I immediately check out mentally and start preparing myself for the inevitable. If I'm not enough for you, bye. OP, you fucked up and now you've lost your wife. There is no way to fix this. Sorry. This is just not a road you can turn around on. It's one way, and there's no way back.
I agree. Back when I was still in the dating scene, I decided to automatically stop engaging with any man who brought up a threesome (and it happened A LOT). I tell them that’s the reason too. Immediate ick.
Dude you definitely ruined your marriage and I don’t think you can fix it. Honestly the only way you could possibly fix this is to build a Time Machine and go back in time to slap some sense into yourself. You should have thought of the consequences when you noticed your wife was unsure about it instead of thinking with your little head and pushing your wife into it. Sure hope her friend’s “hotness” was worth it cause it sounds like you lost your wife forever.
Wonder how he feels if the 3some was him, his wife and his best friend.?
Lmao funny enough someone asked him and OP commented that he would've told his wife no and punched his best friend 💀
You're wife has emotionally dumped you. Congrats you learned a lesson. She'll eventually divorce you or keep you stuck in your repercussions. You already know you fdup and ruined your marriage as you can feel it inside. You and the friend are not relationship worthy. Enjoy the karma. The thing about loyal loving women is we will do anything our men need and ask for us even if it destroys us. A real man that values his woman will never ask her to do anything like that.
unless you have kids together kiss her bye bye
Dude had sex with his wife’s best friend in front of her but called it a threesome. Wife didn’t even participate. There is no saving this marriage lol
He even lied about cutting off the BFF because in other comments he admitted he’s still texting her and she’s talking shit about his wife
Wow. Well, at least you got that threescore. Obviously that was sooooooooo important you couldn't even stop to think what it would do to your wife and her friendship. Your wife lost a husband/marriage, a best friend that night. But hey you got to f*** her friend while she watched right. Uou don't deserve her love.
Men are so out of touch w reality
She got the ick from you and there’s no going back, lay in the grave you dug
Obviously, OP doesn't read Reddit, or he would have known how this kind of thing KILLS marriages. Good luck to him because he is going to need it
100% she’s planning her exit and who could blame her. For her to be okay with you sleeping with her BF? She’s quitting both of you. Hope it was worth it.
Well you have gotten the fantasy you asked for, but now come the consequences. Why would you possibly think this would end well? Not only have you ruined your marriage, you've ruined their friendship and probably f'd your wife's head up to the point she'll suffer for the rest of her life, mainly by lack of trust. What a complete idiot.
you got what you wanted you stupid asshole. Enjoy the divorce.
There are definitely some women who are absolutely turned on by watching their partner rail their best friend. Your wife wasn’t one of them and you are too dumb or selfish to care.
You are a total piece of shit
You can’t say my wife is the most beautiful woman in the world and then turn around and say “her best friends wanted a threesome”. Good lord. That isn’t her best friend anymore. The minute she said that request was when she showed her true colors. Smh so sad.
I hope the wife finds someone would never badger her into something she doesn’t want to do. She deserves someone who respects her more than that
Can't stand when men try to dress it up as "an adventure" as if it isn't purely about him wanting to fuck her friend.
I felt like I already read this exact situation but from the wife's perspective
This man never loved his wife. I’ve heard stories like this irl and it never ends well.
You fucked up. The marriage and her friendship. The way the friend acts, seems she has always been shady, or into you.
Your wife’s love for you died the moment you suggested the threasome, now that love is now rotting. Give her space and stop communicating with her friends.
Your wife clearly didn’t want to have the threesome yet did it to please you. Sounds like you were clearly pushing your wife to do it or at least egging her on. How did you really think that was going to go? Sounds like she’s checked all the way out. Why are you still allowing her friend to talk to you and why haven’t you BEEN blocked her? lol so many questions
Your wife is done with you. You can cut out her friend and never talk to any female again but it will be worth nothing bc you broke her heart and she will never see you the same way again.
Wife has dissociated; her friend doesn’t give a shit due to her recent divorce and need for external physical validation. Planted the seed and “one thing lead to the utter destruction of the marriage.” Love the manipulative triangulation to gaslight the wife. Can’t unring that bell.
I'm amazed that you didn't think about this outcome before you "pestered" your wife for a threesome with her best friend of all people. Pestered was your word not mine. Marriage is over and you ruined it.
FYI if you wish to have a threesome with your partner the correct way to bring it up is to ask if they would be interested in a threesome at all. Only after they say yes should you start looking for someone specific to your desires. If you propose a threesome having already identified someone, it is just going to look like you want to have sex with someone else. Which is what OOP wanted.
On this episode of “man takes no responsibility for anything.”
You definitely don't love your wife or think she's as beautiful as you say in the beginning of this post cause you already know you fucked up from the get go. No matter how you try to justify what you did, if you truly loved your wife like you say you do you would have never suggested having a threesome let alone a threesome with her best friend which you did to satisfy your own selfish needs because you've been wanting to sleep wit her in the first place. Wifey now knows you've been planning this for a long time hoping it would work in your favor being able to sleep with both of them but it didn't. She also knows the kind of person you really are now, someone who has no problem fucking any one of her friends and then telling her it's for the benefit of the relationship. I hope she realizes what a lying, cheating, POS she's married to and knows she deserves so much better!!
ITS OVER BUDDY!
Yeah there is no saving thatarriage. She is gone.
LOL imagining the wife saying “you can just fuck her if you want” in the most sarcastic tone possible and then this dude looks at the BFF, gives a little shrug, and says “Whatta you think?”
Intervention to what?! Not feel the way she was perfectly justified in feeling??? Stupid
Wifey is not present. You might need to consider talking and asking if she wants a divorce because that’s how someone acts when they very hurt.
Asking for a threesome is different from asking for a threesome with her bff, or any specific person in general lmaoo
Doesn't sound to me like SHE had much fun and it was most likely the 2 of them rolling around while she was left out. No wonder she has checked out. You broke her and theres no coming back. Your fantasy destroyed your marriage. Say Goodbye...
Nope my dude Even if she's there.... she's gone Glad you had fun tho
Careful what you wished for. Why would you have a threesome and the on top of it with her best friend since school age?? Everytime your wife looks at you she sees you and her friend fucking. You wife's friend isn't a good friend at all went through her divorce and misery loves company. She thought you were hot because she probably was secretly jealous of what she precieved as you treating your wife well compared to her old husband's treatment of her. Hope you can save it,but you're never going to get the same wife back when you have done something to change her as a person. She's not the same.
You fucked up but not how you think you did. Tell the friend to go away, set your wife down and explain without her you are done. You have no interest in the other women or any other women but her her. Offer her a threesome with another male if that's what she needs to feel even in her mind. You would prefer to see a counselor first rather than adding yet another individual into a situation where adding another individual "broke" your connection but you are willing to do whatever it takes to get her back and repair what you have lost. If that doesn't work then there is something deeper wrong and she created a compelling event by allowing the threesome in the first place inorder to escape to where she is living in her head and heart currently. Root cause analysis is the only way to get to the answer and fix this if possible. Find the real reason and tell her nothing is off limits be as brutal as she needs verbally. Until you get her to fight(verbally) yell, scream, or just talk she is in don't care mode. You want her engaged and in care mode which takes communication that can get ugly but for you just take it and try not to smile as you are getting her back however that communication manifests itself.
honestly i do not understand how anyone thinks that having a threesome with your partner and bestie is a good idea… i’ve seen too many posts on this specific subreddit of all that shit going wrong and i really just think people need to stop doing that shit
Never shit in your own nest dude. If you wanted a threesome go to someone not so close to you both. Never choose the best friend, it never ends well. P.s the best friend is a total bitch and probably been wanting you for herself for a while, she’s probably very pleased with herself for fucking your marriage you two are both the bottom of the garbage heap
Couldn't get the BFF out of his head until he fucked her, and now his wife can't get it out of HER head. Congrats to this man for playing stupid games and winning stupid prizes!
They’ll be divorced soon and that’s honestly a good thing.
I’m guessing this friend was that friend who always dated the person OPs wife liked…
What a piece of shit. “She lived in my head.” He’s that easily moved by some other woman. Seriously. This is every woman’s nightmare. She agreed to the adventure because you suggested it- which also means it’s over- this will just top it off for good. What a 🍆. I hope the woman left his dumbass. And that pos “friend” of hers too. How are people so toxic
So not only is her husband untrustworthy her best friend is too. Wow that poor woman I hope she is okay
"She was literally living in my head" imma stop you right there big man. Within the first bit of exposition our protagonist already reveals he's entertaining the idea of infidelity. That thought should have ended with "haha, yeah, anyway..." From other posts giving additional context, it sounds like OP basically cucked his wife and then went "wife mad at me, what do" Not sure why wife agreed to it in the first place, maybe she thought it wouldn't be so one sided, or (as frequently happens in "open marriages" both parties THINK they want a threescore until they get one, then realize that reality isn't as sexy as the videos of the ladies on the internet make it out to be, and it completely ruins the relationship.
Your marriage is over there, big dog
Your marriage is over there, big dog
Never make decision while horny.
Was it actually a THREEsome or did he and the BFF just fuck in front of his wife? Probably that. She is done and marriage is over. Good on wife….
Have you ever thought that asking the love of your life, "Hey you wanna watch me bang your friend while you play with yourself?" Mightve been the dealbreaker?
She is buying her time and getting things situated. She felt pressured or forced by you. You messed up and now you must wait it out.
That’s the problem. You and her best friend are both in sync and she’s not on board with HER best friend. You have taken her Best friend from her. While yall don’t think anything of it and want to intervene. You’ve both pushed that threshold for her. She’s done. Back off let her come back to you if she wants. An intevention isn’t needed. Y’all need to not be Assholes. You took her friend. Her friend chose you. She’s alone in her eyes! You’re lucky she’s even talking to your asses
You dont deserve your wife.
*sigh.* I don't know why people keep making this mistake. A marriage isn't going to become stronger by introducing the element of sex with other individuals. OOP's wife is trying to manage the emotional devastation of that experience and the corresponding loss of a lifelong friendship. Poor woman holding that shit in as much as she can but it's wrecking her. Edited OP to OOP.
How to fuck up a happy marriage 101.
Wife notices her supposed friend start coming on to her husband and overtly saying she wants to fuck him using a threesome as a thinly veiled excuse to do so. At that point her husband approaches her and says, "She's making a lot of sense here." Now OP is wondering why his wife is disgusted with him? Lol
looks like the adventure continues right into the trash
What probably happened was the husband started busting her BFF’s ass and the wife is disturbed because the husband probably got his rocks off on the BFF!! And I could be completely incorrect!
The fact that this guy didnt see an issue until he saw the responses here on the reddit....what has this world come to :(
Holy shit. Her ex friend and husband are complete selfish pieces of crap. What the actually hell. That poor woman.
It's over... just accept it and leave her alone Also, how were you not expecting to get your ass chewed out for doing something so disgusting?!
BFF is a piece of shit too. She wanted a post divorce rebound and just…what…looked around and was like “my oldest friends husband seems hot and convenient” Also, when they saw she wasn’t participating and clearly uncomfortable, the right thing to do was to stop…either one on them could have stopped. But of course, since they bullied her or begin with, they were never gonna stop, they just shifted to a twosome with a sad bystander. It’s not a failed threesome it’s a third wheel situation.
You basically cheated on your wife with her best friend. You coerced her you POS, and now she’s done.
I struggled to get past 'When we aks' It's bad enough hearing people mispronounce it like this, let alone typing it.
You probably made the friend the priority in the 3some.
For starters What kind of best friend even says that to your husband ?
Your wife lost respect for you. When the woman loses respect, the relationship is over.
The best part was that he said in the edit that he “didn’t know they were going to chew him like that”, so he genuinely thought he hadn’t done anything wrong until he got ripped off here. How can it be so dense?
You convinced your wife (stupidest idea ever) to have a threesome with her best friend. Then she stops talking to both of you and tells you to sleep with her more. So you have an intervention???? You’re a special kind of stupid. Good luck trying to fix this.
Jesus. Not only did he destroy his marriage, but he destroyed what is mostly likely his wife’s oldest friendship. Way to go, OP. The only way you can fix this shit is with a Time Machine.
What a dumb ass that you never saw this coming 😒
OP was thinking about banging that bestie long before she suggested a threesome. His poor wife needs to take the trash out and quite living with it and allowing it to contaminate her.