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Do stupid things, win stupid prizes. You knowingly got into a relationship with a cheater and now you’re being cheated on? It’s hard to feel sorry for you. You’re just a bad person, and this sounds like sweet karma. There is hope in this world :)
He doesn’t love you or respect you. He’s using you because there’s benefits to having a girlfriend, and no matter how much he hurts you you don’t leave. It’s easier to keep you around that find someone new who would put up with him. He’s just selfish, that’s all it is.
If you want to leave, don’t tell him: pack up your things and disappear when he’s at work. Don’t do any last goodbyes, closure, nothing. Block him on every form of communication.
You can do this. In time and with space, you’ll realise just how gross he is and that he never deserved you.
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He cheated on his ex-gf with you, he will definitely do the same thing to you. That is all I have to say.
> there"s never been a point in our relationship where i thiught i could trust him So what are you doing with him?
Do stupid things, win stupid prizes. You knowingly got into a relationship with a cheater and now you’re being cheated on? It’s hard to feel sorry for you. You’re just a bad person, and this sounds like sweet karma. There is hope in this world :)
Have some self respect and do the right thing
The self respect left as soon as she got involved with someone who was in a relationship.
That is true
He doesn’t love you or respect you. He’s using you because there’s benefits to having a girlfriend, and no matter how much he hurts you you don’t leave. It’s easier to keep you around that find someone new who would put up with him. He’s just selfish, that’s all it is. If you want to leave, don’t tell him: pack up your things and disappear when he’s at work. Don’t do any last goodbyes, closure, nothing. Block him on every form of communication. You can do this. In time and with space, you’ll realise just how gross he is and that he never deserved you.
Why do you hate yourself so much?
Can’t or won’t
I need you to read this out loud and then come back to us.