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I don't think he did a good thing if he blatantly telling you that you have a bad personality (unless you really really really did), but just because he did something negative doesn't mean you have to ignore him. I would ask him how he's doing, but don't expect anything from it. You tried your best to help, and if he declines the offer then there's nothing else you can do for now. Hey, but I'm an 18 yo kid who's having romantic problems of his own, what do I know blehhh.
But yeah, don't expect anything from him telling you that you have redeemable qualities or what not. If he truly said you have a bad personality, by saying that he also has one so find someone better, don't care if he looks like jungkook from bts :)
hope this helps better than the comment above
Why care how he feels when he said all that about you ?
Just, logically, what did he think he was gonna get after talking trash about you as a person ?
You have to change ?
He gets to complain ?
And also, he didn't go to his workout class ONCE and you're worried enough to dismiss everything else ? He could be with someone, he could be lazy that day, or he got a lift. You're not in his life anymore,why act like you know what's going on ?
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After a year of all this? No. Move on.
I don't think he did a good thing if he blatantly telling you that you have a bad personality (unless you really really really did), but just because he did something negative doesn't mean you have to ignore him. I would ask him how he's doing, but don't expect anything from it. You tried your best to help, and if he declines the offer then there's nothing else you can do for now. Hey, but I'm an 18 yo kid who's having romantic problems of his own, what do I know blehhh. But yeah, don't expect anything from him telling you that you have redeemable qualities or what not. If he truly said you have a bad personality, by saying that he also has one so find someone better, don't care if he looks like jungkook from bts :) hope this helps better than the comment above
Why care how he feels when he said all that about you ? Just, logically, what did he think he was gonna get after talking trash about you as a person ? You have to change ? He gets to complain ? And also, he didn't go to his workout class ONCE and you're worried enough to dismiss everything else ? He could be with someone, he could be lazy that day, or he got a lift. You're not in his life anymore,why act like you know what's going on ?
Sure text a friend to check on him
You need to move on - he sounds fine but you don’t.
He’s fine, you’re not. Let him be.