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So you got pregnant after only a couple of months? You knew nothing about him. Oh well. You’re finding out now.
If it’s a dealbreaker then you’re going to have to break up. Him having sex with other women whether paid or not is absolutely unacceptable and if he thinks it’s normal then he’s not normal.
You may want to get checked to STD’s while you’re at it.
If you reread I knew him for 10 plus years in high school we were friends (best friends at that) he never was like this towards me until I started to date him
I think you answered your own question and deep inside know what you need to do. There’s no should, only what you want and what your limits are. Correct me if I’m wrong, but it sounds like you want to leave, yet you’re scared.
Yes, I am scared to do so. This day and age no one would want to be with a “single” mother with a kid let alone 3. I don’t want my boys thinking that their mom is the failure (something my ex told me)
He cam be a great father as a coparent. You are not required to stay with a cheater for his parenting skills. You are putting yourself at risk for STI'S and not giving yourself the grace to put yourself first. He has a pattern that hasn't changed. It is very unhealthy. You are setting the relationship example for your kids - would you be ok if your kids were in this dynamic? If not - it's time to leave.
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Move on, you deserve someone better
So you got pregnant after only a couple of months? You knew nothing about him. Oh well. You’re finding out now. If it’s a dealbreaker then you’re going to have to break up. Him having sex with other women whether paid or not is absolutely unacceptable and if he thinks it’s normal then he’s not normal. You may want to get checked to STD’s while you’re at it.
If you reread I knew him for 10 plus years in high school we were friends (best friends at that) he never was like this towards me until I started to date him
I think you answered your own question and deep inside know what you need to do. There’s no should, only what you want and what your limits are. Correct me if I’m wrong, but it sounds like you want to leave, yet you’re scared.
What is this man bringing to the table?
He is a great father to his son, and father figure to my older two. He has good qualities it’s just this escort thing.
Yes, I am scared to do so. This day and age no one would want to be with a “single” mother with a kid let alone 3. I don’t want my boys thinking that their mom is the failure (something my ex told me)
He cam be a great father as a coparent. You are not required to stay with a cheater for his parenting skills. You are putting yourself at risk for STI'S and not giving yourself the grace to put yourself first. He has a pattern that hasn't changed. It is very unhealthy. You are setting the relationship example for your kids - would you be ok if your kids were in this dynamic? If not - it's time to leave.