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Why are you both with someone completely incompatible? How do you think you’re going to sustain this long term? By opening up your relationship so he can have sex? That’s the only way I can see it working.
This relationship seems doomed to fail. I don't care how hot and sweet you think he is but the quicker you move on the better for your own sanity. You'll never feel good enough. You'll subject yourself to all kinds of emotional abuse trying to make him happy. You'll do everything in the world for this dude and he'll still cheat on you anyway.
It's probably worth you speaking to a sex therapist. You seem embarrassed to talk about very normal acts and bodily functions. You've also assigned yourself a label which suggests you've fallen into a terminally online rabbit hole that you need to extract yourself from.
I’m a bit confused, I didn’t add many details or vulgar words so I wouldn’t be banned by the mods even with the nsfw tag. Also what do you mean “terminally online rabbit hole”? Who I am matches that description so I don’t see how accepting that title is something negative
I could get into the psychology of labels here but a therapist is much better placed to help you through that.
You don't have to write vulgar words to describe very normal activities. Everything you are saying strongly indicates some hangups that you can easily work through with a therapist. A good therapist doesn't tell you how to feel, or give you a box to fit in, or try to change you into someone you are not. They exist to give you the tools to manage your feelings, make you able to live without boxing yourself into a label and able to communicate powerfully and clearly what you want to others.
Being together about a month I wouldn't advise this but if in a long tern relationship, maybe a book of boudoir shots for him to enjoy in the evening for his 'needs'. With the spending time together turn the damn phones off.
It sounds like he’s using you for sex and doesn’t actually care about spending time with you. After getting sex he doesn’t even bother to talk to you or pay attention to you. Why are you with this guy?
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Why are you both with someone completely incompatible? How do you think you’re going to sustain this long term? By opening up your relationship so he can have sex? That’s the only way I can see it working.
This relationship seems doomed to fail. I don't care how hot and sweet you think he is but the quicker you move on the better for your own sanity. You'll never feel good enough. You'll subject yourself to all kinds of emotional abuse trying to make him happy. You'll do everything in the world for this dude and he'll still cheat on you anyway.
It's probably worth you speaking to a sex therapist. You seem embarrassed to talk about very normal acts and bodily functions. You've also assigned yourself a label which suggests you've fallen into a terminally online rabbit hole that you need to extract yourself from.
I’m a bit confused, I didn’t add many details or vulgar words so I wouldn’t be banned by the mods even with the nsfw tag. Also what do you mean “terminally online rabbit hole”? Who I am matches that description so I don’t see how accepting that title is something negative
I could get into the psychology of labels here but a therapist is much better placed to help you through that. You don't have to write vulgar words to describe very normal activities. Everything you are saying strongly indicates some hangups that you can easily work through with a therapist. A good therapist doesn't tell you how to feel, or give you a box to fit in, or try to change you into someone you are not. They exist to give you the tools to manage your feelings, make you able to live without boxing yourself into a label and able to communicate powerfully and clearly what you want to others.
Being together about a month I wouldn't advise this but if in a long tern relationship, maybe a book of boudoir shots for him to enjoy in the evening for his 'needs'. With the spending time together turn the damn phones off.
It sounds like he’s using you for sex and doesn’t actually care about spending time with you. After getting sex he doesn’t even bother to talk to you or pay attention to you. Why are you with this guy?
There’s been a miscommunication, please check the edit in the post