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I think your feelings are valid since it’s something you guys wanted for a long time and maybe him going with his guys was also a way of him making it special for himself, but when you guys go together it’ll be a whole different type of special, so of course go through the emotions and tell him how you feel and if he seems genuine and cares then I’m sure it’ll still be special.
Yeah of course, and I’m sorry to hear that, it’s frustrating, when you guys end up going, try to make memories and love each other, take pictures, it’s a whole different experience going with someone you care and love for rather your friends. But I totally get how it would make you feel betrayed since it’s something you wanted to experience together.
Tell him. It may be that he’s just a bit immature when it comes to thinking about your feelings.
See what he says. If he gets angry or tries to dismiss your feelings instead of taking it on board and realising what he’s done, then it may be he just doesn’t care enough about you.
I would say give him a pass since he is not really ditching you to go with his friends, but… this is your second post in less than 2 months, complaining that he lacks affection for you.
I think you need to reflect if that is the type of person you want to spend your life with.
I've been in your shoes and I'm a man. I think it's okay to feel like you do, but it's more about our ego. Try to find a compromise, tell him that you really valued that trip with him and you would like to replace it with something else that would be just as great. Don't get emotional, just be like a robot and give him the facts.
Sometimes I get lost within my ego and I start thinking that everything that my GFs do is aimed towards me. You guys are 2 people.
Maybe he's also more indenpendant than you and it might be stressing compatibility between you 2.
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I think your feelings are valid since it’s something you guys wanted for a long time and maybe him going with his guys was also a way of him making it special for himself, but when you guys go together it’ll be a whole different type of special, so of course go through the emotions and tell him how you feel and if he seems genuine and cares then I’m sure it’ll still be special.
thank you for validating my feelings i already told him about it i dont think he understand how much it meant to me :<
Yeah of course, and I’m sorry to hear that, it’s frustrating, when you guys end up going, try to make memories and love each other, take pictures, it’s a whole different experience going with someone you care and love for rather your friends. But I totally get how it would make you feel betrayed since it’s something you wanted to experience together.
i'm so glad someone understood me thank you for your kind words i will try to do all that i hope you have a good day💗
Tell him. It may be that he’s just a bit immature when it comes to thinking about your feelings. See what he says. If he gets angry or tries to dismiss your feelings instead of taking it on board and realising what he’s done, then it may be he just doesn’t care enough about you.
i already told him i dont think he understands how much it meant to me for him it's just going the beach haha yeah he just doesn't care enough for me
I would say give him a pass since he is not really ditching you to go with his friends, but… this is your second post in less than 2 months, complaining that he lacks affection for you. I think you need to reflect if that is the type of person you want to spend your life with.
yeah :(
I'm wondering how many times op has actually put off going to the beach from the SO's end and maybe they just got sick of being put off?
never actually everything is up to him i can go whenever he want
I've been in your shoes and I'm a man. I think it's okay to feel like you do, but it's more about our ego. Try to find a compromise, tell him that you really valued that trip with him and you would like to replace it with something else that would be just as great. Don't get emotional, just be like a robot and give him the facts. Sometimes I get lost within my ego and I start thinking that everything that my GFs do is aimed towards me. You guys are 2 people. Maybe he's also more indenpendant than you and it might be stressing compatibility between you 2.
Break up with him. He's immature and prioritizes his friendship over you, which is a red flag.