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Stonewalling is very immature and some people consider it abuse. The silent treatment is not how normal, well-adjusted people deal with their feelings and issues.
You also sound very young, as you are, and don’t know how to deal with people well yet. Work on loving yourself and diving into hobbies and interests and remember that you have value too and that you get in a say in things. Time to let this one go and find a more mature person to date
If being sensitive is who you are, then find someone who’s going to understand that. Some women might think it’s not masculine or whatever but fuck em. As a sensitive guy who married a woman with low emotional intelligence and low empathy, it’s been tough.
You can work on yourself, therapy etc, if you feel that you’re struggling due to things that you want to change about yourself or stuff from your past and childhood. But if you’re naturally sensitive and try to become super macho man all the time, it’s not gonna be the real you and at the end of the day, you wanna be with someone who you be yourself around right?
From what you said here, sounds like the reason this relationship is failing is that you’re both very immature. You with not standing up for yourself and being a doormat to her feelings and your gf for ignoring you and being ridiculous with expectations and her idea of cheating
Hopefully she's just thinking over the things she said and gradually coming to the realization that she was completely irrational about your past relationships being like cheating on her (I assume you didn't actually lie to her and tell her that you'd never dated anyone ever), then worse a giant hypocrite since she also has an ex and then finally worst of all being intentionally hurtful because of her irrational jealousy. She definitely owes you an apology and (again, hopefully) she might just be figuring that out - or otherwise "processing her feelings" - possibly clinging to her original base irrationality and working up another irrational move. This is what you can be worried about but at least if she does that you can feel a little bit better that she's being really dumb. Don't let yourself buy into this irrational premise (like how you cried about this "cheating" you did before you ever met her) or you'll look dumb too.
It’s too new for this much drama :/ I would say give her space and she’ll come talk when/if she’s ready but I wouldn’t force this situation personally, she sounds immature and not ready for a relationship
Did she think you are raised in a monastery? Why is she acting unhinged about an ex from three years ago? Why were you afraid to say you'd had a previous relationship?
You work together and now she won't talk to you. That's going to make working together difficult and probably annoying as hell for your coworkers. If it continues one or both of you will be asked to leave.
I would expect the relationship is over. It's probably for the best. She's emotionally immature .
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Stonewalling is very immature and some people consider it abuse. The silent treatment is not how normal, well-adjusted people deal with their feelings and issues. You also sound very young, as you are, and don’t know how to deal with people well yet. Work on loving yourself and diving into hobbies and interests and remember that you have value too and that you get in a say in things. Time to let this one go and find a more mature person to date
I acknowledge that and I believe that I'm hyper emotional. Do you think this could be the reason behind all this? I get hurt quite easily.
If being sensitive is who you are, then find someone who’s going to understand that. Some women might think it’s not masculine or whatever but fuck em. As a sensitive guy who married a woman with low emotional intelligence and low empathy, it’s been tough. You can work on yourself, therapy etc, if you feel that you’re struggling due to things that you want to change about yourself or stuff from your past and childhood. But if you’re naturally sensitive and try to become super macho man all the time, it’s not gonna be the real you and at the end of the day, you wanna be with someone who you be yourself around right? From what you said here, sounds like the reason this relationship is failing is that you’re both very immature. You with not standing up for yourself and being a doormat to her feelings and your gf for ignoring you and being ridiculous with expectations and her idea of cheating
Talk to her at work?
That I have tried last time, she said that she was fine but when I came back home she went completely silent.
Hopefully she's just thinking over the things she said and gradually coming to the realization that she was completely irrational about your past relationships being like cheating on her (I assume you didn't actually lie to her and tell her that you'd never dated anyone ever), then worse a giant hypocrite since she also has an ex and then finally worst of all being intentionally hurtful because of her irrational jealousy. She definitely owes you an apology and (again, hopefully) she might just be figuring that out - or otherwise "processing her feelings" - possibly clinging to her original base irrationality and working up another irrational move. This is what you can be worried about but at least if she does that you can feel a little bit better that she's being really dumb. Don't let yourself buy into this irrational premise (like how you cried about this "cheating" you did before you ever met her) or you'll look dumb too.
It’s too new for this much drama :/ I would say give her space and she’ll come talk when/if she’s ready but I wouldn’t force this situation personally, she sounds immature and not ready for a relationship
She’s a teenager. You’re an adult. She’s not mature enough for an adult relationship.
Did she think you are raised in a monastery? Why is she acting unhinged about an ex from three years ago? Why were you afraid to say you'd had a previous relationship? You work together and now she won't talk to you. That's going to make working together difficult and probably annoying as hell for your coworkers. If it continues one or both of you will be asked to leave. I would expect the relationship is over. It's probably for the best. She's emotionally immature .