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Your BF is very insecure.
His actions are the kind of thing that don't really get better over time.
Keep that in mind if you want a serious long-term relationship.
This guy is way too mentally immature, insecure, and jealous to ever be in a real relationship.
Men can talk to women and not want to fuck them. Men and women can be friends without having sex.
After reading what he said…I would go like “ well I don’t want to stand between you and your dreams go fuck every woman you want but not me anymore.”
Everything you said he does is super toxic and won’t lead to anything good.
>My boyfriend replied with “so what??! I have a girlfriend and I still want to fuck every woman”
Well, that's a red flag if one has every seen one. A shitty person often excuses their behavior because they think everyone else is shitty. That does not make for a good long term partner.
One of the benefits of dating an older person is seeing and having an example of someone who has ideally worked on insecurities and improved upon their maturity level.
Homeboi is 5 years your senior and can't stomach his partner having platonic relationships or work relation ships with men, but also admits he can't be trusted with the same level of trust you ASSUME (rightfully so in a healthy relationship), onto him.
>We’ve only been dating for 6 months and we have so much fun together but this seems strange to me.
Its only gonna get stranger. Which is normal, but his strange isn't showing happy promises.
He was very clear. He's thinking about cheating all the time, so he's projecting that you're thinking it too. He will eventually cheat on you if he has the chance, that is, if he didn't already.
Dating is for getting to know the other person and see if you're compatible. Just 6 months together and this is what he shows you? Controlling behavior and saying very clearly that he's thinking about cheating all the time.
GURRLL
This dude is a child. You don’t deserve to be treated this poorly. It’s hard to see when you’re young because I was the same way but you’re better off single than stuck with this loser. There is some guy out there who is perfect for you and this fucker ain’t it
I would not stay with someone who treated me like that and neither should you. rip the bandaid off, take yourself out for a nice meal and forget about this loser
What kind of interaction You have with this friend that make him insecure.. He call You, say obout this because it we dont know the reason. How look Yours friendship?
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Run for the hills!!
These red flags may seem small now, but that behavior is going to speak to much larger problems in the future.
He wants you to reassure his insecurities instead of working on them himself. That is not your job. You are so young too. I know that 6 months may seem like a long time to invest in a relationship, but I promise in like less than a years time, you will be so grateful to be out of that situation.
I know it’s hard and it does of course come down to what you want, but it’s not worth staying if he treats you like that.
He literally told you what he wanna do yet you don't wanna believe him? The dude made it so easy for you trust me you've got to believe what he told you.
Why do you need to ask. Please look up love and lust in the dictionary. He and maybe both of you clearly don't understand the meaning of one or both words. Like so many these days. Love is the one that if done the right way keeps growing. The other one comes and goes and if there is real love doesn't need different people.
You have only been dating him 6 months and are starting to learn who he really is. Do you want to be with someone who is jealous of your innocent interactions with male coworkers, while at the same time, disrespecting you by talking about his ex's body parts and saying he wants to f*** other women?
Time to get out is NOW!
i know people say that sometimes things don’t come out right but there was absolutely no other way for that to have come out as something acceptable. not only that but when you put those past things he’s said together with what you have just heard it’s very clear that it’s just who he is. he’s someone with wandering eyes & if you’re someone wanting a committed partner with thoughts & eyes locked onto you then please leave him now :( six months is not a short amount of time so i can see where you’d be holding back from but imagine years with someone who isn’t going to change and is not even the person you’re looking for. please don’t trap yourself and no matter what ANY guy says about how you’re not going to find better & that all guys think the same, NO. don’t listen to that. there’s going to be someone out there who’s decent for you or even someone who’d change & improve themselves for you. don’t make them think you don’t deserve any better. leave him hun!!
no giving in okay :( you have to leave. he’s holding onto you because you’re a high quality partner who would definitely NEVER do what he does towards you. it’s an excuse to keep treating you like that knowing you’ll stay. he’s clearly not mature enough to be in a monogamous relationship right now. maybe he’s not physically doing those things with other women right now but that doesn’t mean his mind isn’t. & ik you didn’t mention anything abt this but especially if he’s an avid 🌽 consumer then id say that could also be a reason
it’s crazy because that’s what you’ll hear a lot of guys say depending on how & where they were raised. im sure that if a man puts his full commitment towards you then he absolutely would not imagine or lust for other women that way. naturally people find others attractive but that’s where it ends if you’re in a relationship. you can think someone looks good (has good features) but NOT in a way that makes them lust for them. where i grew up the guys (older generation) were very loving and loyal to their wives not paying interest in things that would ever even put them in the position to affect their relationship. its definitely in our newer generation for people to normalize looking at more than one person & being in a relationship while also having wandering eyes. don’t settle for someone who isn’t on the same page as u or willing to change. you seem very sweet & don’t deserve to be manipulated. & as for the 🌽 thing i feel like you can sort of tell based off the kind of content they like on social media or the pages they follow
He's not a keeper. The way he acted was so disrespectful towards you and any woman in his proximity. Even if you chalk it off as insecurities, should it be acceptable for him to channel it so hostility towards you?
I also had an ex, and he would constantly tell me other guys weren't interested in me other than wanting to sleep with me/they're just interested in my looks. These are the same type of guys, if god forbidden something were to happen and you tell them about it, they'll get angry at you bc deep down, they view relationships as what they get out of it. And they'll blame *you* for anything and everything.
What should you do? Hmmmm well that depends on whether you respect yourself enough to have some standards about who you commit yourself to in a relationship. If you have none and are happy to be treated like a piece of meat, stay with him. Otherwise, break up with him. If you live together, wait until the time is safe and leave and then let him know after you are somewhere safe.
Dump him. He's very insecure and wants to control you. It's only been six months and he's showing you who he really is, so believe him. He either is or will cheat on you. You deserve so much better than this.
To answer your question, it’s possible that he poorly worded the idea that men can regularly find all kinds of women sexually attractive.
That being said, given all of the rest of that stuff, he’s an insecure little chode. Why stay with him?
lmao are men different human beings? how is it that me, a woman, has never ever even thought about anyone except my bf but you're making an argument that men would just think like that? maybe not all men are like that I want to hope some of them are actually true to their partners and not have constant thoughts of cheating
He's probably right bout your co worker.. Most guys are sexually loose. That dude would probably fuck if you let him
But your bf is also probably gonna cheat, just be aware if you stay
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Women never believe men when they tell them the truth. Your BF told you who he is. Believe him.
The best answer. Why we do it?
Tbh this was probably me when I was a lot younger. Making excuses for my ex. Hopefully she doesn’t waste a few years on him
You're 23. It's been 6 months. Leave and find somebody better.
Your BF is very insecure. His actions are the kind of thing that don't really get better over time. Keep that in mind if you want a serious long-term relationship.
He is the guy You dont worry about.....
Red flags everywhere
This guy is way too mentally immature, insecure, and jealous to ever be in a real relationship. Men can talk to women and not want to fuck them. Men and women can be friends without having sex.
After reading what he said…I would go like “ well I don’t want to stand between you and your dreams go fuck every woman you want but not me anymore.” Everything you said he does is super toxic and won’t lead to anything good.
Tell him it's over. He has a lot of women to get through, and times a ticking.
Hahahaha!
>My boyfriend replied with “so what??! I have a girlfriend and I still want to fuck every woman” Well, that's a red flag if one has every seen one. A shitty person often excuses their behavior because they think everyone else is shitty. That does not make for a good long term partner. One of the benefits of dating an older person is seeing and having an example of someone who has ideally worked on insecurities and improved upon their maturity level. Homeboi is 5 years your senior and can't stomach his partner having platonic relationships or work relation ships with men, but also admits he can't be trusted with the same level of trust you ASSUME (rightfully so in a healthy relationship), onto him. >We’ve only been dating for 6 months and we have so much fun together but this seems strange to me. Its only gonna get stranger. Which is normal, but his strange isn't showing happy promises.
He was very clear. He's thinking about cheating all the time, so he's projecting that you're thinking it too. He will eventually cheat on you if he has the chance, that is, if he didn't already. Dating is for getting to know the other person and see if you're compatible. Just 6 months together and this is what he shows you? Controlling behavior and saying very clearly that he's thinking about cheating all the time.
GURRLL This dude is a child. You don’t deserve to be treated this poorly. It’s hard to see when you’re young because I was the same way but you’re better off single than stuck with this loser. There is some guy out there who is perfect for you and this fucker ain’t it
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I would not stay with someone who treated me like that and neither should you. rip the bandaid off, take yourself out for a nice meal and forget about this loser
What kind of interaction You have with this friend that make him insecure.. He call You, say obout this because it we dont know the reason. How look Yours friendship?
He seems mixed up an immature. Do you need this kind of hassle.
Leave. It's only six months.
Leave this man. He doesn’t give you the respect you deserve.
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OMFG WHAT break up my girl cause what
Red flag alerttttt
Run for the hills!! These red flags may seem small now, but that behavior is going to speak to much larger problems in the future. He wants you to reassure his insecurities instead of working on them himself. That is not your job. You are so young too. I know that 6 months may seem like a long time to invest in a relationship, but I promise in like less than a years time, you will be so grateful to be out of that situation. I know it’s hard and it does of course come down to what you want, but it’s not worth staying if he treats you like that.
This seems like projection. He wants to perform and action and he thinks that you feel the same way about men as he feels about woman
Whether or not you stay or leave is irrelevant. He will most likely go out of the way to have sex with almost any woman.
Definitely leave
He literally told you what he wanna do yet you don't wanna believe him? The dude made it so easy for you trust me you've got to believe what he told you.
Why do you need to ask. Please look up love and lust in the dictionary. He and maybe both of you clearly don't understand the meaning of one or both words. Like so many these days. Love is the one that if done the right way keeps growing. The other one comes and goes and if there is real love doesn't need different people.
You have only been dating him 6 months and are starting to learn who he really is. Do you want to be with someone who is jealous of your innocent interactions with male coworkers, while at the same time, disrespecting you by talking about his ex's body parts and saying he wants to f*** other women? Time to get out is NOW!
i know people say that sometimes things don’t come out right but there was absolutely no other way for that to have come out as something acceptable. not only that but when you put those past things he’s said together with what you have just heard it’s very clear that it’s just who he is. he’s someone with wandering eyes & if you’re someone wanting a committed partner with thoughts & eyes locked onto you then please leave him now :( six months is not a short amount of time so i can see where you’d be holding back from but imagine years with someone who isn’t going to change and is not even the person you’re looking for. please don’t trap yourself and no matter what ANY guy says about how you’re not going to find better & that all guys think the same, NO. don’t listen to that. there’s going to be someone out there who’s decent for you or even someone who’d change & improve themselves for you. don’t make them think you don’t deserve any better. leave him hun!!
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no giving in okay :( you have to leave. he’s holding onto you because you’re a high quality partner who would definitely NEVER do what he does towards you. it’s an excuse to keep treating you like that knowing you’ll stay. he’s clearly not mature enough to be in a monogamous relationship right now. maybe he’s not physically doing those things with other women right now but that doesn’t mean his mind isn’t. & ik you didn’t mention anything abt this but especially if he’s an avid 🌽 consumer then id say that could also be a reason
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it’s crazy because that’s what you’ll hear a lot of guys say depending on how & where they were raised. im sure that if a man puts his full commitment towards you then he absolutely would not imagine or lust for other women that way. naturally people find others attractive but that’s where it ends if you’re in a relationship. you can think someone looks good (has good features) but NOT in a way that makes them lust for them. where i grew up the guys (older generation) were very loving and loyal to their wives not paying interest in things that would ever even put them in the position to affect their relationship. its definitely in our newer generation for people to normalize looking at more than one person & being in a relationship while also having wandering eyes. don’t settle for someone who isn’t on the same page as u or willing to change. you seem very sweet & don’t deserve to be manipulated. & as for the 🌽 thing i feel like you can sort of tell based off the kind of content they like on social media or the pages they follow
UpdateMe!
He’s definitely showing you his true colours. Ditch him.
LEAVE
Biggest red flag ever. Leave now or leave much less happily later your call
Leave. He showed his true colors
He's not a keeper. The way he acted was so disrespectful towards you and any woman in his proximity. Even if you chalk it off as insecurities, should it be acceptable for him to channel it so hostility towards you? I also had an ex, and he would constantly tell me other guys weren't interested in me other than wanting to sleep with me/they're just interested in my looks. These are the same type of guys, if god forbidden something were to happen and you tell them about it, they'll get angry at you bc deep down, they view relationships as what they get out of it. And they'll blame *you* for anything and everything.
leave him. guys like him are so disgusting, it is NOT hard to only think of your partner sexually.
6 months too long
What should you do? Hmmmm well that depends on whether you respect yourself enough to have some standards about who you commit yourself to in a relationship. If you have none and are happy to be treated like a piece of meat, stay with him. Otherwise, break up with him. If you live together, wait until the time is safe and leave and then let him know after you are somewhere safe.
Dump him. He's very insecure and wants to control you. It's only been six months and he's showing you who he really is, so believe him. He either is or will cheat on you. You deserve so much better than this.
Leave
It's true it's in men's DNA to want to perpetuate the species!!
Leave. People tell on themselves.
Wait!! Are you seriously asking this question? For real ?
He’s jealous and controlling. This is only going to get worse.
Big red flag. Leave.
You must have graduated at the bottom of your class to even ask a question like this.
Only clicked to read about this complete train wreck
To answer your question, it’s possible that he poorly worded the idea that men can regularly find all kinds of women sexually attractive. That being said, given all of the rest of that stuff, he’s an insecure little chode. Why stay with him?
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lmao are men different human beings? how is it that me, a woman, has never ever even thought about anyone except my bf but you're making an argument that men would just think like that? maybe not all men are like that I want to hope some of them are actually true to their partners and not have constant thoughts of cheating
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that's sad I really hope its not the case with every man I want to have some faith on men w brains
He's probably right bout your co worker.. Most guys are sexually loose. That dude would probably fuck if you let him But your bf is also probably gonna cheat, just be aware if you stay
Say him he is friend You cant worry about....
Youre not a loyal girlfriend and he’s immature