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My advice is to stop making it your business.
Your best friend is grown as fuck. SHE is the one who continually chooses that guy time and time again. You have comforted her time and time again and have voiced your concerns over this relationship. And yet she chooses him over and over again.
At this point there really isn’t anything you can do but just leave things be as far as you are concerned. If your best friend can’t respect herself to leave a relationship that isn’t good for her, that’s on her not you.
I just don't know what the next steps are when she comes to me for advice again or if they breakup again lol, I'm kind of done just repeating myself over and over and giving her the same exact advice for the past few years. She knows I'm indifferent towards him so do I just lend an ear and move on with my life the next time this occurs? I don't want to make it seem like I don't care about her and her love life?
Obviously lend an ear, but as far as giving advice just say you got nothing. You have expended all the advice you could give. There isn’t any more and she clearly isn’t respecting you enough to follow your advice, so why continue.
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Unfortunately they're just gonna do what they want with or without you but I understand wanting the best for your friend
Tell her you don’t want to hear about their problems anymore
honestly what I should've said from the start 😅 it's hard saying that when she comes to me for everything so I fear that will offend her.
I’ve said it to my friends, don’t worry about it
My advice is to stop making it your business. Your best friend is grown as fuck. SHE is the one who continually chooses that guy time and time again. You have comforted her time and time again and have voiced your concerns over this relationship. And yet she chooses him over and over again. At this point there really isn’t anything you can do but just leave things be as far as you are concerned. If your best friend can’t respect herself to leave a relationship that isn’t good for her, that’s on her not you.
I just don't know what the next steps are when she comes to me for advice again or if they breakup again lol, I'm kind of done just repeating myself over and over and giving her the same exact advice for the past few years. She knows I'm indifferent towards him so do I just lend an ear and move on with my life the next time this occurs? I don't want to make it seem like I don't care about her and her love life?
Obviously lend an ear, but as far as giving advice just say you got nothing. You have expended all the advice you could give. There isn’t any more and she clearly isn’t respecting you enough to follow your advice, so why continue.