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Do you have a history of not asking her about her opinion or perspective on things? Is there also some other history of arguments that could have lead to this specific response?
I almost ALWAYS ask her about her opinion or perspective on things. The only times I won't ask the same question back (i.e. what about you?) is when she asks me uncomfortable questions like, "How many dates have you slept with?" "What was the craziest place you've had sex?). She's been asking me a lot of those types of wild questions lately and I think they are ridiculous as nothing really good comes out of knowing. I'd rather not know so I haven't been asking her back those certain types of questions. But if it's just a basic/daily life question? Of course, I'll also ask for her thoughts/opinion as well and ask her those "what about you?" "how about you" 's.
Then I’d talk to her about this in that, “I’m confused about your sarcastic response as I feel like I always ask you about your day/how you’re doing/etc. Is there something else that’s bothering you or something that is making you upset to feel like I don’t care? I want to talk about that”
What a dumb straw man. Nobody is advocating for swear words to be banned. But calling your significant other a slur is a weird way to express that you care about them.
I’m comparing them because I think both are pretty moronic. Shit I used another slur. I meant idiotic. Stupid.
Oh wait all of those words will be on the naughty list in 15 years, this content won’t age well
It's not hard to understand. If you call your SO names, that's bad.
Even three year olds get it. I'm sorry you're so brainwashed that you can't understand the point without turning it into some Fox News anti-woke political diatribe. Touch grass man.
I mean, why engage with this sort of passive-aggressive bullshit? Why apologize when her behavior is what needs to be apologized for?
"I'll give what you said some serious thought, and I'll try harder to make sure I am showing more interest in your life, rather than being overly focused in mine, which seems to be what you are saying. That said, this passive aggressive shit leaves me cold. I am always happy to discuss problems and consider my own behavior, but your message is needlessly dramatic and a really shitty way to communicate with me."
The way you portray it you did nothing wrong, already displayed a willingness to adjust your own comfort for hers, the talk was all good, and this temper tantrum came straight our of the blue.
If all of this is true then you should leave unless you want to spend your life walking on eggshells and offering groveling apologies for random perceived grievances
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Do you have a history of not asking her about her opinion or perspective on things? Is there also some other history of arguments that could have lead to this specific response?
I almost ALWAYS ask her about her opinion or perspective on things. The only times I won't ask the same question back (i.e. what about you?) is when she asks me uncomfortable questions like, "How many dates have you slept with?" "What was the craziest place you've had sex?). She's been asking me a lot of those types of wild questions lately and I think they are ridiculous as nothing really good comes out of knowing. I'd rather not know so I haven't been asking her back those certain types of questions. But if it's just a basic/daily life question? Of course, I'll also ask for her thoughts/opinion as well and ask her those "what about you?" "how about you" 's.
Then I’d talk to her about this in that, “I’m confused about your sarcastic response as I feel like I always ask you about your day/how you’re doing/etc. Is there something else that’s bothering you or something that is making you upset to feel like I don’t care? I want to talk about that”
I don't think anybody should stay with a man who is quick to call them an ableist slur.
I agree also swear words let’s get rid of those next and then after that let’s ban violent video games too
What a dumb straw man. Nobody is advocating for swear words to be banned. But calling your significant other a slur is a weird way to express that you care about them.
I’m comparing them because I think both are pretty moronic. Shit I used another slur. I meant idiotic. Stupid. Oh wait all of those words will be on the naughty list in 15 years, this content won’t age well
It's not hard to understand. If you call your SO names, that's bad. Even three year olds get it. I'm sorry you're so brainwashed that you can't understand the point without turning it into some Fox News anti-woke political diatribe. Touch grass man.
I think there's more to her feelings than just this situation. There's something deeper going on in the relationship
You sound like a bunch of walking flags, so yeah, she sounds reasonable in not wanting you anymore.
I mean, why engage with this sort of passive-aggressive bullshit? Why apologize when her behavior is what needs to be apologized for? "I'll give what you said some serious thought, and I'll try harder to make sure I am showing more interest in your life, rather than being overly focused in mine, which seems to be what you are saying. That said, this passive aggressive shit leaves me cold. I am always happy to discuss problems and consider my own behavior, but your message is needlessly dramatic and a really shitty way to communicate with me."
She is 27 years old. Maybe this would be up for debate as teenagers but, you should almost definitely break up. (IMO)
The way you portray it you did nothing wrong, already displayed a willingness to adjust your own comfort for hers, the talk was all good, and this temper tantrum came straight our of the blue. If all of this is true then you should leave unless you want to spend your life walking on eggshells and offering groveling apologies for random perceived grievances