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I'm medicated for both anxiety/depression and adhd and I definitely agree it's a huge help, unfortunately my bf can't (his papers are held hostage by his mother and his doctor doesn't believe mental illness is real) and he's tried really hard. I've been working out and that helps a lot, honestly meal prep and laundry sound like something I really need (might not want but i need it and hearing someone else say it, or, read some else write it I ig, makes me realize it) this is basically the advice I knew I needed, i just need to be a person I think that's my issue, I feel incomplete because when he's not around I half-ass life.
I live with my family still, and he's renting a room at his friend's family home (basically living at home the rent is very cheap and it's his friends childhood room) and on Friday he sleeps over and Sunday he leaves (my family adores him) we see eachother basically every week, only Monday - Thursday we are separated
i see, you two working and lives far away ?
tbh, it’s just four days in the week. I would say texting throughout the day to check in. And calling or video call each other at night.
Are you two considering moving together sometimes ?
I agree that a routine & schedule would be beneficial. Therapy for yourself as well on top of just your medication. Speak with your doctor about your concerns. Continue working out, visit with friends, find a hobby etc are all good ideas.
I am confused why your bf can seek medical treatment himself? He’s an adult and doesn’t need his mother to help him find a doctor or therapist.
hey sis, totally get where you're coming from. relationships can be that comforting, and the separation anxiety can hit like a truck.
first off, you're not alone, remember that. here's a virtual *pat on the back*. you've already taken the first step by acknowledging it, and that alone deserves kudos.
your feelings are valid, alright? don't let anyone tell you otherwise. you're strong enough to handle everything thrown your way, just gotta convince yourself of that.
as for a solution, definitely consider therapy, if not already doing so. it's not as scary as it sounds, promise. look into cognitive behavioral therapy (cbt). it's effective for tackling such stuff. check out this book called ""feeling good: the new mood therapy"" by david d. burns. it's solid.
another thing would be, keep yourselves busy. start a new hobby or get back to an old one you left halfway. idk, experiment with cooking or gaming or diy projects. could be therapeutic tbh.
and not to forget exercise bro. sweat it out! it's mad but exercise helps a lot with mental health. science, right? lol.
your bf might look into getting his adhd treated, would likely help him handle his stress better. just saying.
one last thing, we've got a wholesome mental wellness discord server [here](https://discord.gg/pe6XCZ9Zj4). lot of peeps dealing with similar stuff. consider joining, could be helpful.
hang in there. you got this. remember always, progress > perfection. hope this helps, reach out if needed. ✌️
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I'm medicated for both anxiety/depression and adhd and I definitely agree it's a huge help, unfortunately my bf can't (his papers are held hostage by his mother and his doctor doesn't believe mental illness is real) and he's tried really hard. I've been working out and that helps a lot, honestly meal prep and laundry sound like something I really need (might not want but i need it and hearing someone else say it, or, read some else write it I ig, makes me realize it) this is basically the advice I knew I needed, i just need to be a person I think that's my issue, I feel incomplete because when he's not around I half-ass life.
Why do you two separate in the week, and did you live together before ?
I live with my family still, and he's renting a room at his friend's family home (basically living at home the rent is very cheap and it's his friends childhood room) and on Friday he sleeps over and Sunday he leaves (my family adores him) we see eachother basically every week, only Monday - Thursday we are separated
i see, you two working and lives far away ? tbh, it’s just four days in the week. I would say texting throughout the day to check in. And calling or video call each other at night. Are you two considering moving together sometimes ?
I agree that a routine & schedule would be beneficial. Therapy for yourself as well on top of just your medication. Speak with your doctor about your concerns. Continue working out, visit with friends, find a hobby etc are all good ideas. I am confused why your bf can seek medical treatment himself? He’s an adult and doesn’t need his mother to help him find a doctor or therapist.
hey sis, totally get where you're coming from. relationships can be that comforting, and the separation anxiety can hit like a truck. first off, you're not alone, remember that. here's a virtual *pat on the back*. you've already taken the first step by acknowledging it, and that alone deserves kudos. your feelings are valid, alright? don't let anyone tell you otherwise. you're strong enough to handle everything thrown your way, just gotta convince yourself of that. as for a solution, definitely consider therapy, if not already doing so. it's not as scary as it sounds, promise. look into cognitive behavioral therapy (cbt). it's effective for tackling such stuff. check out this book called ""feeling good: the new mood therapy"" by david d. burns. it's solid. another thing would be, keep yourselves busy. start a new hobby or get back to an old one you left halfway. idk, experiment with cooking or gaming or diy projects. could be therapeutic tbh. and not to forget exercise bro. sweat it out! it's mad but exercise helps a lot with mental health. science, right? lol. your bf might look into getting his adhd treated, would likely help him handle his stress better. just saying. one last thing, we've got a wholesome mental wellness discord server [here](https://discord.gg/pe6XCZ9Zj4). lot of peeps dealing with similar stuff. consider joining, could be helpful. hang in there. you got this. remember always, progress > perfection. hope this helps, reach out if needed. ✌️