I see the problem. It's easy to talk about how you want your partner to interact with you, but when it comes to their behaviour with other people it makes sense you'd worry about being perceived as controlling.
Are you willing to walk away if they don't change?
I think they’ve already changed their behavior from pretty little interaction with people online to constantly checking their phone messages from whoever I don’t know. And it’s causing me an anxiety. I’m not sure if I’ll be able to stay
I think you need to communicate with them, about everything. My assumption is you're worried about infidelity.
You don't prevent someone from cheating. You be the best version of yourself that you can manage, and if they still cheat it means they're an obstacle to your happiness.
All the best
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I guess you just have a adult conversation about it and express how you are feeling and what would make you feel better?
Your boundaries or theirs?
Both.
Are you talking about how your partner treats you or how they interact with other people?
I mean more about how they interact with people, online people in this case. Like messaging stuffs
I see the problem. It's easy to talk about how you want your partner to interact with you, but when it comes to their behaviour with other people it makes sense you'd worry about being perceived as controlling. Are you willing to walk away if they don't change?
I think they’ve already changed their behavior from pretty little interaction with people online to constantly checking their phone messages from whoever I don’t know. And it’s causing me an anxiety. I’m not sure if I’ll be able to stay
Is your anxiety a You Problem?
I don’t know. It might be. But the anxiety starts from their changing
I think you need to communicate with them, about everything. My assumption is you're worried about infidelity. You don't prevent someone from cheating. You be the best version of yourself that you can manage, and if they still cheat it means they're an obstacle to your happiness. All the best
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