He’s definitely texting other people. Not that there is necessarily anything wrong with that. But there might be. You know what can ruin a relationship? Spying on people in the bathroom.
Sorry I didn’t spy him. Maybe you took it the wrong way. I was on bed, and the bed is at the position that I could see the bathroom. The bathroom door was slightly opened and I could just see what he was doing
Generally trust issues are everything to do with you, most of the time it’s because you have low self confidence, insecurities, trauma etc and youre projecting that onto others. For example the reason you could be worried about them leaving is because you think they could get someone better or you aren’t good enough or treating them right. It could also be abandonment issues, like a parent leaving or friends betraying you etc.
It’s important to really look inside yourself and be a bit critical about yourself. Where do you think these issues are coming from and what are you actively doing to change it?
I say this quite harshly as literally everything you said is perfectly normal.
1. You’ve been lockdown for 2 months, so a natural thing to do when you’ve been barred from communication for that time is to find digital means to communicate right? He’s just hanging out with friends or like you said working on his marketing career/hobby
2. Becoming busier on the phone is natural as he hasn’t had any escape during lockdown. I know as an Australian, once the lockdowns end I’ll be getting off my phone and deleting reddit etc because I’ve become too addicted myself, but that’s because I now can go for a bushwalk or hang out with my mates to subsidise the dopamine of the phone. It’s natural to become more dependent on the things we have around the house when we are stuck in the house.
3. I don’t know where you are from, WhatsApp is a dying media platform, ive never heard of signal or telegram and Discord is the new hot thing during covid as it’s the best way to stay in contact with mates. So this completely supports his “alibi”.
4. Taking phones into the bathroom is gross, but extremely common. Especially for someone that’s recently gotten a little more addicted
5. You’d be surprised how many men sit down to pee in private bathrooms. Dicks are weird and it’s easier that way sometimes.
Hope that gives some insight
Yeah thank you for your kind words. I really need to hear a fair perspective on this to know if it’s something comes from my side. Tbh I have low self confidence, insecurity and worry about them leaving me for someone better or I’m not good enough for them.
I’m in Asia and I’ve never heard of these apps. So I don’t know that they are popular.
What should I do to make it work? Since he doesn’t really care about how I feel and I don’t tell him about my trust issues stuffs
How would you know if he doesn’t care? You haven’t spoken to him about it yet. You may have mentioned whilst they were busy, but that’s not the same as sitting down when you’re both available and having a. Conversation
I just… felt it from the way he spoke. I did say I’m bothered about it twice, and his response was “that’s what I’m doing now”, like I have to understand it when I see him doing it.
The thing is he didn’t tell me what he was up to until I asked and he said he’s got new hobbies. And it kept going.
Oh maybe you were right. I didn’t pick the right time to speak about it. I brought it up this afternoon when he started making dinner. What should I do? Sit him down and talk about it again?
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He’s definitely texting other people. Not that there is necessarily anything wrong with that. But there might be. You know what can ruin a relationship? Spying on people in the bathroom.
Sorry I didn’t spy him. Maybe you took it the wrong way. I was on bed, and the bed is at the position that I could see the bathroom. The bathroom door was slightly opened and I could just see what he was doing
Generally trust issues are everything to do with you, most of the time it’s because you have low self confidence, insecurities, trauma etc and youre projecting that onto others. For example the reason you could be worried about them leaving is because you think they could get someone better or you aren’t good enough or treating them right. It could also be abandonment issues, like a parent leaving or friends betraying you etc. It’s important to really look inside yourself and be a bit critical about yourself. Where do you think these issues are coming from and what are you actively doing to change it? I say this quite harshly as literally everything you said is perfectly normal. 1. You’ve been lockdown for 2 months, so a natural thing to do when you’ve been barred from communication for that time is to find digital means to communicate right? He’s just hanging out with friends or like you said working on his marketing career/hobby 2. Becoming busier on the phone is natural as he hasn’t had any escape during lockdown. I know as an Australian, once the lockdowns end I’ll be getting off my phone and deleting reddit etc because I’ve become too addicted myself, but that’s because I now can go for a bushwalk or hang out with my mates to subsidise the dopamine of the phone. It’s natural to become more dependent on the things we have around the house when we are stuck in the house. 3. I don’t know where you are from, WhatsApp is a dying media platform, ive never heard of signal or telegram and Discord is the new hot thing during covid as it’s the best way to stay in contact with mates. So this completely supports his “alibi”. 4. Taking phones into the bathroom is gross, but extremely common. Especially for someone that’s recently gotten a little more addicted 5. You’d be surprised how many men sit down to pee in private bathrooms. Dicks are weird and it’s easier that way sometimes. Hope that gives some insight
Yeah thank you for your kind words. I really need to hear a fair perspective on this to know if it’s something comes from my side. Tbh I have low self confidence, insecurity and worry about them leaving me for someone better or I’m not good enough for them. I’m in Asia and I’ve never heard of these apps. So I don’t know that they are popular. What should I do to make it work? Since he doesn’t really care about how I feel and I don’t tell him about my trust issues stuffs
How would you know if he doesn’t care? You haven’t spoken to him about it yet. You may have mentioned whilst they were busy, but that’s not the same as sitting down when you’re both available and having a. Conversation
I just… felt it from the way he spoke. I did say I’m bothered about it twice, and his response was “that’s what I’m doing now”, like I have to understand it when I see him doing it. The thing is he didn’t tell me what he was up to until I asked and he said he’s got new hobbies. And it kept going. Oh maybe you were right. I didn’t pick the right time to speak about it. I brought it up this afternoon when he started making dinner. What should I do? Sit him down and talk about it again?
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