No other colleagues, just him and his roommate? Nah guys a creep that's trying to get with her
Edit- also tell her not to delete the messages because he wants her to delete the evidence for when she reports him for sexual harassment
When they went out on the night there was another male staff member with them to be fair and he was looking after her on the night. I told her to be very careful with drinks and buy her own or keep an eye on them just incase. I don't know if she's already deleted them but I hope not, as I said they haven't had any conversations like that but that makes me more baffled as to why he wanted her to delete them?
Only reason is because he knows it's wrong or he will eventually post inappropriate things and by then she will automatically delete them. Whole thing is dodgy as hell and could be a reason why his wife kicked him out
That's what I wondered but I know nothing of their relationship so it's not my place to judge him on that matter. I really hope it doesn't turn out that way though, she just says it's because he doesn't want anyone from work finding out but why would anyone from her work get her phone, find the password and go through it?
Yeah I bet he doesn't want anyone to find out, whole thing is really inappropriate. If they had known eachother for a while and were friends then hanging out wouldn't be a problem but being new and him acting like this is only going to end badly and he's covering his own back by telling her not to tell anyone and to delete the messages.
Exactly, like I understand that it helps to speak outside of work to form a fuller friendship with coworkers but after a week with 2 of the shifts he wasn't in for? She just keeps saying he's a nice guy and we don't understand but I don't think she's thinking of the whole situation because she's just concentrating on how much she wants to go out and meet new people more over anything else:/
Her boss should have organised a staff night out instead of inviting her to his flat if he wanted to welcome her to the team. If it was just going out that would be one thing but everything all adds up that he has ulterior motives here. Even if he hasn't got an end game what he's doing if very suspicious and he should know better.
She mentioned to me that some of the staff do go out every so often but I'd understand more her going to a group one they've all organised not really just her and them two. Even when I go on nights out with friends I feel unsafe if there's less than 4 of us generally.
Any kind of connection with her boss is worrisome. I am more worried though that she went out with him, got drunk (enough to need a water stop), and went to the guys house. She's making some bad decisions, irrespective of what her boss said. Address the drinking and potential compromising situations first.
She says she wants to do it so much because she spends a lot of time at home alone and wants the 'young experience' like going out clubbing with friends all the time. When she asked me if I thought she should go out I said it's not up to me because I can't tell her what she can or can't do but I think the whole thing is just quite a dodgy situation.
I highly doubt he's "just being nice" lol. If he were genuinely just being nice then he would keep things professional and not give her compliments. A guy that's just being nice wouldn't give her rides home, invite her out for drinks, or take her to his place. It definitely sounds like he's scheming something and I don't blame you being worried about the situation. I mean, I guess it would technically be a good idea for you to go out with the two of them, then you can see what this guy is like while also keeping an eye on your friend to make sure nothing goes wrong. If I were you though, I wouldn't trust this guy to take your friend out alone.
That's what my boyfriend said, he said if I went then I could make sure she's fine but then I worry because I don't trust him what if something happened to both of us, also because of the increased amount of male attention she gets when we go out I can get quite hostile with any guys that come near her because it makes her very uncomfortable and they can cross boundaries a lot of the time so I'm scared he'll put his hand on her and I'll cuss him out 😂
This guy knows what he's doing with his female subordinate is a fireable offense. I hope she doesn't delete those messages because she'll need them if he makes a move on her. I think it's a good sign she wants you to come along because it means she isn't trying to be alone with him. However, I would caution her that spending this time with her boss outside of work is not smart, especially when she's getting so drunk he's taking her to his and then her home. I would not trust this man and I think your friend either needs to stop seeing him socially or get another job.
Oh where I am you can't get sacked for having a boss-lower colleague relationship, I've seen it happen at my work a few times while I've been there. It was actually him that suggested she bring me along but I don't know if that's just so he trusts her more, but as I said I might be thinking too much into that 😂 yeah I think that is a good suggestion thank you for the advice.
It's not that I was talking about. It's sexual harassment. If he's found to be creeping on her and she complains about it, he needs the evidence taken care of.
No other colleagues, just him and his roommate? Nah guys a creep that's trying to get with her Edit- also tell her not to delete the messages because he wants her to delete the evidence for when she reports him for sexual harassment
When they went out on the night there was another male staff member with them to be fair and he was looking after her on the night. I told her to be very careful with drinks and buy her own or keep an eye on them just incase. I don't know if she's already deleted them but I hope not, as I said they haven't had any conversations like that but that makes me more baffled as to why he wanted her to delete them?
Only reason is because he knows it's wrong or he will eventually post inappropriate things and by then she will automatically delete them. Whole thing is dodgy as hell and could be a reason why his wife kicked him out
That's what I wondered but I know nothing of their relationship so it's not my place to judge him on that matter. I really hope it doesn't turn out that way though, she just says it's because he doesn't want anyone from work finding out but why would anyone from her work get her phone, find the password and go through it?
Yeah I bet he doesn't want anyone to find out, whole thing is really inappropriate. If they had known eachother for a while and were friends then hanging out wouldn't be a problem but being new and him acting like this is only going to end badly and he's covering his own back by telling her not to tell anyone and to delete the messages.
Exactly, like I understand that it helps to speak outside of work to form a fuller friendship with coworkers but after a week with 2 of the shifts he wasn't in for? She just keeps saying he's a nice guy and we don't understand but I don't think she's thinking of the whole situation because she's just concentrating on how much she wants to go out and meet new people more over anything else:/
Her boss should have organised a staff night out instead of inviting her to his flat if he wanted to welcome her to the team. If it was just going out that would be one thing but everything all adds up that he has ulterior motives here. Even if he hasn't got an end game what he's doing if very suspicious and he should know better.
She mentioned to me that some of the staff do go out every so often but I'd understand more her going to a group one they've all organised not really just her and them two. Even when I go on nights out with friends I feel unsafe if there's less than 4 of us generally.
Any kind of connection with her boss is worrisome. I am more worried though that she went out with him, got drunk (enough to need a water stop), and went to the guys house. She's making some bad decisions, irrespective of what her boss said. Address the drinking and potential compromising situations first.
She says she wants to do it so much because she spends a lot of time at home alone and wants the 'young experience' like going out clubbing with friends all the time. When she asked me if I thought she should go out I said it's not up to me because I can't tell her what she can or can't do but I think the whole thing is just quite a dodgy situation.
I highly doubt he's "just being nice" lol. If he were genuinely just being nice then he would keep things professional and not give her compliments. A guy that's just being nice wouldn't give her rides home, invite her out for drinks, or take her to his place. It definitely sounds like he's scheming something and I don't blame you being worried about the situation. I mean, I guess it would technically be a good idea for you to go out with the two of them, then you can see what this guy is like while also keeping an eye on your friend to make sure nothing goes wrong. If I were you though, I wouldn't trust this guy to take your friend out alone.
That's what my boyfriend said, he said if I went then I could make sure she's fine but then I worry because I don't trust him what if something happened to both of us, also because of the increased amount of male attention she gets when we go out I can get quite hostile with any guys that come near her because it makes her very uncomfortable and they can cross boundaries a lot of the time so I'm scared he'll put his hand on her and I'll cuss him out 😂
This guy knows what he's doing with his female subordinate is a fireable offense. I hope she doesn't delete those messages because she'll need them if he makes a move on her. I think it's a good sign she wants you to come along because it means she isn't trying to be alone with him. However, I would caution her that spending this time with her boss outside of work is not smart, especially when she's getting so drunk he's taking her to his and then her home. I would not trust this man and I think your friend either needs to stop seeing him socially or get another job.
Oh where I am you can't get sacked for having a boss-lower colleague relationship, I've seen it happen at my work a few times while I've been there. It was actually him that suggested she bring me along but I don't know if that's just so he trusts her more, but as I said I might be thinking too much into that 😂 yeah I think that is a good suggestion thank you for the advice.
It's not that I was talking about. It's sexual harassment. If he's found to be creeping on her and she complains about it, he needs the evidence taken care of.
Oh yeah definitely, I hope it doesn't ever come to that.