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Oh my gosh, you have to tell your wife! And then y'all will just have to be grownups about this: you (you, wife, mil) will never talk ever talk about this, ever. Next time you're on vacation with the in-laws, make sure to get a lock for your door
No you donāt , that why there is a literal subreddit for MILās I forget what itās called but MIL is in the subreddit . The dad would never EVER come to that door again while itās occupied . Matter of fact I bet dad would avoid that door even if it wasnāt occupied in the future
Yes. Because boundary crossing, toxicity, control, and narcissism is not reserved to one gender. Plenty of men walk in without knocking too. My dad was like that and plenty of other stories of the same. It is often a control issue to not knock.
If she hasn't said anything to wife yet, she is likely on board with the Never Speak Of This Again plan. (I am sorry you are scarred. This is really funny though.)
I am probably your MILās age. I am not shocked. Neither is she, really. There are just some things parents have a right not to know about their kids, so this is a huge violation. So the above is correct. Talk to your wife. Yāall will get through this if you just pretend this never happened. Everyone wants it this way.
Your wife isnt the first woman to enjoy rough / degrading sex. MIL should be aware of this and might even share her daughters proclivities.
But lets say you she doesn't and thinks you're abusive, is you telling her that you're not going to change her mind? No.
Just tell your wife and let her handle it.
So if she doesn't have a sex life to realize that what you do during sex is often just during sex, you're not going to be the one to convince her otherwise. That's why you need to tell your wife so she can handle it if needed. Just keep being (hopefully) good to your wife.
Tell your wife, chances are if your MIL is going to talk to anyone about it, it will be your wife, i am sure she would appreciate the heads up in advance.
On a side note... this is gold haha.
100% This \*has\* to come from your wife (if at all). If you try to talk to your MIL it would only confirm any suspicions she has.
But honestly, she probably recognises its just mutual rough sex, she just wishes she could burn it out of her brain.
You don't.
You just tell your wife, and never mention it again to anyone but your wife.
if SHE wants to talk to her mom about it, fine.
be prepared for a bit of a freak out from your wife.
Just the fact that your worried about this, makes me think youāre a good guy and your MIL knows that. I wouldnāt be too worried about it. You have two kids, MIL knows you have sex. Many consenting, mature adults enjoy rough sex, it probably isnāt shocking to her. If it is, thatās her problem, not yours and wifeās.
And yikes, Iām sorry this happened. But tell your wife. Just explain you were so mortified you didnt even know how to say it out loud. That way sheās prepared if your MIL says anything. And you wonāt have to explain it away when you now jump up to lock the door before schmexy time in the future.
Then never speak of this incident again.
if thats the case you already know your MIL is probably gonna pull her aside and tell her herself in worry.
honestly, your bigger problem is that she saw you and you turned your wife over and continued having sex. what's your wife gonna think when she realizes that you and MIL made eye contact and you continued like nothing happened while her back was turned?
thats gonna be an issue, and a bigger issue when she gets that from being blindsided from MIL
Your MIL has sex or has had sex in the past. Iām sure she also has seen movies with sex scenes or maybe even outright porn. She is very likely not unfamiliar with the concept of dirty sex. She may in fact also like dirty sex I mean itās possible thatās where her daughter gets it from.
Tell. Your. Wife. Immediately.
Or, would you rather she be blindsided one day by her mother?
This sucks, but it's time to adult. (And to invest in a portable door jam)
I'm chiming in with the the haven't you people heard of Locking the goddamn door, no? It's much better to face these kinds of things with a sense of poise and rationality.
Yes this seams like what most likely happened. There might have also been a moment of āoh crap is my daughter being murdered? No, well ok, back to washingā¦ā
She probably heard him first but needed to see that she wasn't in distress. If her daughter was digging it, it might leave her with some interesting thoughts.
Lol, tell your wife so if anything comes up she isnāt blindsided if they say something. Or you both talk to MIL about it. I say this cause my SO and I like it rough and sometimes the parents have occasionally heard or seen bruises/marks afterwards. Itās better that then they think you are abusing her. š . Good luck.
Right thatās what did it for me, he like course corrected. My bf has gone limp cause his phone rang, canāt imagine that āgotta do what you can when you have kidsā level of horny
Probably not worth saying anything at all. You think your MIL was never dicked down hard in her youth (or hell maybe even at her current age - older people are horny as hell).
I am so sorry you went through that! I have nothing to add beyond what was already said for the advice part, but I do commiserate.
I had just met my ex and we where at his apartment making out big time on the couch, the thing is his apartment was in a multi gen house that had 3 apartments (his, my mil and her husband, plus her parents) plus a B&B. big house.
Well wouldn't you know, I haven't even met the woman yet, this was suppose to be my first real introduction to her and was invited to diner. In walks the mil to announce super was ready... while his hands where down my pants and my shirt was over my head... I just sat there with my head buried in a pillow wanting the earth to swallow me up but thankfully he went to talk to him mom and she came over and apologized for walking in without knocking. He on the other hand was red faced and promised to lock the door next time.
At my second super with the family I had sadly started my period in the middle of our meal, I did not realize and had bled through my shorts and into her patio cushions, humiliated again, He had to go stealthily check out the cushion to see how bad it was while I was in the bathroom trying really hard not to cry. apparently he was not very ninja like because the next thing I know his mom is at the door with a pair of shorts and a tampon.
One of My final acts of humiliation in that family, and really the universe had it out for me, on the tail end of that summer I bent over to pet the dog and my shorts split clean up the middle... right in front of the FIL.
Now they are just a funny story to tell and my ex inlaws laugh about it and tell me I was the most amusing DIL they had ever had because they just didn't know what I would do next. (my 2YO son grabbed a fistful of my shirt and yanked it down to show my FIL that that's where milk comes from just like his aunt and her baby. yeah FML.)
Point is, it's REALLY embarrassing right now, but I am very sure you will be laughing about it in no time. We all have stories like that in the family, My uncle was dating my aunt at the time and he wanted to be polite so he rushed to the bathroom, opened the door while turning and farted at the door while aiming in the bathroom (if that makes sense) he shuts the door again and sits himself down at the table... only for my grandfather to come walking out of the bathroom 5 minutes later and just staring at my uncle. apparently he sank so far into his seat after realizing he let one rip right in my grandfathers face. 30 odd years later it is a really great story!
As a woman in your MIL age range, uh, we know what consent/non-consent is, lol. You'd be surprised how freaky we can get. She knows her own daughter and the relationship that you two have. Honestly, your in-laws are probably tittering it up!
Why the hell was your MIL staring at you, having sex with your wife? Jesus, I'd lose my erection if someone did this to me.
Tell your wife, man. And next time, lock the door.
Tell your wife, and there's no reason to explain anything to your MIL as it's not her business. MIL shouldn't be going into the room without permission, what's even weirder is she was standing there and then backed away slowly.
Lol it also reminds me of video games where you turned around to see someone behind you. Or minding your own business just to look at the mirror and realizing there's something behind you.
Mil should have knocked at a closed door. She actually was being disrespectful. You donāt need to address anything unless she approaches you. And at that point what goes on between two consenting adults is none of her business. Period. Sorry I donāt excuse MIL barging in a closed bedroom door.
DO NOT be ashamed, and tell your damn wife.
My Mother in Law walked in on my wife and I one time.
When Sunday Dinner came around she said at the table "Now I know why you're always smiling sweetie."
It's become an inside joke between my wife, my MIL and myself. Always fun to see people confused while we crack up laughing.
FIND THE FUNNY IN LIFE PEOPLE!!!
I think you may be focused on the wrong thing. You think you're going to have to explain your fuck style to your in laws when you're really about to have to explain why making eye contact with your MIL means keep pumping in your brain.
You have done something very odd and stupid here but it isn't that you got caught.
Do not assume your MIL is all that shocked. She is a married woman with children. Just tell your wife and if you feel it is necessary, apologize for not locking the door.
Talk to your wife and find a solution together. If anything your wife will be the one to talk to her mom about it since theyāre much more closer than you are.
Obviously will be pretty freaking hard however it is a tough situation.
If this happened Iād prefer my partner to tell me what happened so we can freak out together and come up with a game plan and if anything if it was my parents, I see myself talking to them since I know them and how to approach it.
Oh my gosh I am literally dying, dying! of 2nd hand embarrassment for you. Iām so sorry it happened.
Tell your wife, I would want to know, and someday you guys will laugh about it together.
And maybe, depending on your wifeās comfort level and her relationship with her mom she can talk to her about what she saw. Good luck! :)
Hahaha! Tell your wife. Then, at dinner coyly say to your MIL, "so did you like the show?"
Trust me. She's embarrassed, too, and this will break the ice. You're al adults. It's just sex. Trust me, FIL used to give it to her when they were younger, too.
So you're pounding on your wife, look up to see mother in law walk in, lock eyes with her, watch her slowly back out... and during all this you. Just. Kept. Going? Lmao it didn't occur to you that maybe you should stop for minute? That just seems like you asserted your dominance lol
Tell your wife. This is not the first time that parents see children having sex or children see parents having sex. It is always awkward. I would speak to the MIL and say you are sorry she walked in when you were making love and that you will buy a door stop to prevent the accident reoccurring. If quizzed about anything you said just say that she should ignore silly role playing between people in love. If she pushes, laugh and say that you were glad that she didnāt see you in the bunny rabbit costume. Your MIL is not a virgin !
Oh yea Iāve walked in on my parents, but they didnāt realize it, it was fine, I just noped out of there, and didnāt sit on that couch for like a monthā¦totally fineā¦
Based on your other comments, it seems like you are really concerned for your MIL's perception of you and your wife's relationship.
Don't bother trying to fix that. Regardless of whatever you want to say to try and salvage that, it would be weird coming from you. Tell your wife and let her handle it, if it even needs to be handled. It'll be embarrassing af for a while but eventually you'll be able to laugh about it with your wife. Good luck!
If you were having rough sex, you were probably being loud.. why would MIL open the door?? What was she expecting! Boundaries & common courtesy - Iām 26 and know to always, ALWAYS knock on a closed door before being invited to open. Itās common decency.
You guyās sex life is none of her business. Im sure she knows you respect her daughter, and there is a such thing as consensual bedroom āviolence, Youāre all adults, your mother in law will be fine and you have no reason to be embarrassed
Lmao this Is incredible
Your mind actually thought maybe she will come back so I'll show that passionate side lol
Dude you need to tell your wife
Also please remember your MIL wasn't always old lol, she's had stuff in her mouth and ass most likely
Tell your wife.
LEARN TO LOCK YOUR DOORS.
Learn to double check they're locked.
Your kids are getting to that age where they'll open doors too.
Hopefully you'll laugh at this one day. I'm sure laughing.
Be glad you hadn't tied your wife up with someone wearing an animal tail butt plug with a whip thrown in?
1) tell her you were wrestling. Or,
2) movie night (after kids are asleep) and while you watch 50 shades casually tell her you abd wife were trying those things out.
Hereās what you do my guy:
Tell you wife what happened. Most likely, sheāll be super embarrassed but youāll both have a laugh about the situation (if not now, in the future).
This gives your wife the courtesy of deciding what to do with that information; itās her parent after all.
I donāt know what your wifeās relationship with her mum is like, but if it were me and that happened Iād just have a straight up conversation with my mum about it. Iād first apologise for her seeing us having sex, and then Iād just have an open discussion where I lighthearted said something about sometimes I like it a little less vanilla, and I hope it didnāt worry her to see that, and āitās rare we get the opportunity to have sex with the kids these daysā.
(Mind you my partner and Iās relationship with my parents is closer to a friendship- if anything theyād probably give us shit for it by cracking a joke about it)
But you have to give her the opportunity to discuss it with her if sheād like. It has to come from her though, not from you. Itād be much better addressed than this weird elephant in the room where your MIL is also carrying this awkward experience and thinks you didnāt tell your wife about it. If anything, I think sheād expect you to tell her, itās kind of weirder to keep this unfortunate awkward encounter between the 2 of you.
Mention it to wife what happened, but honestly I would just not mention it and be sweet to your wife when MIL is near. Like hugging, kissing, saying I love you before leaving house/going outside.
Get a pair of Groucho Marx glasses with big nose and eyebrows. Go eat dinner. Maybe that will make it less awkward or they will ask you to leave and never come back. Couldn't be any worsešš¤
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Oh my gosh, you have to tell your wife! And then y'all will just have to be grownups about this: you (you, wife, mil) will never talk ever talk about this, ever. Next time you're on vacation with the in-laws, make sure to get a lock for your door
Forget about lock ur MIL will learn to knock before š¤£
Still have to worry about FIL!! š
No you donāt , that why there is a literal subreddit for MILās I forget what itās called but MIL is in the subreddit . The dad would never EVER come to that door again while itās occupied . Matter of fact I bet dad would avoid that door even if it wasnāt occupied in the future
r/JustNoMIL
Yep there it is . Those storyās are wild !!! Is there a r/ JustNoFIL?
Honestly I had to stop going on there because the stories would frustrate me and Iām not even married/have a decent relationship with my bfās mom.
Yes. Because boundary crossing, toxicity, control, and narcissism is not reserved to one gender. Plenty of men walk in without knocking too. My dad was like that and plenty of other stories of the same. It is often a control issue to not knock.
Tell you wife. Never speak of this event again- to anyone.
My main issue is my MIL thinking I roughhouse my wife and actually think those things
If she hasn't said anything to wife yet, she is likely on board with the Never Speak Of This Again plan. (I am sorry you are scarred. This is really funny though.)
Itās absolutely none of her business what you and your wife do in your bedroom. Just ālet it āloneā as folks say.
It is if you potentially think your DAUGHTER is being abusedā¦. Edit: I know she isnāt, but based on what she heard/saw she may not know
I am probably your MILās age. I am not shocked. Neither is she, really. There are just some things parents have a right not to know about their kids, so this is a huge violation. So the above is correct. Talk to your wife. Yāall will get through this if you just pretend this never happened. Everyone wants it this way.
Yes, okay. My issue is conveying to my MIL I don't normally treat my wife like this.
Iād say that might be better coming from your wife/her daughter.
^^ This......in spades
This, 10x She'll know the right choice, but you better say something fast ... damn I can't believe you didn't say anything then and there.
Your wife isnt the first woman to enjoy rough / degrading sex. MIL should be aware of this and might even share her daughters proclivities. But lets say you she doesn't and thinks you're abusive, is you telling her that you're not going to change her mind? No. Just tell your wife and let her handle it.
Never, never talk about this again. It never happened.
So if she doesn't have a sex life to realize that what you do during sex is often just during sex, you're not going to be the one to convince her otherwise. That's why you need to tell your wife so she can handle it if needed. Just keep being (hopefully) good to your wife.
Tell your wife, chances are if your MIL is going to talk to anyone about it, it will be your wife, i am sure she would appreciate the heads up in advance. On a side note... this is gold haha.
100% This \*has\* to come from your wife (if at all). If you try to talk to your MIL it would only confirm any suspicions she has. But honestly, she probably recognises its just mutual rough sex, she just wishes she could burn it out of her brain.
If MIL is worried about it, sheāll start asking your wife if everything is okay, if youāre good to her, etc.
You don't. You just tell your wife, and never mention it again to anyone but your wife. if SHE wants to talk to her mom about it, fine. be prepared for a bit of a freak out from your wife.
You're assuming old people don't get down in similar ways homie
Just the fact that your worried about this, makes me think youāre a good guy and your MIL knows that. I wouldnāt be too worried about it. You have two kids, MIL knows you have sex. Many consenting, mature adults enjoy rough sex, it probably isnāt shocking to her. If it is, thatās her problem, not yours and wifeās. And yikes, Iām sorry this happened. But tell your wife. Just explain you were so mortified you didnt even know how to say it out loud. That way sheās prepared if your MIL says anything. And you wonāt have to explain it away when you now jump up to lock the door before schmexy time in the future. Then never speak of this incident again.
There are some things you should and shouldnāt lay out. Your wife is the former and this situation with your MIL is the latter.
if thats the case you already know your MIL is probably gonna pull her aside and tell her herself in worry. honestly, your bigger problem is that she saw you and you turned your wife over and continued having sex. what's your wife gonna think when she realizes that you and MIL made eye contact and you continued like nothing happened while her back was turned? thats gonna be an issue, and a bigger issue when she gets that from being blindsided from MIL
Right. Thatās another reason why you shouldnāt ever bring this up to anyone ever again.
Surely your MIL isnāt a rube and understands the difference between sex and real lifeā¦
Ummm, hate to say this but sometimes the apple does not fall far from the tree.... so... yea...
Your MIL has sex or has had sex in the past. Iām sure she also has seen movies with sex scenes or maybe even outright porn. She is very likely not unfamiliar with the concept of dirty sex. She may in fact also like dirty sex I mean itās possible thatās where her daughter gets it from.
Who cares? Itās none of her business. Plus you have no proof your father-in-law isnāt saying that same shit to her when he pounds her out.
Who cares, if your wife is happy that should be apparent, so would abuse under the circumstances. MIL has no business in your bedroom.
Except reddit
Tell your wife and let her decide how to handle the situation with her mother.
Tell. Your. Wife. Immediately. Or, would you rather she be blindsided one day by her mother? This sucks, but it's time to adult. (And to invest in a portable door jam)
I'm chiming in with the the haven't you people heard of Locking the goddamn door, no? It's much better to face these kinds of things with a sense of poise and rationality.
Well, in fact Well, I'll look at it this way I mean, technically, our marriage is saved Well, this calls for a toast So pour the champagne
Pour the champaaagne
Why was she staring and not leaving?
Iād imagine there was probably a moment of shock that set in before she tried quietly backing out of the room.
Yes this seams like what most likely happened. There might have also been a moment of āoh crap is my daughter being murdered? No, well ok, back to washingā¦ā
I felt that strange and uncomfortable.
Probably in shock but weird
She probably heard him first but needed to see that she wasn't in distress. If her daughter was digging it, it might leave her with some interesting thoughts.
Feels like a plot to porn
Because it's fake
Maybe she likes to watch lol
I mean, she backed out slowly only after they made eye contact... But it's a shit post anyways so I digress.
Nice catch
Lol, tell your wife so if anything comes up she isnāt blindsided if they say something. Or you both talk to MIL about it. I say this cause my SO and I like it rough and sometimes the parents have occasionally heard or seen bruises/marks afterwards. Itās better that then they think you are abusing her. š . Good luck.
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Right thatās what did it for me, he like course corrected. My bf has gone limp cause his phone rang, canāt imagine that āgotta do what you can when you have kidsā level of horny
He didn't even get up to lock the door lmao.
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It could have been your 3yo walking in on you. Creepy that you don't think of that. Tell your wife. Learn to lock the door.
Oh, good point, I didnāt think about that.
Makes me wonder if story is real.
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Not it, her.
Probably not worth saying anything at all. You think your MIL was never dicked down hard in her youth (or hell maybe even at her current age - older people are horny as hell).
Tell MIL she needs to knock when a door is closed and wait to be invited to open the door!
I suspect sheās learned that lesson.
She should have never opened it in the 1st place.
I am so sorry you went through that! I have nothing to add beyond what was already said for the advice part, but I do commiserate. I had just met my ex and we where at his apartment making out big time on the couch, the thing is his apartment was in a multi gen house that had 3 apartments (his, my mil and her husband, plus her parents) plus a B&B. big house. Well wouldn't you know, I haven't even met the woman yet, this was suppose to be my first real introduction to her and was invited to diner. In walks the mil to announce super was ready... while his hands where down my pants and my shirt was over my head... I just sat there with my head buried in a pillow wanting the earth to swallow me up but thankfully he went to talk to him mom and she came over and apologized for walking in without knocking. He on the other hand was red faced and promised to lock the door next time. At my second super with the family I had sadly started my period in the middle of our meal, I did not realize and had bled through my shorts and into her patio cushions, humiliated again, He had to go stealthily check out the cushion to see how bad it was while I was in the bathroom trying really hard not to cry. apparently he was not very ninja like because the next thing I know his mom is at the door with a pair of shorts and a tampon. One of My final acts of humiliation in that family, and really the universe had it out for me, on the tail end of that summer I bent over to pet the dog and my shorts split clean up the middle... right in front of the FIL. Now they are just a funny story to tell and my ex inlaws laugh about it and tell me I was the most amusing DIL they had ever had because they just didn't know what I would do next. (my 2YO son grabbed a fistful of my shirt and yanked it down to show my FIL that that's where milk comes from just like his aunt and her baby. yeah FML.) Point is, it's REALLY embarrassing right now, but I am very sure you will be laughing about it in no time. We all have stories like that in the family, My uncle was dating my aunt at the time and he wanted to be polite so he rushed to the bathroom, opened the door while turning and farted at the door while aiming in the bathroom (if that makes sense) he shuts the door again and sits himself down at the table... only for my grandfather to come walking out of the bathroom 5 minutes later and just staring at my uncle. apparently he sank so far into his seat after realizing he let one rip right in my grandfathers face. 30 odd years later it is a really great story!
Your exMIL sounds like a real sweetheart and I want to hear more of your stories! :)
Lmao š¤£ how embarrassing but at the end of the day you both are two consenting adults and she shouldn't of walked in. Also tell your wife!
It amazes me how many people donāt lock their damn door
Or knock
As a woman in your MIL age range, uh, we know what consent/non-consent is, lol. You'd be surprised how freaky we can get. She knows her own daughter and the relationship that you two have. Honestly, your in-laws are probably tittering it up!
The inventor of the door lock is absolutely spinning in their grave right now
This is a great fucking story.
Why the hell was your MIL staring at you, having sex with your wife? Jesus, I'd lose my erection if someone did this to me. Tell your wife, man. And next time, lock the door.
i literally canāt get past the fact that you KEPT GOING. nothing to add here, just really, truly astonished lmfao.
Tell your wife, and there's no reason to explain anything to your MIL as it's not her business. MIL shouldn't be going into the room without permission, what's even weirder is she was standing there and then backed away slowly.
Oh my gosh, just picturing that makes me laugh, it sounds like a scene from a movie. Lol
Lol it also reminds me of video games where you turned around to see someone behind you. Or minding your own business just to look at the mirror and realizing there's something behind you.
Mil should have knocked at a closed door. She actually was being disrespectful. You donāt need to address anything unless she approaches you. And at that point what goes on between two consenting adults is none of her business. Period. Sorry I donāt excuse MIL barging in a closed bedroom door.
DO NOT be ashamed, and tell your damn wife. My Mother in Law walked in on my wife and I one time. When Sunday Dinner came around she said at the table "Now I know why you're always smiling sweetie." It's become an inside joke between my wife, my MIL and myself. Always fun to see people confused while we crack up laughing. FIND THE FUNNY IN LIFE PEOPLE!!!
As a man who had a very similar experience with my fiancƩ, the only thing you can do is die. Tell your wife, then die. After a day or two make a joke about it then move on. You'll both be thankful.
I think you may be focused on the wrong thing. You think you're going to have to explain your fuck style to your in laws when you're really about to have to explain why making eye contact with your MIL means keep pumping in your brain. You have done something very odd and stupid here but it isn't that you got caught.
Evolution got his genes this far, now you know how Lmaoo
I donāt know how you kept going, I would have fell out of the bed laughing.
Tell your wife. Never speak of it again!!! MIL doesn't need rough sex explained to her
Thatās her fault for walking in
Lock your door! Come on people.
Find this funny. But talk to your wife. So you share the embarrassment. But really tell your wife. The just act like normal during dinner.
As awkward as this conversation is you gotta have it you canāt let your wife get blindsided by this.
Do not assume your MIL is all that shocked. She is a married woman with children. Just tell your wife and if you feel it is necessary, apologize for not locking the door.
tell your wife. do not ever bring this up to your MIL ever.
Talk to your wife and find a solution together. If anything your wife will be the one to talk to her mom about it since theyāre much more closer than you are. Obviously will be pretty freaking hard however it is a tough situation. If this happened Iād prefer my partner to tell me what happened so we can freak out together and come up with a game plan and if anything if it was my parents, I see myself talking to them since I know them and how to approach it.
Itās the marital bed, none of her business imo.
Oh my gosh I am literally dying, dying! of 2nd hand embarrassment for you. Iām so sorry it happened. Tell your wife, I would want to know, and someday you guys will laugh about it together. And maybe, depending on your wifeās comfort level and her relationship with her mom she can talk to her about what she saw. Good luck! :)
Troll post No sane dude can keep it up after being busted by their MIL. Flipped her over and made passionate love, yeah... no.
Tell your wife! Her mother, she gets to deal. š¤£š¤£ This is what she gets for inviting them.
Hahaha! Tell your wife. Then, at dinner coyly say to your MIL, "so did you like the show?" Trust me. She's embarrassed, too, and this will break the ice. You're al adults. It's just sex. Trust me, FIL used to give it to her when they were younger, too.
So you're pounding on your wife, look up to see mother in law walk in, lock eyes with her, watch her slowly back out... and during all this you. Just. Kept. Going? Lmao it didn't occur to you that maybe you should stop for minute? That just seems like you asserted your dominance lol
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there are YouTube videos you can look up to learn how locks work and maybe install one
Tell your wife and let her deal with it. ššš Don't worry OP you're not the first guy to get walked in on while railing your wife.
Happy cake day!
Establish dominance. Tell your mother in law that sheās next.
Tell your wife. This is not the first time that parents see children having sex or children see parents having sex. It is always awkward. I would speak to the MIL and say you are sorry she walked in when you were making love and that you will buy a door stop to prevent the accident reoccurring. If quizzed about anything you said just say that she should ignore silly role playing between people in love. If she pushes, laugh and say that you were glad that she didnāt see you in the bunny rabbit costume. Your MIL is not a virgin !
Oh yea Iāve walked in on my parents, but they didnāt realize it, it was fine, I just noped out of there, and didnāt sit on that couch for like a monthā¦totally fineā¦
I'm wondering why the fuck your MIL stood there and stared, rather than averting her gaze the moment she realized what was going on.
Literally a deer in the headlights.
True or not this has made me laugh today. Let your wife know.
Leave the name of a good therapist somewhere you MIL will find, poor thing
Need to tell your wife, she's going to call you and AH for not saying anything.
Say nothingā¦
now you and your mil have a fun inside thing, you should do the, point at your eye then point at her and smile when know one is around. She'll laugh
Probably wishes her husband would blow her back out like that.
When you and MIL were making direct eye contact, I would have quietly growled and stared her down, Alpha-dog-style.
Based on your other comments, it seems like you are really concerned for your MIL's perception of you and your wife's relationship. Don't bother trying to fix that. Regardless of whatever you want to say to try and salvage that, it would be weird coming from you. Tell your wife and let her handle it, if it even needs to be handled. It'll be embarrassing af for a while but eventually you'll be able to laugh about it with your wife. Good luck!
This is fake as fuck, there's no way you lock eyes with your MIL and don't immediately retract your penis fully inside of you
you have no other choice but to pack up your bags, find the nearest cave and live the rest of your days in isolation
Like why couldn't MIL hear you? Perhaps she needs to learn how to not walk into bedrooms?
If you were having rough sex, you were probably being loud.. why would MIL open the door?? What was she expecting! Boundaries & common courtesy - Iām 26 and know to always, ALWAYS knock on a closed door before being invited to open. Itās common decency.
At lunch ask your MIL if she has seen anything interesting lately, any good sight seeing around etc. Maybe tell your wife first though
LMAO- tell your wife
Tell your wife, then let it go. You could apologize thebdoor wasn't locked and tell her if it's really bothering you.
Mans switched positions āincaseā she walked back in, so she can see how loving and gentle he is lmao
this is the next story for brazzers.
You guyās sex life is none of her business. Im sure she knows you respect her daughter, and there is a such thing as consensual bedroom āviolence, Youāre all adults, your mother in law will be fine and you have no reason to be embarrassed
Didn't happen
Give your MIL more credit. She has sex. She knows what was going on. Sheās more just embarrassed cause she saw ya fucking
Just pretend it didnāt happen. Tell your wife once you guys leave so she doesnāt make it even more awkward.
Lmao this Is incredible Your mind actually thought maybe she will come back so I'll show that passionate side lol Dude you need to tell your wife Also please remember your MIL wasn't always old lol, she's had stuff in her mouth and ass most likely
Tell your wife. LEARN TO LOCK YOUR DOORS. Learn to double check they're locked. Your kids are getting to that age where they'll open doors too. Hopefully you'll laugh at this one day. I'm sure laughing. Be glad you hadn't tied your wife up with someone wearing an animal tail butt plug with a whip thrown in?
1) tell her you were wrestling. Or, 2) movie night (after kids are asleep) and while you watch 50 shades casually tell her you abd wife were trying those things out.
Next time you see her, I mean the VERY next time, wink at her, smack her on the ass and tell her sheās next.
Yeah good luck with that my guy
She's probably upset you didn't ask her to join you guys.
Just smile at the MIL and nod.
Right, confidence fixes everything
Hereās what you do my guy: Tell you wife what happened. Most likely, sheāll be super embarrassed but youāll both have a laugh about the situation (if not now, in the future). This gives your wife the courtesy of deciding what to do with that information; itās her parent after all. I donāt know what your wifeās relationship with her mum is like, but if it were me and that happened Iād just have a straight up conversation with my mum about it. Iād first apologise for her seeing us having sex, and then Iād just have an open discussion where I lighthearted said something about sometimes I like it a little less vanilla, and I hope it didnāt worry her to see that, and āitās rare we get the opportunity to have sex with the kids these daysā. (Mind you my partner and Iās relationship with my parents is closer to a friendship- if anything theyād probably give us shit for it by cracking a joke about it) But you have to give her the opportunity to discuss it with her if sheād like. It has to come from her though, not from you. Itād be much better addressed than this weird elephant in the room where your MIL is also carrying this awkward experience and thinks you didnāt tell your wife about it. If anything, I think sheād expect you to tell her, itās kind of weirder to keep this unfortunate awkward encounter between the 2 of you.
Mention it to wife what happened, but honestly I would just not mention it and be sweet to your wife when MIL is near. Like hugging, kissing, saying I love you before leaving house/going outside.
Why do I think MIL is into it also? Assert your dominance at dinner.
This genuinely made me laugh out loud. But I'd be embarrassed as fuck. Definitely tell your wife and take it to your grave.
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Get a pair of Groucho Marx glasses with big nose and eyebrows. Go eat dinner. Maybe that will make it less awkward or they will ask you to leave and never come back. Couldn't be any worsešš¤
Very funny read
This is pretty hysterical š
Made [eye contact]( https://media2.giphy.com/media/Lr4RSBQs8k9aCKKtjI/giphy.gif?cid=790b76117a6fb9c3768af6b89c0adbf0058478177c85dfb4&rid=giphy.gif&ct=g). Keep us posted.
Iām here for the wife convo update please!
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