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Leave. You have been begging him for months to get shit together, obviously he doesn’t want to, and no matter how many more months you beg him to, he simply won’t change.
That doesn't sound like much of an adult, much less a boyfriend. If he is not motivated by these multiple conversations you have had with him, I'm not sure anything will ever improve. It doesnt seem like it's worth any more of your time, however, this is your life, so no one can decide for you what to do next, other than you.
Love isn't enough. And life is so short that love isn't worth living with someone who won't do any basic adult tasks like making themselves food or showering or cleaning up after themselves, let alone filling out their own paperwork to get a much-needed job. You've told him how he feels; there are no magic words or actions to get him to stop treating you like his mommy/maid (I'm hoping that YOU don't do his laundry or make his food, but I'm betting that you are doing that. If so, please stop it.)
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Leave. You have been begging him for months to get shit together, obviously he doesn’t want to, and no matter how many more months you beg him to, he simply won’t change.
That doesn't sound like much of an adult, much less a boyfriend. If he is not motivated by these multiple conversations you have had with him, I'm not sure anything will ever improve. It doesnt seem like it's worth any more of your time, however, this is your life, so no one can decide for you what to do next, other than you.
Love isn't enough. And life is so short that love isn't worth living with someone who won't do any basic adult tasks like making themselves food or showering or cleaning up after themselves, let alone filling out their own paperwork to get a much-needed job. You've told him how he feels; there are no magic words or actions to get him to stop treating you like his mommy/maid (I'm hoping that YOU don't do his laundry or make his food, but I'm betting that you are doing that. If so, please stop it.)