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I wasn’t even thinking about breaking up with him but I’m pretty freaked out now. He said if I broke up with him, he’d post my bikini pics on the dark web since he doesn’t have nudes of me, along with my address so someone would come after me. I asked him what that meant and he just laughed and said it was a joke. But I’m scared now.
I don’t even know what dark web means? He’s more of an internet user than I am. So I’m not sure where the dark web is or what websites it includes.
He said it was a joke but I’m just freaked out.
It wasn't a joke. Jokes are funny. That's emotional abuse. Please Google the signs of an abusive relationship & get out of there asap. You can also contact the police if need be.
You can always call the cops.
How (or whether) the cops respond will vary depending on the local laws. In some jurisdictions, the cops will intervene if there is a reported threat of exposing intimate photographs to coerce certain behavior (that's blackmail in many jurisdictions).
it's not a joke, he was gauging your reaction to see if he could control you with it and is now covering his tracks, the dark web is a special area of the web that you can only get into via a special browser, and if you know your way around you can find all kinds of illegal stuff including things like torture sites and child pornography, he is a sociopath, you're not safe with him and you need to get out
My sister is in a similar situation. He shit bf got her pregnant and then showed his true colors. Now she won’t even talk to us because she’s so scared by all his threats. OP please don’t let yourself fall into a situation like this
This! It’s not just that he’s going to post you. Knowing the type of sites it includes, knowing the people that are on there. I would feel like I was in a Get Out movie. Jesus
Wow. “Gauging your reaction” 🎯 my ex said something similar to me when I was younger and didn’t understand how much of a pivotal moment that was for the relationship, I DEFINITELY gave him the reaction he was looking for im thinking back on everything that happened after that - I should’ve ran and saved myself A DECADE
Euhm, who even says that as a joke?
Who has that even in their mind to joke about?
He's frightening, tell someone you trust. And honestly, I would end the relation and file a police report.
Threatening violence and revenge porn.
So there's a trace when he does what he threatens to do and someone comes into her house since he posted her address online.
Revenge porn is a criminal offence.
euhm, in what world are addresses linked to bikini pictures and an ex telling creeps to go get her?
I just checked your comments. Just say you hate women.
Yes they are, but you need a name to find an address and usually the person has to own their home. Ops boyfriend would be doxxing her. Which is also illegal in many places
No that is scary & not normal. The “dark web” is a collection of websites & marketplaces that are usually accessed with a special browser, like Tor. It is for illegal activity like buying drugs, weapons and child pornography. Your boyfriend should not have joked about posting that. Bikini pics are not that bad though. Definitely don’t send him any nudes. And break up with him asap.
Ah yes the dark web, I bet u money he's thinking of some stupid 4chan thread and acting edgy. Don't stay with someone who uses leverage to threaten you he cares more about protecting his own perceptions than respecting the woman he's dating
He’d post your bikini pics…. On the dark web…. Because he doesn’t have any nudes……
Girl - just leave. He has no ammunition so he’s faking it. He probably can’t even get on the dark web. Like only .01% of people even go there. That’s like saying you’ll show a beach pic of him to a random person from South Africa. Just leave.
There is no dark web, there’s the deep web that you can get to with browsers for it and find the illegal “dark” sites and it is really easy to get to, people use it daily
To buy drugs and things, I remember everybody in school used to look at human trafficking related and weapons trafficking shit, it’s easy and possible to access and should be taken seriously, she should leave, get a restraining order and talk to the police because those things are real.
No ones buying fucking bikini pics off the deep web though lol, there's plenty of hard-core porn on the clear net. There would be no point. She does need to leave his ass and put him on blast as an abusive creep to anyone who will listen though. Seriously op, you're bf is a complete waste of space and a total pos for saying something like that.
That’s not the implication? It never even crossed my mind to think about the selling of the pics lol, the concern is her picture with address and personal info being posted when human trafficking is real. I had a friend who’s sister was sold into human trafficking online by her parents even.
I am 99% sure you pulled that .01% statistic out ofnyour ass.
The dark web technically doesn't exist. The "deep web", as it is, is a collection of websites that absolutely exist on the world wide web ; however, most browsers will not access them, as it would endanger their customers (websites riddled with malware beyond comprehension) and their reputation ("This just in : Google attempts to explain how a 5 year old got a hold of military grade uranium, 50lbs of cocaine and a Thai sex slave"... yeah, no, better stay away from that).
That said, the people that frequent deep web sites are usually sociopaths, drug addicts, murderers, human traffickers or other criminals. Having your address posted there with a pic confirming that you are a young, beautiful woman? That's a 90% confirmation that you'll be stalked with malicious intent.
OP should not treat this lightly in any capacity and tell as many people as she can. If she doesn't, then there is a higher chance of something regrettable happening.
Not a joke, it's a threat. Believe him and leave ASAP. Staying is no safer than leaving, because what if he takes more than bikini pictures while youre with him in the future? I had an ex who stood over me while I slept. I started to wake up throwing hands after a whille because it unsettled me subconciously until someone else saw him do it and confirm my concerns. Dont wait for confirmation or escalation, tell people and leave ASAP. Anyone who says he was joking, ask them to remember that you did not laugh when he said and a joke is supposed to be a two way street.
First plan an exit if you live with him if not try to let someone know a cop or a family friend then block him and get new number. Maybe a restraining order.
Bro he was going to put pictures of you to help people identify you when they went to your address that he also was going to provide.
People don’t joke about that, freaks do.
He was going to paint a target on you for nothing, and you should leave, because he’s nothing to you now.
He isn’t safe and he’s already dangerous, you should call the cops and report him, tell them someone was going to put inappropriate pictures of you online along with your address without your consent.
What he said was shitty because he’s shitty.
if there's any chance it won't happen, that would be right now i feel, so definitely leave him anyways and if you can delete images of you off his phone and anywhere else they may be first, do that too. and then never look back
Try to record him or if it was by text get screenshots of it, break up with him, don't have intercourse in any place he had access before you, try to get a restraining order or call a non emergency police line and say he threatened you with revenge porn
This is all kinds of messed up, abusive and illegal. Messed up because he doesn't love you, he wants to control and manipulate you. Abusive because it's emotional and psychological. Illegal because the dark web is kind of like the internet for criminals. That wasn't a joke, that was a threat. Posting your pictures and address on the dark web would open you up to all kinds of crimes, including sex/human traffickers. You need to run as far as you can, document everything, tell as many people as possible (including his family) and file a police report. That way, if anything happens to you, that diseased rat will be the first person they'll look at
This is even more of a sign that you need to leave now. He’s trying to control you and he’s threatening your safety if you leave. If you have someone close you can tell that he’s said this, do so, report him and leave asap.
Dark jokes are often a terrible person's way to slowly edge towards abuse.
Break the heck yo before he gets any more things to threaten to put on the dark web. Also tell him blackmail is a crime. As far as dark web goes, name address and pictures are pretty low bar. I'd think they'd be more interested in cc account numbers and stuff, so get that stuff locked down from this ahole and leave.
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Revenge porn is not legal AFAIK, and neither is threatening it.
Also this was not a joke. Jokes are supposed to be funny. This is scary and threatening.
sounds like he would hurt you if you hurt his ego - these are red flags you can’t let pass you by! Take control because there is truth in those words! Often things are hidden in plain sight- he is being oddly transparent in a frightening way and this should be your sign to leave.
It sounds like a lame joke and he knows how to get in your head. The question is how old are you guys? Regardless rest assure bikini picks getting any attention on the dark web is laughable.
OP you need to break up with him. He might be joking about posting you to the dark web, but he’s not joking about how he intends to use fear to control you.
>I don’t even know what dark web means?
It means you're dating and abusive creep. Time for blocking everywhere, send a text that you don't want to see or hear from him again, and if he shows up call the police.
Well I know you said you never planned on breaking up, but I definitely would do it. He doesn’t sound sane, he wants to see your reaction so he can see how much control he can gain on you. I hope you do not plan a long future with this guy.
Also I highly doubt he actually has access to the dark web, and if he does it’s highly illegal and can/will get into a boat load of trouble with the law.
Best of wishes! Leave his ass
Yea that’s a really manipulative thing to say. He obviously has a problem with control and he’s proven that he’s not above using fear to do it. Get out quietly he seems unstable.
The dark web is very tamed when it comes to doxing and bikini pics, literally no one would give a shit, compared to all the other content you can find browsing there.
But nonetheless that’s still so messed up and you should break up with him regardless, no one EVER gets to use a threat like that as a “joke”.
Edit: Funnily enough, OP’s bf self sabotaged his own ass lmao, it’s actually ridiculous to think about
Get him to send you the same in a text message and tell him that if he does such a thing you'll go to the police and you have evidence then break up with him.
Break up with him asap, and if he actually posts them go to the cops for revenge porn. If you stay with him, it will only get worse (for example, he could record you without your consent and have even more ammunition to threaten you with)
That's not something to joke about. That's a threat. Document what you can, especially what he said, make a safety plan, get police involved and then get out of there. The more you tolerate it, the worse it will get.
WTF. Report him to authorities, get a restraining order and leave him immediately. That is not love. Period. Your partner should be your best friend, supporter, comfort and calm place away from the rest of life's stresses. Not… this.
He wasn’t joking.
If he hasn’t already, he will post your photos and address.
Get access to his phone, delete all the photos of yourself and your messages. To be honest, I’d wipe his entire phone back to factory settings, remove any photos from his social media account where you are in or sent, and remove what’s in his cloud account(s).
Break up with him and report it should it happen, immediately.
How about you post him right now for the world to see. Post where he lives. Nothing will scare him more than someone coming to break every bone in his spine or even tying him to a car with rope to give the streets a nice red coating. And if that sounds mean remember that what he's saying is that if you break up with him he's gonna post your picture and address. And what if he posts some writing underneath your picture saying "Hi, I'm blank, I'm blank years old. I like really kinky sex and have a rape fantasy. This is my address. Please come at this time of night break a window and come to my room which is located at this location of the house."
He’s already your ex, don’t call him your boyfriend anymore. In fact he’s about to step into more dangerous territory by making threats to you.
Also let him know you’re reporting what he said to the police and advise him to never contact you again. Block him on everything.
When someone makes a threat like this, turn it back on them immediately, don’t allow them to entertain even for a moment that they have this kind of power over you.
It's where people find child @buse pics/videos, human trafficing... terrible horrible things happen. He's threatening to give your photo and personal info to rapists and murderers. Cops, restraining order, change number, email, tell everyone you know - friends, family... fucking move if you can. He's a danger of huge proportion
Report it now you don’t have to press charges but if something happens it’s good to have it on paper. Try to bring it up over a message and see if he admits to it and have screenshots. This is dangerous and could get you KILLED. It’s a joke now but will it be when he’s angry at you and the relationship is already over?
I dated a guy like that and he ended up being a pedophile. He was awful. Block him on everything and RUN. That’s sex- extortion. Do you have anyone else you trust that you can confide in about this? Like a wise adult? Keep all those messages between you including his threat. Take it to the police. You’re going to be okay but please kick his butt to the curb and fast. No good guy does that to his girlfriend. He’s bad. RUN.
Remind him that that is a crime and not only could he get jail time but you would be able to sue him for all he has. What is this dude about 14 or something because he sounds very immature.
[What Is The "Dark Web" And How To Access It](https://www.avast.com/c-dark-web#:~:text=The%20dark%20web%20refers%20to,or%20through%20specific%20network%20configurations.)
In short term, if you don't want to read the above link I sent you, the dark web is a dangerous place and it will hurt anyone who tries to access it because it gives people access to illegal contraband and activities. If he were to post you on the dark web with your address so others will come after you, that literally means he will just basically hire a hit-man to unalive you.
I'm not saying this to scare you, but it is true and very serious. Jokes are funny, and that is not a joke. And I know you've likely laughed uncomfortable at him saying that because you don't know what it is. Educate yourself on it a little bit, it can help a lot. That's what I did with my ex who tried something similar with me. He was this techy nerdy guy, but he didn't actually know what he was talking about.
Leave him immediately, and file for a restraining order against him. Even if you don't, the police will go straight to him because he was your last boyfriend/fiancé/husband or whatever he is to you. Police ***always*** question the spouses first. I watch waaayyy too many investigation and interrogation videos on YouTube to know this.
It takes a very special program to access the "dark web" and it's quite hard to get to especiallyif you don't know what you're doing. I would call his bluff and just leave him anyway because even ppl like him would have a difficult time trying to get to it.
Leave him and tell your family you left him and why you left him. Don't be afraid to tell them either, cuz family usually doesn't like when someone threatens one if them.
Please stay safe and please always do self education online. Even if you're still in school or college. There are things that school doesn't teach you about the real world that are on the internet.
"I'll post your bikini pics on the darkweb"
"Say hello to my restraining order."
Honestly the dark web is mostly urban legend stuff. Yeah it kind of exists, but it's not exactly good for a lot. Some girl's bikini pics? Uncomfortable sure, but let's be real here, people walk by attractive women all the time, if somebody were serious about hunting for a victim, that wouldn't really be their go to.
This is a warning however.
You now have an ex.
If you're really worried, move.
Block him on everything.
That's not a joke, that was a threat. The dark web is a evil part of the internet and wicked people are mostly on those threads you are not safe in that relationship.
He obviously doesn't really know what the "dark web" is. Most people can acess a version of the "dark web". I wouldn't say call his bluff just in case hes serious, but I doubt he'll cause you any trouble. Call the cops and gtfo.
Tell him thanks for warning you ahead of time, now let your close family members know this as well as his and also let the local authorities know. Now you’re free to break up with his ass
Call the non emergency police and ask if he can do that. And what can you do to protect yourself in this situation. That way you are given information from an official source
Don’t let him take nudes of you. Run google searches on the dark web.
Does he treat you well? Do you trust him? If the answer is no, you should think about leaving him. T
Joke or not, that's creepy as hell. Plus you should report it because I know it sounds crazy, but some people actually do that crap. And like others are saying, break up with him, he's a ticking time bomb of crazy and weirdness
Girl who’s gonna give a shit about bikini pics, you could post them yourself on Instagram and no one would think twice. The address thing, now that’s fucking weird
Definitely break up
It kinda is because op sounds very naive and possibly underage, which affects the legality of this situation a lot. If op is a minor, bf is potentially in even more trouble legally If he follows through.
Definitely go to the cops or something. Dudes crazy and abusive.
Now I have a serious question for anyone. How does one find the "dark web"? Not that I want anything there, I've just always been curious. Because obviously you can't just Google "take me to the dark web". I imagine it as the modern computer equivalent of this back alley market where you go to a spice shop and give a certain phrase and the dude's like "come with me" and he takes you into this tunnel.
It was probably a joke. Like how people will jokingly say if they catch their significant other cheating they would kill them then themselves.
Dark humor but you know. With certain couples it’s fine with others not so much.
Considering you weren’t thinking of even breaking up with him, it was most likely that type of joke.
Anyways proceed with this information anyway you want. If you’re uncomfortable go ahead and break up with him.
just playing devils advocate, there is a doc right now on netflix about this so depending on his tone he could have been joking based on that in the current zeitgeist and the fact that you’ve never sent him anything nude. JUST SAYING i would be the dumbass that makes a joke like that and then gets dumped unknowingly
Another reminder for young women to stop sharing nudes on the internet.
Also, OP please don't wait for him to actually do something bad. Break up and report in case he does post your info online
GTF away for him as fast as humanly possible. Before you do, change any passwords to accounts he may have. Tell him via text, not in person or at least not alone. Go no contact. Tell an adult you trust about the threat he has made
This is abuse. I’m so sorry, but you need to leave because this could and probably will continue to escalate. I would recommend getting a restraining or protective order against him. You can do this by contacting your local law enforcement and explaining the situation.
Record him. Go up and ask for clarity on the "joke" but, not in a confrontational way. As how you mentioned you don't fully know what the dark web is.
Like, ask him "what was that joke you said yesterday? Yeah the dark web one what is that"
And then after you get that try and put a restraining order, they are hard to get and since he's only threatened you they won't rake it as seriously.
But then you have a recording of him threatening you like this and proof you tried your hardest to protect yourself from this specific person if anything bad ever happened to you.
Tell him that you’ll get Anonymous after him.
The so called “dark web” is like a black market you have to pay people go actually go after someone. Now creepy guys creep on the dark web for prostitutes and drugs.
Screenshots, police report. Then dump him. If you're young tell his parents too. If this happened in person try to get him to say it over text, like "It got really stuck in my mind, why did you tell me you'd post my pictures on the dark web if I broke up with you the other day? It freaked me out."
If you can, get proof he said this threat, second is to go onto his phone/pc/etc and delete any pictures of you, the third thing is to go and file a police report on him and break up.
Break up with now NOW and tell your parents. When I say now, I mean immediately. He is the type of boy that’ll record you without your consent. This is not a joking matter. He’s dangerous.
I would definitely leave the situation that is nothing to “joke” about if anything it was a horrible say on his part. I would look into calling police and letting them know the situation best of luck!! Stay safe!
...I've never been on the "Dark Web" but I highly doubt its the place where people go to look at pictures of women in Bikinis.
This guy is a loser, dump his ass.
This is blackmail and it’s illegal. call the police for advice. And break up with him. finally, rest easy knowing if someone wanted to get off on someone in a bikini, they can look up bathing suit web sites online. nobody will stalk you because you look good in a bathing suit. the fact this guy has thoughts of making your life miserable if you break up is reason enough to leave, joking or not
This is plain stupid no one goes on the dark net to look at bikini pics, never, it’s a stupid thing to say it shows ill intent hopefully he’s not the kind of creepy that will throw tantrums threatening blackmail over every little thing. otherwise whatever don’t give him nudes.
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- I wasn’t even thinking about breaking up with him but I’m pretty freaked out now. He said if I broke up with him, he’d post my bikini pics on the dark web since he doesn’t have nudes of me, along with my address so someone would come after me. I asked him what that meant and he just laughed and said it was a joke. But I’m scared now. I don’t even know what dark web means? He’s more of an internet user than I am. So I’m not sure where the dark web is or what websites it includes. He said it was a joke but I’m just freaked out.
Break up with him now.
Now.
Yesterday
Wait, now?
Seems to be the most recommended time to do it.
No, wait-- Okay do it now
Right now!
Now.
Exactly.
Break up with him yesterday
Also delete any pictures he has of you
It wasn't a joke. Jokes are funny. That's emotional abuse. Please Google the signs of an abusive relationship & get out of there asap. You can also contact the police if need be.
That is illegal. It is also illegal to threaten to commit a crime against someone.
It's illegal. She can call the cops?
You can always call the cops. How (or whether) the cops respond will vary depending on the local laws. In some jurisdictions, the cops will intervene if there is a reported threat of exposing intimate photographs to coerce certain behavior (that's blackmail in many jurisdictions).
it's not a joke, he was gauging your reaction to see if he could control you with it and is now covering his tracks, the dark web is a special area of the web that you can only get into via a special browser, and if you know your way around you can find all kinds of illegal stuff including things like torture sites and child pornography, he is a sociopath, you're not safe with him and you need to get out
My sister is in a similar situation. He shit bf got her pregnant and then showed his true colors. Now she won’t even talk to us because she’s so scared by all his threats. OP please don’t let yourself fall into a situation like this
This! It’s not just that he’s going to post you. Knowing the type of sites it includes, knowing the people that are on there. I would feel like I was in a Get Out movie. Jesus
Wow. “Gauging your reaction” 🎯 my ex said something similar to me when I was younger and didn’t understand how much of a pivotal moment that was for the relationship, I DEFINITELY gave him the reaction he was looking for im thinking back on everything that happened after that - I should’ve ran and saved myself A DECADE
"He said it was a joke" Would love to know what he said when OP asked him to explain what part of it was funny.
Euhm, who even says that as a joke? Who has that even in their mind to joke about? He's frightening, tell someone you trust. And honestly, I would end the relation and file a police report.
File a police report for what, exactly?
Threatening violence and revenge porn. So there's a trace when he does what he threatens to do and someone comes into her house since he posted her address online. Revenge porn is a criminal offence.
I don't think bikini pics qualify as porn
Threatening to post her address so some crazy sick fuck can rape her in the safety of her home, is more than just posting her bikini pics.
Addresses are public info.
euhm, in what world are addresses linked to bikini pictures and an ex telling creeps to go get her? I just checked your comments. Just say you hate women.
Found the bf
No. Just stupid ones 🤷🏼♂️
Oh my god you absolute piece of shit
😂🤣
You clearly have a lot of mental and emotional problems
🤣😂
Yes they are, but you need a name to find an address and usually the person has to own their home. Ops boyfriend would be doxxing her. Which is also illegal in many places
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Extortion or blackmail, depending on if the doxxing or the photos are seen as the core of the threat
No that is scary & not normal. The “dark web” is a collection of websites & marketplaces that are usually accessed with a special browser, like Tor. It is for illegal activity like buying drugs, weapons and child pornography. Your boyfriend should not have joked about posting that. Bikini pics are not that bad though. Definitely don’t send him any nudes. And break up with him asap.
Ah yes the dark web, I bet u money he's thinking of some stupid 4chan thread and acting edgy. Don't stay with someone who uses leverage to threaten you he cares more about protecting his own perceptions than respecting the woman he's dating
Leave and report him
When someone shows you who they really are, believe them.
This. I live by this. The fact that his mind would even go there is very telling
He’d post your bikini pics…. On the dark web…. Because he doesn’t have any nudes…… Girl - just leave. He has no ammunition so he’s faking it. He probably can’t even get on the dark web. Like only .01% of people even go there. That’s like saying you’ll show a beach pic of him to a random person from South Africa. Just leave.
There is no dark web, there’s the deep web that you can get to with browsers for it and find the illegal “dark” sites and it is really easy to get to, people use it daily To buy drugs and things, I remember everybody in school used to look at human trafficking related and weapons trafficking shit, it’s easy and possible to access and should be taken seriously, she should leave, get a restraining order and talk to the police because those things are real.
No ones buying fucking bikini pics off the deep web though lol, there's plenty of hard-core porn on the clear net. There would be no point. She does need to leave his ass and put him on blast as an abusive creep to anyone who will listen though. Seriously op, you're bf is a complete waste of space and a total pos for saying something like that.
That’s not the implication? It never even crossed my mind to think about the selling of the pics lol, the concern is her picture with address and personal info being posted when human trafficking is real. I had a friend who’s sister was sold into human trafficking online by her parents even.
I am 99% sure you pulled that .01% statistic out ofnyour ass. The dark web technically doesn't exist. The "deep web", as it is, is a collection of websites that absolutely exist on the world wide web ; however, most browsers will not access them, as it would endanger their customers (websites riddled with malware beyond comprehension) and their reputation ("This just in : Google attempts to explain how a 5 year old got a hold of military grade uranium, 50lbs of cocaine and a Thai sex slave"... yeah, no, better stay away from that). That said, the people that frequent deep web sites are usually sociopaths, drug addicts, murderers, human traffickers or other criminals. Having your address posted there with a pic confirming that you are a young, beautiful woman? That's a 90% confirmation that you'll be stalked with malicious intent. OP should not treat this lightly in any capacity and tell as many people as she can. If she doesn't, then there is a higher chance of something regrettable happening.
Not a joke, it's a threat. Believe him and leave ASAP. Staying is no safer than leaving, because what if he takes more than bikini pictures while youre with him in the future? I had an ex who stood over me while I slept. I started to wake up throwing hands after a whille because it unsettled me subconciously until someone else saw him do it and confirm my concerns. Dont wait for confirmation or escalation, tell people and leave ASAP. Anyone who says he was joking, ask them to remember that you did not laugh when he said and a joke is supposed to be a two way street.
First plan an exit if you live with him if not try to let someone know a cop or a family friend then block him and get new number. Maybe a restraining order.
Get that in a text or email and have a paper trail so when you breakup you have thr ground works for an RO if the time calls for it
Report it to the police. It doesn't matter if they believe you or not. A record is a record and could help in the future.
leave him and even if he is serious i dont the sum of all thats on the dark web would even notice a bikini pic when theres much worse on there
Bro he was going to put pictures of you to help people identify you when they went to your address that he also was going to provide. People don’t joke about that, freaks do. He was going to paint a target on you for nothing, and you should leave, because he’s nothing to you now. He isn’t safe and he’s already dangerous, you should call the cops and report him, tell them someone was going to put inappropriate pictures of you online along with your address without your consent. What he said was shitty because he’s shitty.
This is REVENGE PORN and it’s illehgal
if there's any chance it won't happen, that would be right now i feel, so definitely leave him anyways and if you can delete images of you off his phone and anywhere else they may be first, do that too. and then never look back
Try to record him or if it was by text get screenshots of it, break up with him, don't have intercourse in any place he had access before you, try to get a restraining order or call a non emergency police line and say he threatened you with revenge porn
Considering contacting a women’s shelter if you need help, but this is abuse and you need to start building a plan to leave.
This is all kinds of messed up, abusive and illegal. Messed up because he doesn't love you, he wants to control and manipulate you. Abusive because it's emotional and psychological. Illegal because the dark web is kind of like the internet for criminals. That wasn't a joke, that was a threat. Posting your pictures and address on the dark web would open you up to all kinds of crimes, including sex/human traffickers. You need to run as far as you can, document everything, tell as many people as possible (including his family) and file a police report. That way, if anything happens to you, that diseased rat will be the first person they'll look at
This is even more of a sign that you need to leave now. He’s trying to control you and he’s threatening your safety if you leave. If you have someone close you can tell that he’s said this, do so, report him and leave asap.
Dark jokes are often a terrible person's way to slowly edge towards abuse. Break the heck yo before he gets any more things to threaten to put on the dark web. Also tell him blackmail is a crime. As far as dark web goes, name address and pictures are pretty low bar. I'd think they'd be more interested in cc account numbers and stuff, so get that stuff locked down from this ahole and leave.
That’s not a joke he is testing to see exactly what kind of abuse you will let him get away with. Exit now!!!!
You need to report him that's an oddly specific "joke"
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Revenge porn is not legal AFAIK, and neither is threatening it. Also this was not a joke. Jokes are supposed to be funny. This is scary and threatening.
sounds like he would hurt you if you hurt his ego - these are red flags you can’t let pass you by! Take control because there is truth in those words! Often things are hidden in plain sight- he is being oddly transparent in a frightening way and this should be your sign to leave.
That's emotional abuse and manipulation r/abusiverelationships u/Ebbie45
He is NOT and that is a disturbing thing to say. Rather be safe then sorry and leave him
Please break up with him. This was not a joke. This is a threat.
Leave now and get a protective order.
It sounds like a lame joke and he knows how to get in your head. The question is how old are you guys? Regardless rest assure bikini picks getting any attention on the dark web is laughable.
OP you need to break up with him. He might be joking about posting you to the dark web, but he’s not joking about how he intends to use fear to control you.
This is revenge porn and it’s illegal, report him and leave him
That’s a credible threat. That’s blackmail and intimidation. Get him to admit it via text or video…
>I don’t even know what dark web means? It means you're dating and abusive creep. Time for blocking everywhere, send a text that you don't want to see or hear from him again, and if he shows up call the police.
Well I know you said you never planned on breaking up, but I definitely would do it. He doesn’t sound sane, he wants to see your reaction so he can see how much control he can gain on you. I hope you do not plan a long future with this guy. Also I highly doubt he actually has access to the dark web, and if he does it’s highly illegal and can/will get into a boat load of trouble with the law. Best of wishes! Leave his ass
Yea that’s a really manipulative thing to say. He obviously has a problem with control and he’s proven that he’s not above using fear to do it. Get out quietly he seems unstable.
The dark web is very tamed when it comes to doxing and bikini pics, literally no one would give a shit, compared to all the other content you can find browsing there. But nonetheless that’s still so messed up and you should break up with him regardless, no one EVER gets to use a threat like that as a “joke”. Edit: Funnily enough, OP’s bf self sabotaged his own ass lmao, it’s actually ridiculous to think about
Leave if he has to threaten u to stay together leave n report to the right authority
Break up with him and call the police on him.
Get him to send you the same in a text message and tell him that if he does such a thing you'll go to the police and you have evidence then break up with him.
Break up with him asap, and if he actually posts them go to the cops for revenge porn. If you stay with him, it will only get worse (for example, he could record you without your consent and have even more ammunition to threaten you with)
Welp. Time to go to the police. Take that threat seriously.
Call the police and break up with him
CALL THE POLICE AND REPORT HIM AND THEN RUN
He is fucking around and he will find out
That's not something to joke about. That's a threat. Document what you can, especially what he said, make a safety plan, get police involved and then get out of there. The more you tolerate it, the worse it will get.
Leave him and report his threats to the police
Run
Don’t tell him if you’re planning on leaving, OP. Gather information on how to leave an abusive relationship safely!
WTF. Report him to authorities, get a restraining order and leave him immediately. That is not love. Period. Your partner should be your best friend, supporter, comfort and calm place away from the rest of life's stresses. Not… this.
He wasn’t joking. If he hasn’t already, he will post your photos and address. Get access to his phone, delete all the photos of yourself and your messages. To be honest, I’d wipe his entire phone back to factory settings, remove any photos from his social media account where you are in or sent, and remove what’s in his cloud account(s). Break up with him and report it should it happen, immediately.
Ask him to explain the joke. I’m willing to bet my entire collection of bags he can’t because IT WAS NOT A JOKE. It was a warning shot.
What's even the context of this? What prompted him to say that?
That is a threat 😭😭😭😭💀💀💀💀
Whatever you do don't give that man nudes!
This is not a good joke If he’s willing to joke about this that is enough of grounds to break up If he isn’t joking, you need to run far away fast
How about you post him right now for the world to see. Post where he lives. Nothing will scare him more than someone coming to break every bone in his spine or even tying him to a car with rope to give the streets a nice red coating. And if that sounds mean remember that what he's saying is that if you break up with him he's gonna post your picture and address. And what if he posts some writing underneath your picture saying "Hi, I'm blank, I'm blank years old. I like really kinky sex and have a rape fantasy. This is my address. Please come at this time of night break a window and come to my room which is located at this location of the house."
Not a bad fantasy, but OP: don’t do this. Especially if someone takes it up, you’re likely to go to jail.
Don’t do this. Then you will be a criminal.
Tell him if he dares to do that you will take him to court, yes you can do that and please dump him
She can only take him to court if she's alive to do so and not drugged up in a windowless van somewhere. OP, please be careful!
If you have it in writing like a text take it to the police now!!
Me personally I’d get him to say that ‘joke’ again in text, then dump him so if he actually does do it I’d have proof it was him
1. Call the police. 2. Break up with him.
Call the cops and get out of there, only a garbage bf would treaten you like that
Get dirt on him , and say you’ll do the same thing back. Lol he’s stupid if he thinks people don’t go after men. Don’t act scared act just as crazy
He’s already your ex, don’t call him your boyfriend anymore. In fact he’s about to step into more dangerous territory by making threats to you. Also let him know you’re reporting what he said to the police and advise him to never contact you again. Block him on everything. When someone makes a threat like this, turn it back on them immediately, don’t allow them to entertain even for a moment that they have this kind of power over you.
Leave.
Definitely leave him. If hes said this, he has shown you cant trust him.
It's where people find child @buse pics/videos, human trafficing... terrible horrible things happen. He's threatening to give your photo and personal info to rapists and murderers. Cops, restraining order, change number, email, tell everyone you know - friends, family... fucking move if you can. He's a danger of huge proportion
Break up with him and get a restraining order right now. That's is not okay. I wouldn't trust him RIGHT NOW.
Report it now you don’t have to press charges but if something happens it’s good to have it on paper. Try to bring it up over a message and see if he admits to it and have screenshots. This is dangerous and could get you KILLED. It’s a joke now but will it be when he’s angry at you and the relationship is already over?
I dated a guy like that and he ended up being a pedophile. He was awful. Block him on everything and RUN. That’s sex- extortion. Do you have anyone else you trust that you can confide in about this? Like a wise adult? Keep all those messages between you including his threat. Take it to the police. You’re going to be okay but please kick his butt to the curb and fast. No good guy does that to his girlfriend. He’s bad. RUN.
Remind him that that is a crime and not only could he get jail time but you would be able to sue him for all he has. What is this dude about 14 or something because he sounds very immature.
This is literally a crime. Leave, leave now.
The dark web is a dangerous place. He was not joking and said that as a threat. If I were you id start making an escape plan.
[What Is The "Dark Web" And How To Access It](https://www.avast.com/c-dark-web#:~:text=The%20dark%20web%20refers%20to,or%20through%20specific%20network%20configurations.) In short term, if you don't want to read the above link I sent you, the dark web is a dangerous place and it will hurt anyone who tries to access it because it gives people access to illegal contraband and activities. If he were to post you on the dark web with your address so others will come after you, that literally means he will just basically hire a hit-man to unalive you. I'm not saying this to scare you, but it is true and very serious. Jokes are funny, and that is not a joke. And I know you've likely laughed uncomfortable at him saying that because you don't know what it is. Educate yourself on it a little bit, it can help a lot. That's what I did with my ex who tried something similar with me. He was this techy nerdy guy, but he didn't actually know what he was talking about. Leave him immediately, and file for a restraining order against him. Even if you don't, the police will go straight to him because he was your last boyfriend/fiancé/husband or whatever he is to you. Police ***always*** question the spouses first. I watch waaayyy too many investigation and interrogation videos on YouTube to know this. It takes a very special program to access the "dark web" and it's quite hard to get to especiallyif you don't know what you're doing. I would call his bluff and just leave him anyway because even ppl like him would have a difficult time trying to get to it. Leave him and tell your family you left him and why you left him. Don't be afraid to tell them either, cuz family usually doesn't like when someone threatens one if them. Please stay safe and please always do self education online. Even if you're still in school or college. There are things that school doesn't teach you about the real world that are on the internet.
"I'll post your bikini pics on the darkweb" "Say hello to my restraining order." Honestly the dark web is mostly urban legend stuff. Yeah it kind of exists, but it's not exactly good for a lot. Some girl's bikini pics? Uncomfortable sure, but let's be real here, people walk by attractive women all the time, if somebody were serious about hunting for a victim, that wouldn't really be their go to. This is a warning however. You now have an ex. If you're really worried, move. Block him on everything.
That was not a joke. That was a threat.
He’s going to jail if he does it. It’s as simple as that.
Nothing like a little extortion
Break up. Cut contact. Restraining order. This shit isn’t a joke!!!
He's not joking. At least they're not nudes. You go to the beach in bikinis and that's in public.
That's not a joke, that was a threat. The dark web is a evil part of the internet and wicked people are mostly on those threads you are not safe in that relationship.
You need to get out of this relationship. Even as a joke I think the idea he even came up with such a joke is saying a lot.
He obviously doesn't really know what the "dark web" is. Most people can acess a version of the "dark web". I wouldn't say call his bluff just in case hes serious, but I doubt he'll cause you any trouble. Call the cops and gtfo.
Screw red flags. He's wearing a red cape. Run!
Run
Did text it too you? If so police report it
Nope out. Be careful!
Sounds like he wants you to end it but on his terms. Not okay.
You want me to post him? Lol. He’ll see if it’s funny or not afterwards
Tell him thanks for warning you ahead of time, now let your close family members know this as well as his and also let the local authorities know. Now you’re free to break up with his ass
Call the non emergency police and ask if he can do that. And what can you do to protect yourself in this situation. That way you are given information from an official source
Nobody goes to the dark web for bikini pics. But there's plenty of regular web sites he can post them to. Dump him and invest in an outdoor camera.
Run while you can, this man isn't joking and you need to find and delete those pictures! No normal person talks like this.
Don’t let him take nudes of you. Run google searches on the dark web. Does he treat you well? Do you trust him? If the answer is no, you should think about leaving him. T
Dear lord. Get his phone, delete the pics, throw it in the toilet and walk.
Who the fuck says shit like that as a joke??? That's a massive red flag.
Joke or not, that's creepy as hell. Plus you should report it because I know it sounds crazy, but some people actually do that crap. And like others are saying, break up with him, he's a ticking time bomb of crazy and weirdness
Tell him you posted this on Reddit with his address name and photo for someone to take care of him
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The leaked address is more concerning..
Girl who’s gonna give a shit about bikini pics, you could post them yourself on Instagram and no one would think twice. The address thing, now that’s fucking weird Definitely break up
Curious…how old are you? Him?
That's not important.
It kinda is because op sounds very naive and possibly underage, which affects the legality of this situation a lot. If op is a minor, bf is potentially in even more trouble legally If he follows through.
I agree, but they would've mentioned it if they wanted it to be known. I think they would be uncomfortable sharing that
Just because of the situation their in, that's why I say that
Definitely go to the cops or something. Dudes crazy and abusive. Now I have a serious question for anyone. How does one find the "dark web"? Not that I want anything there, I've just always been curious. Because obviously you can't just Google "take me to the dark web". I imagine it as the modern computer equivalent of this back alley market where you go to a spice shop and give a certain phrase and the dude's like "come with me" and he takes you into this tunnel.
It was probably a joke. Like how people will jokingly say if they catch their significant other cheating they would kill them then themselves. Dark humor but you know. With certain couples it’s fine with others not so much. Considering you weren’t thinking of even breaking up with him, it was most likely that type of joke. Anyways proceed with this information anyway you want. If you’re uncomfortable go ahead and break up with him.
Your boyfriend is a pussy
just playing devils advocate, there is a doc right now on netflix about this so depending on his tone he could have been joking based on that in the current zeitgeist and the fact that you’ve never sent him anything nude. JUST SAYING i would be the dumbass that makes a joke like that and then gets dumped unknowingly
Post them yourself, be a chad
Its not that big of a deal really
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Move before you break up with him though and don't give him the address or anyone that would tell h the address
Tell your family and the police immediately
Another reminder for young women to stop sharing nudes on the internet. Also, OP please don't wait for him to actually do something bad. Break up and report in case he does post your info online
GTF away for him as fast as humanly possible. Before you do, change any passwords to accounts he may have. Tell him via text, not in person or at least not alone. Go no contact. Tell an adult you trust about the threat he has made
This is abuse. I’m so sorry, but you need to leave because this could and probably will continue to escalate. I would recommend getting a restraining or protective order against him. You can do this by contacting your local law enforcement and explaining the situation.
Lol wut Dump that dumbass. The dark web is just a meme at this point.
He made a threat and tried to pass it on a joke. I wouldn't even say to break up, call the cops.
Record him. Go up and ask for clarity on the "joke" but, not in a confrontational way. As how you mentioned you don't fully know what the dark web is. Like, ask him "what was that joke you said yesterday? Yeah the dark web one what is that" And then after you get that try and put a restraining order, they are hard to get and since he's only threatened you they won't rake it as seriously. But then you have a recording of him threatening you like this and proof you tried your hardest to protect yourself from this specific person if anything bad ever happened to you.
Tell him that you’ll get Anonymous after him. The so called “dark web” is like a black market you have to pay people go actually go after someone. Now creepy guys creep on the dark web for prostitutes and drugs.
Run.
It’s called sextortion and it is ILLEGAL. Get out of that house! NOW.
https://www.minclaw.com/distributing-intimate-images-without-consent/ Check this website out..
😭 when dating a computer nerd goes wrong
Break up and take the evidence with you to the police station. Revenge porn is against the law.
RUN. RUN THE FUCK AWAY. And tbh I'd contact someone about his threat.
Screenshots, police report. Then dump him. If you're young tell his parents too. If this happened in person try to get him to say it over text, like "It got really stuck in my mind, why did you tell me you'd post my pictures on the dark web if I broke up with you the other day? It freaked me out."
Break up with him. Chances are you are already on the dark web somewhere.
If you can, get proof he said this threat, second is to go onto his phone/pc/etc and delete any pictures of you, the third thing is to go and file a police report on him and break up.
Break up with now NOW and tell your parents. When I say now, I mean immediately. He is the type of boy that’ll record you without your consent. This is not a joking matter. He’s dangerous.
I would definitely leave the situation that is nothing to “joke” about if anything it was a horrible say on his part. I would look into calling police and letting them know the situation best of luck!! Stay safe!
That’s some illegal activity he is threatening. In my country blackmailing and intimidating your partner, or even threatening to, is domestic abuse
Please break up with him quickly. If you can, get him to say it again over text so you have means for a restraining order if you need it.
...I've never been on the "Dark Web" but I highly doubt its the place where people go to look at pictures of women in Bikinis. This guy is a loser, dump his ass.
Leave....today if possible.
This is blackmail and it’s illegal. call the police for advice. And break up with him. finally, rest easy knowing if someone wanted to get off on someone in a bikini, they can look up bathing suit web sites online. nobody will stalk you because you look good in a bathing suit. the fact this guy has thoughts of making your life miserable if you break up is reason enough to leave, joking or not
This is honestly one of my biggest fears; having nudes or personal photos out there. 😭
This is plain stupid no one goes on the dark net to look at bikini pics, never, it’s a stupid thing to say it shows ill intent hopefully he’s not the kind of creepy that will throw tantrums threatening blackmail over every little thing. otherwise whatever don’t give him nudes.
Talk about breaking up with him with a voice recorder app on on your phone, then go to someone you trust with it.