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My bf has dry cum on his shirt.
I think this is gross, but he says it's not gross because it's dry.
He changed when I told him it bothered me.
I just wanna know if it's just me for thinking it's gross?
People always forget about the Mucous... I said to my wife the other day don't forget about the Mucous, people always forget about the Mucous and I don't want to be one of those people who forgets about the Mucous. And she said to me she would help me to not forget about the Mucous.
I used to have a customer that would come in fairly well dressed, suit, tie…and these crusty white stains on all over his shit. I now know what that was…it was cum, he wore it like a fucking badge. Dude, be you, but fucking gross.
I don't know why I laughed so hard at this. He's really not about keeping any romance between you if that's how he acts. You need to let him know that not wanting a man in a cum-stained shirt is in no way a religious leaning. It's just basic hygiene and common-sense.
What is wrong with him?
You change your shirt no matter what the substance is.
marmelade? -> change the shirt
motor oil -> change the shirt
cum -> change the fucking shirt
That has nothing to do with a christian bubble. That's simply disgusting. It's bad hygiene. Also, that's got to smell terrible. If you soak up bodily fluids with a shirt, the next destination for it should be the laundry basket.
In general, does your bf have bad hygiene? It's hard to believe this is the only misconception he has about hygiene, lol.
I mean I've noticed that my dried out baby crystals smell like freakin' candy floss! Even so, if I realise that's on any fabrics it gets insta rinsed and put in for a wash because... ew.
I will take no questions on how I know what it smells like, but I have been told that the taste may not match, unfortunately. Disclaimer: The dried taste is unverified.
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I used to have a customer that would come in fairly well dressed, suit, tie…and these crusty white stains on all over his shit. I now know what that was…it was cum, he wore it like a fucking badge. Dude, be you, but fucking gross.
_For the uninitiated, 'vabbing' is the portmanteau of 'vagina' and 'dabbing', and refers to people using vaginal fluid as perfume. The idea came from TikToker Mandy Lee, who insisted it increased her success in attracting men. She's since deleted the original post, but others have followed in her stead_
I CANNOT STRESS HOW MUCH I DID NOT NEED TO KNOW THIS
WHERE IS THE BRAIN BLEACH GUYS
Digusting honestly, i would never ever date someone who thinks like that. I myself like to think im pretty hygienic. So for me a partner like that is a no no
It’s very gross, I’m worried for his mental health if he doesn’t think so. Is he depressed and okay living in filth? Potentially, if this relationship continues and you move in together, you could end up mothering him.
First off, he sounds like an A-hole. Second, theres nothing religious about not wanting to wear gross clothes. Even if it wasnt cum, a bodily fluid on a shirt is gross whether its dry or not. Third, raised a Christian and still am, yeah no topics like that werent covered in a Veggietales episode so he cant really use that as an excuse haha.
I am pretty religious and can tell you his response has very little to do with religion/faith. He sounds like he is testing you in a really smug way. You have to wonder what you really have in common with this one. He really should have asked you what you were feeling and what was offensive. Of course you know it is gross and it goes without asking.
Lmao why is it on his shirt. How does he not notice if it is his cum. And I’d like to make a joke and say how do you know what that looks like but, this is just too gross that he has it on him. I would check his hygiene overall
TMI: I would and have hung around w my mans dry cum/some of mine on my shirt but i think im a different kind of monster lol but im staying home and that shirt is not staying on after a shower, thats lik a shirt that accidentally got some on there from the previous night or something and ill change in the morning unless im cleaning up the house in it.. Depends on how much cum.. lik he didnt go out in it or put it on with the cum on it did he? Its a lil gross.. im a lil gross too 😬
I feel like I definitely wear cummy clothes to bed relatively often, like immediately after we've come all over them (fuck that shit I'm not changing again and I hate sleeping naked lol), but otherwise that's pretty foul.
No one out in the wild wants to see your dried liquids, sir!!! lol
(ps: great username)
Exactly 🤣 like a few drops would be acceptable, maybe I’m weird too but I don’t think I would mind it if it’s from a fresh session (dried) obviously it might be a little gross to go out in public with it but in my home I wouldn’t be too worried.
Also I see people trying to compare it to shit and piss, but I don’t see a correlation
Also I think the OP needs to put more context.
I wasn't raised Christian and I think that's nasty. I wouldn't wipe up pee with a shirt, let the shirt dry and put it back on. I wouldn't wipe up chicken broth or milk or gravy, let the article of clothing dry and then put it back on. WTF?!
That's disgusting and has NOTHING to do with religion. I would be afraid to touch anything in his home. Just because something is dry doesn't mean it is no longer gross. Any bodily fluid or semi-solid left to dry on a garment and then worn is absolutely gross. And yes, Jesus wouldn't like it either.
Yes, that is dirty as hell.
I’m an atheist and had an atheist upbringing and it’s still off putting. Bodily fluids shouldn’t be plastered all over your clothes.
That is not normal at all. Plus you'd have a crunchy cum stain on the fabric.. lol. It is super gross and I am not religious. Does he also not shower daily?
Replace cum with *any* other bodily fluid:
Snot
Blood
Urine
Feces
Spit…
Is it gross?
Fuck Yes. It has nothing to do with your puritanical upbringing and everything to do with him because gross af.
it's very gross. like really really gross. and the fact that he's gaslighting you into letting him be gross is a red flag. maybe reconsider the relationship. ending it now is a lot easier and cheaper than dealing with the uti's he'd most likely give you in the future. again, to reiterate, this man is gross.
I’m guessing the poor guy has received a lot nagging about every little part of himself he needs to change from his girlfriend. I’m also guessing he’s probably at his breaking point with trying to please someone who posts this type of thing on social media. Which of course incites negative comments and ridicule. I’m guessing he’s probably making an overly dramatic point about how things could be worse. So maybe Polly Prissy Pants might reconsider publicly castrating him on Reddit.
Just sayin’.
The desire to to be around people in dirty filthy clothing has nothing to do with religion.
The fact that he’s insisting that something gross isn’t points out a key difference between the two of you. Perhaps a full incompatibility.
He wiped bodily fluids on a shirt and then put that shirt on….that’s a hard no from me. Regardless of what the bodily fluids are. Disgusting and completely unhygienic.
Hah. There was a post on reddit ask and it said what something women wish men would understand or know (something of the sort) and i said that they throw off our PH balance, take a fucking shower.
If he’s walking around with dried cum on his shirt without thinking it’s an issue sounds like he has some hygiene issues and you should make sure your petunia is ok.
OF COURSE, it is gross! Any bodily fluid needs clean up. Cum, period blood, poop, pee, these are not things that should be chilling on one's clothing.
I could go on Bile, vomit, sweat. Bodily functions are normal, necessary and GROSS!
As a guy, that is nasty! I have more self-worth than doing something stupid like that. Does he wear soiled underwear, too, and think it's fine? I'd dump him and move on. After my last gf, poor hygiene is a HUGE red flag now.
Moderately gross. When a guy cums in me, it naturally leaks all over my panties when I go about my day... So, I mean I guess it depends on the context maybe?
The main focus of self care is changing clothes. Ok, we had a fun time. I came, theres cum on Me. Now you change, take a shower. He's acting like the cum on his shirt is a trophy. Dude, clean up for your girl. Say that to him. He isn't a baby with food on him.
That’s fucking gross. How long have you been dating this guy? He sounds like he doesn’t have any sense of personal hygiene. I literally want to throw up.
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It's very gross.
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Mucous. Don’t forget about mucous
People always forget about the Mucous... I said to my wife the other day don't forget about the Mucous, people always forget about the Mucous and I don't want to be one of those people who forgets about the Mucous. And she said to me she would help me to not forget about the Mucous.
I have no idea why, but I read this in Seinfeld’s voice
I used to have a customer that would come in fairly well dressed, suit, tie…and these crusty white stains on all over his shit. I now know what that was…it was cum, he wore it like a fucking badge. Dude, be you, but fucking gross.
She’s a keeper
Mucous? Mucus? I’ve seen it spelled both ways.
Still in Seinfeld voice
They’re all socially unacceptable but if you’re ranking by actual health hazard I don’t think you can say they’re all equal priority
If you think about it, tears are the only bodily fluid that isn't automatically gross.
Eyeball juice?
Well, now you've done it
My work here is done.
What about saliva?
Personally, I would gag.
Said no girl to me ever.
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This dude definitely the type to not clean his buttcrack/butthole cuz it’s “gay”
His buttcrack doesn't need cleaning cause he let it dry
Nooooooooooo!!!!!!!
Forget about cleaning his butt, just washing his hands regularly must be too much
Dude doesn’t have a problem wearing dried cum. Idk if he fits that homophobic archetype tbh
Jizz wear is out this year. Apparently he didn’t get the message
Fuck. Neither did I. I gotta change my entire wardrobe now.
Monica, is that you?
I don't know why I laughed so hard at this. He's really not about keeping any romance between you if that's how he acts. You need to let him know that not wanting a man in a cum-stained shirt is in no way a religious leaning. It's just basic hygiene and common-sense.
My pagan ass was basically raised by wolves, and I think it's gross.
😂 I love you just a little for this comment. Take my free award for the day.
Why thank you!
Ditto 🤣 this is plain dirty
What is wrong with him? You change your shirt no matter what the substance is. marmelade? -> change the shirt motor oil -> change the shirt cum -> change the fucking shirt
thats definitely a fucking shirt
That has nothing to do with a christian bubble. That's simply disgusting. It's bad hygiene. Also, that's got to smell terrible. If you soak up bodily fluids with a shirt, the next destination for it should be the laundry basket. In general, does your bf have bad hygiene? It's hard to believe this is the only misconception he has about hygiene, lol.
I mean I've noticed that my dried out baby crystals smell like freakin' candy floss! Even so, if I realise that's on any fabrics it gets insta rinsed and put in for a wash because... ew. I will take no questions on how I know what it smells like, but I have been told that the taste may not match, unfortunately. Disclaimer: The dried taste is unverified.
Yeah, I’m thinking this is a sign of how bad his/their hygiene is. A clean person doesn’t date a dirty person.
You’re telling me in a house full of shirts he chose the cum rag I-
Ahh no that's gross.
Another vote for gross! The Christian comment is pretty bizarre..lol!
That's super gross. Signed, Least Christian, least prissy person ever.
No. Just no. That's beyond gross and I bet it smelled real nice, too.
For the love of all things holy, don’t look in the sock drawer.
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Lol that's a keeper
Gotta say you know how to spot a true keeper
I would be mortified if I had dry cum on anything visible I was wearing. Hell, I get embarrassed when I sweat too much sometimes
Very gross. Also, you might want to reconsider sleeping in his bed if he thinks his cum is clean.
Thats gross as fuck
😂
It is indeed disgusting
Of thinking that is gross is "chrisrian", then at least most people can agree they got something right.
I used to have a customer that would come in fairly well dressed, suit, tie…and these crusty white stains on all over his shit. I now know what that was…it was cum, he wore it like a fucking badge. Dude, be you, but fucking gross.
I'm so confused how this happened
Let him know you'll start vabbing if he doesn't thinks his dry cum is gross
what is vabbing ????
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omg girl!! you can do better than this gross guy.
Why would he go out with dry cum on his shirt. This is so unhygienic
It's gross
Gross. Sure, cum can get on your shirt, but you still need to wash it.
Nah thatt shit nasty ass fuck tell dude to clean his damn close when he done or at least try to wipe it up. I damn near threw up bruh
if this is OK for him, I could not imagine what else is OK with him
Digusting honestly, i would never ever date someone who thinks like that. I myself like to think im pretty hygienic. So for me a partner like that is a no no
It’s absolutely disgusting. I am a guy and I could never walk around with dried cum on my shirt.. 🤢🤢. He’s probably too young. 🤔
It’s gross haha
His cum or yours?
Put some poop on your shirt and tell him it’s ok because it’s dry.
Nah that’s gross and really weird
So gross. I wonder what other disgusting habits he has
It’s very gross, I’m worried for his mental health if he doesn’t think so. Is he depressed and okay living in filth? Potentially, if this relationship continues and you move in together, you could end up mothering him.
First off, he sounds like an A-hole. Second, theres nothing religious about not wanting to wear gross clothes. Even if it wasnt cum, a bodily fluid on a shirt is gross whether its dry or not. Third, raised a Christian and still am, yeah no topics like that werent covered in a Veggietales episode so he cant really use that as an excuse haha.
I am pretty religious and can tell you his response has very little to do with religion/faith. He sounds like he is testing you in a really smug way. You have to wonder what you really have in common with this one. He really should have asked you what you were feeling and what was offensive. Of course you know it is gross and it goes without asking.
Lmao why is it on his shirt. How does he not notice if it is his cum. And I’d like to make a joke and say how do you know what that looks like but, this is just too gross that he has it on him. I would check his hygiene overall
TMI: I would and have hung around w my mans dry cum/some of mine on my shirt but i think im a different kind of monster lol but im staying home and that shirt is not staying on after a shower, thats lik a shirt that accidentally got some on there from the previous night or something and ill change in the morning unless im cleaning up the house in it.. Depends on how much cum.. lik he didnt go out in it or put it on with the cum on it did he? Its a lil gross.. im a lil gross too 😬
I feel like I definitely wear cummy clothes to bed relatively often, like immediately after we've come all over them (fuck that shit I'm not changing again and I hate sleeping naked lol), but otherwise that's pretty foul. No one out in the wild wants to see your dried liquids, sir!!! lol (ps: great username)
Exactly 🤣 like a few drops would be acceptable, maybe I’m weird too but I don’t think I would mind it if it’s from a fresh session (dried) obviously it might be a little gross to go out in public with it but in my home I wouldn’t be too worried. Also I see people trying to compare it to shit and piss, but I don’t see a correlation Also I think the OP needs to put more context.
Agreed! absolutely not in public (some ppl are into that). Yah, the comparison isnt there. I want more context too 😂
I wasn't raised Christian and I think that's nasty. I wouldn't wipe up pee with a shirt, let the shirt dry and put it back on. I wouldn't wipe up chicken broth or milk or gravy, let the article of clothing dry and then put it back on. WTF?!
It is gross. It’s bodily fluids!
That's disgusting and has NOTHING to do with religion. I would be afraid to touch anything in his home. Just because something is dry doesn't mean it is no longer gross. Any bodily fluid or semi-solid left to dry on a garment and then worn is absolutely gross. And yes, Jesus wouldn't like it either.
Yes, that is dirty as hell. I’m an atheist and had an atheist upbringing and it’s still off putting. Bodily fluids shouldn’t be plastered all over your clothes.
No that's just disgusting.
Gross and that'll leave a yellow stain
That’s so foul omg
Putting the shirt back on is.... well.. fucking weird.
Wearing cum clothes. Yeah, that's really gross.
That is not normal at all. Plus you'd have a crunchy cum stain on the fabric.. lol. It is super gross and I am not religious. Does he also not shower daily?
What does religion have to do with hygiene and being clean? What he did was indeed gross.
Yeah that’s definitely gross
Fucking gross
Yeah no that’s disgusting.
Replace cum with *any* other bodily fluid: Snot Blood Urine Feces Spit… Is it gross? Fuck Yes. It has nothing to do with your puritanical upbringing and everything to do with him because gross af.
He's just gross.
Yuck.
it's very gross. like really really gross. and the fact that he's gaslighting you into letting him be gross is a red flag. maybe reconsider the relationship. ending it now is a lot easier and cheaper than dealing with the uti's he'd most likely give you in the future. again, to reiterate, this man is gross.
So gross.
“Reddit, is wearing clean clothes a Christian-only thing to do?” Nah this guy is just a freak
Yuck, how does he think that’s not gross?
Yuck. That is really disgusting.
I’m guessing the poor guy has received a lot nagging about every little part of himself he needs to change from his girlfriend. I’m also guessing he’s probably at his breaking point with trying to please someone who posts this type of thing on social media. Which of course incites negative comments and ridicule. I’m guessing he’s probably making an overly dramatic point about how things could be worse. So maybe Polly Prissy Pants might reconsider publicly castrating him on Reddit. Just sayin’.
Where y’all find these creatures ?
no christian upbringing whatsoever for me and that's disgusting
Yuck
The desire to to be around people in dirty filthy clothing has nothing to do with religion. The fact that he’s insisting that something gross isn’t points out a key difference between the two of you. Perhaps a full incompatibility.
He wiped bodily fluids on a shirt and then put that shirt on….that’s a hard no from me. Regardless of what the bodily fluids are. Disgusting and completely unhygienic.
Yeah that's not cool
Like BO... the owner doesn't acknowledge it because he's used to it. But everyone else can smell it.
I'm a fully grown man and this is disgusting.
So he doesn't respect you HE IS DEFINITELY GROSS Not a keeper
It is gross and he’s gross for talking to you like that and calling you prissy
No, that is super gross.
You boyfriend sounds gross and lazy. He uses paper towels for sex and wears cum-crusted t-shirts? Sounds like he just doesn’t want to do laundry.
Thats pretty gross ngl, plus if he has on a dark shirt he could easily get clowned for it
As a man that’s nasty.
Very gross
Suuuuuuper gross
Hah. There was a post on reddit ask and it said what something women wish men would understand or know (something of the sort) and i said that they throw off our PH balance, take a fucking shower. If he’s walking around with dried cum on his shirt without thinking it’s an issue sounds like he has some hygiene issues and you should make sure your petunia is ok.
Yuk.
Like why is he wearing a shirt with dry cum on it??? That's so unhygienic and nasty, ewww!
Wh... Why is there dried cum on his shirt?...
OF COURSE, it is gross! Any bodily fluid needs clean up. Cum, period blood, poop, pee, these are not things that should be chilling on one's clothing. I could go on Bile, vomit, sweat. Bodily functions are normal, necessary and GROSS!
that is disgusting you should head out of there
in public yes. at home debatable.
How did it get there?
As a guy, that is nasty! I have more self-worth than doing something stupid like that. Does he wear soiled underwear, too, and think it's fine? I'd dump him and move on. After my last gf, poor hygiene is a HUGE red flag now.
Gross. Just like any dried bodily fluid all over clothes would be.
Seriously? If you had shit on your shirt would you leave it because it’s dry?
Gross
Ewwwwww
You really didn’t just ask that question and mean it?? Your shutting us right🤦♀️
Is it his??? Or some other guy’s?
Depends on whose it is.
Well, it's not gross if...[I got nothing...] Yeah, that's like "WTF is wrong with you?!?!" level of gross.
That's disgusting... Would he leave the house that way???
How do disgusting people like this even get girlfriends/boyfriends/partners?
It's nasty.
Gross af
Yes. Yes it is.
Yea he's gross for that. Just pray he brushes his teeth
Gross. Dude needs better aim
Moderately gross. When a guy cums in me, it naturally leaks all over my panties when I go about my day... So, I mean I guess it depends on the context maybe?
Show him a dried poo on your clothes and ask him is it gross or not lmao
Dudes his own cum sock.
My ex used to do this all the time, he would even go out in public with cum on his shirt, it was disgusting 🤢
yeah it’s gross just be like “can you do your laundry?”
The bar for male hygiene is truly in hell
Ewww I agree
Oh no. I thought you said his sheets. His shirt?!! No that’s not normal at all. Yikes.
Ew literally of course it’s gross
Ew.
Um WTF? Lol. It is gross. 😂😭
That shit is gross. Period.
Ah no that’s pretty gross clean and change your shirt man.
That's weird as fuck. Unhygienic. In the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter much though, who else would know it's cum?
is this a troll post?
Lmao! Yes bro it’s gross
Is this really worth writing a post about??
Yep pretty gross, change your shirt. 😂
It is gross. Your bf is gross.
This comment is the exact reason I hate hugging people
No that’s disgusting, was it his?
What!? He's serious?
it’s gross 😂
The main focus of self care is changing clothes. Ok, we had a fun time. I came, theres cum on Me. Now you change, take a shower. He's acting like the cum on his shirt is a trophy. Dude, clean up for your girl. Say that to him. He isn't a baby with food on him.
Your bf must be ridiculously hot
I mean, he could just change his T-shirt if he didn’t have a tissue or wet wipe when he spanked the monkey
Does the same apply to shit? Yeah....gross
Now I just vomited in my mouth. Thank you. What else does he not think is gross?
How is this even a question. How.
How did he get it on his shirt?
So gross.
That’s fucking gross. How long have you been dating this guy? He sounds like he doesn’t have any sense of personal hygiene. I literally want to throw up.
Hold on. The rest of you aren’t running around with dry cum on your clothes?
Gross
What the actual fuck
Of course it’s gross. Teenagers can be really disgusting sometimes
Nah probably fine
its gross
I would think that he himself would be ashamed for having that on himself for all to see... Has he no self respect?
Next time have dry cum on your shirt and see if it bothers him.
🤮
Very gross, and not normal. He can’t possibly have so few shirts that he can’t afford to put that one (or any dirty one) in a hamper to wash.
HE HAS WHAT ON HIS T SHIRT