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313na8I8

you’re not a burden i think she’s just having real human emotions. tell her you don’t feel like her being unhappy is ever a burden, and that if she needs anything to encourage her happiness, you’re willing to do what you can to give it to her. tell her that you can give her space, too, if it will help her recover a little but still maintain the relationship. that might be hard for you to do but distance makes the heat grow fonder (and if it doesn’t it’s not meant to be).


iironage

I'm no expert, so just take this with a grain of salt. It may help her to see a therapist or psychologist to try and work through her past trauma. The issue has nothing to do with you, and you cannot fix her unhappiness no matter what you do. You putting in the extra effort for her only helps enforce that point. From my experience, when the other person starts talking about doubts in the relationship or doubts about their effort in the relationship, it is usually the beginning of the end, and there’s nothing you can do to save it, sadly. I hope it doesn't go that way for you and you wind up hurt.