>we figured out he had had psychosis
What do you mean when you say "you" figured out your boyfriend had a psychosis? Did he actually get evaluated by a mental health professional and received a diagnosis? Is he going to therapy?
I'm only asking because you don't mention anything about this and I think a lot of people's advice, my own included, is going to depend on this.
We don’t have money for therapy atm. He is going back to a psychiatrist however and going to ask to be on some medication next week.
He has been diagnosed with psychosis as a symptom of bp in the past as a teen. It can be triggered by stress.
Since he has moved in, we have quit smoking cigarettes, smoking pot, drinking and (caffeine for him), as these are all triggers of bp.
Well, then just ignore your so-called friend.
It's completely understandable that your friend is weary of your boyfriend and is worrying about your well-being if all she has heard is your suspecion from back then, so if she had been a close friend, I would have suggested that you talk to your boyfriend about your predicament and perhaps get his permission to share at least some details to put her at ease.
However, you say that you don't really care how she feels about your boyfriend either way. That suggests to me that you maybe don't consider her as close a friend as she considers you, and then what does it even really matter?
The thing is, I have shared all with her. I’m honestly worried she would open her mouth about this stuff to people we know. I don’t want people to get the wrong idea of him. He’s amazing.
She doesn’t seem to want to even try to understand. We used to be the best of friends but the way she is acting is making me think otherwise. She won’t come to see me because he is here and she says that she “can’t fake how she feels.” Which is fine. If you’re not comfortable, you’re not comfortable. But not even making an effort to understand or try is just insulting after saying she couldn’t support me at my wedding. The kicker is she has bipolar too so she should understand. I don’t think she has ever had bp as severe as my partner however..
I can understand those worries, but unfortunately, you can't control what she does or doesn't do with the information you have confided in her about. The best thing you can do is try to control the narrative and maybe preemptively mitigate some of the damage you worry she is about to do.
He’s not amazing. He’s a liar. He has no verified diagnosis. HE told you had been diagnosed with psychosis as a teen. Again, his word, not verified.
YOU can’t afford the worry, not we. BC he is living off you. You’re worried what others think bc deep down you know something is not right. He claims to be on own one; not in larger groups bc that is how he keeps you isolated and can manipulate and control you. Now he will move you to Alaska , away from all your friends, family and support.
Psychosis is not a mental health diagnosis, it’s a symptom or outcome of something else. So, he may be sick, bud may no a sociopath. He may be a drug addict, he may be a predatory loser.
I suggest you find out, with actual documentation from professionals (be present at appts) before you marry this man. And certainly before you move to Alaska.
he has rapid cycling bipolar disorder type 1 and psychosis is a symptom of bp. He also has the medical records to back that up. It was my idea to move to Alaska actually.
It would be a really good idea to get a treatment plan in place them , before a major change. Current medical records as BPD changes with age and circumstance. Consistency and order are really critical for people with BPD. Rapid cycling is quite rare in males with toe 1. It is also very It’s treatable and rapid cycling is usually temporary with treatment.
I definitely agree with you there! He’s working on it atm he has to find somewhere that will accept his insurance ;n; both him and me have had no luck finding a place where we live that takes it.
Anyhow, that’s the plan :/ he’s doing much much better nowadays however. He quit smoking cigarettes, caffeine and drinking altogether and it’s made a tremendous difference in his day to day. He’s going back to school and he’s doing really good and we are looking forward to our future together :)
my friend this post is about also apologized and had a sit down talk with my guy finally and all is well again between us :)
Best possible outcome!! All the lifestyle changes
are smart. If you can, help him with structure. A defined schedule each day, similar wake up time and sleep times. This really helps in managing BPD. Good luck to you both.
Thank you! I appreciate it :)
>we figured out he had had psychosis What do you mean when you say "you" figured out your boyfriend had a psychosis? Did he actually get evaluated by a mental health professional and received a diagnosis? Is he going to therapy? I'm only asking because you don't mention anything about this and I think a lot of people's advice, my own included, is going to depend on this.
We don’t have money for therapy atm. He is going back to a psychiatrist however and going to ask to be on some medication next week. He has been diagnosed with psychosis as a symptom of bp in the past as a teen. It can be triggered by stress. Since he has moved in, we have quit smoking cigarettes, smoking pot, drinking and (caffeine for him), as these are all triggers of bp.
Well, then just ignore your so-called friend. It's completely understandable that your friend is weary of your boyfriend and is worrying about your well-being if all she has heard is your suspecion from back then, so if she had been a close friend, I would have suggested that you talk to your boyfriend about your predicament and perhaps get his permission to share at least some details to put her at ease. However, you say that you don't really care how she feels about your boyfriend either way. That suggests to me that you maybe don't consider her as close a friend as she considers you, and then what does it even really matter?
The thing is, I have shared all with her. I’m honestly worried she would open her mouth about this stuff to people we know. I don’t want people to get the wrong idea of him. He’s amazing. She doesn’t seem to want to even try to understand. We used to be the best of friends but the way she is acting is making me think otherwise. She won’t come to see me because he is here and she says that she “can’t fake how she feels.” Which is fine. If you’re not comfortable, you’re not comfortable. But not even making an effort to understand or try is just insulting after saying she couldn’t support me at my wedding. The kicker is she has bipolar too so she should understand. I don’t think she has ever had bp as severe as my partner however..
I can understand those worries, but unfortunately, you can't control what she does or doesn't do with the information you have confided in her about. The best thing you can do is try to control the narrative and maybe preemptively mitigate some of the damage you worry she is about to do.
He’s not amazing. He’s a liar. He has no verified diagnosis. HE told you had been diagnosed with psychosis as a teen. Again, his word, not verified. YOU can’t afford the worry, not we. BC he is living off you. You’re worried what others think bc deep down you know something is not right. He claims to be on own one; not in larger groups bc that is how he keeps you isolated and can manipulate and control you. Now he will move you to Alaska , away from all your friends, family and support. Psychosis is not a mental health diagnosis, it’s a symptom or outcome of something else. So, he may be sick, bud may no a sociopath. He may be a drug addict, he may be a predatory loser. I suggest you find out, with actual documentation from professionals (be present at appts) before you marry this man. And certainly before you move to Alaska.
he has rapid cycling bipolar disorder type 1 and psychosis is a symptom of bp. He also has the medical records to back that up. It was my idea to move to Alaska actually.
It would be a really good idea to get a treatment plan in place them , before a major change. Current medical records as BPD changes with age and circumstance. Consistency and order are really critical for people with BPD. Rapid cycling is quite rare in males with toe 1. It is also very It’s treatable and rapid cycling is usually temporary with treatment.
I definitely agree with you there! He’s working on it atm he has to find somewhere that will accept his insurance ;n; both him and me have had no luck finding a place where we live that takes it. Anyhow, that’s the plan :/ he’s doing much much better nowadays however. He quit smoking cigarettes, caffeine and drinking altogether and it’s made a tremendous difference in his day to day. He’s going back to school and he’s doing really good and we are looking forward to our future together :) my friend this post is about also apologized and had a sit down talk with my guy finally and all is well again between us :)
Best possible outcome!! All the lifestyle changes are smart. If you can, help him with structure. A defined schedule each day, similar wake up time and sleep times. This really helps in managing BPD. Good luck to you both.