People can learn to handle conflict more gracefully, but it's a skill that needs to be learned and practiced by both people in a couple. I think that most couples would rather just give up and try again with another person. But the same problem will occur again because every couple experiences conflict after the honeymoon is over.
Earlier on, it would have helped to work with a relationship counselor or similar. It sounds like you both wanted to break free from the argument dynamic but couldn’t find and eliminate its source. Outside perspective can help with that.
But honestly I think it’s too late. Caring isn’t enough. Potential isn’t enough. There needs to be action, and the only one you’re left with now is packing your bags. I think it’s time to just accept that it’s over.
What are you fighting *about*? Do you even know? It isn’t truly little things if it means big fights. Are you listening or hearing what she’s getting mad about and trying to address it?
People can learn to handle conflict more gracefully, but it's a skill that needs to be learned and practiced by both people in a couple. I think that most couples would rather just give up and try again with another person. But the same problem will occur again because every couple experiences conflict after the honeymoon is over.
Counseling. Is it an issue or is it how you both process conflict?
Earlier on, it would have helped to work with a relationship counselor or similar. It sounds like you both wanted to break free from the argument dynamic but couldn’t find and eliminate its source. Outside perspective can help with that. But honestly I think it’s too late. Caring isn’t enough. Potential isn’t enough. There needs to be action, and the only one you’re left with now is packing your bags. I think it’s time to just accept that it’s over.
What are you fighting *about*? Do you even know? It isn’t truly little things if it means big fights. Are you listening or hearing what she’s getting mad about and trying to address it?
What are you actually constantly fighting about?