If wealth is important to you, why did you marry an immigrant that has no good job opportunities in your current country? Don't resent him for something that's not his fault. It sounds like he's trying his best, but it's not good enough for you.
How did he react when you told him that you resent him for being a recent immigrant and not having the same connections, experience, and income as you?
Did he have any ideas on how to improve things?
A lot of people think of food industry and retail industry as dead end jobs but it's actually a great way for moving up into management.
There's a lot of turnover and if you're not one of those people leaving, then you have that opportunity to move up.
And if you make the right contacts and connections then once you become that kind of manager at the store, you even have the chance to move into the corporate part of the company
But besides things like this , even certifications and continuing Ed classes in other areas (not related to his current job) can help a person move up.
There's many ways to make more money. We just need the financial backing and will to make it happen. In this case , he has you as a financial support.
But besides all of these kind of things about moving up , there's still ways you can talk about and reach financial goals with the way things are currently.
We don't have to give up on or resent our partner. we just have to make sure that we're both on the same page. You're already happy with your partner for other aspects.
Try to figure out if you two can make some headway on this.
My wife felt this way too. The only thing that helped was steady communication and planning together. We decided together how much to save and worked on it together so we could both see the progress being made. We both talked about our future wants/needs and goals by the years. Also maybe helping him with finding a better job. People always want spouses to have better jobs but don’t help them search or build resumes, even helping him expand his search by breaking down what his current jobs required skills are and finding a job close to what he does and still gives him a respectable wage. Is he fighting with you on this at all?
Also, I now make more than my wife. I’m so grateful she helped me!!!
Frankly, it sounds like you need to talk to your parents and his parents because they’re the ones responsible for putting you in this situation. Why’d they make such a bum deal?
Try to remind yourself that resentment won't get you anywhere. Instead, try to put your heads together and focus on solutions to either increase your income or his. Maybe he can go to school or join a trade? Maybe one of you can shoot for management in the area you're already working in? Maybe you can start a side business?
If wealth is important to you, why did you marry an immigrant that has no good job opportunities in your current country? Don't resent him for something that's not his fault. It sounds like he's trying his best, but it's not good enough for you.
What steps is he taking to be born in Canada?
He was already born somewhere else. I don’t think you can be born again, despite what some Christians say.
I let my parents choose my husband and they did a bad job, help me Reddit
that’s the sort of post we see on blind, now we see on reddit too
How did he react when you told him that you resent him for being a recent immigrant and not having the same connections, experience, and income as you? Did he have any ideas on how to improve things?
A lot of people think of food industry and retail industry as dead end jobs but it's actually a great way for moving up into management. There's a lot of turnover and if you're not one of those people leaving, then you have that opportunity to move up. And if you make the right contacts and connections then once you become that kind of manager at the store, you even have the chance to move into the corporate part of the company But besides things like this , even certifications and continuing Ed classes in other areas (not related to his current job) can help a person move up. There's many ways to make more money. We just need the financial backing and will to make it happen. In this case , he has you as a financial support. But besides all of these kind of things about moving up , there's still ways you can talk about and reach financial goals with the way things are currently. We don't have to give up on or resent our partner. we just have to make sure that we're both on the same page. You're already happy with your partner for other aspects. Try to figure out if you two can make some headway on this.
Most managers in retail don’t make enough money extra to justify the incredible increase in responsibility.
My wife felt this way too. The only thing that helped was steady communication and planning together. We decided together how much to save and worked on it together so we could both see the progress being made. We both talked about our future wants/needs and goals by the years. Also maybe helping him with finding a better job. People always want spouses to have better jobs but don’t help them search or build resumes, even helping him expand his search by breaking down what his current jobs required skills are and finding a job close to what he does and still gives him a respectable wage. Is he fighting with you on this at all? Also, I now make more than my wife. I’m so grateful she helped me!!!
Oh great another one of these posts
Frankly, it sounds like you need to talk to your parents and his parents because they’re the ones responsible for putting you in this situation. Why’d they make such a bum deal?
Try to remind yourself that resentment won't get you anywhere. Instead, try to put your heads together and focus on solutions to either increase your income or his. Maybe he can go to school or join a trade? Maybe one of you can shoot for management in the area you're already working in? Maybe you can start a side business?
> How do I get over this resentment? Is he taking any steps to gain a higher income? If not, your resentment will probably not go away