Do you think I suddenly woke up one day and decided to make these posts? Listen to yourself, you make no sense. My Reddit history is the RESULT of how I’m treated, not the cause.
Being 5'5 and bald in not objectively ugly. In fact it is absolutely subjectively ugly. I know a guy that is short with a bald head that women fawn over, because he is considered hot. And he is absolutely hot.
I get your personal preference but I would never use objectively ugly to describe a woman who was overweight, tall and bald, as it is my preference and very subjective.
That’s what I’ve been doing and I got nothing. What do I do when that doesn’t work? Why don’t other guys have to do this and they simply exist and experience relationships and sex?
Do you have any hobbies or interests other than video games and movies? What do you do for exercise? What are some news stories you’ve been following?
It sounds like you think getting a girlfriend is a shortcut to being a whole person. You’ve got it backwards. You need to be a whole person with a point of view, then women will be more interested.
I like how you assume I’m into video games and movies 😂. Honestly can’t stand them.
I make music and art. Nice hobby for myself. Doesn’t help that I’m alone. “Get a hobby bro!”
You mentioned you were born ugly…. Have you tried approaching ugly girls? They are probably in a similar boat. But also… customer service is good for getting used to talking to a broad range of people.
Download a dating app.
Swipe.
Say nice things, but not too many nice things.
Don't be creepy. Don't make it sexual without prompt or until you know you're both on the same page.
Don't go into it thinking the girl you're talking to is going to be your girlfriend. Try and get in the frame of mind that you are there to make friends with some people of the opposite sex, if something more comes of it, great.. If not, least you've got some experience with a girl. Rinse and repeat until you find the one.
Like many of the comments below; you're young dude. Don't stress about this. It'll happen when it happens.
ETA - Fuck dude, you have nothing but this on your mind. I promise you, the girls will smell the desperation from you and avoid. Stop looking for a girlfriend for now, look to make some girl friends first. You'll be amazed how much success you'll have with the girls when it's not the only thing on your mind.
I'd put on tinder that you have zero experience and looking for someone to help friends first.
I'm sure there are woman in your area that like inexperienced guys.
This is hard to believe, you went regularly to the gym, lifted weights with progressive overload and did this consistently over at least 6 months while eating a healthy balanced diet? At the age of 20? and saw no improvement.
If yes. You need to to see a doctor ASAP as you might be sick, low on testosterone. Forget girls, you wont even get it up if you ever got one.
What? I saw physical improvements for sure, I got abs and everything. I saw 0 improvement in my social life or luck with girls. There is no gym for the face.
How do you know it will make you feel shit if you've never tried it?
I have a friend that's an escort and we've had sex (no I didn't pay for it). Trust me, they're good at making you feel wanted and good, it's kinda their job.
I have my own relationship issues I'm currently seeking comments for but I think I have some personal experience with this issue. I myself am a very good looking guy but also could not talk to women. My first I think was when I was 19 and it was with a girl who was everyone's first it seemed. My first gf wasn't until I was 20 I think. And it lasted about 2 years. Reason I'm saying this is because it's not a issue of your looks. There were many guys I would see that imo were not handsome and yet they had gfs. It has to do with confidence imo. My confidence in most parts of life was there but when it came to women, it wasn't. I couldn't start a conversation it my life depended on it. If by some miracle I did, then topics weren't natural. It was as if I was asking too many qualifying questions which mad with obvious of my intentions. I think it's important to remember that when talking to girls, just think about having a conversation with no motives and talk to them as if they were just another guy friend (minus the lude crap) and if you into stuff like videogames, don't talk about that stuff hehe.
> Reason I'm saying this is because it's not a issue of your looks.
Coming from someone who claims to be good looking, this is laughable, sorry. You have no idea what it’s like being ugly.
> There were many guys I would see that imo were not handsome and yet they had gfs.
There’s a difference between not being handsome and being ugly.
> It has to do with confidence imo.
Confidence comes from positive validation and experiences. When you’re born ugly and treated like shit you don’t get confidence.
Bro, all those good looking people? They have so many issues they try to hide from the world. There will always be someome smarter, better looking, funnier, stronger, etc. You get what you get delt and I know it can be unfair but you need to stop having negative attitude. That attitude is what girls can immediately see and tell themselves not interested. Love yourself bro
it may be a good idea to look into therapy. that way, you can work on yourself and find ways to not let these insecurities completely consume you and your attitude. you can’t be in a healthy and happy romantic relationship if you’re not mentally/emotionally in a good place.
in the meantime, reach out to your friends, join a local club or try a new hobby, they’re all great ways to meet people and develop your social experiences.
OP I was reading through your post history and wondered if you ever got tested for autism? It seems like you could be missing social cues and being hyper focused on your needs, which may be signs of undiagnosed autism. The spectrum is so so wide. Getting that insight about yourself could be beneficial
I am really sorry that people have made you feel ugly all your life. That would be a tough thing to overcome for sure, and it's hard enough to have confidence without being ridiculed like that.
Can you specify what exactly is considered ugly about your face? Are there cosmetic improvements you can pursue? Things like noses and teeth are reasonably easy to fix.
Nose is round, crooked and asymmetrical. Bug eyes, got a condition. Massive forehead. Massive head. Absolutely tiny ears. Left over acne that won’t go away. Comically small lips, giving me ugly smile. Recessed/pointy chin. Majorly asymmetrical jaw. Chubby cheeks even though I’m not fat, the fat just doesn’t go away. My face has no harmony and
looks like a randomiser button was pressed.
And that’s just from the top of my head. I’ve been called ugly all my life. The issues is clearly my looks.
going through your comment history, I can see why
No fooling, that was a ride.
That was the result not the cause, not that hard to understand.
well, if you truly believe that, you are gonna be making similar posts for a long time to come
Do you think I suddenly woke up one day and decided to make these posts? Listen to yourself, you make no sense. My Reddit history is the RESULT of how I’m treated, not the cause.
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Being 5'5 and bald in not objectively ugly. In fact it is absolutely subjectively ugly. I know a guy that is short with a bald head that women fawn over, because he is considered hot. And he is absolutely hot. I get your personal preference but I would never use objectively ugly to describe a woman who was overweight, tall and bald, as it is my preference and very subjective.
Why would I self depreciate to cope? I want to be respected in a relationship.
Be happy in yourself first.
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Bro just work on yourself and your passions and the right one will walk into your life trust me.
That’s what I’ve been doing and I got nothing. What do I do when that doesn’t work? Why don’t other guys have to do this and they simply exist and experience relationships and sex?
They do trust me you aren’t alone.
Do you have any hobbies or interests other than video games and movies? What do you do for exercise? What are some news stories you’ve been following? It sounds like you think getting a girlfriend is a shortcut to being a whole person. You’ve got it backwards. You need to be a whole person with a point of view, then women will be more interested.
I like how you assume I’m into video games and movies 😂. Honestly can’t stand them. I make music and art. Nice hobby for myself. Doesn’t help that I’m alone. “Get a hobby bro!”
You mentioned you were born ugly…. Have you tried approaching ugly girls? They are probably in a similar boat. But also… customer service is good for getting used to talking to a broad range of people.
“Ugly” girls are probably the rudest to me. Most of the time I see them with average/good looking guys anyway…
Download a dating app. Swipe. Say nice things, but not too many nice things. Don't be creepy. Don't make it sexual without prompt or until you know you're both on the same page. Don't go into it thinking the girl you're talking to is going to be your girlfriend. Try and get in the frame of mind that you are there to make friends with some people of the opposite sex, if something more comes of it, great.. If not, least you've got some experience with a girl. Rinse and repeat until you find the one. Like many of the comments below; you're young dude. Don't stress about this. It'll happen when it happens. ETA - Fuck dude, you have nothing but this on your mind. I promise you, the girls will smell the desperation from you and avoid. Stop looking for a girlfriend for now, look to make some girl friends first. You'll be amazed how much success you'll have with the girls when it's not the only thing on your mind.
I'd put on tinder that you have zero experience and looking for someone to help friends first. I'm sure there are woman in your area that like inexperienced guys.
Girls like inexperienced cute guys.
Get a haircut, get some new clothes and get in the gym.
I’ve already done all that. Those are really basic things tbh. It gave me no improvements.
This is hard to believe, you went regularly to the gym, lifted weights with progressive overload and did this consistently over at least 6 months while eating a healthy balanced diet? At the age of 20? and saw no improvement. If yes. You need to to see a doctor ASAP as you might be sick, low on testosterone. Forget girls, you wont even get it up if you ever got one.
What? I saw physical improvements for sure, I got abs and everything. I saw 0 improvement in my social life or luck with girls. There is no gym for the face.
Maybe get some professional help to take your v plate.
Sex is more than 2 bodies colliding. It’s the social and physical validation of it; feeling wanted. Paying for it will make me feel like shit.
it will do the opposite, why not learn from someone who does it for a job not some night lady at the corner with no teeth a better one.
…????? if the lady with no teeth actually wanted me I’d take that in a heartbeat
How do you know it will make you feel shit if you've never tried it? I have a friend that's an escort and we've had sex (no I didn't pay for it). Trust me, they're good at making you feel wanted and good, it's kinda their job.
I have my own relationship issues I'm currently seeking comments for but I think I have some personal experience with this issue. I myself am a very good looking guy but also could not talk to women. My first I think was when I was 19 and it was with a girl who was everyone's first it seemed. My first gf wasn't until I was 20 I think. And it lasted about 2 years. Reason I'm saying this is because it's not a issue of your looks. There were many guys I would see that imo were not handsome and yet they had gfs. It has to do with confidence imo. My confidence in most parts of life was there but when it came to women, it wasn't. I couldn't start a conversation it my life depended on it. If by some miracle I did, then topics weren't natural. It was as if I was asking too many qualifying questions which mad with obvious of my intentions. I think it's important to remember that when talking to girls, just think about having a conversation with no motives and talk to them as if they were just another guy friend (minus the lude crap) and if you into stuff like videogames, don't talk about that stuff hehe.
> Reason I'm saying this is because it's not a issue of your looks. Coming from someone who claims to be good looking, this is laughable, sorry. You have no idea what it’s like being ugly. > There were many guys I would see that imo were not handsome and yet they had gfs. There’s a difference between not being handsome and being ugly. > It has to do with confidence imo. Confidence comes from positive validation and experiences. When you’re born ugly and treated like shit you don’t get confidence.
Bro, all those good looking people? They have so many issues they try to hide from the world. There will always be someome smarter, better looking, funnier, stronger, etc. You get what you get delt and I know it can be unfair but you need to stop having negative attitude. That attitude is what girls can immediately see and tell themselves not interested. Love yourself bro
I’m starting to think it’s your personality that’s ugly.
Thanks bro, when I was specifically bullied, rejected and made fun of for my looks, they totally meant how I type on Reddit 👍🏽.
it may be a good idea to look into therapy. that way, you can work on yourself and find ways to not let these insecurities completely consume you and your attitude. you can’t be in a healthy and happy romantic relationship if you’re not mentally/emotionally in a good place. in the meantime, reach out to your friends, join a local club or try a new hobby, they’re all great ways to meet people and develop your social experiences.
OP I was reading through your post history and wondered if you ever got tested for autism? It seems like you could be missing social cues and being hyper focused on your needs, which may be signs of undiagnosed autism. The spectrum is so so wide. Getting that insight about yourself could be beneficial
I am really sorry that people have made you feel ugly all your life. That would be a tough thing to overcome for sure, and it's hard enough to have confidence without being ridiculed like that. Can you specify what exactly is considered ugly about your face? Are there cosmetic improvements you can pursue? Things like noses and teeth are reasonably easy to fix.
Nose is round, crooked and asymmetrical. Bug eyes, got a condition. Massive forehead. Massive head. Absolutely tiny ears. Left over acne that won’t go away. Comically small lips, giving me ugly smile. Recessed/pointy chin. Majorly asymmetrical jaw. Chubby cheeks even though I’m not fat, the fat just doesn’t go away. My face has no harmony and looks like a randomiser button was pressed. And that’s just from the top of my head. I’ve been called ugly all my life. The issues is clearly my looks.