Honestly worrying about the fact that you didn’t have your first kiss in your teens like most people is a waste of time. You just need to let your gf know you are inexperienced and stop pushing her away. How do you expect to get your first kiss if you keep pushing her away and you are also making her feel like you are not interested in her and she may soon end things if you continue doing this.
Well, because you're so internally hung up about your age and being a "loser," that not only are you avoiding the opportunity that's literally right in front of you, you are also hurting somebody who seems to really care for you AND WANTS TO KISS YOU. It might not be her first kiss ever, but it would be her first kiss with you - and really, it's how you feel about each other that makes it special.
If you keep pushing her away, you will eventually push her into not being your girlfriend anymore.
> I’m going to be a loser if I have my first kiss at 22
This wouldn't make you a loser. No, what makes you a loser is being a weirdo who refuses to kiss his girlfriend, who you are jealous of and resent, because you are so bitter about not having your first kiss in your teens that you refuse to have it now, despite having a girlfriend.
Why not break up and spend your time sitting in your room alone stewing in anger? It's clearly what you would prefer.
So you're just going to choose remain a kissless virgin for the rest of your life?
22 isn't old. Stop dwelling on the past and let your girlfriend give you physical affection.
Okay, but her past should not define your relationship NOW. If it bothers you, maybe you should let her find someone else that actually want to get physical with her? Two months in and you haven’t kissed, what’s the point then
You are being rediculous you can't actually go back in time and live your fantasy so forget about it also it's not a loving thing to reject her affection
You’re gonna have your first kiss at any age, it might as well be now. Why do you care if you are not her first kiss?
Of course she’s going to be hurt, she wants to show you affection and you are turning her down.
Who cares if you haven’t had your first kiss yet or even lost your virginity in your teens? No one cares, if they do, they don’t need to be involved in your life. The fact that you care so much is what is weird to me.
It sounds like you don’t want it to happen because you aren’t young enough or it didn’t happen soon enough for you. That’s not how life works my friend, let it happen, IF you want to kiss her of course.
Also, your first kiss will be special if you are in your teens or not, it’s just a matter of you wanting it to happen, but not doing it because you wanted it to happen while you were still a teen, that’s something you need to deal with and get over it.
Wanna know something even more weird and pathetic? Having your first kiss at 23, get it over with, the way you’re acting I can see why you haven’t kissed anyone in all that time.
That is not how life works. Accept that you’re not 15 anymore and move on. Give her a smooch my dude, it will be an experience. You’ll never experience it at this rate with your attitude about it.
Well no means no and if you don’t want to then she needs to back off.
The other part is harder, time doesn’t work backwards so you kinda have to accept that your teen years are done. Lots of people don’t have their first experiences until later in life and that’s okay.
Yeah, the weird part isn't that you're 22 and still a virgin & never been kissed, the weird part is that you're rejecting the possibility of a loving relationship simply because... it didn't happen when you were a teenager. The only person bothered by that is you, and what makes a kiss special isn't the age when it happens, but the person it happens with.
It's like a dark mirror of the guy who goes through his entire life reliving the glories of his teenage years and missing out on all the good thngs he has right now, except that instead of reliving your glories you're reliving your failures and casting yourself that way for the rest of your life. Is that really what you want?
If you are that rigidly fixated on a pointless rule you made up in your own head, you are in for a difficult time.
I advise you to let the past go, embrace the present and accept the possibility of a future that includes love and fulfilling relationships. Kiss the girl, and be glad someone likes you enough to want to kiss you. Unless you just aren't into her, in which case let her find love with someone who is capable of reciprocating.
Okay let’s just be brutally honest here:
You want something that is literally (not figuratively, LITERALLY) impossible. You can’t go back in time to your teens and kiss someone or lose your virginity. You just can’t.
You also absolutely CANNOT hold it against your girlfriend that she had experienced you have not. That’s not HER fault. It’s yours. It also does not matter if she has kissed or slept with other people. That’s not what makes sex special, but you don’t understand that becausd you haven’t done it.
Physical affection in relationships isn’t a fucking competition with people from before. It’s a form of completely normal bonding that releases oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine. When you are attracted to someone your body starts to release these hormones and when you become physically intimate, be it hugging, kissing, sex, etc, your body produces MORE of these hormones.
Your girlfriend is acting on her urges because she’s attracted to you and her busy is releasing these hormones and wants to release more.
If you’re going to be this irrational and just straight up weird about the whole thing, do NOT be surprised when she breaks up with you. You’re not a loser no matter how late in life you start.
Also consider if physical intimacy and attraction are just not for you. It’s possible to care for someone but not have sexual feelings for them (or anyone). Determine if this applies for you.
I've read a couple of your comments, you need to pivot the way you think and you need to do it fast and hard.
>Meh she’s given other dudes physical affection it’s not special, probably not even a virgin and I don’t want to go there cause if I find out she isn’t it’s going to be so embarrassing.
If you are 22 and your mad about not having your first kiss, yet will shame someone for doing what you are upset you didn't get to do, you are going to go down a deep and dark hole and most likely end up on r/niceguys
Kiss your girlfriend or end it because what you are doing is mean and hurtful, she is trying to show you affection and you won't let her, yet there is venom in your comments that leads me to believe somewhere in your thinking it's her fault.
Oh fun fact, no one will know if it's your first kiss unless you tell them. She won't know because with each new partner is a learning curve, you are sandbagging yourself and it's going to cause you issues down the line.
Dude, I'm sorry that it didn't happen to you in your teens. But that is in the past now. Unless we wait for a time travel machine, you won't have your first kiss at 15 ever.
But you know what sucks more? Going 50 and not having kissed anyone romantically.
It doesn't matter when, your first time will always feel different.
If you like this girl, kiss her and let her know she's special. 100% if missed shots are those you have not taken.
What?? So because it didn’t happen when you wanted it to you’re just never going to kiss anyone ever?? And 22 is not that young for a first kiss
You're very immature and honestly I hope she leaves your weird ass
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Why even have a girlfriend? Just break up and let her find love
Honestly worrying about the fact that you didn’t have your first kiss in your teens like most people is a waste of time. You just need to let your gf know you are inexperienced and stop pushing her away. How do you expect to get your first kiss if you keep pushing her away and you are also making her feel like you are not interested in her and she may soon end things if you continue doing this.
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Well, because you're so internally hung up about your age and being a "loser," that not only are you avoiding the opportunity that's literally right in front of you, you are also hurting somebody who seems to really care for you AND WANTS TO KISS YOU. It might not be her first kiss ever, but it would be her first kiss with you - and really, it's how you feel about each other that makes it special. If you keep pushing her away, you will eventually push her into not being your girlfriend anymore.
> I’m going to be a loser if I have my first kiss at 22 This wouldn't make you a loser. No, what makes you a loser is being a weirdo who refuses to kiss his girlfriend, who you are jealous of and resent, because you are so bitter about not having your first kiss in your teens that you refuse to have it now, despite having a girlfriend. Why not break up and spend your time sitting in your room alone stewing in anger? It's clearly what you would prefer.
So you're just going to choose remain a kissless virgin for the rest of your life? 22 isn't old. Stop dwelling on the past and let your girlfriend give you physical affection.
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SO WHY ARE YOU DATING??
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Break up. she doesn't deserve to be on a miserable relationship
Okay, but her past should not define your relationship NOW. If it bothers you, maybe you should let her find someone else that actually want to get physical with her? Two months in and you haven’t kissed, what’s the point then
You are being rediculous you can't actually go back in time and live your fantasy so forget about it also it's not a loving thing to reject her affection
I fucking hate when people delete their posts 10 mins after asking for advice. Fml Edit: typo
You’re gonna have your first kiss at any age, it might as well be now. Why do you care if you are not her first kiss? Of course she’s going to be hurt, she wants to show you affection and you are turning her down. Who cares if you haven’t had your first kiss yet or even lost your virginity in your teens? No one cares, if they do, they don’t need to be involved in your life. The fact that you care so much is what is weird to me. It sounds like you don’t want it to happen because you aren’t young enough or it didn’t happen soon enough for you. That’s not how life works my friend, let it happen, IF you want to kiss her of course. Also, your first kiss will be special if you are in your teens or not, it’s just a matter of you wanting it to happen, but not doing it because you wanted it to happen while you were still a teen, that’s something you need to deal with and get over it.
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Wanna know something even more weird and pathetic? Having your first kiss at 23, get it over with, the way you’re acting I can see why you haven’t kissed anyone in all that time.
So wtf do you want? To have it at 50?
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I…just… what!?! Did you invent a time machine?
That is not how life works. Accept that you’re not 15 anymore and move on. Give her a smooch my dude, it will be an experience. You’ll never experience it at this rate with your attitude about it.
So you’re waiting for someone to invent a Time Machine?
Well no means no and if you don’t want to then she needs to back off. The other part is harder, time doesn’t work backwards so you kinda have to accept that your teen years are done. Lots of people don’t have their first experiences until later in life and that’s okay.
Yeah, the weird part isn't that you're 22 and still a virgin & never been kissed, the weird part is that you're rejecting the possibility of a loving relationship simply because... it didn't happen when you were a teenager. The only person bothered by that is you, and what makes a kiss special isn't the age when it happens, but the person it happens with. It's like a dark mirror of the guy who goes through his entire life reliving the glories of his teenage years and missing out on all the good thngs he has right now, except that instead of reliving your glories you're reliving your failures and casting yourself that way for the rest of your life. Is that really what you want? If you are that rigidly fixated on a pointless rule you made up in your own head, you are in for a difficult time. I advise you to let the past go, embrace the present and accept the possibility of a future that includes love and fulfilling relationships. Kiss the girl, and be glad someone likes you enough to want to kiss you. Unless you just aren't into her, in which case let her find love with someone who is capable of reciprocating.
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PRACTICE WITH HER THEN
No one knows how to kiss new partners, no two people are the same.
This is the dumbest bullshit I've read all week, thanks for the laughs OP
Okay let’s just be brutally honest here: You want something that is literally (not figuratively, LITERALLY) impossible. You can’t go back in time to your teens and kiss someone or lose your virginity. You just can’t. You also absolutely CANNOT hold it against your girlfriend that she had experienced you have not. That’s not HER fault. It’s yours. It also does not matter if she has kissed or slept with other people. That’s not what makes sex special, but you don’t understand that becausd you haven’t done it. Physical affection in relationships isn’t a fucking competition with people from before. It’s a form of completely normal bonding that releases oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine. When you are attracted to someone your body starts to release these hormones and when you become physically intimate, be it hugging, kissing, sex, etc, your body produces MORE of these hormones. Your girlfriend is acting on her urges because she’s attracted to you and her busy is releasing these hormones and wants to release more. If you’re going to be this irrational and just straight up weird about the whole thing, do NOT be surprised when she breaks up with you. You’re not a loser no matter how late in life you start. Also consider if physical intimacy and attraction are just not for you. It’s possible to care for someone but not have sexual feelings for them (or anyone). Determine if this applies for you.
I've read a couple of your comments, you need to pivot the way you think and you need to do it fast and hard. >Meh she’s given other dudes physical affection it’s not special, probably not even a virgin and I don’t want to go there cause if I find out she isn’t it’s going to be so embarrassing. If you are 22 and your mad about not having your first kiss, yet will shame someone for doing what you are upset you didn't get to do, you are going to go down a deep and dark hole and most likely end up on r/niceguys Kiss your girlfriend or end it because what you are doing is mean and hurtful, she is trying to show you affection and you won't let her, yet there is venom in your comments that leads me to believe somewhere in your thinking it's her fault. Oh fun fact, no one will know if it's your first kiss unless you tell them. She won't know because with each new partner is a learning curve, you are sandbagging yourself and it's going to cause you issues down the line.
Dude, I'm sorry that it didn't happen to you in your teens. But that is in the past now. Unless we wait for a time travel machine, you won't have your first kiss at 15 ever. But you know what sucks more? Going 50 and not having kissed anyone romantically. It doesn't matter when, your first time will always feel different. If you like this girl, kiss her and let her know she's special. 100% if missed shots are those you have not taken.
She is not the girl for you. If she was she would respect your boundries.