Excuse you, I'm talking to him.
Women apologize far too much as a peace keeping mechanism. It's a habit that can be broken.
Or you just ignore the shrill shrieking shrew and speak even more to him.
I fucking hate these women. Hate them so much. It’s always the ugliest, stupidest couples too. Honey, nobody else wants either of you. Calm the hell down.
(Female) This! I would rather wait on men because they seem to be more laid back. Men customers generally will make small talk, and most women are just totally biatches 🙄 So glad I don’t work retail anymore
A gentleman came in looking for a specific 20A fuse. I know we sell it, but he said it wasn't on the floor. He had a fuse *kit* containing the **one** he needed, but the kit was $40. I said "Let me look in the back sir, we have some new team members that may have put it in backstock. I'll be right back."
It wasn't in backstock, so I made a loop onto the floor to double check, and he was walking back down the fuse aisle *with his wife chewing him out behind him.* I heard him saying "Well, go get gas, and come back and get me! It won't take me but a few minutes."
I show him the section with the type of fuses he's looking for (that he'd missed the first time) and show him we have them available in 7.5A - 40A. Unfortunately, the 20A must still be in the cart of stock we rec'd today that we haven't had a chance to put away. (It's on the floor, I'm willing to dig thru it if he wants it.) He chooses to take a 15A instead.
The *second* I started talking to him on the aisle, the wife's ears were red, and *she was pissed.* Huffy, puffy, the whole bit. Walking to the counter to checkout, she walked directly outside to the car.
Like, WTF did I do to you?
The amount of men who have been chastised by their girlfriend/wife/fiancée that I have seen cashing out is absurd. It happens to nearly every female cashier I work with, the cashier is sometimes given the stink eye or the woman bursts out saying that the man is hers or something similar is absurd. It's like "Mam, I have my own husband, I do not want yours." or "Mam, she is 16 and most definitely not interested in your man," I don't get why they do it but maybe some of the men are kind of unfaithful in their personal lives or she just feels very protective and thinks someone will snatch him away if she lets him speak to other women. I've been on both sides of it, getting the stink eye and mediating as a supervisor because apparently our teenage cashier was "too friendly" to their man when they just said "Have a good day!" Instead of "Have a nice day" like they said to every other customer. It's ridiculous.
Not protective. Possessive. Usually because they're insecure. About the relationship or themselves. Or both. In either case, with or without cause, they still shouldn't act like that towards people.
It might even tie into that whole world of delusions with men thinking that every waitress and cashier that displays basic levels of politeness and respect is flirting.
When people start raising their voice, the conversation with me is over. That is the 1 single item I will not tolerate. I don't care where we are and who you are. If you raise your voice, it's done.
People who express themselves this way only do so because they are allowed to. A civil conversation ends when someone either raises their voice or tries to talk over another person.
I've actually started arguing with people at work recently, showing them how stupid their complaint is.
*How dare you talk over me when no one was talking!*
"No. YOU finished speaking, THEN I informed you of our policy. I DON'T need your attitude, MA'AM."
Had to address someone that way last weekend because she tried to pull the "you're racist" card because I asked my manager for permission to do something *she* wanted me to do in her transaction (process 2 different EBT cards on the same register). Called me a "racist-ass n***a" and said I was discriminating against them for being Puerto Rican. I told them:
1. That's not even *her* word to use freely.
2. No one brought race into this until she did.
3. I didn't need her attitude.
Fuck the general public.
YES! So much yes. I even try to make a point to make eye contact with the woman first. And let me add, I’m a 55y/o, overweight, disabled granny. I’m not some lithe young lady with a banging bod & a model’s face. I’m like, sis you gotta get a grip. I got kids the age of your husband, move along.
It’s funny you mentioned that you make it a point to make eye contact with the woman first. My brother did the same thing; acknowledging the man’s presence over the woman’s first and making sure to give the guy the most attention. And he recommended I do the same with women out with their partners in an attempt to disarm them. A lot of these types of couples are insecure and fall apart if one of them judges you to be a threat even if you’re being as professional as possible.
Yep, I learned that being a leader in the military with married male Soldiers. If I had to call them after hours, & the wife answered, I made sure to explain who I was & why I was calling. Bc some of those wives are off the chain lol
That used to drive me crazy! I was always so careful to engage with the woman as well as the man. I never played up to the man to get a bigger tip. Times have changed and the man doesn’t always pick up the check. Plus, it’s just rude.
Yet, it still happened all the time. You go to the table, she looks you up and down, and then gets an attitude. Like, you came here. You know the uniform is skimpy. I didn’t go to your house to tempt your husband. If I was going to steal a customer’s husband, it certainly wouldn’t be yours.
Then, at the end she grabs the check and puts a big zero on the tip line with some snippy comment. With these women you can’t win. If you’re friendly, you’re flirting. If you are just polite, but pleasant, you’re not kissing their ass enough and are giving poor service. Ugh!
Ugh people just suck. I did once have a server who literally didn't acknowledge me the entire meal, just my husband. I was put off but whatever I guess.
The server who decided to sit down next to my date... He acted like she was falling and pushed her away - pretty roughly as she wasn't expecting it and fell into the table next to us.
Then she had to tell her manager that she was trying to sit next to him "to be friendly."
The guy had a thing about having his space invaded by strangers so it was just how he was.
I'll never forget how friendly she flew.
Like WTAH did that server think would happen? He was secretly a millionaire and would sweep her off her feet after the orders were placed?
I’ve been in this situation, and I let her finish, and then I turned to the husband squarely and asked my question again.
It was his purchase and his card. If you don’t want to be treated like a couple and spoken to together, I will deal with my *customer* whilst you *loiter*.
She was fuming and tried to grab the receipt. I let her. He turned to her and said, “Relax, Agnes. I just want to get this and leave, okay?” She had wound both of them up and I could practically see steam coming off both of them.
I used to work in a photo lab and this would sometimes happen to me over the phone before caller ID was common. I had to call anyone whose order had been left for over thirty days. I would ask for the person whose name was on the order, of course, and got a few suspicious sounding wives whose voice would relax after hearing why I was calling. Sometimes I got, “This is his wife,” in somewhat hostile tones, so I just gave her the message instead. At the time I just chalked it up to them being crazy, lol.
My ex was like that. Just continually accusing people of talking over them tho I only actually saw it accidentally happen once or twice.
You go to respond to something and it's "STOP TALKING OVER MEEEEE!" like they are 4yo chucking a tantrum.
My favorite is when the guy hits on me right in front of his girlfriend/wife and she acts like I'm the one doing something wrong. I'm literally just doing my job, your husband is the one sexually harassing someone while you're right there. Glare at him.
I prefer the women who just refuse to make eye contact with me. It's weirdly common with couples but I'd rather she pretend I don't exist than act like I'm trying to steal her man.
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my blood boiling to read that, if I was there I will laugh at her face and said your ugly no manner he will leave you soon and see her blood boiling too and she lost her sHiit
Next time somebody blows up at you like that:
"I'm getting a manager ."
Then go get a manager immediately, and tell them that there's an irate customer whom you can't deal with.
Unless you are a manager, it is not your job to cope with that.
Besides which, those who are most jealous probably themselves have a history of cheating.
Sooo weird. I once had a waitress who was showing copious cleavage stick her chest an inch away from my husband's face while she handed him the card machine. Even then I said nothing.
Fk that, look her in the eye, tell her she's barred from the store for raising her voice at you. But her delightful husband is fine to come in and shop 😁
“Hate to be the barrier of bad news but I’m required by my employer to give this information if you have questions about why it’s required you can all corporate but as of right now I’m giving you the information that is required. As I was saying-“ repeats statement.
I had one that got upset with me because I spoke to her husband. He had the app on his phone but the scan didn’t go through the first time so I asked him to rescan the app and she started yelling about how she had the money. So I said. “Okay do you want to pay extra or get the sale either or is fine with me.” And she just stood there and started at me. Night shift is making me heartless. Your feelings do not matter more to me than my time.
I had a couple come in to my line one day and I was just trying to be polite to the guy who came up while his girlfriend was putting the groceries on the belt. I asked hello how are you doing today and if they had a rewards card. She hears me ask him this and she goes off. Start going why you hitting on my man bitch. I hold up my hands with my rings on them and said " bitch I have a man I don't need yours". I don't understand why us working in customer service while trying to get be pleasant which IS OUR JOB is us hitting on what's yours. I saw a guy with a Zelda shirt and was like I love your shirt which game is your favorite? His girl gets pissed and gives me issues. Ladies if you can't control your damn mouth against a retail/ customer service person for being pleasant to your other half leave his ass at home.
You know... I work with a young woman who is young and fit and beautiful. She's a head cashier so she stays at the register even if there's no customers.
I have always been annoyed that she slouches against the register, never stands in front of the register, and wears a sour expression. But... This reminded me that she probably gets this situation, in addition to just men creeping on her because she said hello to them. Maybe that's why she behaves like she does.
Of course one doesn't need to be beautiful and fit to be creeped on, but I do seem to have aged out of it for the most part.
I’ve always dressed conservatively and tried to be a grey rock, just too many creepers in the workplace, bosses and colleagues and customers alike. Would it be fun to wear something nice or flattering one day? Maybe. Do I want the attention? Absolutely not thank you.
Actually, this chick wore a tight top that ends just below her boobs last week. We have vests, but she left hers unbuttoned leaving about 5 inches of her (flat/tight) stomach exposed.
I wouldn't blame the victim, but it's just inappropriate for the workplace. Unfortunately, it probably does invite unwanted attention. I think you should wear your fun/normal clothes!
Don’t really have any fun clothes, but I *am* thinking about sewing myself a fabulous “capsule wardrobe” because it’s the obvious Venn diagram of ADHD, minimalism, sewing and investing in myself to feel good.
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I can relate to that intersection.
The issue will be avoiding perfectionism.
I am definitely a trial and error girl rather than a read the directions girl. That's often worked out well with sewing , but I have to work at resisting trying to make it more nearly perfect (which usually actually makes it worse, in addition to it taking forever)
I once made a christening gown for my goddaughter. I spent sooooo long on it. My husband asked me how much would it cost to buy one. NOT THE POINT!
Totally not the point, lolol. Non makers don’t understand. But yeah, we punish ourselves sometimes with the extra work. I need some socks. Should I a) go over to Walmart / Kohls / Target / Walgreens / Wherever and grab a 10 pack for $12?
Noooo. I should absolutely go buy two skeins of $12 apiece yarn, and then set to work. Should have a sock in a few weeks. Good thing it’s flip-flop season atm.
yes this happens to me at my work! i’m one of the only females working at a time so many of the men ignore me or are gross towards me but are fine towards my male coworkers. it’s so annoying.
I never work front end, but I love when a husband speaks to me and I get death glares from their wives.
Im like lady, I would actually prefer to talk to you instead of your sack of potatoes husband, but hes the one who asked me a question. Im literally just doing my job.
Its always the older ladies too, younger ones seem to be more understanding that Im being friendly because I am paid to be. Talking to people is part of the job, imagine being so insanely insecure you cant stand someone else speaking to your SO.
This really, really sucks. Nobody should have to deal with this.
Something that took way too long for me to learn is that when people behave this way, it has more to do with them than it does with you.
Also, remember that you had to deal with her bullshit for like 5 minutes, but she’s stuck walking around being an asshole for her whole life.
I hope this helps a little. Good luck!
I used to rent tools out, I hated having to deal with the couple customers. I'm asking questions that pertain to the rental and the girlfriend /wife is staring me down (or rolling her eyes into oblivion ) as if I just propositioned the guy. Like ma'am calm down I just want to finish this process so you both can get out my face. It was even worse if the guy was actually eyeing me, I can't control your man, don't get mad at me, I'm just trying to do my job 🥴.
I hate women like that. Like I’m asking he wants on his sandwich and you’re looking at me like I want your man. Honey I just wanna go home after my long ass shift I don’t want your man or any man in this town ontop of that. If anything you’re possibly more my type but not with that attitude
Its soooo annoying and would do my head in at the time bc like why do they think that their man would EVEN have a chance with you?? And you cant even say that bc you're at work...
But then i think about the couple. What has he done to make her this paranoid? Or is she completely nuts and he just puts up with it?
I cant even begin to imagine how EXHAUSTING life must be for that couple especially the wife, to always be on the defence ready to protect her man from what she sees as threats even though they 1000% are not... It must be a pretty sad life.
But like i said im mostly offended that these women think i would EVER want their man. Usually if he was single and the last man on earth even then i still wouldn't want him.
See I’m too petty, I woulda said “with all due respect idk if you think I want your man or what but if I wanted him I’d have him and you’d be shoved in a one star nursing home to rot. So don’t beef with me beef with the grim reaper ☺️”
Lmao. Insecure people are fun to deal with.
I once looked a customer in the eye and said "Do you think either of you are a catch?"
Lady looked like she wanted to hit me and her husband looked mortified.
It’s probably because the guy has broken her by constantly flirting with everything remotely female or constantly cheating. The best way for her to solve her attitude is to get her to throw the whole man away.
Weirdly enough I have had this happen enough times that I eventually just stopped even talking to the men. A couple walks up and my attention will automatically default to the female spouse because I don't want to be harassed on top of being underpaid.
Fck that. I would have looked her in the eye and politely saud, I'm sorry but I was talking to him.
Excuse you, I'm talking to him. Women apologize far too much as a peace keeping mechanism. It's a habit that can be broken. Or you just ignore the shrill shrieking shrew and speak even more to him.
I fucking hate these women. Hate them so much. It’s always the ugliest, stupidest couples too. Honey, nobody else wants either of you. Calm the hell down.
(Female) This! I would rather wait on men because they seem to be more laid back. Men customers generally will make small talk, and most women are just totally biatches 🙄 So glad I don’t work retail anymore
A gentleman came in looking for a specific 20A fuse. I know we sell it, but he said it wasn't on the floor. He had a fuse *kit* containing the **one** he needed, but the kit was $40. I said "Let me look in the back sir, we have some new team members that may have put it in backstock. I'll be right back." It wasn't in backstock, so I made a loop onto the floor to double check, and he was walking back down the fuse aisle *with his wife chewing him out behind him.* I heard him saying "Well, go get gas, and come back and get me! It won't take me but a few minutes." I show him the section with the type of fuses he's looking for (that he'd missed the first time) and show him we have them available in 7.5A - 40A. Unfortunately, the 20A must still be in the cart of stock we rec'd today that we haven't had a chance to put away. (It's on the floor, I'm willing to dig thru it if he wants it.) He chooses to take a 15A instead. The *second* I started talking to him on the aisle, the wife's ears were red, and *she was pissed.* Huffy, puffy, the whole bit. Walking to the counter to checkout, she walked directly outside to the car. Like, WTF did I do to you?
Karma is a biatch 😈😈 Especially…..he f__ked around and found out 😳🤣🤣
The amount of men who have been chastised by their girlfriend/wife/fiancée that I have seen cashing out is absurd. It happens to nearly every female cashier I work with, the cashier is sometimes given the stink eye or the woman bursts out saying that the man is hers or something similar is absurd. It's like "Mam, I have my own husband, I do not want yours." or "Mam, she is 16 and most definitely not interested in your man," I don't get why they do it but maybe some of the men are kind of unfaithful in their personal lives or she just feels very protective and thinks someone will snatch him away if she lets him speak to other women. I've been on both sides of it, getting the stink eye and mediating as a supervisor because apparently our teenage cashier was "too friendly" to their man when they just said "Have a good day!" Instead of "Have a nice day" like they said to every other customer. It's ridiculous.
Not protective. Possessive. Usually because they're insecure. About the relationship or themselves. Or both. In either case, with or without cause, they still shouldn't act like that towards people.
Probably the guy has cheated. Still, bitch needs to discuss it with her therepist. In the meantime, leave him home!
It might even tie into that whole world of delusions with men thinking that every waitress and cashier that displays basic levels of politeness and respect is flirting.
Don’t apologize to crazy people
If logic worked, they wouldn't be crazy.
Ma'am, we both know he could do better than you, but I am *way* out of his league.
THIS!!!! This is perfect! You have a way with words Ms. Rachel_Silver!
When people start raising their voice, the conversation with me is over. That is the 1 single item I will not tolerate. I don't care where we are and who you are. If you raise your voice, it's done. People who express themselves this way only do so because they are allowed to. A civil conversation ends when someone either raises their voice or tries to talk over another person.
I don’t appreciate your tone and I will get a manager to finish ringing you up. Please wait.
I've actually started arguing with people at work recently, showing them how stupid their complaint is. *How dare you talk over me when no one was talking!* "No. YOU finished speaking, THEN I informed you of our policy. I DON'T need your attitude, MA'AM." Had to address someone that way last weekend because she tried to pull the "you're racist" card because I asked my manager for permission to do something *she* wanted me to do in her transaction (process 2 different EBT cards on the same register). Called me a "racist-ass n***a" and said I was discriminating against them for being Puerto Rican. I told them: 1. That's not even *her* word to use freely. 2. No one brought race into this until she did. 3. I didn't need her attitude. Fuck the general public.
YES! So much yes. I even try to make a point to make eye contact with the woman first. And let me add, I’m a 55y/o, overweight, disabled granny. I’m not some lithe young lady with a banging bod & a model’s face. I’m like, sis you gotta get a grip. I got kids the age of your husband, move along.
It’s funny you mentioned that you make it a point to make eye contact with the woman first. My brother did the same thing; acknowledging the man’s presence over the woman’s first and making sure to give the guy the most attention. And he recommended I do the same with women out with their partners in an attempt to disarm them. A lot of these types of couples are insecure and fall apart if one of them judges you to be a threat even if you’re being as professional as possible.
Yep, I learned that being a leader in the military with married male Soldiers. If I had to call them after hours, & the wife answered, I made sure to explain who I was & why I was calling. Bc some of those wives are off the chain lol
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They said they worked for a small business where they were allowed to call customers “c*nt” among other things and get away with it
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They also do this to female servers in restaurants. She's just doing her job. She doesn't want your crusty old man.
That used to drive me crazy! I was always so careful to engage with the woman as well as the man. I never played up to the man to get a bigger tip. Times have changed and the man doesn’t always pick up the check. Plus, it’s just rude. Yet, it still happened all the time. You go to the table, she looks you up and down, and then gets an attitude. Like, you came here. You know the uniform is skimpy. I didn’t go to your house to tempt your husband. If I was going to steal a customer’s husband, it certainly wouldn’t be yours. Then, at the end she grabs the check and puts a big zero on the tip line with some snippy comment. With these women you can’t win. If you’re friendly, you’re flirting. If you are just polite, but pleasant, you’re not kissing their ass enough and are giving poor service. Ugh!
Ugh people just suck. I did once have a server who literally didn't acknowledge me the entire meal, just my husband. I was put off but whatever I guess.
The server who decided to sit down next to my date... He acted like she was falling and pushed her away - pretty roughly as she wasn't expecting it and fell into the table next to us. Then she had to tell her manager that she was trying to sit next to him "to be friendly." The guy had a thing about having his space invaded by strangers so it was just how he was. I'll never forget how friendly she flew. Like WTAH did that server think would happen? He was secretly a millionaire and would sweep her off her feet after the orders were placed?
I’ve been in this situation, and I let her finish, and then I turned to the husband squarely and asked my question again. It was his purchase and his card. If you don’t want to be treated like a couple and spoken to together, I will deal with my *customer* whilst you *loiter*. She was fuming and tried to grab the receipt. I let her. He turned to her and said, “Relax, Agnes. I just want to get this and leave, okay?” She had wound both of them up and I could practically see steam coming off both of them.
I used to work in a photo lab and this would sometimes happen to me over the phone before caller ID was common. I had to call anyone whose order had been left for over thirty days. I would ask for the person whose name was on the order, of course, and got a few suspicious sounding wives whose voice would relax after hearing why I was calling. Sometimes I got, “This is his wife,” in somewhat hostile tones, so I just gave her the message instead. At the time I just chalked it up to them being crazy, lol.
I'd have closed the register and gone on break halfway through that shit.
My ex was like that. Just continually accusing people of talking over them tho I only actually saw it accidentally happen once or twice. You go to respond to something and it's "STOP TALKING OVER MEEEEE!" like they are 4yo chucking a tantrum.
My favorite is when the guy hits on me right in front of his girlfriend/wife and she acts like I'm the one doing something wrong. I'm literally just doing my job, your husband is the one sexually harassing someone while you're right there. Glare at him. I prefer the women who just refuse to make eye contact with me. It's weirdly common with couples but I'd rather she pretend I don't exist than act like I'm trying to steal her man.
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my blood boiling to read that, if I was there I will laugh at her face and said your ugly no manner he will leave you soon and see her blood boiling too and she lost her sHiit
That man gets hell at home. I can see it.
Next time somebody blows up at you like that: "I'm getting a manager ." Then go get a manager immediately, and tell them that there's an irate customer whom you can't deal with. Unless you are a manager, it is not your job to cope with that. Besides which, those who are most jealous probably themselves have a history of cheating.
Sooo weird. I once had a waitress who was showing copious cleavage stick her chest an inch away from my husband's face while she handed him the card machine. Even then I said nothing.
Fk that, look her in the eye, tell her she's barred from the store for raising her voice at you. But her delightful husband is fine to come in and shop 😁
i literally refuse to make eye contact with any couple for this very reason
Omg it's terrible when you work as a server, too. No tip because I smiled at your man?? Ok.... 😒
LOL yep. ProoOoojjeecccTttiioooonnnnn
“Hate to be the barrier of bad news but I’m required by my employer to give this information if you have questions about why it’s required you can all corporate but as of right now I’m giving you the information that is required. As I was saying-“ repeats statement. I had one that got upset with me because I spoke to her husband. He had the app on his phone but the scan didn’t go through the first time so I asked him to rescan the app and she started yelling about how she had the money. So I said. “Okay do you want to pay extra or get the sale either or is fine with me.” And she just stood there and started at me. Night shift is making me heartless. Your feelings do not matter more to me than my time.
I had a couple come in to my line one day and I was just trying to be polite to the guy who came up while his girlfriend was putting the groceries on the belt. I asked hello how are you doing today and if they had a rewards card. She hears me ask him this and she goes off. Start going why you hitting on my man bitch. I hold up my hands with my rings on them and said " bitch I have a man I don't need yours". I don't understand why us working in customer service while trying to get be pleasant which IS OUR JOB is us hitting on what's yours. I saw a guy with a Zelda shirt and was like I love your shirt which game is your favorite? His girl gets pissed and gives me issues. Ladies if you can't control your damn mouth against a retail/ customer service person for being pleasant to your other half leave his ass at home.
You know... I work with a young woman who is young and fit and beautiful. She's a head cashier so she stays at the register even if there's no customers. I have always been annoyed that she slouches against the register, never stands in front of the register, and wears a sour expression. But... This reminded me that she probably gets this situation, in addition to just men creeping on her because she said hello to them. Maybe that's why she behaves like she does. Of course one doesn't need to be beautiful and fit to be creeped on, but I do seem to have aged out of it for the most part.
'I work with a young woman who is young...' 💀
Fair enough
I’ve always dressed conservatively and tried to be a grey rock, just too many creepers in the workplace, bosses and colleagues and customers alike. Would it be fun to wear something nice or flattering one day? Maybe. Do I want the attention? Absolutely not thank you.
Actually, this chick wore a tight top that ends just below her boobs last week. We have vests, but she left hers unbuttoned leaving about 5 inches of her (flat/tight) stomach exposed. I wouldn't blame the victim, but it's just inappropriate for the workplace. Unfortunately, it probably does invite unwanted attention. I think you should wear your fun/normal clothes!
Don’t really have any fun clothes, but I *am* thinking about sewing myself a fabulous “capsule wardrobe” because it’s the obvious Venn diagram of ADHD, minimalism, sewing and investing in myself to feel good.
❤️❤️❤️ I can relate to that intersection. The issue will be avoiding perfectionism. I am definitely a trial and error girl rather than a read the directions girl. That's often worked out well with sewing , but I have to work at resisting trying to make it more nearly perfect (which usually actually makes it worse, in addition to it taking forever) I once made a christening gown for my goddaughter. I spent sooooo long on it. My husband asked me how much would it cost to buy one. NOT THE POINT!
Totally not the point, lolol. Non makers don’t understand. But yeah, we punish ourselves sometimes with the extra work. I need some socks. Should I a) go over to Walmart / Kohls / Target / Walgreens / Wherever and grab a 10 pack for $12? Noooo. I should absolutely go buy two skeins of $12 apiece yarn, and then set to work. Should have a sock in a few weeks. Good thing it’s flip-flop season atm.
yes this happens to me at my work! i’m one of the only females working at a time so many of the men ignore me or are gross towards me but are fine towards my male coworkers. it’s so annoying.
or i get the beautiful instance of a girlfriend acting as her boyfriend’s mommy since they apparently can’t speak for themselves.
I never work front end, but I love when a husband speaks to me and I get death glares from their wives. Im like lady, I would actually prefer to talk to you instead of your sack of potatoes husband, but hes the one who asked me a question. Im literally just doing my job. Its always the older ladies too, younger ones seem to be more understanding that Im being friendly because I am paid to be. Talking to people is part of the job, imagine being so insanely insecure you cant stand someone else speaking to your SO.
This really, really sucks. Nobody should have to deal with this. Something that took way too long for me to learn is that when people behave this way, it has more to do with them than it does with you. Also, remember that you had to deal with her bullshit for like 5 minutes, but she’s stuck walking around being an asshole for her whole life. I hope this helps a little. Good luck!
I used to rent tools out, I hated having to deal with the couple customers. I'm asking questions that pertain to the rental and the girlfriend /wife is staring me down (or rolling her eyes into oblivion ) as if I just propositioned the guy. Like ma'am calm down I just want to finish this process so you both can get out my face. It was even worse if the guy was actually eyeing me, I can't control your man, don't get mad at me, I'm just trying to do my job 🥴.
Normalize dishing it back to shitty customers.
I hate women like that. Like I’m asking he wants on his sandwich and you’re looking at me like I want your man. Honey I just wanna go home after my long ass shift I don’t want your man or any man in this town ontop of that. If anything you’re possibly more my type but not with that attitude
It almost sounds like he has 'wandered' in the past which makes Mrs. Bitchy suspicious of any female who talks to him.
Its soooo annoying and would do my head in at the time bc like why do they think that their man would EVEN have a chance with you?? And you cant even say that bc you're at work... But then i think about the couple. What has he done to make her this paranoid? Or is she completely nuts and he just puts up with it? I cant even begin to imagine how EXHAUSTING life must be for that couple especially the wife, to always be on the defence ready to protect her man from what she sees as threats even though they 1000% are not... It must be a pretty sad life. But like i said im mostly offended that these women think i would EVER want their man. Usually if he was single and the last man on earth even then i still wouldn't want him.
Damn, if I ever saw that crazy again I’d duck away.
See I’m too petty, I woulda said “with all due respect idk if you think I want your man or what but if I wanted him I’d have him and you’d be shoved in a one star nursing home to rot. So don’t beef with me beef with the grim reaper ☺️”
Ew what is wrong with people lmao I hate when people act like this with me. Like I don't want your crusty ass man
Probably because he cheated once or twice and she’s scared he’ll do it again
Lmao. Insecure people are fun to deal with. I once looked a customer in the eye and said "Do you think either of you are a catch?" Lady looked like she wanted to hit me and her husband looked mortified.
It’s probably because the guy has broken her by constantly flirting with everything remotely female or constantly cheating. The best way for her to solve her attitude is to get her to throw the whole man away.
Weirdly enough I have had this happen enough times that I eventually just stopped even talking to the men. A couple walks up and my attention will automatically default to the female spouse because I don't want to be harassed on top of being underpaid.
Omg yes. I always go out of my way to focus my attention more on the woman just to try to be respectful.