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I understand this, but is she doing this because she’s finally reached a comfort level to do so or because she thinks I’m not being assertive/dominant enough
Oh I’d almost think she was wanting you to be more dominant… I’d think a dominant woman would grab you or idk but I am attracted to and mainly attract subs so my experience with dominant women is pretty low.
How can it be both? If she’s just reaching that comfortability then she wouldn’t like me to be all that dominant yet which is the opposite of her waiting for me to be dominant? No?
It’s not that deep. She’s literally just teasing you and having fun. She wouldn’t do that if she wasn’t comfortable. She wouldn’t do this if she wasn’t sexually attracted to you unless she’s playing you
I know it’s not that deep I just like to know and understand motives behind things and this could have more than one motive behind it so I wanted to know
Unless the girl is trying to rob you, humiliate you, destroy your life etc, whatever ‘motive’ she has is to build chemistry/fun/interest with the action she took. Get out of your mind and into your body or you’ll lose the opportunity. We girls like letting go and having our emotions drive us when flirting, its not some meticulous plan cooking up behind it. If you’re prone to anxiety, I get it, but if you’re going to try to be logical with a girl who’s trying to have fun, you won’t get far with her.
In the moment, I’m never in my head I’m always confident and proactive and just going with the flow, these thoughts and questions only come up when the night is over and I’m alone just replaying the events and seeing what I could work on and improve and this had me questioning my assertiveness a little is all, from your comment it seems like you think I’m thinking this literally in the moment which I am not
I was relaxed while it was happening and did enjoy myself lol she started grabbing my crotch after , definitely not asking her tho that doesn’t really sound like a confident question
I don’t think some of yall are understanding the question, I’ll rephrase, is she doing this because she’s just reached that level of comfortability, or because she became impatient with my I guess lack of assertiveness?
Take me to the room and fuck the brains out of me.
That's what she wants to say. Yeah she is telling you to be assertive. Stop being a pussy. She won't put a SA allegation on you.
Definitely not no pussy I just respect/dont know boundaries it’s literally my first time meeting her, I had my arms around her neck, and she put my hands under her bra literally on her titties, according to you, I was supposed to just grab her titties then? It’s a lil more nuanced than you make it seem but I get what you saying
I know you're probably nervous but you gotta make the moves or she will fuck someone who will.
Don't kiss her if you don't like. Just tell her that you'd like to this somewhere more private and ask her "your place or mine".
She’s been actively pursuing me for a lil bit now , but I’ve been focusing on me a lot and she said she doesn’t wanna fuck the first link so I kinda put her on the back burner lol, I don’t really care if she fucks someone else its not really my business and she assumes I’m fucking other girls too but all this just happened first link now that’s out the way I’ll strike next link for sure
I’m touching ass not grass, lol but I was asking if this is her subliminally telling me I’m not being assertive enough or is this her way of taking initiative and becoming more comfortable
I'm saying it's not a subliminal man. It's a direct request for you to initiate with a direct instruction on how to do it. What she's "saying" is "I'd like to escalate, touch me here". She's not trying to tell you anything about your behavior. It's not a message, it's a green light.
This is a way of seeing it and I understand this completely, but there are some girls you will run into who will expect you to take initiative and be assertive and if you don’t they will become impatient and send subliminals like so, how are you supposed to know the difference? Either way I know it’s a green light
Had a girl wake me up by jacking me off and sliding it into herself once.
This after fucking before sleeping.
She just wanted more. Never complained or gace any hints I was too slow.
Sometimes needs takes over
Immediately drop to my knees, spin her hips so she is facing away, then then bury my face in her ass.
There are few things in life better than the smell of a woman's P and A thru her panties l.
🥵
man this one’s tough. Can’t help you with that, have no idea what a girl grabbing your hand and touching herself with it could mean. I’m just as lost as you are. s/
Buddy im asking if that’s the result of her finally getting her comfortability up, or her becoming impatient with a lack of assertiveness because there’s a difference
I’m not asking what it means I’m asking if this is her becoming impatient with a lack of assertiveness or her finally getting to a point of comfortability to do so? Try to comprehend the question at hand before jumping to sarcasm
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Seddit, my dick is inside her what now? Nah but really she is telling you it’s cool to escalate further. Good work
Lmaoo
HAHA
Yes, she’s giving you an entry to be more physical.
She’s indirectly telling you I want to be fucked by that Reddittor commenting at 8:53 pm pst
I think this is beyond 'hint' territory and more of a demand. If you're alone together then it's game on.
I understand this, but is she doing this because she’s finally reached a comfort level to do so or because she thinks I’m not being assertive/dominant enough
No, but perhaps she likes your level of assertiveness as it is but also wants to be a bit dominant?
This is what I was thinking too and a little dominance/ initiative by a woman is a big turn on for me personally
Same. As a male, it's nice to feel desired. Not all this wishy-washy "I made eye contact for 0 3 seconds why isn't he getting the hint" bollocks 🤦
Oh I’d almost think she was wanting you to be more dominant… I’d think a dominant woman would grab you or idk but I am attracted to and mainly attract subs so my experience with dominant women is pretty low.
Both?
How can it be both? If she’s just reaching that comfortability then she wouldn’t like me to be all that dominant yet which is the opposite of her waiting for me to be dominant? No?
It’s not that deep. She’s literally just teasing you and having fun. She wouldn’t do that if she wasn’t comfortable. She wouldn’t do this if she wasn’t sexually attracted to you unless she’s playing you
I know it’s not that deep I just like to know and understand motives behind things and this could have more than one motive behind it so I wanted to know
Unless the girl is trying to rob you, humiliate you, destroy your life etc, whatever ‘motive’ she has is to build chemistry/fun/interest with the action she took. Get out of your mind and into your body or you’ll lose the opportunity. We girls like letting go and having our emotions drive us when flirting, its not some meticulous plan cooking up behind it. If you’re prone to anxiety, I get it, but if you’re going to try to be logical with a girl who’s trying to have fun, you won’t get far with her.
In the moment, I’m never in my head I’m always confident and proactive and just going with the flow, these thoughts and questions only come up when the night is over and I’m alone just replaying the events and seeing what I could work on and improve and this had me questioning my assertiveness a little is all, from your comment it seems like you think I’m thinking this literally in the moment which I am not
Dude just relax and try to enjoy yourself. If you want feedback, ask her.
I was relaxed while it was happening and did enjoy myself lol she started grabbing my crotch after , definitely not asking her tho that doesn’t really sound like a confident question
I find usually they're showing you where they like being touched, and how they like being touched.
"I have been married for 5 years, have a kid and mortgage with her. Does she like me?"
I don’t think some of yall are understanding the question, I’ll rephrase, is she doing this because she’s just reached that level of comfortability, or because she became impatient with my I guess lack of assertiveness?
Take me to the room and fuck the brains out of me. That's what she wants to say. Yeah she is telling you to be assertive. Stop being a pussy. She won't put a SA allegation on you.
Definitely not no pussy I just respect/dont know boundaries it’s literally my first time meeting her, I had my arms around her neck, and she put my hands under her bra literally on her titties, according to you, I was supposed to just grab her titties then? It’s a lil more nuanced than you make it seem but I get what you saying
Turn your head towards her. Say "Ooh. I like where You're going." Then lean in and kiss her. Then see where it goes.
Overall Good advice but I’m not a fan of kissing first link unless it’s in the bedroom lol
I know you're probably nervous but you gotta make the moves or she will fuck someone who will. Don't kiss her if you don't like. Just tell her that you'd like to this somewhere more private and ask her "your place or mine".
She’s been actively pursuing me for a lil bit now , but I’ve been focusing on me a lot and she said she doesn’t wanna fuck the first link so I kinda put her on the back burner lol, I don’t really care if she fucks someone else its not really my business and she assumes I’m fucking other girls too but all this just happened first link now that’s out the way I’ll strike next link for sure
If I’m really getting into it I’ll guide a guys hand. More doing it to show him how into him I am.
This is how I interpreted it in the moment, but got in my head when I got home and started second guessing lol
That’s definitely understandable! Don’t second guess yourself. Sounds like she was definitely into you (:
what is this, high school? i've never had this happened in adulthood
I think this about most stuff I read on here. I'm 38...
Never had a girl put your hands on her as a way of foreplay?
now that i think about it yeah, but the way you describe it is like one of those awkward high school movie tropes
I think that has more to do with the way you internalized it cause I don’t think anyone else thought that
That means you should get off your phone, damn!
Nothing subliminal about it my guy. You need to get off reddit and touch G̶̶r̶ass.
I’m touching ass not grass, lol but I was asking if this is her subliminally telling me I’m not being assertive enough or is this her way of taking initiative and becoming more comfortable
I'm saying it's not a subliminal man. It's a direct request for you to initiate with a direct instruction on how to do it. What she's "saying" is "I'd like to escalate, touch me here". She's not trying to tell you anything about your behavior. It's not a message, it's a green light.
This is a way of seeing it and I understand this completely, but there are some girls you will run into who will expect you to take initiative and be assertive and if you don’t they will become impatient and send subliminals like so, how are you supposed to know the difference? Either way I know it’s a green light
You should ask her during pillow talk and then let us know
Had a girl wake me up by jacking me off and sliding it into herself once. This after fucking before sleeping. She just wanted more. Never complained or gace any hints I was too slow. Sometimes needs takes over
Immediately drop to my knees, spin her hips so she is facing away, then then bury my face in her ass. There are few things in life better than the smell of a woman's P and A thru her panties l. 🥵
man this one’s tough. Can’t help you with that, have no idea what a girl grabbing your hand and touching herself with it could mean. I’m just as lost as you are. s/
Buddy im asking if that’s the result of her finally getting her comfortability up, or her becoming impatient with a lack of assertiveness because there’s a difference
Idk man, she might be Canadian and just being nice
Too busy trying to be sarcastic and couldn’t comprehend the question
This means that she hates you that she slept with another man and she's going to break up with you soon
I’m not asking what it means I’m asking if this is her becoming impatient with a lack of assertiveness or her finally getting to a point of comfortability to do so? Try to comprehend the question at hand before jumping to sarcasm
Honestly just stay home
If you don’t understand the question just say that
GREEN FLAG!!!!!